True Patriot Love - What Kind of Man Are You, Really？ ft. Sim Chhabra

00:00:00.000 welcome back to another episode of the psycho and the psychotherapist no i'm just joking it is me

00:00:11.280 little brady wedham um i'm gonna call myself a simpleton because uh i am a simpleton and after

00:00:18.160 shooting these two episodes with our resident psychotherapist sim the simulator shabra nice to

00:00:23.280 see you brady i have found out that i'm a simpleton on what a man is i i feel like i came into this

00:00:29.040 originally two episodes ago with an idea of what it is to be a man and how to man yourself up

00:00:34.640 and now shooting the beginning of this third episode i realize i am just an infant when it

00:00:39.820 comes to intelligence because i didn't really realize how wrong i was so let's recap a little

00:00:46.300 bit of uh what we did in the first and the second episode we'll try and do it quick if anybody isn't

00:00:51.040 watching i encourage you to go and watch if you haven't but if they haven't watched the episode

00:00:54.820 what did we kind of discover in your opinion uh i think we covered quite a lot and i do uh

00:01:02.580 to to kind of recap the listeners a bit over here uh some of the things that we covered was one what

00:01:08.740 it is to be a man and then we moved on to saying that it's more about a classic definition and

00:01:16.900 it's more about the characteristics that you follow and then when you look at it through the

00:01:23.540 um archetypes that are out there there are many but we picked the four most prominent ones

00:01:30.580 we picked alpha which is probably the most recognizable these are the ones that are like

00:01:35.140 uh determined as being leaders and you know the go-getters and the ones that are agents of change

00:01:41.220 uh you have the betas they tend to be the ones that are like supporting cast of alphas they they

00:01:47.060 kind of keep the team in line and get what needs to be done to to keep the order uh you have the

00:01:54.980 omegas omegas tend to be more like the outliers and you know depending on what classification or

00:01:59.940 where you read you know they could be the ones that are more uh the observers uh they could be

00:02:05.140 the ones that are like intellectually sharp but emotionally kind of like um unconnected yeah that

00:02:11.540 doesn't mean they don't feel they just kind of have a different way of expressing themselves

00:02:15.620 and then you have the last one that we talked about which was sigmas and they tend to be the

00:02:20.020 outliers kind of like the lone wolves you know they kind of like uh jump to their own beat to

00:02:24.580 their own drums kind of thing so those those are the main things that we covered um we did get into

00:02:31.140 in depth in the second episode with about what alphas are and i would encourage them you know

00:02:35.460 any listeners to kind of go back and read that a little bit or hear that a little bit more um what

00:02:40.820 I would like to kind of explore a little bit more is the remaining three that we haven't covered.

00:02:45.780 Yep. And I think alpha deserved its own episode because of, you know, the misconceptions not only

00:02:51.460 do people have about alpha males in that term, but I think alpha male seems to be the one that

00:02:55.860 people focus on the most. Right. It's the it's the one that, you know, we get marketed towards,

00:03:00.660 right? Like to be an alpha male is to be masculine. But the more that we talked in that last episode,

00:03:05.460 the more i realized that those labels are kind of almost useless at this point because if you type

00:03:11.620 cast yourself into one corner it makes it difficult for you to then relate to all fours or if you start

00:03:17.940 relating to the other three you then go am i not or am i this so a very good uh example that we

00:03:23.700 used in the that episode was you know when can you be an alpha when can you be a beta when can

00:03:29.460 be an omega when can be a sigma so for like say a an individual who has a ceo offensive position

00:03:37.940 or their upper management in a work setting they would have to exhibit alpha like personality why

00:03:45.940 because they got to make sure that the company's getting new business they got to make sure that

00:03:49.540 they're you know leading a team they're making decisions you're competing in a competitive

00:03:54.420 work environment so a very good example would be with the current state of affairs

00:03:57.620 you would need alpha personalities to make sure that your company or whatever you are positioned

00:04:03.180 for so you know survives the storm even if it's just a confidence boost right because people are

