And, This Is A Country In Crisis With Keith Edwards
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Each January, men promise to get stronger, work harder, and fix what s broken. But what if the real work isn t physical? I sat down with psychologist Dr. Steve Poulter to unpack shame, anxiety, and the emotional pain men were never taught how to name. Part of the way through the valley of despair is realizing this has happened, and you have to make a choice whether to stay in it or move forward.
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Each January, men promise to get stronger, work harder, and fix what's broken.
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I sat down with psychologist Dr. Steve Poulter to unpack shame, anxiety, and the emotional pain men were never taught how to name.
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Part of the way through the valley of despair is realizing this has happened, and you have to make a choice whether you're going to stay in it or move forward.
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I moved to New York because I'm Donnie, you know. I don't know.
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No, I'm moving to New York because actually I just can't live in D.C. anymore.
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Do people feel that way? Do you feel like a foreigner in D.C.?
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Are there people from D.C. that feel like, or even, you know, been there seven, eight years that feel like I should be here in my life?
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So it's a very special type of person who actually, you don't believe me, who moves to New York and then stays.
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And is it safer now than ever because of Donald Trump?
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Restaurants are opening every, quote unquote, every day now.
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I mean, what, what is it, what is it like in Washington?
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And is it intimidating or is it now just becoming normalized?
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Well, I have to say that I hated them at first.
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But did you see the clip of the National Guard giving out coffee and donuts and hot chocolate to the citizens of Minneapolis?
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Well, I have to say, I actually cried when I saw that because it was such a hopeful moment to see.
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And they were there to help people express their First Amendment rights.
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And so I, and then it was like, oh, it's really interesting how like the people who call upon the military really impacts the way you perceive, perceive the troops.
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Because I was a little like, fuck these fucking people in D.C.
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You know, it's interesting because we, I federalized, well, before they were federalized, our National Guard in Southern California, those same Guard men and women were actually called up to help with the wildfire recovery in Los Angeles.
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One of the biggest challenges we had was all the food and water, people coming up, thanking them for being there.
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These are, by the way, these National Guard men and women are firefighters, police officers, they're teachers, they're lawyers, they're folks that quite literally were pulled off those lines, those front lines to be there for others.
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And then, you know, a few months later, they're federalized and vilified, even though they were doing a few months later, a few months earlier, some really important work.
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So it's interesting, I appreciate you trying to humanize aspects of this and not necessarily seeing the individual in a weaponized way.
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And I feel so, I just feel not destroyed, but I feel very beaten down by everything I've been seeing.
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And I feel a responsibility to stay strong for my audience.
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Do you, like, I don't know how you, like, do you?
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I was, I was, the number of people, after the Freddie murder, death, however one wants to describe it, number of people that I know that broke down, I mean, men, women, people that hadn't broken down yet, I mean, physically crying, emotional about what was happening.
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And the fact that you bring this up, I deeply appreciate that, that stacking of stress that people are feeling, that anxiety, and just that sense of not just loss, but hopelessness almost, that, you know, this situation's now out of our control or on the other side of something.
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Sorry, I'm going to probably cry at some point.
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But the residents of Minneapolis stood strong, and it appears as though Trump and the goons, they're all dissipating.
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And I hate that it took a murder for it to happen.
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But what I have always loved about this country is that we are imbued with the spirit of fuck you.
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But there's nothing more American than, like, than when someone's like, you have to do this.
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And so I love that Minneapolis was like, fuck you, make me.
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Trump's realizing that that is America to the core.
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But I hate, I hate what people have to go through and what we're all, this collective trauma we're all experiencing.
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Were you, I mean, it's, it's, it's, has it been sort of boiling, gotten to a point where it's boiling over now for you?
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Or have you been feeling this way, you know, ever, you know, going back even to when Trump was going down the escalator 10 years, 10 years ago?
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Or is it really since this latest, you know, Trump 2.0?
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I think it's just, it's just a couple of things.
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Like, there's not, there's not even like, and they're literally terrorizing Americans.
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So it's, it's the, it's the images of that, that I think, I, I didn't fully appreciate how much it was weighing on me.
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And I'm sure it has been for a lot of people until I actually saw what the National Guard did.
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It's a very simple thing, but just trying to de-escalate.
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And respecting their right to peacefully protest and to observe.
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What was, I mean, for you, it was just that, that in the midst of all of this, there was a flower blooming of sorts.
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It was just, America, this country has always been complicated.
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But there was always this North Star of what we wanted America to be here and what we wanted it to be for countries around the world.
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And I thought that idea of smiling troops being there to help used to be what I was like, to me, was like what America is.
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So, it was like a moment where there was like a moment to like sigh, I guess.
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He looks, he looks exactly how you think he'd look.
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Someone who thinks like what, thinks what he's doing is okay.
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And I say littered intentionally because he's trash.
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And I'm so, I'm just, I just cannot wait until round two.
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I know, I know, I don't know what you're doing for 2028.
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There, I have to imagine that someone, it has to be an anti-corruption message.
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And we have to run on righting every single wrong that is happening right now.
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And that includes going after the lowest person who shoots, executes a citizen on the street
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I want to unpack a lot of this and I want to go back a little bit because it's interesting,
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And I love you say you're an empath and you're absorbing and feeling all these things.
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And your own journey into politics, and I want to, we'll get back to this moment and
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what it means and really reinforce where we began this conversation.
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But for you, you began not in a political frame.
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I mean, your journey from Michigan to New York, you talked about your reverence for wanting
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to live in New York and the challenge of being in New York, led you to politics.
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But first you stopped on the way of reality television, producing Real Housewives of not
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New York, but Miami, some other interesting reality shows.
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So what, I mean, talk to me a little bit about your journey.
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Was your aspiration politics or was it, was it reality TV?
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I, I didn't, I didn't even know college was an option until senior year of high school.
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People are like, where are you going to college?
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Um, it is impossible that I am sitting across from you right now.
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Um, I don't know if you pray or if you're religious or I, I'm not religious.
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I'm very spiritual and I believe in something greater than myself.
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And so looking at my life, the way it has unfolded, I have to believe it is for some
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Uh, because my mom's a drug addict, dad's alcoholic, you know, classic story.
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And yeah, I went to New York when I was 16 and have you ever had love at first sight?
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I haven't except for when I went to New York for a day.
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It was still like a hole in the ground and you could still smell the burning and like
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the Burger King sign still had, uh, marks on it from the building falling nearby.
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And, uh, I was on the train and I was like, Oh my God, I need to live here.
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Uh, and I told my family, they're like, okay, move to New York.
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And so the reality TV stuff, when that happened, it was because, uh, I was in the right place
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at the right time and someone I knew was like, Hey, do you, you know, I had, I had done a
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little bit of like, I had built a little bit of something for myself prior to that.
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And someone I knew was impressed by what I had created and said, well, do you want to
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try to be an associate producer for this VH one show?
