The Michael Knowles Show - Ep. 2010 - The Dating Crisis Has A Solution No One Is Talking About

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00:01:00.000 It's the fourth day in the octave of American independence.

00:01:02.960 I hope everyone got some downtime over the weekend.

00:01:06.400 Some of you are extending the festivities this week.

00:01:09.880 Maybe you're going to the beach, just taking a few days off work.

00:01:13.500 Whatever you're doing, I hope you are taking this reprieve from your ordinary responsibilities 0.92

00:01:19.060 to find a lady if you're a guy or to find a guy if you're a lady and that you are getting 0.95

00:01:25.280 together and making babies.

00:01:26.760 because we are in a dating, marriage, and baby recession.

00:01:31.540 It is the worst that it has ever been,

00:01:34.060 and I think I know the reason why and how to fix it.

00:01:37.500 I'm Michael Knowles.

00:01:38.140 This is The Michael Knowles Show.

00:01:56.760 Welcome back to the show. There's a new trend among the youths, and this is good. This is

00:02:01.360 countering the dating, marriage, baby recession. It's RizMaxing. The Zoomers are RizMaxing.

00:02:09.000 It's a trend all over social media. The Love Doctor will enter in to adjudicate the efficacy 1.00

00:02:16.580 of the RizMaxers. We'll get to that momentarily on this beautiful 4th of July week. 1.00

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00:03:28.240 Great, great school. The numbers are brutal, folks. You're not shacking up enough, okay? You're not

00:03:35.720 making it happen. There's a study out of the Institute for Family Studies, the state of our

00:03:40.840 unions dating recession. And the picture is very, very bleak. And everybody is offering

00:03:48.200 all sorts of explanations as to why this is happening. I think they're kind of missing

00:03:52.080 the obvious one. So birth rates have been on a long-term decline. Obviously, we've been

00:03:57.660 below replacement in terms of our birth rates. It's 1971. That long-term decline accelerated

00:04:03.940 after the global financial crisis. So after 2007, things really started to get bad. The births in

00:04:12.000 2025, according to the CDC, 3.6 million births. That is down 1% from 2024. 2024, which is down

00:04:24.360 from the years before that, down, down, down, down, down. If we're losing 1% of births a year,

00:04:29.400 that is not going to bode very well for us.

00:04:31.860 So what's the general fertility rate?

00:04:34.760 The GFR for 2025 is a little over 53 births

00:04:38.760 per 1,000 women ages 15 to 44. 1.00

00:04:42.140 So you don't really want a lot of 15-year-olds 0.97

00:04:44.620 getting pregnant.

00:04:45.340 And a lot of the decline in the birth rate

00:04:48.280 and the fertility rate,

00:04:49.580 there are people who are coping and saying, 0.98

00:04:51.060 no, it's really a good thing

00:04:52.080 because teenage girls aren't getting pregnant anymore. 1.00

00:04:55.040 And that's after years of education.

00:04:56.640 So it's actually, it's fine.

00:04:57.600 It's a good thing.

00:04:58.040 But the problem is not the 15 to 19, it's everyone after that because the trend is really pronounced 0.99

00:05:04.780 in women all the way up to 44. The GFR is down 1%, another 1% from what it was in 2024. Do you

00:05:13.040 know how much it's down since 2007? We are truly just like the frog being boiled slowly. Since

00:05:19.240 2007, the general fertility rate is down 23%. And it's not like it was so hot in 2007 either.

00:05:25.600 So, then the total fertility rate hit a low in 2024 of 1.6. So, 1.6 babies per couple,

00:05:36.820 well below replacement. And these are all based on provisional data, so it might actually be

00:05:42.220 worse than that. This is well below the replacement rate, which is 2.1. Okay, teen

00:05:47.240 births are way down. That's great. Record low of 11.7 per 1,000 females. That's down 7% since 1.00

00:05:53.520 2024, 72% since 2007. But it doesn't explain a huge number, well over a quarter of the drop

00:06:01.020 in the fertility rate. The births to women in their 20s have declined. Rates for women in their

00:06:06.940 30s and 40s have risen modestly. This is the women, the consequence of feminism where these 0.97

00:06:12.300 women are told, it's not even totally their fault. They're told from the time they're in 0.98

00:06:15.740 kindergarten that they should put off having children, put off getting married, prioritize

00:06:19.080 having a career, prioritize going to college, and then get that graduate degree, get another

00:06:25.220 graduate degree, go work for Mr. McGillicuddy in the Excel spreadsheet factory, and then when you're

00:06:30.000 40, then try to have a kid. But the problem is that, okay, even if the rates for the 40-year-olds

00:06:34.680 are ticking up a little bit, it's just not enough to make up for the decline everywhere else.

