Valuetainment - November 01, 2018


Episode 201： How To Overcome Fear As An Entrepreneur


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In this episode, Patrick talks about how to overcome fear as a parent and entrepreneur. He talks about his own experience with his own kids falling in the pool and how he was able to get them to stop panicking and start swimming.

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00:00:00.980 30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put them up,
00:00:09.000 reach the sky, touch the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for
00:00:16.060 the underdog.
00:00:17.240 I'm Patrick Bedevi, your host of Value Team, and today I'm going to talk about how to overcome
00:00:20.840 fear as an entrepreneur.
00:00:22.700 So let me get right into it.
00:00:23.560 So my son, I have three kids, I have a six-year-old, I have a four-year-old, and I have a two-year-old.
00:00:28.040 Boy, boy, girl, okay?
00:00:30.500 So two weeks ago, I was out of town.
00:00:33.740 My daughter accidentally falls in the pool, family's there, falls in the pool.
00:00:38.400 My middle son, who knows how to swim, my oldest son also knows how to swim, but my middle
00:00:43.060 son, who knows how to swim, panics because his sister's right in front of him, and he
00:00:48.100 forgets how to swim because he has so much anxiety, and he doesn't want to get back in
00:00:52.320 the pool again, and mommy and nanny take Dylan out, and they go out, and Dylan doesn't want
00:00:58.640 to get back in the pool.
00:00:59.320 So I said, I don't like this stuff because this happened with me with the oldest son.
00:01:03.000 It happens, many of you probably have experienced this when you're swimming as a kid, and you
00:01:06.860 kind of don't feel like you have control, and your parents have to get you.
00:01:09.760 This happened to me, my oldest son, and we fixed it in two minutes, but I was there.
00:01:13.720 This didn't happen this time because I was out of town.
00:01:16.220 So mothers are loving, they're very nurturing.
00:01:18.480 They took the kids inside, and they said, we're not swimming anymore.
00:01:21.420 Let me tell you what happened here.
00:01:22.160 On Sunday, on Sunday, I go outside.
00:01:26.320 My oldest son, who's just, he's a fish.
00:01:28.200 He loves the pool.
00:01:29.200 He swims underwater.
00:01:30.200 He's the most ridiculous six-year-old swimmer out there, right?
00:01:33.600 My four-year-old son, who's a great swimmer, he's a good swimmer.
00:01:38.000 He's playing on the shallow side.
00:01:39.580 He's not going inside.
00:01:41.120 My daughter and I start walking, and she decides that she wants to take her shoes off 0.96
00:01:46.140 and also go put her feet in the water. 1.00
00:01:47.940 No problem.
00:01:48.520 I take my shoes off.
00:01:49.360 She takes hers.
00:01:50.260 I put her in the water, and then she slips, and she falls. 1.00
00:01:53.460 She's okay.
00:01:54.620 I pick her up, but she's still there.
00:01:56.780 My son, middle son, starts panicking, okay?
00:01:59.680 Hear me up.
00:02:00.880 He starts panicking, and at first, I thought it was an act.
00:02:03.620 Then he starts panicking.
00:02:04.920 My oldest son, who's a prankster, is acting like he's drowning, okay?
00:02:08.900 And if you know my son, he's got the prankster.
00:02:11.160 He starts acting like he's drowning.
00:02:13.620 My middle son is panicking.
00:02:16.760 Daddy! 0.96
00:02:18.580 Daddy, Tycho's drowning.
00:02:20.120 Why are you standing there?
00:02:22.320 Why are you standing?
00:02:23.560 He is screaming.
00:02:25.000 I've never in my life heard this kid screaming like this.
00:02:28.160 Ever in my life heard this kid screaming like this.
00:02:30.460 And I'm a father.
00:02:31.180 I feel his pain.
00:02:32.240 He says, take Senna inside.
00:02:34.280 Please, take Senna. 0.58
00:02:35.560 And tears are coming.
00:02:36.600 Please, Daddy, look at me.
00:02:37.880 Why are you not listening to you?