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And, uh, I, I was just excited that I was going to have a career because I, I, again,
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like people just don't like people have jobs where I'm from, you know, most of the, they
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Shout out to anyone that, uh, knows where that is, but, uh, family, small family, uh,
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She, she was, um, she was murdered when I was 25.
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And so that's why I also have deep, um, when, when things like this happen, I have deep feelings
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because, uh, losing someone unexpectedly is awful in and of itself.
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And grief is awful, regardless of whether it happens to someone that you're expecting is
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going to die or whether it happens unexpectedly.
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But then on top of it, for it to be at the hands of someone else is like, is something
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Uh, we were not extremely close because we, we, we were in a very dysfunctional family.
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And I think when you're in a family that's dysfunctional, it is incredibly hard.
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I think you just try, you're just trying to survive the day.
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And I think one way you do that is if your siblings is you unite, but I think we, we just
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were independent and tried to do it our own ways.
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But the whole process of just coping and then coping with your sister's sudden death.
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Well, I had, uh, when she passed away, I got into therapy.
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And that like, uh, do people cry on this podcast, but, uh, they do now.
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Uh, but, um, and so, and in many ways that put me on the path I'm on now.
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And you never, you never thought about seeking it prior.
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I don't know if you ever experienced grief, but I was, uh, not processing the grief.
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And when you don't process your feelings, they come out sideways.
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And so I was lashing out at people and I was, I was, it wasn't good.
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And how much younger were you than your sister?
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And you were living in New York at the time still.
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Just, I mean, so a remarkable background being able to just with your own perseverance,
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your own resilience to be able to work through mom, dad, all their struggles.
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And then of course your own processing with your sister.
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But, you know, it was really, you talk about love at first sight and just that this just
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happenstance, this coming into a city and been to before, and then just seeing something,
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I imagine just in awe, uh, and feeling something, what in yourself, just inspired.
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I don't know what that thing is, but whatever that feeling is, I've learned to trust it.
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And so that's like the same feeling I had when I was like, I should start a YouTube channel.
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And I'm just going to follow that idea until, uh, until it takes me to wherever it's meant
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But, um, it's certainly, I think when that's like moments, I think there are moments of
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I think inspiration is actually not though it's in us, it's not of us.
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I think a lot of creative people would, would express inspiration as something that they
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actually don't necessarily feel like they own though.
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So, uh, so yeah, I don't, I don't know what that is, but I've, I, I, I do try to trust,
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trust, trust, trust ideas that I feel like, um, that pop into my head.
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And so one of those ideas was the opportunity to join VH1, which I imagine back in the day
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VH1 was in its ascendancy or what was VH1 when you joined them?
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Uh, I think it was like, I think we were just past the crest of like reality, like the golden
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But the reason why I did that was because, um, prior to that I actually was doing on camera
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Um, I worked in radio and then I, uh, I started like this small little web series for a channel
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called Logo and, uh, for whatever reason, I'm an introvert.
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Honestly, don't want to be in big groups, but for some reason you put a camera in front
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of me and I'm really comfortable and, uh, and I can talk to anyone and I don't know what
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And I have a talent for making people sometimes feel comfortable on camera with me.
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And so, uh, I didn't, but I don't have a desire.
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I did not have a desire to just be on camera, to be on camera.
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And so, uh, when I was given the opportunity to make reality TV and to make TV, to learn
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a skill, I, I literally 25 year old Keith was like, well, you're always going to have
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If you ever want to go back on camera, why don't you learn how to do something?
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I learned, I learned a skill and thank God, like, I think it's very like that, like there's
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so much from my, um, career that I draw upon for what I'm doing now that, uh, I'm glad that
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I have those skills to, um, I think just makes me better at what I do.
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And how many, so how many years were you now learning behind the camera, those skills, not
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just a VH one, but I imagine other attributes or component parts of your career, you know,
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with all of these different and disparate shows, were they all for VH one or for the, for
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That wasn't through the, um, through the network.
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How many years were you in production business?
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Cause I did TV, but then I started my own production company, uh, when I was like 28, 29.
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And then I was making documentary style content for brands.
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So like Equinox, Lexus, Stoli, uh, that sort of thing.
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I was, I had been doing production for a long time.
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I mean, so we talk about those skills cause I don't want to get into this because I
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think those skills, you've obviously, you've, you've built that bridge and you've translated
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those skills in the political sense, which I think is so important right now, particularly
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as it relates to this dialectic we're having in this country around the asymmetry in some
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respects of right-wing media versus the messaging or lack thereof and, and the capacity to, to
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message and to break through in the democratic space.
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But what were those sort of fundamental skills of the producing skills that you learned?
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Uh, what was that muscle memory that you've been able to, you know, really that allowed
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you to start doing all those, you know, to do those ads for Equinox and everybody else
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So, so this is a little like behind the scenes, but like reality TV, good reality TV.
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You know, you're not like, at night I watch people play Magic the Gathering.
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Well, well, besides YouTube, uh, you know, nonstop, I'm watching my kids playing video
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So that's, uh, so I've become a bit of an expert extension of all.
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I mean, name it sort of the latest fortnight, whatever, and fill in the blank.
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So there's bad reality TV, which is basically bad improv where they're like this, this, and
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That's not, you can always tell when people are acting poorly.
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Good reality TV is like three hours of footage that me as a story producer and editor will
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And so the skill of a reality TV producer is saying, all right, what is, how do we turn
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What are the most interesting moments from this story?
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And, uh, how do we make a beginning, middle end?
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And so of course that, that, that, and I'm sure your, your staff will know this, being
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able to know what's a moment is, uh, incredibly valuable, especially now.
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I think I wasn't expecting my work in reality TV to be like honing my ability to know like
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what is interesting, what's a moment, what's clippable, but that's the same exact thing that
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Like whether it's curate and whether it's finding something to post on the internet,
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that I want to draw people's attention to, or if it's like just knowing from my own
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YouTube channel, like what, like, what are the beats of this story or like, what are
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like the clips that I think are actually going to, or like, what's the hook going to be that
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actually, you know, makes resonates with the audience.
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So, uh, so that's like one very easy thing that I've learned from it.
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I mean, how does, how do you break down the essence of, you know, what makes, what, what
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And again, we'll translate it in the political sense as well.
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But I mean, is there, it, I imagine there's a tension, uh, that is also something that
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Well, there's a tension between the production and the talent always because the talent doesn't
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The production wants to push them as far as possible.
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And then there's also a tension between like, what is the truth and like, what is the production
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So I think the truth is also a tension depending on the show.
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Well, and we'll get to the Trump show in a second.
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Cause I think that's at the core of, you know, if you could talk about truth and trust and
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But so after a few years of doing all that, you somehow stumbled upon the city council,
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uh, the president of the city council in New York city.
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Was that just, uh, to help as an advisor, just, uh, a friend of a friend, uh, were you
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looking to translate your, you know, and were you looking for a career change or what was
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Well, what happened actually was I had my production company.
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It was pretty successful and Donald Trump got elected.