00:06:40.980 What are the patterns here? Women are delaying having kids, and then a lot of them are not 1.00

00:06:45.740 having kids at all. So you get a little tick up after COVID. People had a lot of pent up energy 0.97

00:06:53.660 after COVID, but the trajectory is just a collapse. So what do they find in this study?

00:06:59.140 What do they find in the overall state of our births? Quote, overall, we found evidence that

00:07:05.760 many young adults are experiencing a dating recession during their prime dating years.

00:07:09.520 So it's not just a birth rate recession. It's not even just a marriage recession that they're

00:07:15.140 putting off getting married. They're not even dating. The kids and the young adults are not

00:07:21.960 even dating. Most young adults are not dating much, and many are struggling with significant

00:07:26.080 barriers to initiating dating relationships and pursuing their desire to one day marry and have

00:07:32.180 a family. What percentage of young adults do you think are dating right now? With all the weird

00:07:41.220 sex stuff, especially during the transgender craze and with all the pride movements, you would think 1.00

00:07:46.960 that everybody's just hooking up all the time. It's not true. Less than one in three young adults

00:07:53.480 is dating, is even dating. The vast majority of young adults are not even going on dates.

00:08:00.180 The real number is 30%. And that's not even just like going steady, pinning the varsity pin on

00:08:06.540 your sweetheart, even casual dating, even like hookups and situationships, totally collapsed,

00:08:12.500 which really upends the view that a lot of boomers and older people have of the kids who they think 0.97

00:08:18.840 are all just like total sex freaks and polycules having orgies all the time. They're not even doing 0.98

00:08:22.980 that. It would be bad if they were doing that, but this is actually somehow worse in some ways

00:08:28.280 at the population level. It is actually worse. They're not even dating. So this is quite noteworthy

00:08:34.900 because you would say, all right, well, maybe the young adults, they just don't have any libido.

00:08:39.740 Maybe they don't have any interest. Maybe they're too selfish. Maybe they're just,

00:08:44.060 they're content not to be dating. Maybe they're asexual or eunuchs or something, but it's not

00:08:48.000 that. Most young adults say that they want to start a relationship. 51% of adults, according

00:08:54.800 to at least this survey, which is based on a lot of data, say they want to be in a relationship,

00:08:59.820 and yet only 30% of young adults are even casually dating.

00:09:05.980 Why is this?

00:09:07.780 The researchers ask the question.

00:09:09.660 They say, why is it, there's this obvious delta

00:09:12.420 between what you say you want to do

00:09:14.320 when it comes to love and marriage and all that

00:09:16.340 and what you're actually doing.

00:09:17.660 So why is it?

00:09:18.660 The top reason that young people are not dating

00:09:21.220 is a lack of confidence.

00:09:23.640 It's 49%.

00:09:25.560 The second reason is bad dating experiences in the past.

00:09:29.840 That's a 48%.

00:09:30.780 And I think those are obviously both related,

00:09:36.060 but they speak to different problems that you have.

00:09:38.660 Because one thing, when you talk to Zoomers, 1.00

00:09:40.980 I travel around to a lot of college campuses. 0.99

00:09:42.860 I talk to a lot of Zoomers, 1.00

00:09:44.100 even members of the creme de la creme, 0.99

00:09:45.760 writing in into the mailbag.

00:09:47.680 And one thing you hear from the guys in particular

00:09:52.280 is they say, well, I don't want to date

00:09:54.660 an OnlyFans girl. I said, Michael, you boomer. You caught the last chopper out of Nam when you

00:10:00.360 married sweet little Elisa. But for us, all the dating is on the apps and we live our whole lives

00:10:06.100 on these apps. And there are girls in my high school who are on OnlyFans and I don't want to

00:10:11.160 date a girl who's an online prostitute. And I kind of get it. That's real. That's a real thing. 0.97

00:10:16.960 And then for the girls, they say these guys, they're just messing around. They're not mature.

