The Mikhaila Peterson Podcast - February 21, 2024


Julian Peterson on Family Fame, Privacy, and Childhood


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00:00:00.000 What views or opinions do you hold that are different from your father?
00:00:03.340 Please welcome Jordan Peterson.
00:00:05.500 Here's Jordan Peterson.
00:00:06.700 Today's guest is Mr. Jordan Peterson.
00:00:09.300 Hey, Joe.
00:00:09.920 Hello, Jordan.
00:00:10.860 Usually, Dad and I don't disagree on the ideas.
00:00:14.240 Normally, we have relative alignment on that, but I feel like often we disagree on motivation.
00:00:18.780 I think that I have a greater tendency to not assume ill will on the part of the person with the idea.
00:00:24.720 I think I have more trust overall.
00:00:30.480 Why do you choose to be more private than the rest of your family?
00:00:33.840 Mom has a podcast now. Dad's obviously dad.
00:00:37.160 I've been doing my thing for a number of years.
00:00:39.140 Why did you decide to stay more private?
00:00:41.580 Yeah, well, I think there's a bunch of reasons, I suppose.
00:00:47.460 Welcome to my podcast.
00:00:49.140 Thank you for having me.
00:00:51.200 So, how's it going? How's life?
00:00:53.860 How's life in Toronto? Still in Canada.
00:00:55.660 life is very busy very busy and canada's not that different
00:01:03.200 i disagree i thought i thought it got different but i was also very averse to the cold for a
00:01:11.060 very long time so yeah it's still cold and but it's not as different as it was three years ago
00:01:17.700 before you left so you think you think toronto's recovered a bit oh yeah it's recovered i mean
00:01:22.720 there's still like, uh, there's still problems from the pandemic that have lasted, but nothing
00:01:29.100 that's particularly significant. Like I would say the city is still thriving and overall, um,
00:01:35.060 the downtown is a little weird now and a little more dangerous. Oh, okay. Have you been down
00:01:39.300 Sherbourne recently? Oh God. That was terrible. I went down, that was like U S ghetto. That was
00:01:47.620 the worst I think I've seen. I haven't been to the scary parts in LA, but that was crazy. It's
00:01:52.500 always been a rough area but it's probably 20 times worse than it was in 2019 like because i
00:01:59.380 used to go there to go to the gym all the time i'd like go to sherbet and queen and it was always
00:02:04.520 sketchy like someone would you know come out of the work and like do something weird yeah you know
00:02:09.680 be taking drugs or you know pull down their pants or whatever it's gonna be but but now it's like
00:02:15.080 you can't look anywhere and something like that isn't like yeah that's happening everywhere you
00:02:19.300 look. It's, it's quite concerning. So, but that's by far, I mean, not to like, but that's by far the
00:02:24.540 worst area. Well, that's good. Um, like, but it does, it has a, the downtown has a different feel
00:02:29.500 and I'm sure it's mostly related to the fact that probably there's way less people working down
00:02:34.880 there. Oh, right. And so it's probably at least hybrid. And so I would say there's probably 50%,
00:02:42.460 maybe 40% less people there day to day. And just that, you know, you need a really vibrant
00:02:48.300 downtown that might have been what i was picking up on in the summer i just was like this is off
00:02:52.800 i'm not yeah it's just a little quieter and as soon as a downtown is quiet they get sketchy
00:02:58.660 they get sketchy and so i mean that i don't know what the solution to that is because i don't think
00:03:04.280 hybrid work policies are going anywhere very soon but i don't know it's yeah it's a tough one to
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00:04:02.280 the rest of this episode well um i asked my audience a bunch of questions so we're going to
00:04:07.960 run through some of them cool but and so let me move i'll just start with one and then i have some
00:04:12.860 questions of my own but the main one is why do you choose to be more private than the rest of
00:04:18.860 your family like mom has a podcast now dad's obviously dad I've been doing my thing for a
00:04:26.060 number of years so why did you decide to well stay more private yeah well I think there's it's
00:04:32.860 it's like a bunch of reasons I suppose and I don't even think it was exactly a decision that I made
00:04:38.780 but yeah it's probably more of a decision to not do that yeah and so like it's partly it's partly
00:04:47.500 my personality to a certain extent i don't i think i've always been a somewhat private person
00:04:52.560 compared to all three of the rest of you um and so i liked to keep things kind of close to the
00:04:57.820 chest and i like to have my circle and that so that i think that's part of it it's just a
00:05:02.660 personality thing um I think part of it is that uh when I when I decided I guess to marry my wife
00:05:13.040 it was 2016 and like and she moved into our house in October 2016 was which was like there were
00:05:22.460 reporters lying down the street and so I think that that as kind of I mean it wasn't the beginning
00:05:29.680 because we've been together for five years already by that point but it was kind of soon after we'd
00:05:34.320 made the decision that we were actually going to like get married or at least have a life together
00:05:38.660 and like that being the first thing that happened kind of after that is kind of like do we want this
00:05:45.180 in our life like is this actually something because when you when you enter the the public
00:05:49.740 like i don't know conversation i suppose and that sort of thing can happen for sure like at some
00:05:57.240 points you're probably going to run into a situation where you say something and then the
00:06:00.500 reporters are at your doorstep yeah uh and you know our our goals as a family are are they're
00:06:08.780 really family goals like we want to have like a good solid unit that has you know that's protected
00:06:15.880 from the world where we can you know educate our children and sell our values and have fun and not
00:06:23.280 have to have the pressure of of the outside world on that and so more of a family decision in that
00:06:29.300 area and then the third reason I suppose is that you know it's not like I don't have interested in
00:06:35.520 a pub like I do have some interest in a public life but it's always been very very specific my
00:06:42.240 interest in that um for instance I you know my my company essay I'm interested in promoting that
00:06:48.820 publicly um to a certain extent although i would say i'm more interested in the technical side of
00:06:53.600 it and so i tend to do that instead but but i am interested overall in promoting i'm certainly
00:06:58.560 interested in its success um and so there's that and then i've always been interested in uh in
00:07:04.620 pursuing my music publicly to a certain extent although uh i also have some like some things
00:07:11.760 holding me back from doing that i always have a little bit that personality wise or or whatever
00:07:15.900 it is um but i've been able to overcome those uh certainly over the last few years and start to put
00:07:21.280 more music out and start to do that so so yeah so i think that's it is that i if i'm going to be
00:07:28.280 public i want it to be specifically in the domains that i want to be public in and and i also want to
00:07:34.680 i want that to be strategic yeah do you think if 2016 hadn't been like such a nightmare for us
00:07:43.400 that maybe you would have kind of embraced the opportunity for being public more because it was
00:07:51.240 it was basically just stressful really stressful yeah I mean it's possible it's hard to say like
00:07:57.220 I had plans to to go to uh Berkeley uh music in Valencia and do like a performance art master's
00:08:07.160 degree. Uh, and then, and I was going to do that and I just didn't end up doing it. I don't know.