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I was watching the Hillary Clinton campaign and I don't know how you thought the campaign
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I was, I had, I had some notes notes and I remember this is when I still used Facebook,
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uh, you know, my friends in Michigan posting positive pro Trump content.
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And my friends in New York were like, what are you talking about?
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Uh, and when he got elected, I just had that same thing where like when I was in, when
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I had first seen New York, it's the same fucking thing where I was like, I need to change careers.
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And it was literally in the moment, his election or just that just triggered like, it wasn't
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And it's probably naive to be like, I can make a difference, but I just really felt like
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And so it's not like I changed careers and then it's the next day I'm sitting across from
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It was literally like I changed careers and I was handing out, there's pictures of me
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of doing this, handing out ballot, uh, like information on ballot proposals.
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And I, I volunteered my local democratic club and I just did the same thing that I was
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always do, which is like, I just want to, like, I just want to learn how this works.
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I want to learn how this works and I can work hard.
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I can work hard and thank God, I think I'm pretty smart so I can learn pretty fast too.
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So when I, uh, so getting that job actually at the city council was, uh, incredible because
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it was only two years prior that I was like, I want to work in politics.
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And I was like then in city hall in New York city, uh, working in politics.
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And so, uh, so that, but I, it wasn't like that.
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I actually think goals are quite, quite limiting.
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You know, I think like, I think, I think we limit, we, our imagination limits us.
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If we're up to me, I would probably be the chief of staff for an assemblyman in New York.
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That's what I thought I wanted to do, which is great.
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I've really, I'm, I'm not in the goal business anymore.
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I'm in, I'm in the, I just want to do the next right thing and see where, see where it
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And I mean, that's literally the mindset next right thing.
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Uh, I think it's more, uh, intention, intentionality.
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And I think if you do that and you try to try to, to, to, to,
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to just, you know, work hard, be nice to people, incredible things can happen.
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So, so I don't, yeah, I don't set goals, but, uh, but thank God, because if I did, I
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think I'd, I think my life would be much smaller than it is right now.
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So you, uh, find Trump, inspiration, desperation, two driving forces of life.
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You're inspired to then, you know, take a cue from the universe in a spiritual sense and
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being open to this new opportunity, um, sort of allowing your destiny to take shape.
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You come from a background, your mom, I imagine the more conservative.
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Did you find yourself, were you, did you have a more conservative bent, uh, but were bent
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They took me, I remember one of my earliest members is going to a Clinton rally.
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But when did your mom vote for Trump that first time?
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Uh, I think she, I don't know if she did actually.
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But I know she did in 2020 and I know she did in 2024.
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It's easier to be on the outside talking about the way the world should be.
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Honestly, honestly, nothing made me more conservative than working for the most liberal
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It's not for me, but I, but I did, I did my time.
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And what kind of work were you doing at the time for them?
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So I was the, I was the, the person who was the digital director, uh, Kevin moved to the
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And so they had me fill in and, and, uh, the comms director at the time, I'm never going
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She was like, she was like, I know she was like, we actually need someone who knows what
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But you know, we need someone that actually knows what they're doing.
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And then I was like, I'm going to figure this out.
00:32:38.360
And so that's what I kind of dedicated my time to was like understanding how Twitter works,
00:32:43.240
understanding how you can frame something in some way that like more people can see it.
00:32:48.540
Um, so it was like a big, I mean, the account, this, the speaker's account had like 34,000
00:32:57.440
followers and I was wracked with anxiety about tweeting for this.
00:33:03.000
Like there were some nights where I did not sleep.
00:33:04.900
I was like, I'm afraid I'm going to like start a war or something.
00:33:10.200
Uh, and so, but, but no, I took it as a, I took it as a big opportunity to just learn,
00:33:19.380
I mean, I mean, obviously now it's really funny because in hindsight, I, I, you know,
00:33:23.560
I have a bigger reach than probably the speaker of the New York city council.
00:33:28.660
I think we'll, uh, we'll, we'll establish that in a moment, but within a moment, eight months,
00:33:34.420
uh, in political terms, you said, I'm out of here.
00:33:37.600
And is that when you went to work for the Bloomberg campaign or was there a gap in between?
00:33:42.380
Uh, that is when I went to work for the Bloomberg campaign.
00:33:46.300
And it was just cause they were writing a big check or you were passionate about it,
00:33:49.300
or you just saw this sort of excesses of progressive liberalism and wanted a more moderating voice.
00:33:58.540
So I was like, all right, Bloomberg, baby, let's go.
00:34:07.080
That's the thing is like people, that's everything in my resume.
00:34:10.220
This is the thing people like attack me for the most that I worked for Bloomberg.
00:34:14.280
First off, he's the only guy that would hire me.
00:34:22.960
But it's, it's basically like I go, I'm part of the advanced team.
00:34:28.360
And my job is to go to the riser and make sure the riser set up.
00:34:46.540
So everyone who was like Keith Edwards, Bloomberg, baby, I was doing nothing.
00:34:51.760
I was just trying to, I was just trying to get some experience.
00:35:00.020
I was, however long the campaign was two months and $2 billion later.
00:35:10.900
And then you're struggling what to figure out what's next step or what are you doing?
00:35:14.820
And then I worked for the Lincoln project and I, but how did that happen?
00:35:27.100
So you're inspired by some of their ads and some of their, I mean, what they were putting
00:35:39.860
Explain what the Lincoln project, because a lot of folks know about it.
00:35:43.720
First off, first off, these were Republicans who were, what's the word when you actually
00:35:55.720
And they were the only ones who were actually speaking out against Trump.
00:36:00.640
They organized and it became kind of like this really overnight story.
00:36:12.440
And so they brought me on to be a regional communications director.
00:36:20.920
But I didn't know, I, I had no idea how to do that.
00:36:23.660
If I'm being completely honest, they're like, can you do this?
00:36:27.380
And then would that include obviously sending tweets, communicating with the press?
00:36:30.700
It was like, I think I had like Michigan, Florida and was, I don't know.
00:36:36.380
Or maybe it was the, maybe it was like Michigan, Wisconsin and pencil.
00:36:40.400
I was given like three states to just get press.
00:36:43.900
And so, uh, here, here's the thing with me is like, I will figure it out.
00:36:58.800
And then, uh, and then I remember I got the job.
00:37:02.240
I was like, oh my God, I called my friend, Eddie.
00:37:11.620
I got, uh, like five hits that day or something.
00:37:18.100
And then I just like kept, I just kept trying to figure it out.
00:37:23.480
And, um, but what happened on that campaign was that, and it's so funny because it came
00:37:28.540
right after, right after the speaker job where I was learning how to tweet is that, um, they
00:37:34.920
had this, uh, these consultants who believe it or not, the Lincoln project during beginning
00:37:40.320
in like May, April, they like went a couple of, they just would go days without tweeting.
00:37:47.260
And so they were like, we need someone to tweet for us.
00:37:51.320
And so what I started to do was just tweet with like a personality.
