Valuetainment - December 27, 2018


Episode 235： How To Build Strong Relationships in Business & Personal Life


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7 minutes

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Word count

1,535

Sentence count

92

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How to build strong relationships not only in business and personal life, but in your personal life as well. How do you know which level of relationships you re good at and which level you re bad at? This episode will help you figure it out.

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00:00:00.000 30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put em up, reach
00:00:09.220 the sky, turn the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the
00:00:16.220 underdog.
00:00:17.320 I'm Patrick Bedevi, your host of ITM, and today we're going to talk about how to build
00:00:20.620 strong relationships, not only in business, but also in your personal life.
00:00:24.120 Everybody you have in your life, personal and business, every single person you have
00:00:27.240 in your life, personal life and business life, every one of them went through three different
00:00:32.160 levels in our lives, where they became who they are today.
00:00:36.120 It could be people you have in your life that you have a very strong relationship in business,
00:00:40.380 and it could be people in your life that are very, very strong friends in your business.
00:00:44.760 There was a time they were at level one in your life.
00:00:48.380 I'll explain you what it is.
00:00:49.760 And if you were to look at it like a filtering system, right, a filtering system goes like
00:00:53.780 this, there's more at the first level, less at the second level, very few at the last
00:00:58.840 level.
00:00:59.280 And here's what the three levels are.
00:01:01.180 The first level of building relationship is initiating new contacts.
00:01:06.740 In business, if you don't do number one very, very well, the chances of you succeeding as
00:01:12.340 an entrepreneur, salesperson or businessman, businesswoman goes lower because you are not
00:01:17.180 giving yourself enough opportunities with new relationships that lead into something bigger.
00:01:21.840 So number one is initiating many, many new contacts.
00:01:27.060 Some of your friends who are your best friends today in the world, at one point, you initiated
00:01:31.240 a new contact.
00:01:31.960 Could have been at school, could have been at work, it could have been at a gym, it could
00:01:34.740 be at somewhere else, right?
00:01:36.600 Second level is maintaining that relationship.
00:01:41.780 So you have initiating a new contact, you meet 100, 200, 300 people, boom, a few of them
00:01:46.160 become business partners with you.
00:01:47.760 A few of them become friends with you, and you maintain that relationship.
00:01:50.360 And some people are very good at initiating new contact, but they're bad at maintaining
00:01:54.160 relationships.
00:01:55.140 Some people are very good at maintaining relationships, but they're very good at initiating new contacts.
00:01:59.900 You've got to kind of figure out which of these three you're good at.
00:02:02.160 Maintaining a relationship could be if I have a vendor, and if I buy $50,000 worth of equipment
00:02:06.580 from this guy every three months.
00:02:08.620 We've been doing business together for eight years.
00:02:10.580 I buy, he brings, delivers on time, products are good, they're not broken, they're not messed
00:02:14.460 up.
00:02:14.880 We have a very good relationship together, no problem.
00:02:17.360 Now, I have a vendor, I work with a publishing firm, I work with an insurance company, I
00:02:22.220 work with a financial firm, I work with, they have a certain thing, expectations, good,
00:02:26.420 we're good to go, we're maintaining a relationship.
00:02:28.560 It could be a friendship, you have a friend, you go have a drink with them, you watch a game
00:02:31.520 with them, you have a beer with them, you have coffee with them, you go to dinner with
00:02:35.020 them, you double date with them, you go to a gym together, you go to a game together.
00:02:39.000 It's a relationship you maintain.
00:02:40.400 Not good, not bad, but it's a good relationship you're maintaining, and that's kind of where
00:02:45.460 you are with this person, right?
00:02:48.680 The highest level of relationship is advancing relationships, okay?
00:02:54.580 So we have creating new contact, you need many of them.
00:02:57.760 Initiating new contact, you have many of them.
00:02:59.840 Then you have maintaining them, but the great ones in life are very good at advancing relationships.
00:03:06.140 Let me explain what I mean by advancing relationships.
00:03:07.880 There is a challenge with going from maintaining relationships to advancing relationships.
00:03:12.380 I'll explain to you what I mean by that.
00:03:14.160 So when you have a lot of different business relationships that you're maintaining, what
00:03:18.980 will happen is, you'll talk to this person, you'll build a relationship, and you'll realize
00:03:22.240 that person doesn't think that big.
00:03:23.800 You'll talk to this other person, you go, we're about the same level.
