My Chat with Jillian Michaels, Fitness and Wellness Expert (The Saad Truth with Dr. Saad_610)
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Jillian Michaels is arguably the biggest fitness and well-being guru in the United States. She is an Emmy nominated tv personality, who has starred in several hit tv shows, creator of the fitness app, and host of the Keeping It Real conversations with Jillian Michasels podcast.
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hey guys this is god sad for the sad truth there's a lot of crazy stuff happening in the world so
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oftentimes you feel guilty when you talk about anything other than the suffering that's happening
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somewhere actually in my in my backyard and to some extent you also have roots there uh jillian
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uh but we need life goes on uh i've got today with me arguably the biggest fitness and well-being
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guru in the united states jillian michaels how you doing i'm good how are you i'm doing well i want
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to for the three or four people who don't know who you are let me just read now some of these some of
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these uh metrics i don't get envious but i think you could consider yourself envied home workout
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dvds have sold 100 million copies is that is that right did i get that number right 100 million
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well remember dvds were different times so you couldn't just stream everything for free on
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youtube so yeah look at her trying to be all modest no it's true it's the truth now it's a very
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different game but at that time yeah you're you're able to better establish a monopoly in the space if
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you will and that's how i think i pulled it off emmy nominated tv personality who has starred in
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several hit tv shows creator of the fitness app host of the keeping it real conversations with
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jillian michaels podcast i've been honored to be on it twice second one should be dropping soon am i
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right absolutely right i believe i think it's i think it might be next week actually oh right i'm so
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excited great conversation as always and then finally eight time new york best-selling
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author eight times eight times also when when you couldn't get um when you couldn't get fitness
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and nutrition advice uh on the web quite so easily books were the best avenue to educate yourself in
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that arena so again i was able to be successful in that space at that time maybe we could start
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there so how what was your journey to become the the expert that you are in terms of fitness and
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well-being and to our point some of your answers that you're giving now so modestly is that you
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know the ecosystem is now very cluttered whereas perhaps when you came in you had the first mover
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advantage so tell us that whole story so that people know your story i absolutely did um well the the
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interesting part is that if we talk about your new book you know about happiness and you discuss
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pursuing a career that brings you purpose this was a very purposeful path for me because as a kid
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i struggled with my weight and it was rooted in family dynamics um and it wasn't until my mom had the
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foresight to get me into martial arts not for my weight but rather as an avenue to build self-worth
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self-esteem resilience i lost weight over the course of several years but i learned to appreciate
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fitness as transcendent you know the more i felt strong physically the stronger i felt in other facets
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of my life so at 17 i was training for my black belt because i had started karate at like 12 and um
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people would see me in the gym and they thought i was a trainer so they would ask me you know how much
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do you charge and i'm thinking for what and i ended up taking on personal training clients for 15 an
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hour and luckily my mom had the foresight to suggest i get some sort of credential so she paid for my first
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fitness training certification through a company called ace and it really sort of took off from there
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very organically i had a brief i wasn't too brief actually about five year period in my 20s where i went
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through the you know i should get a real job thing never been more miserable as you suggest in your
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book right never made less money uh and the long and the short of it is that i ended up back in fitness
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opened up a sports medicine facility by the time i was 30 and then ended up on tv by the time i was 31
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and here we are how did you get on tv was it was there a particular path or was it just the serendipity of
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life um it was the serendipity of life so that foray into a quote real and responsible job was in
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the entertainment industry so i ended up meeting a lot of agents and one of them was training at my gym
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the sports medicine facility that i'd opened also had a personal training facility and he heard about
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the show on nbc and he's like you should really go in for this and i actually hate reality tv can't stand
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it and i hated the name the biggest loser so i didn't want to go in i was like this is gross
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i hate this name i hate reality tv so he convinced me to go he's like what do you have to lose just
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just go you don't have to take the job and i ended up getting the job and the long and the short of it
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is you know a blessing and a curse if you will so it gave me this incredible platform but it also
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had some significant downsides which is why i ended up leaving the show for the third and final time
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i believe in 2014 uh but it was through that crappy job that i ended up making the connections
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to establish uh a public platform on television so yeah pretty serendipitous wow so so going to the
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second part of that question which was you know what are your thoughts about how cluttered the space
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is today before you answer that let me just kind of contextualize it in other situations so for
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example when i first came into the uh you know the long form you know podcast genre there were very
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very few people who were doing i mean yeah of course there was joe rogan and certainly in academia there was
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no one uh that i'm aware of now you know fast forward 10 years later i probably received you know 50 invitations
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uh you know a week to appear on podcasts and many times it's just someone that just opens up their