00:37:54.720
It's very similar to what you, what you're doing on like the Newsom press office thing,
00:37:59.460
uh, where instead of just being like saying boring stuff, it was just like having personality
00:38:08.500
And then that, that really started to take off.
00:38:11.580
And you deal with pseudonym or your name, your own name?
00:38:16.540
And you were a Lincoln project for how long until November of that year, to remember
00:38:24.660
And then I went in the all stuff campaign to do the, um, what was it called when you
00:38:43.860
The ballot harvesting, but you're, you're figuring out.
00:38:46.640
They had to steal the, they had to figure out how to steal the election.
00:38:49.240
That was part of, that was pre-election, but this is just basically the curation.
00:38:53.140
No, no, no, it's, uh, I don't forget what it's called.
00:38:56.780
No, it's, it's when the, in Georgia, when the election is within a certain percentage point,
00:39:07.640
Okay, with all this, why did I not know that word?
00:39:17.000
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And so all this time, so you're just bouncing around, job to job.
00:42:48.500
But it's just learning your craft, honing those skills, sort of getting better and better all the time,
00:42:56.320
willing to take risks, sort of beginner's mind so you don't know what you don't know.
00:42:59.920
That's the thing that's beautiful, beginner's mind.
00:43:05.460
Which is, you know, and by the way, you don't know how things are usually done.
00:43:16.580
And by the way, that's an important, it's, I mean, we talk about a race or a minute,
00:43:19.500
you got to forget the things you know, because they get in the way of what, you know,
00:43:23.360
what presents itself, all these opportunities and that's newness and freshness.
00:43:26.920
So this perspective, you're willing to try new things, increase the number of tries in your life.
00:43:31.800
You're sitting there, you've got a spiritual connection to sort of the universe is going to present itself
00:43:37.060
and you're just going to take advantage based on your instinct and your capacity.
00:43:41.620
And willingness to take risks and try some new things.
00:43:44.920
And is that when recently then you stumbled upon this idea of starting your own YouTube channel?
00:44:19.500
It was just, I didn't, I did not like Instagram or TikTok doing vertical videos.
00:44:25.500
I think you have to be an insane person to get attention, basically.
00:44:32.960
You know, cars are a lot of yelling to, I think, get a video to do well for, for, for
00:44:45.980
I mean, is that how you were getting the attention back then?
00:44:48.640
No, I think the thing that people mistake is that like, I do think there has to be an
00:44:53.960
abrasiveness to get things to travel on the internet.
00:44:57.240
I don't think abrasiveness means mean necessarily.
00:45:00.640
I just think there has to be, uh, you have to be short and you have to be, uh, yeah, sharp.
00:45:18.460
So, so, so, so was that the idea to be an interviewer or the idea was just to go to
00:45:35.820
But interviews, interviewing people, I think they do it well.
00:45:39.420
Like you're obviously very well researched and it's nice, but I, I, I find interviews
00:45:45.820
So I don't, I, I also the audience, my audience doesn't really like them.
00:45:54.760
So was, so was that the, I mean, so the intention, talk about intentionality that you talked
00:45:59.820
about a moment ago, this notion of just, you know, trying to differentiate yourself, not
00:46:03.960
screaming, not yelling, not trying to go, uh, for sort of the crude, uh, viral video,
00:46:11.720
What was sort of the essence of what you thought would differentiate yourself?
00:46:19.760
I just said to myself, um, I, I said, so I didn't go to college.
00:46:26.500
And one of the things you learn about not going to college is that four years passes,
00:46:35.200
And then after the four years pass, you're like, well, I could have just went to college.
00:46:40.260
Now I couldn't afford at the time, but there are moments where afterwards you're like, well,
00:46:48.180
And then you're thinking like, well, you know, that time passes either way.
00:46:51.400
So this was like my version of that, where it was, I said to myself, well, if I started
00:46:57.960
YouTube channel today, I'd much rather have tried it in two years.
00:47:14.220
Uh, but I did know that I would much rather in two years, cause I'm going to be two years
00:47:20.840
older, either way, God willing, I'd much rather have tried than not, because I know what it
00:47:27.300
feels like to know that time has passed and you didn't do the thing that you could have
00:47:31.540
So I, so that's why that's, that's one of the reasons why I started it when I, when I
00:47:36.100
did, cause I'd rather, I'd rather try it and, and have tried it than never have done
00:47:44.180
I mean, I remember Lucille Ball on her deathbed said, I don't regret anything I ever did.
00:47:52.940
And I mean, it's so, I think there's so much power in that, this notion that you miss a
00:47:59.300
Um, and the answer is no, unless you ask that fundamental notion of, and I, so I love when
00:48:04.260
you talk about a spiritual connection, just to seen things.
00:48:10.500
We can get to that too, in terms of just your time and schedule and what you value.
00:48:14.300
But do you remember the time, I mean, when you did that first video and you press send,
00:48:26.660
Uh, how did it, how did that first review your own self-reflection of that first video?
00:48:33.920
I was talking directly to the camera and it was, I mean, it's one of those videos where
00:48:38.920
like, I'm, it was like, I'm talking about doing the thing that I'm doing.
00:48:46.300
And did you say, I'm starting YouTube to talk about Trump and politics?
00:48:49.900
Well, I actually said, I don't really want to do breaking news.
00:48:56.060
Everyone else is doing cut to the fact that that's what I'm doing.
00:48:58.620
So again, uh, but that, but I, I knew that I, I wanted, I want, I felt like there was
00:49:08.140
What shifted was when I started to do, cause I would do one a week, one a week.
00:49:12.200
And that it's when it shifted, when I started, I committed to doing one a day in July.
00:49:22.900
And that one a day, five days a week, one a day, one a day, every day.
00:49:31.320
And then that went from zero subscribers to a hundred thousand in that month.
00:49:35.840
So wildly exceeding your 40,000 non-goal goals since we don't establish goals.
00:49:45.340
I just want to establish the contradiction there.
00:49:51.560
But I mean, you had, I remember reading a little bit about the one month process where
00:49:59.880
And just, I mean, it was like in weeks, was it during the Biden?
00:50:03.040
I mean, you really start to see your numbers grow.
00:50:07.700
And I think for people that just established, we could establish an offset.
00:50:11.440
But you, out of nowhere, just the last couple of years, hardly out of nowhere, we've established
00:50:15.340
all the hard work and grind and the work you've been doing for years and years.
00:50:18.820
But now you're one of the top 10 YouTube podcasters and just sort of blown through in a matter
00:50:36.680
But do you remember what, I mean, do you remember what really got you from, you know, those
00:50:50.240
Was there sort of a, back to your own intentionality, was there a voice you found in yourself that
00:50:55.960
all of a sudden came out and really resonated with the audience?
00:50:58.600
Was it one thing or was it many things or was it just the stacking?
00:51:04.020
I remember my first video that went viral, then I got 20,000 views and I was like, oh my
00:51:15.440
Was when I connected Truth Social's stock price to Donald Trump's electability.
