Timcast IRL - Tim Pool - Timcast IRL - Society Is FAILING Men And Boys, Population Growth FALLING w-Melanie Notkin

00:00:00.000 you you

00:00:32.000 you for the first time California is losing a congressional

00:00:52.000 seat New York, by 89 people, is losing a congressional seat.

00:00:56.000 And we did cover this before.

00:00:58.000 But it brings up another problem that we're facing in this country.

00:01:02.000 And I guess, interestingly, depending on who you ask, I'll tell you it's a problem.

00:01:05.000 And probably a bunch of people on the left would say it's probably not a problem.

00:01:08.000 And we're talking about stagnant population.

00:01:11.000 There's... Millennials aren't really having kids. 1.00

00:01:15.000 There's...

00:01:16.000 For whatever reason.

00:01:17.000 And there's also lower immigration.

00:01:19.000 And this is resulting in now a dramatic shift in how they're setting up congressional seats.

00:01:26.000 But I'm not going to talk about Congress today.

00:01:28.000 We're going to just talk a whole lot about families, men, women, millennials, the workforce.

00:01:32.000 It's kind of a chill Friday night talking about some of the most serious problems that are affecting this country.

00:01:37.000 And we actually have someone who's probably an expert on all this.

00:01:41.000 I'm just going to let you introduce yourself so you can explain it.

00:01:44.000 All right, well I'm Melanie Notkin and I'm the founder of Savvy Auntie.

00:01:49.000 It's the celebration of modern aunthood, a media company focused on women who don't have children of their own by choice, like me, by circumstance, by challenge, and love the children in their life.

00:02:01.000 I'm also the author of a book by the same name and of a reported memoir called Otherhood.

00:02:08.000 Which is about the women, Gen X, older millennials, daughters of feminism, who expected that we'd have the husband and the kids that our moms had, but also have the education and careers. 1.00

00:02:22.000 And yet, we may have the education, careers, but many are finding their match much later in life, if ever, and having their first child in life much later, if ever.

00:02:34.000 We're gonna talk about all of that.

00:02:35.000 It's gonna be fun.

00:02:36.000 We got Ian Easterling.

00:02:36.000 Oh, yes.

00:02:36.000 Hello, everyone.

00:02:37.000 Ian Crossland here.

00:02:38.000 Great to be here.

00:02:39.000 Melanie, good to see you.

00:02:40.000 Thanks, Tim.

00:02:41.000 And Lydia in the corner pushing buttons as she does. 1.00

00:02:43.000 I'm very excited for this evening because I love talking about culture.

00:02:46.000 It's one of my favorite topics.

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00:03:23.000 I want to jump to this first story, which, look, we're going to get into the census stuff for sure, but we're going to chill and we're going to talk about an article you wrote four years ago, Melanie.

00:03:32.000 So, we have this from the New York Post.

00:03:35.000 Childish men are to blame for women having kids late in life. 1.00

00:03:40.000 I wonder if that made men really angry?

00:03:42.000 At men or at you? 0.64

00:03:44.000 But just explain, what is this article about?

00:03:47.000 So, as we know, generally the writer doesn't actually write the headline, so I would just like to say it, or add the photo.

00:03:58.000 That was not the point of the piece.

00:03:59.000 The point of the piece is to say that Pew Research had new data that found that women

00:04:06.000 are much more focused on marriage and parenthood than men are and also more focused on career

00:04:16.000 than men are.

00:04:18.000 And women have to know that they may not find the man that they want to be with as soon 1.00

00:04:25.000 as they want to be with him and that they need to consider whether they want to look

00:04:31.000 at their fertility, freeze their eggs, consider...

00:04:35.000 I haven't frozen my eggs.

00:04:36.000 I didn't freeze my eggs.

00:04:37.000 Maybe they want to think about having a baby on their own and save up for that.

00:04:40.000 Maybe they want to save up for IVF.

00:04:43.000 So that was what the piece was about.

00:04:45.000 It was never about making men feel like they are not worthy of women.

00:04:51.000 How did, how did, how did that come about then?

00:04:52.000 How did they make your article about that?

00:04:56.000 Because that's how headlines work.

00:05:00.000 Is it because men, by virtue of what you're saying, they conclude that men aren't focused on family and career enough, so they're calling them childish men? 0.99

00:05:10.000 Was it a dude editor who was like, these men are losers? 0.99

00:05:13.000 No. 0.99

00:05:14.000 And I love my editor.

00:05:15.000 My editor is amazing.

00:05:16.000 No.

00:05:19.000 Some men did certainly get upset.

00:05:23.000 In fact, there was one that decided we needed like a Talmudic, you know, treatise on this.

00:05:29.000 It was an hour-long, you know, opinion piece on how I was wrong, even though he was talking about the data that is peer research data.

00:05:39.000 It did upset a lot of men and that frankly upset me because I actually love men and I love boys and I'm a champion of men and boys and I don't think that men and boys are childish but I do think that we have a problem in America whereby we are so focused on girls and women and their power and empowerment that boys and men kind of fall into the background and I think that if we want to To enable women to have all that they want, we need to raise boys and men up.

00:06:12.000 I don't know.

00:06:12.000 You run into trouble when you start talking about this stuff because even though right now women are the majority of those graduating college, the narrative is still that they're in the minority and they're in the weaker position.

00:06:23.000 Shouldn't we start getting rid of these women's programs and start propping up men's programs to encourage men to get... I'm not a fan of college, by the way, so this is not an apology or me now supporting it. 1.00

00:06:33.000 No, no, no.

00:06:33.000 But just for the general context, shouldn't these feminists be like, oh, we got to support the minority and that's the men now?

00:06:41.000 You know, I don't know that you have to take anything away from girls.

00:06:44.000 Girls should be able to reach their potential. 0.99

00:06:47.000 The problem is that we've forgotten boys.

00:06:50.000 So, yes, girls in STEM, science, technology, engineering, and math, girls have to, you know, get equity with boys, and wonderful, fine, not a problem with that.

00:06:59.000 The issue is that boys are falling way behind in literacy, and we don't talk about that.

00:07:05.000 By age six, boys don't want to read with their mommy anymore because they think it's too girly.

00:07:10.000 And they don't want to read with the family anymore because it's just not something that they want to do.

00:07:16.000 And we tend to, again, focus on girls in STEM.

00:07:21.000 I'm a toy industry expert.

00:07:22.000 I go to Toy Fair every year and other toy events.

00:07:26.000 And I remember I went to one once, major company.

00:07:30.000 And they had dolls, fairy tale princess dolls, and with them came books.

00:07:38.000 So this princess had this book and this princess, and then we went around and the more superhero characters were just the dolls.

00:07:50.000 Where's the book?

00:07:51.000 What do you mean?

00:07:52.000 There's no book with these.

00:07:53.000 Right.

00:07:54.000 This was your perfect opportunity.

00:07:56.000 To engage boys in literacy.

00:07:59.000 This is how you do it.

00:08:00.000 They want to read.

00:08:02.000 Interestingly, the assumption is that because boys are in the privileged position, they don't need help.

00:08:09.000 And from that, we've created a massive disparity and now... Right.

00:08:13.000 It's a fallacy.

00:08:13.000 It's absolutely a fallacy.

00:08:14.000 Well, so then the issue, I suppose, is how are boys supposed to catch back up to girls by going slower than they are or at the same pace? 0.76

00:08:22.000 Wouldn't you need special programs?

00:08:24.000 And wouldn't you then need to take away programs from women? 1.00

00:08:27.000 You know, I'm not an educator, so I don't know what we would need to take away from girls. 0.81

00:08:31.000 And frankly, I don't think we need to take anything away from girls.

00:08:34.000 I think what happens that boys... Classrooms are set up for the way girls learn. 0.56

00:08:40.000 Sit still, listen, take notes, behave yourself, don't move around.

00:08:45.000 Boys need to move around. 1.00

00:08:47.000 You know, but then they get in trouble, and then they don't go back to class.

00:08:52.000 We've shrunk in recess, so boys aren't moving around when they have the chance to move around.

00:08:57.000 You know, some kids, even girls who have, you know, some form of ADD, they need to move in order to learn, but we don't want kids to do that.

00:09:07.000 Kids learn through play.

00:09:09.000 If you want to teach a child, especially a child zero to three, The best way to help them learn is to help them play.

00:09:16.000 So, yes, we need to help boys.

00:09:19.000 The way we do it is to consider how they learn and we need to decide that boys have great potential.

00:09:29.000 And if we believe in boys, boys will begin to believe in themselves.

00:09:33.000 And if boys believe in themselves, they will then go to high school and if they graduate high school, if they graduate high school, they may go to college if they want to.

00:09:41.000 And continue whatever it is that they want to do or not go to college, whatever it is.

00:09:45.000 We just need to give them the chance.

00:09:46.000 What do we do about men now, though?

00:09:50.000 In terms of?

00:09:52.000 Not being career-driven?

00:09:53.000 Not having families?

00:09:55.000 Yeah, it's sad.

00:09:57.000 It's sincerely sad.

00:09:58.000 I'm sad for the boys.

00:09:58.000 I'm sad for the men.

00:10:01.000 We have focused, again, so much on women.

00:10:05.000 That women have become more masculine because we've been told, Generation X, Millennials, that anything boys can do, girls can do better.

00:10:15.000 And you know, in the 80s, women, I was there, women wore, you know, shoulder pads, pantsuits.

00:10:20.000 We had to be masculine.

00:10:22.000 And we're taught, you know, now more recently, you have to lean in at work.

00:10:26.000 You know, you have to take on the way that men work, the way that men succeed in order to be equal.

00:10:31.000 To them.

00:10:32.000 And so women became more masculine. 0.97

00:10:34.000 And when you go on a date, women, no, no, I'm okay. 1.00

00:10:37.000 No, I'll pick the place.

00:10:38.000 Oh, no, no, let me pay.

00:10:40.000 And then you've got the men who don't feel like they're contributing anything.

00:10:45.000 And men want to feel like they're needed.

00:10:46.000 Like they're going to add value to this fabulous woman's life.

00:10:50.000 And women should start to become a little more feminine and understand that femininity is not weakness. 1.00

00:11:00.000 That's the issue.

00:11:01.000 We have the same thing of men means oh they're scary and it's toxic and toxic masculinity if they're a man who behaves like a man.

00:11:08.000 And if a woman behaves like a woman well then she must be weak and fragile and No, no. 1.00

00:11:14.000 There is more power in femininity. 1.00

00:11:16.000 In fact, it's true, I believe, that femininity is the one thing that can bring a man to his knees. 0.97

00:11:23.000 I've often mentioned that I think feminism in today's day and age is actually anti-femininity and pro-masculinity. 1.00

00:11:30.000 They like to go after what they call toxic masculinity, but the way I break it down is we often hear about, like, women must be CEOs. 1.00

00:11:38.000 You know, we need more women doing that job and that job. 1.00

00:11:41.000 And while there are conversations about having men stay at home with the kids, there's not a big demand for it the same way.

00:11:48.000 So I just, when did this happen where the role of the maternal role just became irrelevant to society?

00:11:58.000 And I don't mean completely, but to a greater deal, where now it's like, no, no, no, no, the moms and the dads should be in the workforce and, you know, I don't know, have childcare.

00:12:06.000 We should now, what's really fascinating to me is they advocate for like government paid healthcare, or I'm sorry, childcare, guaranteed childcare.

00:12:13.000 And it's like, shouldn't the parents have some system where they take care of their kids?

00:12:17.000 Instead, it's the maternal role is being shoved down and women and men should both be in the workforce. 0.99

00:12:23.000 Sure.

00:12:23.000 Well, so to be fair, today with the economy, it happens that often enough, both parents need to work.

00:12:30.000 So there's that too.

00:12:31.000 So let's set that aside.

00:12:33.000 But is that a result of women in the workplace? 1.00

00:12:36.000 It could be.

00:12:36.000 You double the supply of workers, the demand doesn't change.

00:12:39.000 All of a sudden, everyone's undercutting each other's wages.

00:12:42.000 It could be.

00:12:43.000 I'm not an economist, and so I don't know that I can speak to it, but it could be, and I've thought about that myself.

00:12:50.000 It's true that this idea that we don't have enough women CEOs, higher management, etc., basically doesn't answer the question of whether or not women want that.

00:13:03.000 And it's not to say that women don't want to reach their potential, but their potential isn't necessarily in the office. And we've created this narrative that women 1.00

00:13:13.000 have to keep fighting, you know, in the glass ceiling and all this. Not

00:13:16.000 all women want that. 1.00

00:13:17.000 And that's okay too. In fact, women have it pretty well. 1.00

00:13:20.000 Because a woman can go to college, she can get like a law degree and, you know, get 1.00

00:13:25.000 married and have a child and decide, you know what, I miss my kid every time I

00:13:30.000 leave him and I just want to be home and I want to be mom and my husband

00:13:33.000 can afford to take care of us. Women have that choice. It's extraordinary. 0.75

00:13:39.000 And yet we talk about women as if we're sort of always limited by the quote-unquote

00:13:42.000 patriarchy.

00:13:46.000 Why do you think they have that choice?

00:13:47.000 I kind of feel like right now guys aren't on average doing as well.

00:13:52.000 I mean, that's kind of the point of the conversation.

00:13:53.000 They're not making as much money.

00:13:55.000 They're not as driven.

00:13:55.000 I think also they're not as worried because they've got all the time in the world as far as they're concerned.

00:14:02.000 So if a woman is doing well in her career and she wants to then have a family and have the husband work, She's got to contend with the fact that there's probably not, it's going to be hard to find a guy for a few reasons. 0.52

00:14:14.000 One, who's making enough money to support the family should she choose to opt out.

00:14:17.000 Who's going to be interested in a woman who has a career even. 1.00

00:14:20.000 Maybe the guy just wants somebody, he wants a wife from the get-go. 1.00

00:14:24.000 You also have the issue, we have, our friend Jack Murphy comes on the show quite a bit.

00:14:29.000 And he talks about how he thinks guys should go for women 10 years younger than them, who don't do any of this, get someone who's 22, marry her and just get a housewife, don't worry about someone who's got a career.

00:14:39.000 So if you have that mentality, how does a career woman then, you know, have what you're describing? 0.69

00:14:44.000 So, actually, Maureen Dowd wrote about this in an op-ed in the New York Times in 2005, how what men really want is their mother, and I agree. 0.71

00:14:54.000 And the problem is that this generation were not their mother.

00:14:58.000 Gen X was able to do things that our mothers couldn't do. 0.99

00:15:02.000 When, you know, women who graduated high school in the 50s, you know, if you look at their yearbook, you know, what they were going to be was teacher, nurse, nun, secretary.

00:15:14.000 Those are her choices.

00:15:15.000 If you're Jewish, you only had three. 0.84

00:15:17.000 So what was Gen X, millennial women, going to do once we went to college? 0.98

00:15:28.000 We did everything right.

00:15:30.000 There's no reason why we shouldn't go to college.

00:15:32.000 No reason why we shouldn't pay the rent.

00:15:33.000 And then in terms of this career woman thing, there are no career men.

00:15:37.000 Nobody accuses a man of prioritizing having a job over everything else in his life.

00:15:44.000 I mean, I always wanted to marry and have children very much, so if I didn't have a career, I mean, you'd basically be, you know, paying my way through life as a taxpayer, right?

00:15:56.000 Because I wouldn't be employed.

00:15:58.000 So, you know, women have to take care of themselves. 1.00

00:16:01.000 They have to have agency.

00:16:05.000 So, men do want their mother, and we're not their mothers, which isn't to say that women aren't nurturing, women don't want to do this, that women don't want to nurture and take care of their husbands and take care of their partners. 0.98

00:16:20.000 I know most women do want that. 1.00

00:16:22.000 They also, though, want to know that if they're going to go through childbirth, which can be fatal, That there's a man there who's going to be there, and certainly if God forbid she didn't survive, be there for the child, be able to pay for the child.

00:16:40.000 And I mean this in an evolutionary way.

00:16:43.000 She may not be thinking this literally.

00:16:46.000 But, yeah.

00:16:47.000 And so it is difficult.

00:16:48.000 And this is why we have so many women who are the new, just newly released data, a woman is, the average age of marriage for a woman is 27. 1.00

00:16:57.000 Just 20 years ago, it was 25.

00:17:02.000 Wow.

00:17:03.000 I wonder if, as Jordan Peterson mentions, enforced monogamy. 0.61

00:17:08.000 Are you familiar with the term?

00:17:10.000 It doesn't mean what I think a lot of the feminists thought it meant, like the government would come and like force women to marry some incel dude or something like that. 1.00

00:17:18.000 But you're talking about, you know, women want to be secure.

00:17:21.000 They want to know that if they're going to have a kid, they're going to be protected or safe or have someone to take care of them.

00:17:25.000 Isn't that what marriage did?

00:17:27.000 Yeah, that's certainly what marriage did.

00:17:29.000 And that's what, right, the idea is that we should have a culture to, you know, encourage boys and men to look to marriage.

00:17:37.000 That's, that's a good thing.

00:17:38.000 And now they're not really encouraged to do that.

00:17:42.000 And partly, it is, you know, certainly, so in terms of the college graduation, so 58% of college graduates now,

00:17:51.000 brand new data are women, 42% men.

00:17:55.000 So, and women tend to want to marry a man, even if she's got a high or pretty, you know, 0.98

00:18:00.000 she never has to worry again about her income.

00:18:03.000 She still wants to marry a man who is making at least the same amount of money.

00:18:07.000 And of course, there aren't enough men who have that potential.

00:18:13.000 Not even that.

00:18:14.000 So there's another article from the New York Post, which I've talked about quite a bit, and it always gets me in a lot of trouble with the feminists. 0.97

00:18:21.000 Women are struggling to find men who make as much money as they do. 1.00

00:18:25.000 And look, when we have Jack Murphy on the show, and we had a long conversation about this, where he was saying that if you're a guy and you're successful, why would you find a woman your own age, when you could have someone 10, 15 years younger?

00:18:37.000 So you're 35, you go for a 22-year-old, Dedicated housewife doesn't have a career and for you know, 1.00

00:18:44.000 I guess I don't put words in his mouth but a lot the idea to a lot of these guys is that a

00:18:48.000 Younger woman who can get an older man who's accomplished successful has a lot of money 1.00

00:18:53.000 It's I mean, it's a big leap in access to resources and societal status when you've got a guy who's not wished well-connected

00:19:01.000 So if you have a woman who's a 30 or in her 30s and she's working and you know a job 0.88

00:19:07.000 She's making maybe sixty five seventy thousand dollars a year working at a publication in New York City 1.00

00:19:13.000 I'll see you next time.

00:19:14.000 A guy who's the same age who's making that much money could probably easily get a much, much younger woman because that's a lot of money to a younger person, which I imagine must make it more difficult for women. 0.99

00:19:25.000 Yeah.

00:19:27.000 That's exactly right.

00:19:27.000 That's it.

00:19:28.000 It's like we got a rock and a heartless, I guess.

00:19:30.000 Yeah.

00:19:31.000 Yeah.

00:19:31.000 No, that's, that's the issue.

00:19:33.000 And so I'm looking toward Gen Z and whatever that we're going to call the next generation is that if we don't want that to happen, we don't want to keep women back. 1.00

00:19:41.000 It's not like we want to keep girls and women back from reaching their potential and contributing to the world.

00:19:46.000 What we want to do is help raise boys and men to reach their potential.

00:19:52.000 You mentioned femininity earlier and how it's one of the things that can bring men to their knees. 1.00

00:19:56.000 Yes.

00:19:57.000 And I thought about proposal and how men propose from their knees. 0.74

00:20:00.000 Exactly.

00:20:01.000 And it's like, when you're brought to your knees, why is that a thing?

00:20:05.000 Is it because they were so broken and desperate?

00:20:08.000 Please be with me forever.

00:20:10.000 Please don't leave.

00:20:11.000 Is that why they're doing it from their knees?

00:20:13.000 Because they're begging to God, which is the woman? 1.00

00:20:16.000 It could be.

00:20:18.000 I don't know where it comes from.