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laptop and says i've got a new podcast because the the barrier to entry is so small you just need a laptop
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you need to and so what that creates is a difficult situation i mean from my perspective who should i be
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saying yes to on the one hand you want to promote and encourage people to find their voice so you're
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saying hey get out there your voice matters start something but on the other hand if everyone thinks
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they've got something interesting to say if everybody wants to be the next joe rogan or julian michaels
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then you very quickly get overwhelmed with requests so in the fitness environment i think it's the same
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thing everybody is a fitness life coach everybody has their own personal stories so how do we navigate
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in in trying to decide who is the real deal julian michaels and who are all the faux folks who are
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peddling all kinds of nonsense to us the first thing i would look for in an expert is education
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and then passion because at the end of the day if you're turning to somebody for advice
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you need to make sure that advice is credible and safe so we want it to yield results right
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but we want you to achieve those results as safely as possible and that's why in my line of work at
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this point i don't even i wouldn't even recommend trainers with a weekend certification even though
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that's how i got my start and all the more to the point is how ignorant i was with a weekend
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certification 30 years later how much i've had to learn and i appreciate the fact that now i think
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somebody training somebody else should have a degree period i i would look for a degree in exercise
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science i just think you know when you're messing with your health in any way mentally or physically
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you need a person who is very well educated and then beyond that you want to make sure that they're
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passionate about what they do so that you know they're being authentic with their message because
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so much of the health care system has been corrupted um and you know we could get into that or not but
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it's it's a huge problem and you also need to identify with the person who's working with you
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so you feel safe and you feel motivated to take their advice and continue onward with it okay what
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about so i was now i was talking about the clutter of the entrance into the space but how about the
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clutter of the actual content of the information that we're each exposed to right so i can take
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any prescription that you could think of and i can show you two experts that prescribe the exact
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opposite eggs are good for you eggs are bad for you coffee's good for you coffee's bad for you
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statins are good for you you should never take statins cholesterol is is the is the curse when
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it comes to heart disease cholesterol has nothing to do with heart disease and it's not quacks who
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don't have the degrees i can bring you absolutely certifiable experts that exactly enunciate the
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opposing position on anything you could think of it applies to fitness it applies to diet it applies to
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nutrition so how is the average person to navigate through that conundrum well the first thing is
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what's their motivation because oftentimes if you follow the money when you're reading different
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studies who funded it and why right are these doctors being paid by big food are they being paid
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by big pharma is the trainer on your instagram recommending a skinny tea because they were paid
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to do so follow the money right and then if it's like well everybody just has a unique opinion that's
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pretty rare it really is because i can answer those questions about coffee and eggs the truth is generally
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in the middle it's a balance eggs are pretty darn good for you actually unless you are according to
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dr agatston who i believe is one of the greatest cardiologists in the world right now unless you
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have a genetic predisposition to hyper absorb cholesterol eggs are great for you and we've
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pretty much established that but things like coffee you're up to 400 milligrams a day we know that you're
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okay right we know that that's fine organic coffee because it's the most heavily sprayed crop in the world
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it's usually common sense and the truth falls in the middle but when you're hearing
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information that is really polarizing or vastly divergent or doesn't ring true in your gut
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it's generally motivated by money whether somebody's trying to kind of make noise by being contrarian
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because you see a lot of that too oh you'd only need like well that's gonna make a lot of noise and
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then you find out oh you'd only liver and the guys on hormones and steroids it's like common sense will
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usually guide you to the truth but if somebody has the credentials that's why you really need
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to check their motivation like what are their interests are they being uh corrupted by outside
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financial influences if you will got you okay what are so i'm going i think we might have discussed uh
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my weight loss journey on your show if i if i remember correctly but for those of us for those
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folks who may not be familiar i'm going to share my weight loss journey and you tell me if you know
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that is pretty much the standard way there's no magic recipe or whether there's something that i
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might have missed that could have added can i can i go ahead and mention what i basically did i still do
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about 15 to 20 000 steps a day which can come in any variety of ways it could be just walking with my
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wife it could be i'm on the treadmill it could be on a stationary bike i'm always tracking my movement
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in a day now of course as you know probably better than anyone that only covers about maybe 10 percent
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of your i mean you can't outrun as they say a bad diet so the other the second part is that i try to
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eat by tracking all my calories about 15 to 1700 calories a day of largely protein and some you know
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vegetables and rarely also some fruits not too much carbs and just doing that i ended up from my
