Jocko Willink 2 | This Past Weekend #236
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1 hour and 39 minutes
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Summary
Retired Navy SEAL, author, and host of the Jocko Podcast, J.O. Willink joins us to talk about his life and career as a Navy SEAL and author. He also talks about his love of lobster and his love for Tropic Thunder.
Transcript
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Today's guest, it's his second time coming in here, and man, this guy, he reminds me of like the incredible, incredible, he reminds me actually of a little bit like the dad from the Incredibles, I think.
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I was going to say Incredible Hulk, but he's more evolved than that.
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He is retired Navy SEAL author and host of the Jocko Podcast, my friend Jocko Willink.
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Yeah, that's the thing about a lobster, man, is really the travel cost.
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People don't think about that when they see them.
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People don't think about the travel costs that have gone into getting that bastard running it back and forth.
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Dude, they have a new thing now where they'll have a skill crane, which is like, you know, a thing that kids put the money in and they can, you know, do the control, and you can get a lobster out.
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And it's usually at like a shitty bar or something.
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This one you'll end up in black face if you have too many cans on it.
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You know, you want to know why, because it's really a pina colada.
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I think that's the flavor, but I can't, you know, Jocko can't be calling something pina
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A little shock that you've already came out of the colada thing.
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It's okay, because you just call it Tropic Thunder, and you're good.
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Do people, when they meet you, expect you to be kind of violent, do you feel like?
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The funny thing is, people meet me, and they're like, you're a lot.
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People meet me, and they're like, I thought you were a lot taller.
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And then they, yeah, so they think I'm taller, because I'm only 5'11.
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And they think I'm going to be in black and white, because I always take pictures in
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That's kind of a joke, but no, I mean, so that's what I think people, I think when they finally
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Do you feel like that you, whenever you started podcasting, really, because so many people
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love your show, do you feel like that in the beginning you were different than you are
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Like it's, that you were more of an entertainer?
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Like, I'm just wondering what that journey's been like for you at all.
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I'm just doing the same kind of stuff I've always been doing.
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I've always been doing what I'm doing right now, but just that now there's a window to
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it for people to see what's going on and see kind of the life through my eyes.
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You can't be someone else on a podcast for hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of hours of
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You can't play a role, you know, you just, eventually the real you is there.
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And so for me, I've just always kind of been, that's just me, you know, that's just me.
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Do you, um, do you still, do you find that you're getting a little bit, you know, I know
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that Jocko doesn't age, but you know, if you looked at a calendar, you've been alive longer
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It was maybe a year and a half ago, a year ago.
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You're one of our first guests, I think actually, Nick, wasn't he?
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If I make him angry, we don't know what's going to happen.
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Um, uh, fuck, I forgot what I was even going to ask you, man.
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That's what you were talking about your memory.
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You were talking about your memory failing quite a bit.
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And that's why you keep making the same mistakes all the time.
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See, that's, I think I have a good emotional memory.
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It's like, uh, yeah, it's just like, yeah, I found myself just running in the same circles.
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Um, yeah, recently I've been trying to get a little bit more into, uh, finding just motivation.
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I've been trying to get more active into each, into my day each day.
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So then at least I'm like, not just like playing from behind all day.
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By active, do you mean like some kind of physical activity or just mean more proactive in the way you approach your day?
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So more physical activity instead of just thinking like the second I think, okay, I should go for a gym or I should go to the run or I should, you know, set, get an appointment for a trainer.
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You know, I know you don't have a trainer, but, um, it's like, yeah, you couldn't even imagine some soft man yelling at you with a whistle, dude.
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Um, but, but yeah, it's like, I just go ahead and do it.
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And then, and then just to try and approach this, my day a little bit more like just like, okay, I want to do this.
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I call that like going on offense instead of being on defense.
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When you think about something, thinking about doing it, just go do it.
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Don't even waste time thinking about even what you're going to do at the gym.
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You can figure it out when you get there or your trainer can tell you.
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Once it gets into my brain, that's where it's not good.
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You know, it's like when I'm in action, that's when, yeah, everything will work out.
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So, yeah, for recently, it's just been just something that I guess I've been struggling
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So, but now I feel like I'm getting a little bit more like, all right, let's just go, you
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And I know it, but sometimes it's like, I'll have learned a lesson and then it'll just kind
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And then I'll have to, or, you know, the vow, like the new practices I have in my life,
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sometimes they go by the wayside and it's like, I have to kind of recalibrate.
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Well, I always tell people you can't sit around and wait until you're motivated to do something.
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Cause if you sit around and wait until you're motivated to do something, who knows when
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It may come, but it may not come and it may only come twice a week.
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And if it's only coming twice a week, that's, that's a lot less than you actually need.
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You just put, put the discipline on, you know, you put the discipline on and when you wake
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And you, the crazy thing is you, speaking of emotional memory, you know, when you get
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If you go to the gym and you get your workout in or you do whatever thing, you know, you're
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It's a guarantee that when you get done, you're going to feel better.
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And, and put that thing into play so that you can actually, you know, get it done the
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I wonder why then sometimes like I'll know that I'll know how to help myself.
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Everyone, you know, what are you going to, who wants to eat the broccoli instead of the
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People are like, Oh, they're, they're going to eat the Twinkie.
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Everybody knows that it's bad for them, but they're just, I mean, what you, you ever been
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They just sell candy, straight sugar, main lining sugar, corn syrup, get it in the veins
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It's like, it's not like that's a, if you're behaving that way that you've been sentenced
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That's the baseline is that, yeah, it's not like, I'm fucked, man.
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That's why there's a difference between when we do and when we don't and kind of getting
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I feel like it gets into all, once it starts to seep into one aspect of my life, it kind
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Well, the good thing is, is when you put some discipline in your life, that seeps around
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So when you start doing things right, you start doing more things right.
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You have one of those weekends where you're like, you know what?
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I'm just, I think I'm just going to, I'm just going to order a pizza.
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Well then, so you order that pizza, you know, from wherever, Gray Block.
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You order that Gray Block hitter and you get the triple cheese and you get the meat, whatever.
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And you're, and so then you just dive into that thing and, and what does that do?
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Well, that kind of, you think, well, since I did that, I'm not even going to go for a
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run tonight because I'm just going to kick back.
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And then, you know, you just start going down that path.
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But when you say you're, when you're like about to dial the number and then you say,
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No, I'm just going to make a, make a salad right now and put a chicken in it and just
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And then you get done with that and you say, you know, I feel pretty good.
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I'm going to go out and get a little run, get a little run done.
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I'm going to clean those tootsie rolls out of my fucking backseat.
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Now that's not an excuse to say, okay, now I'm going to make 28 bad decisions in a row.
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And by the way, that's a mistake that people can make for like nine years.
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I wonder, especially, do you find as we get into more of like an automated, almost an automated humanity in a way,
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do you feel like it's becoming harder for people to make good choices for themselves?
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Do you ever have any thoughts like that or it's still?
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But it's a lot easier to order a pizza than it is to go out and huck a spear at a damn buffalo or whatever.
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And it's, and even today, I mean, you know, you live in LA, I live in San Diego.
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So if there's some evil food that you want to eat, you can get it and it's going to be delivered to your door.
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So even the resistance, you know, some people are like, well, you know, I'd really like to have.
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I'd really like to have a chocolate donut right now, but I don't want to go all the way to the store.
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Because now they're just, they're just on their phone and they got chocolate donuts stacking up at the front door.
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Do you, so, so if that's starting to occur, then, then there really is kind of becoming a line between if we're going to be strong enough to make choices for ourselves or if we're going to, if we're going to not, you know, like, do you think that?
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Or is that, you think it's all, it's just still the same and there's always been like, you know, back in the day and maybe a duck would wander up to your door.
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You'd be like, oh, I'll never have any duck, you know, and then a fucking mallard lands, you know, on your welcome mat and you're like, oh, you know.
