Valuetainment - January 04, 2019


Episode 240： How to Deal with Anxiety attacks & Depression


Episode Stats

Length

31 minutes

Words per Minute

193.5282

Word Count

6,184

Sentence Count

103

Misogynist Sentences

3

Hate Speech Sentences

3


Summary

In this episode, Patrick talks about his experience with anxiety attacks and panic attacks in the early stages of building his business. He talks about how he overcame them and how he was able to overcome them to become a successful CEO.


Transcript

00:00:00.300 30 seconds. One time for the underdog.
00:00:04.320 Ignition sequence start.
00:00:06.980 Let me see you put them up.
00:00:09.000 Reach the sky, touch the stars, up above.
00:00:11.100 Cause it's one time for the underdog.
00:00:15.080 One time for the underdog.
00:00:17.300 I'm Patrick Bedevi, a host of Valuetainment,
00:00:18.840 and today I'm going to talk about an experience I had
00:00:20.760 at the early stages of building my business
00:00:22.800 that I had never experienced before,
00:00:24.980 and that was anxiety attacks and panic attacks.
00:00:27.620 So many times as a CEO, I run a business
00:00:30.460 where I have many, many employees and many agents,
00:00:35.600 and I have responsibilities with different carriers
00:00:38.760 and companies such as AIGs and Nationwides
00:00:41.240 and big insurance companies and, you know,
00:00:44.200 relationship with my family, my kids, my friends,
00:00:48.320 my commitments to the community,
00:00:50.100 different things that I have to do.
00:00:52.100 And this is a very difficult subject to talk about sometimes
00:00:55.860 because, you know, as CEOs,
00:00:57.960 you don't see a lot of times CEOs talk about this
00:01:00.120 and entrepreneurs talk about this
00:01:01.260 because in private settings, when we're together,
00:01:03.620 5, 10, 15 of us, and we're openly talking about it
00:01:05.700 because it's very normal.
00:01:08.160 But sometimes other people who see CEOs,
00:01:13.440 CEOs feel like they have to live this perfect life
00:01:15.620 and this perfect thing that everybody,
00:01:19.000 you stay positive and you go out there and do this
00:01:22.080 and you do that and all this stuff that everybody knows how to do
00:01:24.560 that we don't talk about the real life
00:01:26.820 and real things that a CEO struggles with
00:01:28.820 and that doesn't inspire other people to do it
00:01:31.120 because I want to tell you about some of the things
00:01:33.520 I've struggled with, with anxiety attacks
00:01:35.620 and panic attacks.
00:01:36.900 So you'll see how that's affected me
00:01:39.740 and what I did about it.
00:01:40.620 So I remember when I lived in Iran,
00:01:43.280 I grew up in an environment where there's a lot of uncertainty.
00:01:47.900 My father never let me go play outside
00:01:49.620 because you didn't trust your kids to be outside
00:01:51.460 because there was a lot of kidnapping
00:01:52.440 and different things that was happening.
00:01:54.420 So, you know, that had me grown up in an environment
00:01:58.180 with a certain level of confinement from parents to protect you
00:02:02.200 because you didn't want to see anything bad happen
00:02:04.860 and then from there, Khomeini dies,
00:02:06.600 we go to Germany, we're living in a refugee camp
00:02:08.460 and I remember when I was 11 years old in Germany
00:02:11.080 and I didn't speak German
00:02:13.380 and I got into a fight with a group of kids
00:02:17.780 at this refugee camp
00:02:19.020 and I had a hard time making friends in Germany.
00:02:22.480 And so I am from Iran.
00:02:24.760 In Germany, I experience a little bit of discrimination
00:02:28.400 because I'm from Iran
