Real COVID Risk to Kids and Biden's Lagging Leadership, with Charles C.W. Cooke and David Wallace-Wells | Ep. 221
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Charles C.W. Cook of National Review joins us to talk about the latest Supreme Court vaccine mandate ruling, Biden's tough Build Back Better sell, the transgender swimmer making waves in college athletics, and much, much more.
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Like that woman over there with the designer jeans.
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Your home for open, honest, and provocative conversations.
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Later this show, how worried should we be about Omicron?
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the left needs a plan, needs to get on board with a plan,
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But first, our good friend Charles C.W. Cook of National Review
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is here on the latest Supreme Court vaccine mandate ruling,
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the transgender swimmer making waves in collegiate athletics,
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I love your love-hate relationship with Joe Manchin,
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on whether he's going to vote for this thing or not.
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I mean, that's pretty soon to get this thing passed.
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So how are you reading said tea leaves right now?
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Well, I think that the conditions have led Joe Manchin
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And it's not unreasonable for Republicans to say,
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what would this bill do if they got their wish?
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and that will eventually increase America's indebtedness.
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So it's looking better for the bill's opponents.
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When parties have an incentive to pass something
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to avoid media headlines saying that the president's tenure
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And so Joe Manchin has other things to worry about.
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has scored the 10-year cost around $4.6 trillion.
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their patients during the pandemic and saying um
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most part are being upheld including at the very
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highest level I know you're pro-vaccine I'm pro-vaccine
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too though I have to confess I've been a little
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infections and how severe they are in cases like
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Colin Powell it's like oh my god um so they're not
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they're less exciting they're less I just thought
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they were a complete miracle when they first came
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however I'm definitely against vaccine mandates and I
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know in some corners that makes you an anti-vaxxer I
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don't agree with that at all I think it should be up to
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parents with their pediatrician when it comes to the
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kids and and grown-ups adults with their with their
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doctor when it comes to themselves but what do you
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make of it because legally these things are being
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country were vaccinated rather than less and it seems
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like most of the sort of soft tools that we have to
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encourage that we've sort of maxed out on that and we've
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maxed out at a relatively low level which means that
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the U.S. is much less protected than most of its peer
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countries who are not themselves perfectly protected
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it's not like all the countries of Europe are not
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seeing um you know adult adult wave followed by a
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nomocron wave they're all going through the same thing
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we are we're a much bigger country with many many more
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unprotected people and that means that we're we're much
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more at risk um the thing I I think I agree with about um
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your perspective about vaccine mandates although in
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general I'm supportive of them is that we talk about um the we
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talk about these dynamics as though the primary obligation of
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individuals is to the society as a whole and I think that
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there's wisdom in that in that pro-social perspective but I
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think it's also worth keeping in mind that every individual who
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chooses to become unvaccinated is assuming a much larger risk to
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him or herself than they are imposing on those around them
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now vaccination does reduce your risk of infection and
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transmission and so there is some social cost that's imposed but if
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you're putting yourself out there as essentially you know um being
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comfortable vulnerable to death from covid um you are assuming the
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lion's share of the the um the sort of hardship there um with
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risk there and to some degree I think um I understand why why
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why we might want to be deferential to that calculus like I said I think
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we'd be in a much better position if the right the country as a whole was
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better vaccinated personally I'd like to see 100% of the country
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vaccinated um you're right that there have been um there are a lot of
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breakthroughs there are some serious breakthrough cases but even among the
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elderly vaccination um reduces mortality risk by at least tenfold and
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while that's not perfect and I feel like most of the elderly are getting it you
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know I mean as you cited in your numbers earlier most the vast majority of
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people over 65 are the ones at highest risk and are getting it um not all
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though but you know to me when I look at like the teenagers I think oh my god their
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lives have been ruined you know these these poor kids they're never going to get
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these years back of their lost proms and their lost graduations and in a world
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it's already isolated for them thanks to the damn iPhones and social media it's
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progressively so right we just get the report from the surgeon general saying
