Valuetainment - April 13, 2023


A Major Mistake First Time Millionaires Make


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7 minutes

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1,547

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155

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In this episode, I talk about the concept of who to please and who not to please in your life and how to deal with it. I also talk about what happens when you become a better person and a better parent.

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00:00:00.240 Who in your life are you trying to please?
00:00:01.760 Meaning, who in your life are you trying to hear the magical words, I'm proud of you,
00:00:06.320 right?
00:00:07.320 Are there certain names on that list?
00:00:08.320 Now you may say, I don't need to please anybody.
00:00:10.200 I do.
00:00:11.200 I have a list, and I'm very comfortable with it, and you should have a list as well, and
00:00:14.880 some tells me you do.
00:00:16.120 But let's unpack this whole concept of who to please, who not to please, and what happens
00:00:19.760 when you succeed.
00:00:20.760 If you get value from this video, give it a thumbs up, subscribe to the channel, let's
00:00:23.840 get right into it.
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00:01:28.380 As we succeed, as you succeed, somehow, some way, you're going to have more people in your
00:01:33.620 life.
00:01:34.040 Because with more success, you have a bigger team.
00:01:37.360 You need more people to help you out, right?
00:01:39.200 So you got more team members, more support, more customers, more clients.
00:01:42.780 It's just kind of how this thing works.
00:01:44.280 And when you start winning, you're in new communities.
00:01:47.320 You make new friends.
00:01:48.540 You know, if you get married, you know, her friends, his friends, your friends, kids,
00:01:53.480 parents, kids, friends, parents, you're in all these different communities, right?
00:01:57.700 And then, you know, gradually what happens is you reach a certain level, which is kind
00:02:03.080 of confusing for certain people.
00:02:04.600 It's called guilt management.
00:02:06.080 And so some of the people who maybe you knew when you were in high school, I got a message
00:02:11.820 from a guy, like I get messages from guys from high school.
00:02:15.100 Do you remember we were best friends?
00:02:17.080 And I remember people, I don't remember this guy being best friends.
00:02:20.520 I think we had one class together.
00:02:22.340 And I know my friends that were close friends, but we were, you don't have time for anybody.
00:02:26.760 You don't have time for this.
00:02:28.160 Guilt management, guilt management, guilt management is going to happen to you over and over and
00:02:32.820 over and over again.
00:02:34.060 What do you do with that?
00:02:36.320 You're winning.
00:02:37.280 You have more money.
00:02:38.220 You have more success.
00:02:39.360 Oh, you've changed.
00:02:40.120 All you care about is money.
00:02:41.320 You follow yourself.
00:02:42.360 Now, sometimes it is true.
00:02:43.680 Sometimes it's not.
00:02:44.580 Sometimes money just makes you more of what you are. 1.00
00:02:46.540 If you were full of yourself when you were 17 years old and you were an asshole, now you're 1.00
00:02:50.580 42, you're full of yourself. 1.00
00:02:51.900 You just got more money.
00:02:53.020 You're still full of yourself.
00:02:54.100 But if you were chill, you were cool, you were good to be around when you were 17 years
00:02:57.880 old, you're just chill, cool, good to be around.
00:03:00.360 You just worth 10 million, 5 million.
00:03:02.680 You just have more money, right?
00:03:03.620 That's money is going to make you more of what you are right now.
00:03:05.540 So how do you handle this guilt management?
00:03:07.140 How do you manage all these people that you're trying to please?
00:03:09.180 Just because you succeed and you know more people, the amount of people you please should
00:03:13.380 decrease.
00:03:14.460 Sunday night, I'm sitting down having a conversation with Mario and Mario just got married and we're
00:03:19.380 having a conversation about what things he has to do now to make sure his marriage works
00:03:24.260 out.
00:03:25.220 He becomes a good father.
00:03:26.740 He becomes a good husband.
00:03:28.360 He becomes a good leader.
00:03:30.240 You can't try to please everybody in your family at what cost?
00:03:35.320 Your marriage?
00:03:36.020 At what cost?
00:03:36.980 Your relationship with your kid?
00:03:38.180 No, I want to make my kids proud.
00:03:42.880 I love my kids a lot.