00:04:09.300 looking up to you yeah so and then the betas would be like you're uh the same person now

00:04:15.000 but at home where they are taking on a a secondary role to say caregiving right so for for our sense

00:04:24.420 purposes we're using males so you know if the female is a nurturer which is what we established

00:04:30.020 in the first episode right well now you're a beta in that role because you're taking 0.97

00:04:34.980 um instructions from the alpha in the house who's the primary care giver in terms of the

00:04:42.260 nurturing part of things right so if say you have a newborn and you know you're on night duty

00:04:49.060 then you're not being an alpha there you're being a beta there yeah yeah you're stepping into the

00:04:53.380 role that needs to be filled you're taking yeah so that's where the beta comes in because you're

00:04:57.700 making sure that you know there's uniformity in parenting there's care for the child so you know

00:05:02.020 that's how the beta kind of comes in for the same person at the same time now you know you go okay

00:05:07.380 how would you be in omega and omega is like you know you to be a construct of society which means

00:05:11.940 you still have to get up go you may be a ceo but now you're answerable to the board of directors

00:05:17.540 you're answerable to your stakeholders you handle that answerable to your business community so

00:05:22.500 there you're kind of like a little bit separated uh you're not you know as emotionally connected

00:05:31.060 in terms of how much control you have in terms of directing so that's kind of like the omegas

00:05:35.380 it's a very vague example so and then sigma is you wanting to make your own mark yes right you

00:05:41.780 wanting to take company in a certain direction so you may have just stepped in your role as a ceo

00:05:45.700 and you're like i want to make sure that i leave a legacy right so that's like sigma trade so the

00:05:51.380 reason why we kind of like came to like you you have to be all four because it's a fluid thing

00:05:55.140 depending on what situation you're in will determine um what you're expected to not only

00:06:01.860 physical situation but even the mental situation that you could be in at the time too right you'll

00:06:05.620 find that maybe in a physical situation you would have at one point in your life acted in an alpha

00:06:10.660 male role but then you realize that that didn't really work for you so now you take an adjustment

00:06:14.580 and come back and maybe you're in a beta role this time and it does work for you so there's

00:06:18.100 a way to learn from using these different things this is why the more we talk the more i realize

00:06:23.460 that these labels aren't actually yeah they're they're labels they're there because you need

00:06:28.260 the placeholders they're placeholders right you need a word and you need things to relate to to

00:06:32.980 be able to have the discussion based off of that and i feel like that's what those are they're

00:06:36.500 exactly what you just said placeholders to have that discussion right and the the the trick is

00:06:42.420 to knowing how to transition between and be fluid about it because that's where you kind of like

00:06:49.220 start getting the virginity and friction because now all of a sudden you're like but i'm an alpha

00:06:53.860 uh what am i doing here well with a really good pop culture reference that you used last time

00:06:58.420 explaining office is the jerry mcguire and the mission impossible versions of tom cruise

00:07:02.740 so you both are alpha males but they're in different settings yeah but they still handle

00:07:06.580 themselves in that label right out they both seem like they're alpha males just in two different

00:07:13.060 there's a sliding scale there right so if we were going to take pop culture references and attach

00:07:17.540 them to sigma beta and omega yeah what culture like what pop culture personality is just so

00:07:23.460 it's relatable what who would we put in those roles so perfect examples of those so what i did

00:07:28.580 is i kind of like change it up a little bit so what i did is i looked at different types of omegas

00:07:33.540 different types of sigmas different types of betas okay so and i use sitcoms because sitcoms

00:07:39.300 tend to be longer running i'm a sitcom guy so and you you kind of connect with the character

00:07:45.220 a lot longer um so starting if it's written well a lot of the times you'll see these these uh these

00:07:53.380 shows kind of fall off but let's say the the initial three season run keep right i i think

00:07:59.620 i've picked um some legacy sitcoms okay throw them at me so for the beta i picked uh cleveland

00:08:08.020 from family guy cleveland brown i'm cleveland brown i picked lenny from simpsons oh i can't

00:08:15.780 do lenny's voice but i i know yes okay leonard from big bang theory okay right yeah and uh

00:08:23.460 Uh, so when you look at that now, they all exhibit beta characters, but there's, they're

00:08:31.020 uniquely, uh, different for each, like, if you look at what, how Cleveland plays himself

00:08:38.840 out, right.