00:02:29.420 and what are you doing coming to Germany
00:02:30.520 and why are you here?
00:02:31.740 Go back to your own country.
00:02:32.940 And I had an anxiety attack
00:02:34.740 and had all this anxiety
00:02:35.740 because I didn't know how to make friends
00:02:37.680 with a people that I'm not accepted at
00:02:39.380 and my father's not there.
00:02:40.500 My father's in Iran
00:02:42.140 and he is trying to come to U.S.
00:02:44.700 so we can all meet in U.S.
00:02:45.840 and my family goes through a divorce.
00:02:47.400 These are many things that people go through.
00:02:49.060 That was my life.
00:02:51.020 And eventually, November 20th, we come to the States
00:02:53.180 and then I'm over here
00:02:54.180 and I go to school.
00:02:56.300 After school, I joined the Army
00:02:57.560 and in the first week of joining the Army,
00:03:00.000 you know, you have a lot of different pressures.
00:03:02.920 And I remember one time
00:03:03.960 I was, you know, had this pressure
00:03:07.920 of not wanting to come back to where I'm from
00:03:11.940 and I had to graduate from the Army
00:03:13.680 and one day we had to dig foxholes
00:03:16.320 and I dug two foxholes.
00:03:18.560 You're only supposed to do one
00:03:19.540 and the foxhole is six feet by six feet
00:03:21.340 by three feet wide.
00:03:23.460 And, you know, we were trying to meet a commitment
00:03:26.440 and a deadline that we had to get this thing going
00:03:28.840 because if you don't do it on time,
00:03:30.020 if you're in war
00:03:30.700 and you're going to have this and all this stuff
00:03:31.940 and then, and I had an anxiety attack
00:03:34.800 and I went to the hospital
00:03:36.280 and in the hospital,
00:03:38.240 my temperature was 104 and a half
00:03:40.700 and I had lost 20 pounds in the span of a week
00:03:42.840 and they put two IVs in me
00:03:44.580 and the doctor said, it's not a big deal.
00:03:46.480 It's just, you pushed a little harder
00:03:49.660 and this is very,
00:03:51.480 this is your body's way of saying,
00:03:53.660 you push the limits.
00:03:55.300 So, okay, great.
00:03:56.040 So, came back and went into the Army
00:03:57.980 and later on, it happened again at 24 years old
00:04:02.160 with my father
00:04:03.960 and I didn't really know what was going on with my body
00:04:06.400 because I couldn't breathe
00:04:07.280 and at that time, I was in a lot of death
00:04:08.900 and financial turmoil
00:04:10.460 and my dad's at the hospital
00:04:11.560 and my mother's back in Iran
00:04:13.500 and my sister's trying to get married
00:04:15.020 and my family's going through struggles financially
00:04:16.940 and I'm going through,
00:04:18.680 so all of this adds up
00:04:20.120 and then as a CEO, I become a CEO
00:04:21.780 and I'm running a company
00:04:23.520 and when I'm running a company,
00:04:25.020 competitors every day are telling me I can't do it
00:04:26.960 and they're calling my staff and my agents
00:04:28.880 and telling them your CEO is not capable of doing this
00:04:31.140 and calling carriers
00:04:32.680 and they're trying to bad mouth us
00:04:33.880 and all this stuff that's going on.
00:04:34.920 It's a typical part of a competitive environment
00:04:37.240 and, you know, one day I'm on a three-week tour
00:04:41.020 and I come back from the three-week tour
00:04:42.740 and when I come back from the tour,
00:04:45.600 that night I go to a meeting
00:04:48.520 and I stayed at the meeting till midnight
00:04:50.860 and then I come back home
00:04:52.100 and I had so many things on my mind.
00:04:54.080 My wife is pregnant
00:04:55.220 and I have some issues going on in our company
00:04:59.260 and then I had some issues going on
