"Choose The Right Bus" - Coach K's GAME-CHANGING Advice On Building An UNSTOPPABLE Team
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How do you measure a man? What does a man need to do to be a man, and how does a woman need a man to measure a woman? How do we measure women? What do we need to know about a woman to know what a man needs to do?
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Let me share with you guys what Coach K said last night.
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I think it's important for everybody to be thinking about this.
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Last night, as a consultant, I'm giving this message to everybody.
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And I was thinking about the entire time, what should I share?
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So I gave 150 pictures over the years of what we've done.
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But one of the things was that all of us in life, yesterday we're having breakfast,
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I don't know if you remember that conversation.
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Yeah, incredible conversation we had is how do you measure a man?
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If I ask you what is a man, not the chromosome man, not the funny stuff that we're talking about.
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Wouldn't you look at a man and say, man, that's a man's man.
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And unfortunately, a lot of times, especially nowadays, you know, we are living in an era
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where the same way women are kind of going through the era of what?
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She said, after being married five times or whatever, I have decided I'm choosing me.
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After four divorces and six different engagements, 56-year-old singer Jennifer Lopez says she's
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done with marriage, and she's choosing herself, right?
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There's nothing more unattractive than a single woman in her 50s that's wealthy.
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Maybe a 22-year-old that wants to come marry you and get half your wealth five years later,
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The enemy is another philosophy, ideology that doesn't match with the Western ideology that
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So the whole idea of men, we measure men based on more responsibilities they carry, what they
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do for their family, what they do for their kids, what they do for their communities, what
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they do for their state, for their country, for their church.
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So last night I talked about the six levels we all go through.
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Number two, somebody finds us and believes in us and says, hey, I believe in you.
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And then phase number five, if you can skip it, good for you.
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Phase number five is when you get bored, when you get entitled, when you get ungrateful,
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when you forget about all the people that helped you.
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And then finally, hopefully, you go to phase number six, which is choosing legacy, choosing history,
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And I'm, you know, if you ever see me taking pictures with a guy, I'm touching his shoulders.
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He's like, who the hell is this guy, like, putting his arms all around me, all this stuff.
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He says, when he was a young man, 10 years old or something, playing basketball, his mom
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Because Coach K ended up playing at one point for Bobby Bowden.
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So he's like, what are you talking about with the bus?
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He says, if you're going to get on someone's bus, you better choose the right bus.
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And if you're going to be the driver on your bus, you better choose a lot of people to
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If you allow the wrong people to get on your bus, life will be destroyed.
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And if you get on the wrong bus, your life will be destroyed.
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So for you watching this right now, before we get into all these stories, I don't want
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Normally, I would say that at the end, but I just want to open it up with this monologue.
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It's amazing what can happen to any one of our lives if you choose to have the right
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people in your ear and if you choose to raise your standards.
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It's one of the hardest things to do as young men.
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That's not what a man that wants to be looked back later on when they come to your funeral,
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they're looking at you saying, holy moly, this man changed my life.
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Women are sitting at your funeral saying, I am so proud to have had a relationship with
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And that kind of a person only happens when you choose to make a decision in your life.
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Last night was just a very special night for me.
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I've been in this business for 25 years in the financial insurance business.
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I'm meeting with all these CEOs that are running multi-billion dollar insurance companies,
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But if it's the right person watching this, if this message resonated with you, graduate
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And then try to skip the entitled, the bored, the no one helped me out, I did it all myself,
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the lack of gratitude phase, and pursue legacy and history.
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Every time I say the future looks bright, it's amazing.
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Half the people in the world want to convince me that it doesn't look bright.
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You're only saying that's because you have money.
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I said that when I was broke, $49,000 in debt, and I had nothing.
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Yesterday, a guy comes up to me, one of these insurance executives, I saw your son selling a shoe.
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I said, what do you mean, what am I going to sell?
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You're saying it as if it's bad to sell something.
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I've been proud to sell life insurance my entire life.
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We're at a podcast that they sold us this place.
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Typically, I'm like trying to get focused on what I'm doing.
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Whatever you're doing, if you're going to be industrious, be proud of what you're doing.
