The Tucker Carlson Show - December 14, 2023


Tucker at American Principles Project


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Length

46 minutes

Words per Minute

187.29385

Word Count

8,688

Sentence Count

498

Misogynist Sentences

10

Hate Speech Sentences

26


Summary

In this episode, I sit down with a group of friends to talk about a variety of topics, including abortion, abortion, and the trans issue. We talk about our own experiences with abortion and the church, and what it means to be a Christian in the 21st century. And we talk about why we should care about trans issues, and why we shouldn t care at all. It's a good one, and it's a really good one. Thank you so much for being here, and we hope you enjoy it! Music: "In Need of a Savior (feat. Andrea Thomas)". Words and Music by Andrea Thomas and the Vigil Project. All rights reserved. Used w/ permission from Andrea Thomas. The opinions expressed here are our own, not those of our companies, unless otherwise specified. We do not own the rights to any music used in this episode. Logo by Courtney DeKorte. Theme by Mavus White. Music by PSOVOD and tyops. Art by Jeff Kaale. This episode was produced and edited by Riley Gaines. Additional production by Kaitlyn Orlaith Smith. Please take care of the sound quality is better than that of the original music used on this episode of the podcast. It was produced by Bobby Lord. Thanks to Lizzie Hopkins. If you like what you hear, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcasts, we'll be listening to the music we've produced by a good friend of yours! We'll be looking out for you in the next week on the next episode of this week's episode of Good Morning America, Badass, Good Morning, Good Life, Bad Girl, Good Boy, Good Girl, Bad Boy, and Good Girl Bad Girl. and Good Lady, Good Lady Good Girl Good Lady. Thank You. -- Thank you for your support and Good Vibes, Good Lord Bless You, Thank You, Good Day, Good Love, Good Thing, Good Blessings, Good Things, Good Night, Good Relationships, Good Work, Good Week, Good God Bless, etc. -- Thank You and Much More! -- Good Morning God, Blessings and Good Morning Blessings. -- -- Please Like That, Good Nuff, Good Luck, Good Kidding Me, Good Ol Nights, etc., etc., Good Morning Friend, Goodnight, Good Gotta Good Morning Love,