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teenage anxiety and depression and stress and suicidal idea ideations are at all
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time highs and then I see because I hear it from my friends who are still in the
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city talking about how their kids can't do anything unless they've been
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vaccinated and some parents have legit worries about things like myocarditis
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depending on their family history then you see this New York City commercial
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can I just show you this because I'm like oh my oh my lord um to me it seems a
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little tone deaf to what parents legit concerns are but I'll ask you your opinion
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watch ready for your teenagers to be teenagers again then get them vaccinated for
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COVID-19 today without the vaccine when your child's teammates take to the field
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they'll miss out or when their friends go off to the movies a concert or get a
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bite to eat your team will miss out because in NYC kids 12 and up must be
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vaccinated to participate in many school sports extracurricular activities and
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indoor events so let your team start being teens again get them vaccinated today
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ah see that infuriates me like showing the kids celebrating in their masks yay and
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anybody who doesn't have the vaccine has to sit on the sidelines just to do
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something that they've been doing since the beginning of time you know play in a
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sport outside PS on a field I just like to me it's galling it's galling that they
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would celebrate something like that but what do you think well to me the striking
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thing is that it's not focused on the disease risk to teenagers it's not saying
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you you can breathe easy your kids are going to be safe right it's saying you can
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breathe easy because your kids will be able to participate in the social
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activities that they're otherwise barred from so it's setting up the challenge the
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difficulty not as the disease itself but the public health policies that have
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been put in place to to limit its spread that's a really interesting play in my
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experience you know parents who are really worried about their a lot of
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parents are really worried about their kids I think it's you know to some degree
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irrational but it's also understandable in the sense that we are all worried
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about the vulnerable people in our lives and it's hard not to think of our
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children as vulnerable even whatever the data say but that's not a commercial
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that's aimed at addressing that anxiety at all it's aimed at you know addressing
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the the sense of burden or exhaustion that we have with sort of pandemic living
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yes right burden and exhaustion and I just hate seeing like all the pictures of
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the kids in the masks as if they're having a great time they're really happy the
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kids don't want to be wearing these masks they don't want to be dealing with this
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at all they want to go back to their normal lives they want to be safe I'm
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sure but I mean this normalization of non-stop covering your face in a way
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that's really damaging to these kids socially and their well-being
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psychologically that we need to stand up against that that's not normal normal is
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a bare face that's normal yeah I mean I you've touched on masks a few times I
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think it's maybe worth spending just a minute on it you know personally I think
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that the costs of mask wearing are a bit smaller than you do I'm you know if I could
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snap my fingers and make it make a policy I wouldn't have my my three-year-old
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wearing a mask in her in her nursery school but I also don't think that the
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cost has been enormous to her do you think I think most pro mask people don't
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understand is that the benefits of mask wearing are relatively small as well the
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big celebrated Bangladesh randomized control style randomized control trial
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study from a few months ago which was really celebrated as proof that masks
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worked found that in those areas where pro mask messaging increased mask wearing
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by something like 300 percent the spread of the disease was reduced by something
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like 11 percent so you had a full-on tripling of mask usage which only had a
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pretty trivial effect on the spread of the disease they only found it was
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effective at all among those people who were wearing surgical masks and almost
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no kid I know wears surgical masks they all wear off masks and the effect was
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again concentrated in the elderly which is again a sign that you know this is
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perhaps a policy that should be better targeted towards those who are really
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vulnerable and who could really benefit rather than being imposed universally on
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the population as a whole so I'm a little less worried about the downsides of masks
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than you are but I also think that the upsides the benefits are
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considerably smaller than we've been led to believe what what do you make of
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Governor Hochul's order now it was on Friday it took it took effect on Monday
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that workers at companies sitting at their desks if you're at a company that
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doesn't have a vax mandate and you are unvaxxed while sitting at your desk inside
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all day you have to wear a mask I look oh like I can't imagine how
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frustrating that is for the workers of New York what if you have natural immunity
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right you're sitting there now thanks to Governor Hochul who you know she's never
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got her mask on I've yet to see a picture of her with her mask on I just think
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they're they're going to overplay they are overplaying their hand to where even my
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leftist friends in New York are getting sick of this and I'll give you one other