00:02:39.320 So I finally said, buddy, I'm going to take Senna inside. 0.81
00:02:41.480 I told Patrick.
00:02:41.940 I said, come here.
00:02:42.400 Stop pulling pranks on your brother.
00:02:43.680 You're not drowning.
00:02:44.220 You know how to swim.
00:02:45.080 He said, but Daddy, get scared.
00:02:46.580 I said, don't do that to him again.
00:02:47.720 It messes with his head.
00:02:48.840 Come here.
00:02:49.100 He says, right.
00:02:49.520 I said, look, he knows how to swim.
00:02:50.460 He's just playing with you.
00:02:51.720 I take my daughter inside.
00:02:53.700 Then I come outside.
00:02:54.420 I said, we have a problem here.
00:02:55.840 He steps outside.
00:02:56.660 He doesn't want to put his foot in the pool.
00:02:57.800 He loves the water.
00:02:59.200 I said, Dilly, we're going in the water.
00:03:00.820 You need to hold your daddy.
00:03:01.660 He says, no, no, no.
00:03:07.880 I'd much rather take him inside.
00:03:10.080 But he needs a leader at that moment.
00:03:11.680 This is me leading my kid the way I do.
00:03:14.060 You may want to do it in a different way.
00:03:15.260 I'm going to tell you exactly what happened with us in this situation.
00:03:17.780 I said, Dilly, come here.
00:03:18.660 No, Daddy.
00:03:19.160 I'm not doing it.
00:03:20.060 Come here, Dilly. 0.95
00:03:20.560 He runs away.
00:03:21.600 Okay?
00:03:22.880 I get him down.
00:03:24.160 I get on my knees.
00:03:25.100 I said, come here, buddy.
00:03:25.860 I'm going to talk to you.
00:03:26.680 I promise you I'm not going to do it unless if you don't want to do it.
00:03:30.160 I said, look at me, buddy.
00:03:31.140 Do you love Daddy?
00:03:32.000 Yes.
00:03:32.480 Does Daddy love you?
00:03:33.400 Yes.
00:03:33.680 Who believes in you?
00:03:34.320 You do, Daddy.
00:03:35.080 Okay.
00:03:35.420 Do you trust me?
00:03:37.880 Hold my neck and as tight as you want.
00:03:39.420 Hold my neck.
00:03:39.980 No, Daddy.
00:03:40.420 I said, listen to me.
00:03:41.260 You trust me.
00:03:41.920 Yes.
00:03:42.160 Hold my neck.
00:03:42.640 He holds my neck.
00:03:44.020 We go in the pool.
00:03:45.060 Okay?
00:03:45.660 He's crying the entire time.
00:03:47.080 I said, hold my neck. 0.97
00:03:48.460 You love the water.
00:03:49.760 I know you do.
00:03:50.800 You've swam.
00:03:51.340 You've done a great job swimming, buddy.
00:03:53.140 But something happened and you got scared.
00:03:55.960 Yes, Daddy.
00:03:56.560 I said, you know what I respect about you, buddy?
00:03:57.980 He says, what's that?
00:03:59.420 I said, what I respect about you is the fact that you respect water.
00:04:02.600 He says, what do you mean?
00:04:03.760 I said, you've got to respect water because the most powerful dinosaur in the world,
00:04:07.500 the most powerful king in the world, the most powerful lion in the world, the most powerful
00:04:11.680 weapon in the world is not as powerful as the water.
00:04:14.940 You've got to respect water.
00:04:16.520 What water likes is when people respect water.
00:04:20.240 When you don't respect water, water bullies. 0.81
00:04:22.980 I love the fact that you respect water.
00:04:24.800 Really?
00:04:25.360 Yes.
00:04:26.040 Hold me.
00:04:26.680 Hold me.
00:04:27.320 So we started walking.
00:04:28.280 We started walking.
00:04:29.300 I said, buddy, we're going to swim together, but I'm not going to let you go if you don't
00:04:33.760 want me to let you go.
00:04:34.440 He holds my hands.