00:05:00.660 with some relationships with business people
00:05:04.200 and then I'm trying to, you know,
00:05:07.520 get this other project going.
00:05:08.900 I'm writing a book
00:05:10.220 that's got me to do some research late at night
00:05:12.360 and I'm going on four hours of sleep
00:05:14.840 and I'm really pushing it
00:05:16.020 and I'm, you know, going both ends, you know,
00:05:19.180 and one night, that night I came home,
00:05:21.180 it was 12 o'clock at night, 1 o'clock at night,
00:05:22.880 I couldn't stop breathing
00:05:23.660 and next thing you know, I have a panic attack
00:05:26.460 and, you know, ambulance comes,
00:05:28.740 my father comes, 2 o'clock in the morning,
00:05:30.420 ambulance comes, checks me out,
00:05:32.320 I get in the ambulance in our community,
00:05:33.960 I go to the hospital
00:05:34.740 and when I go to the hospital,
00:05:37.040 the doctor says,
00:05:38.260 you had a panic attack, it's very normal.
00:05:41.920 And why is it very normal?
00:05:43.360 Well, what did you do?
00:05:44.640 You know, when you're pushing everything you got,
00:05:47.080 sometimes this is your body of saying,
00:05:49.120 slow down a little bit, right?
00:05:51.120 Okay, great.
00:05:52.340 So I was 33, 34 at the time.
00:05:55.400 I said, I am going to study
00:05:57.380 the subject of anxiety attacks and panic attacks
00:06:00.840 to understand why this happens
00:06:02.660 because it happened to so many of my family members
00:06:04.660 and friends and many times
00:06:06.380 were embarrassed to talk about it.
00:06:09.020 So listen, if today's message helps you
00:06:12.440 on how you deal,
00:06:14.600 and even if one person gets something
00:06:16.680 out of this message here,
00:06:18.140 it did its purpose right.
00:06:19.460 And I think more entrepreneurs
00:06:21.080 need to talk about this.
00:06:22.280 I think more entrepreneur magazines
00:06:24.340 and blogs need to talk about this
00:06:25.860 because there are a lot of people
00:06:27.240 that deal with this
00:06:28.180 in their everyday business
00:06:30.440 and the more we know how to cope with it,
00:06:32.480 and even today, nowadays,
00:06:33.460 it's not just entrepreneurs.
00:06:34.760 I had a call I got from a friend of mine,
00:06:36.600 his 15-year-old daughter
00:06:38.160 was going through some issues
00:06:39.440 and she wanted to take her life away.
00:06:42.380 Why?
00:06:43.240 Well, because today's pressures
00:06:44.720 of kids living with social media,
00:06:46.680 Instagram, sexting, texting, Facebook,
00:06:48.960 all of these things that they're dealing with,
00:06:51.600 it's a lot more than it's ever been before.
00:06:54.120 And if we don't openly talk about it,
00:06:55.720 I think that's worse than, you know,
00:06:57.940 trying to hold it together
00:06:59.300 because I believe there's one thing
00:07:00.380 worse than exploding,
00:07:01.400 and that's imploding.
00:07:03.260 Imploding is you're holding it,
00:07:04.400 holding it, holding it, holding it,
00:07:05.180 holding it, and then boom!
00:07:07.120 You have no idea what happens with your body.
00:07:09.300 Exploding time to time.
00:07:10.600 Here's how I feel.
00:07:11.280 Here's how I feel.
00:07:11.960 Here's how I feel.
00:07:12.540 Here's how I feel.
00:07:14.200 Then you're releasing it
00:07:15.420 and feeling good about it
00:07:16.300 and you move on.
00:07:17.020 So, you know,
00:07:18.060 anxiety is not something that's a new thing.
00:07:20.100 You know, there's a lot of books here
00:07:21.440 with a lot of people
00:07:23.300 who have been struggling with anxiety,
00:07:25.020 Kennedys, Lincolns, Jacksons.