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Thank you.
00:00:10.760 I just want to start.
00:00:12.160 First of all, thank you so much for having me.
00:00:13.720 I'm sorry I'm dressed like a homeless person.
00:00:17.180 This is how I normally dress, but I tried to up the game a little bit this morning as
00:00:22.240 I left my house and realized I had no suit pants.
00:00:25.520 None.
00:00:26.080 I mean that.
00:00:26.660 I had not one gray pair of trousers.
00:00:28.280 I'm 54.
00:00:28.960 You'd think I'd have one.
00:00:29.760 I threw them all away.
00:00:31.700 So it's a measure of how just totally off the grid I am.
00:00:34.380 So it's a blessing to be in a room full of people I know like half the room.
00:00:38.500 And I like the other half, too.
00:00:40.160 So it's been a long time since I've been around this many people I like.
00:00:45.560 And I got to say, seven children?
00:00:50.780 It makes me ashamed to be a Protestant, honestly, when I hear that.
00:00:54.180 I mean it.
00:00:54.800 It does.
00:00:56.220 Seven children?
00:00:57.060 I don't care if you are sentenced to life without parole and lead a disgraceful life.
00:01:03.920 If you have seven kids, you beat me in some fundamental way.
00:01:08.140 And by the way, you know, if you're in a church that doesn't encourage you to have seven children,
00:01:13.880 it's not really a church, actually.
00:01:15.160 It's something else.
00:01:19.820 I mean, I grew up in a world where, and in a church that maybe not explicitly, but there's
00:01:24.140 nothing explicit about the Episcopal Church.
00:01:25.900 Everything is my implication.
00:01:26.880 But it was like, that would be like revolting.
00:01:32.540 If you had seven pups and tried to show up to an Episcopal Church service, they'd be like,
00:01:36.460 no, service entrance, please.
00:01:40.380 It's like, why, actually?
00:01:42.340 Why the anti-fertility instinct in so many?
00:01:46.200 I mean, obviously, it's a form of suicide.
00:01:48.020 I mean, that's actually what it is.
00:01:49.160 If you're not reproducing, then you're not, well, you're missing the point of life, for
00:01:54.920 one thing, but you're also, there is a way in which you're dying, and, well, not a way
00:01:58.800 in which you are dying.
00:01:59.920 Your people are dying.
00:02:01.540 And so it's very dark, and it's taken me so long to realize that, you know, you have
00:02:06.180 to overcome all kinds of, as you age, all kinds of ingrained assumptions that are rooted
00:02:10.580 only in, like, the dumbest possible justifications, like, I grew up that way.
00:02:15.680 Anyway, but to be in a room full of people with lots of kids and to see children in the
00:02:20.540 room, I don't know why it always makes me emotional, but I love it.
00:02:22.520 Anyway, I just feel really welcome, so thank you.
00:02:27.760 By the way, none of that's pandering, since I guess a lot of you are Catholic.
00:02:30.660 I really mean all of that.
00:02:32.300 I see Gary Bauer over there.
00:02:33.360 I don't think he's Catholic yet.
00:02:34.360 But anyway, you know what I'm talking about.
00:02:36.360 So I loved what Terry said about, you know, staying cheerful in a moment like this, and
00:02:47.780 it really is a moment like this, and the issue that you all are the most famous for really
00:02:51.280 tells you everything, the trans issue, which I've thought an awful lot about.
00:02:54.920 I didn't sort of expect to make it to midlife and be thinking about trans stuff.
00:03:00.140 But the main question I've had from the very beginning is, like, what is the point of this?
00:03:03.260 I mean, I grew up in a world where there were, you know, I grew up in Southern California
00:03:07.200 in an affluent zip code where, like, everybody had a freaky personal life, like, everybody.
00:03:11.780 And I was sort of taught not to judge them, and I'll just be totally honest with you.
00:03:15.180 I'm still kind of there.
00:03:16.020 I'm just not that interested in getting involved in other people's stuff, even if I disapprove
00:03:19.780 of it, maybe especially if I disapprove of it.
00:03:22.760 But they have made it impossible for me to live the life I hope to lead, which is just
00:03:27.840 like leaving other people alone because they're way up on my face with, you know, I'm a girl.
00:03:31.680 No, you're not.
00:03:32.840 Yes, I am.
00:03:33.520 Shut up.
00:03:35.040 And I'd be happy to even leave it there, but it's like we're going to punish you unless
00:03:38.360 you repeat the trans catechism.
00:03:40.320 And you have to ask yourself, like, what is that?
00:03:42.600 What's the point?
00:03:43.340 Joe Biden announced, I think I just saw a piece in which Riley Gaines, who I love, is responding
00:03:48.140 to Joe Biden's declaration that trans issues are non-negotiable.
00:03:52.580 Really, of all the issues that this kind of—this is a sincere question, especially in a country
00:03:57.740 where everything's kind of crumbling at once.
00:03:59.660 When you have this weird convergence of, like, 19 different irresolvable crises, why the
00:04:03.860 trans thing?
00:04:05.700 You know?
00:04:06.120 I mean, it offends a lot of the country.
00:04:08.160 Certainly every Christian believer has to be offended by it.
00:04:11.180 I know Christianity Today is not, but it's not Christian magazine anymore.
00:04:13.720 That's why.
00:04:14.760 So, but an actual Christian is going to be like, no, I'm not going to repeat that.
00:04:20.080 Pardon me.
00:04:20.360 That was so catty.
00:04:21.100 I couldn't control myself.
00:04:23.660 Sorry, Russell Moore.
00:04:25.140 But, like, what is the point?
00:04:28.360 Why would you want to offend people on purpose?
00:04:30.520 And then you realize, oh, that is the point.
00:04:32.700 That is the point.
00:04:33.660 That's the whole point.
00:04:35.660 That issue is appealing to the people who promote it, most of whom are not trans and
00:04:39.440 wouldn't wish that on their children, because why would you not want grandchildren?
00:04:42.000 Why would you want to wreck the lives of your own children?
00:04:44.620 Like, it's very not natural.
00:04:46.800 But the people who are pushing it are pushing it precisely because it is so offensive to
00:04:51.380 believing Christians.
00:04:52.360 That's exactly why, right there.
00:04:55.500 And what is that?
00:04:57.960 Well, it's, like, foretold in some detail in documents I could refer to called the New
00:05:02.420 Testament.
00:05:04.140 And there is a point.
00:05:05.480 I mean, this is, like, kind of the core promise of the religion that you will be
00:05:08.540 persecuted for adopting it.
00:05:10.320 I mean, unless I'm missing something.
00:05:13.300 Like, it kind of says that in black and white several times.
00:05:15.580 If you believe this, you'll be punished for believing it.
00:05:19.400 And so, once you sort of remember that, and I'm hardly a Bible scholar, but because that
00:05:23.540 is so often repeated and emphasized, I don't know if there are exclamation points in the
00:05:27.720 original text, but it certainly jumps right off the page, sign up!
00:05:31.020 You're going to suffer a lot!
00:05:32.340 It's, like, my favorite pitch ever.
00:05:36.260 So great.
00:05:36.960 That's how you know it's true.
00:05:38.600 You know what I mean?
00:05:39.480 It's not like this is going to make you lose 30 pounds and cure your ED.
00:05:43.980 It's like, no, you'll probably be beheaded, actually.
00:05:47.900 Really?
00:05:48.860 I will?
00:05:50.680 Yes, you will.
00:05:52.860 Okay!
00:05:53.920 It's so awesome!
00:05:55.480 Anyway.
00:05:57.480 But we should not be surprised.
00:06:02.180 And actually, if you think about it, virtually everything that is happening in this country,
00:06:06.400 and also I would say around the world, and I'm not getting into foreign policy because
00:06:10.340 I'm sure everyone disagrees with me, but if you look carefully, Christians have borne the
00:06:15.180 brunt of a lot of what's happening around the world in conflicts that we fund.