00:08:39.840 How Lenny plays himself out and how, um, Leonard Leonard plays themselves out.

00:08:45.520 Right.

00:08:47.480 if you look at omegas okay with omegas i picked millhouse

00:08:54.680 right uh chris griffin from family guy chris griffin why do my arms smell like rotten strawberries

00:09:00.920 i think the audience is starting to find out that i do voice impressions after this episode but keep

00:09:04.680 going yeah um uncle joey from uh full house okay oh sexy uncle joey yeah yeah okay he was a perfect

00:09:12.040 omega because uncle jesse got a fiance and got it was it jesse and the rippers right it was the

00:09:17.000 name of his band yeah and then uh you had screech from saved by the bell oh dustin diamond oh my

00:09:23.080 goodness yeah i mean like yeah i was gonna pick um urkel but i like the dustin diamond reference

00:09:29.800 i think urkel was a urkel wasn't even a that wasn't based off of anything i think the first

00:09:34.600 episode it was and then you know next thing you know he's stefan urkel coming out of the time

00:09:38.920 machine that was such a he jumped behind the sofa and like family matters uh the the consistency

00:09:45.160 and the continuity in that show is ridiculous the one daughter just disappeared and no one ever

00:09:48.840 brought it up after the first season yeah fresh prince of bel-air like and vivian well i got that

00:09:54.680 though that was an actress change right but yeah you know what i mean like and little nikki went

00:09:58.760 from being a baby to like a four-year-old and yeah okay so going back let's not steer off on

00:10:03.880 our love for sitcoms but okay and then for uh sigma as i picked the fonts oh hey right yeah

00:10:11.000 uh dylan from 90210 oh sexy dylan you got a lot of sexy people on this one yeah well they were

00:10:16.920 they were the classic sigmas yeah right and then you have magnum pi you have michael knight tom

00:10:22.680 sellick yeah right yeah like these were your you these were more enamored than the alphas were

00:10:30.440 because they were like the the machos macho but they weren't in the alpha setting they were more

00:10:35.800 like but they were personified as like these independent beings like even alphas were like

00:10:40.440 like the fawns that seemed like he would be an alpha to me explain why the fawns isn't an alpha

00:10:46.760 because when you look at the setting it was made in he was always the rebel he was the guy that

00:10:52.120 was outside the norm yeah right yeah same thing with magnum pi he was outside michael knight he

00:10:58.920 He was outside the norm of an alpha.

00:11:01.760 Alphas and sigmas, they have to be forward-facing because you have to be the one that's leading.

00:11:07.080 They just tend to be a little bit on the outside of the square of society.

00:11:12.180 Everybody else fits in. 1.00

00:11:13.180 Sigmas are the outliers, right?

00:11:15.800 Alphas aspire to be more sigmas because they're freer.

00:11:18.160 They do all the attributes of an alpha without the constraints of society.

00:11:23.100 And I have no idea because I never was part of a fraternity.

00:11:26.520 But why did fraternities and universities use these, the alpha, beta,

00:11:30.900 sigma in terms of their, like their frat hoses?

00:11:33.520 So like what, I think those are more names.

00:11:35.860 Like, is there no relation there at all to personalities?

00:11:39.360 It's just a thing.

00:11:40.200 Yeah.

00:11:40.460 I think psychology just took it on more to kind of classify people.

00:11:44.880 It's like Myers-Briggs, right?

00:11:46.120 Like you, you need, you need a way to classify how people, when they

00:11:50.680 exhibit certain traits, we exhibit all four.