00:03:45.280 I want to make these four kids proud, right?
00:03:47.600 I don't care to be perfect.
00:03:49.540 So if they're going to be like solving me to be perfect, I don't solve for perfection.
00:03:53.140 I don't have the standard of perfection for anybody in my life, but I want you to become
00:03:56.760 a leader.
00:03:57.280 That's my standards, right?
00:03:58.180 But I want to make my kids proud.
00:03:59.340 I want to make my family proud.
00:04:00.420 I want to make my short list of people that matter to me proud.
00:04:07.080 It's not a long list.
00:04:08.260 It's a short list.
00:04:09.280 The most people, the people that are 100% loyal to our vision, it's very important to
00:04:15.420 me to make them proud because that's a relationship and it's very emotional.
00:04:19.240 For you to bind to the vision of what we're doing, whether I ran an insurance company or
00:04:22.920 I'm running a media company, it doesn't matter.
00:04:24.840 If you're 100% loyal, I want to make you proud.
00:04:27.320 To say you made the right decision being loyal to the cause and helping the company get to
00:04:31.640 the next level.
00:04:32.280 Those people matter because it takes a lot of effort to be at that level.
00:04:37.180 But do I want to please everybody?
00:04:40.200 No.
00:04:40.640 Do I want to please every person that's ever been in our lives?
00:04:45.120 No.
00:04:45.780 Every relative?
00:04:46.840 Definitely not.
00:04:47.640 Why not?
00:04:48.160 It's impossible.
00:04:49.660 It's impossible.
00:04:50.980 You try to do that, you will not live a happy life.
00:04:54.120 Other people will try to get, suck all the energy out of you.
00:04:57.640 You will not live a happy life.
00:04:59.240 You know who you should never explain yourself to?
00:05:02.100 You know this whole concept.
00:05:03.140 So tell me why you were late.
00:05:04.640 I got into a car accident on the way here.
00:05:07.040 Here's a picture.
00:05:07.900 Here's where I was at.
00:05:08.760 Look at the time at the top, 738.
00:05:10.880 Pat, I'm never late.
00:05:11.880 You know what?
00:05:12.200 You're right.
00:05:12.780 Cool.
00:05:13.260 You're good?
00:05:13.660 Everybody good.
00:05:14.200 Pat, everything's good.
00:05:15.000 I'm here.
00:05:15.400 I'm going to get the things done.
00:05:16.600 You mind if I take an hour to go get the car situated?
00:05:18.940 Do your thing because there is that, right?
00:05:21.680 Now, people who you can't ever do anything right in their eyes, guess what?
00:05:26.920 Never explain yourself to them.
00:05:29.820 Let me say this one more time to you.
00:05:30.940 People in your life that you can never do anything right in their eyes, and they use
00:05:36.820 guilt against you, never explain yourself.
00:05:39.360 Can I ask you guys why you did that?
00:05:41.380 No.
00:05:42.340 We just did.
00:05:43.240 Everything looks good?
00:05:44.420 No.
00:05:44.700 I want to know what happened.
00:05:45.560 No.
00:05:46.040 I don't need to explain it to you.
00:05:47.500 We made our choice because of this reason, and you move on.
00:05:50.120 But the people you love, the people who have your back, the people that are loyal to you,
00:05:53.740 the people that go above and beyond for you, the people that believe in you, the people
00:05:56.740 that challenge you do, if they're able to reason with you, hey, can I ask you why the
00:06:00.380 deadline didn't happen on, we screwed up, man.
00:06:02.480 It's all good.
00:06:02.880 Can we make sure we hit it tomorrow?
00:06:03.980 We're probably going to hit it tomorrow.
00:06:05.260 Next time, can you tell me if you've got too much bandwidth that you can't handle,
00:06:08.320 like your bandwidth isn't there?
00:06:09.940 Let us know because it's important for us at the time.
00:06:12.300 Totally get it.
00:06:12.980 I screwed up.
00:06:13.520 My fault.
00:06:13.980 Won't happen again.
00:06:14.660 Great.
00:06:15.380 When two people reason and you explain solutions, you know, you come up with a solution.
00:06:20.840 When two people can't reason and one's using guilt, you're going to be constantly 1.00
00:06:24.260 feeling like you're the idiot here. 1.00
00:06:25.340 You're not. 1.00
00:06:25.780 This person's using guilt against you.
00:06:27.400 Only reason with people that have the ability to reason.
00:06:30.340 Make sense?
00:06:30.940 So going back to it, you succeed, more people enter in your life.
00:06:34.220 Phenomenal.
00:06:34.780 Awesome.
00:06:35.500 Few people you should try to please.
00:06:37.380 And that list should be a very, very small list if you want to enjoy the process of doing
00:06:42.960 something big with your life.
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