00:04:35.220 He's screaming.
00:04:35.640 I said, look at me.
00:04:36.840 If you don't look at me, I'm going to let go of your arms.
00:04:39.820 I said, breathe with me.
00:04:41.000 Go like this.
00:04:43.380 So he's breathing.
00:04:44.180 He's trying.
00:04:44.700 He's panicking.
00:04:45.280 He's screaming, but he's trying.
00:04:46.340 He's trying.
00:04:46.800 He's trying.
00:04:48.560 We're doing it together.
00:04:49.480 We're doing it together.
00:04:50.140 We're doing it together.
00:04:50.700 And we're walking.
00:04:51.280 We're walking.
00:04:51.720 We're walking.
00:04:52.440 It took me one hour.
00:04:53.540 We did this together.
00:04:54.860 One hour later, he swam.
00:04:56.140 He had a great time.
00:04:56.920 We sat outside, talked to him.
00:04:57.880 I said, listen, buddy, here's what you got to realize.
00:05:00.240 There's going to be times you're going to be afraid.
00:05:01.860 There's going to be times things like this are going to happen.
00:05:03.720 If we don't figure out a way to face it at that moment, you could be a 35-year-old man
00:05:08.520 that's afraid of water simply because of something that happened to you at four years old
00:05:11.480 that we got to address together.
00:05:12.820 So any fears that come up in the future with you, you got to bring it up to me.
00:05:16.160 We got to process this thing together.
00:05:17.520 You understand that?
00:05:18.200 Yes.
00:05:18.340 Who loves you?
00:05:18.840 Daddy.
00:05:19.100 Who believes in you?
00:05:19.740 Daddy.
00:05:20.500 Who do you trust?
00:05:21.260 Daddy.
00:05:21.560 Perfect, buddy.
00:05:22.040 Give me a kiss.
00:05:22.600 We had a great time together.
00:05:23.720 Slept like a little baby.
00:05:25.100 But here's a point.
00:05:26.880 That's a great story right there.
00:05:28.400 But you're saying, Pat, who cares about that story?
00:05:31.360 That happened to me and somebody didn't address it with me.
00:05:34.520 How about me here?
00:05:35.520 You're watching.
00:05:35.960 How about me?
00:05:36.300 That never happened to me.
00:05:37.200 I wish somebody like that would have done it to me.
00:05:39.200 Happens to all of us.
00:05:40.100 I don't need you to act like a victim saying, you know, helpless person.
00:05:43.740 The point I'm trying to tell you is all of us have been in this situation before.
00:05:47.740 This kid two weeks ago didn't have that.
00:05:50.340 I had to sit down and have this position with him.
00:05:53.000 But if you allow your fears to control you, these fears can last 30, 40, 50 years.
00:05:58.740 I know 68-year-olds that have fears from six years old because they set it aside.
00:06:05.560 So I'm going to give you 12 points.
00:06:06.920 You can do whatever you want to do with these 12 points.
00:06:09.000 It's simply for you.
00:06:10.340 These are some of the things that have helped me over the years.
00:06:12.540 Number one, there's time to think and there's time not to think.
00:06:16.360 What do I mean by this?
00:06:17.600 Look, there are certain things that we create fears in our minds because we're overthinking.
00:06:22.800 We think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think.
00:06:24.620 It becomes bigger.
00:06:25.820 But there are times that you don't have to think.
00:06:27.380 Let me explain to you.
00:06:28.660 There's a lot of people that are watching this that are afraid of approaching girls.
00:06:31.580 Now, nowadays, it's easy to approach girls. 0.92
00:06:33.260 You know why?
00:06:33.940 Here's why.
00:06:34.440 Because now it's just a message.
00:06:36.000 You send a message.
00:06:36.780 She doesn't see you.
00:06:37.540 She doesn't reject you.
00:06:38.440 No one sees you getting rejected because nowadays you get rejected on Facebook.
00:06:42.020 Who cares if you got rejected on Facebook?
00:06:43.960 Who cares if you got rejected on Tinder?