00:51:27.080
And, but this, so like what I tried doing was I tried not, so basically I was like, I have
00:51:34.240
this chart and I just was leading people through the chart without telling them what it is, you
00:51:41.780
And so I was just trying to see if I could try to like get people to hang on as I was
00:51:50.080
And I, and I tied it to events that, you know, Trump getting, uh, you know, getting charged
00:51:59.160
And then at the end, I revealed that it was the Truth Social stock.
00:52:03.860
So, um, so that was like that again, like all these like little things where you're like
00:52:16.320
So, so that's, that's one that, that I remember very well, but I actually think it's one of those
00:52:22.020
things where over time, you know, now, uh, you know, now I can, I just do this stuff very
00:52:30.140
easily, but it's, it's like an over time sort of thing where you just like, I think the
00:52:34.780
relentlessness and, and the repetition and I just want, I just want to constantly get better.
00:52:44.700
Um, and I, I wanted to like deliver value to the people who watch.
00:52:48.640
I don't, Oh, I feel like sometimes I miss the mark, but I think, I think having those
00:52:54.120
intentions about just wanting to improve, um, over time has, I just, I mean, do anything
00:53:05.460
Maybe not for someone else, but do it long enough and, uh, but it's just one of those
00:53:10.080
things slowly over time, you know, you add graphics, you add a logo, but it's just, it's
00:53:15.900
just like over time, it just, you just, things stack, you know, it's just like, I feel like
00:53:23.280
Like it's like, you can't run for governor when you're 23.
00:53:30.140
I mean, I mean, I guess, I guess you could, I was, I probably wouldn't win.
00:53:36.060
I was on 23, but it was in my, my, my mid thirties, which felt young at the time.
00:53:42.320
It's about trying new things, about iterating, but it's also about reflecting.
00:53:46.200
I mean, if you're going to, if you're going to grow, you've got to be socially aware.
00:53:51.580
You got to be able to figure out what you got right, what you got wrong.
00:53:56.260
You got to be willing to listen to people that disagree with you and not be stuck in your
00:54:00.520
And I think that was one of the things, my understanding of you is you really went out and you started to
00:54:05.280
study what Midas Touch is doing and what David and others were doing.
00:54:09.120
And, you know, sort of success leaves clues, this power of emulation, but bringing it into
00:54:14.720
your own voice, uh, and making it your, your own unique and authentic.
00:54:18.900
That's what I tell a lot of creators is like, we don't, you don't have to like reinvent this
00:54:24.500
Like, like how it, how it's done is how it's done.
00:54:28.740
What differentiation can be and should be as you, like, how are you, it's, it's, it's
00:54:34.560
you being in it that makes it different ideally.
00:54:36.800
And if you being in it doesn't make it different, then that's something to look at, you know?
00:54:44.480
Uh, but certainly that's, I mean, I, I have to just compare it to, to what you do with
00:54:51.020
Like people want someone that is extremely themselves.
00:55:02.940
I, I remember this, uh, I was Oprah raised me by the way, Oprah raised me and I do.
00:55:15.220
Um, but I remember she had a story where when she first got into news, she was like, how would
00:55:26.220
And I think it's a trap people fall into where they say to themselves, all right, how does
00:55:33.540
And I think that's, that's a good way to start, but then you're just, you're always going to
00:55:42.200
Really figuring out how do I bring myself into this is the game changer.
00:55:54.640
And, uh, this notion of authenticity is so important because everybody, especially with
00:55:59.060
everyone puts a mask on and sometimes their face grows into it.
00:56:02.840
They become someone they're not, which is to me, the greatest indictment.
00:56:06.780
Um, you see that on frankly, on Fox news and others where just people become, you know,
00:56:11.860
it's guy, people I've used to respect and all of a sudden two, three years, uh, as
00:56:16.920
being a part-time pundit on all of a sudden they become something I don't even recognize
00:56:21.640
Um, but, uh, otherwise they rust out because they just, they lack that authenticity.
00:56:25.940
They lack that differentiation, which I completely appreciate.
00:56:28.920
So what just in terms of your own communication and how you've differentiated yourself, um, and
00:56:34.600
how you've added, as you say, graphics and you started new things and logos and everything
00:56:39.020
else, what are the big lessons you've learned in terms of just communication in this environment
00:56:44.020
that is essential besides being just purely authentic?
00:56:48.560
You talked about giving value a moment ago to your audience, which I love is value.
00:57:05.400
I can give them insight because I've done this work.
00:57:08.380
Um, not to knock other people who do what I do, who do something in the same space, but
00:57:13.440
I just have a different perspective because, um, I've worked in campaigns.
00:57:17.400
I know what it means to try to get, uh, someone elected.
00:57:24.820
Uh, but, uh, I think respecting the audience is something that I, uh, is I take very seriously.
00:57:35.380
And I think part of what I do too, is I can be a mirror for people's feelings.
00:57:39.880
There's a lot of people, I think people are more isolated than they have been in the past.
00:57:45.100
And I think it's meaning, at least from the comments I ever see, which by the way, I read
00:57:50.440
a lot of them, uh, people, people appreciate that I can be expressive whether I'm mad.
00:57:58.800
I, I, I cry, laugh, uh, you know, letting people know that how they're feeling is like not insane.
00:58:08.900
But, um, but I think I have a deep respect and it's, it's a weird thing to have a relationship
00:58:15.420
with this idea of like an audience, but that's what I really think it is, is I have a,
00:58:25.260
Um, I imagine you feel the same way about having a constituency, you know, California
00:58:29.580
and you represent a lot of people and you have to look out for them.
00:58:36.060
And it's just, it's no different than, than what I do, um, where I have a constituency.
00:58:41.540
Um, I might, it says 1.1 million subscribers, but really that's a, that's a lagging indicator
00:58:48.080
around giving any given month, nine to nine, nine to 10 million people watch me every month.
00:58:55.400
Um, and so I have, uh, I have a deep humility around that.
00:59:02.300
And I also have a deep, I feel a deep responsibility, um, for, for making sure the audience
00:59:15.600
And you focus again, you said it, and I thought it interesting.
00:59:20.800
This notion of consistency, constancy, this notion of just, you know, could, you know,
00:59:26.560
You're going to constantly, you know, we talk about iteration, et cetera, versus just going
00:59:32.340
viral, just, you know, trying to just full throttle to get a clip to fly around the world.
00:59:37.340
One off one and done this notion of a sustainable.
00:59:40.960
A sustainable mindset versus perhaps situational in terms of how you do content.
00:59:45.620
Uh, is that, is that what you think is a differentiator as well?
00:59:51.340
Uh, so I, for those who don't know YouTube, uh, the title and the thumbnail are so important.
01:00:00.120
And, and, and, you know, as, as a content creator yourself, it's, uh, how you package content
01:00:06.560
can deeply affect how it gets seen and how it is, if it is seen at all.
01:00:12.540
Uh, but something that I'm trying to do now, this is, I actually wrote a piece on this and,
01:00:20.020
um, I actually, I did a video about how, again, that's respect to the audience.