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heaviest weight to my lightest that i've gotten there was a fluctuation of or drop of 86 pounds
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over you know 18 months to 24 months period is it nothing but that have i have i struck the the
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magic recipe or is there something that i'm missing that can actually improve that journey it's nothing but
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that and people will try to tell you that it is but i promise you it isn't and i can address any
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question you have what about hormones and what about this brain disease that people are now claiming
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obesity is it is a chicken and an egg conversation of course your hormones your entire endocrine system
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gets disrupted when we have excess adipose tissue or excess body fat so yes you start to kind of dig
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yourself into a bit of a hole and it's slow going on the way out to begin to reverse your biochemistry
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right you might become insulin resistant you might develop pcos a host of things can happen when we
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become overweight making it harder to lose weight so let's say the car is in reverse in that situation
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right we got to get it into neutral then into first then second then third then fourth but when you
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do the things you're talking about we can gradually begin to climb out of the hole and get the car from
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reverse into drive and by continuing onward controlling your calories in moving more right burning more
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calories getting more calories burning out it's really kindergarten math and common sense and anybody who
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tells you otherwise is selling you something and i wrote that book on hormones and metabolism and
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it was a master it's called master metabolism monster bestseller i wrote it with an endocrinologist
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but at the end of the day it is eat less move more and use common sense with your food choices it is
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that simple period so it is i mean you you are a proponent of the calories in calories out if if if
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my basal rate is 2200 calories if i eat 1700 i'm 500 down do that for seven days i'm 3500 down therefore
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i'm one pound less fat is that is that the math pretty much it can vary a little bit and some people
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will argue like well hold on how come my boyfriend can eat whatever he wants and never gain weight
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yes we all have a different basal metabolic rate that's not a genetic disease and it's not a um genetic
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pre-determination of like oh you're going to be overweight this is just not the truth
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so uh for example i burned 1300 calories a day if i didn't move at all right my brother burns 2000
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calories a day i don't have a genetic disease because i burn less i just unfortunately am in
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my late 40s i'm five foot two and i'm 115 pounds i don't get to eat as much as he does at 5 foot 11
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at 31 years old as a man that's just life and people think oh this isn't fair therefore i have a
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disease or i don't want to take responsibility therefore i have a disease and these doctors are
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telling me i have a disease so therefore i must have this disease but the reality is you don't have
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a disease obesity is not a disease it's just simply we are eating more than our body can manage it is
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that simple i'm not saying it's easy because we eat too much for a variety of reasons which are pretty
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complex actually but losing weight is really an energy equation health is a bit of a different story
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so if we ate nothing but twinkies right there's a diet called the twinkie diet by a professor of
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nutrition i believe his name is mark haub and he illustrated that he could eat nothing but crap
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twinkies it was called the twinkie diet and still lose weight because he ate less of them and he did
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he did improve his biomarkers his total cholesterol went down and all the things but skinny people also
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have type 2 diabetes right and heart disease and cancer so that's where the quality of your food
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comes into play is your overall health but you can shrink by eating less and moving more and it's
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still better for you at the end of the day right so i guess there's a two-pronged approach as to why
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people sing some of the stuff that you're talking about the obesity is a disease removes the agency from
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me i can't control the fact that i have a disease therefore you know it is what it is and therefore
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it's external locus of control the the second thing which is arguably as insidious if not more
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is the argument that i am healthy and beautiful at any weight and i think that's where you got into
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trouble with the perfectly weighted lizzo because it would be wrong for us to say that a 840 pound woman
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is the wrong way she's beautiful she's strong she's healthy and there's absolutely no medical
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proof that being 400 pounds overweight has any negative downstream effects of course i'm being
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satirical but it aren't those the two the the two frontal attacks that actually are terribly harmful to
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people right you want my physician to tell me hey god you have to start losing weight you have young
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kids i imagine if he said no god you are perfect at 250 pounds don't you dare lose a pound it's a
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disease you can't do anything about it well here's what's really scary is that if your doctor does
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suggest that you have to lose weight it can be considered racist or ableist so doctors are now
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terrified to say anything at all but conversely enter ozempec buongiorno all of these semaglutide and
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weight loss drugs they're now being financially motivated to say aha hold on it's a disease and
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if you take these drugs they'll help you lose the way because you can't do it any other way because you
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have a disease um and in fact uh new research is coming out there have been many articles written
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that doctors are clamoring to get into this business because they can easily make over 700 000 a year
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prescribing ozempec um and if a doctor even discusses obesity with a patient they can bill medicare
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i think an extra amount just for having that conversation it's very financially motivated
