Valuetainment - February 03, 2023


20 Rules for Women - How To Attract A High Value Man


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In this episode I talk about why you don't need a man to be a high value man, and why you should model your life after the women who have had a lot of success in the market. I also discuss why gold is a great hedge against inflation.

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00:00:00.000 So I want to preface what this video isn't and what this video is.
00:00:02.600 This video is not one of those articles you read on HuffPort that tell you how awesome
00:00:06.160 you are, how, like, you know, unicorns exist, a fantasy world.
00:00:10.880 Don't worry about it, women. 1.00
00:00:12.060 You don't need men. 0.66
00:00:12.920 This isn't it.
00:00:13.820 Let me tell you what this is.
00:00:14.820 This is a video coming from a guy who was 22, 23-year-old playboy that would go to Vegas
00:00:20.000 26 times a year.
00:00:21.360 I partied religiously, and then eventually I became a high-valued man.
00:00:25.620 I realized my value in the marketplace, and I stopped playing, and I wanted to wipe and
00:00:29.620 build a family in that transition I went through.
00:00:32.000 Now, a couple things.
00:00:33.020 Not a marriage counselor, not a psychologist, I'm not a therapist.
00:00:36.920 I'm simply sharing my philosophies with you, some which is going to piss you off.
00:00:41.540 You're going to be upset, but this is a video specifically for both men looking to go out
00:00:46.520 there and be a high-value man, and for women saying, I would like to find a high-value man. 1.00
00:00:51.460 Having said that, let's get right into it.
00:00:59.620 Okay, so ladies, first thing you've got to know is whose life do you want to model? 1.00
00:01:04.680 There are a few different options you have.
00:01:06.300 One, do you want to be one of those women that says, I don't need a man, I'm independent, 0.97
00:01:11.480 I make my own money, I'm a girl boss, I'm a girl this, I read these books written by
00:01:16.580 women who've been divorced five times.
00:01:18.220 If that's who you want to be, fantastic.
00:01:20.620 That's one model.
00:01:21.940 The other one is, you know, honestly, I just want to find somebody who is rich, successful,
00:01:26.060 and I want them to be the husband, the money maker, I don't want to work, I want to stay
00:01:29.760 home, I want to just have kids, and that's all I want to do.
00:01:32.580 No problem.
00:01:33.660 The other one could be, well, I want to model after these women who are going out there 1.00
00:01:37.380 partying hardcore.
00:01:39.060 Yeah, maybe they're single moms and they've had three kids, four kids by four different
00:01:42.840 men, but they've had a time of their lives.
00:01:44.840 You can model that life as well.
00:01:46.640 Or the last one, maybe, I don't know, Pat, I kind of have my own identity, I have my own
00:01:50.980 interests, I have my own career, but I know I want to have a man who is the
00:01:55.700 alpha of the family, who is the high value.
00:01:58.300 Man, I'm not trying to compete with them, I want to be a co-pilot, he's the leader in
00:02:02.680 the area of our family where we're going, and I'd like to build something like that with
00:02:06.580 them.
00:02:06.840 Fantastic.
00:02:07.340 You got choices.
00:02:08.000 And by the way, I'm sure there's a lot of different options on who you want to model
00:02:10.840 after, out of those four women.
00:02:12.200 You get to pick and choose.
00:02:13.420 It's your prerogative, you're an adult, you choose.
00:02:15.980 Now, before you go out there looking for high value, man, it's very important for you to know
00:02:20.720 how they're wired.
00:02:21.800 If you don't know how they're wired, you don't know how to talk to them, you don't know how to
00:02:25.080 find them.
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00:03:50.320 So let's go through 10 different things on how high-value men are.
00:03:54.260 Number one, high-valued men have many options.
00:03:57.200 You are not the only option.
00:03:58.700 They have a lot of options.
00:04:00.200 They generally could be talking to four, five, six, seven different women at the same time.
00:04:04.980 This doesn't mean they're being proboscuous with everybody, but they have a lot of options.