00:10:21.540 They're not interested in getting jobs or settling down or what have you.

00:10:25.860 They want to put off getting married as well.

00:10:28.660 But this weird number came out just last year.

00:10:31.000 I think we talked about it on the show, which is that for the first time ever, you had more

00:10:35.940 high school senior boys looking forward to getting married than high school senior girls. 0.94

00:10:41.840 That is totally topsy-turvy. 0.64

00:10:44.520 The high school girls are supposed to be kicking their legs back on their bed at night, writing 0.86

00:10:49.340 out their first name with the last name of their crush. Mrs. Jane Smith in signing it. And that's

00:10:55.980 not happening. Now you have the guys who are more interested in getting married than the girls, 0.99

00:11:01.060 really bizarre. More than half of the people who were responding to the survey agreed that

00:11:10.000 their breakups have made them more reluctant to begin new romantic relationships. And this kind

00:11:15.960 of ties in with the, I don't want to date an OnlyFans girl, which is, I've talked to young

00:11:20.540 men about this. They say, it's hard for me to get past the fact that these girls that I would date

00:11:25.760 have a high body count. These girls that I would date have had a lot of relationships and they're 0.63

00:11:33.220 not just going up and watching a drive-in movie or something. They're getting down to business

00:11:38.040 and that's icky and I don't want that. Furthermore, think about the girls.

00:11:41.920 so many of these girls are have have been in sort of bad relationships or whatever and then it's

00:11:48.780 the more guys they date the harder it is for them to to date and eventually some of them become

00:11:53.440 lesbians though that's a topic i don't know if we're ready for that yet that's a topic for another

00:11:56.760 time in any case what this is speaking to is a very basic uh fact of anthropology which we learn

00:12:05.520 in the bible and which anyone with any kind of spiritual sense is known for all of history which

00:12:10.360 is that when you have sex with someone, it's about more than just physicality. It's not just

00:12:16.960 bumping uglies. Christians believe that a kind of spiritual bond is formed, and the two become

00:12:22.180 one flesh. I was just speaking about this with my friend, Father Dan Rehill,

00:12:25.900 who's a Catholic priest here in Nashville and an exorcist. So it's not just a psychological hangup.

00:12:32.860 A girl has a bad breakup, and so it's harder to get over that ex-boyfriend, and it's hard to get

00:12:38.420 in the mood for another relationship or whatever. There is a spiritual reality to that as well that

00:12:43.100 a lot of people roll their eyes at in liberal modernity because we don't believe in spiritual

00:12:47.040 things anymore, but it is real. On top of that, everyone's dating online. And so I think the chief

00:12:57.840 criticism when it comes to modern dating is that everyone's too materialistic. They're just

00:13:02.920 concerned about the flesh. They don't recognize things like the spiritual nature of love. They

00:13:07.680 don't recognize the sacramental reality of marriage. They're too material in our materialistic

00:13:13.740 view of the world. And I think actually that what the data show, and I don't think I've heard

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00:14:49.740 Online dating.

00:14:51.100 According to SSRS polls, 37% of U.S. adults have ever used a dating site or app.

00:14:57.280 six to seven percent are currently using one. This is obviously much higher among young adults.

00:15:02.660 The majority of young adults have tried the apps. I got the last chopper out of Nam, 0.99

00:15:08.140 so I was never on the apps. But 51 to 65 percent of 18 to 29-year-olds have tried the apps.

00:15:14.900 And the apps sometimes do lead to marriage. It's not just all hookups. I've been to

00:15:18.540 weddings of people who met on the apps. 27 percent of couples who married last year,

00:15:22.840 two years ago, first met through dating apps and websites. Okay, so then what's the problem?