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for a host of reasons so conversely it's like oh you're healthy at any size oh wait no no no it's
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actually a disease you can't have it both ways right but the healthy at any size conversation i believe
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comes from virtue signalers who you know go on ozempec to lose 10 pounds but you are beautiful at 400 pounds
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you go girl and buy my product and watch my show that's everybody knows that's so that's
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literally nefarious simply because people want to be liked so they say it and the people who are
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feeling hurt and who have been marginalized because they're overweight which is very real um
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turn to victimhood because it absolves them as you said and or are like i'm healthy at any size and i
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was born this way because that makes them feel better instead of somebody giving them the empathy
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that is required which is like listen i understand this is scary i understand it's painful i understand
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you've been marginalized but let's let's put all that aside because if you really love yourself right
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then you would work out because you love your body not because you hate your body you would want
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everything great that life has to offer you which is vastly improved through physical health so let's
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get to the bottom of where you're struggling and let's help you improve and take all of the blame game
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out of it that's really the conversation that needs to be had but it doesn't financially benefit anybody
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so taking ozempic or doing the bariatric surgery uh i think the the most famous example of sort of a
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show that does that is the 600 my life yeah 600 pounds uh at what point if a client came to see you
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and i think we touched on this in on my most recent appearance on your show where i was talking about
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locus of control where you know i don't want to take a pill because then i feel like i've lost rather
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than me making the lifestyle decisions to address the issue at what point would you go to someone
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notwithstanding that yes you should improve your diet yes you should exercise more i think for you
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taking that pill is a good idea or getting that surgery makes sense or would you never say that
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there's always only lifestyle interventions that will get you to the promised land
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you know i've had a host of these conversations with doctors that i greatly respect and
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trust um i had this conversation with dr peter atia dr william lee and dr casey means because i trust
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all three of them implicitly and i don't believe they're compromised in any way shape or form
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um and i'll speak specifically on my conversation with dr lee at the moment
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and his answer is as follows he said that we should look at this as honestly a life or death
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intervention only with regard to the drugs in particular because the consequences and the side
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effects are extremely severe largely unknown in the long term it's like oh well you only get
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only a small percentage get thyroid cancer only a small percentage get stomach paralysis only a small
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percentage get pancreatitis only is you guys fucking kidding you got to be on these drugs forever
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there's no getting off of them it's a lifetime patient and we know from all the meta-analysis
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all the studies that if people get off they gain it all back and then some that's that's already been
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shown so you got to be on for the rest of your life the side effects are pretty scary and extreme and
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we don't even know what it looks like being on it for 10 years they're now prescribing it for children
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12 and up which is just flat out terrifying this is ozempic you're talking about okay and other weight
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loss drugs and even surgery by the way right so they're going after our kids which could not be
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scarier and in in dr lee's opinion he was saying to me listen jill if we had somebody that was on the
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verge of death and we needed to run an immediate intervention while hitting them you know on a myriad of
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difference psychologically physically like working on the problem where you need to be working on it
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right like what's driving them to eat because you've got to get to the bottom of what the problem is
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he's like but if we needed to create an immediate intervention then that's where i would recommend it and
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that's only when i would recommend it and because i i you know i don't deal in opinions i only deal in
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data i'm not an idiot i defer to him i trust him completely and i believe that to be the best
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way forward with those drugs what about when so on the show the 600 pound show uh the the physician
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often will say you know uh you need to go into psychotherapy to understand the emotional pain
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and i'm often quizzical when i see that because really well i well so and i want you to correct
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me if i'm wrong uh okay in many cases i think that one can draw a causal link between someone's food
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hoarding and some emotional issues that might cause that food hoarding but i also think that food is a
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very pleasurable thing right so it could it could well be that my lack and again i'm not trying to play the
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play blame game no do it hit it all right so you know if i eat it it's a very direct pathway to the
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pleasure center of my brain and so there is no other way to become 600 pounds than through an incredible
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orgiastic set of decisions every single day that are causing me to say i don't care about self-control
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another extra piece of chicken wing or extra pizza it's just going to feel good and i don't think that
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each of those micro decisions was linked to something that happened in my childhood i went
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through a very difficult childhood in the lebanese civil war yet i don't blame my weight gain once i
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stopped being a soccer player to that tragic childhood i could easily say well you know that's what caused it
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i faced such difficulties it was so traumatic that that's why it happened so what are your thoughts
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on the link between emotional trauma and overeating well first let me say that this is something