00:06:45.580 Who cares if you got rejected on whatever Instagram?
00:06:48.500 Back in the days, we flirted.
00:06:49.700 And you see a girl and a 14, 16, 18-year-old boy was afraid of going to a girl because
00:06:54.720 the girl's going to say, I'm not interested.
00:06:56.740 In that moment when you're going up to a girl, it's best not to think. 1.00
00:07:00.560 What are you going to think about?
00:07:01.520 What if she says, no, what if she says, no, don't think.
00:07:03.260 Hey, how are you doing?
00:07:03.760 You look good.
00:07:04.180 You want to have a drink?
00:07:04.800 Yeah, sure.
00:07:05.120 Okay, great.
00:07:06.160 Hey, you look good.
00:07:06.780 Are you with anybody here?
00:07:07.620 Yeah, my boyfriend's ready.
00:07:08.520 Okay, enjoy yourself.
00:07:09.280 Perfect.
00:07:09.600 Walk away.
00:07:10.640 Hey, how are you doing?
00:07:11.400 How do you look good?
00:07:12.040 I like your hair, you know.
00:07:13.100 So how often do you come here?
00:07:14.460 You mind if I sit right next to you?
00:07:15.660 Sure.
00:07:19.700 Another side about fear is let's just say you're in war and you have to prepare a plan
00:07:24.320 before you go out there.
00:07:25.660 That requires thinking.
00:07:26.980 You need to know some of the fears that you're having.
00:07:28.920 It's a stem from a place of you're not thinking enough or a place that you're thinking too much.
00:07:33.300 There's a time for both.
00:07:35.340 Some time it off.
00:07:36.840 Some think too much when it's not needed.
00:07:38.800 Some think too little when it's needed.
00:07:40.400 That's when you've got to realize, have an intuition on when there's a time to think
00:07:43.220 and when there's a time not to think.
00:07:45.020 Point number two.
00:07:46.180 Point number two is rewiring your brain.
00:07:47.920 What is rewiring your brain?
00:07:50.560 You literally have to sit there and ask yourself, why am I afraid of this thing?
00:07:54.440 What caused this fear?
00:07:56.100 What is it that I'm afraid of this thing for?
00:07:58.200 Why am I so frightened about this thing?
00:08:00.200 What happened?
00:08:01.000 What caused it?
00:08:01.660 How old was that?
00:08:02.360 What event was it?
00:08:03.160 Then ask your parents if you don't remember it and say, hey, did anything happen with me
00:08:07.560 linked to this?
00:08:08.360 Was there anything that happened here?
00:08:09.620 Yeah, when you were five years old one time this time, maybe that's what it is.
00:08:12.000 How come you guys haven't told me this?
00:08:13.400 Well, you know, we just didn't think it was a big deal.
00:08:14.880 Sometimes parents are also living their own lives.
00:08:16.800 They don't have time to tell you everything that happened to you at five, six years old,
00:08:20.000 but you can go do some research on yourself.
00:08:22.000 And then all of a sudden you say, oh my gosh, why am I afraid of this thing here?
00:08:24.580 It's okay.
00:08:25.480 And then you rewire your brain.
00:08:28.180 You retell yourself the story.
00:08:30.400 You tell, like, I do this to myself all the time.
00:08:32.400 Pat, it's not the truth.
00:08:33.160 Don't buy it.
00:08:34.040 Don't buy it.
00:08:34.480 Don't buy into it.
00:08:35.020 It's not the truth.
00:08:35.560 That person is trying to convince you.
00:08:36.980 Don't buy it.
00:08:37.480 It's okay.
00:08:38.100 What you're telling yourself is not the truth.
00:08:39.600 That didn't become a reality.
00:08:40.660 That's not the truth.
00:08:41.460 Stop saying it to yourself.
00:08:42.880 Stop it.
00:08:43.520 Rewire.
00:08:43.980 Stop.
00:08:44.280 Change the subject and then move on.
00:08:45.900 It sounds crazy like, hey, can I really rewire my brain?