00:08:14.660 Like it was, I didn't really even make a decision not to do it. I ended up making different decisions
00:08:18.300 to do different things. No, I mean, I was thinking about it then. Uh, but no, that was like 2018 that
00:08:24.420 I was going to do that. Uh, yeah, things were still pretty weird. Um, but, but it's not that
00:08:30.040 I've never had interest in, in that sort of, uh, like being public or at least in some, in some
00:08:36.240 manner but yeah it was always related to music or or my work um in some specific way uh yeah
00:08:42.540 so no reality tv show i just yeah no that's not for you no no i don't even like watching them
00:08:50.540 makes me uncomfortable oh they make me uncomfortable too i i was feeling i don't i think it was last
00:08:56.240 year when i got really sick from mold and i was just like i need some like what do people do i
00:09:01.380 need to do something that isn't work i can't think very well and i tried to watch real housewives of
00:09:06.500 miami yeah oof i've never watched that but i did i did exactly it's worse than you would think yeah
00:09:14.140 yeah i did watch a season of the bachelorette though oh you did that was actually really
00:09:18.400 enjoyable but i i watched i've only watched one but i watched it in in 2020 uh with two of our
00:09:24.560 good friends we just like did that every week and watch the bachelorette uh when we weren't seeing
00:09:28.360 anyone else a social event it was a social event because it was toronto and they were the only
00:09:32.900 people we were seeing and we had a baby and so it was exactly the right vibe of of like media to be
00:09:38.320 taking in uh not too stressful the stress is really not you could make fun of them yeah nothing
00:09:43.260 to do with any of the weirdness in the world so yeah but overall i haven't watched i haven't
00:09:48.400 watched reality tv uh since but yeah i feel that okay so you so we should we should uh talk about
00:09:55.080 Essay. How's Essay doing? Essay's doing really well, yeah. We've spent, we launched a year
00:10:01.000 and a half ago. For people who don't know, Essay is an online writing platform. It's designed to
00:10:06.900 help people structure and edit their writing primarily without the use or help of AI or
00:10:13.440 large language models. Currently, it's based on our dad's work. He wrote a document like 20 years
00:10:22.740 ago that kind of outlined an editing and writing strategy. But it was just a really long Word
00:10:29.120 document and you had to work through it kind of like a manual in order to implement the strategy
00:10:33.360 of writing and to learn from it. And so I decided five years ago or so that it could be implemented
00:10:39.140 through software in a much more straightforward way, easier to use, better experience, and
00:10:45.800 hopefully a much more scalable technology than that. And so we launched about a year and a half
00:10:51.720 ago and i've had about 200 000 people sign up and use it oh wow uh and we have a free trial so
00:11:00.460 most of those people are free users but we've gained a huge amount of knowledge from obviously
00:11:05.580 having that many people use it and write on it uh and have completely rebuilt the software over
00:11:10.540 the last uh year and so it's much more stable now uh we're starting to introduce uh much more
00:11:17.340 complicated new features as a result of that uh like kind of background work in the software and
00:11:22.340 so that's really exciting and we're also starting to use it in classroom settings which is our big
00:11:27.880 big goal of this year i would say yeah well that that i can see blowing up because basically then
00:11:35.820 tell me if i get anything this any of this wrong but you can go into the app and it helps you figure
00:11:39.940 out how to write something and it tracks how you write it so i think where this could be really big
00:11:45.760 is implemented in classrooms and you give teachers access to the back end and then they can see
00:11:50.920 and in order to copy ai you'd have to spend you'd have to spend so much time
00:11:56.980 rewriting it kind of haphazardly and reorgan like you wouldn't really be able to fake it
00:12:03.760 yeah classrooms need a tool to monitor people cheating from ai it would be huge there and it
00:12:09.680 helps you learn how to write yeah so it's it's got some real benefit there because a lot of the
00:12:14.400 anti-AI tools that you see out there are basically AIs that detect other AIs. And I think that it's,
00:12:21.380 I'm not a teacher, but I think it would be depressing to be so distrustful of your students
00:12:27.760 that you're running. I mean, I'm sure teachers kind of feel just not great about using even
00:12:33.140 anti-plagiarism stuff in the, like by using a software platform and then, you know, convicting
00:12:38.200 their students of plagiarism through the software. I think it's much more valuable for a teacher to
00:12:43.420 see the process and the great thing about the way we've built the software and are still developing
00:12:48.380 it is that we're trying to really get a comprehensive understanding and and eventually
00:12:55.340 a comprehensive report to deliver to a teacher of the way that the student was thinking while
00:13:00.360 they're writing and the way that they you know continued the way they edited and and everything
00:13:05.060 that kind of led towards the final product and so that means that students can both be trusted that
00:13:12.100 they did the work because there'll be proof of work um through the process and and also students
00:13:17.560 can be rewarded for that process instead of just the outcome because you know part of the reason
00:13:24.440 that people are so attracted to the ai writing platforms other than the fact that they're super
00:13:32.300 powerful um and interesting and you know and easy uh so you know all that going for it but also
00:13:38.080 people are almost always just marked on the outcome and that's what those things do they
00:13:42.860 just produce an outcome that's polished and you know maybe it isn't your idea but it's someone
00:13:46.780 someone's or like you know something something's idea uh and so if the if a teacher has the
00:13:53.380 opportunity to more easily grade the process then it'll take away a lot of the upside of using an ai
00:14:00.260 from for the student and so that's that's something we're really trying to trying to
00:14:05.160 get right in the software. And we've had a good start in that right now. And so I think that could
00:14:10.900 be really big. And the other thing we're going to do this year is release a mobile app for the
00:14:17.440 software, which is going to be a big deal for us, obviously, because almost 95% of our marketing is
00:14:23.940 done on mobile and we don't have an app. So it's definitely, it gets in the way of our signups.
00:14:29.920 And we've also figured out a way to make it interesting on the phone, because the reason we didn't do it initially was that we still don't really believe that people do a lot of long form writing on their phones. 0.53
00:14:42.820 I mean, people do, obviously, and certainly people in third world countries do because that's all they have.
00:14:47.840 And so certainly it's a market and maybe it's a huge market, but it's not an ideal hardware for writing as far as I'm concerned.