01:00:23.940
And I think liberal YouTube suffers from a branding problem because if you look at content on the
01:00:37.720
right, if you look at Candace Owens' content, um, Tim Poole, Ben Shapiro, name any name, Tucker,
01:00:48.720
the way it's packaged is very, uh, approachable.
01:00:54.400
Um, and it's content that you wouldn't be embarrassed to share.
01:01:00.480
Um, content on the left, I don't know how this happened, is packaged pretty insanely.
01:01:11.500
And I get it because we are in an intention economy, but I, I guess two months ago, I, I, I,
01:01:20.980
again, I had an idea that it's not even an idea.
01:01:26.160
My audience a lot, cause I was doing insane titles and, and, uh, thumbnails insane.
01:01:32.060
Like, I'm not even going to give an example, but just insane.
01:01:39.080
It's just like, it's just like, it's, it's, it's like white house panics or like Trump,
01:01:55.620
And so people, and my, the thing I told myself was like, as long as people are clicking in
01:02:00.200
and I'm giving, like, I don't, the content is not insane itself.
01:02:06.260
This is like the media, the headlines in the article.
01:02:12.760
So, so my, my audience would very often be like, you know, on the, on the really bad
01:02:18.460
clickbait ones, they'd be like, Keith, you don't have to do this.
01:02:22.420
You don't like, like we are going to watch either way.
01:02:29.320
In December, which is the worst time ever to change something was for what I understand.
01:02:33.140
And I decided to try to do things a little differently.
01:02:36.740
Now I'm still trying to find the balance of like titling and thumbnails.
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I think if you look at my page, it's, uh, there's, there's a great, uh, there is just
01:02:47.320
like, I really am just in, in, uh, in like a let's find out mode, but, but I was like,
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I'm going to trust that they're going to be there.
01:02:58.060
And even if views dip momentarily, I think I'm actually making a long-term investment
01:03:04.680
in credibility and again, respect for the audience.
01:03:09.160
And I, and I was like, you know, I'm just going to trust the fact that I'm making something
01:03:17.880
And there were, they will now views have dipped slightly, but I actually think it's worth it
01:03:24.700
because I want someone to be able to share my video to someone that might not even be
01:03:32.220
But I do think the way it was packaged before, it was very limiting.
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And though maybe the people who are on YouTube would be interested in clicking who are already
01:03:40.500
in this niche, uh, it might have a adverse effect in getting people to actually want to
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If that's something anyone would want to share.
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And I got to say too, that my audience has gotten about 30% younger since I made the
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switch, which is something I was not anticipating.
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And my audience dipped about 4 million when I switched over and it's right back up to where
01:04:05.860
But now I have a younger audience, um, who also, cause I brought them in on this.
01:04:13.320
So I told them, I said, Hey, I'm trying this thing.
01:04:20.300
And now they actually, they, they, um, they appreciate that I have listened to them and
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that we're, you know, and again, like, I'm not going to get it right every time.
01:04:29.880
I still need people to click, but I think there's, I'm trying to figure out the way to do it or
01:04:38.000
Um, and it's also not like making me and like left leaning politics look insane.
01:04:47.660
You, you opened up with Candace Owen, mentioning Ben and we had on, um, a week ago on our podcast.
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Which I thought it was, I mean, I, I enjoyed it.
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I, you know, this was not, we're not, I'm not trying to compete with cable, uh, and
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And that, that was all point and the intention of this podcast.
01:05:12.520
And by the way, and I appreciate you saying that because not everyone appreciates having
01:05:17.180
Like, well, we have to, we have to, my mom is the complete opposite than me.
01:05:25.000
Um, Trump would love if I stopped talking to her, he would love that because that would
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mean that we're more easily, more divided, the more easy to conquer.
01:05:38.560
What I loved about that conversation was that it really showed that like in, in like the
01:05:47.080
Now, Ben Shapiro is a normal, normal conservative.
01:05:50.600
I think he has to, he has like a needle, he has to thread and like trying to appeal to
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But I think like he's more gettable than, you know, than like Laura Loomer, you know?
01:06:04.700
For full disclosure, we were talking about her.
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I don't know why, except that she, uh, protested here, uh, many years ago and I, I still don't
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know who the hell she is, but, uh, she apparently is somewhat important.
01:06:17.880
Uh, I think Trump pays a little too much attention to her, but, uh, I'm not sure it's
01:06:23.440
So you mentioned, but you mentioned Owens, you mentioned Ben and, and these folks as
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being content that is, appears more normal or shareable.
01:06:31.420
What do you mean by that versus the left, which leans in?
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Like it's title case, which means, you know, there's no, like, there's no like caps words.
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It's, it's like, it's very, it's very, um, conversational, conversationally packaged.
01:06:51.460
Um, whereas on the left, it's like, uh, you know, Trump panics and caps lock and, you know,
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or Trump suffers massive, you know, term ending moment for Trump, you know, so many term ending
01:07:07.460
moments for Trump on the left that, you know, if it ends the term shouldn't it, so, uh, so
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that's part of the problem now, like for what I'm doing, like, I still have to, I still have
01:07:20.740
People have to know that like, this is content that's somewhat related to the content I already
01:07:26.820
Um, but eventually, hopefully it can like, um, you know, we, the, the content I'm making
01:07:37.940
Why do you think, I mean, is it, and I'm, I'm mining this because I'm trying to make all
01:07:45.300
At least I used the word asymmetry a moment ago, this, this sense, and I think it's beginning
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to change and you're a big part of that change.
01:07:51.440
Why I'm very grateful you took the time to be on the podcast is to talk about why the
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right has been so successful, uh, in flooding the zone.
01:07:59.540
We could talk about obviously Fox with 15 of the top 16 or whatever the number is, uh,
01:08:03.840
the most viewed and watched cable shows, they dominate in that space.
01:08:07.620
Obviously this last election talked about all this sort of manosphere and these bro podcasters
01:08:12.800
that all tended to lean libertarian to right with Trump and the MAGA movement, uh, they'll
01:08:17.680
frame a little bit now and how, how we've not necessarily mined that space as well or, um,
01:08:28.620
I mean, obviously from a competitive perspective, what's your overview or sense of where we've
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been, where we are, and let's talk about where you think we're going.
01:08:38.100
I'm going to say something pretty controversial, I think.
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But, uh, do you remember the Epstein, do you remember the Epstein binder moment at the
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Which, uh, where they brought in all the influencers, all the right wing influencers and they held
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up the binders and like, we had the Epstein files.
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I think the left and Democrats are very good at creating influencers who would go to that
01:09:12.940
If Joe Biden had put it up, I don't think we're really good at producing the Megyn Kellys, the
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And we're not, we don't really allow anyone to step out and critique the party.
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That we're not there, that you believe their success is their willingness to sort of break
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And we, and I think it makes the party stronger to have people to be like, yo.