00:04:09.180 It's tough to find high-valued men.
00:04:12.220 High-valued men are very, very attractive.
00:04:15.320 It's like the hottest girl in high school.
00:04:17.140 How many men were chasing her?
00:04:18.840 High-valued men, 28 years old, 26 years old, 35 years old.
00:04:22.120 A lot of women are chasing him as well.
00:04:24.500 Number two, when it comes down to high-valued men, these are not desperate men.
00:04:27.900 They have a lot of options.
00:04:29.180 The last thing you're going to feel from is desperation.
00:04:31.220 So if you miss that 22-year-old guy that was all over you, clinging on you,
00:04:35.260 you're not going to get it from these types of men.
00:04:37.120 If you want that, they're out there.
00:04:38.620 If you want something like this, you're probably not going to get that from them.
00:04:41.840 Number three, this is a tough one to embrace.
00:04:44.840 Their marketability and their value is just going to go up.
00:04:48.520 The more they age, the more they succeed, the more they win,
00:04:51.840 their marketability and value is going to keep going up.
00:04:54.200 So you just got to keep that part in mind.
00:04:56.280 They're not going to be declining.
00:04:57.580 They're just constantly going to be increasing.
00:04:59.520 The better they get, the wiser they get, the more they succeed.
00:05:03.340 Number four, they don't chase.
00:05:05.160 They attract.
00:05:05.740 So meaning, they don't mind courting because they want that.
00:05:09.580 They want to court.
00:05:10.500 They want to go through that process, but they're not chasers.
00:05:13.200 So you know the whole thing of, you know, let me do this three calls.
00:05:16.480 He did this.
00:05:17.080 I can't call him back.
00:05:17.920 I can't pick up.
00:05:18.680 If he does this, they don't play the chasing game.
00:05:21.220 They're constantly attracting good people in their lives.
00:05:24.020 They're not turned on by games.
00:05:26.080 Number five, they're typically very confident.
00:05:28.080 This doesn't mean they don't have any insecurities.
00:05:29.660 This doesn't mean they walk on water.
00:05:30.860 This doesn't mean they don't have any anxieties or different things like that.
00:05:34.480 They may never share it with you, but you're going to get a feeling being around them that
00:05:38.700 they're very, very confident.
00:05:39.940 Why?
00:05:40.300 Because to get that level of natural confidence takes years and years of hours to put into it
00:05:46.920 to believe you are valuable, that you produce that type of confidence.
00:05:51.000 Number six, they take care of their body. 0.86
00:05:52.420 This doesn't mean they're all bodybuilders with six packs, but generally a high value man,
00:05:56.440 they exercise.
00:05:57.260 They have a decent diet.
00:05:58.800 They don't fool around when it comes down to that.
00:06:00.700 It doesn't mean it's perfection, but they do take care of their body, so they expect
00:06:04.020 their women to also take care of their body. 1.00
00:06:06.560 Number seven, they're not needy.
00:06:08.420 They're not clingy.
00:06:09.360 They're not constantly seeking your approval, and some want that.
00:06:13.120 Some want their men to constantly be seeking their approval.
00:06:16.280 You're generally not going to get a lot of that from a high value man.
00:06:19.680 Number eight, they have life goals.
00:06:20.900 They're going places.
00:06:21.680 They have a vision.
00:06:22.340 They want to go out there and do something big.
00:06:23.700 So if you are expecting this person to be at home at five o'clock every night because that's
00:06:27.760 what your dad did, the question you have to ask yourself is, you may love your dad, but
00:06:32.360 was your dad a high value man?
00:06:33.820 If the answer is no, he was just a good man, it's very different than a high value man that's
00:06:39.540 got big goals in their lives that they're in the hunt with.
00:06:42.040 You can't say, well, I want him to be like my dad and be home at five o'clock, but I want
00:06:46.500 him to be thinking big.
00:06:48.420 There's a big conflict there.
00:06:50.040 You have to understand that part.