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Yeah, I think we also, but I think we're more aware now of the effects, the negative effects of this bad stuff, you know, because let's face it.
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When I was a kid and I was thirsty, probably the same as you.
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When I was a kid and I told my mom, like, I'm thirsty, she'd be like, cool, there's Cokes in the fridge.
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Which I didn't even really compute that because I was like, it's food, right?
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Like, even my, I got one daughter that's only 10 years old.
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She'll like, look, oh, there's a ton of sugar in this.
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I mean, you know, my parents, it wasn't them being bad parents.
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It was like a, it was kind of like a Twinkie situation.
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But then the inside was a, was a creamy pita butter filling.
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So, you know, you could just, you could, and it wasn't no thing.
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God, it sounds like the way I'd like to be buried, actually.
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At least throwing a couple in there in the coffin.
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So, yeah, my mom would buy, you know, like they got the 10 pack right there.
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Yeah, my mom would buy like three of those and just be, hey, what are you going to have
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So, I think even though there's some things that make it easier to be less healthy nowadays,
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I think at least we're aware of it and we're not, we're not mainlining Coca-Cola in the
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Yeah, I remember, and as kids would make that sound after, ah, after we drank it, it
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But yeah, getting a Coke was, and your parents had Diet Coke and you thought that was crazy.
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Like, what fucking creepy senior is sipping that shit?
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I actually, I'm pretty sure I remember, I think I remember a world before Diet Coke.
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It was really, it had a very strange font on the camera.
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It was just like, it wasn't Coke, Lightens, Coke, everything else.
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Coke, yeah, and they're supposed to refresh you.
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But yeah, I guess, I wonder if there was any positives to it.
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Yeah, so what tastes good, what's making your sweetness.
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The first go is that there's something called monk fruit in it, which is-
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It's something like 87,000 times more sweet than sugar or something.
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I don't know what the number is, but it's something like that, so it's super sweet.
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And so we just put a little bit of that in there, and it makes it taste sweet, and it
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Yeah, there's too much caffeine in it for a kid.
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I don't wanna join the ROTC or something this afternoon.
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Would you guys, did you do ROTC when you were younger?
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Because that, I remember there was this group at our school, it was like ROTC.
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Nobody told us, first of all, what it was, right?
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Because suddenly after school, there would be these kids running around the school with
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wooden guns, and you'd be like, what is going on?
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For me, I wasn't into that part of the military.
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I wasn't into thinking, hey, let's march around.
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So what I actually got in trouble on the soccer team, because I was leading runs, and
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And I remember getting in trouble for singing the cadence of Ho Chi Minh is a son of a bitch,
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I grew up in a really small town in New England.
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I think there was 85 people in my graduating class or something like that.
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So, so was it more the leadership then that you, was it, I'm trying to figure out like
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Bro, do you remember when you were a little kid, like pretending that a stick was a gun?
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And I, that was just a real strong feeling for me.
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And when people would, when people would look and say, oh, they fucking elbow crawling across
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People see somebody walking around with a briefcase when you're a little kid and be
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like, wow, that person, like they're getting in a Cadillac, like, whoa, that person's something
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I only thought, whoa, that guy's got a machine gun or that guy's getting into a tank.
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We had so many wonderful questions that came in.
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I just want to get into some of them because they'll lead us into some conversation stuff
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I just wanted to reach out and say thank you for what you guys are doing.
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I do have a quick question, I guess, for both of you.
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I know in a few, I guess a podcast ago, you guys are talking about how you got to keep
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your emotions right and keep them under wraps, if you will.
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I was just diagnosed with severe sleep apnea, which I stopped breathing like 64 times an
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I'm a little machine now, so I'm getting that right.
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Trying to get my eating right with the keto and the whole good thing.
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But I've had these peaks and valleys of how I've gone up and down with my weight, struggling
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So I guess it might be a good person to ask, how do I keep my emotions in check?
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And how can I actually make this work so I make a lifestyle change forever?
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I can't imagine that, but you'd almost feel trapped, I think, at that weight.
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It'd be real easy to think, hey, you're trapped at that weight.
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And I would say, I always tell this to people, you can't let your emotions dictate what you're
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Well, it's kind of the conversation we just had.
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Because I mean, if you think about it, motivation is really just an emotion.
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You can't let your emotions dictate your actions.
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You've got to let your logic dictate your actions.
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And hey, it's not going to feel good every day.
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I just, this morning, I didn't feel like working out.
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I've been working out hard for the last few days.
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And I went down there and I went through the motions.
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You know, people say, you're just going through the motions.
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But that's better than not going through the motions because I got down there.
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But I went down there and did what I was supposed to do.
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That life you're going to have, you're going to have times when you feel good.
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And you can't let those things be so broad span.
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So you can't let those peaks be so high and those valleys be so low that it throws you
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When I feel down, it's like, okay, you know what?
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And the way you make it pass is through action.
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You said, you know, when I get going, that's when I'm good.
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Hey, Jason, if you're not feeling like it, you know what?
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Stop the thinking about it and just go and go for the walk.
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Go for, get on the treadmill, get whatever exercise you're going to start doing, start
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And the other thing is, look, man, this is a long war.
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This isn't a battle that you're going to fight one day, two days.
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In a campaign, World War II, four years of combat to get where you want to go.
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But part of, you don't have to think, hey, if only I could be at the end.
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I know it sounds crazy, but you know, you said, dang, Trapton.
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You know, I got friends that have been so severely wounded.
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I think, I mean, that's, yeah, I mean, that's it.
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It's like, you got to keep, you have to get moving.
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You know, you have to get, it's just, it's so funny, man, because that's one thing that
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I've, I think in the past year that I've definitely had an easier time with is when I don't feel
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good, even just recently, man, knowing, really starting to know at a real level, not just
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like hearing and hoping, but knowing that, that that will pass, that the, how I'm feeling
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Some of us are, you know, it's just like, we just have maybe thicker emotions or deeper
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Um, but it's almost like nobody told us in the beginning, like, Hey, how you feel isn't
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Like, yeah, you might feel like shit, but you just like, you just keep going, you know?
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It's like when I'll go to the gym and stuff and I don't want to, or when I'll go for a
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run, once I get to about eight minutes and you start to hit that sweat a little bit,
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about seven and a half minutes, that's when I start to actually start to almost feel ashamed
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of myself sometimes for even feeling good a little bit.
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Cause I was so set on like, Oh, I'm going to have such a shitty, you know, Oh, I'm going
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I'm going to have a shitty day and then I'll get kind of moving and stuff.
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And I'm like, fuck man, I'm almost enjoying myself a little bit.
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Cause people always ask, well, how did you get this way?
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And as I'm sitting here thinking about it, one of the things that you got, obviously
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So when I, I was in the SEAL teams and as I moved through my career, I moved into leadership
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Well, when I was in leadership positions, you can't, you can't be moping around because
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if your guys see you moping around or being negative, they're going to react, they're
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They're going to, they're going to take the way your actions are.
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So at some point pretty early, I realized, Oh, if I act like that, everyone's going to act
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So if I don't feel like doing something, the last thing I'm going to do is say, Hey guys,
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Oh man, I don't feel like doing, no, I would never let those words exit my mouth.
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And by the way, in the SEAL teams, that's kind of the way it is.
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You know, no one's like, no one will admit to, Hey, I'm cold right now.
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You never hear, you never hear someone say, Hey, I'm cold.
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And so then when you power through it and you power through it over and over and over
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They're not, they're not, they don't have to impact the way I'm actually going to act.
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It's like, it really is a muscle of breaking through that little barrier.
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If I'm not going to do this, it's so, it's crazy.
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Cause it feels so heavy sometimes, but it's so, it's so thin man.
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It's like, you know, like I'll, and then the rest of my day is always better when I
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Even though it sucks to leave your pillow in the morning, the rest of your day will absolutely
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That little barrier, the hardest part about the hardest part about the gym is going to
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The hardest part about not eating whatever sort of crap is sitting for bag of Cheetos
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If you just take it, throw it away and just walk away, you'll be fine.