00:20:19.000 reason you know we see you ever see that really funny video where there's like

00:20:23.000 two birds and like the female bird looks kind of normal just like a brown bird 0.97

00:20:26.000 or whatever but the male bird is like jet black and it's jumping back and

00:20:30.000 forth dancing it's like trying to prove their worth so when the guy gets on his

00:20:34.000 knees basically saying to the woman I will never leave you I am on my knees for you.

00:20:40.000 So you will be safe with me if you get pregnant. 0.88

00:20:43.000 So you mentioned, you know, evolution.

00:20:46.000 A woman who gets pregnant is at risk.

00:20:47.000 Right.

00:20:48.000 I mean, you're not going to be running.

00:20:49.000 You're not going to be fighting.

00:20:51.000 You need protection.

00:20:52.000 Right.

00:20:52.000 And so you need to know that the guy is going to stand up.

00:20:56.000 I guess the problem arises in that we are the apex predator.

00:21:00.000 We kill and eat basically everything.

00:21:02.000 And in cities, the only predators are other humans.

00:21:05.000 So there's still a need for some protection, but also access to resources is important.

00:21:10.000 Now everything's kind of changing, especially with, you know, maternity laws.

00:21:16.000 You know, so women get pregnant, they can keep working, and now a lot of companies are like, even if once someone gets pregnant, she can go home, she can stay home, and we'll still keep paying her. 0.85

00:21:24.000 So I think that also, we keep moving this direction, we're going to keep removing the need for marriage, which is going to slowly eat away at families having children to result in slow population growth.

00:21:38.000 Seems like it's just dominoes falling over.

00:21:40.000 Well, in fact, there is a rise in people living together, couples living together and not getting married.

00:21:47.000 And I don't have the, I haven't dug in too deeply into it, but my hypothesis is, again it's a buyer's market for men, that a woman who really wants a baby with a partner And he won't commit.

00:22:04.000 She will acquiesce to saying, yeah, no, we're just, we're going to live together because, like, it's cool.

00:22:09.000 Like, no, it's great.

00:22:10.000 I mean, really, what do we need a piece of paper for?

00:22:13.000 Because if not, he's going to go to the next person, right?

00:22:17.000 So, and this is what's going on in campus.

00:22:19.000 This is what the hookup culture is about.

00:22:21.000 A girl will, you know, girls are, you know, kids are kids. 0.99

00:22:25.000 Sorry, yeah, I am old.

00:22:26.000 I'm on campus.

00:22:28.000 The hookup culture is because there's so many more girls, except for maybe MIT, than men on campus. 1.00

00:22:36.000 And girls say, well, no, it doesn't mean anything. 0.86

00:22:38.000 No, we're just friends.

00:22:39.000 No, no.

00:22:40.000 But really, what she's really saying, I bet, is, pick me.

00:22:43.000 Pick me.

00:22:45.000 Let me do whatever I can to show him how good I am in bed, how much I love him, how much I care about him.

00:22:51.000 But no, no, it's all cool.

00:22:53.000 No, don't worry about it.

00:22:54.000 Women are acquiescing all the time. 1.00

00:22:56.000 And in fact, they're acting like men.

00:22:58.000 Men are the ones who spread the seed. 1.00

00:23:00.000 Men are the ones who have sex with a lot of women. 0.99

00:23:02.000 All of a sudden, women are doing it. 1.00

00:23:04.000 And I, you know, I say, you know what? 0.96

00:23:05.000 No, women don't really want to have sex like men. 1.00

00:23:09.000 They want to have sex like women. 1.00

00:23:11.000 And what they're doing is they are listening to this narrative that in order to be equal to men, They have to be men and that happens even when it comes to sex with 22 year olds. 0.99

00:23:23.000 It reminds me of similar things to what Jordan Peterson talks about. 0.50

00:23:27.000 Women trying to be men. 1.00

00:23:29.000 It also reminds me of jokes from Family Guy where they did one where it's the woman trying to fit in with all the guys.

00:23:35.000 Desperately trying to act like a guy as if that's what she should be doing.

00:23:38.000 Yeah, it's not confidence building.

00:23:42.000 Everything's happening.

00:23:43.000 But I will mention one thing as for marriage.

00:23:47.000 You know, there was one message that I was smacked in the head with over and over again as I was growing up is, do not get married.

00:23:55.000 You will regret it.

00:23:56.000 Who said that to you? 0.64

00:23:57.000 Married with Children, the highest rated show at the time.

00:24:01.000 My parents wouldn't let us watch it.

00:24:03.000 Yes, a syndicated show where Al Bundy, the main character, hated his wife.

00:24:09.000 They hated each other.

00:24:11.000 But it's not the only show.

00:24:13.000 You hear this all the time from older men.

00:24:17.000 They call it the ball and chain.

00:24:18.000 Now, what kind of message is that to a guy?

00:24:21.000 Then you look at Divorce courts.

00:24:26.000 There was a case, I think this was in Illinois, where a man and a woman were getting divorced, and it was partly because of the woman's, I think it was a drug addiction.

00:24:35.000 It's been a long time since I've read the story.

00:24:38.000 The court sided with the mother, who was a known drug addict, because courts have a bias towards the woman, and then she killed her kids.

00:24:47.000 Yeah.

00:24:48.000 And so the dad, who was a regular working class guy, begged the court, this woman has been arrested before, she does drugs, it's dangerous. 1.00

00:24:55.000 And they said, we can't take a kid away from their mother.

00:24:58.000 And then she ended up killing them because she didn't want them to have him and then taking her own life like overdosing. 1.00

00:25:03.000 So when you hear these stories all the time, when you constantly hear about how divorce courts, what is it, like 84% of the time favor the woman?

00:25:09.000 What's the incentive for a man to marry a woman If all it means for him is that he can lose half of his life and still lose his kids in the long run, why do it? 0.98

00:25:22.000 It breaks my heart.

00:25:25.000 I've certainly dated divorced men and I've heard chilling stories.

00:25:31.000 My friend, Greg Ellis, his book is coming out Father's Day or that week called The Respondent, and it is about his hellish experience of being divorced or getting or his wife springing.

00:25:45.000 I won't.

00:25:45.000 It's it's literally a page like a thriller, like it reads like a thriller.

00:25:50.000 The hell he has gone through and the hell that men go through.

00:25:53.000 I think that for some reason everything needs to be equities everywhere, equality is everywhere.

00:25:59.000 But when it comes to family law, It is so incredibly unfair to men and it sincerely breaks

00:26:05.000 my heart.

00:26:06.000 And to your point, it doesn't help women because it means that a woman can basically, I mean 0.99

00:26:14.000 it's really this sort of believe all women, you know, idea, philosophy in courts. 1.00

00:26:19.000 And it breaks my heart because men are wonderful.

00:26:23.000 There are as many bad men as there are bad women. 0.95

00:26:28.000 Men are fantastic and men do so much for their families generally.

00:26:32.000 So I'm with you.

00:26:34.000 But I think that the reason why men marry women is because they love them.

00:26:39.000 Which doesn't mean that things don't happen and that, you know, people don't change or circumstances, what have you, right?

00:26:47.000 For whatever reason people get divorced.

00:26:48.000 But I believe in love and I believe that a man is better with a partner and a woman is better with a partner and whether that could be the same sex.

00:26:57.000 The idea is that we are better when we have a strong existential, spiritual, emotional, mental connection with somebody.

00:27:06.000 We do better in life and marriage is a strong partnership to do that.

00:27:11.000 Now I have not married, not because I didn't want to, I very much I still want to, but I never wanted to marry a man I wasn't in love with because every man deserves to be loved and I didn't want to be in a relationship where I didn't feel loved.

00:27:27.000 I wonder though, I was reading this a while ago, but I was also reading it recently, that love and marriage is a modern construct.

00:27:37.000 That marriages used to be contractual, more corporate than anything.

00:27:41.000 You had the dowry, and it was basically...

00:27:44.000 Well, you know, marriages are arranged for this or that reason and less so, you know, in our culture and going back to the various cultures that make up the United States.

00:27:53.000 But if you look at a lot of Eastern culture, arranged marriage very much still exists because it was transactional.

00:27:58.000 Sure.

00:27:59.000 Oh, yeah.

00:28:00.000 Families did it.

00:28:01.000 All the royals are intramarried.

00:28:03.000 I mean, there's no question.

00:28:05.000 Today, we don't have to do that.

00:28:07.000 Maybe that is a benefit.

00:28:08.000 There are a lot of benefits of feminism. 1.00

00:28:10.000 And that women can now live toward their potential. 1.00

00:28:15.000 We have the opportunity to do more than be only nurses, secretaries, nuns, and teachers.

00:28:22.000 Not to say those are all great professions, but we can do more.

00:28:25.000 The difference is that, now I've just lost my train of thought.

00:28:32.000 Oh, the marriage.

00:28:34.000 But if a woman wasn't making any money, then how was she going to find a man? 1.00

00:28:39.000 Like, the man could just pick any woman.

00:28:41.000 This way, if it was arranged, at least she was safe.

00:28:44.000 Like, this was, you know, we're wealthy.

00:28:47.000 You have your, you know, life standards.

00:28:49.000 This man will make sure that you have... We can do this.

00:28:53.000 You're from the same class, the same religion, the same royal, whatever it is.

00:28:57.000 So that's part of it.

00:28:58.000 You know, people have this issue with the Disney fairy tales, which aren't really Disney fairy tales.

00:29:04.000 They're Disney-fied fairy tales.

00:29:06.000 And, you know, we talk about, like, Cinderella, et cetera.

00:29:09.000 Well, why is the, you know, why did the mother die in all of them?

00:29:13.000 Well, the mother's dead to show kids, first of all, that mothers did die young.

00:29:17.000 Anyway, they died when they were, like, 30.

00:29:18.000 That these girls could be on their own, take care of themselves.

00:29:22.000 But, yeah, but, you know, well, she marries some prince. 0.92

00:29:25.000 I'm like, listen, here's the thing.

00:29:26.000 She had no education.

00:29:28.000 No skills.

00:29:29.000 No job opportunities.

00:29:31.000 What was she going to do?

00:29:32.000 The truth is, a prince?

00:29:36.000 Pretty good deal.

00:29:37.000 So, yes, we have to think about things that, historically, people did things the way they did them for a reason.

00:29:43.000 Today, you know, that's not what marriage is for.

00:29:46.000 Marriage is a partnership.

00:29:48.000 I mean, I have a cousin who's, you know, been co-CEO of a Fortune 500 company and her husband worked but not Anywhere near to that level.

00:29:57.000 It's not like it doesn't happen that, you know, women can be more successful in terms of affluence, income, but for the most part, you know, women want to know that the man that they're with will also enable them to reach their potential as he, as she would do for him, not only in terms of a job and career, but also in terms of family, in terms of whatever else that they want to do.

00:30:21.000 I think that's the, I think there's an incongruity, there's an impasse.

00:30:26.000 You've got, I think, a lot of men who want just a wife. 0.98

00:30:32.000 Like you mentioned, they want their moms. 1.00

00:30:34.000 Yeah.

00:30:34.000 So this current generation is just, there's no coming together.

00:30:38.000 It's like, if women are taking on masculine roles, if they're taking jobs, men, to a higher degree, don't want that.

00:30:49.000 Right.

00:30:49.000 So then it's just, I'm very much into, when it comes to dating, I tell women it's okay to be feminine.

00:31:01.000 It's okay.

00:31:02.000 You don't have to pick the restaurant.

00:31:05.000 You don't have to offer to pay.

00:31:07.000 The man knows what he's getting himself into.

00:31:09.000 He's prepared.

00:31:11.000 We know what this is.

00:31:12.000 It's a dance and it's okay.

00:31:13.000 Now it doesn't mean you never reciprocate.

00:31:16.000 Other way.

00:31:16.000 But let him court you.

00:31:18.000 Let him... Give him the opportunity to show you why he's worthy of you.

00:31:23.000 Because that's what he wants to show you.

00:31:25.000 Don't say, I don't need you to help pick the wine.

00:31:28.000 I can pick my...

00:31:30.000 You know what?

00:31:30.000 It's wine.

00:31:31.000 Unless it's Chardonnay, because I really hate Chardonnay.

00:31:34.000 It's okay.

00:31:35.000 You're not gonna die from the fact that he chose this Cabernet Sauvignon.

00:31:40.000 Just let him do it.

00:31:41.000 It's okay.

00:31:42.000 He wants to give to you.

00:31:44.000 In fact, a great way to turn men on is to ask him to help you.

00:31:48.000 I kind of feel like a lot of this has to do with, at some point there was a fracture in our society that resulted in two different factions, I guess, right?

00:31:58.000 We have the culture war today, a lot of people trying to figure out if it's left versus right, nationalist versus globalist, or authoritarian, whatever.

00:32:05.000 And when I hear stories like this, as a guy, you never know what ideology the woman holds.

00:32:13.000 And so are you even allowed to make a move on the woman as it is?

00:32:16.000 So you mentioned the guys want to court you.

00:32:18.000 Well, if you go to like a sports pub, you're probably going to bump into a guy who knows nothing about critical theory and feminism, and they'll probably start hitting on you. 1.00

00:32:26.000 If you're in a big city, though, and you go to like a hipster bar, the guys won't go anywhere near you because you're not allowed to.

00:32:32.000 Right.

00:32:32.000 So, I mean, you look at that video that went viral.

00:32:35.000 You see it was 10 hours of walking in New York as a woman.

00:32:38.000 Remember that one?

00:32:39.000 Oh, yeah.

00:32:40.000 So, some of these things that were depicted as wrong was a guy saying, howdy, or like, nice day, or how you doing?

00:32:49.000 And hello.

00:32:51.000 It's terrible.

00:32:54.000 If that's the message we're getting from mainstream media, then what guy is going to risk his reputation, his career, and then, even if he does get married, get divorced at some point, and then just lose everything and his kids?

00:33:06.000 Society is currently being set up in a way that is telling men to do everything they can not to get married, and they're happy.

00:33:13.000 No responsibility.

00:33:14.000 They can sit around playing video games all day.

00:33:15.000 I think it's bad for the spirit.

00:33:18.000 And in the long term, the purpose of our society, but I think this is just another factor that's resulting in the collapse of American culture and Western culture over... I don't know what it is.

00:33:31.000 I don't want to say it's that we have too much freedom or anything like that, that we can choose to just Self-gratify, right?

00:33:39.000 We're a wealthy, successful country, so we can play video games all day, we can drink Mountain Dew and eat Taco Bell and not have to worry about a thing.

00:33:46.000 I don't think that it's our choice, our ability to do these things.

00:33:50.000 I think it's the pressures of... Man, I go back to what we were mentioning earlier with doubling the workforce in a short amount of time.

00:34:02.000 As soon as people were like, you know, we should have women in the workplace if they so choose, it became part of a movement that they should be in the workplace. 0.92

00:34:10.000 All of a sudden, then, you double the workforce without increasing demand, and everyone's competing and wages are dropping.

00:34:17.000 Then they say, okay, we gotta have a minimum wage to guarantee it, but there's still not enough jobs, so then some people don't have jobs.

00:34:22.000 Once that happens and everyone's wages are depressed, there's a lot of other factors as to why that happens.

00:34:27.000 You have all of these factors building up over decades that result in a generation of people who are not compatible in terms of long-term relationships and families.

00:34:38.000 Yeah.

00:34:39.000 No, it's depressing and it's sad, and I think that we are too focused on the narratives of how to be a woman means, you know, to be President of the United States, to be Vice President of the United States, to be the top echelon of everything.

00:34:57.000 And, I mean, all the power to every woman, and I certainly strive in my own career, my own life, to be the To reach my potential, and I'm so grateful to live in a country that enables me to do that.

00:35:12.000 But the truth is different than the narrative, and the truth is that most women become mothers.

00:35:20.000 Most women want to be mothers, which isn't to say that there aren't women who are child-free by choice, and they honor and champion the choice. 0.94

00:35:29.000 Everybody should do what they need and want to do.

00:35:32.000 The issue is that men are feeling, and I hear what you're saying, why should I get off the couch?

00:35:38.000 First of all, I can sext her. 0.83

00:35:40.000 And because she likes me and wants my attention, she'll sext back so I don't even need to take her out on a date.

00:35:48.000 Right, and if I take her out on a date, I mean, she's gonna make me feel like I'm not a man because she's gonna, like, not let me participate in... I don't think that's an issue.

00:35:58.000 No?

00:35:58.000 No.

00:35:59.000 I mean, maybe it depends on generation, you know, so maybe older guys really want that.

00:36:06.000 Me, personally, I've never really cared much for if a woman was like, I want this, I want that, whatever, I don't care. 1.00

00:36:12.000 Right, so what women want, so modern women want old-fashioned romance. 1.00

00:36:19.000 Now many feminists will say no, that's not true, but that's really what women want and partly because they are working so hard. 1.00

00:36:29.000 They are working hard in their career, those who have careers, right?

00:36:33.000 They're working hard there, but also They are nurturers so they're working on their friendships and their girlfriends that call them upset.

00:36:43.000 They're working to make sure their parents are okay, that their siblings are okay, their neighbors are okay.

00:36:49.000 They do a lot because of their own innate sense of taking care of people and taking care of the children in their life, etc.

00:36:57.000 And they want to know when they're with a guy that all he has to do is just say, meet me at this restaurant at 7 p.m.

00:37:08.000 That, that is like such a thing that women want. 1.00

00:37:10.000 It makes them feel so good.

00:37:12.000 So a guy's like, I don't care if she picks a place. 1.00

00:37:13.000 Like, whatever, whatever she wants.

00:37:15.000 Like, I mean, if she, there's a place like around the corner from her that she, I don't care.

00:37:19.000 It's funny.

00:37:21.000 It starts to sound to me like feminism is one of the worst possible things for women in the long run, and one of the best possible things for guys in the long run, from a very, like... What's the right way?

00:37:33.000 From a sort of mathematical perspective.

00:37:35.000 So, guys used to have to work really hard.

00:37:39.000 Backbreaking labor, you know, wiping the sweat off their brow, covered in dirt, going down to the coal mines.

00:37:45.000 Now they've got women working to support themselves so the guys don't have to worry about it anymore.

00:37:51.000 Women are not making the same demands of men in terms of sexual relationships. 0.96

00:37:56.000 It's just go on Tinder and the guy doesn't have to worry about it.

00:37:59.000 So now guys don't have to work.

00:38:01.000 They've got all the time in the world because they don't have a biological clock in the same way as a woman. 1.00

00:38:05.000 So they're sitting back with their feet up playing video games without a stress in the world.

00:38:09.000 I'm being hyperbolic.

00:38:10.000 Sure.

00:38:12.000 Women are working, they're worried about how much time they have in order to have a family, they're stressing about how to find the right guy, and guys are just sitting there swiping on Tinder while they're watching, you know, porn.

00:38:24.000 Yeah, so they're swiping on Tinder and watching porn at the same time.

00:38:30.000 And they're like, what am I worried about?

00:38:33.000 I've got friends, you know, I grew up skateboarding, and all of these guys Don't care about anything.

00:38:39.000 They will work a minimum wage job if it means that you can have ten people in a two-bedroom apartment so they can work only a couple days, it's a hundred bucks a month for rent, and they can skate the rest of the day.

00:38:50.000 That's all they care about.

00:38:51.000 And I look at the guys who grew up around me from my neighborhood and everything.

00:38:57.000 A few of them have families.

00:39:00.000 But not by plan, you know what I mean?

00:39:03.000 And then everyone else who kind of planned and worked and went to college, they're sitting back with their feet up, making tons of money, they have careers, and they're not worried at all.

00:39:10.000 And you talk to them and they're like, eh, I don't know, you know, when I'm 40 maybe I'll find a 25-year-old.

00:39:14.000 They're not worried at all.

00:39:15.000 Right, right.

00:39:16.000 No, and also because they don't have a biological clock and all of that.

00:39:20.000 And you are a prime example of a guy who decided that wasn't enough and you manned up your own life.

00:39:29.000 Look at what you're doing, right?

00:39:31.000 You're the guy who said, no, this is not fulfilling for me to only skateboard or sit on the couch or Tinder porn watch,

00:39:40.000 right?