00:08:49.160 Yes, you can rewire your brain.
00:08:50.900 And it happens by you doing it over and over and over and over and over again.
00:08:55.180 It could take three, six, twelve months, but you can rewire your brain with some of the
00:08:58.500 fears that you have in place.
00:08:59.340 Next one.
00:09:00.280 Face the monster under your bed.
00:09:01.480 Let me tell you what I mean by facing the monster under your bed.
00:09:03.820 As kids, some kids go to sleep and they feel like there's a monster under their bed.
00:09:08.040 Like, think about it.
00:09:08.600 I was a kid.
00:09:09.140 I was afraid to put my arm out.
00:09:10.360 You know why?
00:09:10.700 Because I thought there was a monster under the bed.
00:09:12.560 I don't know if you had this.
00:09:13.500 I was afraid of having my legs out.
00:09:15.380 The blanket had to cover me.
00:09:16.600 I'm telling you as a kid.
00:09:17.720 Now, this somebody may say, you're out of your mind.
00:09:19.580 Some of you may say, that was me.
00:09:21.420 I was afraid.
00:09:22.140 What if my leg is out of monster pulls my leg?
00:09:23.840 Because you would see this.
00:09:25.000 You know, my sister would intentionally put nightmares on Nightmare on Elm Street. 0.99
00:09:27.820 Oh my gosh, Freddy Krueger could be coming out.
00:09:30.120 And boom, go to sleep.
00:09:31.420 Dreaming about Freddy's under your bed.
00:09:33.320 Freddy.
00:09:33.780 What was that one song with Freddy?
00:09:35.820 Freddy looking on you.
00:09:37.540 How did it go?
00:09:38.700 One, two.
00:09:39.800 He's looking for you.
00:09:40.780 I'm sure they're putting the song up for you to hear.
00:09:42.540 That song screwed with my head in Iran. 0.99
00:09:44.760 I was more scared of Freddy Krueger than Saddam Hussein in Iran. 0.96
00:09:47.640 And Saddam used to bomb us all the time. 0.74
00:09:49.820 It doesn't matter.
00:09:51.240 You got to face it.
00:09:52.280 As simple as go under your bed and realize there's nobody there.
00:09:54.960 Look, in the show Narcos, the character Steve Murphy, whom I just sat with a couple weeks
00:10:00.280 ago, and his interview is going to come out here pretty soon.
00:10:02.960 He says the following thing, and I think it's like season two, episode number 11 or something
00:10:07.240 like that.
00:10:08.080 When they kill Pablo, he says all that time hunting him.
00:10:13.040 And just like that, I'm looking down at Pablo effing Escobar.
00:10:17.280 For years, I've been building up this son of a bitch in my head.
00:10:20.820 What a monster he'd be.
00:10:23.240 But here's the thing.
00:10:24.560 When you lay eyes on him, the devil's a real letdown.
00:10:28.100 Just a man. 0.82
00:10:29.480 Be your grown, doesn't shave, fat and shoeless. 0.99
00:10:33.180 You know what his point is?
00:10:34.900 Pablo was this big.
00:10:36.640 He was a devil.
00:10:37.340 He was evil.
00:10:37.940 Can't be taken down.
00:10:39.240 Everyone was afraid of him.
00:10:40.840 And then he's dead.
00:10:42.020 When you face your fears and you look at him, you're so disappointed.
00:10:44.600 Because it's not a big deal.
00:10:46.720 It's very simple.
00:10:48.000 Once you face it.
00:10:49.260 For so many people, they never have that moment that Steve Murphy had in the show Narcos or
00:10:54.180 in real life against Pablo Escobar.
00:10:55.600 They don't have it.
00:10:56.620 So some people are 85 and that fear is a reality because they never faced it.
00:11:01.620 Point number four, slow things down for a moment.
00:11:05.020 Breathe.
00:11:06.040 Slow it down.
00:11:07.460 Move slow.
00:11:08.540 Calm down.
00:11:09.420 Relax.
00:11:10.220 Okay?
