Episode 235： How To Build Strong Relationships in Business & Personal Life
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Summary
How to build strong relationships not only in business and personal life, but in your personal life as well. How do you know which level of relationships you re good at and which level you re bad at? This episode will help you figure it out.
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30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put em up, reach
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the sky, turn the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the
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I'm Patrick Bedevi, your host of ITM, and today we're going to talk about how to build
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strong relationships, not only in business, but also in your personal life.
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Everybody you have in your life, personal and business, every single person you have
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in your life, personal life and business life, every one of them went through three different
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levels in our lives, where they became who they are today.
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It could be people you have in your life that you have a very strong relationship in business,
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and it could be people in your life that are very, very strong friends in your business.
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There was a time they were at level one in your life.
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And if you were to look at it like a filtering system, right, a filtering system goes like
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this, there's more at the first level, less at the second level, very few at the last
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The first level of building relationship is initiating new contacts.
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In business, if you don't do number one very, very well, the chances of you succeeding as
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an entrepreneur, salesperson or businessman, businesswoman goes lower because you are not
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giving yourself enough opportunities with new relationships that lead into something bigger.
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So number one is initiating many, many new contacts.
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Some of your friends who are your best friends today in the world, at one point, you initiated
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Could have been at school, could have been at work, it could have been at a gym, it could
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So you have initiating a new contact, you meet 100, 200, 300 people, boom, a few of them
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A few of them become friends with you, and you maintain that relationship.
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And some people are very good at initiating new contact, but they're bad at maintaining
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Some people are very good at maintaining relationships, but they're very good at initiating new contacts.
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You've got to kind of figure out which of these three you're good at.
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Maintaining a relationship could be if I have a vendor, and if I buy $50,000 worth of equipment
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We've been doing business together for eight years.
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I buy, he brings, delivers on time, products are good, they're not broken, they're not messed
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We have a very good relationship together, no problem.
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Now, I have a vendor, I work with a publishing firm, I work with an insurance company, I
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work with a financial firm, I work with, they have a certain thing, expectations, good,
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we're good to go, we're maintaining a relationship.
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It could be a friendship, you have a friend, you go have a drink with them, you watch a game
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with them, you have a beer with them, you have coffee with them, you go to dinner with
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them, you double date with them, you go to a gym together, you go to a game together.
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Not good, not bad, but it's a good relationship you're maintaining, and that's kind of where
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The highest level of relationship is advancing relationships, okay?
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So we have creating new contact, you need many of them.
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Then you have maintaining them, but the great ones in life are very good at advancing relationships.
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Let me explain what I mean by advancing relationships.
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There is a challenge with going from maintaining relationships to advancing relationships.
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So when you have a lot of different business relationships that you're maintaining, what
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will happen is, you'll talk to this person, you'll build a relationship, and you'll realize
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You'll talk to this other person, you go, we're about the same level.
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You know, that person's making 100, you're making 100, you're about the same level.
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You guys got a good relationship together, but that person's very comfortable at 100.
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You got a personal life relationship, you got a girl, you got a boyfriend or something like
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that, and your relationship's very good at maintaining, but that person kind of pulls
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And you want to grow, you can't because they just want to maintain, and you want to go.
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And we hear this whole advanced thing, and it's difficult for a lot of people.
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Because life is filled with so many contradictions.
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One contradiction is we've been told, let's go help the entire world, right?
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A lot of truth and noble value behind what that message is.
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But then we see these pictures everywhere on social media, on Facebook, and books you read,
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and movies you watch, where it's kind of like, you be the outlaw.
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You know the pictures you see with 100 robots standing, and one of them is red.
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The commercial 1984, Apple, you know, where it shows the girl running with the red top.
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She throws the hammer, and it's a message to IBM, and it's about being different, being
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So in order for a person to go from maintaining relationship to advanced, I've experienced
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this very, very difficult for a lot of people to do.
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Sometimes going from maintaining relationship to advancing relationships, you actually minimize
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your relationships, and you have to choose between, I'm either going to settle and conform
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and play a small life to please all of these friendships that I have, or I'm going to do
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something bigger and run with a group of people because I want to advance my relationship to
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find a group of people I can go with long term because we have a similar vision.
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There's been talks where it's been feisty, but there's a level of acceptance, level of
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respect, level of love, level of camaraderie, level of a certain united group who are filled
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with honor and courage and desire to do something that's been never done before.
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Very few people get here because they don't like hurting other people's feelings.
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They don't like having other people talk behind their backs.
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They don't like other people saying things like, that irks you.
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But if you ever want to do anything big in your life, I would rather have a handful of
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great friends in my life that I'm going to be friends with until the day I die who accept
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me for my weaknesses, my flaws, my vice, my good stuff, my bad stuff, all of it, the
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But at the same time, we challenge each other to improve.
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Not challenge each other to change the way we are or the way we talk or no.
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I would rather want that than somebody who wants me to change constantly because you're
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I want to find friends that we can come together and do something special with your lives.
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And if you can find at these three different levels, initiating new contact, maintaining
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relationship, and advancing relationship, and identify where your weakness is, figure
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out a way how to improve that area, you'll be blown away by the kind of results you'll
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And by the way, thanks for watching this message.
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