00:07:28.920 The list is long on high-profile people,
00:07:32.260 jobs, David Beckham athletes.
00:07:34.780 This is what Lincoln said many, many years ago.
00:07:37.780 Lincoln was known for having anxiety attacks.
00:07:39.920 Lincoln once said about what happened with him
00:07:44.060 and anxiety attacks.
00:07:45.160 He said,
00:07:46.360 We live in the midst of alarms.
00:07:48.940 Anxiety beclouds the future.
00:07:51.500 We expect some new disaster
00:07:53.260 with each newspaper we read.
00:07:56.740 Newspaper.
00:07:57.660 When's the last time you and I
00:07:58.880 even paid attention to the newspaper?
00:08:00.780 Everything we get with news nowadays
00:08:04.100 is within a second.
00:08:05.940 Everything.
00:08:06.460 We look at everything through Facebook, Twitter.
00:08:08.300 When somebody passes away,
00:08:09.720 we hear about it through Twitter.
00:08:11.080 When something crisis happens,
00:08:12.740 an earthquake,
00:08:13.700 a flood,
00:08:14.640 something major,
00:08:15.640 it's instant.
00:08:16.960 Instant.
00:08:17.480 Our phone notification.
00:08:18.800 Boom.
00:08:18.980 This is what happened.
00:08:19.900 Notification.
00:08:20.380 Boom.
00:08:20.540 This is what happened.
00:08:21.680 Notification.
00:08:22.160 Boom.
00:08:22.300 This is what happened.
00:08:22.980 And we're doing our work.
00:08:23.840 We're doing what we're doing.
00:08:24.780 And then boom.
00:08:25.240 That adds anxiety.
00:08:26.080 That adds anxiety.
00:08:26.840 That adds anxiety.
00:08:27.600 That adds anxiety.
00:08:28.240 And we're trying to get everything done.
00:08:29.800 So how do you live
00:08:30.960 and lead
00:08:31.880 and build
00:08:32.520 in a world
00:08:33.240 where so many things
00:08:34.500 are going on simultaneously?
00:08:37.020 That's what we're going to talk about today.
00:08:38.440 And the good news is this.
00:08:39.380 There is a formula to all of this.
00:08:41.420 There is a formula to all of this
00:08:43.400 as long as you become aware of it.
00:08:44.780 Okay.
00:08:45.320 So let me start off with the first thing.
00:08:46.960 Let me start off with the first thing
00:08:47.920 I want to talk to you about.
00:08:49.340 The difference between
00:08:51.640 being depressed
00:08:54.200 and being bitter
00:08:55.200 versus being anxious
00:08:56.340 and having panic attacks
00:08:58.120 panic attack
00:08:58.880 is a byproduct
00:09:00.880 of anxiety attacks.
00:09:02.880 And so
00:09:03.280 on one side
00:09:04.440 you have panic attacks
00:09:05.260 and anxiety attacks.
00:09:06.140 On the other side
00:09:06.660 you have constant state of depression
00:09:08.020 and constant state of bitterness.
00:09:10.400 Very simple formula.
00:09:12.480 When you're bitter
00:09:13.340 and you're depressed
00:09:14.400 your mind is thinking about the past.
00:09:17.080 When you're anxious
00:09:18.180 and you're having anxiety
00:09:19.720 your mind is thinking about the future.
00:09:22.760 So anytime you're going through
00:09:24.460 these two states
00:09:25.180 it's important for you
00:09:26.180 to remind yourself
00:09:27.060 to say
00:09:27.500 okay
00:09:28.140 I can't do nothing
00:09:29.280 about the past.
00:09:30.280 I cannot do nothing
00:09:31.000 but that person said
00:09:32.260 they were right
00:09:33.500 and I told you so
00:09:34.600 and they're right
00:09:35.160 maybe you were wrong
00:09:36.040 and you're constantly thinking about
00:09:37.420 replaying that in your mind
00:09:38.640 and that's creating
00:09:39.660 to be depressed.
00:09:40.960 So your challenge
00:09:41.520 is not anxiety
00:09:42.140 your challenge is depression.
00:09:43.740 Well you need to get out
00:09:44.560 of that state