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that is multifactorial and on on keeping it real i've interviewed addiction specialists and neuroscientists
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psychiatrists psychoanalysts and each one has a different way in and i think they're all correct
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so if you were to talk to daughter and dr anna lemke from stanford who's yes i just bought her book
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hold on hold on hold on stay with me wait a second is it dopamine nation yep i just bought exactly
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she's gonna tell you like listen we could talk about your mother all day long but until we fix your brain
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chemistry we're not going to get anywhere right you could talk to a neuroscientist who's going to say
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oh you know you've turned to these to these behaviors and now your brain is wired this way
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and the reality is that we are under siege we're being chemically addicted to process garbage food and
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big food is hiring neuroscientists to addict us to this food there is no question and it will light
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up the dopamine centers of your brain like cocaine and nicotine it proven you're 100 right but i do
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believe that we are psychologically hungry on some level so they're exploiting that psychological hunger
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when we're stressed when we're sad when we're depressed when we're lonely with dopamine hit
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dopamine hit dopamine hit now having said all of that right there in my opinion and my experience
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is without question for people that are addicted to food there are links back and i'll give you a
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few examples and my mom happens to be a psychoanalyst so my entire tenure on biggest loser behind the
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scenes she would help me try to help the people i was working with but unfortunately you know it needs
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someone like my mom for a very concentrated period of time to help them get to the bottom of it but here's
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an example of what i'm talking about there was a boy on biggest loser who was 18 years old named austin
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and he showed up with his dad it was like a partner season or something and these guys had lost like
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a hundred pounds each in two months but it was the holidays so on biggest loser they would always go home
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for the holidays even though the show would frame it like we just want to see how you do at home
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so they both go home for the holidays all the contestants go home for the holidays they all
00:28:23.260
come back to the ranch they all start weighing in that one loses 10 this one loses 8 5 15. ken
00:28:30.620
gets on the scale the dad he loses nothing and everyone's like strange austin gets on the scale the
00:28:37.580
18 year old and he gained like five or six pounds immediately the contestants start co-signing each
00:28:43.900
other's bullshit right oh you're traveling so hard to get the workout in oh there's no healthy food at
00:28:49.820
the airport i'm like all right all of you shut the fuck up shut up next day i sit down with austin
00:28:56.780
i'm like honey walk me through it just take we walk me through from when you leave to the moment you get
00:29:02.380
back and i get all the you know i there was no food at the airport i didn't have time to get my steps
00:29:07.820
blah blah blah arrives at home the door flies open everybody's there including his mom right big welcome
00:29:17.500
party his mom sees him and his father and starts sobbing and i do not mean tears of joy because upon
00:29:25.820
immediately seeing her much fitter husband and son she is also overweight and she immediately feels
00:29:35.180
abandoned like they broke the contract and she withdraws so what does austin do slams on the
00:29:44.220
brakes with his weight loss and starts eating with his mother what does the food provide him an emotional
00:29:49.980
connection to his mother and he doesn't realize what it's providing him and in my opinion for austin
00:29:59.820
at one time or another that food meant his psychological survival because it's a primal abandonment
00:30:06.940
should he give it up so i think for some people there are without question deeper factors there sexual
00:30:15.420
abuse survivors i think that food can represent coping mechanisms and defense structures for
00:30:21.340
certain individuals and that's an example yeah i think now that you're speaking i think the way that
00:30:28.540
i framed the question was too broad as if emotional yeah it just it is never an explicative cause and of
00:30:37.740
course that can't be right because as you said it's you know every almost every phenomenon that we can
00:30:43.100
talk about is multifactorial so i i appreciate it got you all right let's move on so we i think we've
00:30:49.260
covered a lot of a lot of the people would want to hear about let's let's kind of segue into other
00:30:54.860
possible areas so when i when you were kind enough to invite me last time on on your show it was to
00:31:00.460
discuss happiness in the times that i've spoken to you or seen you in in public settings you always seem to
00:31:08.860
have a radiant smile you always seem to be happy so i'm not even sure if anything that you read in my
00:31:14.860
book was of any value because you've already you know exactly so what is what is your pathway are you
00:31:23.100
you know what is it something that you've had to work on uh or is it something that you know you're
00:31:29.260
innately a sunny disposition person is it a bit of both tell us your journey towards mount happiness
00:31:34.860
you know you actually helped clarify for me what happiness is because it isn't whistling zippity
00:31:44.940
doodah every single morning you know it is it's having a partner that you love spending your life with
00:31:51.580
it's having a job that does bring purpose into your life and i'm fortunate enough to have those things
00:32:00.780
i'm not prone to depression so i'm very lucky with that but i can be prone to a negative mindset i i'm
00:32:12.060
very susceptible to outside influences on my mood um and that is something that i i have had to learn
00:32:22.940
quite honestly i hate to say this but to tune out and you know my wife and i were having an argument
00:32:28.300
yesterday about what's going on in israel and she's telling me these horror stories and i'm like
00:32:31.980
i don't know how many times i need to tell you i don't want to hear it and she's like you need to
00:32:37.340
know what's going on in the world i'm like for what what do you think i'm going to be able to do about
00:32:42.140
this this has been going on since the beginning of humanity and then i'm like and there's genocide
00:32:48.620
here and there's genocide there and there's genocide over here and we're and then i'm like we all
00:32:52.380
just need to be extinct like like i am very susceptible to that and i can become very nihilistic
00:32:59.180
if i'm not careful so some of it i quite honestly have to tune out and live in the world that you
00:33:07.260
talk about in the book of like my personal relationships my work you finding meaning finding
00:33:14.700
time to play smelling the flowers but it is it is something i have to work on because i can go
00:33:23.820
down that rabbit hole fast and i you know i really don't know why but it's something i know that i'm
00:33:28.780
i'm susceptible to well but just the mere fact that you've got the introspective ability that's
00:33:35.660
already half the battle one because that you know many people don't have that ability right so how
00:33:40.700
you know to use the old cliche you first have to recognize that there's a problem before you can
00:33:44.700
do something about it so the fact that at least you know you're susceptible to that negative mindset
00:33:50.380
and that nihilism i i think you said uh allows you to then set up the the strategies to inoculate
00:33:57.260
yourself against those outside forces that you can't control is there a way for us to teach people
00:34:03.340
how to be more introspective i'm gonna say that's your job that's why i love you