00:06:21.900 Did the State Department not notice when all the Christians in Iraq had genocided?
00:06:26.680 Like, did no one notice that?
00:06:28.100 Ninety percent of them are gone.
00:06:30.740 They're not all dead.
00:06:31.660 A lot of them are dead, but they don't live in Iraq anymore.
00:06:33.740 Well, the U.S. government was, like, in charge of that.
00:06:35.980 Did no one notice that?
00:06:36.920 It seemed like it would be a priority.
00:06:38.600 Because, by the way, they are a religious minority, but they're also Christians, as is the
00:06:43.080 majority of our population.
00:06:44.140 The country was founded by Christians, and no one noticed it.
00:06:47.740 Of course, they noticed it.
00:06:48.540 They liked it.
00:06:49.160 That's the point.
00:06:50.220 The same in a lot of countries, including Syria.
00:06:52.560 Whatever.
00:06:53.040 I'm not getting into my eccentric views, but I'm just saying this thread, whether you agree
00:06:56.200 with me or not on specific conflicts around the world, if you decide to assess what's
00:07:01.460 happening in this country and around the world through that one lens, how does it affect
00:07:04.720 Christians?
00:07:06.380 Well, you see it a lot differently.
00:07:08.200 In fact, you will find yourself taking the position that's the mirror image of the position
00:07:12.520 you're being told to take in every country and on every issue in the United States.
00:07:18.240 I mean that.
00:07:19.440 And just when you're alone, and don't tell anybody because you're going to have forbidden
00:07:22.900 thoughts.
00:07:24.540 The most forbidden of all is, like, you're allowed to care about what happens to other
00:07:28.080 Christians around the world, which you've been told relentlessly, whether you know it
00:07:30.960 or not, that you're not allowed to care about, and sorry, with respect, most of your churches
00:07:35.240 don't care.
00:07:35.940 Make a real point of not caring.
00:07:38.100 Christians get killed.
00:07:38.880 Do you hear about it on Sunday?
00:07:39.660 No, of course not.
00:07:40.180 That's embarrassing.
00:07:41.960 We've got some mission to people who, you know, and I'm totally in favor of missions
00:07:45.800 to people who aren't believers and who aren't Americans and all that.
00:07:49.520 It's a universalist religion.
00:07:50.760 That's the best thing about Christianity.
00:07:52.140 It applies to everybody.
00:07:54.480 So I'm not arguing against that.
00:07:56.000 I'm just saying, why does no one ever mention this?
00:07:58.800 Because you're not supposed to.
00:07:59.720 That's why you're not supposed to.
00:08:02.800 And, you know, I'm opting out.
00:08:05.460 Like, why shouldn't I mention it?
00:08:07.480 And it does sort of point up the core problem, which is that people who are upset about what's
00:08:11.540 happening now let it happen to them.
00:08:13.100 And that's just true.
00:08:14.600 I know a guy called Bill Ackman, who's a hedge fund manager, center left, very smart.
00:08:21.440 And I know him personally.
00:08:23.040 I've argued with him about some things.
00:08:24.260 I agree with him on other things.
00:08:25.200 I'm not here to attack Bill Ackman.
00:08:27.180 But Bill Ackman is a Harvard guy.
00:08:28.460 He gave a lot of money to Harvard.
00:08:29.080 He's very mad about the way pro-Israel students are treated.
00:08:32.420 And that's good for him, as far as I'm concerned.
00:08:34.460 First of all, he's a donor.
00:08:36.140 And I'm strongly in favor of people giving to things they agree with and withholding funding
00:08:40.960 from things they disagree with.
00:08:42.160 Like, why wouldn't everyone do that?
00:08:43.360 So Bill Ackman is in a total, you know, he's very upset about what Harvard is doing to
00:08:48.420 people who are pro-Israel who go there.
00:08:50.140 And again, I totally support that.
00:08:52.840 But you have to sort of wonder, like, where, okay, so because he cares about this issue.
00:08:56.620 Great.
00:08:58.600 But what about people who are Christians?
00:09:00.760 Like, try being, like, a Bible-believing Christian at Harvard.
00:09:04.900 How would you get treated?
00:09:05.620 No, seriously.
00:09:06.220 How would you get treated?
00:09:06.960 Not that there are any, because they're not allowed there, actually.
00:09:09.840 And a lot of us have ancestors who, like, helped build Harvard, actually.
00:09:13.380 Or who went there.
00:09:14.220 Or Yale or Princeton or any of them.
00:09:16.400 The fabled Wharton School.
00:09:17.960 And they all take it as just, like, well, it's just kind of part of the course.
00:09:22.580 Yeah, of course you can't, like, talk about the Bible or express views that reflect what's
00:09:27.560 written in the Bible, because then you're, like, a freak, and you just sort of put up
00:09:30.660 with it.
00:09:30.900 Well, I've got to go to some other school.
00:09:33.620 And so everyone winds up at Hillsdale, which I strongly support, because I love Hillsdale.
00:09:37.220 No, I do.
00:09:38.900 I talked to Larry Arnn yesterday.
00:09:42.300 But you do sort of wonder, and I think Hillsdale is thriving and will continue to thrive.
00:09:47.680 Amen.
00:09:48.920 Some of my smartest people I've ever hired came from Hillsdale.
00:09:52.960 But you sort of wonder, like, what happened to every other school, like the ones your
00:09:55.660 grandparents went to?
00:09:57.660 Well, you're not welcome.
00:09:58.900 Your kids are definitely not welcome there if they're out of step with the prevailing view,
00:10:02.680 which is very different from the view of the people who founded it, who may or may not
00:10:05.780 be your ancestors, but it doesn't matter.
00:10:07.020 They were Americans.
00:10:08.760 And, like, conservative Christians are not welcome, and nobody says anything about it.
00:10:13.260 So I guess my point is not to attack Bill Ackman.
00:10:16.680 It's to say, you go, Bill Ackman.
00:10:18.040 I want to be a little bit more like you as I resist what's happening to people who share
00:10:23.440 my beliefs or my own children.
00:10:25.720 And that kind of is the problem, is that people with our views, and particularly Christians,
00:10:31.720 I will say, are passive.
00:10:34.080 Now, I actually believe in the Christian nonviolence stuff.
00:10:37.320 I believe in self-defense completely and would exercise it unhesitatingly and sleep like an
00:10:42.520 animal afterward.
00:10:43.620 So I'm not in any way, and I'm a gun lunatic, so obviously I feel that way, but I don't think
00:10:51.020 Christians should be celebrating violence.
00:10:53.480 I mean, it's all over the Bible.
00:10:55.520 Don't do that.
00:10:56.580 In the Old Testament, too, which is incredibly violent, David committed a lot of violence,
00:11:01.900 and he felt really bad about it and asked God for forgiveness for it.
00:11:04.960 It's all over the Psalms.
00:11:05.520 I was just reading it yesterday.
00:11:07.220 So, like, we shouldn't be enthusiastic about killing people.
00:11:10.600 I'm sorry.
00:11:11.160 That's just not part of Christianity.
00:11:12.540 It's not the cluster bomb religion.
00:11:14.420 Sorry, guys.
00:11:15.860 Despite what they tell you on the Hill.
00:11:17.660 It's just not.
00:11:18.940 Maybe use cluster bombs because you have no choice, but you're not acting as an evangelical
00:11:27.660 when you do that.
00:11:30.080 You're a violence worshiper, and that's, like, one of the oldest forms of sin.
00:11:32.760 So anyway, the point I'm saying is I don't think Christians should ever be violent, ever,
00:11:37.380 unless they're forced to, to defend themselves and their families.
00:11:40.460 But I don't think that they should be wusses.
00:11:43.820 And I don't think that they should say, well, you know, everyone hates us.
00:11:46.980 How about take the Bill Ackman approaches?
00:11:48.640 We're not putting up with that for one freaking second.
00:11:51.540 How about zero tolerance for that?
00:11:53.760 Like, no.
00:11:54.380 I was born here.
00:11:56.600 I'm not putting up with that.
00:11:57.660 No, you can't humiliate me.