00:14:55.560 but the way that we've built it means that it's much more segmented the pieces that you're working
00:15:03.120 on and so you can iterate on one sentence on your phone which is a lot more yeah it makes a lot more
00:15:10.160 sense for for writing on a phone in that way so it took us a while to figure out exactly how to do it
00:15:14.520 and to make it a reasonable and like I would I don't necessarily want to call it an improvement
00:15:19.640 to the software but a good direction for the software in a small smaller screen so we're
00:15:23.880 really excited about that and hopefully it'll it'll grow the our user base as well and and
00:15:27.920 let us put more resources into the development of the platform do you do you have an eta on when
00:15:32.400 that's going to be out i mean i've pretty much built it it's just not polished yet but like
00:15:39.180 within like a month and a half from now so like mid-february or march okay soon yeah it's built
00:15:44.600 it's just not uh like bug tested and polished okay cool and we'll link all of this in the
00:15:50.300 description so if anybody wants to check these out they'll just be linked in the description
00:15:53.640 okay ready for another question yep okay what views or opinions do you hold that are different
00:16:01.580 from your father what about your sister let me start with dad um does anything pop up to mind
00:16:07.500 pop up to mind this is like postpartum brain pop up to mind
00:16:12.320 did you mind birth anything right no um you know i don't think that there's
00:16:22.520 usually dad and i don't disagree uh like on on the ideas that like normally we have relative
00:16:31.920 alignment on that but but i feel like often we disagree on motivation uh and so one of the things
00:16:38.040 that i find when we're having discussions about ideas or political events or whatever it is
00:16:44.000 i think that i have a greater tendency to not assume ill will on the part of the person with
00:16:52.940 the idea uh and so i think i have more trust overall so like what what kind of well idea
00:17:00.800 let me see if i can think of an example um like ideologies yeah like ideologies let's say
00:17:08.680 young people who have gone to university and ended up with this kind of idea set that's
00:17:14.500 oppressor oppressed, uh, and framing the world in that way. Like I, I did a university degree
00:17:19.660 in postmodern philosophy. And so I know a lot of people who think that way. And I also understand
00:17:28.180 where those thoughts come from. Uh, and I mean, certainly dad does too, but I think that
00:17:34.800 it's i mean you can blame the people for sure but but it's it's really been a difficult situation
00:17:42.020 for a lot of undergraduate students to go into school expecting to be educated and coming out
00:17:47.000 only having read uh you know literary theory and post-modern theory and everything that's
00:17:54.720 breaking ideas down into into oppressor oppressed into yeah like deconstruction
00:18:00.580 like deconstructing the ideas into whatever uh the professor or the writer intended you to
00:18:07.500 come out thinking so i think that that's i have a lot of sympathy for for people who have been uh
00:18:15.080 it's not exactly indoctrination but who just have been brought up with this kind of mindset um i
00:18:21.220 feel like it is pretty much indoctrination and yeah it's just a it's just a weird version of it
00:18:26.200 well it's an insidious and sneaky it is yeah um yeah but i mean i think that's also why he goes
00:18:32.000 after universities so hard yeah yeah i feel like that's fair it definitely is fair the universities
00:18:37.820 have done a poor job of that um in for a very long time now yeah and certainly that's where a lot of
00:18:45.920 these these these problems are coming from and well you can see that in the news right now with
00:18:50.440 all the ivy league schools losing their presidents yeah good riddance though maybe yeah i mean we'll
00:18:56.120 see what happens next yeah the same person in a different form comes in or not um i feel like you
00:19:03.140 had a really i feel like your university experience was fairly positive though at king's mine was
00:19:08.720 atrocious yeah king's is a great school i went to the university of king's college in halifax and
00:19:13.580 it's a liberal arts college and the first year program there is i think a really really good
00:19:20.180 example of what undergraduate students should do, especially in their first year. It's, they go
00:19:26.440 through the history of the ideas that undermine our culture, uh, or undermine, that's the wrong
00:19:32.540 word. Uh, underlie, underlie. Yeah. So, uh, that was a good, good Freudian slip. Dad's going to bug you
00:19:40.560 about that. Yeah. Uh, but anyway, they go through the kind of the Western corpus, um, and then they
00:19:46.300 get students to write essays every two weeks about an idea within one of the texts that have
00:19:52.760 been read and there's a lecture every morning and it's everyone is part of exactly the same
00:19:57.620 curriculum and so it's a really there's a lot of camaraderie people are writing essays at the same
00:20:03.020 time there's a lot of motivation to to do the work and to think about it deeply and so that's
00:20:09.680 the first year and it's extremely effective way of introducing high school students into kind of a
00:20:15.660 higher education setting. Because it's really, really hard for a 17, 18 year old student to go
00:20:22.020 into university and, you know, go to six different courses, you know, at every different corner of a
00:20:27.740 large campus and, you know, be motivated socially, which you need to be. You need to be motivated
00:20:33.420 socially when you're a teenager. That's like the source of your motivation. And so this is the sort
00:20:38.040 of cohort, I suppose, based approach for education, I think is extremely effective, especially for
00:20:43.940 young people um if i went back now i don't think that would matter nearly as much um but certainly
00:20:48.700 as a 17 year old it made a huge difference uh to my motivation yeah i should have done that type of
00:20:54.760 thing but i hated halifax so much i wanted to be in montreal it's like montreal's where the party's
00:21:01.020 at i'm gonna go there i also wanted to do psychology and i didn't realize how much of a
00:21:04.580 disaster that was going to be at concordia yeah yeah halifax halifax is a great university town
00:21:08.900 it was i can't really think of a better place to go to university than halifax or at least
00:21:12.980 before i don't know what it's like now uh you know times have changed a little bit but but it
00:21:18.420 was great you know there's six universities there it's like half students you know there's a great
00:21:23.620 strip of bars downtown that like so you just always know where to go there's no decision 0.81
00:21:28.200 making to be done which is really nice when you're uh you know young and dumb yeah
00:21:32.280 so i mean i wouldn't trade those years that was that was a great place to be for me and
00:21:37.520 and the school itself was really good a lot of good professors and a huge opportunity to learn
00:21:43.280 to write and to be uh mentored by really smart people um about your writing and about your
00:21:50.140 thinking and so it was yeah i was i was really pleased with education i got there you know i
00:21:55.400 didn't have one professor that i liked yeah that really four years that's really unfortunate
00:21:59.940 that's pretty rough that is that's like all of them were like this is yeah really not good yeah
00:22:06.880 it is hard to build a relationship with a professor in in most large universities it's
00:22:12.960 difficult especially as an undergrad there's so many of you and professors are very busy and
00:22:17.900 and it's hard to even know how to do that yeah and concordia especially if you don't want to
00:22:22.500 like want to do it with any of the professors like i mean that was part of it but uh concordia
00:22:29.660 also was just like the education wasn't good and it was weird back then like it was it was it's an
00:22:35.600 art school so it was pretty tilted towards it was mostly like feminism like really third wave
00:22:42.060 intense feminism yeah back then and that was like in my classics courses i did homer through a 0.70
00:22:48.320 feminist lens that was right how they taught it that wasn't the teacher i liked and then it was
00:22:53.040 okay we're gonna learn learn how i'm wear through a feminist lens and i was like yeah yeah well
00:22:56.740 that's that's what i mean from what i was talking about earlier about how like just everything
00:23:00.200 is has turned is turned into like a deconstructionist view like it's literary theory
00:23:06.300 it's something like you can read homer but like you're gonna read it in you know through this
00:23:10.000 lens of gender or race or whatever that whatever the lens is it completely undermines the history
00:23:17.320 and the moment right you're supposed to read texts in the context that they were designed
00:23:22.340 to be written and you're trying to connect with the writer right like it's it's a bizarre
00:23:25.840 understanding of how to read that whole kind of a narcissistic way of looking at it like we're
00:23:34.440 going to do it through this lens i find relevant right now yeah exactly it's it's yeah it's it's