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You're not gonna be thinking about it for an hour.
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How long, how long do you think if you just throw that bag of Cheetos away?
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So put yourself somewhere else, throw the Cheetos as far as you can throw them and walk away,
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What's interesting is you've really, your life has set you up with the real, you've got
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a journey in front of you kind of, which is kind of cool.
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Because a lot of, a lot of life, sometimes it's just, you're not finding your war sometimes,
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you know, some of it is, you know, some of that aimlessness sometimes.
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And I think, yeah, that emotional part is, is just don't believe those feelings sometimes
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I mean, I think one of Jocko's skills or one of his, you know, uh, skills besides being
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a beverage entrepreneur, it's actually pretty fucking good.
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I'm afraid if I have one more sip, somebody's going to parachute into the ceiling.
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Um, but part of, uh, one of his things that he seems to have, uh, really mastered is not
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letting that first voice have be the loudest, you know, and having your own voice against
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Why don't we, can we check back in with Jason maybe?
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And just kind of, and just see what's going on because I would just even love to know,
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you know, how, how you move forward, like what happens emotionally, no matter what direction
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you're kind of going in with your, you know, with some of your choices if, you know, what's
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making you feel down or, or, or what's making you feel up, you know?
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Um, we had one question I know about, uh, tapping out.
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I want to know from Jocko and Theo, I love you, boy.
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You're my boy, Theo, but I want to know how quick he thinks he'd be able to tap you out
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just because I think it'd be kind of interesting.
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I think some other people would want to know too, but you're still my boy, Theo.
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But, uh, how quick do you think, how, how quick does Jocko think he'd be able to tap you
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And then also, do you think you'd be able to tap him out?
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Like if you did like bath salts or something, cause I know that shit has people feeling
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I mean, I've trained, like I've had, you know, I've chased like a small animal around the
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And this is the thing, man, is I always trying to explain to people, it's not cause I'm a
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It's because, it's because I trained for a really long time.
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So let's say you and I were, let's say I never played basketball ever in my life.
00:28:47.280
How long, how, what I, do you think I'd even score one single basket?
00:28:50.800
I bet you'd score one based on some of your abilities.
00:28:53.020
So one single basket and you beat me 11 to one.
00:29:05.000
Not just for me, but anyone that trained Jiu Jitsu.
00:29:12.300
What if I was wearing like a real slippery suit or something?
00:29:14.920
Uh, that might gain you a little bit of time, but we're talking sub one minute.
00:29:28.800
Then that's where that, that's where that little, little hesitation.
00:29:34.280
When I first trained, I was, when I first trained, I just graduated from seal training.
00:29:46.940
It's the most elite training in the world and all this stuff at 19.
00:29:50.520
And so this, this old master chief, like the oldest guy I'd ever seen.
00:30:02.780
I was looking at him like, grandpa, you got nothing for me.
00:30:08.100
So he goes, he goes, you know, who wants to learn how to fight?
00:30:12.200
So he brings us out, brings us on the mat and just lined up.
00:30:25.580
That's why people, that's why, that's why people talk about it a lot.
00:30:28.180
Because when it first happens to you, you can't even believe it.
00:30:30.460
And so, and immediately when you get tapped out for the first time, when you're 19 years
00:30:34.520
old and you're like, oh, yeah, I can take anybody.
00:30:49.800
Bro, a 19 year old piss is fucking, you know, testosterone's in that shit.
00:30:59.480
Theoretically, I like where you're at, but you're not really there scientifically.
00:31:06.040
And jujitsu is a really powerful, powerful thing.
00:31:13.300
I've been trying what I've been focusing on this year.
00:31:16.660
Well, one of my fears is that I'm not flexible enough.
00:31:26.340
I have people that come to my gym that start jujitsu when they're 52 years old.
00:31:37.420
You know, you don't want to train with like some 19 year old kid that's been training for
00:31:47.440
Don't go with him because he's going to take your arm and put it on his wall at home
00:32:00.600
But other than that, if you find some people that were going to relax, it'd be cool.
00:32:03.340
And yeah, you should definitely start training jujitsu.
00:32:07.680
I mean, I hope you're doing like some kind of stretching protocol.
00:32:20.980
But that's why I do know why because stretching is so unsatisfying.
00:32:25.620
I'm if there's the the the Achilles heel, the Achilles heel for me, or just the thing
00:32:31.120
that I really don't like doing, even though I know it's beneficial is I don't like stretching
00:32:35.000
So because there's just you just don't you don't get done.
00:32:37.500
You know where I said when you always feel better.
00:32:41.940
I don't I'm not walking around like, yo, I just got done stretching out.
00:32:49.860
But yeah, if you got a bad back, you should definitely there's protocols you can do that
00:33:00.720
I think just that kind of I think I could recently I realized I need to put more things
00:33:05.340
into my life that are just fun, you know, exciting, just new adventures that keep me
00:33:10.620
kind of like motivated and keep me doing things.
00:33:13.180
Like sometimes all I even do is just either podcasting or to stand up comedy and it's
00:33:16.840
great, but it's not like sometimes adding to my experience.
00:33:22.360
I love jujitsu because it's always you can always get better.
00:33:31.220
That's one of the things that makes it really cool is just how much it evolves all the time.
00:33:39.660
You always feel like I could get a little bit better.
00:33:48.000
Jocko, what was a light hunt for the first time with John Dudley, Cameron Haynes, Joe
00:33:57.140
Just got back from a hunt up in northern Utah, a bow hunt.
00:34:02.240
And I mean, you couldn't really ask for a better crew of people.
00:34:07.540
Yeah, I don't know, Mr. Dudley, but Haynes is very intense.
00:34:22.780
It was just awesome from the whole experience was awesome.
00:34:32.640
So just to clarify, and people, there's like, you know how in different parts of the world,
00:34:41.620
different things in the world, there's like a little subculture in there, right?
00:34:46.300
So like you're a comedian and I'm sure there's people that are like, well, you know, you got
00:34:51.160
such a good deal because you got to this thing and people look down on these.
00:34:56.620
I didn't really know too much about it, but you know, we got, I got the luck and the blessing
00:35:03.460
It's something called private land, which means not everyone can go hunt there.
00:35:08.320
So there's more animals than there is if you do something called a public hunt.
00:35:13.740
So public hunt is like you're out there and anybody can hunt there.
00:35:25.200
You might not even see an animal and the animal that you're hunting for.
00:35:29.980
So I got really lucky, really blessed to, to be tied in with this group and, and go out
00:35:47.220
I would say there's something primal about doing jujitsu, right?
00:35:48.940
Like you're fighting, you know, when you were a little kid and you, you and your friends
00:35:52.580
would just get sticks and, and put on helmets and just go to go to war with each other.
00:35:59.520
I mean, that's what we used to do and that's what kid, that's what little boys do that.
00:36:03.860
So there's something primal and instinctive about just war.
00:36:10.820
So you're out, you're stalking, you're sneaking around.
00:36:13.780
It has a lot of correlations to my old job being in the Navy where you're, you're trying
00:36:20.220
You're, you're trying to maneuver on these animals.
00:36:24.080
You've got a raccoon under a spotlight and you're like, tell us what you know.
00:36:34.240
And, you know, going up there, it was really nice for me because I'm very busy all the time.
00:36:39.220
I always got stuff going on and we got up there and like the internet didn't even, it worked.
00:36:45.520
Like there was one little hill you could go over where you'd get internet for, for three
00:36:51.360
But I just, because of that, I just said, you know, I'm just going to shut this thing
00:36:55.300
So it was really nice for me to be up there and, and then you have one mission, you know,
00:37:00.500
and that's, what's cool about, that's one of the best things about my old job.