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line my one friend he's hilarious he's a diehard liberal guy and he said to us the
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other night at dinner he was like I don't get it he's like I look at my side and I'm
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like wasn't this all just to get rid of Trump like that's over we did that like
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why are we continuing the theater now your thoughts on your order on the mandate in
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particular I think the most interesting part of it is that she's already said
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that the state won't be enforcing it against local counties who choose not to
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enforce it which means that it's really it is a theatrical gesture more than a
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directed policy one and you know personally I think a lot of the dynamic
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that you're talking about was not strategic like your friend suggested in
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sort of ousting Trump but it was formed in a political era in which liberals were
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or you know processing all of their feelings about the world through their
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animus for Donald Trump and that meant that because he was callous and indifferent
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to the disease in general not all that interested in doing anything beyond
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helping develop the vaccines which was really significant not really interested
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in doing much more than that liberals developed in response an idea that doing
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more was always going to be better and preferable and being more vigilant was
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always better than being less vigilant and I don't think that that was like we
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need to get Trump out I think it was because Trump is doing X we believe in Y and I
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think it's a really ugly dynamic although I would say the same the same thing is
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playing out now with vaccines where all through 2020 whatever we saw about you know
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red state behavior with masks and social distancing we heard a lot through the
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media that there was really irresponsible behavior going on all through red
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America in fact the data show that there was not much difference at all
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between the behaviors of red states and blue states there was just about
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exactly as much social distancing going on in red states mask wearing at the peak
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of the winter surge was above 90% in the whole country I mean it was it was quite
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uniform whatever we heard from the media but in 2021 with the vaccine rollout we've
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seen this huge partisan divide opening up I think in part because conservatives are
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quite skeptical of you know public health bureaucracy that's led by Democrats and
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Joe Biden and that is you know it's the same dynamic that led liberals to rail
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against Donald Trump for his indifference last year both both phenomena are
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really terrible and catastrophic both politically socially and also in terms of
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public health I would like to believe that we could engineer a sort of a you know a
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public health consensus on a lot of this stuff but when I look around the world I
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also don't see all that many countries doing all that much better than we are which
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means we may not even be dealing with sort of provincial American political
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problems we may be dealing with sort of much deeper social and political
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issues which you know the pandemic has raised and almost no one around the
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world has has engineered a solution to yeah well that's the that's the most
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profound point of all right what if the truth is there's very little we can do
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there's there's very little that we can do to stop this this disease this virus from
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changing our lives and and that if that's true then to me it comes down to your
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level of risk tolerance because you can't live in a society like America right where we
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have freedom in our blood and just keep the thumb of big government on people's
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behavior forever it's just not going to work we're not built that way it's been
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two years and already you're seeing the patience wane even amongst some on the
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left so that's the real that's the real rub what if there's really not much we can
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do and as we all age and get closer to the most vulnerable you know sort of phase
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of our lives you got to be more and more scared right it's it's not just a problem for
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the elderly it's if your life goes the way you hope it will you will be elderly
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at one point you probably have elderly people you love so we do need to pay
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attention to it and that's the that's why I'd love to see more therapeutics it's
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like I spent so much time worried about the vaccines and not nearly enough
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worried about the cure right I mean do you think the Merck pill is that the cure
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the other pill I can't remember who's making the other one are those the answer
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yeah okay it's Pfizer well just to start I would say vaccines are already an
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incredibly powerful tool that do prevent you know if you're well vaccinated
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something on the order of 90 percent of of your risk of severe disease that is a
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really quite significant difference if you can be vaccinated it will change your
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risk calculus profoundly and the country as a whole if it was fully vaccinated the
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same would apply but I think that therapeutics are really underappreciated and
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under emphasized tool in our toolkit and I'm I'm really disappointed to see I mean
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there are many points of disappointment I've had with the FDA along with the
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CDC throughout the pandemic and how slowly their bureaucracy has been moving
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but on therapeutics it's it's especially distressing so actually so there are these
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two drugs that are being talked about right now one has been approved by Merck