00:23:40.180 not i don't like it yeah it's not ideal um what about me i'm less like vocal about things than
00:23:47.840 dad yeah yeah you are um where do we disagree i mean i think that i think i'm just more polite
00:23:56.840 than you well that's definitely true and so i think most of the time when we disagree at least
00:24:02.000 it's that you know about things that you've said publicly it's it's more about the way that you've
00:24:07.620 said it than what you're saying okay i can get behind that and and i think that's just primarily
00:24:12.880 result that I'm I don't know I guess I'm just more polite in the way that I frame things often
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00:26:19.460 this episode oh i we have some funny stories from this did you guys fight when you were little or
00:26:24.600 now and i was recalling this to mom the other day oh yeah so we would get into like little kid
00:26:32.180 fights yeah for sure obviously because we're very close in age and i remember this one time we were
00:26:36.980 in the basement and i must have said something to provoke you no you threw this little porcelain
00:26:43.540 bear oh do you remember this i remember throwing something at you okay you threw it and it hit me
00:26:48.500 in the head and it's this little porcelain bear which is like that's a rocky and he did have a
00:26:53.000 good arm it whipped it and it hit me in the head and i remember going that didn't hurt and then
00:26:57.440 going into my room and crying yeah anyway nice i mean i mean not not necessarily well i mean yeah
00:27:07.700 i mean i don't know what you said but i'm sure it was snippy enough that it deserved a bear hurled
00:27:11.500 at you for um but i wouldn't say we uh fight now no no we just had like normal we also didn't fight
00:27:20.600 a whole lot as kids like no our we had a very good relationship as kids we always had because
00:27:25.560 we were so close in age and only one grade apart our friend groups were always overlapped yeah so
00:27:31.480 we played a lot together and so we mostly just played together and you know we got into fights
00:27:35.160 like any siblings do but there was a pretty good trust between us um for sure yeah yeah yeah and
00:27:43.920 then in high school you wanted to party all the time yeah i was gonna bring these people out of
00:27:46.720 my house i was gonna i was like should we delve into that i used to have i was a grade above and
00:27:53.060 i used to want to have parties and they weren't crazy like police parties they were
00:27:57.360 12 12 13 people no no were they bigger than that yeah they're probably 20 20 people what huge though
00:28:04.880 okay okay anyway not huge and we were in the basement so like parents couldn't hear and i
00:28:10.240 wanted to have a party every weekend like basically as much as i could and have people over and i do
00:28:16.100 all the cleaning and julian would be like absolutely not and i'd invite them anyway i'd be
00:28:20.640 like i'm gonna clean up everything my friends they're my friends too oh and it got worse because
00:28:25.280 i had to take a fifth year of university yeah um because i had my hip and ankle replaced in grade
00:28:30.060 11 and i missed six months of grade 11 and six months of grade 12 which basically screwed up
00:28:35.600 two years of high school so i needed to get high school credits and then in the fifth year there
00:28:40.000 were some fifth years which was kind of normal in our art school because a lot of people took a fifth
00:28:44.280 year to do more art courses but then my friend group was latched on to your friend group because
00:28:51.300 everyone was a year younger than me in retrospect it was quite fun but in the moment I remember like
00:28:56.140 going upstairs and steaming and being like oh my god she's done but then you partied oh of course
00:29:00.360 I did yeah yeah I like to party I just didn't like the party being designed behind my back
00:29:05.760 is it difficult having family that are so vehemently disagreed with by people online
00:29:16.440 has that affected your friend group at all like a little bit but not not too much i mean i think
00:29:24.180 the reality is that everybody who says anything online is disagreed with um and so i don't really
00:29:30.300 see that as evidence of anything except for publicity essentially um and being public in the
00:29:38.660 you know discussion of current events and philosophy and and all of that right there's
00:29:44.380 going to be disagreement and that's okay and that's that's part of the game um you know it
00:29:49.800 has made i think it's it changes it sometimes changes the way you talk to people it does i
00:29:56.720 I mean, the reality is that, like, I do know some people who don't like things that are said by either you or my dad or whoever it is.
00:30:09.140 And so there's definitely been moments, and we've had some moments with people who weren't, like, good friends but just were acquaintances where you could tell it was just getting in the way of the relationship, which is unfortunate because, like, I try to collect friends who I can talk to openly.
00:30:25.860 um yeah um but i also have a lot of old friends and so the reality is that you know a lot of
00:30:33.580 a lot of these people are connected to me prior to any of this publicity uh and so yeah it's
00:30:41.480 different it creates um a different dynamic sometimes but it hasn't it hasn't been a true
00:30:47.660 problem and i think that mostly both my friends and i have done a good job of keeping the lines
00:30:55.300 communication open and keeping the relationship up to date and and the trust there that's good
00:31:01.460 no yeah so no i don't find it difficult other than the obvious difficulty of when you know when
00:31:08.920 things are said it actually you know everyone knows better at least a lot of people know better
00:31:12.720 it's in the news and that's there's more stress there of course there is um although i try not
00:31:17.600 to read it anymore yeah yeah yeah and i've gotten better at that over the years it's just getting
00:31:23.360 used to what to pay attention to and what not to pay attention to uh in terms of the publicity
00:31:30.080 that's accrued through whatever it is um yeah yeah like almost ignore everything yeah yeah
00:31:37.560 not everything but almost everything yeah when i find like if i start reading too much i just
00:31:42.840 delete the apps yeah i probably do that once every four or five months when i get too addicted i
00:31:49.140 just delete them like x yeah yeah instagram instagram too yeah i just delete all of them
00:31:55.360 i deleted reddit permanently because it just it just reddit is i used to like reddit quite a bit
00:32:00.540 and then over the last like three years yeah it hates me i went on there one time i was like oh
00:32:06.360 my gosh this is what they think yeah geez yeah reddit is kind of and it's gotten worse like i
00:32:13.580 would say like four or five years ago it was a pretty vibrant intellectual community on there
00:32:18.360 and not really a too much like of one particular opinion but it's gotten a lot worse and I think
00:32:27.480 that's partly just because a lot of people have stopped using it and so it you know when the group
00:32:31.840 of people shrinks it you know often it creates an echo chamber so I don't really use that one
00:32:37.500 anymore and yeah I like to delete the other ones if I find myself too enthralled with them that's
00:32:44.060 probably a good rule for everybody yeah it's a good one i'm also using like a screen time app
00:32:48.460 right now called opal that i think i just downloaded that did you get an ad for it on
00:32:53.120 instagram probably instagram ads my god they're good yeah they are good like i don't think i've
00:32:57.220 ever been i actually appreciate instagram ads i do need that thank you for listening
00:33:01.620 yeah yeah i know i've they get me way more than any other ads yeah yeah i don't know how they do
00:33:07.460 it but they probably listen to everything you say yeah arguments everything it's crazy yeah but
00:33:12.800 useful it's like it takes a little bit of searching off my plate yeah so i anyway i
00:33:16.580 downloaded that one and that that's been good um because it just kind of allows you to i mean it's
00:33:20.880 it just takes advantage of the built-in screen time stuff in ios but uh it's kind of a nice
00:33:26.340 interface and makes it more difficult to bypass the screen block because you try to open an app
00:33:32.400 and it's like actually you have to wait 20 seconds but i wanted it now
00:33:37.200 oh okay maybe i'll turn that on that's not too annoying you can also change that a little bit
00:33:45.040 but the 20 seconds is pretty good that's like enough time like i shouldn't be if you're kind
00:33:49.740 of a person that's a little bit you know you're like oh 20 seconds i could do like quite a bit
00:33:53.420 stuff in that 20 seconds then it's enough that you just shut it off that's funny yeah
00:33:59.900 well we could do this on this how have you dealt with your dad's sudden rise to fame
00:34:03.560 i mean i think pretty well overall i you know i it's been it's been very weird and it continues
00:34:13.600 to be very weird uh you know obviously in 2016 it was we were mostly just trying to keep up and
00:34:21.880 stay above the water um and so that was interesting i was living with mom and dad at the time uh and
00:34:27.640 And so I was very, I guess, involved with that period of time.