00:15:28.740 What's really driving it? I think the answer is not too much materialism. Like the church ladies

00:15:33.680 will scold you, like the boomers will scold you. I think it's actually too little materialism. I 1.00

00:15:39.700 think that the dating recession, you understand the whole thing when you realize the role of apps

00:15:45.880 in all of this. Because one, it means that you're dating effectively mediated by a device. So you're

00:15:52.440 dating is not driven by the look and touch of your loved one. It's not how your loved one

00:15:57.680 smells. I don't know, whatever, you know, like Joe Biden style, smell the hair. It's all kind

00:16:02.260 of virtual. It's all clinical. It's all at a distance. It doesn't make use of your whole

00:16:08.980 person, which is your body. So that leads into the confidence issue. Everything is so in your

00:16:15.780 face and the internet is forever. So it's harder to get past older relationships because you've

00:16:20.640 posting pictures of your boyfriend or girlfriend for years for everybody to see. Maybe, and very

00:16:27.060 likely if you're a Zoomer, you've sent untoward photographs, which are going to live forever on 0.76

00:16:32.540 the end. And that, it's natural for a guy or a girl to not want to date someone who's got a bunch

00:16:37.260 of nude pics floating around and pictures of them dating other people all around the internet.

00:16:43.220 That's sort of natural too. The real problem for the dating recession is not too much materialism.

00:16:49.780 I think that it's too little materialism.

00:16:51.840 And I think there's a really simple way to correct this.

00:16:56.840 I don't know if it's easy,

00:16:57.760 but it's a simple way to correct the problem,

00:16:59.440 which is to remember.

00:17:02.160 Do you know what marriage is about?

00:17:03.600 Do you know the main thing marriage is about? 0.79

00:17:06.480 It's about sex. 0.99

00:17:08.060 That's what marriage is about.

00:17:09.340 And we don't believe that anymore

00:17:10.520 because Anthony Kennedy on the Supreme Court

00:17:12.680 writes romantic poetry about how marriage

00:17:14.660 doesn't have to do,

00:17:15.880 certainly not with sexual difference,

00:17:17.180 and not necessarily even about having sex.

00:17:19.540 It's about a right to intimacy.

00:17:23.380 There are a lot of people today,

00:17:24.520 even conservative people who will say,

00:17:25.780 you don't owe your spouse sex.

00:17:28.400 The old idea was that there's a marital debt

00:17:30.880 that actually spouses have the right

00:17:32.440 to have sex with each other.

00:17:33.800 Sorry, I try not to go blue too much. 0.93

00:17:36.100 Viewer discretion if you've got young kids watching right now.

00:17:38.460 But that's what it's about.

00:17:40.000 That's the thing that distinguishes it from other unions. 0.79

00:17:43.220 Marriage, in other words, is a union of a man and a woman

00:17:45.960 ordered toward the procreation and education of children for life. It's a lifelong union.

00:17:52.700 That's what distinguishes it from all the other kinds of relationships. And so it's not that

00:17:56.840 complicated. And if marriage is about sex, that means that dating has to take place in person.

00:18:04.040 It has to be about the body. It's not just about the body. You're not just going out to find that

00:18:09.120 little baddie at the club. You're not just measuring the height of the giga chad if you're

00:18:14.940 chick. There's more to it too, but it is largely about the body. So if you're spending all of your

00:18:22.420 time on apps, texting each other, swiping right, sending even pictures, which has more to do with

00:18:29.020 the body, but it's still just glittering images, you're setting yourself up for failure. And you're

00:18:34.820 creating all sorts of impediments to your future relationship and to your marriage. This is the

00:18:41.700 problem. It's not just when you're dating online virtually with all the pictures and all the

00:18:48.840 texts and everything, you are in a way robbing your future spouse of something. If your future

00:18:55.460 spouse knows that these things are going to be all around the internet. And furthermore,

00:18:59.560 you are not actually testing the things that marriage is about because you should not be

00:19:04.440 married over the phone. So you have to do it in person. This ties in with this other social

00:19:11.660 scientific study that came out just a few months ago, which is that teenagers are drinking less,

00:19:16.740 and everyone thought this was a great thing, but it's actually a very bad thing.

00:19:20.260 People shouldn't be drinking underage, I guess, but the problem is that's an indicator of

00:19:26.460 socializing. The reason that they're not drinking is not because they're the new temperance movement.

00:19:31.100 The reason they're not drinking is because they're not hanging out, because they're just

00:19:33.400 chilling on their own all the time. So this relates to other problems of socialization.