00:34:11.660
i'm gonna be quoting you and your book on that because i am the farthest thing from an expert
00:34:17.900
i honestly think that my answer would be the true layman's which is if something upsets you
00:34:25.900
it's okay it's an easter egg hunt for me and here's what i mean by that do you remember i i don't know
00:34:32.780
if no because you're jewish but i still had easter egg hunts my parents didn't subscribe me to any
00:34:38.140
kind of religion i had i got all the holidays so i'm grateful to them for that so my mom would hide
00:34:43.500
eggs all over the house and of course as a fat kid i would run around the house and be so excited but
00:34:48.300
you get closer to a hidden egg and you'd be warmer right the farther away you would get from it the
00:34:54.380
colder you would be i try to play this game in my relationships of does this friendship make me feel
00:35:00.300
better like am i warmer okay yeah this friendship makes me feel good let me cultivate that relationship
00:35:06.860
does it make me feel bad this probably isn't a friendship for me and i don't mean hard work
00:35:12.700
right does it make you feel bad about yourself are they making you feel left out are they
00:35:17.020
marginalizing you are they passive aggressive with you is the dynamic unhealthy for you
00:35:22.060
is it you know same thing with your work same thing with your hobbies if there's something you love
00:35:26.380
to do do do more of it if you find that it's bringing you peace so i try to take this inventory
00:35:32.620
all the time the news upsets the hell out of me so i just don't i don't care call me ignorant i don't
00:35:40.140
want to know i will never unravel whether we should be funding ukraine or not i have no idea
00:35:45.580
and i have no control over it anyway i can't i can't so i just don't right but the stuff that makes
00:35:53.260
me happy like cat videos on instagram like perfect you can watch the news i'm gonna watch a cat video
00:36:00.860
on instagram because that makes me laugh i that's how i kind of do it is by taking this emotional
00:36:06.620
inventory with my relationships and my activities and if something makes me feel good in a way i know
00:36:12.300
is obviously healthy i do more of it if it makes me feel bad i take space from it i think so your answer
00:36:19.500
demonstrated so to use the fancy language epistemic humility right because what you said hey you just
00:36:25.580
asked me a question i'm not sure that i've got the answer to it and i don't have the expertise to it
00:36:30.460
guess what answering that way builds trust because it's authentic right so i think one of the secrets
00:36:37.340
to why you know you resonate with so many people is because when they listen to you they don't see a
00:36:43.500
peddler of potential because by the way that's if i if i can speak about myself i think that's
00:36:50.140
something that i also am able to do which is if you ask me a question about something that i truly
00:36:55.340
feel confident about i will answer you with all of the swagger that comes with me knowing that i know
00:37:01.340
what i'm talking about but on the other hand there's a million things that you could ask me about
00:37:05.580
that i absolutely know probably less than nothing about therefore i never try to wing it because if
00:37:12.060
i tried if i tried to wing it and you catch me we both have pretty big large audiences where people
00:37:20.140
are attuned to every one of your syllables and it takes a nanosecond of miscalibration on your part
00:37:26.700
to lose all of the capital of trust that people have built for you right and therefore always be truthful
00:37:34.540
if you know speak with authority if you don't know bow your head and say you know what you got
00:37:40.860
me on this one it's above my pay grade and then people will flock to you because they see you as a
00:37:45.740
truth peddler i certainly hope so i i think it comes from fear because you and i are in a position
00:37:54.620
where we have huge targets on our backs and i have learned quite honestly after i read parasitic
00:38:03.420
mind and had that dialogue with you that when i am an expert in something i can plant my feet firmly
00:38:09.500
and shout from the mountain top because i'm so damn confident and i fact check everything i have
00:38:15.100
experts with phds and mds double board certified i go to the well give me all the knowledge i need
00:38:22.860
let me form an opinion based on that and then i can expand on my opinion with confidence but when i do
00:38:29.900
not have that expertise i i don't need to take the bullets for this i don't know what i'm talking
00:38:35.500
about it becomes but that really was clarified for me after you and i had that first conversation
00:38:43.420
when i had read parasitic mind i was like okay great here i can be supremely confident here i need
00:38:48.620
to take a back seat you're oh what a beautiful answer uh okay let's talk so towards the end of
00:38:55.580
my happiness book i taught i have a whole chapter on regret and there i talk about the difference
00:39:01.100
between regret due to actions versus regret due to inactions by the way that taxonomy is not mine
00:39:06.060
it's actually one of my former uh professors in in my phd program his name is thomas gilovich
00:39:11.420
who really pioneered that distinction now it turns out uh jill that over the long run most people's
00:39:19.180
looming regret is one due to inaction so just to to explain in a concrete sense to to our listeners
00:39:25.900
uh regret due to action would be i regret that i cheated on my wife and that led to the dissolution
00:39:32.140
of my marriage so i i did something and now i regret it regret due to inaction is i regret that i never
00:39:39.100
pursued my interest in art and i never became an artist i became a pediatrician because my dad is a
00:39:44.140
pediatrician and i really hate medicine and i i regret that i didn't live an authentic life the
00:39:48.860
one that that that tickles my fancy and people's greatest regrets tend to be over the long run for
00:39:55.980
things that they didn't do the the path that they didn't take so if i were to ask you you're still a
00:40:01.580
young woman you still have many years ahead of you knock on wood if i were to ask you today what's your
00:40:07.260
most looming regret or regrets what would you answer i am a woman of action in my younger years almost
00:40:17.020
impulsively so there are very few things that i have not done i've dealt with the mistakes of doing them
00:40:25.100
wrong um you know the biggest one of those uh would change the course of my career and i'm a big
00:40:35.980
supplement person i advocate for supplements all day long personally i take them you don't have to
00:40:42.220
i like them a lot they give me that little edge right if we if we were to go for a hack with regard
00:40:47.180
to health or weight loss they provided and i've always experimented with different supplements and
00:40:52.700
nutrients to improve my performance to enhance my metabolism so i'd written a book called making the
00:40:58.060
cotton i talked about the good the bad and the ugly of weight loss supplements right
00:41:02.060
our pills that people were taking book was a huge bestseller and i decided i wanted to come
00:41:07.980
up with my own fat burner and it was all organic it was like it had you know beets and green tea and
00:41:16.140
coffee and the whole everything was clean nevertheless it ended up doing really well and we got hit with the
00:41:24.140
fake class action lawsuit that said i was killing people and i had sold out and of course
00:41:29.820
it was all dismissed the the class action the person that had the class never even bought the
00:41:36.220
products but no one prints that it's all dismissed and everybody just goes oh my god the woman that i
00:41:40.860
trusted was a fraud she sold out she did this she did that she said pills and it was a whole it was a
00:41:48.060
shit show and i wish that i had stopped and thought what could go wrong what could go wrong here it was
00:41:58.780
the biggest mistake of my entire career that and bad legal advice and that comes from two things one
00:42:08.220
impulsivity not thinking things through and two with bad legal advice i feel that people can become
00:42:14.860
intimidated by things they don't understand whether it's their health care their legal advice or their
00:42:20.300
finances so they opt out of the conversation and hand it off to somebody else and that is devastating
00:42:27.100
i've dealt with many catastrophes outside of health care because of my attitude there and i regret that
00:42:32.540
and have subsequently changed um if i was to have a inaction regret it hasn't occurred yet but i i fight it
00:42:43.740
like crazy and that's getting to the end of my life and thinking like should i have gone to one more