00:11:55.000 we may have a greater tendency towards one over another so when a lot of the tests or

00:12:03.720 service that you know you do they go you're this the idea is you got to go you prefer this but

00:12:11.080 you're also these three and just like the example we use with one person now being a ceo being a

00:12:16.840 parent you know being an employee whether you're a ceo or not and then whether having your personal

00:12:22.760 wishes. Right. Tom Brady is a perfect example of all four on the field is a quarterback. Quarterbacks

00:12:28.360 are classic alphas. Right. But as a team team, because craft's going to tell them what to do.

00:12:35.240 Right. So he's the beta there because he has to be bound by the rules of the game.

00:12:40.600 So do you remember how this, this, our first episode started? Yeah. Right. I took a sniff of,

00:12:45.960 of these wonderful smelling salts, which I'll do again by the end of this episode.

00:12:49.640 Yeah. And I, I looked into your eyes and I said, Sim, why are you a man? Yeah. And you

00:12:56.080 laughed because it's three and it, but, and it wasn't the question I think you were laughing

00:13:00.160 at. I think you laughed because you already knew the answer to that. And there was no

00:13:02.980 way to actually tell me without doing a long form discussion on it. Yeah. Right. As simple

00:13:09.440 as a question as that is doesn't have a simple answer. Yeah. Right. So after that initial

00:13:16.980 conversation had happened, I had told you, and the name of the show was, uh, man up.

00:13:23.100 Was I wrong?

00:13:24.600 No. So I feel I can answer that question better now, because how do I know that I'm

00:13:30.420 a man? Because there's four areas that I can say, okay, you know, how do I fit in

00:13:35.960 these four areas? So, uh, the first one I would say is how well do you know yourself?

00:13:41.460 Pretty well, I think too well.

00:13:43.560 Right. Um, how well are you?

00:13:46.980 with connecting with your emotions. So knowing what you feel. Okay. How well are you connecting

00:13:53.060 with others? Okay. And then the fourth one is how well can you, um, take action,

00:14:02.180 take initiative. So within those four, I can say, okay, this is where I am confident in taking

00:14:10.180 action taking initiative i would say i am middle in terms of how i express emotion okay and that's

00:14:18.820 just an area of focus and development again how well do i connect with others i would say hi

00:14:24.660 right and the fourth one in terms of um that again i would say i'm in the middle

00:14:30.260 so how do i know i'm at it's how i know i fit in those four ranges

00:14:34.180 is that a better answer yeah it is and i think it was the it was the answer i was looking for but

00:14:41.480 i also because i have the luxury of being able to sit down with a beautiful human like yourself

00:14:46.760 and ask these questions and have this discussion and i can apply this because this is applying to

00:14:51.700 me so i feel like when i you know and if there's anybody in the audience that you know it feels

00:14:55.760 like it applies to them that's great yeah but this piece of paper these this group of piece

00:15:00.440 paper here you've actually given us a way to apply this into our own lives yeah so um you know it's

00:15:08.440 great that we can kind of like talk about it but like you know an average listener would want to

00:15:13.160 go okay how do i put it all together yeah how does it how do i make sense of being self-aware

00:15:17.320 how do i find out about myself a little bit more and how does this relate to this discussion and

00:15:21.640 how do i how do i fit into those four if you're saying i'm all four how would i know where i'm

00:15:25.400 in those four and those traits. So an easy way to frame that is kind of like a four by four. Okay.

00:15:32.540 So four traits, four archetypes. Okay. So the four archetypes we've already talked about, it's alpha,

00:15:39.960 beta, omega, and sigma, right? So what would be the four traits then that would be important?

00:15:45.160 Like I talked about, it'd be knowing yourself, right? How well do you know yourself? How confident

00:15:50.260 are you in taking action okay how are you with relating to others and how good are you emotionally

00:15:58.260 aware of yourself okay so that's your four by four now the best way to kind of look at it from like

00:16:04.100 a working example think of it as you know you heard the phrase like an on all four cylinders

00:16:09.220 right yeah yeah on all four on all four yep right so your four cylinders are your traits

00:16:16.100 okay because you need all four to function and you also need you also need those to understand

00:16:23.620 too right like right yeah those labels right like i said they're placeholders to right but