00:19:39.200 It means that even guys are not spending enough time with guys. So they don't even know how to

00:19:43.680 behave like men, which means that they're not going to be that confident when they're approaching

00:19:47.280 women. Same thing goes for women. This is one of the chief challenges of our entire age. It 0.95

00:19:54.220 explains the transgender phenomenon. It explains the alienation and isolation and the dating 1.00

00:20:01.160 recession. We're not doing stuff in person. And so my, the love doctor's recommendation

00:20:06.560 is that if you want to turn these numbers around, one, there's legitimately a role for the government

00:20:12.940 in this. And there's certainly a role for the families in limiting screen time and all that

00:20:17.660 stuff for kids and teenagers. There's a role of self-discipline, which is that you have to go put

00:20:23.080 yourself out there in person. How many countless emails and messages to the mailbag have I gotten

00:20:27.880 saying it's so hard for me to date from women from men and they say i went to my church but

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00:20:36.120 go out there in person even if you're going to use the apps because most young people are on the apps

00:20:39.080 you can't you should have like four texts and then you need to go get a drink together or go

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00:22:21.460 All right, without further ado, 1.00

00:22:22.380 there's a big trend among the Zoomers. 1.00

00:22:24.260 It is RizMaxing. 1.00

00:22:25.700 These young pickup artists

00:22:27.420 are posting their best moves to pick up chicks. 1.00

00:22:30.740 I, with a little experience,

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00:22:33.840 have a Vitalian extraction,

00:22:35.700 so we have a little healthy dose of Riz ourselves.

00:22:38.800 I will give you the proper understanding

00:22:42.260 of how to RizMax and find yourself a sweet honey.

00:22:45.360 Take it away.

00:22:45.800 years after the heyday of the pickup artists gen z has taken up that trend they call it

00:22:53.760 riz maxing they are trying pickup artist moves at local social spots and naturally posting them

00:23:02.400 to tiktok so i am very concerned about the collapse in marriage rates in young people

00:23:08.500 not getting together the decline of love and so the love doctor has taken his seat we are going

00:23:16.200 to diagnose all of the issues here and adjudicate the very best gen z riz maxers excuse me if you

00:23:24.880 can make me laugh you can get my number oh my god you what you could get my number here you could

00:23:37.780 put your number in. Okay. Love it. 10 out of 10. I, you know, I would, in my, in my youth,

00:23:48.780 I would have been a little more, a little more subtle probably. But you know what I really love

00:23:53.480 about that move is it doesn't insult the woman. A lot of the pickup artist types, I think they 1.00

00:23:59.420 called it negging. They would, they said the way to pick up a woman is to insult her. And I find 1.00

00:24:04.060 that wrong in itself and a kind of slimy and just not, it's not a good way to start a relationship

00:24:10.080 and a love affair. So what I love about this is it's kind of wholesome. It's just a kind of,

00:24:15.800 it's a little bit of a goofy joke. And then it inverts expectations, subverts and even inverts

00:24:22.820 expectations, which is funny, right? Because it's incongruous. And it kind of works. It displays

00:24:29.220 confidence, which is chiefly what women want. And it is funny, which is the other thing women want. 0.56

00:24:34.700 Confidence and funny will win out over looks. 1.00

00:24:38.160 Confidence and funny will win out over money.

00:24:40.820 Confidence and funny.

00:24:41.760 Do not underestimate confidence and a decent sense of humor.

00:24:44.640 That was very, very good.

00:24:45.700 10 out of 10.

00:24:46.300 Next one.

00:24:47.220 Excuse me.

00:24:48.300 Where'd you get that?

00:24:49.360 What?

00:24:50.060 That smile.

00:24:52.000 Can I get your number?

00:24:53.420 No.

00:24:53.820 No?

00:24:55.100 Please!

00:24:56.400 Please!

00:24:57.860 Yeah?

00:24:58.480 Okay.

00:24:59.440 Here.

00:25:02.380 What's your name?