00:34:32.940 And then, I don't know, we had family trouble for like the next three years, four years.
00:34:40.340 And so that...
00:34:41.540 Five?
00:34:42.100 I don't know, a long time.
00:34:44.060 Five.
00:34:44.540 So that obviously was more concerning than any of the public life stuff that took a backseat.
00:34:53.180 um and then no i try to i try to keep boundaries uh so that my priorities stay consistent and so
00:35:01.280 that i'm true to what i want my priorities to be um while also you know trying to
00:35:07.800 take advantage of the opportunities that come around and the relationships uh that
00:35:15.980 you know through through who dad knows and that sort of thing and just kind of try to take the
00:35:23.400 positive elements of it um and i think i've done a reasonably good job of that yeah yeah it's but
00:35:29.800 it changed it changed everything really it did and there's no there's no denying that um and it
00:35:35.200 continues to be a very strange change because we grew up with not a huge amount of money and
00:35:43.560 certainly with no publicity and so you know it all happened after we were adults and so it's
00:35:48.920 definitely a weird thing to adjust to um to have your dad just suddenly everyone's dead
00:35:55.840 yeah that even um having money is weird yeah that's weird not that i'm complaining about that
00:36:04.580 at all but no no but it just obviously it changes it changes things and so you do have to adjust and
00:36:09.660 And it's, well, adjusting as an adult to a different set of circumstances is, it's difficult
00:36:17.280 and it's hard to do it with grace, I'd say, like it is.
00:36:21.520 It takes a lot of work.
00:36:23.800 Why do you think you were better at boundaries?
00:36:28.720 Like, I know ever since you were little, you know, sometimes people would come over and
00:36:33.040 ask you to do something and you'd say no.
00:36:35.320 And I remember being little too, being like, why does Julian say no to everything?
00:36:39.660 It was really annoying that like his go-to pretty much was no.
00:36:45.360 And my go-to to a fault was yes.
00:36:50.000 And I didn't really learn what I wanted versus what other people wanted me to do until I was 27.
00:36:58.560 Like it took me a long time to be like, am I doing this because I want to do it?
00:37:02.120 Or am I doing it because I feel guilty?
00:37:03.640 And doing it because you feel guilty isn't a good reason to do it.
00:37:08.820 Yeah.
00:37:09.220 yeah it's like a toxic reason to do things yeah you shouldn't be doing things because you feel
00:37:14.880 guilty that's not good for anyone it's not nice of you no it's just bad no it's just going to
00:37:19.260 create trouble in the future yeah and it doesn't make it's not virtuous at all no just because
00:37:23.780 you're nice to people because you feel bad yeah it is not virtuous and it took me a really long
00:37:29.300 time to like get to the place where i was doing things because i wanted to do them for other
00:37:34.080 people not because i was feeling guilty and i just didn't know the difference and i don't know if
00:37:38.580 that was partly because I was on antidepressants for so long and I just wasn't in tune with how I
00:37:42.380 felt. I think that was a big part of it. But I feel like you, do you think it was a difference in
00:37:46.540 how we were raised or was it just like life circumstances for both of us or personality
00:37:51.420 or what? Yeah, I don't know. I mean, I can see it with my two kids. Certainly, you know,
00:37:58.500 both of them like to say no. So I think, I think that it, I mean, it seems like it was at least
00:38:05.220 partially temperamental um i'm like i'm fairly disagreeable and i do know i think i've always
00:38:15.380 had a pretty good sense of my priorities and i'm not and i've never been particularly concerned
00:38:21.580 with saying no and the effect that that'll have did you feel guilt socially like guilt
00:38:26.120 guilty about saying no or did you just not yeah sometimes yeah for sure okay yeah no i felt guilty
00:38:31.040 yeah i'd say that it makes me uncomfortable um but not nearly as uncomfortable as saying yes
00:38:38.880 to something uh and i think partly actually um i probably as a kid i was playing with
00:38:45.140 saying no to see what would happen to see if i could get away with saying no to things and then
00:38:50.420 you know you couldn't always get away with saying no and so then i started saying yes and lying about
00:38:54.840 it. And certainly that worked worse, right? That was less effective strategy. Well, also because
00:39:03.280 like, I don't think I had enough guilt to motivate me to follow through on the yes, when I said it
00:39:09.100 out of guilt. He was like, I don't want to say no, because it makes me feel bad. So I'm going
00:39:13.540 to say yes, but I also am not going to do it. And that like, that gets you into way more trouble
00:39:20.500 than just saying no. And so I think there was probably a little bit of just trial and error
00:39:24.420 there and i realized that you know given who i am the the easier path and the more and the better
00:39:30.360 path was just to you know just to be honest and you know uh say say no when i want to say no and
00:39:37.340 and you know it's not it isn't an ideal strategy you know it still gets me into trouble like it
00:39:43.600 you know like with with joe my wife it's like yeah it is hard to ask me to do things and like i get
00:39:50.660 that's annoying i see where you're coming from it's still a no but but like yeah i understand
00:39:58.560 that like maybe it'd be nice if i said if i wanted to do the thing uh that you're asking me to do
00:40:03.500 um but you know that's a that's a work in progress i think that um as a disagreeable person
00:40:11.200 you want to train yourself to reframe other people's questions so that they intrinsically
00:40:17.340 motivate you and I think that's really helpful because it's like I think that you know I'm quite
00:40:24.960 disagreeable I'm quite open and so I'm interested in doing things and when someone suggests an idea
00:40:30.760 it's not like I'm not interested in the idea I just often have a different priority and I'm like
00:40:34.560 no but like I think that taking a moment and trying to frame the question and prioritize it
00:40:44.760 from your own perspective is, is a helpful thing as a disagreeable person to try to do that.