00:37:06.600
You go on deployment, you pack up your bags, you leave the world behind and you have one
00:37:13.540
And that is to close with and destroy the enemy, take care of your guys.
00:37:18.420
So that's what this, that's what my first experience of hunting was.
00:37:23.540
My, I'm, I'm disconnected from the outer world and I have one mission.
00:37:32.280
I mean, those are like a big, you know, that's a unique group that you're with.
00:37:35.440
It's a, it's the thing is, I mean, all the, all those guys are just great guys, man.
00:37:41.880
You know, um, I've known, I've known Joe Rogan for a while and people, oh yeah, I'm sure people
00:37:49.620
And it's like, he's like just exactly what you see is what you get.
00:37:56.060
Same thing with, I mean, Dudley has invested personally in like, he wanted me to get into
00:38:03.360
And again, this is where it sounds crazy that I could be so lucky in my life that one of
00:38:07.740
the best archery, uh, hunters in the world would say, Hey, I want you to get an archery.
00:38:20.080
And then my buddy, Andy stump, which, you know, Andy and I, we, we worked together a little
00:38:24.180
bit in the seal teams, but you know, I just being out there with one other seal, you know,
00:38:28.820
we have, we just have a connection that, you know, I, I, you know, you can only have with
00:38:38.000
And for me, you know, you talked about getting in this new stuff for me, it was totally new.
00:38:45.440
And, and then I had the opportunity to, to train and then go out and do it.
00:38:50.640
And I appreciate, I appreciate everyone that I just mentioned in that group.
00:38:55.160
Was the experience where you, um, when you're, so when you're getting direction, like on something
00:39:02.740
Like coming from a place where it's like, you know, you were, you know, you're used to
00:39:06.160
having a good knowledge base of what's going on in your field or do you find yourself to
00:39:10.720
Do you find yourself having a tough time being a student?
00:39:15.020
I have no problem at all saying, look, I have no idea, you know, tell me what to do.
00:39:29.080
I can see you just fucking uncle Rico and that bitch over the mountain.
00:39:31.640
You know, I can see you just being like, look how far, like Cupid, you know, really good
00:39:35.940
Like Cupid's been in an anytime fitness for a couple hundred years.
00:39:39.100
You know, I can see you just firing that thing.
00:39:41.000
Obviously the better, the better you are, the further range you can go, you know?
00:39:44.740
So, but I would say the average normal hunters probably trying to go 50 something meters,
00:39:51.440
you know, something like that is around, you know, that's, that's, that's me.
00:39:56.080
But yeah, there's, I'm trying to get, that's a little video of me trying to get tuned up
00:40:05.720
And did you find like, did you start to notice that you lost, is it a really fine line between
00:40:11.620
like how accurate you can be and the amount of strength you're using and stuff like that?
00:40:19.660
So this, you can't like, just like anything, man, just like anything.
00:40:34.880
And, and you think, oh, you know, cause I can do like, like for instance, I can do a
00:40:40.980
And you think, oh, you know, you can just grab on the rocks and climb.
00:40:44.820
There's so much technique involved that you have to learn the technique just like basketball.
00:40:54.060
And, and you just have to do it over and over again.
00:40:59.280
Did you find that as the, as the week progressed, the time you guys were out there, that it got
00:41:05.460
We were patrolling through the woods, you know?
00:41:09.060
Again, I was out with John Dudley, who's a master hunter and just, and it's, it's awesome because
00:41:15.260
you're on patrol and I keep calling it on patrol.
00:41:18.340
But yeah, I suppose it's called, we were hunting, we were walking, but for me, my mind, I was
00:41:33.180
Dude, imagine sneaking a jingle bell out there with you.
00:41:38.900
No, we weren't bringing jingle bells out there.
00:41:40.580
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He was a 22-year-old who knocked up his 19-year-old girlfriend, and he felt like he ruined her life.
00:44:53.720
And, uh, he actually had the baby at the end of August, and we were going to call and
00:44:59.180
Yeah, because we played a good video, and you gave him some good suggestions and stuff.
00:45:02.960
We thought it would be, uh, just kind of a neat moment for him.
00:45:41.620
Sorry, there's a baby screaming in the background.
00:45:45.900
Yeah, you got that O-Spring rocking back there, huh?
00:45:53.220
Dude, I just wanted to say thanks for reaching out a while back.
00:45:56.400
I know you were thinking that you had the kid on the way, and we had Jocko willing, we had
00:46:05.940
him offer up a video of some suggestions and stuff, and then I have Jocko here in the studio.
00:46:11.100
So I wanted to just kind of follow up and see how fatherhood's going for you.
00:46:14.700
And Jocko's got a couple of enlistees that have come out of his own scrotum, I guess,
00:46:36.540
First of all, I just want to say thanks for calling, Theo.
00:46:48.080
It's like being in every high school class you've ever been in all at once forever, and
00:46:57.520
Dude, I was looking at his Instagram yesterday, and I was nervous.
00:47:02.700
I gained two pounds of muscle mass looking at his Instagram a couple of weeks ago.
00:47:21.960
So, I mean, obviously I'm very nervous to do this, so you might have to ask me more questions
00:47:35.820
I mean, I think people make being a father or parent out to be way harder than it actually
00:47:48.560
There's, like, all you really do is you cuddle with her, you feed her, change her diaper,
00:48:00.400
Well, I mean, it sounds like you're keeping her alive, so we got that going for us, which
00:48:07.260
What were some of your fears like, and have some of your fears gone away since the baby's
00:48:13.840
Like, what's some of that experience been like?
00:48:19.560
Before, I was just really worried about, I don't know, just providing for and just being
00:48:27.840
a good dad, because, like I said in the original calling, my dad wasn't there.
00:48:32.520
Like, I was afraid maybe when I met her that I would be just like him and just, like, just
00:48:39.600
get out of her life, but I always had this feeling that, like, I could be a good dad, but
00:48:48.020
So, I mean, after having her, it's just been super easy.
00:48:58.260
I mean, my fears have kind of gone away entirely, honestly.
00:49:07.180
We build up the fears in our own head, and once we actually get put in a position, you
00:49:13.200
realize, hey, there's not that much to be afraid of, and you can proceed on and keep
00:49:20.680
Yeah, it's pretty powerful, man, to think that, you know, that your life was, or your
00:49:24.340
childhood, some of it has been one way, and then to think that you are going to have
00:49:29.960
That's real powerful to hear that, I feel like.
00:49:46.500
Think about taking care of a plant that's taking care of a kid.
00:49:53.460
I'll buy an orchid with a strong heartbeat and see how it plays out.
00:50:04.280
So, you were worried about the implications for your girlfriend.
00:50:07.960
You said she had a bright future in front of her, either she was in law school or medical
00:50:14.140
Have you kind of made a plan where she can continue on and down that path?
00:50:20.520
So, originally, she was going to UMass Amherst.
00:50:37.480
I mean, so you're kind of digging a hole here, bro.
00:50:40.860
Why don't you guys finish this question and answer?
00:50:43.520
Yeah, how are you feeling about, yeah, the concerns you had for your baby mama?
00:50:49.480
Well, obviously, that was my second main concern behind the baby.
00:50:54.560
Like, I just kind of felt like I ruined their life.
00:50:57.420
Like, you've got someone pregnant, and they have all these big things coming ahead.
00:51:07.900
But she did have to drop out of UMass to go to a local community college, which it still bothers me.
00:51:20.480
So, I think everything just kind of fell into place.
00:51:32.000
I mean, I still feel bad about it, but it worked out.
00:51:40.020
And plus, she gets a couple credit hours probably for nursing that baby.
00:51:51.960
Jaco has a new drink out that you can nurse as well.
00:51:56.740
This pineapple coconut, I might fucking relapse, dude.
00:52:13.380
We've seen you a little bit of this mind blast.
00:52:20.480
It sounds like you're definitely more in a position of, what would you say?
00:52:26.440
you have the vision of what the path of your life is going to be like, right?