00:09:44.960 because you can't do nothing
00:09:45.620 or you're spending too much time
00:09:47.720 in the future
00:09:48.160 anxiety
00:09:48.700 so when you identify this
00:09:50.860 it's trying to bring yourself
00:09:51.800 back in the middle
00:09:52.360 and say the only thing
00:09:53.000 I can control right now
00:09:53.980 is this
00:09:54.420 and this is what I'm going to try
00:09:55.900 to control.
00:09:56.560 So in understanding that part
00:09:59.020 and balancing it
00:09:59.840 is one thing
00:10:00.480 but the other side
00:10:01.200 is also knowing the difference
00:10:02.320 between fear and anxiety
00:10:05.440 because fear and anxiety
00:10:07.580 the only difference
00:10:08.560 between fear and anxiety
00:10:09.720 is the timeline
00:10:11.020 and the lifespan
00:10:12.440 because fear is sudden
00:10:14.300 it comes
00:10:15.080 it goes
00:10:16.080 anxiety has a longer lifespan
00:10:18.860 I'll explain
00:10:19.700 I'm afraid
00:10:21.940 I heard something downstairs
00:10:23.380 what is it?
00:10:24.960 Let me go downstairs
00:10:25.620 to see what it is
00:10:26.560 maybe someone's trying
00:10:27.700 to open a door
00:10:28.380 in your tents
00:10:29.500 you go downstairs
00:10:30.520 it's your dog
00:10:31.480 okay
00:10:32.400 boom
00:10:33.260 22 seconds
00:10:34.080 fear is gone
00:10:34.800 anxiety
00:10:35.620 oh my god
00:10:36.620 my baby is doing 6 months
00:10:38.100 how am I going to handle this baby
00:10:39.240 I've never been a father before
00:10:40.360 somebody told me
00:10:41.300 I'll never be a good father
00:10:42.160 I don't know what a kid is
00:10:43.060 oh my god
00:10:43.720 there's no
00:10:44.060 what book do I read
00:10:44.740 what if I can't afford it
00:10:45.780 it's going to be expensive
00:10:46.440 now I'm not going to sell
00:10:47.200 I'm not going to
00:10:47.560 okay that's future
00:10:48.700 future future
00:10:49.280 anxiety
00:10:50.020 fear
00:10:50.880 anxiety
00:10:51.620 there's a big difference
00:10:52.660 between both
00:10:53.360 and it's simply
00:10:54.460 a lifespan
00:10:55.320 now
00:10:55.800 anxiety
00:10:57.740 is actually
00:10:59.440 a part of our body
00:11:00.480 so
00:11:00.800 anytime
00:11:01.600 we are anxious
00:11:03.140 or we're afraid
00:11:04.240 our body produces
00:11:05.740 adrenaline
00:11:06.760 as a way
00:11:08.120 to solve
00:11:09.200 that issue
00:11:10.260 so
00:11:10.820 adrenaline
00:11:11.300 you're in a situation
00:11:12.020 where you're going to get into
00:11:12.580 a fight with somebody
00:11:13.260 all of a sudden
00:11:13.720 your energy is low
00:11:14.400 boom
00:11:14.780 adrenaline
00:11:15.280 you're ready to fight
00:11:15.980 because there's danger
00:11:16.900 somebody's fighting
00:11:18.040 your body produces adrenaline
00:11:19.580 to be ready for that
00:11:20.620 there's war
00:11:22.260 there's attack
00:11:22.880 boom
00:11:23.240 your body produces adrenaline
00:11:24.380 on how to solve that situation
00:11:25.460 right
00:11:25.740 but
00:11:26.400 anxiety attacks
00:11:28.100 is like an alarm
00:11:29.140 it's like an alarm
00:11:30.420 fire alarm
00:11:31.900 some fire alarms
00:11:33.420 are more sensitive
00:11:34.440 than others
00:11:35.200 some people
00:11:35.820 the slightest little thing
00:11:37.080 gets them to go into the state
00:11:39.020 and you've got to control
00:11:40.620 the knob
00:11:41.240 of how sensitive
00:11:42.480 your fire alarm is
00:11:44.440 when you're thinking
00:11:45.460 you're afraid
00:11:46.060 when you're thinking
00:11:46.640 you're having an anxiety attack
00:11:47.880 it's really not that big
00:11:49.740 of a deal
00:11:50.160 lower the
00:11:51.000 you know