00:06:51.520 Number nine, they take responsibility.
00:06:53.080 If they're going to screw up, they're going to take responsibility.
00:06:54.580 If this is a real man that's a real leader with the right character, they take responsibility
00:06:59.380 and when they screw things up and they'll generally improve.
00:07:01.760 Last but not least, you have to know when you do become a high value man, you've already
00:07:05.200 been through a lot of different relationships.
00:07:07.720 You know the game.
00:07:08.900 You see the signs.
00:07:10.360 They understand certain red flags.
00:07:12.740 Yeah, I don't know about this.
00:07:13.840 And they know when you're faking it or acting too much to make sure you seem perfect.
00:07:17.600 They've been through that as well.
00:07:19.040 So they're not turned on by those games.
00:07:21.300 They know the game.
00:07:22.220 They understand the game.
00:07:23.140 They play the game.
00:07:23.860 They just want to retire away from the game because they want to have a family.
00:07:27.040 They have bigger plans with a person that they want to run with.
00:07:29.840 So understand that part that they're very clear about how the game goes.
00:07:34.240 So now before I get into the 20 rules of young woman when it comes down to dating high value 0.99
00:07:38.000 men, you got to know a couple things.
00:07:40.340 There's different places that we meet people nowadays, right?
00:07:43.060 And it's very different than when it was in year 2000 or 1995.
00:07:46.320 Today, there's Tinder and Bumble.
00:07:48.120 There's bars and clubs.
00:07:49.240 There's business where you work at through friends and church, right?
00:07:52.040 Now, there's a statistic that came out talking about what type of percentages of a relationship
00:07:56.620 and marriages work out the most.
00:07:58.200 Here's what it said.
00:07:59.020 On a study, they did based on 2,000 different people.
00:08:01.260 The article is titled, Relative Strangers, The Importance of Social Capital for Marriage.
00:08:05.840 The study found that 12% of couples who meet online get divorced within the first three
00:08:09.940 years of marriage compared to 2% of couples who meet through friends and family.
00:08:14.180 And after seven years, these statistics are roughly 17% and 10%.
00:08:18.800 So now, the reason why this is important as well is to know when it's online dating, there's
00:08:25.380 only so much a person can learn about you, you know?
00:08:28.060 If it's through friends, church, different places, you're able to learn more about this
00:08:32.540 person because you can ask grandson, what do you know about her?
00:08:34.740 What do you know about him?
00:08:35.740 What can you tell him about him?
00:08:36.780 So also know where you're marketing yourself or where you're looking for.
00:08:40.000 If you're going to Tinder to find a husband, just know what he's looking for.
00:08:43.260 You should not be surprised if he comes in asking you day one to go home with him because
00:08:47.260 Tinder is typically, the expectation is one.
00:08:49.740 Now, some people say, you're wrong.
00:08:51.820 I met my husband on Tinder and we've been together for six years.
00:08:54.960 I don't solve my success in life based on exceptions.
00:08:59.920 There are exceptions to everything.
00:09:01.920 I want higher odds of success and the higher odds of success is if you date through Tinder
00:09:07.420 and Bumble, the higher likelihood of getting a divorce is a lot higher than going through
00:09:11.440 friends and other places.
00:09:12.300 So just keep that part of mind.
00:09:13.720 Having said that, let's get right into it.
00:09:15.120 20 rules for young women when it comes down to dating high value men.
00:09:19.760 Let's get right into it.
00:09:20.940 Number one, if you see men as the enemy, good luck finding a high value man.
00:09:25.260 Simple as that.
00:09:26.180 You cannot see men as the enemy.
00:09:27.520 Why do I say this?
00:09:28.460 A lot of times mothers who went through a divorce and maybe married a man who didn't treat them
00:09:34.060 well, they indirectly put that mindset into their daughters. 0.98
00:09:38.380 Their daughters at six years old, seven years old, 10 years old, 15 years old have heard
00:09:42.400 how many times that mom has talked smack about the dad.