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one is pending approval by Pfizer it's actually the Pfizer drug I think that is
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much much more powerful and enticing and exciting and as a result I'm really
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disappointed that the FDA approved the Merck drug first so the Merck drug they their
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initial data suggested it reduced severe illness by about 50 percent which was
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exciting although not a total game-changing number their second round of
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data suggested it had fallen to 30 percent which is starts to get into the
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zone of the therapeutics we already have it's not that much better than than the
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tools been using already on top of which it has what's called this is going to be a
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little technical but it has what's called a positive aims test which means that
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there is some risk at least measured by this one test in the laboratory that it
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can change your genetic material putting you at higher risk of cancer now I think
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that Merck has done relatively good due diligence showing that there is not
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meaningful risk of cancer for those who take this drug they've they've put in
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some you know they've studied it they've also put in some aspects of the drug to
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prevent that but all across the world in all of the OECD countries there's only one
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drug that's been approved in one country that has a positive aims test and so
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this is a drug that has a relatively small efficacy measured efficacy and
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some if not true medical risk it is at least has you know the things about it
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that are going to make people uncomfortable about taking it the Pfizer
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drug has an 89 percent measured efficacy so it's three times as effective as the
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Merck drug and it doesn't have this issue with a positive aims test which means
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there's considerably less there would be considerably less reluctance for patients
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to take it I also think that the window in which you have to take it after a
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positive test or after symptoms show up is a little longer which makes it a
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little easier to roll out so for all these reasons it seems really really clear to
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me that of the therapeutics sort of that we're looking at considering right now the
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Pfizer drug Paxlovid is a much much much much much more preferable one which the FDA
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should be approving rapidly and which the government should be you know purchasing
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on mass and rolling out to hospitals and doctors throughout the country rather than
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going just through the standard protocol where they happen to get the Merck
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application first so they approve Merck first so now we're in this whatever it's
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going to be maybe six or eight or 12 week period maybe even longer where we're we're
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only allowed to give a drug that we know is considerably less effective than
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another one that's available and has some you know you're not crazy to think
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there may be some risks associated with it this is just another sign if we needed
01:31:38.680
one that the FDA has really really bungled this pandemic from the start from the
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first days when they insisted that they had to approve the diagnostic tests that
01:31:47.380
were being used in the U.S. which cost the U.S. a period of about a month when we
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really that was the one window of time we really could have conceivably you know
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prevented you know prevented a true true catastrophic nationwide outbreak and the
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drug the the FDA basically got in the way introduced a test that didn't work and
01:32:06.340
told us we couldn't use any other tests until they figured it out which meant
01:32:09.360
that we were flying blind for that first period of six or eight weeks in the
01:32:12.460
pandemic which proved you know truly catastrophic especially in New York where
01:32:16.840
the wave was that first wave was hardest but there have been failures
01:32:20.420
throughout of the FDA you know the approval process on the vaccines was
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accelerated and that's valuable but the truth was we knew that they were safe
01:32:30.160
they had demonstrated their safety through clinical trials all the way back
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in May of 2020 now we didn't know the efficacy exactly but we waited all the way
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until December to start rolling out the drug which meant that we missed the
01:32:42.980
opportunity to use vaccines to blunt the winter surge last winter and as a
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result probably you know an additional hundred or two hundred thousand
01:32:52.020
Americans may have died than if it would have been the case if we had approved
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the drugs in say September and started rolling out right at the beginning of fall
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you know I know you're saying the left is very critical of how Trump handled all
01:33:06.220
this and and now the right with respect to Biden same I mean from where I stand
01:33:11.820
both these guys had a very hard job on their hands especially I will say
01:33:17.080
especially Trump because he was there at the beginning when we didn't know what we
01:33:19.940
were dealing with the Chinese weren't being totally honest with us about their
01:33:23.500
situation and showing us the data when we needed it and he did get the vaccine
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done so I mean credit to Trump for all of that did he handle it perfectly no did
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Biden no but sadly this is a this is a it's a mean virus and it's hard to predict
01:33:39.860
what it's going to do next and they've you know politicians should be making
01:33:43.220
making promises about things like that because they it's going to be hard to live up to
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it I will say though neither neither administration has prioritized sort of the
01:33:52.940
world vaccination problem you know that's how we got Omicron what what about Africa
01:33:56.820
right I know you've been you've been pointing this out the reason I was thinking
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about it is you know time came out with this person of the year yesterday and it
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was Elon Musk and you know you've got you've made the point I think I think it
01:34:08.320
was you that you took sort of what Elon Musk made in a year or Jeff Bezos made in a
01:34:12.980
year whatever they could easily easily have funded the 50 billion dollars that
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you say it would have cost or the International Monetary Fund estimated it
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would cost to fully vaccinate the whole world and we haven't done it so why not
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like I see the White House saying oh here's another 100 million vaccines for