00:16:29.780 like if you understand like for you to have momentum right your traits need to be in sync

00:16:35.940 so they have so you need to have an awareness because you have to be equally self-aware to be

00:16:42.020 able to comfortably express to be able to comfortably relate to be able to take action

00:16:47.220 so those are the cylinders okay now when you look at a combustion engine cycle you have the intake

00:16:56.260 you have compression you have ignition and you have exhaust right those are your archetypes

00:17:03.540 that's your four by four it's a good way to put it that's a good way to put it and what that does

00:17:07.780 is it takes away this need to corner yourself into a title so now you cannot be on alpha dominant

00:17:16.980 because you're one of four you're either the intake you're either a combustion you're either

00:17:22.020 the compression or your exhaust but they're all equally they're not equally um concise i blow a

00:17:28.740 lot of hot wind so i'm assuming i'm the exhaust less beans but so if you can compress that now

00:17:35.860 Now, if you want to get a little bit more broad, bigger, and you'd be like, okay, yeah,

00:17:40.860 you can then say, okay, I'm a one liter engine and I'm a 2.5 liter.

00:17:43.640 You can then get into the semantics of it.

00:17:45.420 And that could, that makes it more into a personal conversation.

00:17:48.760 So one of the things that, you know, I created specifically for our series is I, uh, created

00:17:57.620 this questionnaire that people can go on and we'll add the link to the bottom of our, our

00:18:02.560 show yep where you know there's simple five questions that they can kind of read for themselves

00:18:08.160 and it's broken down into exactly those categories so your first four categories are your traits

00:18:13.760 right those are your cylinders you need to know that those four cylinders are constant so knowing

00:18:19.520 yourself how well do you know yourself and the rating scale is quite straightforward so uh it

00:18:24.160 goes from low to high so low would be i avoid this right uh i struggle with this would be two

00:18:31.520 i can do it sometimes i handle this well and then this comes to me naturally right so for example

00:18:38.880 uh let's take let's pick a character and then we'll kind of like walk you through one of the

00:18:43.040 things so let's take uh let's take leonard from big bang oh that's a good one that will give you

00:18:49.520 a lot of fun to play with because his mind is obviously ridden with anxiety yeah and he's

00:18:54.560 dating Penny, especially when they break up. Like he was a mess in that. I see the first couple

00:19:01.680 seasons. I fell off of it. I feel like the set got more colorful and the jokes got more bland

00:19:08.320 as the time went on. But I love the original concept of the big bang. I think that's, that's

00:19:13.040 a more realistic than, than not in a sitcom setting or a sitcom setting, a bunch of kind of

00:19:19.280 hopeless misfit loser boys trying to find love right so i will put leonard and let's do leonard

00:19:25.360 yeah okay because um sheldon dictated the rules of the apartment right even when he started dating 0.93

00:19:33.040 penny and she'd be like what is this wait a minute why don't we go into like segue podcast shows

00:19:39.440 i i we we will eventually now that i know that your your vast knowledge of sitcoms is this deep

00:19:44.400 i'm going to create a happiness show on sitcoms yeah there you go um so if you look at leonard

00:19:49.360 yeah right uh taking action right when something needs attention am i willing to step in rather

00:19:55.840 than wait well he's a classic example of like a two right because he struggles with it and

00:20:01.760 he exhibits that right because they had that uh lease binder agreement whatever they call it the 0.86

00:20:07.760 Uh, it's a, uh, yeah, it was Italian and you couldn't, or Chinese anybody who's ever lived

00:20:14.480 with me. That's watching this right now. It goes, you know, that's Brady, right? Uh, yeah. Um,

00:20:18.640 rules. If I notice a problem, I take the initiative to improve it. I would say, again,

00:20:23.840 he's a two. Yeah, probably a two. Right. I am comfortable making decisions. Even when

00:20:28.160 everything isn't clear, that's a one, that's a one. Right. Uh, when I commit to something,

00:20:33.440 i make a real effort to follow through that he's a four he's a four you see and then the last one