00:25:03.900 Kendall. Wow, okay, that diddle. I don't know, is this a setup or is that real? 1.00

00:25:08.960 That one might have been real. I started out hating that one because it was just a cheesy line,

00:25:13.660 and you don't actually want to do a cheesy line. People joke about cheesy pickup lines,

00:25:17.740 but you don't actually want to use them. That's really lame, and it speaks to a lack of confidence,

00:25:22.560 really. It's an insecurity. But it was the second part that added it because it was, in fact,

00:25:27.500 the whole cheesy pickup line was just a setup for the second part, which is to show desperation.

00:25:33.780 I've thought this.

00:25:34.720 I remember, especially in the early days of this show,

00:25:36.940 when I was closer to my single days,

00:25:39.520 people would write in, young guys would write in and say,

00:25:41.300 how do I get a girl?

00:25:42.380 How do I riz them up?

00:25:43.620 And frankly, in those days,

00:25:45.280 it was probably before the word riz was popular.

00:25:47.400 And I said, well, one thing that you got to do,

00:25:51.180 you can either be real subtle, real smooth,

00:25:53.620 where the girl doesn't even know

00:25:54.780 that you just asked her for a number.

00:25:56.000 It's like you're so just smooth as velvet.

00:25:59.560 Or you'd be really over the top.

00:26:01.440 And I, being of Italian extraction,

00:26:04.800 I always preferred the latter method.

00:26:07.020 Rather than just like,

00:26:08.040 hey, so maybe, you know,

00:26:09.740 are you free on Saturday night?

00:26:11.080 Or maybe, I don't know,

00:26:12.260 or something, we could go,

00:26:12.980 just like, get up, get up, get up, get up, get up.

00:26:14.820 You could either do that,

00:26:15.980 but it's like, it seems to be. 1.00

00:26:19.100 Stop being such a little bitch. 1.00

00:26:20.940 Or you'd say, hey, Sheila, Sally, 1.00

00:26:24.640 hey, you, you're the most beautiful girl in the world.

00:26:28.040 And I will die. 0.89

00:26:29.620 I will die.

00:26:31.440 if we do not have dinner on Saturday. 0.99

00:26:33.300 So if you want my blood on your hands,

00:26:36.780 you can not go to dinner with me.

00:26:38.940 But it would be easier and better for all of us

00:26:40.840 if we just went out on a date. 1.00

00:26:42.180 It's so over the top that women, I think, prefer it. 0.99

00:26:46.260 Anyway, that's what he did. 1.00

00:26:47.240 That second word, please, please!

00:26:49.280 And it's funny, and it's confident.

00:26:51.200 I think it's great, and it worked.

00:26:52.460 Next one.

00:26:53.380 Hey, Susan, can I sit here?

00:26:55.740 Yeah.

00:26:56.500 Thanks.

00:26:57.580 What is up, my Sigmas, Alphas, and Gooners? 1.00

00:27:00.320 today we are picking up chicks step one hit her with a pickup line where'd you get that 1.00

00:27:06.760 what that smile thank you if she's laughing at your pickup line she definitely wants you 1.00

00:27:15.580 if she's not she's playing hard to get she still definitely wants you step three get her number 0.54

00:27:21.500 can i get your like phone number i would totally give you my phone number because that's the best

00:27:26.980 that anybody has ever picked me up but i have a boyfriend so i can't however that effort was like

00:27:32.640 the best i've ever seen from any guy ever so you should go do that to somebody else who isn't taken

00:27:36.580 please go do it to somebody it would make somebody's day it made my day and i'm i'm taken

00:27:41.940 and it made my day all right well you look good yeah i'm ben ben nice to meet you wow it's sad

00:27:47.740 how it ended there i okay fine it was a funny bit okay the the thing that would have really

00:27:54.200 made it if he could call up these you know step three step four whatever and if he called if she

00:27:58.880 says she has a boyfriend boyfriend yeah like that would have really made even if he's not even if

00:28:06.960 she's telling the truth and he says goodbye like that would have made it a really that would have

00:28:11.880 really landed it but yeah it's too too bad for him though she didn't say she has a husband she

00:28:22.640 didn't even say she has a fiance. She said she has a boyfriend. And there's an old expression,

00:28:29.200 an ancient Chinese proverb, which is that. Next one.