00:52:31.580
Everyone's got this vision of what it's going to be like.
00:52:34.380
And the chances of you actually being able to stay on that path are next to none.
00:52:40.200
And if every time you get pushed off the path a little bit, you just surrender,
00:52:44.200
well, that's where you end up in a horrible place.
00:52:47.480
But what you did, and you're setting a great example for other people,
00:52:50.320
you and your girl have said, look, we had this path laid out.
00:53:10.880
And you're going to look back, and you're going to be able to tell your little girl,
00:53:17.460
And these are the sacrifices we made, and it was worth every second.
00:53:21.600
What your girl's doing is awesome, and the end result will be infinitely better
00:53:26.680
and more rewarding than it would have been had you just had everything served up to you
00:53:31.420
on a silver platter like you had originally thought it would be.
00:53:36.400
Will, obviously you haven't been listening to this whole episode because it's not even out yet,
00:53:40.480
but Jocko and I have been sitting here for about 40 minutes talking about stuff,
00:53:43.540
and a lot of it's been just how some of our behaviors, and even I struggle with this a lot,
00:53:48.940
but how some of our behaviors, once we start to set some new good behaviors for ourselves,
00:54:00.800
So the next thing that comes along for you, dude, I can't, after this,
00:54:03.960
it's probably going to be a damn cakewalk, bro.
00:54:05.680
You're going to have fucking, you know, funny bones on your feet.
00:54:16.560
He was talking about something like, let's not just have a good day.
00:54:22.660
And like just building those patterns and those steps.
00:54:25.920
So, that really spoke to me and like everything Jocko was saying and what you're saying.
00:54:31.080
Like when Jocko was just speaking, I got the chills because like, damn, man.
00:54:38.860
Yeah, it took a lot of what he said the first time and just now like it's pretty unbelievable
00:54:51.120
Well, it's funny, man, because, yeah, I mean, I have some of the same fears in my own life
00:54:58.160
We're all out here just trying our best and stuff like that.
00:55:02.980
And, yeah, dude, you'll definitely won't get any sleep after we send you a case of this
00:55:34.240
You should have had a cigar with Bill Burr because that dude was pissed.
00:55:38.220
Yeah, that dude, trust me, bro, he already burnt me at a couple of my ends.
00:56:03.820
I actually sent your producer her little Instagram.
00:56:08.520
So, if you want to look at pictures of babies, then you got her.
00:56:32.100
I'll send you out some kids' books for the little baby.
00:56:38.400
Yeah, and actually, one of them says right on the front where there's a will.
00:57:03.400
Producer Nick last night, he was loving pictures of her.
00:57:06.000
I think he liked every single one on my Instagram.
00:57:09.620
Producer Nick's going to be, obviously, indicted soon.
00:57:40.640
That's crazy because he called and he was like, he didn't.
00:57:44.240
And then you hear the baby in the background and you're like, that's a live grenade, bro.
00:57:54.060
Let me think about it for a second until I can really feel what I'm scared about.
00:58:07.980
I just don't know if I want my life to change that much sometimes if I'm ready.
00:58:18.840
But then part of it, like, yeah, I just think about what am I scared of, man?
00:58:25.120
Because I just want to get it right because I think about it sometimes.
00:58:33.360
I mean, the look on your face when you heard that, your eyes got big.
00:58:38.860
Yeah, like somebody just made their own little Jurassic Park.
00:58:45.100
Judging by the look on your face, my answer is negative.
00:58:52.160
Yeah, I think, but I think I want to be a good parent.
00:58:55.780
I think sometimes I could use, and I don't know if this is a negative way to think about it,
00:58:59.000
but I could use a child because sometimes I think it would give, because I like to care
00:59:04.780
Plus, your dad was like 87 when he had you, right?
00:59:18.740
So if I even see a girl like, yeah, my dad was 38 years older.
00:59:23.620
So if I see like a nine-month-old, you know, even baby Ileana, I'm not hitting on her,
00:59:29.140
but I do want to know what her work ethic is like, you know?
00:59:40.700
We have a couple of more good questions that came in.
01:00:02.280
Couldn't decide on anything else, so there you have it.
01:00:08.400
from listening to your podcast and just some of the podcasts you've been on,
01:00:15.320
it seems to me as if you may be a little bit emotionally detached as well as very self-critical.
01:00:23.940
I find these two traits in myself to be very prevalent.
01:00:27.160
My question is, do you find that to be a benefit or detriment in your life?
01:00:32.700
Or on the personal side, I find it difficult sometimes to relate to my spouse, my kids, my friends, my family,
01:00:40.080
because I just simply do not understand where they're coming from on an emotional level.
01:00:44.520
So my question is, do you feel this way or have you figured out the balance between the two?
01:01:00.400
You know, I definitely, this sounds like I'm a crazy person or whatever, but I try and keep control over my emotions,
01:01:11.000
as we've been talking about this whole time, right?
01:01:22.180
In fact, I don't really even argue with my wife, you know?
01:01:24.600
Like, hey, if she's getting emotional about something, cool.
01:01:27.320
I just like accept the emotions, try and absorb a little bit, and then figure out how I can deescalate the situation.
01:01:39.760
I mean, if you listen to my podcast all the time, you can hear sometimes I get very emotional when I'm on there
01:01:47.360
because I'm having memories of my friends or things like that.
01:01:56.580
But so I don't think I'm too emotionally detached.
01:02:00.500
And then the other thing is being self-critical.
01:02:05.000
I, you know, I'm definitely critical of myself, but I think I've found a good balance there.
01:02:14.900
If you're just constantly beating yourself down, that is not positive.
01:02:21.160
I will look at myself being so critical of myself that it's causing a negative reaction.
01:02:34.600
And same thing when you talk about not relating to your family or whatever.
01:02:41.080
You know, a guy's like, hey, I'm having a hard time relating with my family.
01:02:57.280
You need to adapt your life around your family.
01:03:02.580
Here's something interesting that I said the other day.
01:03:06.720
I wrote probably 95% of the pages in all my books when every single person in my family
01:03:16.780
I didn't sit there and, hey, everyone leave me alone because I'm trying to do this.
01:03:22.900
No one's awake in my family when I'm working out in the morning.
01:03:26.520
So I sacrifice things so that I can be there and do what I got to do for my family.
01:03:36.480
So your journey and what you're doing, they don't need to conflict.
01:03:41.860
I don't demand that everyone is on board the same bus that I'm on board.
01:03:48.200
Hey, I'll, I'll take, I'll get on the bus before I get on my bus and then I drive where I'm
01:03:54.280
And then when my little, you know, when my daughter, my oldest daughter was a ballerina.
01:04:05.300
That's not, I'm not into that, but I went to some damn recitals.
01:04:12.160
And I wasn't, I wasn't, I wasn't, I could see you like 200 yards away with binoculars.
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And of course I was a little bit critical sometimes.
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That pirouette ain't going to stop a fucking bullet.
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My, my daughter, that was a ballerina got more injuries.
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It's, she got more injuries from ballet than my other daughter did from wrestling and gymnastics.
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It's a highly, and that's what I, that's what I realized.
01:04:59.240
I used to have to, you ever seen those things, those like massage things that you roll out?
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It's like little, little, uh, little rollers on a stick.
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And she would come, she's like 12 years old, 12 years old.
01:05:14.020
And she'd be sitting there with tears coming out.
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If you were rolling out the calves, bro, she probably got three foot of calves on each foot.
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So like Charleston Jews going on down there below her knees.
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So you're not sacrificing the other things that you have to do and your other responsibilities.
01:05:45.020
Occasionally it's like, Hey, you know, maybe I don't need to watch 14 recitals in a row.
01:05:50.480
Cause you know, the kids will do the play or whatever.
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And they show at night, whatever, six nights, not going to six.
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Holler when father Drosselmeyer's in the building, you know, otherwise I'm out.