00:39:41.000 You decided that, no, I have potential.

00:39:44.000 I have great potential.

00:39:45.000 I don't even know my potential because I haven't even started it yet and then you did and you're still going and you're still going.

00:39:53.000 You're building a media empire, right?

00:39:55.000 You're a man.

00:39:56.000 And that's sexy to women. 1.00

00:39:58.000 It is not sexy for a guy to be sitting on the couch, you know, swiping on Tinder.

00:40:04.000 Women don't find that appealing. 1.00

00:40:06.000 But it works for them.

00:40:07.000 Well, it does and it doesn't.

00:40:09.000 There's also a lot of men who are depressed, a lot of men who, you know, unfortunately commit suicide, a lot of men who are overdosing, who are aimless, and they're getting older, and they don't know how to get out of it.

00:40:22.000 And I'm hoping one of the silver linings of COVID is That many were forced to be alone.

00:40:28.000 That there was no other choice.

00:40:31.000 Maybe life needs a little more meaning.

00:40:34.000 And again, that's where a partner, a woman or man, in his life can help him get there.

00:40:43.000 We've been talking a little bit about the rat utopia experiment.

00:40:46.000 Have you ever heard of that?

00:40:47.000 No.

00:40:47.000 It sounds lovely.

00:40:48.000 I don't know.

00:40:49.000 I don't know too much about it other than people have chatted us about it.

00:40:52.000 But the general premise was that they created the space where they put a bunch of rats in this, you know, terrarium kind of thing.

00:40:59.000 Unlimited food and water.

00:41:01.000 Not a care in the world.

00:41:01.000 No threats.

00:41:03.000 And eventually they populated to a certain point.

00:41:06.000 Then they started becoming...

00:41:09.000 They started changing.

00:41:11.000 Some stopped having sex altogether, some stopped eating, some just started dying. 0.96

00:41:14.000 I think some started becoming cannibals. 0.84

00:41:17.000 It was like really brutal.

00:41:18.000 Once they reached a certain level of crowding and population, weird things started happening in their rat society. 0.82

00:41:25.000 I wonder if humans have reached a point like that, and I think that's why people bring it up, to where maybe the reason we're not having families anymore is because we got a ton of people on the planet as it is.

00:41:35.000 Especially psychologically with social media.

00:41:37.000 In the early days, I was like, oh, Facebook, good.

00:41:39.000 I'm going to get all my friends on Facebook, and then I'll be able to message everybody at once, and then I can throw a big party where I have everyone to my house.

00:41:46.000 And then all of a sudden, I had like 170 people, 300 people, and I didn't talk to any of them.

00:41:52.000 I was so overwhelmed.

00:41:53.000 And that's like one of the things that happened with the rat utopia experiments.

00:41:56.000 They would like crowd in areas just like in weird ways.

00:42:00.000 But I wonder if what happens is, you know, we used to have kids out of necessity.

00:42:05.000 You know, that's why if you look at less developed nations, they have lots of kids because the kids do jobs.

00:42:11.000 Right.

00:42:12.000 But now we got washing machines, we got dishwashers, we got stoves, we got clean running water in the cities.

00:42:18.000 So you don't need to have kids.

00:42:19.000 Maybe it's just a natural state of life where you find this equilibrium point where you just don't need to have kids, so there's no real drive to do it.

00:42:29.000 No woman goes through childbirth because she needs it. 1.00

00:42:36.000 Because she's literally putting her life in danger.

00:42:41.000 Women have an existential, in her body, everything, not all women, most women, to have a child. 0.99

00:42:53.000 Do you think every month, We have a violent reminder of our evolutionary, you know, role.

00:43:02.000 And it's not the patriarchy that created menstruation, right?

00:43:06.000 We have it.

00:43:07.000 But I'm not saying that, like, women sit there and think to themselves, like, I'm gonna have a kid because I need to have a kid.

00:43:12.000 I'm just saying that pressures begin to appear to not have kids once a certain level in a population size or amount of resources.

00:43:23.000 And then it just becomes less feasible for people to do.

00:43:26.000 That's definitely the case for men. 0.93

00:43:27.000 I mean, we used to spread our seed to as many women as possible, and now that's become taboo in society. 0.96

00:43:34.000 So that's an example of not overpopulating.

00:43:37.000 Is it taboo?

00:43:39.000 For the most part, polygamy is kind of looked down upon in modern America.

00:43:42.000 Yeah, but promiscuity is through the roof. 0.99

00:43:45.000 But not having children all over the place.

00:43:46.000 Definitely doing it.

00:43:48.000 I mean, yeah, I guess you'd be frowned upon in any capacity.

00:43:50.000 The old trope was that the guy would be chased out of the farmhouse by the dad with the shotgun, you know, who was sleeping with the farmer's daughter or whatever.

00:43:55.000 All that alimony.

00:43:57.000 Well, it was because you have to make, like, shotgun wedding, you know?

00:44:00.000 You're gonna take care of this kid, and you've just committed yourself to doing it.

00:44:04.000 These days, it's like, swipe on Tinder, you just sit there and you swipe non-stop, and then you do whatever you want.

00:44:11.000 And it's encouraged.

00:44:13.000 Back in the old days, like I'm thinking of Zeus, you know, these ancient, where he had like 40 kids, and then he had kids with his kids, and like, because they needed to populate, they were like recovering from a flood.

00:44:23.000 Those are stories.

00:44:24.000 Yeah. 0.55

00:44:25.000 Didn't he turn himself into a duck and then bang a woman or something? 0.98

00:44:29.000 Wow! 0.99

00:44:30.000 Brutal.

00:44:30.000 What a weird story.

00:44:32.000 Maybe it was real, maybe it wasn't, but I think that behavior wasn't so taboo as it is today, and where So whereas women have the burning desire to have children, men have the burning desire to have, to spread their seed.

00:44:43.000 And we've had to kind of culturally subdue that because it doesn't mix with modern day, you know, society.

00:44:50.000 Like too many kids without fathers would be very bad for society.

00:44:53.000 What is that?

00:44:54.000 It's bad for the kids.

00:44:55.000 Kids who are born with, who don't have a father, father figure in the household are more likely to be poor, more likely not to graduate high school, more likely to end up in jail.

00:45:05.000 So, men have a very important role in society, and again, it just keeps, you've asked, you know, well, what can we do?

00:45:12.000 And unfortunately, you know, it's too late for the millennial and Gen X generations to change that, although certainly men can stand up and do better.

00:45:25.000 And they can be there for boys.

00:45:27.000 And even if you're not a father, if you're an uncle or if you're a friend of the family, you could be there for a boy and you can help raise that boy.

00:45:34.000 That is such a gift to that boy because that boy will grow up to reach his potential if he has that.

00:45:41.000 But unfortunately, we have kids who aren't growing up without dads and it just keeps going around and around the same circle.

00:45:55.000 Look, again, women generally want to be moms. 1.00

00:46:00.000 Not all women. 0.96

00:46:01.000 Women want to be moms. 1.00

00:46:03.000 And it is devastating when she's doing everything she can.

00:46:09.000 She's doing all the right things.

00:46:11.000 She's contributing to society.

00:46:13.000 She's doing everything she can.

00:46:15.000 And I agree with you that a guy who's, you know, her equal in terms of, you know, career, income, what have you, He, you know, she's 35, he's 35, he can easily marry a 25-year-old.

00:46:31.000 What happened to her, right? 0.72

00:46:32.000 So it is, but it's devastating to those women. 0.98

00:46:35.000 The level of, I mean, I've, I have grieved not having children.

00:46:40.000 I'm, I'm beyond hope of having children.

00:46:44.000 And so I've moved on from that, but certainly, I mean, and it's, and it's elongated now because it used to be that a woman, you know, hit a certain age, 40 plus or minus, she was no longer fertile, couldn't have children.

00:46:56.000 But today, let's say egg freezing.

00:46:59.000 Well, there's still hope.

00:47:00.000 Or even IVF.

00:47:01.000 There's still hope.

00:47:02.000 All this technology.

00:47:03.000 People will tell you, oh but my cousin's sister's neighbor had twins at 45.

00:47:08.000 Still hope.

00:47:08.000 So what does that do?

00:47:10.000 It creates this longer time of grief for this woman.

00:47:14.000 And it's really hard.

00:47:18.000 I'm, again, a champion of boys and I think we need to go back and look at education, how we are educating boys, how we're making sure that they have male role models, how we're letting them play, encouraging them to play, all of those things, right?

00:47:31.000 I think that we also, on the men's side, need to be a little bit more sympathetic to women.

00:47:37.000 They're not desperate because they really want to go out with you again because they like you.

00:47:41.000 They're not desperate because they want to have a baby in their 36.

00:47:45.000 They're women, and they want to be moms, and that's perfectly normal, and it doesn't make them weak. 0.99

00:47:50.000 It makes them strong to be able to admit that that's what they want.

00:47:53.000 And if you're a guy who's going to lead a woman on, and just because, you know, you don't really want, I don't know, well, maybe we'll try, well, maybe next year, well, when I get a raise, you know what? 1.00

00:48:03.000 Her fertility doesn't have time for your excuses. 1.00

00:48:06.000 So if you love her, or if you don't love her, let her go, or get married, and be a man.

00:48:14.000 So there's a, I guess it's a stereotype, maybe there's actual data behind this, I've not read it, that men tend to be goal-oriented and women tend to be social-oriented.

00:48:23.000 So a guy derives his joy from accomplishing something that dopamine hit, whereas women from social acceptance. 1.00

00:48:30.000 And I don't know if that's true, but it does kind of play into the story about how young women are becoming depressed because of social media.

00:48:36.000 They go on Instagram, they take a selfie, they post it, it doesn't get enough likes, they delete it right away.

00:48:42.000 And it does affect guys, but not as much.

00:48:44.000 Sure.

00:48:45.000 I've noticed something really interesting when I watch skateboarding videos on Instagram.

00:48:49.000 I noticed that there are a lot of videos of guys skateboarding.

00:48:54.000 And actually, you know what?

00:48:55.000 I'm not even talking about skateboarding.

00:48:57.000 When guys take photos of things or when they post things, it's an object.

00:49:01.000 When women do it, it's of them. 1.00

00:49:02.000 So I even know female journalists and it's the weirdest thing to me where they're like on the ground in the Middle East and they're taking a selfie of themselves with like the thing in the background and I'm like... 0.64

00:49:13.000 Just show the tank, like, you know?

00:49:15.000 And then what guys do is they'll post a video of just the tank with themselves not in it.

00:49:18.000 Yeah.

00:49:19.000 So I wonder if that also plays a very serious role in that the reason women are hyper-focusing on work is because society, because of what would be deemed acceptable. 1.00

00:49:30.000 And this is stemming from when you look at news media and cultural media, the women who are working these jobs are mostly career women, not all of them.

00:49:41.000 And then you end up with a tendency to only get the positive social message from women who are not married, who are working careers, then telling younger women, this is the right way to do it, this is what's great.

00:49:55.000 And because of the social pressure, they do, and that's perpetuating this cycle.

00:50:01.000 Yeah.

00:50:02.000 There are no career women. 1.00

00:50:05.000 It's not like women are choosing to have a career. 1.00

00:50:07.000 Women have to work. 1.00

00:50:08.000 We do.

00:50:08.000 What else are we supposed to do?

00:50:10.000 Get married at a young age, I guess.

00:50:12.000 And siphon off the man.

00:50:14.000 Or have a traditional family.

00:50:17.000 I guess raising a kid's worth more than money, that's for sure.

00:50:20.000 But it's not like they're choosing career over love, marriage, and motherhood.

00:50:25.000 I didn't do that.

00:50:26.000 Most women aren't doing that. 1.00

00:50:28.000 Well, what's stopping them from having a relationship then?

00:50:32.000 So my mom actually asked me this because she and I were talking about millennial women and why they don't really appear to want to get married and or have kids. 1.00

00:50:39.000 And I said, Mom, we can't afford to.

00:50:41.000 We can't afford rent.

00:50:43.000 Where we were living, rent was like $1,400 or $1,500 a month.

00:50:46.000 And I was like, there's no way to afford rent and also have children unless you are both working.

00:50:51.000 And I was like, I don't want to do that.

00:50:52.000 I want to be able to actually raise my kids.

00:50:55.000 And that means like part-time work or not working at all and being like a stay-at-home mom.

00:50:59.000 It's very much a matter of money.

00:51:00.000 I think you're right.

00:51:01.000 Yeah, no, it is.

00:51:02.000 It's economics.

00:51:03.000 How did the families do it, I don't know, 300 years ago?

00:51:06.000 Walking in the woods with a shark?

00:51:08.000 Yeah, we don't have that anymore.

00:51:10.000 The economy today means that most women and men have to work. 0.98

00:51:17.000 What else are we going to do?

00:51:17.000 And especially when a woman—why shouldn't a woman work?

00:51:21.000 Why shouldn't a woman have a career? 1.00

00:51:23.000 And I don't mean this in the feminist way, in the traditional feminist way.

00:51:27.000 I just mean it like, why not?

00:51:29.000 That's not feminism, that's just being human. 1.00

00:51:32.000 I very much wanted to be married and have children.

00:51:34.000 I had a baby name book when I was 12.

00:51:36.000 that she, like for instance, again, me, right?

00:51:38.000 I very much wanted to be married and have children.

00:51:41.000 I had a baby name book when I was 12.

00:51:44.000 I mean, I had planned my wedding in my family backyard.

00:51:48.000 This was what I wanted and it didn't happen, not because I didn't want it,

00:51:54.000 but if I didn't have as well, like when I was in my late 30s,

00:51:58.000 that's when I decided to create my own company because I didn't know if I was gonna have some legacy.

00:52:03.000 And that's in the end, part of why we have children.

00:52:05.000 We wanna know we're gonna leave something.

00:52:07.000 We want, if it's not literal DNA, then maybe it's some sort of intellectual DNA.

00:52:11.000 There's something we can leave behind.

00:52:14.000 And so that's why women have careers because they need to be able to pay the rent, etc. 1.00

00:52:20.000 And by the way, if they do meet a guy, he's divorced because the 22-year-old he married really wasn't exactly what he needed because she was much more interested in her body and her selfies than in him and in helping him be the best he can be.

00:52:37.000 And he then finds this 40-year-old woman Who's amazing because they're the same age and actually share the same conversations, intellect, experience, etc. 0.70

00:52:46.000 And he's, well, OK, well, we'll have a kid together.

00:52:49.000 OK, but where was she going to get the money for the IVF or for the eggs that she froze?

00:52:55.000 I mean, careers pay for things.

00:52:57.000 And part of it is it gives her a safety net for her fertility. 0.97

00:53:00.000 It seems like a tsunami, I guess, or it's like, because every single woman and man are engaging in these certain behaviors, it's created a situation where no one person, an avalanche is a better word for it, no one snowflake can now break away.

00:53:16.000 If the system were that, you know, like it was way back in the day where women would just, you know, they're in high school and they're like thinking about the guy they want to marry or whatever and then they got out of high school and then sought to get married and the guy took care of everything, I think that Yeah. 0.86

00:53:32.000 the avalanche started, you know, for a lot of reasons.

00:53:36.000 I think it's great that women, you know, civil rights expanded, women are in the workplace,

00:53:40.000 women voting and all that stuff. 0.99

00:53:42.000 But it's, I wonder if, you know, the pendulum swings and you can't just stop it.

00:53:48.000 So it goes entirely to the other side and now it's, well, women now have to work. 1.00

00:53:52.000 It's not, you don't have a choice.

00:53:54.000 Whereas back in the day, it was difficult for women to work. 1.00

00:53:57.000 So the pendulum was on one side, it should have been in the place where everyone could choose to work if they want to, but now it's, you have to work, sorry.

00:54:05.000 And because of that, it's creating pressures that make it very difficult to actually have a family.

00:54:09.000 And it's making it very difficult for people to afford to have a family because...

00:54:13.000 Well, you can't just walk into the woods with an axe anymore and build a log cabin and have your kids.

00:54:18.000 Now everything's under control by government regulation.

00:54:22.000 So there's no getting on a boat and go finding a place where, you know, back in the day, and I mean like hundreds of years ago, a dude would walk over and like stick a piece of wood in the ground and be like, mine.

00:54:31.000 And then have a kid and be like, we're gonna live here.

00:54:33.000 There's water.

00:54:34.000 Can't do that anymore.

00:54:35.000 Right.

00:54:35.000 And that's actually what's sexy to a woman, a decisive man.

00:54:38.000 And I mean that sincerely.

00:54:40.000 A woman wants a man who say, You, I want you. 1.00

00:54:46.000 And I want you, this is how we're going to live.

00:54:49.000 I have, you know, savings and I'm buying this house and we have this car and we're going

00:54:55.000 to, now a woman can say, well, I mean, I really prefer that car. 0.97

00:54:58.000 Okay, we'll get that car.

00:55:00.000 I mean, you can come to, you can negotiate.

00:55:02.000 But a woman wants a man who wants her, is decisive about it, is strong about it, where 0.96

00:55:08.000 she feels like this is the guy who isn't going to want to spread his seeds.

00:55:14.000 So she feels safe and secure that once she has a baby, he's not going to leave her to

00:55:17.000 go have a baby with somebody else. 1.00

00:55:19.000 Women want men who are decisive.

00:55:22.000 Women want men who are thoughtful.

00:55:24.000 They're not a-holes, right?

00:55:27.000 And fun.

00:55:30.000 Three things.

00:55:32.000 So, the question is, you, again, Tim, are a man.

00:55:38.000 You have taken charge of your life.

00:55:41.000 You are, you get hit by the left, by the right, and by the middle, and by everybody around it.

00:55:47.000 Most of the people don't even get who you are or what you're doing.

00:55:51.000 You are, you're like leading a way, and others are trying to copy you, be you, whatever it is, because you're so good at what you do.

00:56:00.000 Yeah, they stole my thumbnails. 0.98

00:56:01.000 They did.

00:56:02.000 I believe that.

00:56:04.000 Everybody does the red with the bold and they use the same font and everything.

00:56:08.000 Yep.

00:56:08.000 If it works, it works.

00:56:10.000 And you're a skateboarder and you show everybody how much fun you're having.

00:56:15.000 I mean, you're the kind of guy that women want.

00:56:19.000 Do you want to get married?

00:56:22.000 I'm worried about the legal system.

00:56:25.000 OK.

00:56:25.000 Yeah.

00:56:26.000 Yeah.

00:56:26.000 But yeah, I do.

00:56:27.000 Prenups can help.

00:56:29.000 Yeah.

00:56:29.000 But it's it's just what's the point?

00:56:33.000 What do you mean?

00:56:33.000 What's the point?

00:56:34.000 What's the point of marriage?

00:56:35.000 Well, let's discuss what is the point of marriage?

00:56:38.000 Part of the point of marriage is to have a partner.

00:56:40.000 I mean, do you do you?

00:56:47.000 Do you feel like when you have somebody important in your life, that you have more energy, you have more incentive?

00:56:55.000 Yes, you do.

00:56:56.000 You're nodding yes.

00:56:57.000 Everything, I would say all of the expansion, what people need to realize is that none of this would not be possible without Allison, who is my girlfriend.

00:57:09.000 Right.

00:57:10.000 And she is effectively running this business. 0.98

00:57:11.000 Okay.

00:57:12.000 So I sit around and people say like, Hey, we want to do this.

00:57:16.000 And I'm like, ask Alison.

00:57:18.000 Because I can look at a camera, I can talk, give my opinions, but the paperwork, the fine, I would not be able to do it without her.

00:57:24.000 Right.

00:57:24.000 That's a true partner.

00:57:26.000 There was, there was like a wall where a certain point it was like, here I am, here's what I can do.

00:57:32.000 And this is what we have.

00:57:35.000 And then you, you find that, you know, that, that partner who can help you.

00:57:39.000 And then all of a sudden it just like the wall exploded.

00:57:42.000 And now it's just like, we're growing out of control.

00:57:46.000 It's amazing.

00:57:46.000 You are one of the most fortunate people in the world to be as young as you are, and I know you're not in your 20s, but young.

00:57:54.000 I'm an old man.