00:28:52.640 sure wow these are i was expecting way worse riz that's a great bit too

00:29:04.460 wow it's just i guess the key to it is subverting expectations if you're going to do it in this kind

00:29:12.160 of funny way there are other ways to do it i mean these are all performances for social media so

00:29:16.940 they all kind of have to be over the top and how funny they are but you know the main way

00:29:21.680 is to just kind of be normal.

00:29:23.580 Be normal.

00:29:26.560 With a little confidence,

00:29:28.020 with a little hyperbole,

00:29:29.140 with a little joke here or there.

00:29:30.420 But this, wow, what an amazing,

00:29:32.640 like this is the idea.

00:29:34.260 You used to hear about this,

00:29:35.320 that the easiest place to pick up chicks 0.99

00:29:38.100 is at a gay bar. 0.96

00:29:39.700 I don't know if that's actually true. 0.99

00:29:41.360 It's probably not true.

00:29:43.100 But you can kind of understand 0.98

00:29:45.320 why it would be true

00:29:46.220 because you say the women, 0.99

00:29:47.020 their guard is down.

00:29:48.060 In fact, I remember

00:29:49.060 there was a pickup artist type

00:29:50.620 who was somewhat viral years ago,

00:29:53.360 for saying you only pick up girls during the day.

00:29:56.300 Like you'd go on the street,

00:29:57.600 at a coffee shop during the day.

00:29:59.200 Because if you go to the club,

00:30:00.740 you know, they're waiting for guys to hit on them.

00:30:02.880 So their guard is really high up,

00:30:04.480 but you got to get them when their guard is down.

00:30:05.660 And there's no better way to get their guard down 0.99

00:30:07.240 than to act like a big gay guy. 1.00

00:30:10.160 Well, well done. 1.00

00:30:10.940 Okay, next one.

00:30:11.720 If I get you to say the word 15,

00:30:13.820 can I get your number?

00:30:14.940 Shake my hand on it.

00:30:16.640 Snap with 20 points and seven assists.

00:30:19.160 I was five plus five.

00:30:20.840 10.

00:30:21.440 Double it.

00:30:22.920 20.

00:30:23.520 I had five for that.

00:30:24.540 25.

00:30:25.480 Double it.

00:30:26.520 50.

00:30:27.080 Yep, I just want you to say it.

00:30:28.240 Now I'll get your number and I won.

00:30:29.660 You said 50.

00:30:35.780 Wow.

00:30:38.360 Come back, come back, come back.

00:30:42.960 A deal is a deal.

00:30:43.880 We can't keep getting away with it.

00:30:46.520 Wow.

00:30:48.340 His background was Mona Lisa.

00:30:50.120 that seems significant somehow that was good that was a good one but if i were like an 18 year old

00:30:54.840 kid single and i wanted to pick up a girl that one is goofy and cheeky enough that i might actually

00:31:01.540 try it like i wouldn't do the one where you're playing the that's too elaborate the one where

00:31:05.240 you're playing the message as a pickup artist step one do this i wouldn't do that that's too much

00:31:09.640 but that one hey i'll tell you i'll make you a deal all right because it the other thing that

00:31:14.060 that does is it establishes a traditional framework whereby the man is pursuing and 0.65

00:31:20.340 the woman is pursued, which feminists say they don't like, but all women really like that to

00:31:25.880 some degree at least, unless they're just totally lost. So it establishes that, even if the girl 0.71

00:31:32.720 might be interested, it establishes that framework, which is good. It's traditional and based, and

00:31:39.360 and that's what everyone should expect throughout all of human history.

00:31:42.500 So even that, like, hey, I'll make you a deal.

00:31:44.820 Let me make you a deal here.

00:31:47.120 It's nice.

00:31:48.300 Next one.

00:31:49.200 Hey, I'm not going, no pressure, no pressure,

00:31:51.660 but if you guys don't care. 1.00

00:31:56.440 You're going to f*** yourself? 1.00

00:31:57.920 We have to. 1.00

00:32:01.000 No pressure.

00:32:01.940 For his sake.

00:32:04.340 I don't want my friend to die.

00:32:06.180 Me neither.

00:32:07.220 I took that shot.

00:32:08.120 He looks so good.

00:32:08.680 We should hurry.