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this country there's that but like I didn't realize 50 billion was the number
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that to me seems very doable and yet it's not getting done yeah I mean I in that
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particular report is I think really really clarifying so it's not just the
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cost which is so low 50 billion which for a government like the US even going
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at single-handedly it's it's nothing I mean that's a rounding error in our
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budget it's that the returns on that investment would be so large so the IMF
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estimated that a 50 billion dollar investment starting in 2021 would pay off
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by 2025 just four years down the road to the tune of nine trillion dollars which is a
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180 fold return on investment now that's globally the benefits would be felt
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globally but even if the US decided to fund this project entirely on its own
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enough of that money would come back to the US economy that we would be
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considering a major economic victory not to mention the obvious humanitarian
01:35:28.860
benefits not to mention the huge diplomatic opportunity that there would be for
01:35:33.620
the US to be a true global leader here China throughout the vaccination phase of the
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pandemic has tried to use vaccine diplomacy distributing their vaccines around the
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world but their vaccines aren't nearly as good as ours which means that we have a
01:35:46.880
natural advantage here and could really really use it to our you know geopolitical
01:35:51.220
benefit I think you know we haven't done it for a number of reasons but I think
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it's basically because we're not all that interested at the political level but
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also at the sort of level of the individual citizen the level of the
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individual voter in the lives of people living in sub-Saharan Africa I think we see
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this you know I write a lot about climate I think we see this dynamic play out very
01:36:10.760
clearly in climate where there's just very little attention paid to the
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suffering of people in sub-Saharan Africa and South Asia whose lives we
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define as essentially naturally full of suffering rather than being
01:36:22.760
opportunities for humanitarian intervention well I mean not to diminish the
01:36:26.240
value of those lives but I think in terms of the sales pitch you don't even
01:36:30.260
necessarily need to go there you know you need to talk about how look at
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Omicron you know look at how everyone's gonna have to get another booster now
01:36:37.420
another shutdown a new mask mandate like if we could manage to get the rest of
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the world vaccinated we would like to believe if we if there's reason exercised
01:36:47.480
by the politicians and so on in control we we can get a handle on this thing
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finally we won't keep having variant after variant or at least we'll have fewer yeah
01:36:58.160
no I think it's I think even the most cynical calculation says that we should
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absolutely be rushing ahead with this kind of thing immediately and instead we've
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done this very gestural theatrical you know donating a few million doses here and
01:37:11.780
there kind of thing which I think you know it's an indictment of not just the US
01:37:16.560
but all the wealthy nations of the world because as you know as we were saying
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just a minute ago that the ultimate cost of such a project is is really trivial
01:37:23.780
compared to I mean you know some estimates are that the US has spent 10 trillion
01:37:27.840
dollars on pandemic relief so far so we're talking about you know 200 times
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one one one two hundredth or one half of one percent of the amount of money that
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the US has spent on pandemic relief and as as you point out it's an investment it's
01:37:40.320
an investment that will return somebody like Elon with the logic that we've used
01:37:44.880
with the pandemic relief that this is not just to you know that it will keep the
01:37:49.060
economy running it will you know it will pay us back and we just are unable to
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extend that same logic internationally all right so I at another point I would love to
01:37:59.380
have you back on to talk about your thoughts on climate change you've literally written
01:38:03.540
the book on it and there's a movie being made of your book I would love to go there
01:38:06.920
another another time and I also at that time would love to talk to you about your marriage
01:38:12.880
because I love this my team always finds like personal details about the folks coming
01:38:16.400
on okay that just a parting thought for our for our audiences audience David used to do
01:38:22.640
New York magazine's sex lives podcast he is married to Risa founder of an art gallery
01:38:28.300
they started dating at 19 when they were studying abroad in Paris he says they are
01:38:32.540
obsessed with each other I love that and I want to know more there's a tease for our
01:38:38.580
next segment with David Wallace Wells thank you so much for being here thanks for having
01:38:43.800
me great to talk to you and want to tell the audience up next by popular demand we're
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okay I'm going to read the questions myself usually Steve Krakauer does it but he's in a
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studio today so he can't here's number one this is from they didn't put their real name right turn
01:40:03.960
to hell is their their moniker what do you do to maintain a successful relationship with your
01:40:11.580
husband that is a good question because you know 50% of marriages end in divorce it's tough during the
01:40:17.680
pandemic times you know you're all over each other in terms of time together and so on even still you
01:40:23.040
know there's a lot more time together and I will say I've said this before but it's true
01:40:26.680
the number one most important thing to a good relationship is using your most generous lens on
01:40:34.400
your partner and that's really more than half the battle you just put those sort of rose-colored
01:40:38.600
glasses on and they will endure to your benefit to interpret every piece of behavior through the most
01:40:44.780
generous lens instead of the least generous lens and it winds up coming back to you and when your
01:40:50.340
least generous instincts kick in remind yourself rose-colored glasses are not bad try it again
01:40:55.440
um here's another one how do you maintain this is from emma how do you maintain your peace of mind
01:41:01.400
when you're being attacked similar from shara who wrote what's something you do to feel supported
01:41:07.400
amid all the hostility um i tried not to take that stuff in i try to avoid it and if it comes my way
01:41:14.040
um to then sort of go seek out some love i mean there's way more love out there than there is hate for
01:41:19.440
me and for you it's actually one of the things i love about the comments over on apple they're so
01:41:24.160
lovely and uplifting that's you know you go there if you if you need a little ego boost it's nice
01:41:28.740
and you have to remember the people who are writing the the nasty things there's a saying
01:41:32.900
haters hate up um they wouldn't be taking those shots at you if they didn't feel threatened or
01:41:37.600
powerless in response to you there's some satisfaction in that don't forget to watch the
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