00:57:54.000 I'm 35.

00:57:56.000 And to have found a woman who loves you, and just by her very being and loving you, enables you to be twice the guy you are.

00:58:10.000 That doesn't come across very, that doesn't happen often.

00:58:13.000 You're very lucky and she's very lucky that you understand that and that you see that in her and I'm sure that how all the ways that she helps you and and and your life is like twice the life or more.

00:58:28.000 Her life is twice the life or more by being able to give you that.

00:58:33.000 That's how she grows.

00:58:35.000 So I don't want you to focus on all the things that could go wrong and unfortunately right now for men it's tougher.

00:58:46.000 I want you to focus on all the stuff that's going right.

00:58:49.000 I'm envious of you.

00:58:51.000 I want that kind of love.

00:58:52.000 I want a partner and I've had those partners and unfortunately it didn't work out for whatever reason.

00:58:57.000 That's the kind of partner you deserve, kind of partner I deserve, we all deserve.

00:59:02.000 And Allison deserves.

00:59:04.000 So I'm hoping that she brings you down to your knees.

00:59:08.000 It's more than twice as effective, too, like when you have the right partner.

00:59:12.000 It seems like you do 10% of the work.

00:59:16.000 Like what you're doing becomes 10% of the next structure.

00:59:19.000 And she's handling like 90%.

00:59:20.000 I'm not just saying you specifically in this situation, but like when you're in the right situation, you end up doing like What your old 100% was is now 10% of the new system, which is now 1000% of what you were capable of before.

00:59:32.000 You're building a world together.

00:59:34.000 You're building a life together.

00:59:35.000 You know, there's this thing when a Jewish couple, a more traditional Jewish couple gets married, the bride walks around her groom seven times because that's the number of days it took to create the world. 0.72

00:59:50.000 She's helping him create his world and she is his world and he is her world.

00:59:57.000 That's what life is about.

01:00:00.000 It's about partnership.

01:00:01.000 It's about building a world together.

01:00:03.000 And your world wouldn't look like it does without your partner, without Allison.

01:00:08.000 And I find sometimes I'm frustrated because I know I could be so much more if I had that partner.

01:00:16.000 And yeah, I have great men in my life.

01:00:18.000 I have good friends in my life.

01:00:19.000 That's why I champion men and I'm so grateful for the men in my life.

01:00:26.000 Obviously, I want a relationship and I want marriage.

01:00:29.000 So what does marriage give me?

01:00:30.000 It gives me me.

01:00:33.000 You know, my issue with marriage, let me be pedantic for a moment, is the definition of the word means to mix.

01:00:40.000 When you marry two things, you're mixing them.

01:00:42.000 And I've seen people that live together for 50 years, never, never involved the legal system.

01:00:46.000 And they're just a couple that live their life and love each other and maybe even have kids outside of the legal system.

01:00:51.000 And then I've seen people go, I want to be married to you.

01:00:55.000 They go sign some paperwork and then they get divorced within like three or four years and end up losing all this money.

01:01:01.000 And what's real marriage?

01:01:04.000 To me, it's mixing your soul with someone.

01:01:07.000 Whether or not the law is involved, I don't really care.

01:01:09.000 And then there's the church, which is the whole religious aspect of it.

01:01:12.000 So I don't know.

01:01:13.000 That's that's my take on it.

01:01:14.000 Yeah.

01:01:14.000 Look, I'm I'm not telling certainly not telling people how to live their life.

01:01:19.000 And I and I certainly I mean, for me, I'm not going to have children.

01:01:24.000 And please, God, I'll meet this guy sooner than later.

01:01:27.000 I mean, I don't need to marry him in that.

01:01:30.000 I don't need to have that stable household for my children that I'm not going to have.

01:01:34.000 Would I like to be married?

01:01:37.000 Sure, of course.

01:01:39.000 But right now, I want a partner.

01:01:41.000 But when we're talking about younger people, especially assuming they want children, marriage, especially for the woman, feels much more secure.

01:01:53.000 And I get the family law issues.

01:01:58.000 I think that marriage is something that can create tremendous value for the couple and that commitment, and it is a risky commitment, but commitment is something very powerful.

01:02:12.000 It feels like our society's in a weird hybrid state between traditional, hierarchical, I guess essentialist and constructivist, whereas the woke left are constructivist.

01:02:25.000 They want a clean slate.

01:02:27.000 They believe in blank slate.

01:02:28.000 They get rid of all the old traditions and then have this equity society where men and women are the exact same.

01:02:34.000 A man can be a woman, you know, whatever. 0.98

01:02:35.000 A woman can be a man. 1.00

01:02:36.000 And then you have the traditional society, which is the man works, the woman raises the kids, you get married. 0.91

01:02:42.000 It's a societal contract between the two parties.

01:02:44.000 And right now, we're mashed in between these two versions of reality.

01:02:48.000 It doesn't work.

01:02:50.000 You can't have some people believing some of these things and some people believing some of these other things.

01:02:55.000 And because of that, we have a legal structure that disincentivizes the traditional, and it's moving more and more every generation towards the more constructivist.

01:03:06.000 I say constructivist view as opposed to the essentialist.

01:03:11.000 For whatever reason, that keeps happening, and it's likely to move in that direction.

01:03:14.000 That's where it seems we're going.

01:03:16.000 Now, there have been... Pew put out this data.

01:03:20.000 Gen Z is ever so slightly more conservative than millennials.

01:03:25.000 Yes.

01:03:25.000 But I don't think that's because they're having an awakening or Gen Z realized something was wrong or anything like that, or they're rebelling.

01:03:32.000 I think it's because conservatives in the previous generation were just more likely to have kids.

01:03:37.000 So it's not that Gen Z are becoming or, you know, are ideologically more conservative.

01:03:42.000 There's just more conservative Gen Z ever so slightly.

01:03:45.000 That's interesting.

01:03:48.000 Right.

01:03:48.000 They're the offspring of those more likely to have children.

01:03:51.000 And exactly.

01:03:52.000 And even then, they're still more progressive than their parents and very much as progressive as millennials, only to a slightly lesser degree.

01:04:02.000 So you so if that's the case then it seems like we're gonna continually move towards a future where in two or three

01:04:08.000 generations it's going to be a bunch of

01:04:11.000 gender neutral shaved heads blue jumpsuits No marriage, you know babies born in pods eat the bugs 1.00

01:04:20.000 I hope not Seems like that's where we're going.

01:04:24.000 I don't know.

01:04:25.000 I mean, I think that's the AOC, you know, people shouldn't have children in the environment.

01:04:32.000 And I mean, this is not, no, I, again, There's something about the human condition that makes us want to find a partner and have children with that partner.

01:04:44.000 Again, not everybody, not judging anybody, but for the most part, and we know this to be true because for the most part it happens.

01:04:51.000 So while a woman is marrying later than ever, and she's having her first child later than ever, it doesn't mean that she doesn't want those children.

01:05:02.000 In fact, The fact that a woman has a child in her late 30s, even early 40s, proves that she's waiting for love.

01:05:13.000 You know what's really interesting about this?

01:05:15.000 Women having children later and later. 0.88

01:05:18.000 The biological clock of a woman, it's not identical for every single woman.

01:05:23.000 And so a society that is telling women to wait, or at least there's pressures to make them wait, I wonder what the effect on future generations will be based on these pressures in terms of selection.

01:05:35.000 If you have a woman, if the average woman can't have kids past say 40 or whatever the age number is, And then, you know, and that's based on a society where women are having kids when they're 20 or 22 or even younger, maybe 18. 1.00

01:05:48.000 Then you start telling women, have kids when you're 40. 0.87

01:05:51.000 What happens is, the women who can do, and the women who can't don't. 1.00

01:05:55.000 Right.

01:05:56.000 So then the children of those women are more likely to be able to have kids later on in their lives. 1.00

01:06:00.000 I wonder if the result of this might be... I didn't follow that.

01:06:03.000 So, it's... It's not biologic.

01:06:05.000 If they're having a child at age 40 plus, yes, women at age 40 can Have intercourse and get pregnant and have a baby. 0.97

01:06:16.000 But it's not easy and it doesn't always happen.

01:06:20.000 So it's not a biological thing.

01:06:22.000 Those women are having their first baby at 40 plus.

01:06:25.000 Usually there is some help.

01:06:27.000 Well, so what I mean is, if there are 100 women, and based on all of these women in the previous generations, the average age at which they, you know, it's like, here's your lat, 39.

01:06:37.000 If you don't have a kid by 39, you're probably not gonna have kids.

01:06:42.000 By telling all these women to wait, I wonder if what would happen is that, say half of the women, as soon as they hit 40, fail to have kids. 0.99

01:06:50.000 Right.

01:06:51.000 The other half at 40 do have kids.

01:06:53.000 Right.

01:06:54.000 Which means the children of those women are also more likely to be able to have kids around the same age because they share similar genetics. 0.94

01:07:01.000 No, it's not because it's not genetics.

01:07:03.000 Meaning... First of all, because she's getting part of her genes from her dad as well.

01:07:09.000 But no, it's not the genetics.

01:07:12.000 It's every woman has a biological clock. 1.00

01:07:15.000 And to your point, yeah, it could be 39, it could be 41, it could be 35, it could be 23.

01:07:18.000 I just mean evolution.

01:07:21.000 Right?

01:07:22.000 Some kind of evolutionary pressure created this time limit.

01:07:24.000 And that time limit can be changed by creating a pressure for women to have children later and later in life. 1.00

01:07:29.000 What's happening is that people aren't necessarily telling women to wait.

01:07:33.000 Women want to... So the women who have their first child at age 35 plus are likely to be college educated. 1.00

01:07:42.000 So...

01:07:45.000 And we were discussing earlier, they're having trouble finding a man because a man has a choice to marry a woman who isn't college-educated and or is college-educated.

01:07:57.000 Whatever reason, he can marry somebody.

01:07:59.000 He has many more choices when it comes to women, plus there are many more college-educated women who want college-educated men, etc. 0.99

01:08:07.000 Women are waiting for love. 1.00

01:08:08.000 They're not waiting because somebody told them to wait, to hold on.

01:08:12.000 I'm not saying that.

01:08:12.000 I just mean there are societal pressures that exist.

01:08:16.000 To what?

01:08:17.000 That times have changed.

01:08:19.000 It used to be that women had several pressures to have kids at a younger age and get married, you know, just before turning 20 or whatever. 1.00

01:08:24.000 Well, there isn't any societal pressure.

01:08:25.000 Maybe that's what it is.

01:08:26.000 If only there were societal pressure.

01:08:29.000 I mean, to go back to Jordan Peterson and the, what do we call it?

01:08:35.000 Enforced monogamy? 0.97

01:08:36.000 Yeah.

01:08:37.000 Women, you know, Women, especially Gen X and older millennials, sort of understood that, well, if so-and-so, this celebrity, had a baby at 45, had twins, I could do that.

01:08:53.000 But, of course, it could be donor eggs.

01:08:56.000 There are many other ways.

01:08:57.000 Maybe she had frozen her eggs. 0.94

01:08:59.000 I mean, who knows, right?

01:09:01.000 And it's not really the truth.

01:09:03.000 So women just didn't have all the information that they needed. 1.00

01:09:08.000 But again, really, I don't know women who are putting off having children when they really want children and they have a partner.

01:09:18.000 Most of the women who aren't having children at age 35 plus are single.

01:09:23.000 In fact, 80% of them are single.

01:09:26.000 They're waiting for love.

01:09:29.000 I wonder if love is a myth.

01:09:30.000 No, it's not a myth.

01:09:31.000 You're in love.

01:09:32.000 It's not a myth.

01:09:33.000 Look what it does for you.

01:09:34.000 But can everybody have?

01:09:36.000 No! 0.98

01:09:36.000 And that's what sucks. 0.98

01:09:38.000 According to the Greeks, there were seven types of love. 0.98

01:09:41.000 And Eros being one of them, that's physical sexual love.

01:09:43.000 There's like Agape, which is the love of the community.

01:09:45.000 There's the love of family, is one of them.

01:09:49.000 Platonic love, Plato actually.

01:09:51.000 That was actually an eighth type of love.

01:09:52.000 Plato was like, it's a love of friendship.

01:09:54.000 And I could look them up now if we want to talk about each one.

01:09:56.000 Storks, parents for children.

01:09:58.000 What's it called when you have like, when you have a bunch of cats?

01:10:01.000 Stork?

01:10:02.000 Is that what it is?

01:10:02.000 Love of children?

01:10:03.000 Yeah.

01:10:04.000 That's your love.

01:10:05.000 Like a parental love for a child.

01:10:06.000 Yeah.

01:10:07.000 Not the creepy kind of love.

01:10:08.000 We do need more words for love.

01:10:09.000 We do need more words for love.

01:10:11.000 I agree because, well, I don't, I don't need a man because I, you know, I, I love my kids or I love the, well, really?

01:10:20.000 No, it's actually, I've had women say, well, actually, you know what?

01:10:22.000 The truth is, like, I feel like a little chunky lately and I don't really want to date.

01:10:25.000 Like in the end, like women really choose love. 1.00

01:10:28.000 They want to be with a man. 0.74

01:10:30.000 Women generally, you know, heterosexual women love men and they want to be in love and men want to be in love.

01:10:38.000 So these guys gotta start going for walks.

01:10:41.000 Get off that couch.

01:10:42.000 Stop playing video games.

01:10:43.000 No more Mountain Dew or Taco Bell or whatever.

01:10:45.000 Go for a walk.

01:10:46.000 Start learning a skill.

01:10:48.000 You know, and when you cook for your girl, don't ask her what she wants. 0.92

01:10:52.000 Make something you like.

01:10:54.000 No, no, no.

01:10:54.000 Let her enjoy that with you.

01:10:55.000 Make something really awful and just tell her she has to eat it.

01:10:58.000 Tim's such a social engineer.

01:11:00.000 Such solid advice.

01:11:01.000 Seriously.

01:11:02.000 We're gonna make Mountain Dew chicken this weekend.

01:11:04.000 I brought up the seven types of love.

01:11:06.000 There's Eros, which I mentioned, the romantic, passionate love.

01:11:09.000 Filia, which is intimate, authentic friendship.

01:11:12.000 Then there's Ludus, which is a playful, flirtatious love.

01:11:15.000 Storge, which is unconditional, familial love.

01:11:18.000 Falacia, which is self-love.

01:11:20.000 Pragma, which is committed, companionate love.

01:11:23.000 And Agape, which is the love of the community, empathetic, universal love.

01:11:26.000 Which one of those is like when you have a good dog, you know?

01:11:28.000 I think it's the love of family.

01:11:30.000 Family?

01:11:30.000 Yeah, yeah, I think so.

01:11:32.000 And your dog is like a little soldier, like, yes sir!

01:11:34.000 And like, you know, he runs and like, you know, protects the family and stuff.

01:11:38.000 I've heard in otherhood, and I'm forgetting what the number is, but something like there, you know, I heard that there were 19 ways to smile and I'm afraid I'll never know all of them because I've never smiled at him.

01:11:51.000 I'm a romantic, clearly.

01:11:52.000 And I love what you're saying, Ian, about the types of love.

01:11:56.000 And I agree.

01:11:57.000 And I think, you know, in my otherhood, my book is dedicated to my friends, the family I choose.

01:12:03.000 I happen to love my family.

01:12:05.000 But friendship is really important.

01:12:06.000 All these areas of love.

01:12:08.000 But the type of love you're talking about, Tim, the type of love that enables you to be all you can be.

01:12:15.000 Is the best kind of love of all and I hope everybody watching and listening to this finds that love or has that love and cherishes that love.

01:12:24.000 Is that like when you have all the loves together and like all seven loves you experience with one person and people want that?

01:12:29.000 Like I don't want to settle for anything less than that.

01:12:31.000 And then you can snap your fingers and wipe out half of all life in the universe?

01:12:34.000 Yeah, you've gained all the love gems.

01:12:37.000 The infinity love stones?

01:12:38.000 I think people are holding out for like all the loves but like a lot of times you don't see it unless you love yourself to begin with.

01:12:46.000 You can't.

01:12:47.000 You can't love someone else unless you love yourself.

01:12:49.000 You ever see that movie Saving Silverman?

01:12:51.000 No.

01:12:51.000 It's where like there's three guys and like they're one friend that's dating this woman who really doesn't actually like him.

01:12:57.000 And then they're like, you don't even love him.

01:12:59.000 And she's like, there's many kinds of love. 0.98

01:13:01.000 And like, she's a controlling nasty person. 1.00

01:13:03.000 I love that. 0.99

01:13:04.000 But then she ends up really liking the crazy, like other friend.

01:13:08.000 And it's like, I don't know.

01:13:09.000 I haven't seen that movie.

01:13:09.000 It's like a 20 year old movie.

01:13:10.000 Yeah.

01:13:11.000 I got the guy from American pioneer.

01:13:12.000 I think what's that guy's name.

01:13:13.000 And the other guy, Steve's on, I don't know that they want all those loves.

01:13:18.000 I mean, all of those loves are great, but you know, a woman actually generally 1.00

01:13:21.000 women choose love over motherhood, however much they want motherhood. 1.00

01:13:27.000 Because love of a husband, your spouse is a, is a different kind of love.

01:13:32.000 And we don't, we call it romantic love, but.

01:13:35.000 I feel like we really need a whole new lexicon for this because it's a very powerful love that's very existential.

01:13:42.000 Not to say that children aren't, but it's a different kind of love.

01:13:45.000 You love your child and then you set them free if you're doing your job, right?

01:13:50.000 You prepare them for life.

01:13:52.000 Your partner should be with you till death do you part.

01:13:56.000 I think I get it.

01:13:57.000 I think that what guys need to do is maybe like, you know, women are going to want like a rugged man.

01:14:01.000 So don't shave, you know, get that guy's beard going.

01:14:03.000 But then they want somebody who's got style.

01:14:06.000 So maybe get like a nice fedora or something.

01:14:07.000 But they also want someone who can prove their fighting skills.

01:14:10.000 So maybe a katana.

01:14:11.000 Yeah, really big katana.

01:14:12.000 And then maybe like some old school, like gentlemanly, you know, dapper looks like a trench coat, fedora, katana and beard.

01:14:20.000 And that's exactly what women are into. 1.00

01:14:22.000 And then you can show off your katana skills.

01:14:23.000 You need a fedora, my friend.

01:14:27.000 Yeah, I was gonna say beanie works too.

01:14:28.000 I mean, I think, you know... Yeah, don't do the katana trench coat thing.

01:14:33.000 They're gonna take your advice seriously, I'm scared.

01:14:35.000 There's a lot of people who already do that.

01:14:36.000 That's the joke.

01:14:37.000 It's the fedora tipping.

01:14:38.000 But no, women do like generally masculine men. 0.57

01:14:44.000 And that doesn't mean that they're toxic.

01:14:47.000 There was an episode of Girls, which I know must be your favorite show.

01:14:52.000 Oh, yeah.

01:14:52.000 The best.

01:14:53.000 I mean, you know, everything.

01:14:53.000 Lena Dunham.

01:14:54.000 I mean, wow.

01:14:55.000 Wow.

01:14:56.000 So I Sort of cringe watched it, but I watched it and sort of like, because I want to understand all this culture and this, you know, millennial group and, you know, her whole line was, you know, she was the voice of the generation.

01:15:09.000 So the last scene of season two, sorry if I'm going to ruin for you, it's only eight years old or whatever.

01:15:14.000 She's going through some sort of mental breakdown, legit.

01:15:19.000 And she and her ex-boyfriend, on it, gone, on again, off again, Adam Driver character is her guy, and she texts him something.

01:15:28.000 And they were apart at this point.

01:15:31.000 And you see him jump up, run down the stairs, they're in Brooklyn, New York, down the stairs, down the subway, back up the subway, around the block, running, running, I mean, this whole thing, right?

01:15:41.000 And he runs up the stairs somehow, I don't forget how he gets into her apartment, picks her up in his arms.

01:15:49.000 The end.

01:15:50.000 If that's not Prince Charming, I don't know what is.

01:15:53.000 Yeah, but you know, these movies and shows where, like, take a look at, like, your trope of romantic comedy.