00:32:09.360 i love my friend i love you alive you're so good when you're breathing mike

00:32:17.020 you're so good when you're breathing

00:32:18.640 okay this is a little different first of all we do not encourage fornication we do not it's not

00:32:26.760 the whole thing around this i don't really like that much and it's too contrived because it was

00:32:32.840 she was obviously eager to do that it was all just kind of a setup but it does raise the question

00:32:38.800 of wingmanning and a wingman can be very helpful i've wingman many a time because i you know if i

00:32:46.360 had a girlfriend i'm not going to go out pick up the chicks so i'm going to be the wingman and it's

00:32:50.260 kind of fun you get a little fun the chase is three quarters of the fun they say you know so

00:32:54.840 being involved it's okay it's all right but that involves another person and let's say the wingman

00:33:00.460 is single then you know that's what's the point of that you know then that guy's getting the short

00:33:04.060 end of the stick okay next one just trying to make sure you get home safe excuse me miss miss

00:33:08.900 excuse me hello hello sorry for scaring you there's a really weird guy going around and

00:33:13.500 recording you just watch out just watch out please be careful okay thank you yo what's up bro bro

00:33:19.560 listen like my sister just got back into the town i'm trying to like get a video of her like

00:33:24.160 of me saying hi to you to her can you record her to me yeah i have to leave in a few minutes but

00:33:28.380 eyebrow she's right there that's him oh my gosh that's him whoa well why are you recording her

00:33:35.580 bro what i never said it bro is it the same guy you were talking about yes that's him excuse me

00:33:41.660 sir can you please leave can you walk me to the car i'm scared like i'm actually scared i'm actually

00:33:45.260 can you walk me to the car yes i can hug you too so if you please yeah it's okay yeah it's okay

00:33:49.740 oh maybe like that too what's your name arena then you want me to meet you yeah i'm an amazing

00:33:57.980 Big, beautiful ice.

00:34:06.360 That's obviously totally staged and contrived, right?

00:34:09.840 Yeah, I don't know.

00:34:10.640 Her performance is pretty strong there. 0.89

00:34:12.660 Her performance was strong.

00:34:13.900 Yeah, like, maybe.

00:34:15.620 Yeah, I don't know.

00:34:16.360 It's like they're making a meal out of a cupcake.

00:34:19.040 It's totally like mission drift.

00:34:21.120 No thanks.

00:34:22.020 Next one.

00:34:22.720 Excuse me.

00:34:23.980 So, my homeboy right here, he thought you were kind of cute.

00:34:26.780 But he just laughs at everything.

00:34:27.980 Could I ask him real quick what he was trying to say?

00:34:30.200 Sure.

00:34:35.560 So he said you have beautiful eyes.

00:34:40.300 Could he get, like, your number or something?

00:34:41.900 Oh, no.

00:34:43.700 Could he get your number?

00:34:54.320 That's a good bit. 0.69

00:34:56.140 I've never seen that one where you just pretend to be severely demented.

00:35:03.060 That's a funny bit.

00:35:05.580 All of them really, this is the whole point of a pickup line,

00:35:09.380 is that a pickup line is not meant to deceive someone.

00:35:13.520 It's ostensibly to deceive someone.

00:35:15.640 On the surface, you're going in asking some other question or some other favor,

00:35:19.440 but really you're just trying to get her number to go on a date.

00:35:21.580 But it's not actually meant to deceive.

00:35:23.340 it's meant to establish a social convention whereby the woman in modesty can accede to

00:35:30.860 her actual attraction to an interest in the guy. That's actually what it's about. It's a social

00:35:34.840 convention to preserve modesty while allowing people to come together. And that is just a

00:35:41.040 funnier version of that, where it's like she doesn't think that he's actually demented,

00:35:44.560 and it's just like a funny, it's a funny excuse. And the one girl was not attracted to him,

00:35:48.980 the other one clearly was so she took the number okay or gave him the number that's well done

00:35:53.980 gen z generally speaking well done all right that's our show good luck riz masters giga chad

00:36:00.420 kings i'm michael noles this is the michael noles show see you next time

The Michael Knowles Show - July 07, 2026

Ep. 2010 - The Dating Crisis Has A Solution No One Is Talking About

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