00:11:58.760 You can't tell my children that they're evil because of the way they look.
00:12:02.020 You can't try to convince my children to adopt, you know, sexual practices that result in
00:12:06.700 no grandchildren for me.
00:12:09.360 That's the end of my family.
00:12:11.700 People don't think that was the end of my family.
00:12:13.540 I met the Shillings today, like one-third of the entire family.
00:12:19.840 Oh, it made me emotional.
00:12:21.200 First of all, it's like the world's most handsome family ever.
00:12:23.480 It's overwhelming.
00:12:24.500 I said, Terry, what happens when you go into restaurants?
00:12:26.880 He's like, they're afraid, but we tip, so it's cool.
00:12:30.300 I had the opposite experience.
00:12:32.020 I was just like, oh, this is just, this is what abundance is.
00:12:35.760 And they're trying to end that.
00:12:38.440 They're trying to end that.
00:12:39.300 So, in other words, they're trying to take everything from you of value, and not through
00:12:44.640 higher capital gains taxes, but through extinction, which is a little worse.
00:12:49.560 No offense to you policy guys.
00:12:52.480 And so, how do you respond?
00:12:54.100 So, really quick, I want to go right to the, before I get so radical that I get arrested,
00:12:57.980 but I, yeah, yeah, baby.
00:13:03.260 I just want to, just a couple of things, some of them are sort of inchoate, but that I've
00:13:12.600 been thinking about, about how to respond to all this.
00:13:15.840 And I spent 35 years in Washington.
00:13:17.880 I got here in, you know, mid-high school and left at 50.
00:13:21.240 And so, I'm, you know, not an expert in D.C., but I've certainly watched it closely, and
00:13:25.300 I've watched the whole non-profit constellation, of which I have been a part.
00:13:27.860 My first job was at Heritage.
00:13:28.900 You know, my politics have been rough.
00:13:30.920 I've always been on the right, never had one of those liberal phases.
00:13:33.620 If you have a heart, you're a little, no, actually.
00:13:36.260 If you're cruel, you're a liberal, because you can justify hurting people by claiming
00:13:41.560 it's compassion.
00:13:42.640 So, I've never been a liberal.
00:13:43.900 But I've watched the whole thing, and I, one of my conclusions is, and I mean no disrespect,
00:13:47.360 is that we might emphasize a little bit too much legislative change and winning elections.
00:13:51.920 And the only reason I say that, I think elections are super important, and occasionally I get
00:13:54.860 whipped into a frenzy and, like, try to help somebody.
00:13:56.800 It always doesn't work, because I should not be around politics at all, obviously.
00:14:01.620 But I'm totally for that, and those are levers of power, and good people should use them to
00:14:06.400 the benefit of their children if they can.
00:14:08.300 But that is hardly the most important thing you can do.
00:14:11.700 The most important thing you can do, by far, is become strong.
00:14:14.760 It's by far the most important thing.
00:14:17.120 And especially now, because Terry alluded to this, and I won't go into detail, because
00:14:20.860 everybody here knows, but, like, we are entering a period.
00:14:23.600 And there's just absolutely no chance that this country will be the same country a year
00:14:28.280 from today.
00:14:29.220 There's just not a chance of that.
00:14:30.440 December 7th, 2024, a lot of things will be different, and one hopes they'll be better,
00:14:35.820 some will not be better.
00:14:36.680 But it will be definitely different.
00:14:38.160 Like, bet on that.
00:14:39.540 So, how do you deal with that?
00:14:41.640 You know, there's only one election between now and then.
00:14:44.000 Its outcome can't be controlled by any single person in this room, or even the room collectively.
00:14:48.820 That is literally beyond our control.
00:14:49.980 It doesn't mean we can't do our best.
00:14:51.040 What is in control is how we behave and live, and that's the most important thing.
00:14:55.480 And so, again, gird your loins.
00:14:58.140 Prepare yourself.
00:14:59.020 If you thought you had to run an Iron Man a year from now, you'd probably stop eating
00:15:02.740 fig donkeys.
00:15:03.540 You just would.
00:15:05.060 I mean, I wouldn't, which is why I would never make it.
00:15:09.320 But so, what does that look like?
00:15:10.700 Well, the first thing, the first way to become strong, I believe, and I mean in your soul,
00:15:16.040 not in your body, though I think that's worthwhile, too, is to tell the truth.
00:15:18.820 That is the fastest way to become strong.
00:15:22.580 It is an observable phenomenon that you will experience if you do it.
00:15:28.920 It clearly has supernatural roots, in my opinion.
00:15:32.460 Words are the most powerful and enduring thing, far more than cluster bombs.
00:15:36.320 Words endure for millennia.
00:15:39.180 Weapons don't.
00:15:40.900 So, if you say something true, that has a greater effect.
00:15:43.480 And I think Terry or someone else, wise, maybe it was Brent, said that tonight.
00:15:47.300 The words are the most important thing.
00:15:49.500 Telling the truth out loud is the most important thing you can do.
00:15:53.300 Even though it seems like you're shouting into the wind so often, if you're wondering if that
00:15:59.580 is true, reverse engineer it and ask yourself, what's the one thing that they don't want me
00:16:04.460 to do?
00:16:05.380 What's the one thing the founders decided I had an absolute right to do first on the list?
00:16:09.780 And that's, of course, to speak what you think is true.
00:16:12.060 And if you do that, you will find yourself becoming bolder and stronger and harder to
00:16:18.940 knock down.
00:16:19.660 And I mean real truth, actual truth, not simply in your public life.
00:16:25.320 I mean, by the way, I'm not calling for confrontation.
00:16:27.040 I think it's awful because I'm the recipient very often of, like, hassling people in restaurants
00:16:30.500 or, you know what I mean?
00:16:32.040 You see, you know, Chuck Schumer on a subway platform and scream at him.
00:16:35.460 That's not the truth.
00:16:37.000 That's rude.
00:16:38.020 Don't ever be rude.
00:16:39.780 It's counterproductive and bad for you.
00:16:42.060 Obviously, I mean telling the truth in a way that is courageous and doing it, again,
00:16:49.300 not simply in public but in private.
00:16:52.400 I think part of the key is to, honestly, if I'm being honest, become a better person.
00:16:57.960 Like, that's what you need.
00:16:59.020 And I'm not accusing anyone of being a bad person.
00:17:00.540 I'll say that I am.
00:17:02.000 And so this is something that I think about quite a bit in my own life.
00:17:04.940 If you want to be strong, live a life that you are not ashamed of.
00:17:09.920 Be more virtuous.
00:17:13.100 That's actually true.
00:17:14.520 I think that actually works.
00:17:15.880 Every time you do something that you know is wrong, you become weaker.
00:17:20.900 Not just vulnerable to blackmail, but weaker inside.
00:17:25.920 Live decently.
00:17:28.160 And if you resolve to do that, and it's not complicated.
00:17:31.760 Everybody knows what that entails.
00:17:34.860 I mean, there's no magic formula.
00:17:36.320 You know when you're doing it.
00:17:37.540 And when you're doing it, people can feel it.
00:17:40.880 They feel it coming off you.
00:17:42.360 You're not someone to mess with.
00:17:43.780 It's like, you know, you read these talk people who've been to prison or whatever.
00:17:46.560 And there are some people in prison who get hassled immediately and sold for a pack of cigarettes
00:17:49.940 on the yard.
00:17:52.180 And there are other people that nobody messes with.
00:17:53.760 And it's not simply a matter of your bulk.
00:17:55.700 It's a matter of your vibe.
00:17:57.720 And if you are a truth teller, people can feel it.
00:18:00.160 And they listen to you.
00:18:01.460 And they mess with you far less.
00:18:03.460 Okay?
00:18:03.620 That's the first thing.
00:18:05.220 The second thing is, remember where your strength lies.