01:16:00.000 The guy, like, goes to the woman's house or, like, plays the boombox outside of her window, that guy's gonna get arrested real quick.

01:16:06.000 Like, these romantic comedies, a guy who does that goes to jail, and he's called creepy.

01:16:12.000 There was a video that, like, I mentioned the 10 hours of walking through New York as a woman thing, where, like, one guy's like, how's it going?

01:16:18.000 And they're like, so creepy.

01:16:20.000 There's a viral video right now where, like, a young girl is sitting at a table streaming, and a guy just, like, tries talking to her, and it's really awkward.

01:16:28.000 And everyone's acting like it was the apocalypse, like this guy was a creep, and I'm like, dude, it's just some awkward guy.

01:16:34.000 The girl was a little young, man, that guy probably shouldn't have done that, and that is an issue.

01:16:38.000 But I was thinking, just like, there's a big stigma around literally talking to a woman in public, period.

01:16:44.000 So, how was there supposed to be some romantic... I guess, you know, Mad Magazine said it best.

01:16:49.000 Mad Magazine, a long time ago... Have you guys ever read A Mad Look At?

01:16:53.000 I don't even know if Mad Magazine still exists.

01:16:55.000 I used to read that a lot.

01:16:56.000 It doesn't, but I loved it, yeah.

01:16:57.000 They had A Mad Look At, and it was a series of comics talking about a certain idea.

01:17:01.000 One of them, it was a mad look at public displays of affection.

01:17:03.000 It was hilarious.

01:17:04.000 The first panel was like this tall chiseled man with a suit and a beautiful woman and she's got her leg up as he's leaning into her and kissing her and everyone around is going like, aww.

01:17:16.000 The next one was the same thing, but a morbidly obese bald man and a big fat woman and everyone was angry and, you know, kind of pissed off.

01:17:23.000 So the fact of the matter is, and this is an obvious trope that exists on the internet and especially in the incel forums, If you're a weird-looking guy, or you're short and scraggly with a weird voice, you can't say these things to women.

01:17:39.000 But a tall, chiseled, handsome man, tall, dark, and handsome, well, he can walk up to a woman and he can say a lot of things.

01:17:44.000 And they'll swoon.

01:17:45.000 If it's a nasty guy, they'll belch.

01:17:47.000 Not belch, they'll cringe or vomit. 0.89

01:17:50.000 And then you'll get in trouble.

01:17:53.000 But that would be rude.

01:17:54.000 So, that woman doesn't deserve you, if a woman does that. 1.00

01:17:58.000 So, x-nay on those women anyway.

01:18:01.000 Here's the thing about men, the secret power of a man.

01:18:05.000 The secret power of a man is, it's all in the personality.

01:18:10.000 Be decisive, be thoughtful, be fun.

01:18:15.000 That's all you gotta do.

01:18:16.000 I would have, along those lines, you were talking about that text and that fantasy show.

01:18:21.000 Don't, if you're anybody, boy or girl, and you want to, you want to communicate love to someone, don't do it through text.

01:18:29.000 Maybe send a sentence here and there, but it's in the delivery.

01:18:33.000 Like you just said, if you want to express your love to someone, do it with your vibration, with your words, with your, the sound of your, you know.

01:18:40.000 I would agree with you, Ian, but I do think that sometimes text can be appropriate.

01:18:45.000 Like maybe you send like an eggplant emoji and then the water droplets and then the peach emoji.

01:18:49.000 It works so well.

01:18:50.000 And that will convey your emotions perfectly.

01:18:52.000 There's a time and place.

01:18:54.000 Yeah, right.

01:18:54.000 As in, yeah, I'll do it.

01:18:55.000 But walls of text, don't do it.

01:18:57.000 I don't know if kids, if younger culture understands because of the text, social media text culture, but it is not the way to communicate emotions in my opinion.

01:19:05.000 That's why you gotta do emojis.

01:19:07.000 Emojis only. 0.83

01:19:08.000 Yeah, like the skull face when you're laughing.

01:19:11.000 Yes.

01:19:12.000 That's what they do.

01:19:12.000 Okay.

01:19:13.000 I avoid text almost. 0.66

01:19:14.000 Crazy kids these days, they use the skull instead of the laughing face.

01:19:17.000 I tried to navigate relationships through text and I just destroyed my 30s basically in my late 20s.

01:19:23.000 So now I've kind of sworn it off.

01:19:25.000 If I get a text and I get agitated, I just set the phone down and ignore it.

01:19:29.000 And then I figure if I see them again, I'll talk to them.

01:19:31.000 That's a good idea.

01:19:32.000 That's smart.

01:19:33.000 I like that.

01:19:34.000 So what do you think about these dating apps?

01:19:36.000 Because one of the things I've brought up before is that when women were in, you know, before dating apps, before websites for dating, a man and a woman in college together, their dating pool was the same dating pool for the most part.

01:19:48.000 Right.

01:19:49.000 20-year-old woman has the same social circle as a 20-year-old man.

01:19:53.000 So the likelihood of her dating someone within her age range and at the college is high.

01:19:58.000 With dating apps, the likelihood that she's now going to pull up an app and find a 35-year-old guy who's got a convertible in an infinity pool infinitely higher.

01:20:06.000 And so it's very simple.

01:20:07.000 It's not that the woman doesn't like the guy at her school.

01:20:11.000 It's just that she gets two text messages.

01:20:13.000 One's the 20-year-old guy who's in her class and says, hey, we're going to go sit in the train tracks and like drink 40s.

01:20:19.000 And then the other message she gets is from the guy who's like, hey, I'm going to take the convertible down for a spin and go to the beach and look at the stars.

01:20:24.000 And which one is she going to pick?

01:20:26.000 Women have preferences. So maybe someone will I rather take the 40, but I think there's a tendency because the wealthier 1.00

01:20:32.000 guy The established guy has more opportunities for fun and

01:20:36.000 excitement and adventure. Yeah Sure.

01:20:40.000 These college women are more likely to choose that. 1.00

01:20:42.000 It's just opened up the world for them.

01:20:43.000 And it's allowed these older guys to get access to younger women in ways they couldn't before.

01:20:46.000 Sure.

01:20:47.000 So that means that guys who are, you know, college age right now, Gen Z, they're

01:20:53.000 going to struggle in the same way, in a similar way to millennials in that 20 year old.

01:20:58.000 I was talking to a guy a couple years ago.

01:21:00.000 He was like 24, and he was a virgin.

01:21:02.000 Yeah.

01:21:02.000 And he had no idea what to do.

01:21:04.000 Right.

01:21:04.000 Because no matter what, the women weren't interested in dating him.

01:21:07.000 He was a normal guy.

01:21:07.000 He wasn't a creepy weirdo.

01:21:08.000 He was like a regular guy.

01:21:10.000 And I was like, bro, I guess at this point you just gotta like walk up to somebody and say hello.

01:21:13.000 I'd like to, you know, nice to meet ya.

01:21:15.000 I live in the area or something like that.

01:21:16.000 And he's like, you can't do that.

01:21:18.000 You're like, you're a creep if you do that.

01:21:21.000 So, okay.

01:21:23.000 Please keep coaching him.

01:21:25.000 I don't think so.

01:21:26.000 I think you'll end up on Twitter with someone filming you, calling you a creep.

01:21:28.000 I don't remember his name.

01:21:29.000 So any guy like that, because really that's just an excuse.

01:21:32.000 Cause he's too shy to go over cause he doesn't want to be rejected.

01:21:35.000 I don't think so.

01:21:36.000 I think you'll end up on Twitter with someone filming you, calling you a creep.

01:21:41.000 They'll post your picture on Instagram and say this creepo was harassing me.

01:21:45.000 They get points for it.

01:21:47.000 That's very sad.

01:21:47.000 Yeah, they get views, they get likes, they get subscribers.

01:21:49.000 But those women are gonna be alone then, so that's very sad.

01:21:52.000 But I think that, I mean, look, I'd imagine the average woman would not do that.

01:21:58.000 Right.

01:21:58.000 Probably just be like, I'm flattered, have a nice day.

01:22:02.000 But the landmines are there.

01:22:03.000 No, sure, the landmines are there for everybody.

01:22:06.000 We're all afraid of something we're gonna say, something we're gonna tweet, something we're gonna write, something we're gonna say on your podcast, your YouTube show.

01:22:15.000 But we've got to take risks in life because we don't move forward without taking risks.

01:22:21.000 And in fact, risk-taking men are attractive to women.

01:22:26.000 Again, because they make decisions.

01:22:28.000 Okay, I may fail, but I'm going to try.

01:22:33.000 I'm going to do it.

01:22:34.000 And that is actually very attractive.

01:22:37.000 No woman, not every woman is going to be attracted to every man. 0.85

01:22:40.000 I mean, a man can come to me at a party and kind of say he's interested and I kind of, I don't, find him a, you know, whatever, he's not for me.

01:22:47.000 I'm not going to be rude to him, but it doesn't mean I have to date him.

01:22:51.000 He may get rejected.

01:22:53.000 I could do the same thing to a guy where I'm not necessarily going up to him, hey dude, But you know, that flirtation, you start talking and then I could sort of see he's looking over my shoulder, which is not so hard because I'm little, and just not be interested in me.

01:23:07.000 And that'll hurt my ego for a second and then I'll move on.

01:23:10.000 You know, dating isn't easy.

01:23:11.000 You have to take risks.

01:23:13.000 And when you take those risks, you're going to end up with probably a woman that you really want to be with because that's the woman you were waiting for and you risked a lot for and you got rejected for a lot.

01:23:24.000 You know, people, well, why do these guys, like, they're not cute or whatever it is.

01:23:28.000 They always like, you know, hit on the women. 0.95

01:23:30.000 Well, yeah, because they're used to rejection.

01:23:32.000 What's one more?

01:23:33.000 The good looking guy, you know, with everything going for him, he's rarely rejected.

01:23:38.000 So when he sees a woman he really likes, he's too shy to go up to her because he doesn't want to feel rejected because he's not used to that.

01:23:45.000 There's another, I guess you'd call it a trope, that attractive women are less likely to actually get hit on randomly because guys will assume they don't have a chance, so they won't bother, and they'll go for women who are lower in the ranking in their minds, like less attractive.

01:24:00.000 They'll see a woman, they're like, wow, she's a nine. 0.99

01:24:02.000 She would never go for me.

01:24:03.000 That woman's a seven. 1.00

01:24:04.000 I'll try and hit on her. 1.00

01:24:06.000 And I don't understand why you're still single.

01:24:09.000 I mean, you're gorgeous.

01:24:10.000 You're doing so well in life.

01:24:12.000 I mean, I don't know.

01:24:13.000 Well, because the guys didn't ask me out.

01:24:15.000 I mean, I'm not talking about me specifically.

01:24:17.000 But like, you know, yeah, well, that's why we have so many women do so well. 1.00

01:24:21.000 Well, I mean, she's not going to say yes to me, you know.

01:24:24.000 Well, in fact, guys, give it a shot again.

01:24:28.000 Women want to know that they're admired, that they're liked, that they're being courted, that somebody's interested in them. 1.00

01:24:35.000 Show you're interested.

01:24:36.000 It's actually really attractive.

01:24:37.000 And yeah, it doesn't mean all the time you're going to get the right feedback that you want.

01:24:42.000 Okay, you move on.

01:24:44.000 I went through when I was kind of going through that phase where I stopped talking to really hot girls, not stop talking to them, but I wouldn't hit on them or like try and get together with them because I thought they probably get hit on all the time. 0.72

01:24:55.000 So I don't want to be one of those guys.

01:24:57.000 So I would just completely, and it'd be girls I really was attracted to, but I wouldn't.

01:25:01.000 Cause I was like, I'm not going to contribute to that toxic masculine.

01:25:04.000 I was like, you know, 2007.

01:25:05.000 Feminist propaganda, Ian.

01:25:06.000 It was.

01:25:10.000 I've had two guys in my life who I really liked who, like, you know, five, ten, whatever years later, you know, like, I really liked you, but I was just a little too, I just didn't, I didn't ask you out or what?

01:25:24.000 And I was just dying for them to ask me out.

01:25:26.000 Right?

01:25:27.000 So guys, take a chance.

01:25:29.000 Ask the woman out, please. 1.00

01:25:30.000 Yeah. 0.98

01:25:31.000 The worst case scenario is that you end up on some Reddit where they're blasting your face, calling you a creepo. 0.96

01:25:36.000 Out of context. 0.94

01:25:37.000 Yeah.

01:25:38.000 Likely all of us in this room have been in a Reddit conversation like that.

01:25:42.000 We are still here to talk about it.

01:25:44.000 Oh, yeah.

01:25:45.000 I mean, me, like, every day.

01:25:46.000 It's hilarious.

01:25:47.000 So now you have something to talk about on the date.

01:25:49.000 They're going to take... This is going to be one of the best episodes for the grifters because there's so much to take out of context.

01:25:56.000 It's brilliant.

01:25:57.000 Yeah.

01:25:57.000 That's why I said... You're welcome.

01:25:59.000 When we were talking about, you know, the women struggling to find men who make as much money as them.

01:26:04.000 Like, when I did, like, two segments, In like two days, because there was another story that came

01:26:10.000 out of similar that was similar.

01:26:12.000 Feminist Twitter exploded. And the funniest thing about it is that these single women working for, 1.00

01:26:20.000 you know, these news outlets immediately went for attacks on my masculinity, saying, you know,

01:26:25.000 just insulting me and insulting things that I guess would be offensive to someone based on

01:26:30.000 stereotypical masculinity or whatever. And I just like, I'm laughing. My friends are like,

01:26:34.000 so these other YouTubers like messaging me, sending me the screenshots and we're like,

01:26:37.000 just laughing, crying. It's hilarious. Because I don't think they realize that like,

01:26:41.000 I don't, I, I, I don't care.

01:26:46.000 If I cared, I wouldn't make YouTube videos.

01:26:49.000 Heaven forbid someone who actually cared about being made fun of on the internet would actually put themselves out on the internet.

01:26:54.000 I guess there's a lot of people who work for these news outlets, particularly feminists and leftists, who can't handle it. 1.00

01:26:59.000 It's like, dude, if you don't want to be a public figure, don't do it.

01:27:02.000 Man, I chose to do all this.

01:27:03.000 I find it hilarious.

01:27:04.000 What are they possibly putting down about your masculinity?

01:27:06.000 No, they just do things like, they do this to everybody.

01:27:09.000 They'll be like, you can't get laid, and they'll say, you know, like, just, you know, things like that.

01:27:13.000 Because I met your girlfriend, and she's gorgeous.

01:27:16.000 And a body.

01:27:16.000 I'm saying.

01:27:18.000 Okay.

01:27:20.000 I'm not worried about you and your masculinity.

01:27:22.000 But I don't care.

01:27:22.000 No, I know you don't care, but it makes... Look, this is their content.

01:27:26.000 This is what they do, whether they're paid for it or not.

01:27:29.000 This is the type of content that they like to write about.

01:27:31.000 This is what they know.

01:27:33.000 And it's heartbreaking for me because I want them to be loved by a man, and I want them to love a man.

01:27:41.000 They say incel, right?

01:27:43.000 So one of my favorites is... Are you familiar with Carl Benjamin?

01:27:46.000 I don't think so.

01:27:47.000 Carl Benjamin of the Lotus Eaters podcast, by the way.

01:27:50.000 He's anti-identitarian.

01:27:53.000 He used to make a lot of anti-feminist videos.

01:27:55.000 And they call him an incel all the time.

01:27:57.000 A direct attack on his masculinity.

01:27:59.000 He's like, haha, you can't get laid.

01:28:00.000 He's married.

01:28:00.000 He has children.

01:28:01.000 Same thing with Ben Shapiro.

01:28:03.000 They're like, Ben Shapiro's an insult.

01:28:04.000 He's like, he's got how many kids does he have now?

01:28:05.000 Three?

01:28:06.000 Yeah, right.

01:28:07.000 What are we talking about?

01:28:09.000 I don't think Ben Shapiro is insulted by your attacks on his masculinity.

01:28:12.000 He's got a wife who's a doctor, by the way.

01:28:13.000 I heard.

01:28:14.000 Yes, and he has three kids.

01:28:16.000 So why do... It's really interesting that they do this.

01:28:19.000 That, like, one of the attack vectors for this particular ideology is... Maybe it's a caricature.

01:28:27.000 You know, they constantly say there's toxic masculinity and these men are toxically masculine.

01:28:31.000 So because of that, they think men will be insulted if you challenge their masculinity or, like, maleness or whatever you want to call it.

01:28:39.000 They could be projecting.

01:28:41.000 Yeah.

01:28:42.000 You know, in general, Millennials and Gen Z are not having, certainly Gen Z, they're not having sex as much as Gen X. And I don't, not referring about me because I wasn't either, but in general, they're not having a lot of sex, partly because they are just on the apps or they're too lazy to actually get off the couch instead of sex, actually have real sex.

01:29:05.000 I am sure I'm, I don't know. 0.76

01:29:07.000 I'm not a man. 0.97

01:29:08.000 I'm sure that it's much more satisfying for a man to actually have sex with a woman than to sext her from his couch. 0.98

01:29:14.000 Yeah. 0.95

01:29:15.000 Right?

01:29:16.000 Yeah.

01:29:16.000 Chances are.

01:29:17.000 Right.

01:29:17.000 So I look.

01:29:21.000 Women, as much as women talk about that, you know, they want to have sex like men, they just oh, they're going to they're just going to hook up the hookup thing. 1.00

01:29:29.000 Truth is, women don't really want to have sex like that. 1.00

01:29:33.000 Most women do not want that. 1.00

01:29:35.000 It doesn't feel good.

01:29:36.000 to you know for a guy just get out of bed okay well thanks women have all these chemicals that 1.00

01:29:42.000 are floating around that make them feel sort of depressed afterward if they don't feel that

01:29:46.000 connection long lasting way so it could be actually that they're projecting but whatever

01:29:52.000 it is it just seems like they um they're talking about the things that they want most and that

01:30:01.000 fear is stopping them from getting what they want I think it's projection.

01:30:06.000 Uh, there was a story that came out, I think about a year ago that I can't remember what it was, but it was like the amount of men under the age of 29 that were virgins, like skyrocketed by like 30 something percent.

01:30:18.000 And it was like 15% or so for women, meaning women were still able to get laid, but not with men who were 29 and younger.

01:30:24.000 And so a lot of these socialist types and woke leftist types who are active on Twitter are younger.

01:30:30.000 One of the things that's come up in conversation with some of these individuals on this show is that we realize they're in their early 20s, they're in their mid-20s, they don't have the same political experience.

01:30:42.000 So when we're having conversations about war and conflict and taxes, they're like, I don't know Occupy Wall Street, I was 15 years old or whatever.

01:30:48.000 And it's like, oh, interesting.

01:30:50.000 Right.

01:30:50.000 And there's things about the 90s that I don't know because I

01:30:52.000 wasn't, you know, I was a little kid back then.

01:30:54.000 So somebody tell me about Clinton and all that stuff if they're older.

01:30:56.000 So a lot of these people on Twitter who are like democratic socialists,

01:31:00.000 who, and they're not all in their twenties, but there's a high

01:31:04.000 likelihood that they're all virgins.

01:31:06.000 And because of that, they feel particularly insecure.

01:31:11.000 Because that makes them feel bad, they think saying it to me makes me feel bad.

01:31:16.000 Or Ben Shapiro, who's got children.

01:31:20.000 The hardest proof of not being an incel, literally, conception.

01:31:25.000 But they're hurt by it.

01:31:26.000 So they use it thinking it'll hurt you.

01:31:28.000 And it's one thing to say, oh, well, you're probably a virgin, still virgin, like you sound like you're in high school or something.

01:31:34.000 I mean, just that tone of voice.

01:31:36.000 Not that high schoolers are... many high schoolers, I hope, are virgins. 0.79

01:31:40.000 But incel, which is like a dark version of virgin.

01:31:47.000 Version of virgin.

01:31:49.000 Meaning... They're not necessarily virgins.

01:31:51.000 Right.