01:06:03.260
But I think a part of, do you think though, that your, your mentality, cause you have to
01:06:08.300
have some elements of, you know, you have to have, I think probably more like grr than,
01:06:18.260
you know, do you think that it's tough sometimes to, is it tough to manage?
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Which I think maybe, and I'm not saying that's not what he's asking you, but I'm just saying
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like, here's the thing, what could he be struggling with?
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I wrote that book right there called the dichotomy of leadership there.
01:06:36.300
You, you have to balance all these different things in your life.
01:06:39.580
So, so as a leader, right, as a leader, as a leader, you gotta, you gotta communicate
01:06:59.500
You know, everyone looks at me and goes, oh, you're super hyper aggressive.
01:07:15.260
And so it's the same thing with your, with your personal life.
01:07:19.300
If, if I'm okay, I want to, I want to build my business, whatever it is.
01:07:24.820
And the reason I'm doing that is I still, so I can make more money.
01:07:27.380
If I make more money, I can, can, can provide for my family.
01:07:35.640
Then you look up in six months, you look up in a year, you don't have a family anymore.
01:07:42.720
The other side of the spectrum is you're like, well, I can't do any overtime today.
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Cause I gotta, I gotta go to the recital and the, the practice recital.
01:07:51.140
And now you look up in six months or a year and you don't have a job and you can't provide.
01:07:57.000
You have to find the balance with how critical you are of yourself.
01:07:59.200
You have to find the balance of how detached you're going to be.
01:08:01.740
If you get to, you know, he talked about being emotionally detached.
01:08:06.680
You can, you looking at your kids like with a stone cold face all the time.
01:08:13.540
If you work for me, if we were in a seal platoon together, which I know is an unlikely scenario,
01:08:18.620
but if we were in a seal platoon together and all I did was, was no connection, just said,
01:08:23.200
Hey, here's what, here's what the next mission is.
01:08:24.920
After a while, you're like, this guy doesn't care about me.
01:08:29.240
You're not going to put forth the extra effort.
01:08:30.820
So one of the most important things that you have to do with the people you work with up
01:08:34.920
and down the chain of command is form a relationship with them.
01:08:39.680
If you're not forming a good relationship and maintaining a good relationship with your family,
01:08:43.100
you're going to look up and you're not going to have a family anymore.
01:08:46.000
So with everything that we're talking about in life, you have to maintain balance.
01:08:51.440
You have to, when you get out of balance and you'll feel it, you'll feel it when you feel
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it, when you feel like, Oh, my wife doesn't want me to, to, to, to go to jujitsu again
01:09:01.220
You don't have to think my wife doesn't ever want me to do jujitsu again.
01:09:05.480
You can say, Oh, I have to ease back a little bit.
01:09:08.100
I got to, maybe if I'm going to go, I got to spend a little bit of extra time in the morning
01:09:12.420
or I got, you got to, you got to find the balance.
01:09:16.020
You don't have to go extreme one way or the other.
01:09:19.640
They go extreme in one direction and then anyone that's in their way, they mow them
01:09:24.140
And that is not the longterm results of that is never good.
01:09:28.180
And I think leadership as well as leading, you're leading.
01:09:30.940
It's not just you, you know, with leadership, it's a group.
01:09:38.440
And in the long run, if you're like, this is what's cool.
01:09:43.680
A guy asked me a little while ago, he says, he's a guy that we have a big event, a leadership
01:09:50.920
We do it like two or three times a year and people come and this one guy, he helps us out
01:09:55.760
So I see him every time we do one of these really good guy.
01:10:01.840
And he sees that I'm writing 14 books and 97 podcasts and all the stuff I'm doing.
01:10:06.280
And he goes, you know, I've been watching how much you do, how much you produce, just
01:10:13.380
He says, I don't understand how you have enough time for your family.
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And I was like, you know, that's a good question.
01:10:25.860
And I didn't have, usually I'm, I'm like prompt with answers because I get asked questions
01:10:33.520
And I thought about it and what I realized was, and I came back to him the next day and
01:10:40.740
And I said, I, my family at this point in time doesn't really need me that much.
01:10:52.700
My wife is like really independent and emotionally independent.
01:10:58.600
And she doesn't need, you know, she sees me and we're just totally good to go.
01:11:02.100
We have fun and she knows, oh, you're going to go do something.
01:11:06.100
You know, my oldest daughter, she's completely, you know, she's 20 years old.
01:11:13.000
Actually, our kids, you know, she's at that age.
01:11:18.160
My 18 year old daughter, my 18 year old daughter, same thing.
01:11:22.420
She, you know, she'll text me and like, but she's, I have a 16 year old son.
01:11:27.420
He's fully self functional, like self supportive.
01:11:32.900
And then the only one that's a little bit needy is, is my 10 year old.
01:11:36.660
Cause she's 10 and you know, she's still a 10 year old.
01:11:38.580
So, so that's where I can focus my efforts because she's younger.
01:11:41.920
So my point in saying all that is, is that through the years I balanced, you know, I would just constantly balance and, and, you know, raise the kids where they are self sufficient, where they aren't relying on me to do everything for them.
01:11:57.560
My wife's not relying on, you know, my wife will handle stuff, you know, whatever it is, she can handle it.
01:12:04.220
If you pick an incapable wife, dude, that's going to be sheer.
01:12:06.580
And the most part of that capable is emotionally capable because when you end up with a, a spouse, whether it's the man or the woman that relies on you to make them feel good emotionally, that's the one that will pick you apart.
01:12:24.060
So in the end of the day, I guess what I'm saying is you got to have balance.
01:12:28.340
And the point I was going to say with this guy is, is Jace, you, while you're investing in your family, you're building them, you're making your family stronger so that they can stand on their own.
01:12:40.320
So that in the long run, you have more freedom in your life because you, you won't have this family unit that's totally relying on you for every little thing.
01:12:49.080
Which is, by the way, makes them better off in the world.
01:12:52.780
When they grow up, they go out and they dominate the world because they're capable.
01:12:59.160
I don't think anybody taught me shit growing up.
01:13:13.320
You know, I heard you talking on the podcast about how like your first girl is sort of like the hot hose water.
01:13:21.100
And I was thinking, well, that doesn't really make any sense.
01:13:22.960
And then I realized it does, because here's what happens with the hot hose water.
01:13:25.840
When you first take, when you first start drinking it, it's all hot and uncomfortable.
01:13:31.840
But then all of a sudden you get to the cold part and you're like, oh, yeah.
01:13:39.680
And all of a sudden you get kind of through that to the coldness.
01:13:44.060
So, yeah, you do remember that first hose pipe.
01:13:54.700
Dude, one of my first girlfriends had real short hair, dude, and she looked like a young man, you know.
01:13:59.880
And I don't know if I really wanted to be her boyfriend, but I don't know if I had a choice.
01:14:05.480
Oh, bro, she used to, when the school bus would come, it would bring my brother and his friends from the bigger school and they'd pick us up after.
01:14:11.440
She would pick me up and start making out with me.
01:14:23.520
And they would fucking call us all kind of names and shit.
01:14:29.720
Yeah, I think, I don't even know if she went to our school.
01:14:37.520
But God, man, that was fucking, everybody has their Vietnam, you know.
01:14:48.520
One quick Patreon, and then we'll end on a video question.
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What war movie or TV show is the most realistic based on his combat experiences?
01:15:00.720
And he's from, he has like nine brothers and sisters.
01:15:04.500
And I've met him at a group of shows from Oklahoma.
01:15:10.320
Like, almost every week I want to pick his question.
01:15:19.120
One of them's called Band of Brothers, which you may or may not have seen.
01:15:24.440
It's about the first 506, or the second 506 battalion and fighting and easy company.
01:15:28.580
It's fantastic from a leadership perspective, from a tactical perspective.
01:15:34.140
And then they made, a few years later, they made one for the Pacific theater, which is
01:15:40.140
And it's based on several books, which are outstanding books.