00:11:51.880 intensity
00:11:52.620 of how sensitive
00:11:54.020 your fire alarm is
00:11:54.940 so now
00:11:55.240 all that stuff
00:11:55.940 being said and done
00:11:56.780 I want to talk to you about
00:11:59.040 what are some of the symptoms
00:12:00.640 of actual anxiety attacks
00:12:03.380 and anxiety disorders
00:12:04.500 so let's talk about
00:12:05.540 the general symptoms
00:12:06.460 of anxiety
00:12:07.140 okay
00:12:07.460 number one
00:12:08.240 is
00:12:09.080 a challenge with sleeping
00:12:10.720 okay
00:12:11.400 when you're anxious
00:12:12.320 you can't go to sleep
00:12:13.180 because your brain
00:12:13.740 has gone all over the place
00:12:14.740 and if you
00:12:15.180 don't let your
00:12:16.360 imagination
00:12:17.200 because typically
00:12:17.920 people who
00:12:18.580 have more anxiety attacks
00:12:20.740 and more anxiety
00:12:21.480 they have an imagination
00:12:23.100 bigger than the average mind
00:12:24.500 because
00:12:24.740 it just goes places
00:12:26.740 right
00:12:27.120 so challenge sleeping
00:12:28.340 because your brain
00:12:28.980 is going all over the place
00:12:29.820 you're thinking about
00:12:30.360 so many different things
00:12:31.340 two
00:12:32.140 irrational fears
00:12:33.180 everybody's got fears
00:12:34.360 you know
00:12:34.660 spider
00:12:35.120 snake
00:12:35.740 dark
00:12:36.740 height
00:12:37.420 but irrational fears
00:12:39.020 that are non-existent
00:12:40.480 that's going to give you anxiety
00:12:42.220 three
00:12:42.500 muscle tension
00:12:43.260 is a symptom of anxiety
00:12:45.560 four is chronic indigestion
00:12:47.080 IBS
00:12:48.040 you've heard of it
00:12:48.580 irritable bowel syndrome
00:12:50.000 that's part of
00:12:51.240 symptoms
00:12:52.260 five
00:12:53.040 stage fright
00:12:53.700 if you have to speak on stage
00:12:54.920 and all of a sudden
00:12:55.440 you're having too much anxiety
00:12:56.340 because you're afraid of speaking
00:12:57.180 in front of everybody
00:12:57.760 again
00:12:58.280 because of what other people think
00:13:00.680 it's part of it
00:13:01.460 six
00:13:02.220 panic attacks
00:13:03.420 panic attacks
00:13:04.120 feel like a heart attack
00:13:05.160 but it's not a heart attack
00:13:06.100 shortness of breath
00:13:06.940 sweating
00:13:07.840 your hands are going to sweat
00:13:09.020 shaking
00:13:10.540 a possible
00:13:11.660 shakiness
00:13:13.360 you may feel like you're having a seizure
00:13:14.760 chest pain
00:13:15.360 stomach pain
00:13:16.000 fainting
00:13:16.540 all a part of it
00:13:17.980 and a lot of anxiety
00:13:19.120 could lead to panic
00:13:20.400 if you don't control your imagination
00:13:22.200 flashbacks
00:13:24.020 if you're constantly reliving
00:13:25.880 embarrassing moment
00:13:27.580 of your life
00:13:28.400 or things that you did
00:13:29.640 that mess with your mind
00:13:32.380 I was watching a video
00:13:33.320 the other day
00:13:33.880 that dunk
00:13:34.400 that Vince Carter
00:13:35.180 dunked on a 7 foot 2 inch guy
00:13:36.800 and this 7 foot 2 inch guy
00:13:38.840 had the opportunity
00:13:39.680 to come and play in the NBA
00:13:40.880 in the Olympics
00:13:41.640 Vince Carter
00:13:42.900 6'6
00:13:43.520 jumps over a 7 foot 2 guy
00:13:45.080 well
00:13:45.800 he got the offer
00:13:47.060 to come to the NBA
00:13:47.820 the only reason
00:13:48.380 he didn't accept it
00:13:49.160 is because
00:13:49.480 he was so embarrassed
00:13:50.580 that it was the most viewed
00:13:52.020 dunk of all time
00:13:53.200 that he didn't want to come
00:13:54.500 play in the NBA
00:13:55.080 until today
00:13:55.540 he struggles with it
00:13:56.480 this guy