01:31:52.000 They just decide that they don't, they're not involuntarily, involuntarily.

01:31:55.000 So something happened where they're unable and it can become really, really dark.

01:32:01.000 And it can be, a lot of these people could be outwardly dark or inwardly, meaning some of these people blame society and blame everybody else.

01:32:08.000 And some of these people blame themselves and think they're just wrong and ugly and incapable.

01:32:13.000 Yeah, well, yeah.

01:32:15.000 And we were talking about girls who really are are mean to other girls, social media. 0.97

01:32:22.000 You know, because toxic masculinity is a man, you know, punching a woman. 0.95

01:32:27.000 Toxic femininity is our girls sort of bad mouthing each other or being passive aggressive and not liking the photo. 1.00

01:32:36.000 You know, like girls are mean in other ways. 1.00

01:32:39.000 But the fact that they're mean to men as sort of like a why are you doing this?

01:32:45.000 Don't you have other things to do?

01:32:46.000 Like this is not a productive thing to do with your life.

01:32:51.000 So yeah, guys get off the couch.

01:32:53.000 Get off Twitter.

01:32:54.000 Get off Twitter, get off everything.

01:32:57.000 And go ask a woman out on a date. 0.80

01:33:00.000 Here's the trick.

01:33:01.000 Do you have a dog?

01:33:03.000 No.

01:33:03.000 Okay, if you're a guy, you need a dog.

01:33:05.000 Here's what you do.

01:33:06.000 You go down to the beach, you have the dog, and there are some women, and they're hanging out, and then, oh no, the dog! 0.99

01:33:13.000 Oh, he got off the leash!

01:33:14.000 Oh, Rufus!

01:33:16.000 I'm so sorry.

01:33:17.000 He just loves people.

01:33:18.000 What's your name?

01:33:19.000 Hi, I'm Tim.

01:33:19.000 Nice to meet you.

01:33:20.000 This is Rufus.

01:33:21.000 Correct.

01:33:21.000 This is how you do it.

01:33:23.000 Guys, for the most part, women are not going to destroy you if you ask them out, if you flirt with them. 1.00

01:33:28.000 And you know what?

01:33:29.000 You should know, if a woman doesn't seem like she's interested, move on, right? 0.99

01:33:32.000 Don't harass her.

01:33:33.000 I mean, we have to understand that.

01:33:34.000 But also, women Like if a guy is, if you think he's interesting, at least for a conversation, like don't, don't decide you have to marry him. 1.00

01:33:44.000 If you go on a date with him, it's okay.

01:33:47.000 And by the way, dating is fun.

01:33:49.000 Gosh, you get to go out with somebody you've never met until recently, and you get to learn about them.

01:33:55.000 You likely you'll learn a little bit about yourself.

01:33:58.000 Maybe you'll have a nice glass of wine if you're Lovely, you won't be upset if he actually points to how about this bottle of Cabernet Sauvignon and you go on from there.

01:34:10.000 Enjoy life.

01:34:11.000 This is life.

01:34:12.000 Enjoy it.

01:34:13.000 I got some advice for people who feel like they're stuck in a rut.

01:34:16.000 Go to a MMA training gym.

01:34:19.000 Well, maybe it's not good advice because I don't know much about MMA training gyms, but you can go to like a martial arts gym.

01:34:24.000 I used to live near one.

01:34:26.000 And maybe you're out of shape.

01:34:28.000 Maybe you're a homebody who plays video games.

01:34:30.000 You're lost.

01:34:31.000 You don't know what to do.

01:34:32.000 I assure you, if you walk into one of these places and say, I feel lost.

01:34:36.000 I lay around playing video games.

01:34:37.000 I want to do better.

01:34:38.000 These guys in there are going to be like, Dude, let me show you how to throw a punch.

01:34:43.000 Come here, join the crew, we're gonna make you, and it's gonna be a whole lot of fun.

01:34:46.000 For me, skateboarding was always this, I would just show up, everyone's having a good time, you meet people, you'll be sitting down, but then I'll tell you this, whatever it is you choose to do in terms of physical activity and community and making yourself better, some kind of physical exercise, You're going to encounter that challenge.

01:35:03.000 So for me, skateboarding, right?

01:35:04.000 You want to drop in on this big vert wall.

01:35:06.000 It's scary.

01:35:06.000 You're freaking out.

01:35:07.000 I assure you, you fall down from like your first six foot drop in and hit the ground and you're sore and you're okay though.

01:35:16.000 When you're out at the park and you see, you know, a woman or whatever, you're going to be like, I just took a face full of, you know, concrete.

01:35:24.000 Someone telling me have a nice day is no big deal.

01:35:26.000 So you build that companionship through community by going to some kind of gym and just sticking with it.

01:35:34.000 I assure you, man, most people at these places are super excited to get people involved and help them out.

01:35:40.000 Yeah.

01:35:40.000 And most people are good people.

01:35:43.000 And then you build confidence in yourself by accomplishing something and improving yourself.

01:35:48.000 And then you can be calm and polite and go and meet people, whether it's a guy or a woman

01:35:53.000 or just to be friends or to find a relationship.

01:35:56.000 It just starts with that first step.

01:35:57.000 Get that job you want.

01:35:59.000 Start that company you want.

01:36:01.000 Women too. 1.00

01:36:02.000 And if you're not ready to go to the gym because of COVID, and just there are so many free

01:36:06.000 YouTube videos, amazing stuff out there.

01:36:11.000 Just start.

01:36:12.000 Weight training is really good.

01:36:14.000 It's good for cognition.

01:36:15.000 It's good for how you feel.

01:36:17.000 Just start moving and let it go.

01:36:20.000 The big thing is being at the gym with other people.

01:36:24.000 Totally.

01:36:24.000 Because they're the ones who are going to like, one day you don't show up and you're gonna get a phone call and they'll be like, bro.

01:36:29.000 Accountability.

01:36:29.000 What are you doing?

01:36:30.000 Accountability is huge.

01:36:32.000 I actually have two girlfriends I met at the gym.

01:36:35.000 I was going to the gym before COVID at 6am every morning.

01:36:38.000 Had these two girlfriends and we became friends.

01:36:41.000 Then this happened.

01:36:42.000 So we would text each other.

01:36:43.000 What I'm doing, I found this, this class online.

01:36:45.000 I found this.

01:36:46.000 Now I've got these people I used to, you know, do, we were in a co-work space together.

01:36:49.000 Now we accountability.

01:36:51.000 Every day we say, okay, just did 40 minutes cardio.

01:36:54.000 Oh, I just did yoga.

01:36:55.000 I just, you know, wait.

01:36:57.000 Okay.

01:36:58.000 And we give each other literally the star emoji because that's cool.

01:37:03.000 So, but accountability is really good.

01:37:05.000 So find yourself accountability friend, accountability coach, somebody who you can check in with and they don't have to be better than you at whatever it is.

01:37:14.000 Just a buddy.

01:37:15.000 That's a good point.

01:37:16.000 I was playing music, was mine, and singing, because I would get ripped.

01:37:20.000 My core would get ripped.

01:37:21.000 When you're hitting high notes, like Brandon Boyd from Incubus, when you're doing that, you get powerfully muscular in your core.

01:37:29.000 But the confidence doesn't come until you have a communication friend, like a drummer.

01:37:34.000 When you're in a band, You're exhausted and you're interacting with someone.

01:37:38.000 Then when you see a girl, you just do the same thing you've been doing.

01:37:42.000 You're not stressed because you've already figured it out.

01:37:45.000 But when I was alone singing, I would still be stressed because I didn't have the communication friend.

01:37:50.000 Right.

01:37:50.000 But that's why we need a partner.

01:37:52.000 Shows are similar.

01:37:53.000 Book a show and then you're standing in front of, you know, 70 strangers and you're like, oh man, you gotta do it.

01:37:57.000 Sure.

01:37:58.000 But in that point about you and the drummer, right?

01:38:01.000 That's, you're better at you when somebody else is in your life.

01:38:05.000 When somebody else, you know, you need that connection.

01:38:08.000 You need that energy back and forth.

01:38:11.000 And I'm sure the drummer felt great because as you're singing and he's going or she's going, I mean, that's what creates Amazing music and amazing connections.

01:38:21.000 Amazing relationships.

01:38:23.000 Somebody just chatted eggplant, water droplets, peach, and get it, Ian.

01:38:29.000 Speaking my language.

01:38:30.000 All right, let's take super chats.

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01:38:39.000 And go to TimCast.com, become a member to get access to a massive library of exclusive segments.

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01:39:02.000 So that's all available at Timcast.com click the big members only button on the right you can sign up We got major upgrades coming to the site soon, so thank you all for being members and again smash the like button Let's read some of these super chats We got a bunch of super chats because I think everybody has an opinion.

01:39:17.000 I can't read the name of this first super chat because YouTube blocks it for some reason.

01:39:21.000 They said, Hey Tim, I'm having trouble with my math homework.

01:39:24.000 Hope you can help.

01:39:25.000 If man plus explain equals mansplaining, then woman plus complain equals ovary acting. 1.00

01:39:32.000 Is that right?

01:39:32.000 That's correct.

01:39:34.000 Yes.

01:39:35.000 It's, it's, uh, it's, it's femsplaining. 0.99

01:39:36.000 Yeah, FemmeSplainer. 1.00

01:39:38.000 FemmeSplainer, yeah. 1.00

01:39:38.000 Yeah, that's a podcast with Danielle Crittenton and Christina Hoff Summers, who not do that. 1.00

01:39:44.000 Do I see?

01:39:44.000 Yeah.

01:39:44.000 They embrace it.

01:39:45.000 They do.

01:39:47.000 There's also, you know, you know those men spreading?

01:39:49.000 Yes.

01:39:50.000 Femme bagging. 1.00

01:39:51.000 Oh, interesting, with all their bags.

01:39:53.000 Yeah, when women put their bags on seats and block them and then don't move it. 1.00

01:39:56.000 Right.

01:39:57.000 There was a really funny post by Aaron Rupar from Vox.

01:39:59.000 I guess he's mad that Ron DeSantis sat with his legs spread in a chair that he was socially distancing.

01:40:06.000 I'm like, I don't care if he puts his leg over his head, you know, put his foot behind his head.

01:40:11.000 He's in a chair six foot away from anybody else.

01:40:12.000 Why?

01:40:13.000 Yeah, why can't he be comfortable?

01:40:14.000 I'm sitting cross-legged right now.

01:40:16.000 It's a nice stretch.

01:40:16.000 You know what the funny thing is about all of these like, but I guess it's mostly feminists who are like, why do men sit with their legs open?

01:40:23.000 And then male feminists who are just trying to like placate this woman are like, I know, right? 1.00

01:40:27.000 These guys are so dumb. 1.00

01:40:28.000 And I'm like, come on, bro. 1.00

01:40:30.000 Yeah.

01:40:30.000 You don't like sitting like that.

01:40:31.000 I know it.

01:40:31.000 Right.

01:40:32.000 I guess you got tiny balls. 0.99

01:40:33.000 Whatever. 0.99

01:40:34.000 Right.

01:40:34.000 Yeah.

01:40:35.000 That's the weirdest thing that guys would openly admit that.

01:40:38.000 The real reason, though, is Q angle, the hip ratio to legs.

01:40:44.000 So, you know, women have their have wider hips, so their legs kind of go there. 1.00

01:40:48.000 The femur goes inward, whereas men have narrower hips, so their legs go out and are more comfortable. 0.94

01:40:52.000 It has to do with the thigh muscles, but also, you know, junk. 0.54

01:40:56.000 It's not the patriarchy trying to take our space. 0.92

01:40:59.000 That's true.

01:41:00.000 No, yeah, that's not true.

01:41:01.000 That was a question.

01:41:02.000 But think about the mentality people have where they genuinely believe guys sit with their legs open to just oppress them.

01:41:10.000 Like a guy sits down and he's like, and he like opens his legs.

01:41:14.000 Haha, women, you have to be pushed now. 1.00

01:41:16.000 And they're like, he's pushing his legs against me.

01:41:18.000 You can just be like, excuse me, you can move your legs and they'll be like, sorry about that.

01:41:21.000 Hmm.

01:41:22.000 All right.

01:41:23.000 Tripsuck says, my parents don't get it.

01:41:25.000 Bitcoin and Ethereum will be like Visa and Mastercard someday.

01:41:29.000 I wish I could have bought Timcoin when I started watching you in 2015.

01:41:32.000 It'd be worth millions now.

01:41:33.000 Timcoin?

01:41:34.000 Yeah, it's coming.

01:41:35.000 I don't know about that.

01:41:38.000 Maybe though, um, not Tim coin, but we were talking about, so we want to do this, you know, well, you're working on the open source project versus expansion.

01:41:46.000 Yeah.

01:41:46.000 Creating like a subscription plugin for people to have their own version of, of, of like an, like a subscription service and integrating it with crypto so that existing social media sites that use crypto could automate subscription services through that.

01:41:59.000 So yeah, it's an idea.

01:42:03.000 All right, let's see.

01:42:04.000 What do we got?

01:42:05.000 Ooh, Count Dankula.

01:42:05.000 What's he doing?

01:42:06.000 Toggle447 says, Count Dankula is running for legislation across the pond.

01:42:11.000 He's going to be on two separate ballots.

01:42:12.000 Just figured I'd inform you.

01:42:13.000 He's running for legislation?

01:42:15.000 What does that mean?

01:42:15.000 He's running for a position.

01:42:16.000 I don't know what position.

01:42:18.000 Interesting.

01:42:18.000 He should win.

01:42:21.000 Virik says, there is a German word for the banality of evil.

01:42:25.000 Amtsprach.

01:42:26.000 Translating as bureaucratic language.

01:42:29.000 Indeed.

01:42:30.000 Ah.

01:42:31.000 Meaning company policy or orders from above.

01:42:33.000 World War II criminal Adolf Eichmann used this term saying it made our jobs easy.

01:42:38.000 Wow, that's creepy.

01:42:42.000 Rogue Nerd Lifestyle says, hey, what you're doing is really important.

01:42:45.000 I saw the video on inflation.

01:42:47.000 Can I suggest you talk to Mike Maloney?

01:42:49.000 He has a series called Hidden Secrets of Money that drives into monetary history.

01:42:54.000 So this is way off the conversation, but have you guys been seeing what's going on with the inflation lately?

01:42:58.000 No.

01:42:59.000 Not just inflation, but shortages.

01:43:02.000 So for those that are watching, we ordered a new machine for this show, a new computer.

01:43:07.000 It's delayed.

01:43:07.000 Why?

01:43:08.000 There's a shortage or certain parts are unavailable, so we have to wait.

01:43:12.000 Lumber is up 250% in cost.

01:43:13.000 Yes.

01:43:13.000 Steel is skyrocketing.

01:43:14.000 Yes.

01:43:18.000 If you had $10 worth of lumber, I think in like November last year, it's worth $60 right now.

01:43:24.000 Jeez!

01:43:25.000 Six times.

01:43:26.000 Yeah.

01:43:27.000 So imagine if you bought Bitcoin in November when it was at $15k, it's at $57k now.

01:43:33.000 Wow.

01:43:35.000 That's not necessarily a good thing for people holding Bitcoin.

01:43:38.000 The people who are holding Bitcoin, their buying power stayed the same.

01:43:42.000 The people who are holding U.S. 0.98

01:43:43.000 dollars are seeing their ability to buy collapse.

01:43:47.000 That's freaky.

01:43:47.000 Now, Ethereum!

01:43:48.000 Woo! 0.99

01:43:49.000 Remember we had Bill here from Bill for Mines, Bill Lemon?

01:43:52.000 And he was like, I don't know if he said it on the show or at some point he was like, you should get Ethereum.

01:43:57.000 And I was like, okay.

01:43:58.000 And so I did.

01:43:59.000 And now it's at $2,700.

01:44:00.000 It's just getting started.

01:44:03.000 I'm not giving anybody advice on what they should or shouldn't buy.

01:44:05.000 I will mention too, I don't know what's gonna happen with precious metals, but I definitely have precious metals.

01:44:12.000 And I'm glad I do.

01:44:14.000 I like copper.

01:44:14.000 I like it because it's so cheap, and it's amazing.

01:44:17.000 You can do stuff with it.

01:44:18.000 Yeah.

01:44:19.000 Yeah, so I bought silver, copper, and gold.

01:44:22.000 More copper than anything, but that's just because, like, your worst case scenario is you can do stuff with it.

01:44:26.000 Yeah, hammer it down, make plates out of it, make wiring out of it.

01:44:29.000 Useful, yeah.

01:44:32.000 Make a crown.

01:44:32.000 All right.

01:44:33.000 Tin Man says, First time Super Chat.

01:44:35.000 I appreciate what you do, but going off the rails and suggest a book.

01:44:39.000 X-Heroes. 0.99

01:44:40.000 Superheroes vs. Zombies novel by Peter Clines.

01:44:43.000 It's Superheroes, Zombies, and Zombie Superheroes.

01:44:46.000 Cool.

01:44:47.000 But are there zombies and superheroes involved in the book?

01:44:50.000 See, this is what boys like to write.

01:44:52.000 Read, rather.

01:44:53.000 So let's suggest this for boys.

01:44:55.000 I wonder if that is one of the big issues with like woke movies when it's the hero's journey.

01:45:02.000 Yeah.

01:45:02.000 Right.

01:45:03.000 So maybe it's something that for whatever reason young men long for to be a run-of-the-mill moisture farmer on, you know, what planet was Tatooine?

01:45:12.000 And then all of a sudden the old wizard's like, it's your father's lightning lightsaber and you're actually a magic warrior and it's

01:45:18.000 like, whoa, now we're going on an adventure.

01:45:20.000 And the reason I think that works is also the reason why I think X-Men worked.

01:45:25.000 When I was growing up, the story of X-Men is like, you know, as soon as the kids hit around 13 years old, they

01:45:31.000 develop superpowers.

01:45:32.000 And so as a kid, you're like, oh man, it would be so cool to

01:45:35.000 like all of a sudden find out you have superpowers, wow.

01:45:37.000 So the kids can relate to this.

01:45:39.000 Well, not relate to it, but in a sense relate to it.

01:45:42.000 Yeah, they can alter ego.

01:45:43.000 But now you have these movies like Captain Marvel where like who relates to that?

01:45:47.000 To like robbing a guy in his motorcycle.

01:45:49.000 You know, I don't know if you saw the movie.

01:45:50.000 No.

01:45:51.000 But it was just not a hero's journey in any capacity.

01:45:55.000 Like so there was a great comparison someone did between Captain America and Captain Marvel.

01:46:00.000 Captain America was the scrawny Brooklyn kid who had all these defects and couldn't get in the army and then shows like good moral character and gets a super soldier serum and becomes great. 0.66

01:46:09.000 Whereas Captain Marvel was a hotshot pilot who just was accidentally got superpowers and then was kind of a dick about it, you know.

01:46:18.000 Alright, Smoothplay Johnny J says, Hey Tim, I am a financial advisor and recommend the following.

01:46:23.000 If you're going to make a major purchase in the next few years, take the funds out of your investment now while the markets are still high.

01:46:29.000 Interesting.

01:46:30.000 That comes from Smoothplay, not me.

01:46:32.000 He is the financial advisor, he says.

01:46:34.000 American Capitalist says, The treatment of boys is a piece to the puzzle.

01:46:38.000 But so many of these experts have a good grasp on one issue and aren't seeing the big picture.

01:46:44.000 The big picture on a societal scale is far worse than most realize.

01:46:49.000 And what is it?

01:46:50.000 That was it.

01:46:51.000 That was it.

01:46:51.000 Well, all right.

01:46:52.000 The food.

01:46:53.000 Oh.

01:46:56.000 Rushless Leader says, having children for a man is too much of a risk because if a man is not ready for a child, they want to pay child support, whereas a woman doesn't have that. 0.98

01:47:05.000 They do, but it's not as typical.

01:47:09.000 Women do have to pay child support. 1.00

01:47:10.000 I think it was Russell Brand divorced Katy Perry.

01:47:13.000 Is that what happened?

01:47:13.000 Yeah.

01:47:14.000 And he was entitled to, like, a ton of money.