01:09:58.280
Talk to me about, I mean, Democrats sort of running a little bit more scared in terms
01:10:04.420
of their punditry and not necessarily wanting to talk out of school.
01:10:08.840
You bring up Kelly, whose numbers have gone through the roof.
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You've seen her ascendancy in the last couple of years in particular, uh, Owens and others
01:10:16.840
that have been willing, even Tucker, et cetera.
01:10:18.520
I mean, there's a whole universe that's sort of, you know, fighting itself right now, which
01:10:22.100
is why it was interesting just having been on in that respect.
01:10:26.240
What is it about some of the left pundits, um, and creators and producers, uh, that were
01:10:36.220
I don't know what it is, uh, but I refuse that one thing about me is I'm not a joiner.
01:10:43.960
So I, I just, I just want to say what I think and what I feel.
01:10:48.500
I also want to reflect back what the audience is thinking and feeling.
01:10:52.080
So I'm lucky in that I've created an audience too.
01:11:02.780
Uh, I, I don't, I don't know, but it also could be like, um, I just think there's a culture.
01:11:12.480
I think, I think it's just a culture thing where like conservatives are, I kind of have
01:11:18.980
always had this like anti-establishment string in the party, right?
01:11:25.860
Like the tea party and, uh, and I don't know on the left, it's, it's like, if you don't
01:11:32.160
say the right thing or if you're not supporting the right person or whatever, then you're the
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And, uh, I don't know if that means that that creates a culture and where like we have creators
01:11:49.580
and media personalities who feel like they much, they don't want to be under, I don't,
01:11:59.740
No, I mean, I, it's, uh, you've talked about this.
01:12:03.000
I know you were on with Andy too, it went on his podcast talking about this, this being
01:12:11.780
I mean, or is that even from the perspective of being a pundit?
01:12:15.480
Like I gotta say, like, I know you're friends with James and Crockett, but like, uh, I have
01:12:20.740
said, like, it's turned into like, and I don't want to make this all about that, but it's a,
01:12:25.680
it's, I think it's a good example and it doesn't bother me, but it's just a good example that
01:12:29.900
I, I was just basically saying, I think, I think she's going to have a hard time winning
01:12:38.780
And I said, and there was a clip that went viral that said that she doesn't need MAGA
01:12:44.680
supporters or she doesn't need Trump supporters to win Texas.
01:12:47.660
And I, and I literally just said, I think you do.
01:12:52.100
And it was like, that was like, people outraged, outraged.
01:13:00.320
It's about getting more people that are, I don't, I don't, I know, I know the right has
01:13:05.340
So it's not like, it's, it's not like the left, it's just the left.
01:13:08.720
But I don't think it, I, I, I think a strong party allows there to be multiple ideas at
01:13:18.500
once and, uh, I don't know what it is about some creators on the left who feel the need
01:13:32.660
to attack rather than just fight for their own ideas, you know?
01:13:39.640
I don't know why there's a lot of conformity on the left, but I believe there is.
01:13:45.180
If you were running DNC's operation right now, social media, I mean, do you just break
01:13:53.180
What's your, I mean, do you have any diagnosis or even thought about it?
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One, and I've told them this, they should do it.
01:13:59.440
There's all this content being created on the left.
01:14:02.700
Midas Touch, Adam Mockler, uh, Brian Tyler Cohen, David Packman.
01:14:06.780
That's just on YouTube and there's all these TikTok or whatever.
01:14:11.160
Why do we always clip out the bad stuff the right says?
01:14:16.360
And like fact post news, is that what they're called?
01:14:24.740
Why are you only promoting bad things Republicans are saying?
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Why aren't you, why aren't you, why aren't you lifting up the clips of me critiquing the
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Republican party rather than just, why aren't you clipping out Adam Mockler's, whatever?
01:14:43.940
I don't, I think that is like the smallest thing we could change is there's all this free
01:14:49.320
And one of the most useful things someone on the left could do is aggregating it and like
01:15:11.400
I think TikTok should have been, I think it was insane that China owned TikTok.
01:15:22.480
So, so I, I, I agreed with TikTok not being owned by China.
01:15:29.400
Now, I don't know why, why us saying TikTok can't be owned by China turned into Trump owning
01:15:40.980
I think probably it would have been better to have left it alone maybe.
01:15:48.680
But, I mean, I don't know though, because doesn't Elon Musk own X?
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A lot of people, when he bought it, decided to pull off the platform.
01:16:25.440
I went on their platform to call them out on the red state murder problem and why eight
01:16:32.740
What are the policies that are leading to such carnage?
01:16:40.980
Made the point for me and finally broke through something that I've been screaming and yelling
01:16:47.800
So you've got to meet people where you are, where they are.
01:16:55.340
And if we start to sort of self-censor or sort of walk away, it doesn't make them go
01:17:01.660
So I just think we've got to, you know, it's a battle for ideas, but it is a battle.
01:17:05.420
And you said it a moment ago for attention and how, what does that mean to you?
01:17:18.900
This notion of, again, clickbait, this notion of the, there's sort of all caps, this notion
01:17:31.540
So I think, I think on YouTube, for instance, I'm trying to create something that is long
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lasting and obviously something that is sustainable.
01:17:43.320
But if, but I kind of feel like if, I don't know what you would compare YouTube to, but
01:17:50.480
I do think on X and threads to a lesser extent is where the day-to-day war of politics happens.
01:18:03.580
And so I'm a little bit more like, I'm going to fight with every fucking weapon we have.
01:18:13.180
And I don't care if it, if it's like, if it makes someone a little upset that whatever
01:18:21.460
it is I'm saying, but we're at war, we're at war.
01:18:24.600
And so it's important no matter what you're saying, that it gets seen because if it's
01:18:33.680
But I, I don't, but, but I think on YouTube, it's a little different.
01:18:37.340
It's a little different because I want, because it's, it's, it's very personally, you know,
01:18:45.260
So, so I think that's, that's more, I think YouTube is much more persuadable, whereas
01:18:53.100
X Twitter is where you're never going to persuade, but you're actually at, you're actually fighting
01:19:02.300
So on that, and it's a, it's a good segue and it sort of, you know, allows us to end
01:19:06.840
as we began to, and I appreciated you opening up just as an empath and this notion that,
01:19:13.240
you know, a lot of folks and you've reflected in your comments today about your audience
01:19:18.360
and knowing your audience and they, that you're a mirror, uh, you said of, of their consistent
01:19:23.260
thoughts and how they're feeling and they can reflect and connect with you, uh, in, in
01:19:28.220
And, and that's, that's your authenticity and, and, and, and being an empath is, is, is
01:19:33.480
power, uh, that's strength from my humble perspective.