00:42:49.900
soccer game you know what i mean like with the kids or one more spring sing and i make it to like
00:42:57.580
i don't know a third of them because there's so many of them and it's like you have to work and
00:43:02.700
you're you know you're juggling all these balls and you think but i'm the one that has to work i have
00:43:05.900
to pay for everything like i have to do these things i have to travel for work i have to and then
00:43:10.620
i wonder am i really going to hate myself for this that's the part that scares me so i i try so hard
00:43:17.100
to like find a balance but it does worry me is there going to be the soccer game that i miss and the
00:43:22.860
kids hate me for so that's the one that i i'm a little concerned about i mean from doing from a
00:43:29.100
parental regret perspective my my only regret so far and may it hopefully be the only one that i ever
00:43:35.900
experienced is that i regret that uh so my i speak four languages and my wife speaks three uh two so
00:43:44.540
two of the languages i speak she doesn't speak in one of the language so she speaks armenian i don't
00:43:49.180
i speak arabic and hebrew and she doesn't so between the two of us we cover five languages and yet our
00:43:54.620
children only really you know i mean they might recognize little words here and there but they
00:43:59.420
i mean fluently only speak french and english and i really regret that because i feel that
00:44:04.780
the amount of i don't know if i don't think the right word will be gravitas but the the amount of
00:44:11.580
power that being able to speak many languages affords you is simply extraordinary so you know let's so for
00:44:19.100
example talking about the the what's happening in the middle east now the fact that i am an arabic
00:44:23.820
speaker that arabic is my mother tongue allows me to right away bond with people that otherwise might
00:44:31.180
have been difficult to bond with because we come from different you know religions and different
00:44:36.460
probably political persuasions but simply having in that venn diagram the intersect intersection of our
00:44:42.380
linguistic heritage removes a lot of the barriers and so you know i'm able to you know go on an arabic
00:44:49.500
show and suddenly there are millions of people that would have otherwise never heard of my
00:44:53.260
story in lebanon that have heard it because i speak you know fluent arabic so that would probably
00:44:58.860
be my regret is this i mean i guess you can't have such a regret in the united states because not to
00:45:04.300
be stereotypical most people barely speak one language properly you know you say that but i just
00:45:10.140
had this conversation with a friend of mine who's chinese and her i met her little six-year-old the
00:45:15.900
other day and i was like does she speak chinese does she speak mandarin she's like no and my friend is
00:45:22.460
from china and i was like dude so many of my adult friends whose parents were from italy or puerto rico
00:45:32.700
or venezuela they don't speak spanish or italian and my father whose parents came over from lebanon
00:45:40.540
and syria he doesn't speak arabic at all and i wonder if it's because i don't know you'd have to
00:45:47.980
you'd have to tell me but it's very common what you're talking about so i think i'm thinking that
00:45:53.740
if one wants to be charitable about it it's hey you're moving to a new land put away all the other
00:46:00.700
stuff assimilate yourself so in in that sense that reflex is quite noble right right put away your
00:46:06.860
religious heritage put away but you could still fully assimilate in the new experiment into the your
00:46:12.940
new host country without losing the really rich elements of your history right i i mean i love
00:46:18.780
falafel and hummus that doesn't mean that i'm not fully canadian right so i can take the beautiful
00:46:24.460
parts of my heritage but the bad parts right if if your heritage says that women should be subjugated or
00:46:32.620
this is what should be done to uh uh members of the lgbtq community please keep those values at the door
00:46:40.140
when you come in but your spices your language your hummus bring that in it's going to make us a
00:46:47.020
richer society right 100 i mean that's that's what we celebrated about america in my opinion is that we
00:46:55.660
were supposed to be this incredible melting pot and now unfortunately i believe that we're becoming
00:47:01.980
more and more segregated um which is just i don't know again a rabbit hole i can go down and get
00:47:11.100
pretty depressed about but i think that's the whole that was the whole idea is that it was this beautiful
00:47:16.300
blending of cultures that was kind of supposed to be the point that was what was so exciting about
00:47:21.900
america let let's and freedom but yeah let's stay positive so that we don't go down and let's talk about
00:47:29.500
culture you ready where i'm going it's the n-word namibia that's where we're going next joey and
00:47:36.620
michael okay now perfect so now here before let me set up the the question uh you recently got married
00:47:44.860
i think your honeymoon was in namibia yes and uh and it turns out that that's a big you know bridge
00:47:52.860
between between the two of us in that unbeknownst to me that you had been to namibia i only found this
00:47:58.300
out when you know doing my homework uh about your recent past uh i've been wanting to go to namibia
00:48:05.340
because i think we talked about this offline when i appeared on your show last time i have this
00:48:09.740
fascination with this particular i mean there's there is the desert lions but even more mythical
00:48:15.500
is the long-haired desert hyena of namibia and uh i'm a huge animal lover and so i've always had this
00:48:22.540
kind of mythological fantasy of going and seeing the ghosts of the namibian desert in person and so
00:48:29.100
i've got a sabbatical coming up in january and i'm hoping to organize a trip so tell us everything that
00:48:35.340
we need to know about the magic of namibia take it away namibia is unlike any other part of africa
00:48:43.420
that i have been to um i personally find it to be the most magical continent i'm obsessed with it i've
00:48:51.020
been um to the congo uganda uh zambia zimbabwe botswana south africa namibia i i love it i always always
00:49:01.980
go back typically professional or just for for pleasure for personal just for pleasure but uh
00:49:10.780
i went to the congo for with the unhcr on a refugee trip the united nations refugee agency um i actually
00:49:21.020
wanted to work with regard to what was going on in syria because i was like i have syrian blood and
00:49:26.220
they're like yeah no we've got ben stiller and angelina joe leon if you could go to the congo
00:49:32.060
that'd be great i was like all right sure so that was one of the reasons i i ended up in the congo but
00:49:37.820
um namibia the reason i bring up all those different places is because it is unlike any
00:49:45.340
other part of the continent that i've seen to date and it's where the desert meets the sea
00:49:51.020
um it feels otherworldly i'll be honest exactly exactly yeah you feel like you've just landed on a
00:49:59.260
different planet uh so whether you're climbing these massive majestic sand dunes or you're
00:50:06.540
going to the skeleton coast which i believe is one of the most dangerous stretches of coastline in the
00:50:14.300
world littered with shipwrecks and whale bones and these crazy huge seal colonies and then you're
00:50:22.220
watching like jackals kill baby seals i was sobbing by the way i hate i love africa hate the kill the
00:50:30.860
kill miserable and i always like i always see one which is so frustrating uh so um that and the sand is
00:50:41.900
purple and you can go from riding atvs in the dunes to you do not go on the water but you could take
00:50:48.700
like a helicopter ride along the coast it is so diverse and so incredible and such an interesting
00:50:56.860
intersection of wildlife and landscapes that i i can't recommend it strongly enough and you'll still
00:51:04.860
see the lions and the elephants and the black rhino they're they're there without question less um
00:51:12.060
in lesser numbers as you might find obviously in like the okavanga delta but it is truly magical and
00:51:20.620
unique without question well how were the the people i mean are they set up for tourists is there
00:51:27.900
very much so very much so so they were a german colonized by the germans so you know for better or
00:51:36.060
worse everything is very organized not to make a sweeping generalization but the truth is everything
00:51:44.220
is kind of very organized very safe the people are lovely um they coexist very well and you know you could