00:09:45.180 Eventually, the daughter becomes a 22-year-old woman who sees men as the enemy.
00:09:49.660 If you see them as enemy, good luck finding a high value man.
00:09:52.700 Number two, if you do land a high value man and you start dating him, the job has just begun.
00:09:57.160 This isn't about, oh my God, I'm dating Larry.
00:09:58.980 Do you realize how awesome he is?
00:10:00.420 He's a high value man.
00:10:01.380 Let's see if you can keep him.
00:10:03.260 Let's see if you can keep him.
00:10:04.560 Just because you got him doesn't mean you got him forever.
00:10:07.360 This is work.
00:10:08.580 You know, it's not like a, you're good for three months and we can act for three months.
00:10:12.380 Six months later, the truth shows up a year later.
00:10:14.700 Wait a minute.
00:10:15.200 Who am I dating here?
00:10:16.660 And then eventually you're like, maybe you dated him for a year, maybe for a year and
00:10:19.560 a half, but you can't keep a guy like that. 0.95
00:10:21.200 You got to make sure you can keep a high value man, not just attract a high value man, which
00:10:26.540 means it's work.
00:10:27.500 Both sides, it's work.
00:10:28.940 We got to do our part.
00:10:30.520 You got to also do your part.
00:10:32.120 Number three, body count matters.
00:10:33.480 By the way, men may not tell you, but it matters.
00:10:36.640 Okay?
00:10:37.020 When a person, I'm doing a job interview with them and they tell me in their resume they've
00:10:40.200 had 20 jobs in the last 10 years, I don't want to hire them because there's a reason
00:10:44.100 why they've had 20 jobs in 10 years.
00:10:45.760 Okay?
00:10:46.180 They can't keep somebody together.
00:10:47.940 The other part, you know how when you go out there and you're just hooking up, having
00:10:50.620 a lot of one night stands left and right thinking no one's going to tell anybody?
00:10:53.180 A man who hooks up with you for one night and you say, let's keep it between us, his 0.86
00:10:59.120 level of loyalty is zero to you, meaning he'll brag about hooking up with you to his friends
00:11:03.900 and his peers because he owes you nothing.
00:11:06.900 There is no such thing as a one night stand keeping it secret.
00:11:10.440 It's going to lead to other people.
00:11:12.080 So if you do that constantly, people are going to know a high value man is going to be like,
00:11:16.000 you know what?
00:11:16.760 I'm going to pump the brakes here.
00:11:18.160 You're not for me.
00:11:19.000 I like you a lot, but not for serious relationship.
00:11:22.280 You ever heard a saying a woman can tell within the first 30 seconds to a minute whether they're 1.00
00:11:25.340 going to sleep with a man or not?
00:11:26.360 You ever heard that part before?
00:11:27.880 A man will also tell very quickly whether this is a girlfriend that they're going to show
00:11:32.340 up to their friends or family, or if this is just somebody they're going to have
00:11:35.180 fun with.
00:11:35.800 Okay?
00:11:36.120 They will know very, very quickly on how you carry yourself.
00:11:39.600 When it comes down to having class, you either have class or you don't have class.
00:11:43.440 One can't act classy.
00:11:45.480 Here's what I mean by it.
00:11:46.560 Back in the days when I was 21, 22, I would go to these financial meetings acting like
00:11:51.280 I'm well off financially.
00:11:52.360 I'm doing very good for myself.
00:11:53.760 Maybe I can fake it for five minutes, maybe 30 minutes.
00:11:57.020 But about an hour later, the client found out.
00:11:59.100 This guy's broke, wearing DSW shoes, wearing a three-day super broker suit, and Ross Tye,
00:12:04.880 he has no clue what he's talking about.
00:12:06.000 This guy doesn't have any money.
00:12:06.820 Work on having real class, real values, real principles, because there's no need to act.
00:12:12.480 It's real.
00:12:13.320 So this next one's not going to be very popular, but it is what it is.
00:12:15.800 So let's just say you have a high-value man that you really like, and he's in a relationship
00:12:19.660 for about a year.