00:03:26.540 You know, that person's making 100, you're making 100, you're about the same level.
00:03:29.400 You guys got a good relationship together, but that person's very comfortable at 100.
00:03:33.620 You got a personal life relationship, you got a girl, you got a boyfriend or something like
00:03:37.580 that, and your relationship's very good at maintaining, but that person kind of pulls
00:03:41.040 you down sometimes.
00:03:42.300 And you want to grow, you can't because they just want to maintain, and you want to go.
00:03:46.940 And we hear this whole advanced thing, and it's difficult for a lot of people.
00:03:50.720 I'll explain to you why.
00:03:52.420 Because life is filled with so many contradictions.
00:03:54.940 So many contradictions, it's insane.
00:03:57.980 One contradiction is we've been told, let's go help the entire world, right?
00:04:01.840 We hear these, no family left behind.
00:04:03.880 Let's go help everybody out.
00:04:05.820 Great cause.
00:04:06.720 Love it.
00:04:07.600 A lot of truth and noble value behind what that message is.
00:04:12.800 Let's go help everybody out.
00:04:14.220 But then we see these pictures everywhere on social media, on Facebook, and books you read,
00:04:17.800 and movies you watch, where it's kind of like, you be the outlaw.
00:04:21.620 You be the guy that's the rebel.
00:04:23.600 You know the pictures you see with 100 robots standing, and one of them is red.
00:04:27.340 He stands out.
00:04:27.840 Everybody else stays together.
00:04:28.880 The commercial 1984, Apple, you know, where it shows the girl running with the red top.
00:04:35.040 She throws the hammer, and it's a message to IBM, and it's about being different, being
00:04:39.440 this.
00:04:40.220 But then Apple gets hated.
00:04:41.520 So in order for a person to go from maintaining relationship to advanced, I've experienced
00:04:46.040 this very, very difficult for a lot of people to do.
00:04:48.580 Sometimes going from maintaining relationship to advancing relationships, you actually minimize
00:04:53.760 your relationships, and you have to choose between, I'm either going to settle and conform
00:05:00.520 and play a small life to please all of these friendships that I have, or I'm going to do
00:05:06.840 something bigger and run with a group of people because I want to advance my relationship to
00:05:12.420 find a group of people I can go with long term because we have a similar vision.
00:05:17.660 We have gone through friction together.
00:05:19.220 There's been talks where it's been feisty, but there's a level of acceptance, level of
00:05:24.740 respect, level of love, level of camaraderie, level of a certain united group who are filled
00:05:32.180 with honor and courage and desire to do something that's been never done before.
00:05:37.820 That's that relationship.
00:05:39.720 Very few people get here because they don't like hurting other people's feelings.
00:05:44.960 They don't like having other people talk behind their backs.
00:05:47.940 They don't like other people saying things like, that irks you.
00:05:52.780 You know, all you care about is money.
00:05:54.660 All you care about is this.
00:05:55.740 People have a hard time with that.
00:05:57.160 But if you ever want to do anything big in your life, I would rather have a handful of
00:06:02.000 great friends in my life that I'm going to be friends with until the day I die who accept
00:06:05.800 me for my weaknesses, my flaws, my vice, my good stuff, my bad stuff, all of it, the
00:06:10.220 way I am.
00:06:10.820 I'd rather have that.
00:06:12.280 But at the same time, we challenge each other to improve.
00:06:14.160 Not challenge each other to change the way we are or the way we talk or no.
00:06:18.780 Challenge each other to improve.
00:06:20.140 I would rather want that than somebody who wants me to change constantly because you're
00:06:23.840 not accepting me who I am.
00:06:25.420 I want to find a running mate. 0.99
00:06:27.300 I want to find someone I can run with.
00:06:29.540 I want to find friends that we can come together and do something special with your lives.
00:06:34.000 And something tells me you do as well.
00:06:36.800 I think you do.
00:06:37.760 And if you can find at these three different levels, initiating new contact, maintaining
00:06:43.480 relationship, and advancing relationship, and identify where your weakness is, figure
00:06:48.500 out a way how to improve that area, you'll be blown away by the kind of results you'll
00:06:51.660 get in your life.
00:06:52.140 And by the way, thanks for watching this message.
00:06:55.260 Today, we had our new book, 25 Laws for Doing the Impossible, that I wrote three years ago.
00:06:59.920 It sold nearly 150-some thousand copies.
00:07:02.520 New language, Romanian translation, Fa Imposibilu, in Romanian.
00:07:09.500 Pretty wild, huh?
00:07:10.240 Now it's translated in five different languages.
00:07:11.920 Simplified Chinese, Polish, Romanian, Russian, and English is what we got it on.
00:07:16.300 Thanks, everybody, for listening.
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00:07:38.160 With that being said, have a great day today.
00:07:39.900 Take care, everybody.
00:07:40.600 Bye-bye.