00:40:49.580 That's a, that's a good tip for disagreeable people. I think so. Yeah. Find out what motivates
00:40:53.740 you and what people are asking you to do. If you think it could benefit your relationship,
00:40:57.520 even if you don't want to. Right. Yeah. Figure out, figure out how it's, it can fit in with
00:41:01.140 your priority structure because it usually can, right? Like if someone asks you to clean the
00:41:05.040 kitchen when you're, I don't know, texting, it's like, sure, the text is important, but you know, 0.59
00:41:13.300 you can understand why the kitchen is annoying but the wife is also angry right exactly you know
00:41:19.460 there's a lot of truth to that old saying but you know the happiness of one's wife so
00:41:23.720 yeah so you know as you as you get more socialized as you get older hopefully then you start to learn
00:41:31.420 strategies to overcome your personality uh well your personality yeah yeah well so speaking of
00:41:39.520 family why did you decide to start a family so young because like how old were you when you
00:41:46.180 first had a kid well how old were you when you got married 26 got married which is like reasonable
00:41:50.720 but it's young now 25 25 yeah I better turn 26 uh and yeah and had kids at 27 uh I mean I think
00:42:00.260 that the reason was there was a bunch of reasons the first one was that I chose a partner who
00:42:05.080 wanted kids intentionally um I was always attracted to women who wanted kids and so my girlfriends
00:42:12.040 always they always told me that they wanted kids or not even when in high school it was like we
00:42:16.200 when we talk about the future it was like yeah they wanted kids and that was like I thought that
00:42:20.580 was a good thing um seems reasonable and with my wife she always wanted kids and we talked about
00:42:29.600 and we also talked about when a good time to have kids is and we also talked about how I probably
00:42:36.860 would never think it was the right time to have kids and dad also and mom both both both of our
00:42:42.220 parents were really good at kind of understanding and explaining that sort of when when what having
00:42:51.120 kids is to your life and when the right moment is and also that it's well it's somewhat of an
00:42:57.740 act of faith right and and so you you don't know when the right time to have kids is you don't even
00:43:02.580 know any the first or last thing about what your kid's going to be like kids are extremely
00:43:07.060 complicated and um it's an adventure and so basically we decided that it would be good to
00:43:13.700 have that adventure when we were young for like a whole bunch of reasons right like first of all
00:43:19.100 you have good energy when you're young you're it makes a lot of sense to have kids when you're
00:43:24.700 historically that's when people have kids you're more biologically ready to have kids especially
00:43:30.420 if you're a woman when you're young um and also then when you get old you're free well yeah i mean
00:43:38.720 like we'll only be like we won't be very old when our kids are 18 and so you know well that that's
00:43:45.640 a pretty big benefit um you know in all likelihood if we live uh you know an average amount of time
00:43:51.880 we'll meet our grandkids and meet them when they are like grow up and i mean that's a big deal
00:43:58.460 people don't think about that uh like people don't think 50 years into the future uh when they're
00:44:03.540 18 very often because how can you right like there's a lot to think about in the now but
00:44:07.940 but especially when you get into your late 20s and early 30s like it's time to start thinking
00:44:12.980 about 50 years in the future because it's very easy to think oh you know it's not the right time
00:44:19.660 now i don't have enough money my career isn't exactly where i want it to be um if you have a
00:44:25.080 partner who you can see a future with and you guys can align on the fact that you want kids
00:44:31.120 eventually it's like the right time is probably now it probably is just because you're young and
00:44:37.020 then you have the opportunity and you may not have the opportunity in five years and then you
00:44:41.560 don't have kids and having kids is like is a very it's it's quite the adventure to have kids really
00:44:50.620 it is I don't think you experience this is going to make people mad too unless you have kids and
00:44:57.060 then you'll understand but I don't think you can experience the amount of love you have for one of
00:45:01.120 your kids in any other way yeah you can get a puppy and puppies are amazing I would have a dog
00:45:07.240 if I wasn't allergic to everything on the planet.
00:45:09.580 But the amount of love you have for one of your own kids,
00:45:12.820 it's like...
00:45:13.860 Yeah, it's an overwhelming amount of love.
00:45:15.800 It's crazy.
00:45:16.600 It's unbelievable, actually.
00:45:18.000 It's crazy that you can experience that.
00:45:19.820 Yeah, yeah.
00:45:20.820 Well, and it makes you think about the future
00:45:22.180 in an entirely different way, right?
00:45:23.860 It connects you to future generations
00:45:25.480 in a way that you cannot be connected
00:45:26.840 to future generations otherwise.
00:45:28.920 And so that's really important.
00:45:30.320 It's really important in all sorts of ways,
00:45:32.720 but certainly it's important politically, right?
