Valuetainment - September 13, 2018


Episode 170： 8 Personality Traits that Repel Good People Out of Your Life


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

209.99716

Word Count

1,483

Sentence Count

152

Misogynist Sentences

2

Hate Speech Sentences

1


Summary

Summaries generated with gmurro/bart-large-finetuned-filtered-spotify-podcast-summ .

8 Personality Traits That Repel Good People 1. Entitlement 2. Blame 3. Grudge 4. Victimhood 5. Selfish 6. Complainer 7. Be boastful 8. Know it all

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put em up, reach
00:00:09.240 the sky, touch the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the
00:00:16.220 underdog.
00:00:17.300 I'm Patrick, I'm your host of I10, and today I'm going to talk about 8 personality traits
00:00:21.040 that repel good people out of your life.
00:00:23.040 Number 1, entitlement.
00:00:24.380 You feel you're entitled to something you haven't earned.
00:00:26.460 2, blame.
00:00:27.540 It's everyone's fault but yours.
00:00:29.320 3, grudge.
00:00:30.640 Somebody does something to you, you don't want to talk to them for 5 years.
00:00:33.040 4, victimhood mentality, self-pity, you always feel sorry for yourself.
00:00:37.320 5, selfish.
00:00:38.540 It's only all about you and everybody else simply plays a role in your life to get you what
00:00:44.340 you want.
00:00:46.100 6, complainer.
00:00:47.680 7, boasting.
00:00:48.920 You're better than everybody else in the world.
00:00:50.760 8, know it all.
00:00:51.920 So, when I talk about this 8 personality traits, there is a formula for it because to me, there
00:00:58.560 are three levels of awareness in life.
00:01:00.880 Three levels of awareness in life.
00:01:02.120 And I've been in business with plenty of people to see folks in three areas, and I've been
00:01:06.000 in all these three areas.
00:01:07.360 Let's talk about the lowest level of awareness.
00:01:09.940 It's very simple.
00:01:10.720 It's ego-driven.
00:01:11.500 Everything's about you.
00:01:14.180 Everything's about you're the best.
00:01:16.960 It's boasting.
00:01:18.000 It's selfish.
00:01:18.940 It's me.
00:01:19.920 Only I matter.
00:01:21.760 Nobody wants to do business or be friends with somebody that's all about them forever.
00:01:27.480 It's one of the biggest repellents.
00:01:29.240 2, is smart.
00:01:31.360 Let me explain to you what smart is.
00:01:33.400 You think in every room you're in, you're the smartest person in the room.
00:01:37.000 You're smarter than your family.
00:01:38.260 You're smarter than your parents.
00:01:39.360 You're smarter than your, you're smart of every single person you meet.
00:01:43.460 And you may be smart.
00:01:45.340 You may be very smart.
00:01:47.040 But it's not the highest level of awareness.
00:01:48.820 Let me explain to you what I mean by this.
00:01:49.920 For instance, imagine I'm a fighter, okay?
00:01:53.200 And I'm Mike Tyson.
00:01:54.980 And I'm the best boxer.
00:01:56.400 I'm the best in the world.
00:01:57.740 I'm just amazing, right?
00:01:59.200 And I'm very smart because I've trained with the best.
00:02:01.480 I'm just great.
00:02:02.160 And then, boom.
00:02:03.020 I'm smart.
00:02:03.600 I go into the ring with Buster Douglas.
00:02:05.300 I'm not, you know, boom.
00:02:06.180 And all of a sudden, boom.
00:02:06.880 Buster Douglas knocks me out.
00:02:08.500 Ego smart.
00:02:09.720 It ain't the highest level.
00:02:10.780 Ronda Rousey fights.
00:02:12.080 Every one of us is rooting for Ronda Rousey.
00:02:14.160 Everybody, we love Ronda.
00:02:15.660 Most people are rooting for Ronda Rousey.
00:02:17.740 But in the interview she did with, I think, Jimmy Kimmel, I think is the interview she did,
00:02:21.500 where she said, I know she's not going to be able to outsmart me.
00:02:24.940 She's not going to be able to outsmart me.
00:02:26.660 She said that in the interview.
00:02:27.840 She's going to try to catch me with a kick, but I'm not going to let it.
00:02:30.300 She said this in the interview, ego smart.
00:02:33.680 What happens?
00:02:34.820 She gets caught and, boom, loses the fight because it was driven by ego and smart.
00:02:39.960 I have got my butt kicked so many times in these tours.
00:02:43.680 I remember one time I was in the Army.
00:02:44.780 Let me tell you a good story here.
00:02:46.240 I'm in the Army.
00:02:47.080 We're 18-year-olds.
00:02:48.000 We have nothing better to do than fight.
00:02:50.360 And everybody's in a circle and we're all fighting.
00:02:52.640 Okay, we're all fighting because we have all this testosterone.
00:02:54.520 And I'm fighting and I'm having a pretty good streak of good fights.
00:02:59.960 Then all of a sudden, this guy shows up.
00:03:01.900 Okay, this one guy shows up.
00:03:02.980 He's 5'6", 125 pounds.
00:03:06.100 And he says, I want to fight you.
00:03:07.760 And I said, look, honestly, I don't want to hurt you.
00:03:09.420 I don't think it's fair.
00:03:10.260 And he says, no, I'm okay.
00:03:11.460 It's okay.
00:03:11.780 You can hit me as hard as you want.
00:03:13.340 And I say, no problem.
00:03:14.500 Oh, my gosh.
00:03:15.840 So imagine 200 guys around, gals, everybody.
00:03:19.220 We're in this unit.
00:03:20.320 Everyone's watching this fight.
00:03:21.400 Oh, he's going to fight by David.
00:03:22.620 And then we start fighting.