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Anyways, I don't want to go on a rant because I want to go into the stories.
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But last night was a very, very special night for anybody that was there.
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Can I ask you just one quick follow-up on this?
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Shout-out to Chris Hart, who won the MVP, I believe.
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Here's my question for you on these six phases that we all go through.
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But to me, phase five is where reality sets it.
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And where it's like, all right, I've made some money.
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And it's natural, maybe a week or two, a month.
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How do you avoid going into, you know, I'm the man kind of vibe now and get back to work?
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You know who's the first people you don't want to be around when you're going through
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that phase of boredom, ungrateful, entitled, arrogant, rebellion, like everything's about
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You know who are the people you hate the most in those seasons?
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All you want to do is be surrounded by people that want to flatter you.
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And flattery is one of the worst drugs in the world.
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It's finding a way to divide between you and high standards.
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Whether it's your wife who doesn't want you to work too hard.
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Whether it's your best friend that still wants you to party.
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He doesn't want you to go and become a family man because he's going to lose you at
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When I came back I stayed with him for 18 days.
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I worked with this guy at Burger King 30 years ago.
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If you work at Burger King, your drive-thru, that's a promotion.
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Eddie, who was our manager, never gave me the drive-thru job.
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I was the biggest chef they had, and I intentionally call myself chef.
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The everyone that calls me, we used to party a lot together.
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He says, hey, man, you ain't coming to the clubs anymore.
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I said, I'm studying stocks, trying to see what to do.
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I'm trying to get my securities, all this other stuff.
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We had gone to a party with one of my friends, Armin, bless his soul,
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Mesrop, Armin, and Devine should remember this.
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I don't know if some of the people from there know.
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It's close to the, what is the spot atop of Burbank, Tom,
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Devine calls me and says, I missed the old Pat.
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Yes, and for a split second, I was like, damn, that hurt.
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And if he remembers this, he's probably going to text me.
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If he remembers this, I said, I don't miss the old Pat.
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Until you're not too, this doesn't mean we can't reminisce.
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This doesn't mean we can't sit there and talk about the stories.
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With people that just want to do ecstasy, roll, drink water at 2 o'clock.
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So for you, when you're going through that phase, the hardest thing about going through
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the ungrateful, bored, entitled phase is having people around you that tell you what you want
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The people that are around you that tell you what you need to hear are the most annoying
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Scripture tells us, Tom, I'm going to paraphrase this, that a kiss from an enemy versus the truth
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There is, there's, there's, faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an
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And the wounds of a friend are sharp words of truth.
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And unfortunately, I've been that guy for a lot of people.
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And most of the time they don't like it, but it's not changing because we got a big
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This is why so many athletes get those posses, which is old friends and everybody and their
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new contract and it all ends in tears because they get wiped out.
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And if they get a good coach, they talk about Dean Smith.
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How many players have talked about the, the influence of that change my life changed
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So are you going to say, I was just going to say like, just really fast when I was
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sitting there yesterday with Adam and I'm looking at this list because everything in
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I found you on, I saw the picture of you and I saw David.
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I go, who the, my cousin's Mike's name is David.
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I'm, and by the way, I was nervous because I was like, am I bored?
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And I go, no, I'm not in the bored and entitled, but now it's the legacy.
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You can graduate that, but that was your community.
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In my mind, I'm like, wait, I, I, meaning I was bored of who I, like I wanted to recreate
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myself, but I'm like, I wasn't entitled to anything.
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So when I saw it, I was like, holy crap, that's for, everybody has to go through it.
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No, I mean, listen, I'm saying your commitment stage is my most inspiring things I've ever
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And, and Tico, wherever you are, I think you're somewhere here.
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Yesterday they're coming back and it's 12 o'clock and, you know, they left a little
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Can you put up that picture with him and the bow tie?
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So I'm putting up the bow tie and he's like sick.
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And then I'm like, man, I got to get to the room.
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I got to prep for the podcast and pack because we're leaving.
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I'm going to take off this bow tie and I'm going to set it on fire.
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He's an inch away from being Tom's height at 13 years old.
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