00:18:09.820 Okay?
00:18:10.720 And that's in, well, it's in God.
00:18:12.980 But in this world, it's in the people around you.
00:18:15.680 It's in your family.
00:18:16.380 I have to say, Riley Gaines came to visit us in Maine last summer or two summers ago
00:18:21.580 or whatever.
00:18:21.980 And we always have people coming up who are like in the heart of some controversy.
00:18:24.460 And I really hate interviewing college students because it's what we call on television stunt
00:18:29.000 casting.
00:18:29.500 It's like someone who's in the news.
00:18:31.060 And, you know, we should interview this person.
00:18:33.400 They never have anything to say.
00:18:34.420 And it's all fake.
00:18:35.280 And they're reading talking points or whatever.
00:18:36.800 So Riley Gaines shows up.
00:18:37.680 And I'm like, whoa.
00:18:39.100 This chick is totally for real.
00:18:41.600 She really means it.
00:18:42.700 And she's completely unafraid.
00:18:44.140 And that's such a rare thing at a person that age.
00:18:47.500 It's much easier when you have no mortgage and your kids are out of the house.
00:18:50.280 It's like, what are you going to do to me now?
00:18:51.860 You know, I really don't care.
00:18:54.400 That's my morning catechism.
00:18:56.080 But Riley Gaines is at the beginning of her life.
00:18:58.400 And I'm like, what is it about you?
00:19:00.420 And then I found out Riley Gaines is married.
00:19:03.540 And that's the first thing I said when I started her tonight.
00:19:05.460 I wanted to meet your husband.
00:19:06.500 And why is that interesting?
00:19:07.840 I mean, everyone's married, right?
00:19:08.940 In our world, actually, no one outside this room is married anymore.
00:19:10.960 But young people don't get married at that age.
00:19:14.180 And I thought that was so unusual.
00:19:15.280 I never forgot that.
00:19:16.020 I called my wife.
00:19:16.860 I said, you love this chick.
00:19:18.020 She's married.
00:19:19.360 We get married at 22.
00:19:22.160 And the reason that's significant, first of all, it's good for a whole bunch of other reasons.
00:19:26.300 But it makes you so much stronger to have a teammate, to have that core at home.
00:19:33.520 I literally couldn't, I'd be terrified if I didn't have my wife.
00:19:38.200 Not that she's going to, like, protect me in a fistfight or something.
00:19:40.400 She's like 110 pounds.
00:19:42.400 But because when I go home, I know there's one other person who understands me completely and is on my side totally and forever.
00:19:50.040 And that assurance right there will allow you to walk right through a wall.
00:19:55.560 And I do think that's one of the reasons that Riley Gaines had this vibe like, no, I'm not joking.
00:20:05.440 No, I'm not reading talking points that some foundation gave me.
00:20:07.840 I really mean it.
00:20:08.860 You can't intimidate me, congressperson, whatever your name is.
00:20:12.060 So, focus on your spouse and on your children and on your employees and on your parents and your siblings and your cousins and the people in the immediate orbit around you.
00:20:25.860 The people who are put there by God for you to serve and commune with.
00:20:29.720 It's not an accident you find yourself coming into contact with people.
00:20:32.920 Nothing is ever an accident, in my view.
00:20:35.460 And those are the people from whom you draw strength and who get it from you.
00:20:39.460 And if you focus on that first, you will become immensely stronger, immensely stronger.
00:20:46.460 And the third thing I would say is to, as Terry, I thought, wisely said, stay cheerful.
00:20:53.060 Stay cheerful.
00:20:53.820 I actually think that's like a command.
00:20:56.660 I think that's important in all circumstances, especially when it's fake.
00:21:01.340 I really believe in faking it.
00:21:03.480 I do.
00:21:04.740 I've given this lecture to my children many times.
00:21:06.700 You know, because I was saying, you know, don't lie, be authentic, and always pretend to be happy.
00:21:13.100 And they're not stupid.
00:21:14.220 And some of them caught the internal contradiction there.
00:21:16.240 Wait a second!
00:21:17.740 Don't lie, but lie about being cheerful?
00:21:20.200 Yeah, do that.
00:21:21.180 It's like a Zen cone.
00:21:22.500 It doesn't make sense right at first, but meditate on that and you'll get it.
00:21:25.700 Oh!
00:21:28.100 But it's still true.
00:21:29.640 I don't care if it doesn't make logical sense.
00:21:32.120 It's still true.
00:21:33.200 And there are a couple reasons for this.
00:21:36.080 The most obvious is, if you pretend to be cheerful, guess what happens after a while?
00:21:42.400 You hear your own voice.
00:21:44.660 And you convince yourself to be cheerful.
00:21:47.860 The second thing you do is you elevate the spirits of everyone around you.
00:21:52.100 And by the way, you don't bore them, because there's nothing more tiresome than listening to someone complain about himself.
00:21:55.920 Oh, really?
00:21:56.840 You're the only person ever to be sick or bankrupt or fired?
00:21:59.600 I don't think so.
00:22:00.520 You go, stop!
00:22:02.120 You're not special!
00:22:06.760 But it gives the people around you heart.
00:22:10.360 I saw two family members die this summer.
00:22:12.720 And close family members are very, you know, of course, it's incredibly sad.
00:22:15.740 But I will say, and there are older people who come from a different time, both women.
00:22:19.600 And I would say the thing that distinguished both of them in the end, and I was there, was that both of them, both of them maintained their dignity.
00:22:27.980 And I mean to their last breath.
00:22:30.060 To their last breath.
00:22:31.800 They just were not going to be undignified.
00:22:33.660 They were never going to complain.
00:22:34.620 It didn't matter what happened.
00:22:35.860 They were always going to force a smile, look you straight in the eye, even when their eyes were cloudy.
00:22:41.200 And it had such a remarkable, I saw one of them right before death, looking straight in the eye, and was just unbowed by the whole thing.
00:22:48.800 Both were believers.
00:22:50.240 And I think that's where their strength came from.
00:22:52.220 But the effect on me, seeing someone facing something like that, which I don't care how deep your religious faith is.
00:22:57.320 Mother Teresa was afraid to die.
00:22:58.760 Everybody's afraid to die at some point, on some level.
00:23:02.320 Watching that filled me with courage and strength.
00:23:07.820 And left their dignity intact in the toughest, I mean, everyone here, most older people here have seen what I'm talking about, in the toughest possible circumstances.
00:23:15.980 You could retain that in that moment.
00:23:18.740 And it was, honestly, an act of will and a gift from God.
00:23:25.980 And I think we should maintain that at all times.
00:23:28.560 There is nothing worse than hearing someone bitch and complain.
00:23:31.500 I just can't deal with it.
00:23:34.180 I mean, I grew up in an affluent family in an affluent world, but my father was, you know, raised in an orphanage, and his legs are bent from rickets.
00:23:41.020 And you know what I mean?
00:23:41.800 He was like one of these guys.
00:23:43.620 My brother and I were having breakfast one morning in the town we grew up in in California called La Jolla.
00:23:48.740 Hot climate.
00:23:49.540 There's always bugs in all the, yeah, it's lovely, decadent, creepy also, but whatever, lovely.
00:23:56.360 And don't get me going on why money is bad for people, but I have a PhD in that, but, and we lived just with my dad or some three of us, we ate breakfast cereal like three meals a day.
00:24:05.060 And I remember one time, maybe it was dinner, we were eating breakfast cereal, Cap'n Crunch, of course, and my brother goes, Pop, to my dad, Pop, there are bugs floating in my cereal.
00:24:13.760 My father's like, you know, gave us the rich kid lecture.
00:24:16.960 They always, oh, kids in La Jolla, like you're imagining bugs in your cereal.