00:11:10.900 Meaning, a lot of people are asking me a question saying, Pat, you've been interviewed by
00:11:14.380 John McAfee and McAfee had a gun here.
00:11:17.760 There was a bunch of AK-47s there and somebody breaks into the door.
00:11:21.740 How come you're not nervous?
00:11:22.780 How come you're moving slow?
00:11:23.920 If I move fast, anxiety for everybody goes up.
00:11:27.720 If I move slow, everybody's more peaceful, less reaction.
00:11:31.820 When I'm dealing with my kid in the pool, I'm not moving fast.
00:11:35.680 Everything slows down.
00:11:37.300 I walk slow.
00:11:38.660 I talk slower.
00:11:40.080 I'm looking at a movement.
00:11:41.700 Everything is like a dance.
00:11:43.340 I don't even know how to explain it to you.
00:11:44.720 You just got to slow down.
00:11:46.100 When you're going through the process of facing your own fears for yourself, the more afraid
00:11:49.440 you are, slow it down.
00:11:51.200 Relax.
00:11:52.180 All of a sudden, things will settle itself down.
00:11:54.560 Your breathing will settle itself down.
00:11:56.080 And then you just go out there and move your neck, you know, do whatever it is that you
00:11:58.540 think you need to do next and apply that.
00:12:00.180 And eventually, you'll get better and better and better at controlling these imaginary fears
00:12:04.600 that you have in your mind.
00:12:06.780 Next, gratitude.
00:12:08.020 Gratitude is always helpful.
00:12:09.160 You know, you sit there and you're grateful about the life that you have.
00:12:12.160 All of a sudden, you say, why am I so worried about this fear?
00:12:14.220 I have an incredible life.
00:12:15.020 I don't have to sit here and worry about this fear.
00:12:16.780 Life is amazing.
00:12:17.680 I'm healthy.
00:12:18.720 I'm alive.
00:12:19.980 My family loves me.
00:12:21.260 I have friends.
00:12:22.260 I have access to clothes.
00:12:23.620 I have eaten three square meals today.
00:12:25.540 I have water.
00:12:26.360 There are so many things to be grateful about.
00:12:29.380 I'm good to go.
00:12:30.300 I can watch YouTube.
00:12:31.580 I have access to the internet.
00:12:32.720 I have a phone.
00:12:33.620 There are so many people that don't even know how to spell YouTube.
00:12:36.360 They don't even know how to have a phone.
00:12:37.700 They don't even have a phone.
00:12:38.940 I am doing plenty.
00:12:40.480 Then from there, fear goes away.
00:12:42.680 You're not coming from a place of afraid.
00:12:44.540 You're playing offense.
00:12:45.540 You're playing, you know, growing.
00:12:47.080 And then good things happen.
00:12:47.980 That gratitude exercise in a second can take you to a whole different place.
00:12:51.140 Next, this one sounds a little strange because we're not supposed to be doing this.
00:12:54.600 Share your fears.
00:12:55.880 Talk about it with your family.
00:12:57.280 Talk about it with your mom.
00:12:58.240 Talk about it with your dad.
00:12:59.100 Talk about it.
00:12:59.340 If you're close to your sibling, some people are not.
00:13:01.040 If you are close to a sibling, talk about it.
00:13:02.660 If you have a friend that there's dirt on both sides.
00:13:04.960 Like, listen, man, I know dirt on you.
00:13:06.320 You know dirt on me.
00:13:07.040 If you have a vulnerable somebody that's mutual, ask them, hey, why am I afraid of this?
00:13:12.500 What do you think it is?
00:13:13.380 Process it with somebody.
00:13:14.780 So many people are afraid and they cling on this fear and they don't talk to anybody about it.
00:13:18.820 Listen, if you have to spend a hundred bucks to go meet with a therapist for four sessions
00:13:23.120 and spend it for four hundred dollars, go do it if you're in a place where nobody else is
00:13:26.640 around for you to go talk to.
00:13:27.700 The point is, you've got to ask somebody.