00:12:21.120 You come in, and somehow, some way, he likes you.
00:12:24.820 You become the side chick. 0.92
00:12:26.520 He drops the girl he's with to be with you.
00:12:29.820 So now he is with you.
00:12:31.620 Six, 12 months later, don't be surprised and upset if he's got a side chick.
00:12:36.320 This relationship started off with you being a side chick.
00:12:39.300 You can't be not surprised, saying, I can't believe he's got a side chick.
00:12:42.000 You just may not be the person that he's willing to settle down with.
00:12:45.920 You just may be somebody that he just wants to have fun with.
00:12:48.540 So look, just because somebody's a high-value man doesn't mean this person wants to settle
00:12:51.900 down and get married today. 0.99
00:12:52.960 Maybe their timeline is five years, three years, eight years, ten years.
00:12:55.760 There's a part of it that's on you to see if there's any signs that this man is eventually
00:13:00.820 going to want to do that, or if they're just having fun, okay?
00:13:03.760 And that part, there's not a manual to it.
00:13:05.740 There's not a book to read about it.
00:13:06.800 It's purely intuition.
00:13:08.040 It's gut.
00:13:08.660 You'll know about it.
00:13:09.540 When you get that feeling, trust it, but don't jump to conclusion too early.
00:13:13.760 Maybe give it a month or two or three before you say, no, this one's not going anywhere.
00:13:17.760 I do want to have a family right now.
00:13:19.880 I can't wait for this guy.
00:13:21.260 My time is coming.
00:13:22.440 Make your decision.
00:13:23.320 Move on.
00:13:24.080 But just know, it's going to come down to your intuition.
00:13:26.580 This next one is a little amateurish, but a lot of women do this, and I don't recommend 1.00
00:13:30.660 it.
00:13:30.880 Never brag about how great your man is in bed, okay?
00:13:33.440 Never.
00:13:34.080 I can't tell you to you from a personal story.
00:13:36.340 I had one.
00:13:37.480 She would do that.
00:13:38.620 All her cousins would call me and wanted to find out what it was like.
00:13:43.700 I don't know if that makes sense.
00:13:44.900 Don't brag about how great your man is in bed.
00:13:46.720 If he's great in bed, and if she's great in bed, keep it to yourself.
00:13:50.520 It's nobody else's business.
00:13:52.140 This next part is something you've heard a million times.
00:13:54.160 You control everything because he has what you want, right?
00:13:59.220 He has what you want.
00:14:00.020 You set the tone.
00:14:00.700 You set the standard.
00:14:02.460 And this is no longer the 60s.
00:14:05.240 Who cares about the first date?
00:14:07.100 You choose what the standards are, but the sooner you get intimate, it just means you don't
00:14:12.880 value it that much.
00:14:13.840 And a man may sit there and say, well, that was kind of really quick.
00:14:17.220 How many other people were you this quick with?
00:14:19.360 Value it.
00:14:19.900 Take your time before you decide to just give it up that easily.
00:14:23.700 I think it was Steve Harvey that says wait 90 days.
00:14:26.220 I don't know what timeline he put.
00:14:27.260 That book that he said, think like a lady, act like a man, or something like, act like 0.84
00:14:31.440 a lady, think like a man. 1.00
00:14:32.760 Great book.
00:14:33.740 If you haven't read it, read the book.
00:14:35.280 His timeline, I believe, is 90 days.
00:14:36.840 But do protect it.
00:14:37.820 Don't give it up that easily.
00:14:38.820 This next one about OnlyFans.
00:14:40.180 It's so funny.
00:14:40.620 I'm doing a business meeting in Long Beach, California.
00:14:42.660 This one girl gets up, dropped it gorgeous. 1.00
00:14:45.000 She asked me questions.
00:14:46.000 Times are really hard in real estate.
00:14:47.580 I'm going through this.
00:14:48.480 I'm going through that.
00:14:49.140 I'm going through this.