00:20:39.840 i act on my goals instead of letting them stay on the to-do list well for that he's a four he's a

00:20:45.580 four as well right let's pick one more pick another character okay um just because we're already in

00:20:51.640 the l's let's take lenny the pushover actually no let's go millhouse let's go millhouse we'll take

00:20:55.840 we're gonna take it okay we're going to completely different uh category uh let's do relating to

00:21:00.840 others right okay and let's bring in when lisa comes into the picture okay because that's his

00:21:05.380 kryptonite lisa is millhouse's kryptonite or bloodstorm a copy of bloodstorm it's either lisa

00:21:11.560 or bloodstorm you know what factually i think guys when it comes to those things we're more like

00:21:17.140 uh millhouse's urkel screeches we're very dorky we go into that extreme even when we go into the 0.98

00:21:24.140 the facade that i'm gonna i'm gonna get this girl no no you're you're crapping your pants in the 0.98

00:21:28.980 background, I don't even care if she's in love with you. 1.00

00:21:30.900 And she made the, when you see a pretty girl that stimulates here, a pretty guy

00:21:34.800 that stimulates, uh, you are out of control at that point.

00:21:38.940 You know, we're Raj and season two, where he couldn't even talk.

00:21:42.000 That's who we are.

00:21:43.140 So let's call it an ACE and ACE.

00:21:44.880 Okay.

00:21:45.500 So relating to other, uh, Mel house with Lisa.

00:21:49.380 Okay.

00:21:50.600 During a disagreement, I consider where the other person is coming from.

00:21:55.880 I would say a two, three, easy.

00:21:58.800 yeah two right because he's like an avoidant right like i don't want to deal with this yeah

00:22:03.760 people often people often feel comfortable talking with me lisa not so much no bart

00:22:11.920 maybe yeah he's probably a two right yeah one or two i adjust how i communicate depending on the

00:22:17.440 situation or the person a one he's a one yeah he's passive right he's like a pushover right yeah uh

00:22:24.320 i find ways to connect with people maybe a two three i could see him being a three because i

00:22:29.360 think no house was easy relatable right but at least i would go to it too easy yes right yes

00:22:35.680 uh i make a point of staying connected with people who matter to me that he's a four

00:22:40.640 because he's he's like bar he's bar's best friend he's loyal until he gets a copy of bloodstorm he

00:22:44.960 tells you to go home yeah yeah you know but he's loyal yeah so so that's that's the idea of uh

00:22:52.880 well let's take jerry mcguire then and apply the the crazy uh alpha male on that one side

00:22:58.800 of the sliding scale let's do jerry mcguire uh do you want to do traits or do you want it in

00:23:03.280 the archetype do it in the archetype okay yeah so let's do jerry but give me one

00:23:09.760 where jerry now has to be either a beta or an omega

00:23:16.080 or a sigma no let's go omega i think omega is probably yeah that's a good rule okay

00:23:22.880 So, for Jerry and Omega, I would say either when he is trying to call all his other players

00:23:34.040 that he represented, because he started his own firm, and he had to deal with that setback,

00:23:39.200 right?

00:23:40.200 Before he...

00:23:41.200 I don't know. 0.66

00:23:42.200 What was Cuba's...

00:23:43.200 Hoodie Jr.'s character name?

00:23:44.200 Oh, I have no idea.

00:23:45.200 It's been years since I've seen that.

00:23:46.600 Everybody just remembers Jerry Maguire, because the name was called...

00:23:48.760 Show me the money.

00:23:49.760 Yeah.

00:23:50.760 Show me the money.

