This past weekend's episode of Brock's Call answered a call that came in from a listener named Brock. He had a question about how to handle a drunk night out with friends and family, and I'm here to answer it.
00:04:57.160Something in his plates and his, you know, I don't know what happened, dude.
00:05:00.780Played tectonic shift down in his genetics and put out.
00:05:03.320Now, next thing you know, Achilles, that was my grandfather's name, Achilles, and that's a true story.
00:05:11.280My father's name was Theodore Achilles.
00:05:13.500And he was suddenly two inches taller.
00:05:15.800And apparently, he didn't get along with my grandmother after that.
00:05:21.320Him and my grandmother, they had issues after that.
00:05:25.860So, and if that tells you anything, Brock, that tells you that sometime showing up small at first and maybe forever can be to your benefit.
00:05:35.520Because this was the love of his life.
00:05:41.920And when he grew taller, when he stretched out, you know, when God hit him with that magic two spot in his 50s, then he wasn't in love anymore.
00:05:53.160So, man, that's really, when you think about that, that at that height and that size and whatever stature he was at, that that's where love met him best.
00:06:03.340And then height became an affliction for him as he aged.
00:06:08.980Height became an affliction for that man.
00:06:11.660And somehow, just the gravitational pull, the balance, the, you know, the vertica horizontalicus, whatever it was, that spell that meshed him in with this bride of his, this, you know, my grandmother, it fell off.
00:06:27.620And so, man, there was something, there was magic in being small.
00:06:30.900But that was, let's finish up your call.
00:06:53.740We all have, you know, insecurities and things that make us feel less than, you know.
00:06:59.220At night, I'll be wearing a neck brace at night, you know, because I want to stretch my neck out a little bit because I've always thought I had a small neck.
00:07:05.860You know, I've always thought I've been a little bit shy in the neck, you know.
00:07:10.360And a neck really is just that fifth arm.
00:07:13.080A neck is just that chubby fifth arm that's coming out the middle of your torso at the top, you know.
00:07:19.180And people could say this or say that.
00:08:34.900When you come in a little bit troll-ish, you know.
00:08:37.540And look, I'll say for myself, I've always looked like a cross between Tom Brady and Shrek.
00:08:41.820And so I know I got a little bit of that magical, you know, I got a little bit of those magical tree-loving and tree-living type of ogre qualities in me.
00:12:42.080That's all I was raised to, like, think until I started just noticing that me just being myself and loving myself and saying, you know, well, fuck it.
00:14:41.760But if you're framing it as being shy to yourself, then that's, then it's looked at by you or it's felt, it can be felt by you as a hindrance or as a hurdle.
00:17:22.520You know, and you're thinking to yourself, man, dude, she doesn't like me or she thinks I'm less than or I'm not.
00:17:27.940You don't even think about what she's thinking.
00:17:31.460She might be thinking nobody's even talked to me this month, you know, or, you know, maybe I have, you know, my skin isn't right or, you know, something about my weight or the way I carry myself, you know?
00:17:41.960It's like, and women are more prone to those things, it seems like.
00:17:47.740I think in time and recently, men have become more prone to those things, you know?
00:17:57.120Like, you know, and sometimes a good way to meet somebody is by taking something that you know is an insecurity of theirs that you would just guess, you know, and say to them, oh, you know, oh, you have really pretty eyes, you know?
00:18:14.700Say, oh, yeah, I think you have really pretty eyes.
00:18:16.820And say it real, you know, and be real about it.
00:18:19.680If you, you know, and you don't have to lie to her, you know, but just think of something that, oh, well, that might be an insecurity for that person, you know?
00:23:50.640I just, I don't want your spirit to be sitting there hurting, man.
00:23:55.240Because, you know, I've spent years, years of my life hurting for things that I didn't need to be hurting for, just because I was unable to get, to hear other people talk about it.
00:24:10.560And then, and just to know I wasn't alone.
00:24:28.760is that it goes to the exact scene for women, too.
00:24:32.480You know, if you're self-conscious about being short, I guarantee you that whoever you're going to go talk to is self-conscious about something.
00:24:40.060But if you are willing and able to go talk to them, that might make you feel good because then they'll say, oh, somebody's looking past, you know, my own insecurities.
00:25:01.260And that brings up another thought to me is that, you know, if you make that effort, and here's what you hear.
00:25:10.000Sometimes I put the girls on such a pedestal that I was unable to even approach them because I put them in this realm where I couldn't, where no matter what I said was automatically going to be wrong, no matter what they were already, you know, they were this, you know, they looked seven times better than they even looked, you know.
00:25:28.420And the truth is that once you look at somebody for about three or four seconds and you're not afraid to break eye contact with them and stuff, they get a lot more real.
00:25:36.300So then you're not battling this image, you know, of whatever, you know, of women or of this, but of a particular girl, you know, like then you're actually talking to a real person, you know.
00:25:49.480And sometimes I forgot that I was talking even to a real person.
00:25:52.300I got so insecure in my head about approaching women that sometimes I forgot.
00:25:56.840It was like, oh, women, here's a girl, it's a girl, it's a girl, it's a girl.
00:25:59.560It wasn't even like, oh, here's a person.
00:26:05.360I automatically had it pegged in my head that I wasn't a match for women that are that I wasn't a match for a girl just because she was pretty.
00:26:14.540You know, I believe that about myself.
00:26:16.620I was like, man, I'm not a match for this girl.