01:15:43.700
I've covered all the books that that series is based on on my podcast.
01:15:50.820
And the first time I watched it, I was, I was, I remember I was on a plane and I had
01:15:56.720
like the noise canceling headsets on and I was staring at like my iPad.
01:16:05.020
So I was staring at this thing, you know, four inches from my face.
01:16:09.880
And what, what they did in that, what, what makes me always remember how impactful that,
01:16:15.940
that series was to me was they land on this Island and you're expecting this big, crazy
01:16:24.440
And so it's showing them patrolling through the jungle.
01:16:27.420
They're patrolling, basically looking for the Japanese and the Japanese, you know, had
01:16:31.640
No, they had decided that they were going to let the Americans land and then hit them.
01:16:37.480
So these scenes where they're just patrolling through the jungle and you, and you know that
01:16:43.260
they're waiting, you're waiting for the enemy to attack.
01:16:46.680
And when I, my, my last deployment to Iraq, I was in this place called Ramadi.
01:16:51.540
And when you would walk down the streets or I'd be watching my guys walk down the streets
01:16:57.020
or watching some soldiers or watching some Marines.
01:16:59.120
And the whole time you're watching, you're, you're waiting, you're just waiting for the
01:17:04.740
enemy to attack and you're waiting for bullets to come down the street.
01:17:08.880
And so I had watching that, I had that same kind of anxiety and that's when I realized how
01:17:21.420
And those are, those are probably my favorite, uh, war.
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I don't want to call them movies, but they're scenes or, or it's a mini series.
01:17:33.060
I can, yeah, I can, uh, I can really imagine that if it, if it can take somebody like you
01:17:37.760
kind of to that place with that tension, it's so interesting.
01:17:40.740
It's like, yeah, combat is one thing, but that the energy before something happens sometimes
01:17:48.800
Knowing someone's intent, knowing someone else kind of knows that intent, but they don't
01:17:53.920
really know where the, the intersection is going to occur.
01:17:59.900
And like we just talked to will the anticipation of something is always worse.
01:18:05.140
And so when you know that it was coming and when, when you were on patrol in Ramadi, you
01:18:15.860
And from a leadership perspective, your biggest fear for my biggest fear was always, you know,
01:18:22.760
And that's, that's, it's the, it's a sickening feeling in your gut and there's nothing you
01:18:27.720
I mean, you do everything you can to mitigate risk, but you just, you, you just, and I had
01:18:32.260
that same feeling watching the, the scenes from the Pacific where they're patrolling through
01:18:43.640
It depends on the situation that whoever that leader is in that moment is going to step up,
01:18:51.260
Was there ever a moment where you had ordered guys into a certain situation and, and something
01:18:55.660
happened and you're like, and it fell on you kind of, or the guy looked at you even
01:19:02.880
So the weird thing about special operations for us on that deployment was if every mission
01:19:13.680
that we did was a mission that I had said, yes, we should do this.
01:19:19.620
So that's every one of these situations where one of my guys got wounded or one of my guys
01:19:28.940
I mean, it's a hundred percent because I'm the one that's approving the plan.
01:19:33.440
I'm the one that's saying, yes, this is what we're going to do.
01:19:35.780
And that's, that's one of the, that's one of the different types of stress that you get
01:19:41.800
Cause in a conventional unit, generally not always, but they're, they're getting a little
01:19:50.400
You can figure out how you want to do it, but this is what you're going to do.
01:19:52.480
So no one was really tasking me most of the time.
01:20:00.900
So yeah, that's something that you, you're right there with them.
01:20:05.000
It depends on the, it depends on the situation.
01:20:11.080
Sometimes they were in elements as small as five guys and they'd be out there.
01:20:14.700
Sometimes I have three or four elements out on the battlefield at the same time.
01:20:17.920
I would be back in a tactical operation center.
01:20:20.080
Sometimes I'd go, if it was a big, giant kind of combined operation where we were working
01:20:24.600
with a lot of different units, I'd go out with them.
01:20:26.940
Sometimes I'd go out with them just to go out with them.
01:20:28.940
But sometimes the best place, most of the time, the best place for me to control what
01:20:32.960
was happening was in a tactical operation center.
01:20:36.460
And so, yeah, it's, it's one of those things that as a leader, I mean, you're, you're ultimately
01:20:44.680
responsible for everything that happens and that's a, that's a heavy burden to bear.
01:20:47.920
And it's the one that's, it's one that you're going to have to live with for the rest of
01:20:51.380
And it's, it's one that I wake up with every single day and I'll, I'm not, I'm not mad
01:20:59.520
In fact, to me, that burden is, is a reminder of the guys that made the ultimate sacrifice.
01:21:05.280
And I'm honored to have had the experience of serving with them.
01:21:12.120
I can't imagine just the, uh, just the camaraderie, the, the repercussions of such severe camaraderie
01:21:23.160
as going, uh, to war with people, you know, it's, it's, it's, yeah, it's something that
01:21:30.300
I, yeah, I couldn't even imagine, you know, it's something that I could even recreate emotionally
01:21:34.400
or inside of my own brain, really, you know, it's, it's, it's pretty fascinating because
01:21:41.800
Um, it's just such a, there's such a finale, this, your finality is right there on the line.
01:21:49.180
Um, yeah, and you do, you develop the strongest brotherhood with the people you're on the
01:21:59.120
And we were working with alongside soldiers and Marines all the time and the, the relationships
01:22:04.300
that we developed with them, you know, every time someone gets, which in Ramadi, there was
01:22:09.160
a guy get, there was guys getting wounded and killed every day, you know, and you're going
01:22:12.520
to their memorial services and you're seeing, seeing the, the angel flights, which they call
01:22:18.140
them as, which is when they, they, they take their bodies out on the last, you know, on
01:22:27.140
And it's one of those things that, I mean, there's nothing for me, there's nothing else
01:22:36.680
There's just nothing, nothing in life will, will impact me as much, leave me with as much
01:22:43.700
And at the same time, as much sorrow as those days for me.
01:22:49.760
And that's the way most guys end up feeling about the, about being in the, being in the
01:22:57.160
Did it go into experiences like that where people are losing their lives and people are
01:23:02.160
losing their abilities and their capabilities in war and in, you know, in combat, does, did
01:23:08.900
it, has it adjusted your faith at all over the years or has it affected that at all?
01:23:13.960
Or has it created it or, you know, the biggest thing is from what I've seen, right?
01:23:22.100
When you see, when you're in war, you get to see the absolute best in human beings and
01:23:30.540
you get to see the absolute worst in human beings.
01:23:37.240
So if you want to talk about Satan, you want to talk about pure evil, you, when you go to
01:23:43.380
You, when you face an enemy, like, like the insurgents in the battle or Monty that were
01:23:48.380
doing the most heinous things that you can imagine, then you realize that evil absolutely exists
01:23:55.200
and whatever you want to attach that to, you can do it because it's there.
01:23:59.740
And at the same time, you also get to see, you get to see humanity that's making sacrifices
01:24:07.960
above and beyond anything that a normal human being would do pure good.
01:24:14.880
And so from a faith perspective, what you get to see with your own eyes is evil, pure evil,
01:24:24.820
And that, I think that leaves an impact on everybody and definitely left a, left a mark
01:24:37.700
That'll be a really quick answer just cause I'm curious as well.
01:24:39.980
And then end on a one that he can expand on actually.
01:24:48.920
I was wondering what your best powerlifting numbers were ever and what your powerlifting
01:24:57.180
This guy's trying to be your chef or something.
01:25:01.440
Uh, my, my traditional answer when people ask me what, what kind of weights I'm lifting
01:25:12.140
You know, cause you're always trying to get better and trying to get stronger.
01:25:21.620
I think that the most I've ever deadlifted, you know, that this is another, uh, big, you
01:25:26.140
know, you're asking me what people think when they meet me.