00:23:51.760 when he went on the first date with uh you complete me whatever her name was yeah okay right

00:23:57.120 yeah so in that right so if you go i am aware that i experienced situations a little differently

00:24:04.480 from those around me he's a high because he realized he's in a four right yeah i prefer

00:24:10.880 observing and becoming aware of my surroundings before acting a four another four because he

00:24:16.480 wouldn't have left his agency yeah right uh i prefer finding my place in a group rather than

00:24:22.400 leading it oh he's like a two because one to two yeah he actually might even be falling into the

00:24:27.360 one scale because he's a leader right uh i notice moments when i feel unaware about where i belong

00:24:33.840 in the situation he's like uh he became very well aware very early on that this is not because

00:24:41.040 remember he had to come back to the movie would never end it that way if he hadn't come

00:24:46.720 he'd still be going to this day soon he'd be signing agent single

00:24:52.320 and then i prefer reflecting before expressing my thoughts right so he struggles with it yeah

00:24:59.520 he's like a two right so that's how that's how this the scale works it's a very self-reflective

00:25:06.400 it's not scientific it's not designed to diagnose it's not designed to label but it's designed to

00:25:11.440 become a little bit more self-aware and kind of go okay how do i feel about this how do i feel about

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00:25:22.640 make sure that the link is in the description so they can download it as well the results are

00:25:26.800 confidential they're not going to be shared anywhere and i i offer a free we can't put them

00:25:31.280 on the website sim no i'm joking make a tick tock out of it yeah no that's it's nice that you've

00:25:36.640 done this as well because anybody who is watching you've given them something to actually that's

00:25:42.000 applicable like they can apply this to their life right yeah i mean because we you know the fact that

00:25:46.560 we created a series of it right so it's a great way to kind of like okay how do you bring it home

00:25:51.280 and you can book a complimentary console um for 20 minutes uh and then we can go over the results

00:25:58.320 and we can talk about how you would like you know there are an area that you would like to strengthen

00:26:02.400 there's an area that you would like to attend to because of you know life experiences or say

00:26:08.080 you know a very good example would be like say you're a beta but you're aiming for a top management

00:26:13.200 position or you're an alpha and you're learning how to be a little bit more um beta like with

00:26:20.080 your team right because everybody's moving in different transitions so you can take this you'd

00:26:24.160 be like we can see where your tendencies are again this is non-scientific this is just something so

00:26:29.040 people can kind of like place themselves in it's it's an education of understanding yourself yeah

00:26:33.840 yeah and i i can't thank you enough for not only building this for the audience yeah but sitting

00:26:38.960 down now and this has got to be we've got to be running into two hours of sitting down and talking

00:26:43.520 to me yeah well i enjoy that that's why well it is there anything that you'd like to kind of leave

00:26:48.720 everybody with before i close this out like is there one last message that you could say about

00:26:53.680 anybody who's confused about either their masculinity their femininity themselves

00:26:59.120 what is the best thing that we can leave them with if they've watched this episode

00:27:03.280 and they watched the previous episodes and they came out of this saying you know i really

00:27:06.800 like sim i really like his opinion i'd like to know what could work for me what's a nutshell

00:27:11.680 kind of thing that you can put out there for people to like i said better themselves so

00:27:17.040 So like the analogy we've created, right?

00:27:19.200 Like you are a four by four.

00:27:20.960 So, and you are, um, both simultaneously.

00:27:25.760 And that's where the answer sits.

00:27:27.920 That is unique to you.

00:27:29.660 So if you feel overwhelmed, you're not alone.

00:27:33.560 Uh, this will help you kind of shape it a little bit.

00:27:37.640 Uh, you could go to the websites, horizon within.ca.

00:27:41.800 Uh, we'll put it in the description as well.

00:27:43.880 You reach out, you can book a consult.

00:27:45.940 we can have a conversation about it and we can build it from there awesome thank you very much

00:27:50.740 sim my fellow patriots look at that we learned what masculinity is as much as we can understand

00:27:56.580 it with our little teeny tiny brains but this man just made my brain a little bit bigger and i can't

00:28:01.140 thank him enough for that please check out tplmedia.ca for more shows like this and you can

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00:28:17.860 sim thank you so much about helping me discover what i'm good at and what i'm not good at and

00:28:22.980 before we go we're going to finish the show the way we started it all right smelling salts for everyone

00:28:28.580 Thanks for having me.

True Patriot Love - April 06, 2026

What Kind of Man Are You, Really？ ft. Sim Chhabra

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