00:45:34.900 Your political perspectives change when you have children
00:45:36.800 because your priorities change right and so you're thinking you have to think further down the road
00:45:41.980 and you have to think about um you know in the future when your kids are you know at least at
00:45:46.320 least 20 years down the road at minimum um and so that changes the way you think politically and it
00:45:51.480 changes the way you think philosophically um and yeah it's been it's been very interesting and
00:45:56.800 doing that young i don't think i did like ridiculously young i didn't like younger than
00:46:01.220 most people are doing it certainly most people who live in cities are doing it um and there's
00:46:05.560 all sorts of reasons for that financial reasons come into play often and and you know we were
00:46:09.340 lucky that that's not um that wasn't one of the things that was in our way um but no matter your
00:46:15.960 financial situation i think that taking kids is always kind of a you have to take a risk and you
00:46:21.680 have to um and that's just part of the game yeah i do i talked to one of my friends about the
00:46:28.280 timeline too of having kids because it takes like it eats up all your time when they're little
00:46:31.760 um especially as a mom it's crazy especially the first year like i forgot how long breastfeeding
00:46:37.520 takes yeah it's like and then i looked it up i was like how long oh it's a full-time job
00:46:41.800 that's how many hours it takes it's 1800 hours on average a year well especially when they're
00:46:46.320 so little they just do it all the time yeah um so i was talking to one of my friends who's kind
00:46:50.720 of had one kid after the other and she's like this is a lot and i was like yeah but it's really
00:46:55.680 because i have a six-year-old now so it's really the first number of years that are a lot and then
00:47:01.020 it gets easier and easier and then if you do look 18 years 20 years away it's like okay we're gonna
00:47:09.300 be like mid 40s i'll be probably like around that and then you get your kind of alone time with your
00:47:19.600 spouse again for years after that but you also have family now yeah well i've seen graphs that
00:47:25.800 show the amount of time that people spend with certain relationships over the course of their
00:47:31.620 life and the amount of time that you spend with your kids is a pretty short window in your life
00:47:38.160 overall and the amount of time that you spend alone goes dramatically up as you get older and
00:47:42.940 so trying to reduce that curve somewhat is is a pretty good idea because the reality is that as
00:47:48.760 you get old your friends die or you do or some people people start to go disappear in a variety
00:47:54.700 of ways either because they die or just because your situation changes or whatever it is but like
00:47:58.700 but um you know having kids really does solidify a community you have a community then and if you
00:48:06.040 treat them well and you know maintain a good relationship with your kids and their kids then
00:48:10.760 boom you have a community all the way until you die and that's maybe there's not a more important
00:48:15.240 thing than that probably not certainly yeah i can't think of a more important thing yeah so
00:48:20.780 that's why that's why we did it and and it's it has it it's very hard we're so busy it's outrageous
00:48:27.860 like it's out it's outrageous how busy you are when you have little kids like you can't even
00:48:33.120 really imagine how busy you are you're always there's always something that's necessary for
00:48:38.180 you to do um and so that's interesting too because you understand that your ability to
00:48:44.160 your ability to be busy is way bigger than you thought it was
00:48:48.800 it's like i thought i was busy before and i was but now i'm like 10 times more busy
00:48:55.420 and i still think well if i could do this amount of busy i could probably do like
00:48:59.080 more busy than this because you know your your capacity just expands uh and your ability to
00:49:04.700 delegate expands and that sort of thing uh just by necessity right those things that happen by
00:49:10.140 necessity often if you're lucky anyway that was a great answer thank you which parent
00:49:18.400 oh do you each feel you're more similar to you go first
00:49:22.960 yeah well i mean i look more like mom
00:49:27.680 yeah and i think that probably personality wise we have more overlap although um not not entirely
00:49:37.220 like i think that uh she's way blunter than you yeah yeah way blunter for sure
00:49:43.200 we shouldn't say more about that because
00:49:47.940 no but yeah we have we have our differences i'm quite extroverted um mom isn't as extroverted as
00:49:58.100 me although when when she's not with dad she's very extroverted yeah dad overshadows that you
00:50:03.220 know i thought she was introverted for a really long time yeah yeah i thought she was more
00:50:07.280 introverted than she was than she is and yeah she certainly isn't particularly introverted like
00:50:11.740 not really at all i don't think no no so probably i have more personality overlap with mom um
00:50:19.080 and but also when uh like last time we did a podcast together there were like a bunch of
00:50:25.780 comments they were like you explain ideas your sentence structure is just like your dad's so
00:50:29.420 oh cool so that was cool because i didn't really take that and then i read listen to i was like
00:50:32.600 yeah i can see kind of a little overlap there and the way i structure sentences is similar although
00:50:37.840 So I do put more periods in my sentences than dad.
00:50:41.920 So do I.
00:50:42.480 I don't end every sentence with so, comma.
00:50:47.900 I remember like, I don't know, in like 2017,
00:50:52.760 we were running the Jordan Peterson Clips channel on YouTube
00:50:56.680 and Jill, my wife, was in charge of clipping dad's lectures
00:51:02.100 into like three minutes.
00:51:03.660 Yeah, good luck.
00:51:04.260 That's a hard job.
00:51:05.400 Yeah, it is.
00:51:06.040 Because there's no periods.
00:51:07.200 i tried to give that away too and no like people couldn't clip and i was like
00:51:11.480 this isn't that hard but it's hard yeah hard enough yeah
00:51:15.840 that's funny yeah well um i think i'm personality wise more like my dad um but i definitely have
00:51:25.720 aspects of my mom as well like i've got her bluntness which i don't know if it came out
00:51:30.420 because i had such a problem with boundaries for so long and then when i was 27 i was like
00:51:33.940 oh boundaries are amazing okay and then just reverted to mom and it was like too far too
00:51:39.960 far you went too far but uh so i definitely have that from mom um but i think i've got the
00:51:47.980 and they have an overlap in personalities too like they're both very open and things so it's
00:51:52.180 hard to see where that comes from yeah yeah yeah i don't know where the openness came from but it
00:51:58.120 certainly came from both sides yes just attacked from both angles yeah okay let's see what was it
00:52:07.380 like growing up with a sister that suffered so much was my suffering that obvious though i mean
00:52:14.000 for a oh well it depends when i mean yeah it was obvious um well i think that when you grow up
00:52:23.780 and experience a tragedy of one sort or another and you know lots of people experience tragedy
00:52:30.540 when they're kids there's all sorts of ways that it can affect you and it certainly affects you
00:52:34.320 quite a bit I think that you know it affected me it just made me grow up faster I think that's
00:52:43.640 really what it was and you know I had to take on a different sort of responsibility and didn't have
00:52:49.320 to i suppose but i did take on a different sort of responsibility when i was young than probably
00:52:55.380 i would have otherwise needed to or or been in this situation to um but also we took care of
00:53:02.740 each other when we were kids like i think that that was something that was instilled in us
00:53:07.600 from the beginning probably was that you know that we belong to each other as siblings and you know
00:53:14.180 it wasn't it wasn't just our parents job to take care of us it was also our job to care about each
00:53:18.860 other and to take care of us and to prioritize our relationship with each other and to not treat
00:53:23.680 each other as you know means to an end or whatever it was you know and to treat each other well as
00:53:29.720 and i think that i think that we both did a good job of that obviously when you were very sick
00:53:36.180 i had to take on more of that but at the same time like you were always very defensive of me if
00:53:42.160 anyone was out of line so i didn't feel like i'm straight i didn't feel like it was one-sided um
00:53:47.260 during that period um but but what it does is it just first of all gives you perspective