00:03:24.200 So I'm like starting very loose.
00:03:26.160 And he's kind of like doing this stuff.
00:03:27.320 And I noticed he's very quick.
00:03:28.720 I don't know what was going on.
00:03:29.580 It was very quick.
00:03:30.860 All of a sudden, I go.
00:03:33.020 He's coming at me and I'm doing my thing.
00:03:35.340 Within a half a second, I'm on my back.
00:03:39.060 He's got my neck.
00:03:40.720 He's got me on this chokehold.
00:03:43.220 I'm locked.
00:03:44.180 I can't get out of this thing.
00:03:46.040 He's half my size.
00:03:47.440 In front of 200 people, I got humiliated by a 125-pound kid in the army.
00:03:54.220 You know what it was?
00:03:55.280 I thought I was the bigger guy, ego.
00:03:58.620 I thought I could outsmart this guy.
00:04:00.460 And he whooped my tail because it was driven by me thinking, I am smarter than this guy.
00:04:05.660 I'm stronger than this guy.
00:04:07.280 And that's what leads to the highest level.
00:04:09.480 The highest level to me is wisdom.
00:04:11.560 Wisdom is knowing you're not the smartest guy in the world.
00:04:16.540 The world doesn't revolve around you.
00:04:18.160 You have about 80 years to make an impact in the world.
00:04:20.160 And then you're going to be replaced by 7 billion people.
00:04:22.040 So as important as you think you are, you're going to be replaced by 7 billion new people
00:04:27.020 that are going to come and replace you and I.
00:04:28.940 Our goal is to do whatever we can with the next 60 years, 50 years, 40 years,
00:04:32.900 whatever amount of time you've got in your life.
00:04:34.300 But just so you know, if everybody in the world is seeking the emotion of happiness,
00:04:39.880 happiness generally comes to people who are wise.
00:04:42.720 It doesn't come to the smartest people in the world.
00:04:44.740 It doesn't come to people who are ego-driven.
00:04:47.540 The best relationships are from wisdom.
00:04:49.600 The best friendships are from wisdom.
00:04:51.820 The best business experience is wisdom.
00:04:53.940 The best kids to raise are from wisdom.
00:04:56.200 The best communication skills are from wisdom.
00:04:58.040 Everything comes here, wisdom.
00:05:00.280 It's the highest level to get to, and it's not easy to do
00:05:02.420 because we constantly want to fight this thinking we're smarter than everybody
00:05:05.400 and are you going to battle?
00:05:07.560 By the way, you're never fully going to be 100% here.
00:05:09.920 You will always have a little bit of struggle with this.
00:05:12.280 So this is why in 1999, when I was getting out of the army,
00:05:16.440 I made a decision to pray about four things.
00:05:18.740 Four things I've prayed for since 1999.
00:05:21.320 Every time I pray, I ask for these four things.
00:05:24.180 Courage, wisdom, tolerance, understanding.
00:05:29.100 Courage, wisdom, tolerance, understanding.
00:05:31.660 I've been praying about this.
00:05:33.700 God, give me courage, wisdom, tolerance, understanding.
00:05:36.220 Why?
00:05:36.940 Because I didn't have any one of them.
00:05:39.080 I wanted courage.
00:05:40.620 I wanted wisdom to make the right choices.
00:05:43.180 I wanted tolerance because people around me were really annoying me at that time,
00:05:47.200 and it was tolerance also with me.
00:05:49.640 And then understanding.
00:05:50.920 To try my best to understand other people, it's not easy.
00:05:54.420 It's taken a long time to understand that and be able to do that.
00:05:56.960 But this message today is purely because as an entrepreneur, you've got to realize,
00:06:00.980 if you're going to do business with anybody, people are going to get to know your personality.
00:06:04.180 If you're going to hire people around you, you want to keep people around you,
00:06:06.940 they're going to find out about your personality traits.
00:06:09.000 If you want clients to stay with you and do business with you long term,
00:06:12.060 they're going to find out about your personality traits.
00:06:14.220 If you have partners that are ahead of you and your ego gets in the way of doing good business
00:06:18.080 with these partners, it's going to come down to your personality traits.
00:06:21.040 The sooner you take an assessment and say, I do this, I do this, I really got to work on this,
00:06:25.060 I'm really more ego-driven, I'm more smart, I think I'm smart,
00:06:28.660 I really do think I'm smarter than everybody, I got to work on it because I'm going to get caught with a punch,
00:06:32.400 I want to be wise and I want to pray for courage, wisdom, tolerance, understanding,
00:06:35.100 and see what happens to your life.
00:06:36.480 See how you process issues differently in your life moving forward.
00:06:39.320 Thanks everybody for listening.
00:06:40.580 And by the way, if you haven't already subscribed to Valuetainment on iTunes, please do so.
00:06:45.100 Give us a five star, write a review if you haven't already.
00:06:47.940 And if you have any questions for me that you may have, you can always find me on Snapchat,
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00:06:54.120 Just search my name, Patrick MidDavid, and I actually do respond back when you snap me
00:06:58.860 or send me a message on Instagram.
00:07:01.020 With that being said, have a great day today.
00:07:02.760 Take care everybody.
00:07:03.480 Bye-bye.