00:14:50.500 And I look at her and I say, look, there's a lot of people right now that are peeing,
00:14:55.020 tempted to make money through OnlyFans.
00:14:56.940 She starts crying.
00:14:58.240 Okay?
00:14:58.440 Like, literally, she starts crying.
00:15:01.380 So, when she cries, you already kind of have an idea she was also either tempted or she
00:15:05.660 did it because it's easy money to make.
00:15:06.980 When you're that beautiful, go make your $50,000, $100,000 a month, right?
00:15:10.320 It is a choice you can make.
00:15:12.200 But there's a very different, big difference between you doing that.
00:15:16.420 Those things are permanent.
00:15:17.900 You have to explain it to your kids, to your husband, to everybody when that becomes public.
00:15:23.040 Unfortunately, back in the day, say if somebody did something like OnlyFans, there wasn't
00:15:27.600 a camera where everything's going to be public, social media, Instagram.
00:15:30.460 It's a very different ballgame today.
00:15:32.360 A man who has another girl that's on OnlyFans may have fun with her, may even be interested
00:15:37.340 in having fun with her.
00:15:38.720 But it's different when it's coming down saying, I want to build a family with this person.
00:15:42.500 Again, well, that's not true.
00:15:44.580 I know somebody that did this.
00:15:46.160 I'm going with odds.
00:15:47.420 I'm not going with the exception.
00:15:48.800 Makes sense?
00:15:49.320 So, this next one is very interesting.
00:15:50.720 I have seen a lot of men who are high value.
00:15:53.820 They've been around them for a very long time.
00:15:55.500 But I've also seen when a guy's dating a girl and then publicly, she makes a comment
00:16:00.660 to embarrass him that's a very personal, embarrassing comment.
00:16:04.900 And then a month later, he breaks up with her.
00:16:06.800 He's like, she just doesn't understand the dynamics that you never publicly embarrass your
00:16:12.320 man, especially if he's a high octane, high value man.
00:16:16.060 You just don't publicly embarrass them.
00:16:17.660 When you do that, do it privately.
00:16:19.140 Hey, babe, I don't like the way you handled yourself. 0.99
00:16:22.080 That was not cool.
00:16:23.160 Have the conversation with them.
00:16:24.380 Do not do it publicly.
00:16:26.100 That will not go well.
00:16:28.180 So, you have a high value man.
00:16:29.360 This doesn't mean every pressure needs to be on him.
00:16:31.340 He knows.
00:16:31.860 You bring a lot of value to the table as well.
00:16:33.680 Okay?
00:16:34.120 So, what could that thing be?
00:16:35.760 It could be finances.
00:16:37.160 It could be family.
00:16:38.400 It could be faith.
00:16:39.540 It could be fitness.
00:16:40.740 It could be relationships.
00:16:42.100 It could be a lot of different things.
00:16:43.160 But, you have to bring your own dynamic to the table as well.
00:16:46.300 That is an area of strength that's not his.
00:16:48.820 So, what are some areas you bring to the table?
00:16:51.520 You can have some confidence from that area when they say, this is what I do well.
00:16:54.900 I'm going to be able to do this.
00:16:56.040 I'm going to be able to do this.
00:16:56.880 I'm going to be able to do this.
00:16:57.660 Fantastic.
00:16:58.460 Trust me.
00:16:59.380 A man's going to sit there and say, that's very valuable to me.
00:17:03.120 Man, I'm so glad she brings that to the table because I don't.
00:17:06.160 Listen, reputation matters.
00:17:07.500 I understand we hear about, you know, repetitions, what other people say about you, what characters,
00:17:11.360 who you really are.
00:17:12.320 Your reputation matters when it comes down to dating high-value men.
00:17:15.000 Men are going to call around and say, well, can you tell me about her? 0.79
00:17:17.560 What are you going to do about her?
00:17:18.500 He's going to call around.
00:17:19.360 And if he doesn't, he's not doing his part.