01:25:31.740
They also think that I'm some superhuman athlete, which I'm, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not.
01:25:35.800
And I, I've explained this over and over again.
01:25:45.660
Even jujitsu people like, Oh, that guy could never get tapped out.
01:25:53.420
Uh, but yeah, to try and answer this guy's question without avoiding the question or whatever.
01:26:03.220
I hardly, I hardly ever, I hardly ever bench press anymore because, because, uh, I don't like
01:26:10.900
Well, I don't like what it does to my shoulders.
01:26:16.980
The most I've ever deadlift is five, 500 Jesus, which is, no, it's not.
01:26:25.020
That's, that's, I don't know what I'd be deadlifting today.
01:26:27.780
Um, even though, you know, I deadlift on the regular, you know, but I'll do, I'll do,
01:26:38.920
I mean, you know, you know, this is one of those ones where from a power lifting perspective,
01:26:46.820
Cause like when I squat, I, I, I go all the way down, like into the hole and all this.
01:26:56.320
Um, I don't even know what my numbers would be right now.
01:27:07.720
Um, but yeah, dude, to answer your question, I'm not, I'm not some super strong dude.
01:27:11.980
If you're working, if you're a power lifter, you're stronger than me.
01:27:16.660
Even if you were a power lifter, you would be stronger than me.
01:27:21.060
You think you could take me in a minute, bro, if I'm in a fucking slick suit, bro.
01:27:24.200
I'm trying to think of what the most I benched ever was.
01:27:27.900
When I was at seal team two, there was a guy in my platoon who was this little short guy.
01:27:34.260
And I actually went through seal training with him and he was, he could run faster than me
01:27:44.600
But, you know, if you looked at the two of us, you'd be like, oh, yeah, Jocko could
01:27:49.200
No, he could run faster than me and bench more than me, you know?
01:27:53.020
Do you think at some point it comes down to this, like, people's, there's something different
01:27:57.320
in certain people's muscles, the way their bodies are built?
01:28:00.560
There's, you heard a fast twitch muscle and slow twitch muscle.
01:28:03.700
There's another kind of muscle called medium twitch muscle.
01:28:08.220
My muscle, I know, likes to watch cold pace files.
01:28:12.440
I have, I have a lot of what's called medium twitch muscle.
01:28:16.220
So if I put a rucksack on, I can go for a long time and not get tired.
01:28:29.200
But if you put me with a rucksack on, I can go, I can go for a really long time.
01:28:33.600
It's good for grappling, like not wrestling, because wrestling is super explosive.
01:28:38.300
But for jujitsu, for a long, like you want to roll for 40 minutes, I'm good.
01:28:48.220
I don't, I, you know, I've never really got that into wrestling.
01:28:52.740
If you threw some names out, I might be able to remember one or two.
01:28:59.780
He, like, I guess they all, you, you, you lose perspective when you see him on TV, but he's,
01:29:09.580
I think, um, uh, yeah, I think his daughter had to crush on me for a little bit, but I
01:29:23.180
Question is if a guy is upper twenties, early thirties, is it even worth considering enlisting
01:29:38.400
Or would you recommend every time to go the officer route and to make this a little bit
01:29:43.620
more broad of a question for the general audience?
01:29:46.280
Um, would, how would you apply this question to a generic entry-level position at a large
01:29:55.260
organization that's been established for a long time or trying to just go in straight to a
01:30:11.260
So in the military, there's basically two, it's like a caste system.
01:30:23.640
And there's enlisted people, which are the prescribed grunts.
01:30:27.340
Now within the grunts, there's a rank structure and you can advance up that rank structure on
01:30:48.560
Now, the only difference between these two people is the officers went to college.
01:30:53.300
So if you go to college, you can go in as an officer.
01:30:55.480
It's not guaranteed, but you can go as an officer.
01:30:58.140
What I did, I started off enlisted and I got picked up for this awesome program and got
01:31:12.800
And, or if that doesn't work, or should he go enlisted?
01:31:16.420
Because I was going to say, here's what you should do.
01:31:20.080
If you can try and become an officer, that's fine.
01:31:22.500
If you can't, because it's more selective to become an officer immediately, go into the
01:31:29.880
The other question that people ask me a lot when they're 29, 30 years old, they got a life,
01:31:33.820
they got a family, they got a job, but all of a sudden they wake up one day and say,
01:31:39.760
I don't feel like I've given enough to the country.
01:31:43.240
I remember asking you that last time we were on.
01:31:45.260
And I probably gave the same answer, which is go in the, check out the reserves, go
01:31:49.120
and see, go in the national guard, go in the army reserves, go in the Marine Corps, go
01:31:53.620
So where you do one weekend a month and two weeks in the summertime.
01:31:57.640
Now you have to remember that you could get called up when we got to the battle of Ramadi,
01:32:01.980
that whole area was controlled by reservists from, you know, guys that were in the national
01:32:07.880
It was national guard unit out of Pennsylvania.
01:32:09.840
They were total studs, but you, and they were there for 14 months, I think.
01:32:15.540
So, you know, these guys were teachers and plumbers and electricians and whatever.
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And as far as which one you should go into, I mean, I love the fact that I went in as a
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I guess if you're weird, but there's also some factual things, right?
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You learn from the front lines what it's like to be a grunt.
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So now when you get moved over to the officer, you can at least you have the experience and
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There's some prior enlisted officers that are awesome because they have that experience.
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There's also some prior enlisted officers that are just as bad as any other officer.
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And there's officers that never were enlisted that are fantastic.
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It really boils down to you and your personality and your leadership capabilities.
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Just like, you know, there's some colleges like the Naval Academy or the Air Force Academy
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You go to four years learning how to be a military man or military woman.
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And you might think, and I know I thought this.
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I thought, man, those guys are going to be so good because they have all this knowledge.
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There were some great guys that went to 13 weeks of officer candidate school and then
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So what really matters is what you bring to the table.
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They used to just end up, they all bought race cars and used to race them out back of
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And then half of them didn't do shit, I don't think.
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I mean, not just their personalities, but that whole story.
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I expected it to go somewhere and then it just went to silence and we were good.
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Yeah, that's one of those things you scratch off the list of things to talk about.
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When I put that idea in the first gear, I was ready to move it to second.
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It sounded good out of the gate, but man, it went downhill quick.
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I threw robots out there because people are always asking me about the robot wars.
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Yeah, I just hope there's no, like, you know, I think robots will be fine.
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I'll beat the shit out of a toaster with a bat.
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But what I'm saying is this, especially if I had fucking a can and a half a go right now, dude.
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But what I'm saying is this, aliens, if aliens come, would you re-enlist?
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It's just like, it's like that movie Armageddon.
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You got to take five people into battle with you.
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So we can't use their names because they're working.
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And he, him and I grew up in the SEAL teams together.
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And then he was one of the platoon chiefs over in Ramadi with me.
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And I actually started off the podcast saying, hey, if there's some, if there's a list, there's
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everyone has a list of guys that, hey, if it goes down, I'm bringing him.
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He would be out on like a five day operation in 120 degree heat.
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And he'd bring nothing with him, but a can of Copenhagen and like a little half liter
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So yeah, there's a bunch of guys like that, man.
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There's a bunch of just guys that are just, that's what they're born to do, man.
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Cause it's sometimes life, it's like, you never know kind of what you need.
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And then life kind of like gives you, you know, it just kind of the, where you, where
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you're, where you are is where you're supposed to be.
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You know, it's like sometimes you don't realize that, but I appreciate you being here today,
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Now I'm just floating on the breeze and I feel I'm falling like these leaves.
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Oh, but when I reach that ground, I'll share this peace of mind.
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I can feel it in my bones, but it's gonna take a little time for me to set that parking
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And I will find a song I will sing it just for you
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And now I've been moving way too fast On a runaway train with a heavy load of my
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm Jonathan Kite and welcome to Kite Club, a podcast where I'll
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