00:24:20.220 Just eat your cereal.
00:24:20.900 And my brother's like, no, they're actually, they're bugs in the cereal.
00:24:23.720 And he holds it over to my father and all these little bugs floating around in the milk.
00:24:27.180 And my father was like a dare.
00:24:28.680 My father was like, bugs.
00:24:30.540 And he ate the whole thing looking at us like that.
00:24:34.880 They're good.
00:24:35.820 Yeah, the bugs.
00:24:36.920 Oh, I'm so afraid of bugs.
00:24:38.160 I won't even eat bugs.
00:24:39.920 Eat your bugs.
00:24:43.800 He was the only person in La Jolla who had those attitudes.
00:24:45.800 Anyway, that's a true story, I promise you.
00:24:50.420 But anyway, it's not just that it's tiresome to complain.
00:24:54.900 It's that people who are winning don't whine.
00:24:59.860 Who is in a good mood?
00:25:01.360 People who have succeeded or who know that they're right or who know that they have some great reward
00:25:07.080 awaiting them, whether they live or die.
00:25:09.740 That's their posture.
00:25:11.860 And so you have an obligation, in my opinion, an obligation to assume that posture of cheerfulness
00:25:18.100 and lightness.
00:25:20.640 You're not weighed down by it.
00:25:22.120 Yeah, everything's falling apart.
00:25:23.020 Is there going to be an economic collapse?
00:25:24.100 Oh, yeah.
00:25:25.320 Could we have a nuclear war?
00:25:27.140 Possible.
00:25:28.220 We have tens of millions of military-aged men wandering around the country.
00:25:31.660 Are they some kind of foreign army?
00:25:32.940 Probably.
00:25:33.300 Are they coming to my house?
00:25:36.420 Totally possible.
00:25:40.820 Am I concerned?
00:25:42.040 Yeah.
00:25:42.600 Am I panicked?
00:25:43.800 Never under any circumstances.
00:25:46.420 I'm riding this ship to the bottom.
00:25:48.220 Not only am I going to get the brass band to play a song, I'm going to dance to it.
00:25:51.440 That's what people who are strong look like.
00:26:04.180 Really strong.
00:26:06.260 Not just all these weird supplements strong.
00:26:11.660 But strong inside where it matters.
00:26:14.020 And if that vibe comes off you, nobody can stop you.
00:26:19.160 And you will scare the crap out of the other side.
00:26:22.740 Because they are weak.
00:26:24.400 And one of the reasons you know they're weak and dying inside in an agony, one of the things
00:26:29.320 we forget about evil, it doesn't just destroy people, it destroys the conduit through which
00:26:33.040 it flows.
00:26:33.500 It destroys the person who conducts it every time.
00:26:39.180 Because it's a purely destructive force.
00:26:42.200 Evil, it is binary, actually.
00:26:43.900 Sorry.
00:26:44.720 It's constructive, destructive.
00:26:47.700 You build, you tear down.
00:26:49.360 There are only two categories.
00:26:50.680 I assess everything through that lens.
00:26:52.400 Okay?
00:26:52.540 And the destructive category, which is reigning supreme on the earth right now, in every area,
00:26:59.560 not just of our lives, but of global affairs, is purely destructive.
00:27:02.580 And the people who are its servants are themselves being destroyed.
00:27:08.380 That's just totally real.
00:27:10.600 And one of the reasons you know they're weak is that they will never apologize for anything.
00:27:15.820 And they will never admit fault.
00:27:19.140 And that's just the tell right there.
00:27:20.740 Like, the one thing every monotheistic religion has in common is you begin with,
00:27:25.740 ugh, I'm not God.
00:27:27.300 I'm sorry.
00:27:27.720 I pretended I was.
00:27:29.500 That's also, by the way, the first thing you do in AA.
00:27:31.700 Where in any program or theology that uplifts people or gives you any chance of becoming
00:27:37.620 fully human and knowing God, the first step is admitting you're not him and that you are
00:27:41.400 in need of help.
00:27:43.080 Number one.
00:27:44.360 So if you find people who are unwilling to admit what they've done wrong under any circumstances,
00:27:49.000 you're looking at people who are serving the other team, no question about it, and you're
00:27:53.980 looking at people who are being destroyed by their service to the other team, and they're
00:27:57.200 terrified.
00:27:57.780 And you can see it in their eyes.
00:27:58.780 They're afraid.
00:28:00.840 I interviewed a congressman the other day, and Thomas Massey from Kentucky is one of my
00:28:04.480 all-time favorite members of Congress, and he's such a math geek that he doesn't even
00:28:07.620 realize, I think, that a lot of things he says are controversial.
00:28:11.000 He's like, oh, two plus two is four.
00:28:14.380 It just is.
00:28:15.200 And people are like, shut up, Thomas Massey, you bigot.
00:28:18.520 Huh?
00:28:19.560 Anyway.
00:28:20.740 So we're having, I love that guy.
00:28:22.360 But anyway, we're having this conversation, and he's like, yeah, I was at a classified
00:28:24.820 briefing the other day with Toria Nuland, and she said, I was like, whoa, whoa, whoa,
00:28:27.980 whoa, whoa.
00:28:28.740 Toria Nuland is giving classified briefings to Congress?
00:28:31.160 I last saw Toria Nuland in, say, 2002, when she was in Dick Cheney's office.
00:28:34.860 And at the time, she's the person that she is now, no interest in the United States of
00:28:41.560 America.
00:28:41.840 In fact, a very obvious latent hostility to the United States, no interest at all in this
00:28:45.780 country.
00:28:47.220 And she is the, I don't know, she's the originator of every bad idea, but she's certainly one
00:28:53.320 of the architects of something that really hurt the country.
00:28:55.460 Now, trust me, you know, I've gotten behind all kinds of bad ideas, but the different,
00:29:00.160 and I hope I've admitted every single one and repented for it.
00:29:02.640 But Toria Nuland, like everybody else, she's just one example, in this city, they wreck
00:29:08.520 something, they get promoted, and they move on to the next thing.
00:29:13.100 Now, I would hire, and I have hired, a bunch of convicted felons, because I like redemption
00:29:18.520 stories.
00:29:19.140 Once was lost, now was found.
00:29:20.360 I mean that, too.
00:29:21.240 There's nothing, in fact, I like more.
00:29:23.460 As a former drinker who's been sober 21 years, I love that.
00:29:27.340 But I'm telling you, the one group I would never hire or allow in my house is the
00:29:32.560 person who commits a crime and never admits it, because that person is scary, damaged,
00:29:37.720 also very boring, because everything that person says is about hiding the lie.
00:29:43.260 Don't want to deal with that.
00:29:44.600 That's the entire U.S. government right now.
00:29:48.500 So I'll just end on this, and then I'll take your hostile questions.
00:29:52.000 If you want to survive this moment and protect what you have and have even a possibility of
00:30:01.200 making this country and the world better, you can do a lot.
00:30:06.120 You can achieve that, I think.
00:30:07.680 And you do it by telling the truth in a way that's completely unashamed at every possible
00:30:13.480 opportunity in a gentle, polite, thoughtful, compassionate, maybe even empathetic way to
00:30:19.780 the people around you, but without ever stopping, without ever being embarrassed for a minute,
00:30:25.580 without ever not smiling, without a single scowl or any hostility.
00:30:31.180 Nope, that's not true.
00:30:32.020 The Riley Gaines method.
00:30:33.040 Nope, that's just not true.
00:30:34.680 And you'll never make me say that it's true.
00:30:37.660 And, oh, you want to kill me now?
00:30:39.060 Totally fine.
00:30:41.200 Totally fine.
00:30:41.820 You're marching me out to the gallows.
00:30:43.360 I am not going to say that men can become women by wishing it so, because that's a lie.
00:30:48.900 It won't take many people to adopt that position before the entire system comes crumbling down,
00:30:56.080 because it's built on lies.
00:30:59.260 And not just lies that are politically expedient or in some way make the people who tell them richer.