00:17:22.440 The high-value man that I know is going to be calling and saying, hey, you know this girl? 0.65
00:17:25.740 Has she been this?
00:17:26.600 Has she done that? 0.80
00:17:27.240 Has she done that? 0.80
00:17:28.200 And then people are going to be talking, I remember one time she dated that guy.
00:17:30.480 That one time we went out, she was drunk and she did this and she did that.
00:17:33.120 Okay, cool.
00:17:33.660 You're not expecting for perfection because if any girl that seems a little too perfect, 0.95
00:17:38.220 she's probably got a lot of things filled in the closet.
00:17:40.440 Generally, there's going to be something, but protect your reputation because it's going to follow you.
00:17:46.020 Never bash your exes.
00:17:47.200 It doesn't matter what it is.
00:17:48.260 Never bash your exes.
00:17:49.240 If you bash your last three exes, I'm going to be the fourth one and I'm not interested in that.
00:17:53.040 Hey, how come your last relationship didn't work?
00:17:55.040 Honestly, we were just on different pages, you know.
00:17:57.660 He wasn't somebody I saw myself being with long-term.
00:18:00.580 Good guy, his own thing, not interested.
00:18:02.860 We went separate ways and, you know, I'm just not, you know, don't sit there and say, 1.00
00:18:07.540 he was this, he was an idiot, he was a moron, he was a this. 1.00
00:18:10.140 Not attractive. 1.00
00:18:11.400 Don't say it in a way where he's like, you sound like you kind of are interested in, 1.00
00:18:16.120 but don't also go out there and bash on the guy, talking about how big of a loser he is. 0.94
00:18:19.840 Your social media profiles matter. 0.99
00:18:21.340 If I go on your social media profile and I'm like, okay, there's one butt picture, two butt picture, three butt picture.
00:18:26.220 Man, she's like all over the place. 1.00
00:18:28.220 What is this?
00:18:28.720 Oh my God, there's a bong, there's this, there's that.
00:18:30.580 But yeah, I'm going to have some fun with her.
00:18:32.600 No one's going to meet this girl. 0.94
00:18:34.040 This is just a girl that I'm going to have fun with.
00:18:35.840 So protect your social media profile because they're going to work.
00:18:39.200 If you have interest in competing with your man and beating him, like, you know what?
00:18:42.880 I'm going to do better than him in business and I'm going to do this.
00:18:45.520 Don't expect to find an alpha male, you know, high value man.
00:18:50.120 You're probably going to end up with a beta male who's going to be okay with you beating them.
00:18:53.120 His alphas, they have no interest in competing with their wives. 0.85
00:18:56.860 They want to lead their girls.
00:18:58.340 That's what they want to do.
00:18:59.440 So this next one, oh my God, I can't believe you're saying this.
00:19:02.560 You're so old school.
00:19:04.300 Men are not interested in you having male friends.
00:19:07.960 Well, Pat, how about if it's just one?
00:19:09.480 No. 0.99
00:19:10.120 He's gay. 0.99
00:19:10.800 I don't care. 0.99
00:19:11.680 He may change his mind.
00:19:12.960 Pat, come on, Pat.
00:19:13.880 You can't say that.
00:19:14.660 I'm telling you.
00:19:16.100 Even if he tells you he doesn't care, he cares.
00:19:18.900 Okay?
00:19:19.400 But I've known him from high school, from second grade, from first grade, even worse.
00:19:24.260 You're mine.
00:19:25.220 I'm yours.
00:19:26.160 Let's roll.
00:19:27.020 I'm not interested in you talking to other men.
00:19:29.560 Oh, this is so extreme.
00:19:31.340 You know, you're such a machismo saying this.
00:19:33.340 Don't worry about it.
00:19:34.460 I'm just telling you.
00:19:35.780 I'm around these types of men all the time.
00:19:37.800 They're not interested and you're having too many male friends.
00:19:41.660 And too many is one.