00:13:57.900 because it was an embarrassing moment
00:13:59.220 he kept replaying
00:14:00.720 reliving in his mind
00:14:02.780 that's going to create anxiety
00:14:04.040 number 8
00:14:04.940 compulsive behavior
00:14:06.140 feeling like you have to be perfect
00:14:08.200 that's going to create anxiety
00:14:09.400 your family
00:14:10.480 maybe you had a military father
00:14:12.520 that was
00:14:12.820 you have to be perfect
00:14:13.600 everything's got to be perfect
00:14:14.640 that's going to create anxiety
00:14:16.100 compulsive disorders
00:14:17.080 thinking they have to do
00:14:17.820 everything right
00:14:18.700 that'll create anxiety
00:14:20.040 self-doubt
00:14:21.240 a little bit of doubt
00:14:22.040 is healthy
00:14:22.780 because you
00:14:23.400 want to prove to yourself
00:14:24.920 that you can overcome it
00:14:25.800 but a constant self-doubt
00:14:27.180 it's going to create
00:14:28.220 a lot of anxiety
00:14:29.080 for you as well
00:14:29.760 so how to fight off anxiety
00:14:31.060 okay
00:14:32.420 very simple
00:14:34.400 always
00:14:34.900 if you're having anxiety
00:14:37.020 and it's a real symptom
00:14:38.260 of anxiety
00:14:38.920 you always
00:14:40.380 the breathing
00:14:40.980 go back to
00:14:41.680 trying to breathe
00:14:42.560 the way you sleep
00:14:43.420 because the best state
00:14:44.880 of breathing
00:14:45.840 we do is when we're sleeping
00:14:46.840 and we're the calmest
00:14:47.800 we're breathing
00:14:48.260 right
00:14:52.440 that's the way you breathe
00:14:53.740 when you sleep
00:14:54.340 try to breathe like that
00:14:55.580 and it generally works
00:14:56.940 two
00:14:57.280 accept that you're having
00:14:58.580 a little bit of anxiety
00:14:59.480 it's okay
00:15:00.040 you're having anxiety
00:15:01.260 process it
00:15:02.280 am I thinking about the past
00:15:03.460 no that's depression
00:15:04.280 I'm not being depressed
00:15:05.140 right now
00:15:05.600 I'm not bitter right now
00:15:06.840 I'm anxious right now
00:15:07.680 because I'm thinking about the future
00:15:08.680 can I do anything about it right now
00:15:09.960 no
00:15:10.420 come present
00:15:11.180 good
00:15:11.500 accept it
00:15:12.220 three
00:15:12.880 your brain
00:15:14.420 if you allow your brain
00:15:15.600 your brain will
00:15:16.540 will
00:15:17.400 will play tricks on you
00:15:19.220 regularly
00:15:19.920 okay
00:15:20.260 but remember
00:15:20.780 you're in charge of your brain
00:15:21.740 so
00:15:21.960 let me give you an analogy
00:15:23.060 let's just say a dog
00:15:24.000 I have two dogs
00:15:24.680 so you walk your dogs
00:15:25.660 on a leash
00:15:26.140 and generally
00:15:27.280 where you don't want your dogs
00:15:28.420 to pee
00:15:28.720 you can pull the leash
00:15:29.460 and they won't pee
00:15:30.080 when they raise their leg
00:15:31.020 take them to the next place
00:15:32.160 next place
00:15:32.600 next place
00:15:32.900 you pick and choose
00:15:34.020 here's okay
00:15:34.700 and they go pee
00:15:35.500 in your own brain
00:15:36.940 you can pull
00:15:37.980 the places your brain goes
00:15:39.240 because there's one person
00:15:40.300 that's the captain
00:15:41.220 under your brain
00:15:41.900 and that's you
00:15:42.500 you dictate
00:15:43.440 where your brain needs to go
00:15:44.380 change it up
00:15:44.960 very quickly
00:15:45.740 change your state
00:15:46.800 you leave that place
00:15:48.040 and you forget about it
00:15:49.120 and literally within
00:15:49.900 30 seconds
00:15:50.880 you forgot what you were
00:15:51.800 worried about
00:15:52.580 and being anxious about
00:15:53.620 and the last one
00:15:54.800 is self-questioning