00:31:08.620 That's like one of the dumbest analyses ever.
00:31:11.160 Oh, everyone who's lying is doing so because they're making money.
00:31:13.880 Yeah, a lot of people are making money on scams.
00:31:16.180 Well, everything is a scam at this point.
00:31:17.860 But that's not why they're doing it.
00:31:19.580 They're telling lies for their own sake.
00:31:22.720 For the pure animal thrill of lying.
00:31:27.240 And that's how you know what it is.
00:31:28.900 And the kryptonite that stops it is the truth.
00:31:35.580 Right in their face.
00:31:37.040 Every freaking time.
00:31:39.820 And you'll survive.
00:31:41.040 Anyway, thank you.
00:31:41.880 And I will take your questions.
00:31:42.740 Thank you.
00:31:43.240 Thank you.
00:32:05.420 Thank you.
00:32:05.640 this man has a hostile one why are you wearing khaki trousers at a black tie event okay i'll
00:32:20.100 admit it yeah just a short question oh dave hey how you doing good to see you brother
00:32:26.480 hey uh do you like melania do i like oh i was like i was like gelato flavor uh you mean the
00:32:35.080 former first lady of course yeah i like her i don't know her really i've met her a couple of
00:32:39.400 times i mean her counsel this week about you'd be an excellent vp okay
00:32:46.620 i mean i'm quite well suited to politics as you can see
00:32:55.200 i'm sorry i know there are politicians here i just can't help it and i know you're not none of you
00:33:01.440 are in this category but i just hate anyone who wants power i just think it's a super ugly thing
00:33:05.620 to want and increasingly as i get older i hate anyone who wants too much money too i think i
00:33:10.860 think greed i think greed's a category sorry i think that remember that when they were like oh you know
00:33:15.900 you're not allowed to say greed is real what do you mean it's not real it's totally real i don't have
00:33:19.820 greed i do have gluttony so but whatever it's all kind of i think you'd be great well thank you i i
00:33:28.140 don't i mean i don't know if it's on camera or not but i god would have to yell at me very loud
00:33:35.660 to do that like i mean you know i mean my four kids are gone and i live the most idyllic life
00:33:44.580 you know with my wife and her many dogs and in nature and everything and i just the idea of being
00:33:50.040 around politicians no no offense and by the way i support your congressional victory but um
00:33:54.380 it's so repulsive to me they're so awful not all of them i mean i just i was a huge fan of yours and
00:34:04.820 massey and there are a couple others i really like um and i have family members work in politics and
00:34:10.220 all that i'm not it's but but most of them are just the worst so sleazy and the other thing i will
00:34:16.040 say about it is it's a hall of mirrors everyone's got like nine different motives but only declaring
00:34:21.660 one it's like what is even going on everything's some weird bank shot trying to manipulate this
00:34:26.360 person to get that and it's like that's exactly the environment i detest i wouldn't have a single
00:34:32.360 person like that in my life not one person every person you know i don't in washington intelligence
00:34:37.320 is considered a moral category in my life it's not like i think my dogs are fine people and i mean that
00:34:42.240 and they're not geniuses by human standards probably you know probably go to like elon not columbia
00:34:49.360 you know what i mean um so it's not like a matter of cleverness who's smart or not
00:34:56.540 it's who's straightforward if you have to question a person's motive for a single second i don't want
00:35:02.560 to have dinner with you in fact i won't i can't even deal with it and politics is like every creepy
00:35:09.320 weird sexually ambiguous high school class president comes to the same city and then starts attacking each
00:35:15.800 other no no you know what i mean yeah you serve there talk about weird personal lives holy smokes
00:35:29.860 and it's totally and i'm coming out of a lifetime in television where people have like you know i was
00:35:36.400 polygamous or whatever it's pretty dark but it's nothing compared to the congress oh my gosh
00:35:41.400 and it's not even fun you know it doesn't even look that fun anyway so to answer your question
00:35:47.800 excuse me well i would never look i i have no interest in that i'll just be totally clear i've
00:35:54.900 no interest i've no interest in that i've never been in politics the other thing i i really believe in
00:35:58.540 if you know anyone who works for me i only give one lecture which is stay in your freaking lane
00:36:03.840 and i really believe that stay in your freaking lane and that is a theological point for me as well as
00:36:10.000 a matter of observed reality i don't think you can be whatever you want to be i think that's like
00:36:14.040 the most ridiculous lie ever it's some post-war fantasy that comes out of the gi bill
00:36:17.620 like so many bad things and that's just not true i believe in human nature which is immutable
00:36:23.880 it never changes and if you're interested in reading books from 2 000 years ago you will see
00:36:28.620 people are motivated by the same they're the same people they're just like babylonian but they're
00:36:32.940 recognizably people because that people don't change and so that's what i believe and i believe
00:36:38.800 every person is made with strengths and weaknesses skills and deficits and i certainly see it in my
00:36:46.380 life there are some things i'm really good at and some things i can't do at all parallel park do my
00:36:50.100 taxes like i wouldn't even attempt either one of those things you know i'm dyslexic and or whatever so
00:36:55.920 do the thing that you were made to do and when you do that you'll be happy you'll probably make some
00:37:01.820 money doing it because high skill tends to produce in this country success but the last thing you should
00:37:07.740 ever do is decide because you're good in one thing you'd be good in another but what i really
00:37:12.720 want to do is direct said the girl who wins best actress no act you're good at it you know what i
00:37:17.500 mean lebron james just bounce your little ball or whatever stop telling me about the vax you know
00:37:22.840 like stay in your freaking lane and so the idea of going from pun god i'm i'm out of control and i know
00:37:29.980 that i know that i know that um but the idea of going from my job which is like say whatever you
00:37:37.160 want especially now since i have i'm unemployed you know it's like awesome uh but to go from being
00:37:44.820 like a well-paid street corner schizophrenic to like a politician like just kind of hard to envision
00:37:51.160 you know last question oh make it a good one well this is a tactical question for you since
00:38:02.420 you've talked so much about truth first of all hold on let me get his in okay sorry sorry sorry
00:38:07.300 no no no no no but now that we're getting into tactics i'm going to need some chemical assistance
00:38:11.780 okay it's not a sin zin is not a sin i'm just saying i already told you i'm not a theologian i'm
00:38:16.580 going to pronounce it anyway okay okay ready well first of all thank you terry so much for your
00:38:20.920 leadership so grateful um so i'm a mom of five kids uh and we're actually i went to uc san diego
00:38:28.660 in la jolla we moved here from california about four years ago we went into the fairfax county
00:38:34.100 public schools because we were told when we moved here that fairfax county was the best schools that
00:38:38.660 you could be in so coming from california trust me it was actually a little bit better that being said
00:38:44.860 um covid really opened our eyes to the curriculum right and so like many parents we moved our kids
00:38:50.840 to a private catholic school in mcclain and um what's happened is the schools are still failing
00:38:57.560 our kids the education is not very good and when you question you're you're kind of stuck because