01:47:16.000 He's like, I don't want any of her money.

01:47:17.000 I'm rich.

01:47:17.000 You know what I mean?

01:47:17.000 Right.

01:47:18.000 It's like, I don't need it.

01:47:18.000 Dude, he's a sage.

01:47:20.000 Russell Brand?

01:47:21.000 Yeah.

01:47:21.000 He's all right.

01:47:22.000 He's cool, dude.

01:47:22.000 I like him.

01:47:24.000 I think he's I, I, you know, I think he's, I think he's a good dude, but he's not rusty as his name would suggest.

01:47:33.000 Ryan Pujoi says, I think the real issue is not that men aren't driven per se.

01:47:39.000 I think the issue is that because of these laws, more men just don't see what they will get out of a family sense.

01:47:45.000 The price of, since the price of divorce can be too high.

01:47:48.000 Right.

01:47:49.000 Right.

01:47:49.000 But, but we did talk about all, all the reasons why you love Allison.

01:47:54.000 So.

01:47:55.000 Aman Ra Al Ghul says, going through a divorce currently with a feminist that took advantage of my weak mental state before I went through therapy in dealing with PTSD for more.

01:48:05.000 I'm scared for my daughter's maturation.

01:48:09.000 What we had, um, we had a guy on the show, like one of our first guests, actually.

01:48:13.000 Yeah, we need to have him back.

01:48:14.000 What was his name?

01:48:15.000 Sean Smith.

01:48:16.000 And he said, don't date feminists. 1.00

01:48:18.000 Yep.

01:48:19.000 And we were like, really?

01:48:19.000 And it's one of our most viewed videos.

01:48:21.000 Evergreen.

01:48:22.000 Evergreen.

01:48:22.000 That's right.

01:48:24.000 Wise.

01:48:28.000 All right, we got some criticism for you.

01:48:30.000 Jay Rich says, Tim, love your show.

01:48:32.000 However, steam is coming out of my ears listening to Melanie's third wave feminist propaganda. 1.00

01:48:37.000 Please get Rolo Tomasi or Rich Cooper on the show and have the same conversation with them.

01:48:42.000 Maybe it would be interesting to have somewhat of a different opinion and we could have a fuller conversation.

01:48:46.000 Happy to, but I think I'm not the third.

01:48:49.000 I mean, I don't know why.

01:48:49.000 I think I'm sort of saying the opposite stuff.

01:48:51.000 Like I'm saying the more traditional stuff.

01:48:52.000 I'm not saying the feminist stuff.

01:48:54.000 I'm saying I love men.

01:48:55.000 I think women want to have children. 1.00

01:48:57.000 I mean, I'm But not fourth wave feminism, which is like the men are bad and the patriarchy.

01:49:02.000 Third wave.

01:49:03.000 There's a lot of waves, I guess.

01:49:05.000 I don't know any waves.

01:49:06.000 There's four.

01:49:07.000 I don't know.

01:49:07.000 What's the first wave?

01:49:09.000 Women should vote. 1.00

01:49:10.000 Yeah.

01:49:10.000 And then what's second wave?

01:49:12.000 Women should work. 1.00

01:49:12.000 60s, 70s. 1.00

01:49:14.000 The Gloria Stein and Betty Friedan.

01:49:16.000 By the way, Betty Friedan, who wrote The Feminine Mystique, which is really like the book that kind of set off the feminist movement.

01:49:22.000 She actually, in her second edition, had to say, OK, but no, no, I didn't mean in lieu of.

01:49:28.000 Love, marriage and children.

01:49:29.000 I meant added value.

01:49:32.000 We could live to our potential and, you know, love your husband and have children.

01:49:37.000 It was like, but it became no, no, no.

01:49:40.000 It's let's just eschew love, marriage and motherhood and go for the career, which was not what she meant by it.

01:49:48.000 And kind of what happened at the end of the 60s is the sort of decisive idea of no, no, women need to be men.

01:49:56.000 or like men and that's how women will smash the patriarchy and meanwhile but the truth is most women want love and partnership marriage and children not all but some most we got a correction here for me ill machiner says al loved his family every time he got the chance to run off with a model he chose his family Yeah, I watched Married with Children when I was little, obviously not understanding a whole lot of it, like remember No Ma'am?

01:50:26.000 Where all the guys would wear the shirts that says No Ma'am and it was like, I forget what it was, like the feminist symbol with like a line through it or something?

01:50:32.000 No Ma'am! 1.00

01:50:33.000 And he, my understanding of it, the message I got, was not that he chose his family because he loved them, it was because of like guilt and like he was a coward. 0.93

01:50:43.000 It was just a really awful show.

01:50:45.000 He was so mean to his wife.

01:50:46.000 Yeah, they both were mean to each other.

01:50:49.000 This is an awful show about dysfunctional families.

01:50:51.000 It's really funny how you used to have, like, Leave It to Beaver.

01:50:53.000 This wholesome family where they ate way too much for breakfast.

01:50:56.000 Like, massive stack of pancakes.

01:50:57.000 What are you gonna do, throw that all away?

01:50:59.000 I guess business was a booming back in the day.

01:51:01.000 And then it's like we got in the 90s, dysfunctional families.

01:51:04.000 I will say Malcolm in the Middle was legit.

01:51:06.000 Because they were dysfunctional, but they all really did love each other.

01:51:09.000 They were great.

01:51:09.000 Yeah, that show was good.

01:51:10.000 I love them.

01:51:12.000 Well, of course, my gender, well, in the 70s, 80s, well, we had one day at a time, divorced mom, two teenage girls.

01:51:19.000 We had Kate and Allie, two divorced women who lived together with their daughters.

01:51:24.000 In the 70s, girls saw that women, you know, were divorced because the husband usually ran off with the quote-unquote secretary, and they had to take care of the kids, and so they were living life one day at a time.

01:51:37.000 So it was this sort of feminist view that we can do it on our own. 1.00

01:51:42.000 I don't know.

01:51:42.000 I'm sure that that had a lot of effect on the way that women grew up knowing they could do it on their own.

01:51:49.000 But again, I and also the women sometimes married in order to leave their their parents house because they couldn't earn enough money to pay rent at all. 0.98

01:52:00.000 I don't know.

01:52:01.000 I think that certainly cultural, what we saw on TV, has an effect on the way kids think about their future.

01:52:08.000 These video games, too.

01:52:10.000 Yeah.

01:52:10.000 I mean, talk about the hero's journey and indoctrinating people to think there's an enemy to kill or slay out there and that everything's going to be okay once they do it.

01:52:18.000 Now, we did have that criticism, but this one.

01:52:20.000 Caleb W. says, Guest is based AF.

01:52:24.000 Family law is moving forward through myself and three of my friends have won custody of our children in GA because we provide a better life for the child.

01:52:32.000 I don't know about other states.

01:52:33.000 Also got my Tim Foyle hat gorilla shirt.

01:52:35.000 It's super soft.

01:52:36.000 Aren't they super soft?

01:52:37.000 Yes.

01:52:38.000 It's amazing.

01:52:39.000 Now, some people have asked about, like, taking care of it because, you know, the shirts, the way many shirts are printed.

01:52:47.000 They don't last that long.

01:52:48.000 I'm not entirely sure about these shirts because I've had no problems with them.

01:52:50.000 They're actually really nice.

01:52:52.000 But I guess you're supposed to wash them inside out, is that correct?

01:52:54.000 That is correct, yes.

01:52:55.000 Wash them inside out, there you go.

01:52:56.000 When in doubt, wash inside out.

01:52:59.000 Dragon Noodle Soup Gaming says, Hey Melanie, you might get a lot from going onto Honey Badger Radio, a prominent MRA group.

01:53:06.000 I'm sure Brian Martinez and Allison Tiemann would love to have you on.

01:53:12.000 Yeah, well, so when do I get canceled?

01:53:15.000 I think you're okay.

01:53:17.000 I'm okay?

01:53:17.000 Okay.

01:53:17.000 Yeah, I think you'll be all right.

01:53:18.000 Okay.

01:53:19.000 All right.

01:53:20.000 Steel Fang says Cinderella didn't go to the ball to find a prince. 0.97

01:53:23.000 She went to get away from her crappy life.

01:53:27.000 Prince can help her do that, I guess.

01:53:28.000 But yeah.

01:53:29.000 Well, I mean, no, she went because he was there, because didn't she?

01:53:33.000 In any case, the point is, if she didn't get married, she would not have a future.

01:53:39.000 Yeah, she went, the fairy godmother turned her into a princess for a night. 0.89

01:53:43.000 Into a pumpkin.

01:53:44.000 Yes.

01:53:44.000 No, that was after the night was over.

01:53:45.000 No, she did turn into a pumpkin. 1.00

01:53:46.000 And then she went to the ball, and then he met her there?

01:53:48.000 Yeah.

01:53:48.000 She didn't know the prince when she got there, right?

01:53:50.000 Oh, maybe he met- No, no, they met- I love her, but not because of her status.

01:53:54.000 He meets this really sweet girl in the forest or something.

01:53:57.000 Is that the real story?

01:53:59.000 Is that what happened?

01:54:00.000 I remember seeing this on Broadway and and he's so like wow this little peasant woman is so sweet and oh lovely and then she's the princess kind of looking, she's not a princess, but in the ball gown and he doesn't recognize it's the same woman and she leaves the shoe and he finds it's her and then realizes oh this is the kind woman and by the way this is why I am actually pro-princess.

01:54:26.000 Not certainly Megan, although I don't know.

01:54:28.000 But, no, pro-princess, because princesses are generally very kind, kind to animals, lovely, or badass. 1.00

01:54:39.000 Like, I hate that term.

01:54:40.000 Why did I say that?

01:54:41.000 Because it's true.

01:54:42.000 Like Wonder Woman?

01:54:44.000 Yeah.

01:54:44.000 Right?

01:54:45.000 Yeah, strong.

01:54:46.000 Yeah, there are a lot of good things about princesses.

01:54:48.000 All right.

01:54:50.000 I don't know how to, um and uh.

01:54:52.000 Um and uh.

01:54:53.000 Okay.

01:54:54.000 That's what it says.

01:54:55.000 Um and uh.

01:54:55.000 Thought this lady was going to be whack at first.

01:54:57.000 She ended up being a great guest.

01:55:00.000 Thanks.

01:55:01.000 Thanks.

01:55:01.000 Uh, thanks.

01:55:04.000 Sydney says MGTOW.

01:55:05.000 What do you think about, you know what MGTOW is?

01:55:07.000 Men going their own way.

01:55:09.000 Meaning that they don't want women?

01:55:11.000 Yeah. 0.91

01:55:12.000 Get a dog and go to the woods?

01:55:14.000 I mean, if that's what's good for them, but again, I mean, or they could find somebody that enables them to live to their potential because of their love for them.

01:55:23.000 I, I think that's great.

01:55:26.000 However, if they don't want to be with someone, then that's their choice.

01:55:31.000 But again, I think if anything, maybe somebody to play the drums while you're singing.

01:55:36.000 There you go.

01:55:37.000 Civic Nationalist says, both me and my girlfriend are part of Gen Z. My girlfriend is not political in any way, whereas here I am.

01:55:43.000 I've been with her for two years and we intend to marry.

01:55:46.000 Young people need to understand is workout. 0.99

01:55:51.000 Run five miles every day.

01:55:52.000 Build on a skill.

01:55:53.000 Wake up early.

01:55:54.000 I do this.

01:55:55.000 Absolutely.

01:55:56.000 Yeah, good.

01:55:56.000 Well, that's why, you know, one of the things I've always loved doing is, I guess I'll just say action sports.

01:56:01.000 I've been skateboarding for a few decades, but recently I've been rollerblading and we just got some bikes and we're gonna get scooters.

01:56:07.000 Because I'm old, you know, when I was younger, skateboarding was hanging out with my friends and we all did it.

01:56:12.000 Now I'm more about trying to get as many people as possible to come and be active and do things.

01:56:16.000 So having a wide variety of things to do, be it skateboarding, biking, rollerblading, scootering.

01:56:21.000 I'm even down to like get some pogo stick people in the house and Apparently there's somebody who's like a really good pogo sticker who might end up coming and like doing some crazy pogo tricks. 1.00

01:56:29.000 That's cool.

01:56:30.000 But I just love the idea of goal-oriented exercise, where when it comes to the action sports, you're not just like, I'm gonna do five push-ups or, you know, ten, you know, sit-ups or whatever.

01:56:41.000 You're like, I'm going to land a 360 flip.

01:56:44.000 And then it could, I tell you, man, trying to learn that new trick and it takes you like a hundred tries and you're drenched in sweat because you're trying to attain a goal.

01:56:54.000 It pushes you way harder than being like, I have to do 10 pull-ups.

01:56:58.000 What if it was like, you'd have to do 10 pull-ups.

01:57:00.000 You had to climb to the top of a mountain.

01:57:02.000 Like you, you know what your goal is.

01:57:03.000 You can't stop until you get it.

01:57:04.000 And it wears you down.

01:57:05.000 That, that I love.

01:57:07.000 So that I, I'll always recommend skateboarding.

01:57:09.000 Persistence and resilience are very good things.

01:57:13.000 Matthew Maddox says, men aren't seen as career obsessed.

01:57:19.000 It's like it isn't a common arc in movies, books, and songs is that the man is at work and not being with the family.

01:57:25.000 Oh, I see.

01:57:27.000 You're saying it is like a common trope where like, you know, like Click.

01:57:31.000 You ever see the movie, was it called Click with Adam Sandler?

01:57:34.000 He gets a clicker that can control reality and he starts using it to skip over family boring stuff so he can stay at work.

01:57:40.000 And then it starts automatically flipping through his life and he regrets it. 0.91

01:57:44.000 It's kind of a dumb concept, I guess. 0.92

01:57:45.000 You know, whatever. 0.78

01:57:46.000 I'm like, what does a clicker that can do anything have to do with skipping your family life?

01:57:49.000 I don't know.

01:57:50.000 But there's, like, Scrooge.

01:57:52.000 You know? 1.00

01:57:52.000 He was a dick. 1.00

01:57:53.000 Just wanted to, like, make money. 1.00

01:57:55.000 And then he realized his heart grew three sizes or whatever because the ghost told him to go to hell and he didn't want to go to hell.

01:58:00.000 Oh, Christmas Carol.

01:58:02.000 Yeah, that one, you know, she's right. 0.98

01:58:04.000 Did that guy actually care about people or was he just scared, you know, because like death was like, I'm gonna kill you.

01:58:09.000 And he was like, I'll do, I'll pretend to be nice.

01:58:11.000 He loved the girl and then had passed on it or something.

01:58:14.000 That's right.

01:58:15.000 And he remembered.

01:58:16.000 And then when the love came back.

01:58:18.000 Yeah, they were, they were in love.

01:58:19.000 And then he chose career instead.

01:58:21.000 And then he got to see the Christmas past was like, look at what you had and you gave it all up.

01:58:27.000 I was watching The Simpsons, and I don't know what episode this is because I barely watch Simpsons, but Mr. Burns falls into a fountain, and he gets sucked through the jets, and he's getting repeatedly lands in the water, and then he says, I wish I spent more time at the office.

01:58:43.000 The joke is nobody says, I wish I spent more time at the office when they die.

01:58:50.000 Eric Miller says, Tim, can you talk about alien invasions and doomsday politics?

01:58:57.000 Oh, Tim, you can talk about alien invasions and doomsday politics, but love is sacred, man.

01:59:01.000 To men, love is playful.

01:59:02.000 To women, love is work. 1.00

01:59:03.000 Even when women have everything, it's still just business. 1.00

01:59:06.000 Great show.

01:59:07.000 That's heartbreaking.

01:59:08.000 Ludus is the playful love.

01:59:10.000 It is one kind of ludus.

01:59:11.000 I disagree with that.

01:59:13.000 And by the way, love relationships are work.

01:59:15.000 Yeah, it turns out.

01:59:18.000 Joey Martinez says, Hey Tim, I reached out to Langley Outdoor Academy for your 2A expert and he said he would reach out to you guys as well.

01:59:25.000 He's been hitting the pavement hard on Joe Biden's gun grabbing.

01:59:28.000 Get that gun grabbing out of there.

01:59:30.000 We need the opposite of gun grabbing.

01:59:31.000 We need the government to be gun giving.

01:59:32.000 Yes.

01:59:33.000 Just walking around being like, here's your gun, sir.

01:59:35.000 Imagine if there was a guy would like knock on your door and then you'd be like, hello.

01:59:38.000 And it's like, I'm here from the ATF.

01:59:40.000 Like, oh no, what?

01:59:40.000 I'm here to give you a gun.

01:59:41.000 Not take them away. 0.86

01:59:43.000 Heck yeah.

01:59:43.000 I don't know about you, but I'm very pro.

01:59:44.000 I didn't get my stimulus gun yet.

01:59:46.000 Stimulus gun?

01:59:47.000 No, right?

01:59:49.000 Where's mine?

01:59:50.000 Instead of giving people money because money is devalued due to inflation.

01:59:54.000 Wow.

01:59:55.000 Give everybody a gun.

01:59:57.000 Yeah.

01:59:57.000 Standard issue.

01:59:58.000 I don't know, Glock 17 or something.

01:59:59.000 Sure.

02:00:00.000 Yeah, let's go.

02:00:01.000 MilSpecAir15?

02:00:02.000 Sure, sure.

02:00:07.000 All right, what do we got here?

02:00:08.000 DarthSaladTheTosser says, if we continue down this feminist path, why get married? 1.00

02:00:13.000 Just let it all fall apart and women will become property again. 1.00

02:00:16.000 Oof.

02:00:18.000 OK, well, we know why you're single.

02:00:22.000 Yeah, that's fair.

02:00:23.000 Dragon Noodle Soup Gaming says, men shouldn't be sympathetic to a group of people who have demonized them in all of the institutions and the media while taking their children away from them because they're bolstered by divorce court.

02:00:34.000 Women need to do better. 1.00

02:00:35.000 Feminists need to do better. 1.00

02:00:37.000 Yeah, feminists. 1.00

02:00:37.000 Let's make that distinction right now. 1.00

02:00:39.000 Because I'm pretty sure like most of these conservative guys who are married wouldn't say that about their wives.

02:00:44.000 Absolutely not.

02:00:45.000 You know?

02:00:47.000 And their wives aren't working for BuzzFeed. 1.00

02:00:49.000 So not writing about it either.

02:00:55.000 Slim 74 says, great point about COVID and being at home.

02:00:58.000 I've been your basic handsome weekend get laid.

02:01:03.000 We're dating honesty man.

02:01:05.000 I've changed my attitude now.

02:01:06.000 Not sure how, but it worked.

02:01:07.000 Values found.

02:01:08.000 Interesting.

02:01:09.000 Very cool.

02:01:10.000 Yeah.

02:01:11.000 Okay.

02:01:11.000 Oh, here we go.

02:01:12.000 I got the married with children people mad. 0.61

02:01:15.000 G says, Tim, you're absolutely wrong about married with children.

02:01:19.000 It taught an important lesson.

02:01:21.000 Don't quit when the times get hard.

02:01:24.000 They never left each other regardless of how much they drove each other crazy.

02:01:26.000 That's fair.

02:01:28.000 But like, imagine having a media tell you that it's not enjoyable to do, and then you're like, why should I change my circumstances?

02:01:37.000 Now, to be fair, The Simpsons had the inverted message, where when Milhouse's parents got divorced, and then Milhouse's dad, what's his character's name?

02:01:48.000 He's showing Homer the bachelor pad, and he's like, I, Homer, sleep in a race car!

02:01:54.000 Do you sleep in a race car?

02:01:55.000 And Homer goes, I sleep in a big bed with my wife.

02:01:59.000 He's like, oh.

02:02:00.000 Zing! 1.00

02:02:01.000 Yeah, that was great.

02:02:02.000 Love it.

02:02:02.000 I sleep in a big bed with my wife.

02:02:05.000 Even Homer got married.

02:02:09.000 Patrick in Chicago says, human relationships are designed to model the Trinity.