00:53:52.780 as a young person and you know perspective of the potential tragedy of life is really useful
00:54:00.740 as a young person if you're well supported um and i was well supported we had you know a strong
00:54:06.680 family and a good extended family and we were stable in most ways and so the fact that we had
00:54:14.180 tragedy in our life and so close and yes a very like i'd say a very visible one right i mean you
00:54:21.860 were you were injured most of the time because of your your illness and so that was very obvious
00:54:27.320 right you know i had to like help you up the subway stairs and stuff oh man that sucked that
00:54:32.540 sucked and so yeah it was it was obvious but it gives you perspective and and that's very useful
00:54:38.140 as you certainly as you a lot of people in university do not have very good perspective
00:54:43.340 about what uh about the tragedy of life and where to prioritize your concerns um and i think that
00:54:51.080 being in a situation like that helps with that and it certainly does and i've and i know lots
00:54:56.860 of people who have experienced tragedy and in their childhood and often they have better
00:55:03.440 perspective yeah crazy huh it makes sense i've totally forgot about the subway i remember that's
00:55:12.400 good oh that's good yeah just delete that year i remember the one year this was when i eventually
00:55:18.740 stopped going to school yeah i remember i went to school and this is when i needed my hip replaced
00:55:24.060 and my hip locked a step i stepped out of the subway and my hip locked and that was like bone
00:55:30.920 on bone and it locked and i like stood there and was like this is bad and i checked my phone to
00:55:36.840 like call for help and my phone had no service and I like hopped over to the wall and sat down
00:55:43.360 and just like cried that was a horrible period of time yeah that was rough and that wasn't the
00:55:49.240 only time that happened to you where I mean maybe not usually by yourself but I think there was I
00:55:55.140 was with a friend who went and got one of our friends who held me up the stairs but I only
00:56:00.320 remember I don't remember very many I remember you I remember leaning on you when I was walking
00:56:05.020 yeah for like a long time jesus i'm glad that's over yeah that was rough
00:56:10.820 okay we're gonna go on to the next question 0.84
00:56:13.740 crazy life is crazy are you still disagreeable as disagreeable as you are when you were two 0.53
00:56:22.660 no absolutely not yeah no no definitely not is anyone as disagreeable as a disagreeable 0.58
00:56:31.280 two-year-old still and like has any friends or life we have a disagreeable almost two-year-old
00:56:35.940 does he say no all the time she says no yeah she's the one wow i mean yeah our son is disagreeable
00:56:43.040 enough as it is but he's also sensitive she's not sensitive my daughter is not sensitive she's like
00:56:50.600 she's pulling all the strings you know wow like uh so that's that's fun it's fun now we you know
00:56:57.260 it's it'll probably be fun it's i think it'll be very fun i think it's gonna i think it's
00:57:02.320 i think it's going to serve her very well yeah me too life right being being disagreeable if you can
00:57:09.540 also be socialized is a very i think i think it's a personality trait that can serve people very well
00:57:17.580 um because it allows them to prioritize their own priorities which is what everyone actually wants
00:57:24.740 not be resentful too everyone wants that not just disagreeable people like people who are
00:57:28.760 high and agreeables also have priorities they just tend to prioritize other people's priorities for
00:57:33.580 the sake of the social connection um yeah and that also has its benefit but um yeah no i i'm not and
00:57:41.360 i think that uh i'm i've done a pretty good job of of socializing my disagreeableness um yeah
00:57:48.500 yeah you don't like you come off as totally reasonable you don't come off as a disagreeable
00:57:52.340 person thank you except on the rare occasion when it's like no I'm like well why did he say no to
00:57:57.000 that but whatever he said no and then he smiled and I'm really thrown off by that yeah that's I
00:58:05.940 think that's how I did it's like uh no in a really friendly way yeah yeah be really friendly with you
00:58:10.580 now yeah that's like that's just a disagreeable person not 101 but like 4040 I don't know some
00:58:17.540 400 level class yeah disagreeableness is where like you still say no but you do it in a way that
00:58:22.020 makes it seem like you agreed with the person and they're happier afterwards that's funny
00:58:27.380 okay okay before we wrap up i wanted to ask you i know you you guys have this idea for a cafe in
00:58:34.080 toronto yeah so what is the plan there and whereabouts is that going to be located so people
00:58:38.980 can visit and what's the time frame yeah so we're trying to we uh we have this building i'm in kind
00:58:45.480 of the in the beaches in Toronto um it's on Kingston Road in Toronto and uh Jill my wife
00:58:52.340 has always had a dream of opening a cafe she's uh worked in cafes many times and helped open
00:58:58.980 a pottery studio cafe in Halifax when we were uh in school there uh and we now have this office
00:59:05.600 building um on Kingston Road where the front half of it uh we're planning to turn into a cafe and
00:59:11.420 and kind of the dream for it is to kind of turn it into a community hub sort of place and that's
00:59:18.060 sort of the idea around it it's going to be called the paper route cafe which kind of connects it
00:59:23.660 peripherally to essay but also paper route is a community event it connects the community through
00:59:29.580 transfer information and so that's kind of the idea behind the name and we're going to have
00:59:35.100 have really good coffee uh and we have a french uh pastry i don't think she's actually a pastry
00:59:42.940 chef but she is from france and enjoys baking and i think that's a good combination of things
00:59:48.060 and so she's helping us design our our pastry menu and we're gonna have a place for music
00:59:54.260 we're gonna have a place for little kids to play in the back oh nice that's that'll be so good for
00:59:59.280 the beaches yeah it's really good and where it is there really isn't anything else within about a
01:00:03.800 15 minute walk and a large number of families live close by. And so I think it'll be a good
01:00:08.940 spot to go for mothers with their kids or for people who are working or just whoever. And so
01:00:16.500 we're really excited about that. And it'll also kind of cement us into that community in a way
01:00:20.760 that we'd like to be. That's super cute. Yeah. You're not going to call it Peterson Cafe and
01:00:25.620 just wait for eggs to be thrown at him all the time? He went a different route. We went a different
01:00:30.580 root yeah yeah exactly subliminal it still starts with the p it's in there
01:00:37.640 yeah so so we're excited about that and we're uh you know involved with the design of it right now
01:00:44.320 and figuring out what coffee equipment to have and all that so it's it's very interesting and
01:00:48.560 and jill's really excited about it and so that's been a fun project that's cool so do you think
01:00:53.500 that'll like that's end of this year it's we're planning to open in april or may whoa really it's
01:00:59.820 soon we're trying to fast track oh wow that's cool but there's not a huge amount of renovation
01:01:03.740 work to do so it's really um i think it's a pretty reasonable timeline we want to open in the spring
01:01:08.020 oh that's fun yeah i have this like dream for future me of opening this is not the same thing
01:01:14.900 but i want like a speakeasy like 20s style oh yeah so you have to dress up a certain way to
01:01:20.620 get in otherwise the bouncer is just gonna be like no riffraff and then they serve really good
01:01:25.280 steak and then at night it opens onto a dance floor and there's gonna be like cabaret dancers
01:01:29.160 and like nice people singing well whatever goes in the speakeasy i have a playlist that's singing
01:01:34.760 like 20s jazz yeah that sounds great but that's like later yeah that's later hopefully hopefully
01:01:40.380 not something that happens as a result of societal intervention yeah although who knows how when the
01:01:47.840 cows become illegal then the steakhouses will become speakeasies oh true oh no although how
01:01:54.040 much money could we make then not that i'm not not that i want no meat for everyone yeah promotes
01:01:59.920 an agenda yeah yeah veganism it's the way yeah yeah that was like when my friends grew weed and
01:02:05.820 in halifax they wanted it to remain illegal yeah their activities could remain profitable
01:02:10.960 totally understandable
01:02:13.220 okay well julian that was very fun yeah that was lots of fun thank you for having me thank
01:02:20.140 you for coming on yeah my pleasure