00:39:04.780 the same teachers that are not being held accountable are the ones who give your kids the
00:39:10.940 recommendation on the next school that they will go to well i know how it works right so you have
00:39:15.820 like my kid who was a superstar in math ended up failing her grade on the on the state uh test last
00:39:25.100 year she in fifth grade she was on trend to be in honors math she wanted to be an architect sixth grade
00:39:32.340 she failed her class i had to spend the entire summer tutoring her through math class we were debating
00:39:38.240 whether or not we were to put our kids out of catholic schools to homeschool them and so now
00:39:44.000 i'm just thinking like what do we do if i go back to the school and say i want to hold you accountable
00:39:49.920 the recommendation i'm going to get from my kids to get to another private school is going to be
00:39:53.600 terrible so the tactical question is what do you do you have the public school system that wants to
00:39:57.840 mask your kids uh enforce the vaccines uh keep them out of the schools indoctrinate them and then i have
00:40:03.520 the catholic school who's basically not holding their teachers accountable what is the answer how
00:40:08.400 do you hold this establishment the elitist of the education system accountable for what they're doing
00:40:13.520 to our kids it's such a great question it's the obsession of every parent with kids at home and i just
00:40:18.880 have the true blessing of having missed a lot of it my our youngest is 21 our fourth child is 21
00:40:27.440 our oldest is 29 so they you know it was bad but it wasn't like now we're going to destroy your kids lives
00:40:33.920 which is where you know where it is especially in the private schools and i'll just be honest we
00:40:38.000 send our kids we literally send our kids all our kids the same high school that we went to my wife
00:40:42.720 and i so you know i'll be honest we didn't really think about it that much because we you know we
00:40:49.280 were we educated our kids the same way we were educated the same way our parents our grandparents
00:40:52.560 educated it's like we just followed a template that we're only now in midlife realizing was like insane
00:40:58.480 and and we're just so grateful that all four of our kids turned out as well as they did and they're
00:41:03.760 as close to each other and to us as they are but it could have ended very very differently and so
00:41:07.920 i think the first thing is knowing you clearly already do know that this matters really more than
00:41:13.600 anything with a child not simply because of the material they'll learn or not learn but because
00:41:18.000 they're molded as people by their peers in these schools away from your attention all day long
00:41:23.120 um and we just didn't really fully understand the stakes of that at the time again because of the
00:41:28.960 circumstance we were in just like repeating the same formula that had been applied to us as children
00:41:33.520 um so i would just remember that the recommendations of other parents mean nothing
00:41:39.040 because 90 of the parents in the affluent zip codes i've lived my whole life in care mostly about
00:41:44.720 prestige doesn't mean they're bad people but they're trained to care about the brand name oh
00:41:49.520 my daughter goes to ncs you know or sidwell are you serious you freak you literally sent your kid
00:41:57.600 to sidwell friends no come on now you're joking i'd rather send my kid to like work in the carnival
00:42:05.600 i'm serious go be a carny i'll see you next spring when it rolls through town like the outcome is better
00:42:13.840 than sending him to some place like national cathedral school or and that in the world i lived in almost
00:42:18.720 like a hundred percent of that and so you know other parents are not a lot not because they're
00:42:26.640 bad people who don't love their kids but because they don't get they're not thoughtful and they're
00:42:31.360 the way that schools are set up in the united states particularly private schools and colleges
00:42:36.800 it's the it's a prestige system it doesn't no one even knows what happens at princeton and nobody
00:42:42.400 even cares if little dylan gets into princeton that's a massive win
00:42:45.200 and if little dylan like becomes a you know complete self-hating freak or trans or something
00:42:51.840 at princeton at least he went to princeton then you can tell your friends i mean that is literally
00:42:55.680 the attitude among good people who love their children they're not evil at all they're just
00:43:01.440 thoughtless and shallow like most people and my feeling is especially now that i've reflected on it
00:43:06.880 i've already told you that i was thoughtless and shallow just like oh you know we went to boarding
00:43:10.320 school you're going too that's not a good route that's not a good reason and my children are so
00:43:14.960 nice to me that they never throw it at me or not very often occasionally there's too much wine that
00:43:20.560 it does come up but um but be thoughtful and i think it's really simple like your kids are your treasure
00:43:30.640 the most important act of creation you'll ever commit is having a child is reproducing
00:43:35.520 and the most sacred duty you will ever have is to protect and guide that child through childhood
00:43:40.480 and everyone knows that of course that's not a controversial statement but how many feel it
00:43:45.760 and now i think more feel it because the the stakes are obviously so so high and the perils are so
00:43:50.560 out in the open now so out in the open get molested in the bathroom and fairfax county and
00:43:55.920 then you know you get arrested for for saying something about anyway last thing i'll say is
00:44:00.880 here's what i don't understand why don't parents get together i don't know what a catholic school
00:44:06.000 tuition in fairfax county is but you know it's a lot per kid and certainly private schools a lot
00:44:11.840 why don't they get together like like three like-minded families and just hire a tutor
00:44:16.800 and teach all the kids i don't understand that i mean homeschooling is obviously the best they went
00:44:22.720 all the spelling bees that's all i need to know and schools are terrible homeschooling the reason we
00:44:29.840 never did is we didn't have time and but we if we had taken the tuition that we spent on saint
00:44:35.920 patrick's episcopal day school in washington dc probably the worst school in this country
00:44:40.800 all four of my kids went there if we taken the money we spent i worked a second job to pay for
00:44:45.360 that i hosted a morning show oh try that for four years okay um to pay for that if we'd taken that
00:44:52.720 money and just said we're gonna hire like three bright kids just out of college to you know
00:44:58.560 i don't know read the iliad aloud or whatever i'm serious it's like how about read the bible
00:45:05.120 we would have been so much better off and we could have gotten like an awesome hunting
00:45:09.120 cabin in west virginia with the leftover money
00:45:14.000 why don't people do that i mean that's not like a super creative solution is it
00:45:19.840 if you find a parent in this room who lives in your county and you have roughly similar views
00:45:24.960 why don't you get together be honest about how much you're spending in education
00:45:27.840 ask yourself oh wow we're spending 114 000 or whatever it is this year could we hire a smart
00:45:33.600 person to teach our kids together they wouldn't be weird and isolated like those homeschoolers
00:45:37.520 supposedly are i don't think that's true by the way teachers union propaganda but whatever just to
00:45:41.600 ensure that they don't become weird they're all together in your kitchen learning great stuff
00:45:45.360 why is that bad why is that hard why does no one do that because people aren't radical enough in
00:45:50.400 defense of their own children that's why ha thank you
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