02:02:12.000 Man and woman, or even friends, united by the Spirit of God, like the Father and the Son, each seeking the best interests of each other before themselves.

02:02:20.000 That's what we crave.

02:02:22.000 And Brondo is what plants crave.

02:02:26.000 Slim 74 says, a woman that appreciates making her man happy with feminine role is what men want. 1.00

02:02:30.000 Take care of your appearance.

02:02:31.000 Treat him good.

02:02:36.000 All right, we got some economics.

02:02:38.000 Image JPEG says, inflation answered by Austrian economists.

02:02:42.000 Tim, Ian, or Luke, if he's watching, I implore you to read Murray Rothbard's America's Great Depression.

02:02:48.000 Central banks own most of the AUAG, keeping prices low.

02:02:53.000 Luke hit me up and he's like, bro, move to Florida.

02:02:56.000 Yeah.

02:02:56.000 And I was like, bro, no.

02:02:58.000 It's so hot.

02:02:59.000 It's so hot and humid.

02:03:01.000 With my friend of mine, I was it was a really cold April day in New York City.

02:03:05.000 And I was texting a guy friend of mine.

02:03:07.000 I said, it's so freaking cold today.

02:03:09.000 He's like, move to Florida, which was like out of nowhere.

02:03:11.000 And I'm like, it's like you don't even care about my hair.

02:03:14.000 I know, right?

02:03:15.000 Exactly.

02:03:15.000 It's like you don't understand what frizz is.

02:03:17.000 It gets all poofy.

02:03:19.000 No Legs No Problem TV says 50% of marriages divorce, 80% initiated by the wife because she lost, quote, the butterflies.

02:03:28.000 The dad has two weekends a month with the kids.

02:03:31.000 Those are real stats.

02:03:32.000 Divorce dads beg for time with the kids. 0.99

02:03:35.000 Interview Terrence Pop.

02:03:37.000 See, I mean... No, it's heartbreaking.

02:03:39.000 I mean, I'm with you.

02:03:40.000 I think it's heartbreaking.

02:03:42.000 And hey, the thing is, forget the couple.

02:03:45.000 Those kids need their dad.

02:03:47.000 Yes.

02:03:47.000 Especially those boys.

02:03:50.000 Why would women keep their, unless, God forbid, the husband, the ex-husband was violent, I mean, if he was not a good guy.

02:03:56.000 But in general, why would you keep your children away from their father?

02:04:00.000 Yeah.

02:04:02.000 My parents got divorced and they were very pragmatic.

02:04:06.000 So I saw my dad almost every single day.

02:04:08.000 He lived really, really close.

02:04:10.000 And my parents were just like, when they realized it wasn't working and they were fighting all the time, they were like, divorce?

02:04:15.000 Alright.

02:04:15.000 And they just... How old were you?

02:04:18.000 I think I was 13.

02:04:19.000 Do you have siblings?

02:04:20.000 Yes.

02:04:21.000 Older? Younger?

02:04:22.000 All older. 0.82

02:04:22.000 All older? 0.82

02:04:23.000 Yeah.

02:04:23.000 So you're the baby.

02:04:24.000 But you had older siblings who also kept you feeling safe, I bet.

02:04:32.000 No.

02:04:34.000 No.

02:04:34.000 Okay.

02:04:35.000 No, I was...

02:04:35.000 Yeah.

02:04:38.000 you.

02:04:39.000 Interesting Chicago upbringing, I guess.

02:04:42.000 Well, I mean, I'm my parents divorced.

02:04:44.000 Well, they separated when I was 14.

02:04:47.000 Divorced when I was 18.

02:04:49.000 My mom died when I was 19.

02:04:51.000 But I was very like, you know, I'm not going to let this ruin my teenage years.

02:04:56.000 My parents almost split up, and then they decided to stay together kind of for financial concerns for the kids, and then they ended up getting separate bedrooms, and their relationship blossomed.

02:05:07.000 That's how it works.

02:05:08.000 They became better friends, is that it?

02:05:10.000 That's kind of cool.

02:05:10.000 They started kayaking together and stuff.

02:05:11.000 Wow, there you go.

02:05:13.000 Kayaking.

02:05:16.000 This one's really important.

02:05:17.000 Damien Maddox says, Feminism was created by the Federal Reserve. 1.00

02:05:20.000 Tell him Ian.

02:05:21.000 It was created by the Federal Reserve, so there's a lot of problems in society.

02:05:25.000 Down with the Federal... I can't get behind that message, I don't know.

02:05:28.000 People were chatting like, Ian didn't say Federal Reserve, so like... I will, though.

02:05:31.000 Alright, here's a good one, though.

02:05:34.000 Golan Daz Thopp says, You guys are not talking about the role of grandparents.

02:05:38.000 In Eastern cultures, when both parents work, the grandparents take care of the children.

02:05:42.000 The West also confuses passionate love versus stable love.

02:05:45.000 Passionate love is very temporary.

02:05:48.000 That's interesting.

02:05:49.000 Very true.

02:05:50.000 No, that's true.

02:05:51.000 And yes, we have to think about love for the long term, and things change, and people change, we get older, and all of that stuff.

02:06:00.000 And we have to love each other for reasons other than just attraction, certainly.

02:06:04.000 And I don't even think that is love, although there is one of the seven.

02:06:06.000 Eros.

02:06:07.000 Eros.

02:06:08.000 Yeah, we need Eros Plus.

02:06:10.000 It's like HBO Plus, you need Eros Plus.

02:06:13.000 All right.

02:06:13.000 Mark Zuckerberg says, Ian is my wife's boyfriend.

02:06:16.000 Nuh-uh.

02:06:17.000 What?

02:06:18.000 No.

02:06:18.000 Zuckerberg.

02:06:19.000 That's not right.

02:06:21.000 Mea culpa says, sometimes things in life are too heavy to carry alone.

02:06:25.000 Marriage helps divide the burden by two.

02:06:27.000 Life is just one part hardship and one part happiness.

02:06:31.000 Try not to complicate it.

02:06:33.000 And that's true.

02:06:33.000 And I mean, you brought up Jordan Peterson.

02:06:35.000 I mean, suffering is is part of the meaning of life.

02:06:37.000 I mean, suffering is something that we deal with as being humans.

02:06:42.000 And it's okay to suffer.

02:06:44.000 It doesn't mean you have failed at life.

02:06:45.000 And it doesn't mean you're not lovable.

02:06:47.000 It's okay to suffer. 0.97

02:06:49.000 Austin Smith says, hello Tim Fool.

02:06:51.000 Please shout out my band Guile and Grit.

02:06:53.000 We released our music video for our song Hurt People today.

02:06:56.000 Also, when you start having bands, we'd love to perform at the Beanie Compound.

02:06:59.000 That is absolutely possible.

02:07:01.000 But you called me Tim Fool! 0.95

02:07:02.000 So you're banned! 0.96

02:07:03.000 I'm just kidding.

02:07:04.000 Send us an email.

02:07:06.000 In fact, because you called me Tim Fool, I think we will have you.

02:07:10.000 No, I'm kidding.

02:07:10.000 Send us an email.

02:07:11.000 What the heck? 0.86

02:07:12.000 All right. 0.98

02:07:13.000 What is this?

02:07:16.000 Del Menz says, I hope you can reach out to Joker from Better Bachelor.

02:07:21.000 Bring him on as a counterpoint to this gal. 1.00

02:07:23.000 I think I want to point something out.

02:07:26.000 A lot of people are mentioning they're like, you got to bring on these guys to talk about these issues too.

02:07:30.000 And that's a really good point.

02:07:31.000 Men and women have probably have different perspectives on this.

02:07:33.000 Probably.

02:07:33.000 And so I think a lot of people, I will say a lot of people have probably heard a lot of male perspectives on these issues.

02:07:41.000 So, you know, having a female perspective on it is good. 1.00

02:07:43.000 And then actually having both.

02:07:45.000 Yeah.

02:07:46.000 Well, I mean, I sort of have a male perspective on this, but I mean like a more someone who specializes in these conversations and the data and the research that I don't.

02:07:54.000 Sure.

02:07:54.000 I think that's good.

02:07:56.000 And I do think that I give a different perspective, like one of your fans.

02:08:00.000 Yeah, I don't think you have a very typical perspective.

02:08:03.000 I, you know, I do in that most women think like me, but the narrative is sort of left feminist.

02:08:11.000 Alright, Justin Stowers says, Well, normal guys, like your average guy, doesn't have to do that.

02:08:16.000 They just wait till they're 35 and they have money, and then they are the guy who's got the Ferrari or whatever.

02:08:21.000 a 6'5 rich guy with rock hard abs and a Ferrari, normal guys just say F it while we wait for

02:08:26.000 them to settle for what's reasonable.

02:08:28.000 Well, normal guys, like your average guy, doesn't have to do that.

02:08:31.000 They just wait until they're 35 and they have money, and then they are the guy who's got

02:08:35.000 the Ferrari or whatever.

02:08:36.000 There's also nothing wrong with rock hard abs.

02:08:38.000 That's right.

02:08:38.000 And you can actually have them.

02:08:39.000 Anybody could.

02:08:40.000 It's called exercising.

02:08:41.000 Go to the gym, meet some people.

02:08:44.000 I'm telling you, man.

02:08:45.000 Yeah, you don't deserve to be settled for, whoever this guy is.

02:08:48.000 I hope nobody ever settles for you.

02:08:51.000 But maybe you shouldn't settle for the way you feel right now.

02:08:54.000 And to your point, go do MMA.

02:08:57.000 The reason why I said MMA gym as opposed to like a regular gym, regular gyms where you like, you know, you pay a membership, people are just there to get their workout in real, you know, forever time and they're not there as a community.

02:09:08.000 But like an MMA gym, I would assume, in my very, very limited experience, that people are training towards a goal and there's probably a community there of people who show up to hang out, they know each other.

02:09:18.000 But there's also parkour gyms, there's also skate parks.

02:09:20.000 You go to any one of these places, You go to a skate park, and you'll see a couple guys hanging out, and if you've never skated before, and you walk up to any random group of people and say, hey guys, I've never skated before, they're gonna be like, oh dude, let me show you everything, and they're gonna be so excited to do it, and you'll make friends.

02:09:35.000 So the camaraderie that comes along with action sports.

02:09:37.000 There is not like everybody wants to teach people.

02:09:41.000 It's like, it's almost like proof to themselves that they have value and power.

02:09:45.000 So if you're some like average skateboard dude hanging out at a park, you probably skate all the time.

02:09:49.000 You probably get somewhat bored unless something interesting is happening or your friends are, you know, going on a mission as they call it.

02:09:55.000 And then someone comes in, they're like, would you mind like showing me how to do stuff?

02:09:57.000 It's like, Oh, I got something to do.

02:09:58.000 Like, let me show you how it's done, buddy.

02:10:01.000 Now it makes you feel good.

02:10:02.000 Because these, these skaters or these people feel like I've got something of value that people want from me.

02:10:07.000 And then this and then you go in there, you make friends.

02:10:10.000 And then I tell you, like, you count the days you've been skateboarding.

02:10:14.000 And then like three months when you're doing tricks, you get your first kickflip, they're going to be cheering and clapping and like jumping up and down for when you when you land those tricks.

02:10:21.000 Talking about giving people purpose, man, when you let someone teach you, that's what a great purpose you're giving them.

02:10:27.000 Yeah.

02:10:28.000 Well, again, it's dynamic in dating.

02:10:30.000 Like, I'm not saying that the man is going to be teaching the woman, although everybody can learn something from somebody else.

02:10:36.000 But again, just the fact that he has a passion for wine or a passion, he's a foodie and wants to show you the restaurants he loves or whatever.

02:10:45.000 Don't say, no, you know, I don't want to go all the way there.

02:10:48.000 Can we just like hang out and like, just like grab some burgers?

02:10:52.000 Give him the opportunity to show you his passion.

02:10:55.000 Just do it.

02:10:56.000 And if you're not interested, that's okay too.

02:10:58.000 And again, I want to go back to the settle guy.

02:11:01.000 Please don't live life passively, waiting to a point where you think that a woman is 40 and she's going to settle for you.

02:11:08.000 Because A, that's not going to happen.

02:11:10.000 And B, you've missed out on your life.

02:11:12.000 You're settling on life.

02:11:14.000 No woman's going to settle for a man. 1.00

02:11:16.000 And no woman is going to want to be with a man who has settled that that's his life. 0.92

02:11:20.000 Yeah, could you imagine being with a woman who's, like, just mad every day because she's settled? 0.95

02:11:27.000 Like, why would you want to be in a relationship like that?

02:11:28.000 Women don't need to settle. 1.00

02:11:30.000 Women, because we have jobs, we can pay the rent. 1.00

02:11:34.000 That's the magical thing, right?

02:11:36.000 It's true that we don't need a man to pay the rent, but we want a man. 0.94

02:11:42.000 That's good.

02:11:43.000 That's better.

02:11:44.000 We're not marrying you because we need you.

02:11:45.000 We're marrying you because we want you.

02:11:47.000 All right, Samuel Pyle says, I'm 19 and I put one K into doge at three cents.

02:11:52.000 And if it reaches $35, I will be a millionaire.

02:11:55.000 And thank you, Ian.

02:11:56.000 I bought one kilogram of graphene.

02:11:58.000 This is the future.

02:11:59.000 I am a gorilla.

02:12:00.000 Yes, it is.

02:12:01.000 You can also get your official Our Pillow.

02:12:04.000 You can see it in the chat.

02:12:05.000 It is pinned.

02:12:06.000 You can also go to TimCast.com with the shop button.

02:12:08.000 And we have the Our Pillow.

02:12:10.000 You're familiar with my pillow, correct?

02:12:11.000 Of Of course.

02:12:12.000 Well, we have the better communist version.

02:12:14.000 I thought Eden was going to grab the hour pillow.

02:12:15.000 Me too, I was really thinking that totally.

02:12:17.000 Yeah, because he looked, the pillow's right there, but he said Eden was grabbing the graphene.

02:12:21.000 It's more of a burlap one.

02:12:22.000 No, that's the one we actually sell, the burlap one.

02:12:25.000 I like that.

02:12:25.000 Hour pillow, see?

02:12:26.000 The Maya's crossed out because this is good communist pillow. 0.98

02:12:30.000 I see, it's collective.

02:12:31.000 How about the real hour pillow?

02:12:33.000 Oh yeah.

02:12:34.000 The real deal.

02:12:34.000 The real prototype of the hour pillow?

02:12:36.000 That's right.

02:12:37.000 It's a burlap sack full of styrofoam packing peanuts.

02:12:40.000 It feels awful.

02:12:42.000 To this guy about graphene, we were just talking about how the cost of wood has gone up six times, 600%, and steel is increasing.

02:12:49.000 $250, but they're saying now, like in the same article they said, a piece of lumber that was $10 is selling for $60 now.

02:12:54.000 Yeah, so I think graphene may be a potential future hedge against inflation.

02:12:59.000 If we can start producing this stuff super cheap, then we're not going to need lumber and steel like this, and that may pull us out of the fire.

02:13:06.000 This is graphene, by the way.

02:13:07.000 Graphene, I know, is like a great superconductor, but is it- are they gonna make like multi-layered graphene sheets that are stronger than steel or something?

02:13:15.000 Yeah, well, you can, yeah, and you can make- if you take two sheets of graphene and twist them 1.1 degrees, you can create a superconductor that way.

02:13:23.000 Apparently it's stronger than steel.

02:13:25.000 I would like to see it in practice, because the body of a car- you can also alloy it with things to make it even stronger, like aerogel.

02:13:32.000 True.

02:13:32.000 Yeah.

02:13:32.000 Oh yeah.

02:13:32.000 says, Growing up, I was always told that I needed to make sure I went to college and

02:13:36.000 got a good job. So in the event my husband left me, I could support myself and my children.

02:13:41.000 It was never a drive for career achievement.

02:13:43.000 True. Yeah. Oh, yeah. I remember I was, it was the 70s.

02:13:49.000 I was, let's say, seven years old, pigtails.

02:13:52.000 And my neighbor, the dad, asked me what I want to be when I grow up.

02:13:56.000 And I said, I want to be a psychologist.

02:13:59.000 And he said, oh, that's nice, but it really doesn't matter because, you know, you'll grow up, you'll get married, and you won't have to work.

02:14:06.000 Your husband will take care of you.

02:14:07.000 And I remember this, putting my hands on my hips, going, and what's going to happen when he runs off with his secretary?

02:14:14.000 How will I be able to take care of my children?

02:14:18.000 Now, of course, this was part of the cultural conversation that I learned, but the truth is that, again, a positive part of feminism is that, let's say he didn't run off a sex test, he died. 0.88

02:14:28.000 Let's say he's sick.

02:14:29.000 Let's say he got hurt on the job.

02:14:31.000 I mean, a woman has to be able to take care of her children and herself. 1.00

02:14:35.000 I think that it's okay.

02:14:37.000 It's wonderful that women are, A, able to earn a living, and able to earn a living on par with men, and able to live to their potential.

02:14:46.000 I find it way hotter when a girl can take care of herself than it is needy. 1.00

02:14:50.000 I don't like it personally.

02:14:51.000 I don't want the cling.

02:14:52.000 I don't blame you.

02:14:53.000 Mr. House says, many young females of this era want the benefits of both feminism and traditional relationships, but none of the struggle. 0.95

02:15:01.000 As long as this cherry picking behavior continues, both sexes in Western society will suffer. 1.00

02:15:06.000 Oh, there's a struggle.

02:15:07.000 There's a struggle.

02:15:08.000 If you are 36 years old and the guy you love and thought you were going to marry breaks up with you.

02:15:15.000 I have to tell you, that is, if you don't know now if you're going to have children because now you only have a few more years, oh, they're a struggle.

02:15:25.000 All right.

02:15:25.000 Let's just read this one more from Sol Invictus.

02:15:28.000 He says, women do need to settle early because those are their peak years. 0.98

02:15:33.000 And if they don't, because of FOMO, because of FOMO, men age like wine, women age like milk.

02:15:38.000 Don't pretend women will be fertile forever and men have to prove themselves to be valued.

02:15:43.000 Do I look like milk?

02:15:45.000 No.

02:15:45.000 Thank you.

02:15:46.000 That's a fair point.

02:15:47.000 I would just say that it's true.

02:15:52.000 Men do age well.

02:15:54.000 However, women are aging even better.

02:15:57.000 Women are taking better care of themselves and can take good care of themselves and hopefully a man would love a woman who takes care of herself and would love to take care of him too. 1.00

02:16:10.000 Right on.

02:16:11.000 Well, ladies and gentlemen, thanks for hanging out on this Friday night.

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02:17:33.000 But Melanie, is there anything you want to mention?

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02:17:36.000 Yeah, please follow me, SavvyAuntie, S-A-V-V-Y-A-U-N-T-I-E, on all the socials except Clubhouse, where it's my name, Melanie Notkin, N-O-T-K-I-N, and hoping to continue the conversation there.

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02:17:57.000 Thanks for coming, guys.

02:17:58.000 It was really fun.

02:17:59.000 It was fun.

02:18:00.000 I had a lot of fun.

02:18:01.000 This is the kind of conversation that I thrive.

02:18:03.000 I love this stuff.

02:18:04.000 Me too.

02:18:05.000 Good Friday night.

02:18:06.000 Yeah.

02:18:07.000 And then me in the corner pushing buttons.

02:18:08.000 I was just listening.

02:18:09.000 I absolutely loved this conversation.

02:18:11.000 Thank you so much for coming, Melanie.

02:18:13.000 Thank you for inviting me.

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02:18:20.000 Thanks for hanging out, everybody.

02:18:21.000 We'll see you all again.

02:18:23.000 Actually, I'm sorry.

02:18:25.000 We're going to have clips up from earlier in the week.

02:18:27.000 We do this on the weekends, so there will be clips tomorrow and Sunday.

02:18:30.000 But on Sunday, over at YouTube.com slash CastCastle, we will have a vlog where Mike jumped over the Tesla on his bike.

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Timcast IRL - Tim Pool - April 30, 2021

Timcast IRL - Society Is FAILING Men And Boys, Population Growth FALLING w-Melanie Notkin

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