00:19:43.340 Now, if you and this man date for a few months and it's getting serious, in his mind at one
00:19:49.540 point, if he wants to get to the next level with you, marriage, engagement, all this stuff,
00:19:52.360 he's asking, what kind of a mother are you going to be?
00:19:54.320 He'll be watching you.
00:19:55.360 And the way he'll judge what kind of a mother you'll be is how you treat him.
00:19:58.880 Okay?
00:19:59.280 How you treat your younger siblings.
00:20:01.020 These are ways that they're watching to see what kind of a mother you'll one day be.
00:20:04.240 Because that's something they value a lot.
00:20:05.840 So if he doesn't take you in public places around friends and family, he likes you for fun.
00:20:13.340 But he doesn't want to be seen in public with you as his girlfriend.
00:20:17.580 Okay?
00:20:18.280 May sting.
00:20:19.140 May hurt.
00:20:20.480 But many men have done that.
00:20:21.800 I've done that myself.
00:20:23.300 I had fun.
00:20:24.320 A few months I'm with a girl.
00:20:25.560 No one ever knew about it.
00:20:26.920 Because I just knew we're never going to be long-term together.
00:20:30.020 We're just having fun.
00:20:31.380 So you know this whole thing about virginity, you know?
00:20:34.120 No, I'm not telling you to be a virgin and all this stuff.
00:20:36.260 I'm not telling you that.
00:20:36.940 You choose to do that based on your faith.
00:20:38.280 That's up to you.
00:20:38.860 Many do.
00:20:39.340 I'm not telling you that.
00:20:40.020 But what I'm saying to you is the following.
00:20:42.100 So a guy goes out with two different girls.
00:20:43.940 One girl's like, oh my God, I've never been to this restaurant before.
00:20:46.560 Oh my God, I've never been to this spa before.
00:20:49.040 Oh wow, this is the first time ever I was on a private jet.
00:20:51.060 I've never flown first class before.
00:20:52.640 I love Santorini.
00:20:53.820 This was amazing.
00:20:54.560 Cinque Terre, great.
00:20:55.580 Never been to Dubai.
00:20:56.460 Amazing.
00:20:57.320 So the guy's like, oh yes, yes.
00:20:58.660 He's feeling good because he wants to give you the world.
00:21:00.940 Show you the world.
00:21:02.000 Right?
00:21:02.400 The other one he goes, I was here two months ago.
00:21:04.820 Honestly, the food wasn't that good tonight.
00:21:06.220 Hey, yeah, this resort is good, but I like the spa more in Beverly Hills.
00:21:12.400 Oh my God, you are so annoying.
00:21:15.900 Go find somebody else. 0.98
00:21:17.180 I'm not the guy for you.
00:21:18.180 Now, let's just say she has been around.
00:21:20.960 And she says, I've been to this restaurant before, but oh my God, I had such a good time
00:21:24.840 with you.
00:21:25.120 Thank you so much for taking me here tonight.
00:21:27.180 Oh, this spa, what a great experience it was tonight.
00:21:29.600 Thank you.
00:21:30.580 So even if you have, be grateful.
00:21:33.820 Say thank you.
00:21:35.000 Don't act like you've been around all over the place.
00:21:36.800 Because all he's thinking is, he's probably been with five other guys that had money.
00:21:40.380 What am I going to be doing?
00:21:41.600 She's been around.
00:21:42.360 Okay?
00:21:42.860 So keep that part in mind.
00:21:44.380 He's thinking.
00:21:45.000 He may not tell you this, but he's thinking about it.
00:21:47.200 Because many times we're thinking a lot of thoughts, but we don't tell you.
00:21:50.740 But we're thinking it.
00:21:51.560 So there you go.
00:21:52.460 If you're upset, if you're happy, if you're glad you watched it, it's my perspective.
00:21:56.600 Okay?
00:21:56.960 Whether you like it or not, these are some of my philosophies.
00:21:59.640 Now, if you've never seen the video, 20 Rules for Young Men, click here to watch that video.
00:22:05.600 Take care, everybody.
00:22:06.440 Bye-bye, bye-bye.