01:19:36.620
But what in terms of this notion of differentiation of persuasion, it's, you know, there'll be a
01:19:45.260
Um, I know Trump has the desire to see to it that that world, you know, that, that timeline
01:19:49.640
is extended, but the reality is his time of life, if not a state of mind, uh, will determine
01:19:55.760
And, and we'll be in a point where now we're not just trying to sort of fight the good
01:20:00.100
fight and the civil war, as you describe it in terms of the war of ideas and attention,
01:20:06.900
Uh, we need to be in the vernacular as you pray every morning, the repairs of the breach,
01:20:12.560
um, Isaiah, uh, as we sort of knit back trust and truth, uh, relationships and deal with that
01:20:19.940
isolation, which you acknowledged earlier in your comments.
01:20:22.780
Uh, how do we start to shift or is this the moment where we can shift or are you doing that
01:20:28.820
with your shift, even in December to becoming more persuadable and moving into a different
01:20:35.320
narrative as opposed to just being in opposition to, but being a champion for something bigger
01:20:44.560
I don't, I mean, I don't, I mean, my, as I said, my mom is very conservative and I've
01:20:53.360
Uh, I think there had been moments where she doesn't like, you know, the Epstein stuff.
01:20:59.860
And it's, that's like a, she's like, like, it bothers her.
01:21:03.700
And I think the shooting, the murder, she did, she didn't, she didn't like, I think there's
01:21:09.200
these moments that wake people up, but, uh, I don't know if I don't, I don't know.
01:21:25.100
I'm going to talk about the things that I think are important.
01:21:27.200
I'm going to talk to you about why I think they're important.
01:21:30.880
And if, and I'm also not like giving my list of like charts and figures and well, actually
01:21:58.600
And I have got, I have received comments where the people, there are a lot of people who
01:22:02.940
are not conservative, but they're also not like, you know, just voting the party line
01:22:14.840
Maybe there's persuasion in that, but I think just being myself and critiquing things, whether
01:22:21.340
it be the Democrats, like, I don't know how you feel about Chuck Schumer or his effectiveness
01:22:36.900
I think, I think establishment Democrats are going to be incredibly surprised this primary
01:22:44.660
season and in the, and in the general election, how pissed off people are.
01:22:57.360
Like we, like they ran, they basically ran on 10 years of Trump bad.
01:23:07.400
And now, and I, and, and like, there's some Democrats that voted for this, uh, ice funding
01:23:17.640
And then, and now they're like, well, actually, I guess that really mean to, I get, oh, well,
01:23:24.820
You think that was maybe not something you should have funded when Renee good.
01:23:31.400
Like, that's my thing is like, I think like I, we just want people who are going to fight
01:23:40.400
I don't know what that looks like when a Democrat fights.
01:23:47.580
You're fighting your own way, which I appreciate, but like, where were, where were the elected
01:24:00.120
Every single presidential hopeful should have been, been there in my opinion.
01:24:11.920
And, uh, so people are going to ride in and say that they're always against this.
01:24:19.480
I'm just, I'm just, I am interested to see, um, who steps up because, uh, people are
01:24:36.520
We're going to have a government shutdown this Friday.
01:24:43.400
I, I don't know what else, what else can we do?
01:24:46.820
Uh, people are talking about, um, uh, national, like a strike, not being very specific about
01:25:00.860
It has to be sustained and has to make not only them uncomfortable, but it's going to
01:25:05.900
be making us uncomfortable, but something has to change.
01:25:09.800
I think, uh, Greg Bovino being sent back to wherever the hell he's from.
01:25:18.480
It's like, I don't think that's actually changing anything.
01:25:27.620
You talk about being on the streets of Minneapolis.
01:25:30.020
I was still on the streets of California because we're still fighting this fight every single
01:25:35.300
And remember, future happened here first in July, in June, when they federalized 4,000
01:25:40.660
national guard and we sent out 700 active duty Marines.
01:25:44.560
And remember, Bovino's first operations were here, including when we kicked off Proposition
01:25:53.860
And Bovino and his masked men were there as we kicked off the campaign.
01:26:00.020
And I told everybody, wake up, pay attention, watch this guy, watch this guy.
01:26:05.300
Those same BORTAC teams that he was sending out, COS planes with their Apache, whatever
01:26:10.640
the hell it is, were out there on election day doing voter suppression with Proposition
01:26:20.280
So I appreciate what you're saying in that respect.
01:26:22.580
But I also appreciate, because I want to follow up as we began.
01:26:28.440
You know, you said something about, you know, just this humanity that was expressed in those
01:26:33.080
National Guard men and women that were there for the right reasons, at least expressing
01:26:36.300
their humanity and compassion and connection to the community.
01:26:39.860
You have to respect, even if you don't some of the electeds, which I appreciate your point,
01:26:45.060
but you have to be inspired by the people of Minneapolis and people across the country.
01:26:56.400
I mean, that's got to give you, that's got to distill a sense of well-being.
01:26:59.660
Here's what I want to end with, and I know we're wrapping up, is that I think there are
01:27:06.700
some people who are waiting for the right leader to rise up.
01:27:09.740
Are you into the guy or gal on the white horse, or is it different?
01:27:16.440
It is the people, the people lead, the people lead, and we will decide who we want to lead
01:27:31.780
I think this obsession with that guy or gal, as I suggest, on the white horse to come save
01:27:55.080
This time last year, it was pretty quiet out there.
01:28:00.000
Up until, I mean, frankly, until the middle of last year, I thought, boy, we are at peril
01:28:07.100
And the No Kings rallies, first one, people showed up.
01:28:15.180
And voting booths that got a lot of attention, a lot that didn't get any attention.
01:28:21.080
How many state assembly and state senate races we won in states all across this country.
01:28:33.980
Obviously, the change that inspired a lot of people in New York was big.
01:28:38.080
But also, the number of wins, dozens and dozens and dozens of races in state houses across
01:28:44.820
the country, in state legislators that flipped hands, flipped the party, the Democratic Party.
01:28:54.460
That's reflected in the hard work, the grit of people, the resilience of people showing
01:28:58.680
up in those communities that are not on Rachel Maddow every night, or Monday nights being
01:29:04.100
highlighted, or even on our shows as it relates to my podcast or your nightly shows.
01:29:08.120
So I just hope people understand their power and understand how inspiring that power is.
01:29:15.360
Because people just need to see that they're not alone.
01:29:18.200
And all of a sudden, it wakes up their own immune system.
01:29:26.660
And so I appreciate, look, I appreciate what you're doing every single day, grinding.
01:29:30.600
I appreciate you don't have goals, so I call it a BS on that.
01:29:33.800
I appreciate the spiritual qualities you bring to your work, which I think is powerful.
01:29:46.680
Now, I talk about Father Cause, but as he said, as you pray, move your feet.
01:29:52.480
And I think that's the difference, not just about holding hands and having a candlelight
01:29:56.060
It's about getting out of there and making things so manifesting ideals.
01:30:00.720
It's the notion that we have agency and we can shape the future.
01:30:04.780
And you've developed, obviously, that capacity in your own individual work.
01:30:11.780
It's just an incredible journey you've been on.
01:30:14.480
I appreciate your willingness to come all the way to Sacramento.
01:30:21.200
It's not all, you know, sunshine and what I mean.