00:51:55.020
go to obviously different countries in africa and things are not so stable you know south africa is not
00:52:02.700
very safe right now um but here they at least when i was there last summer they're all coexisting very well
00:52:14.460
um and you could not feel more safe the people are lovely but i have found everywhere in africa the
00:52:23.260
people to be lovely which is one of the things i love about africa namibia is no different um so i'll say
00:52:30.460
that i find oh they're right on the border of angola which is really cool because if you go up to the
00:52:37.180
border uh along the river and you can see the huge crocodiles it's it's pretty it's pretty magical
00:52:45.020
i think africa in general though really falls under that umbrella because the creatures are just
00:52:51.900
incredible the landscapes are dramatic the people are lovely the history is devastating but they somehow
00:52:59.660
manage to contend with it and it's you know i guess if we were to look at other parts of the world it
00:53:05.180
would be equally as rife with conflict um but in most places they manage it pretty well and they they
00:53:15.180
inspire me because i'm thinking my god if you went through this right clearly i can survive x y or z
00:53:22.140
right so i just find it to be inspirational and awe-inspiring in every way and namibia is
00:53:29.100
by far the most unique place i have been to in africa well i mean so two quick points number one
00:53:35.820
in the united states uh you know i visited quite a bit of the united states and new mexico is rightly
00:53:42.060
titled land of enchantment because when you visit some of the landscapes in new mexico it does feel
00:53:48.380
otherworldly and while i've never been to namibia many of the images that's what draws me exactly
00:53:54.940
speak to what you described in your in the opening of your of your uh response to my question which is
00:54:00.220
it feels like you've landed on another in another dimension and i'm so attracted to this second point
00:54:06.540
one so i have and you may or may not remember this in the first chapter of the parasitic mind i talk
00:54:11.500
about my i think adaptive phobia of mosquitoes and i say adaptive because no animal no no
00:54:18.220
crocodile or no or no lion or no polar bear has killed remotely as many people i mean in the order
00:54:25.500
of thousands of magnitudes greater the mosquito and so oftentimes when i'm thinking about visiting a place
00:54:31.900
it's based on the mosquito density and you'll correct me if i'm wrong i think one of the things that draws
00:54:37.740
me to namibia is that because it is a desert because it's very dry you know the the mosquito index in
00:54:44.860
namibia is going to be much more in my favor than in some other places in africa where given my phobia
00:54:51.260
i better never set foot in does that make sense it makes a hundred percent sense um i don't think i got
00:54:57.660
one bite there you go although to be honest depending on where you are in africa um or what time you go
00:55:06.540
makes a huge difference in miami i i carried 20 bites on my body at all times and my mother's in
00:55:14.700
los angeles and she's like the mosquitoes here have den fever i'm like doing dead den i've never what's
00:55:21.260
den fever dang gave me no den fever i'm getting pictures of welts these suckers are omnipresent and
00:55:29.660
torture torture little mini torture devices so i i totally agree with you but i would venture to say
00:55:34.700
namibia you're safer than los angeles and miami there you go go and have a blast oh that's fantastic
00:55:41.500
all right uh last question although of course i could keep you another five hours chatting what are
00:55:47.660
some current projects that you're working on next book next app next television series that's making
00:55:54.860
you wake up in the morning and rub your hands in anticipation if you're willing to share with us take
00:55:59.740
it away of course i listen i can't promise that any of them will end up coming to fruition because
00:56:04.540
it's it's harder and harder these days um to kind of bring something all the way through the bases
00:56:11.820
to home plate but there is a tv show that we're developing and it is about tackling obesity on
00:56:18.780
that myriad of fronts that you and i discussed right and not just getting weight off of people
00:56:23.420
because the irony is that it isn't really a weight loss show it's about fixing the biochemical addiction
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the behaviors and the neuro the the neuroscience that goes behind kind of brainwashing people into
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different attitudes uh dealing with it with regard to fitness and nutrition so just this very 360
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comprehensive approach we and i say we because i have a business partner um and we run a company
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together we continue to form strategic partnerships whether it's affordable wearables a line of fitness
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equipment relationships at walmart or qvc to get fitness clothes etc basically accessible affordable
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options to the things that people need to i don't need but can help facilitate them staying fit so
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partnerships along those lines investing in different companies that i think are doing better for you
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versions of our favorite stuff so whether it's an organic coffee company or a water company
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or a supplement company or a spin gym i will invest in those companies and try to help grow those brands
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uh i try to put my money where i would like to see things expand in my field you know don't invest in
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uh companies in the stock market that sell drugs to people and tobacco and they'll fill up more
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stock in my portfolio so instead i i try to invest in the things i believe in that will do better for
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other people um and let's see i mean honestly i don't think books work in my area anymore because people
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are very caught up in blogs and vlogs and it's all free so i've been focused more on writing op-eds
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in my area of expertise so whether it's on ozempic or obesity being branded as a medical disease of the
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brain or you know the way that our healthcare system has been corrupted by big pharma those are the
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the messages that i'm trying to expose people to because i just think if we can unplug people from
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the matrix one by one and show them that they are empowered to take control that's really all that's
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really all we have right we're never going to take down big pharma we're never going to change
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people lobbying our politicians and we're not going to change the system that's never going to happen
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never the david and goliath thing david dies here not going to happen but if if david can wake up
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one person at a time that's what i'm endeavoring to do through all of these different avenues
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well continued success i hope i i often make it to southern california and so hopefully uh next time
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that i'm there we can hang out maybe we can go for a run and make me look like a buffoon while we run
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on the beach because uh while i'm in pretty good shape uh i'd be going against the messi the leanel
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messi of fitness so uh please be gentle on me if we do train together uh i would love it continued
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success best of luck in your future and i look forward to having this up and also my appearance
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on your show up which i'll be happy to share on my uh social media thank you so much you'll stay on the
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line so we can say goodbye offline what a delight thank you so much cheers