00:13:29.900 You've got to talk to somebody about it so it opens it up and alleviates and someone's
00:13:33.160 going to say, this is why.
00:13:34.420 So many people have fears they've never talked to anybody else.
00:13:38.320 And you are like haunted by this fear because you've never talked to anybody about it.
00:13:42.420 Next one.
00:13:43.540 Explore your roots.
00:13:44.420 Here's what I mean by explore your roots.
00:13:45.900 Remember how I said ask questions from your parents?
00:13:48.100 I did an ultimate self-discovery question there many, many years ago.
00:13:50.940 I've said this before.
00:13:52.260 This was back in 03.
00:13:54.300 I'd go to, what's that one beach called?
00:13:56.920 What is it again?
00:13:57.840 Matador Beach?
00:13:58.520 Matador Beach, right by Zuma.
00:14:00.020 I'd go there and I'd go through these questions that I had.
00:14:02.420 Cry like a little baby.
00:14:03.460 I got clear on myself, my issues, my flaws, who I get along with, who I don't get along with.
00:14:07.860 Once I did that, I understood myself.
00:14:10.000 My self-awareness went to a whole different level.
00:14:11.840 I grew up in a very strange family.
00:14:14.360 You know, wars, divorce, a lot of issues.
00:14:16.800 There was a lot of dirt, a lot of ugliness, and so there was a lot of things that I had
00:14:20.520 to get clear about myself.
00:14:22.420 That questionnaire, the ultimate self-discovery question, if you go on Patrick Bay David, you'll
00:14:25.720 find it.
00:14:26.080 Mario, why don't we put an image of it so here they can see it, and I will put a link below
00:14:29.300 if you want to get it.
00:14:30.000 It's 83 questions, but don't go through the questions fast unless you follow the instructions
00:14:34.760 that's on the website.
00:14:35.960 If you go through it fast, it is not effective.
00:14:38.040 This is not a test.
00:14:38.780 You need some quiet time on a Sunday, Saturday night, Friday night, away from everybody for this
00:14:43.360 thing to work.
00:14:44.060 Next.
00:14:44.940 Control your imagination.
00:14:45.900 Don't let your imagination just go.
00:14:47.540 You've got to control it, stop it, talk to it, slow down.
00:14:50.080 Why are you, what are you going here?
00:14:51.160 Come here, come here, come here, relax.
00:14:52.380 It's okay.
00:14:53.260 I'm not going to let you go sabotage me right now.
00:14:54.980 I know I've got a great imagination because I use imagination towards my benefit, not negative
00:14:59.440 side, but there are some times I can allow it to go and hurt me.
00:15:02.040 Next point, I think it's number nine.
00:15:03.780 Stay in the moment.
00:15:04.600 Whatever you can do to stay in the moment.
00:15:05.680 Remember how I said slow things down?
00:15:07.980 Stay in the moment.
00:15:08.660 What can I control right now?
00:15:09.940 What can I do about it right now?
00:15:11.500 Move at that moment there.
00:15:12.800 Great.
00:15:13.600 Your resources, what is accessible to you.
00:15:15.500 Go with that.
00:15:16.160 Last but not least, do not let other people impose their fears on you.
00:15:18.920 If you do, people will gladly impose all of their fears on you nonstop.
00:15:22.760 All you have to do is to ask them, look, please, those are your fears.
00:15:26.740 Don't impose all your fears on me unless if it's somebody that's going through the test
00:15:30.200 with you, not somebody that's every day spews all their fears on you constantly where you're
00:15:33.560 becoming more tense.
00:15:35.000 Or number two, disassociate yourself with people that are constantly imposing their insecurities
00:15:41.000 and their fears on you.
00:15:42.340 Because if you don't, you're going to become that fear.
00:15:44.660 Whatever you hear too many times, you're going to become that fear.
00:15:46.980 Whatever that fear may be.
00:15:47.780 Thanks, everybody, for listening.
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00:16:09.700 With that being said, have a great day today.
00:16:11.420 Take care, everybody.
00:16:12.140 Bye-bye.
00:16:17.780 Bye-bye.