00:01:21.820He is, at minimum, deeply out of touch.
00:01:25.020And the biggest thing that we're going to prove in today's episode is that at the end of the day, it's not just that you and I perhaps changed over the last, whatever it is, 10 years, becoming more and more right wing.
01:41:23.000my guy he said what's up boys love you guys i think of uh megamind he's like and i love you
01:41:28.900random citizen and we love you john we love you john and we do great guy uh john inman just just
01:41:35.860saying it is a movie night he's going out there it is a movie night text for details uh but just
01:41:43.660saying john john's a local guy great guy and it is a movie night all right uh brown anglo-saxon
01:41:49.240protestant he gave us 10 bucks we appreciate that he said my father-in-law is a major narcissist
01:41:55.420okay uh he doesn't respect my wife or our boundaries and we've tried reasoning with him
01:42:03.460he and my wife are now estranged that's really sad sorry to hear that uh how do we show him honor
01:42:10.920you know what i addressed this years ago and you know by god's grace i've changed on some things
01:42:17.700it's like well you changed you changed isn't it funny when people are like you changed and they
01:42:21.980and they assume that that's a gotcha like that somehow discredits what you're saying it's like
01:42:25.680like okay show me the guy who in 15 years hasn't changed aka has never repented has never been
01:42:31.220sanctified has never grown has never thought has never improved has never developed and tell me
01:42:35.740again why that's a brag so yes i have changed on many things this one i haven't i answered it years
01:42:42.480ago and i'm going to give the same answer now because i think it's right one way to honor
01:42:46.560someone who by position mandates honor. You're commanded. And a father-in-law is in that
01:42:52.600position like I talked earlier. So the position, regardless of his person, his position mandates
01:42:57.600honor. So you must show it. So how do you honor a man who is in a position of honor but in his
01:43:03.500person is dishonorable? How do you honor them? I think the way that you honor them is by covering
01:43:11.160the things that are not honorable so i think of the two sons not not the third the bad one but
01:43:18.080the two sons of noah how do you honor your your father when he's laying naked drunk in a tent
01:43:24.980not a good look right well that particular moment is not an honorable moment right so so you don't
01:43:32.860flatter because that requires deceit lying which is a sin so you don't go in you say uh like the
01:43:38.640emperor has no clothes dad you must have invisible thread to make this new outfit and it's gorgeous
01:43:43.240and lovely and oh my good like oh that's a lie so so how do you honor dad if in his person he's
01:43:50.040dishonorable or in that particular moment or season or whatever he's become dishonorable or
01:43:55.440committed a particular action or said a particular thing that is dishonorable the way you do it is
01:44:01.140like the two sons of Noah they don't um the way they honor their dishonorable father but they
01:44:07.300know by virtue of his position, he mandates honor. By virtue of that recent action, there's no honor
01:44:13.420that can be given. So what do they do? They cover his shame. They cover his shame. They don't flatter
01:44:18.300it. They don't lie about it. They don't try to pivot or tweak or twist. They don't rebrand.
01:44:24.060They don't try to put a positive spin. What they do is they conceal. They cover. And I think that's
01:44:30.660what you can do if you have a parent or a parent-in-law somebody like that in your life who
01:44:37.240by virtue of their position mandates honor but is behaving dishonorably what you can do is not lie
01:44:45.260and say well my my father or my mother-in-law or my so-and-so such and such is just so amazing and
01:44:52.680so incredible sometimes objectively they're just not they're not amazing they're not incredible
01:44:56.760but if that be the case what you can do is you can cover it you can just cover it and i think
01:45:03.540i think of our local church i think there are um a lot of men in our local church and the women for
01:45:09.140that matter but especially the men because i spend more time with them obviously um all the time man
01:45:15.120when when we're talking and and one of our fathers comes up in the discussion or one of our fathers
01:45:20.840is in town around the holidays visiting or something like that it's just you can just see
01:45:25.340Like that son, whether he's talking about his dad or introducing his dad to, you know, a men's hangout, you know, guys night or something like that, because he's in town for the weekend.
01:45:33.880It's just that guy, that grown adult son who's a member in our church is just bending over backwards to honor his dad.
01:45:42.700And the reality, and I know, not because later on behind their father's back, they whisper, whisper, say this, say that.