00:15:55.580 actually when it's happening
00:15:56.540 I'm asking
00:15:56.940 why am I having an anxiety
00:15:58.500 why is this anxiety
00:16:00.240 being created right now
00:16:01.020 why am I thinking like this
00:16:02.080 why is this taking place
00:16:03.080 and as you go through it
00:16:04.440 you say
00:16:04.700 oh
00:16:05.060 okay
00:16:05.820 this is not a big deal
00:16:06.860 it's fine
00:16:07.500 I'm going to be okay
00:16:08.400 and you move on
00:16:09.700 and when you do do that
00:16:11.060 it's almost like graduating
00:16:12.460 that state of anxiety
00:16:14.440 and you feel incredible about it
00:16:16.040 because you can do
00:16:16.880 that same exercise again
00:16:18.820 so a few basic things
00:16:21.480 to help with anxiety
00:16:22.420 as well as this
00:16:23.260 one I said already
00:16:25.020 focus on the present
00:16:26.020 two
00:16:26.820 do something
00:16:27.700 that's a routine
00:16:28.640 go cook something
00:16:29.800 you know
00:16:30.280 go make a puzzle
00:16:32.620 go something
00:16:33.340 that's a routine
00:16:34.400 way of doing something
00:16:36.260 laundry
00:16:36.860 if you have a routine
00:16:37.720 on how you do laundry
00:16:38.640 it gets your brain
00:16:40.020 to do a routine
00:16:40.700 so you don't think about it
00:16:41.680 next one is exercise
00:16:42.800 there's nothing better
00:16:44.380 to release anxiety
00:16:46.180 than to exercise
00:16:47.560 and a constant
00:16:48.440 those who
00:16:49.000 are continuously exercising
00:16:50.960 that fear
00:16:51.600 that anxiousness
00:16:52.520 all leaves you
00:16:53.960 when you exercise
00:16:54.760 because your body's moving
00:16:55.820 if you're in a place
00:16:56.960 that you can't go
00:16:57.500 straight to the gym
00:16:58.140 go walk the stairs
00:16:59.040 go speed walk
00:17:01.200 go do something
00:17:02.060 where your body's moving
00:17:03.140 and that anxiety
00:17:04.420 will typically go away
00:17:05.600 and communicate your feelings
00:17:07.360 sometimes
00:17:07.880 not talking about it
00:17:09.800 with somebody else
00:17:10.500 is one of the biggest ways
00:17:11.540 to continue that state
00:17:12.840 is you hold it
00:17:14.020 that's the imploding part
00:17:14.980 talk about it with somebody
00:17:16.100 talk about it with a peer
00:17:17.200 if you're an entrepreneur
00:17:18.620 maybe you're not comfortable
00:17:19.640 sharing it with somebody else
00:17:20.680 find a peer
00:17:21.560 that's also an entrepreneur
00:17:22.520 that has been through
00:17:24.120 as well
00:17:24.380 talk to me
00:17:24.740 he'll generally tell
00:17:25.420 oh my god
00:17:25.800 I can't believe you're telling me this
00:17:26.640 it's happened to me as well
00:17:27.600 you're kidding me
00:17:28.540 no
00:17:28.820 how do you overcome this
00:17:29.880 oh you're an athlete
00:17:30.540 oh this is normal
00:17:31.700 it happens
00:17:32.160 how do you deal with this
00:17:32.840 oh my god
00:17:33.320 this is
00:17:33.700 okay so these are some of the things
00:17:35.460 you communicate with a spouse
00:17:36.500 communicate with a friend
00:17:37.420 and if your kids
00:17:40.180 or family
00:17:40.800 or somebody else
00:17:41.540 that's going through this
00:17:42.440 and you don't communicate
00:17:43.440 that with them
00:17:44.340 they're in that state
00:17:45.960 you'll ask yourself
00:17:47.080 why is that person
00:17:48.000 so anxious
00:17:48.600 depressed
00:17:48.920 it's probably because
00:17:50.100 they're going through
00:17:51.880 a certain process
00:17:53.420 that causes them
00:17:54.460 to have anxiety
00:17:55.100 you can actually help them
00:17:56.020 process that
00:17:57.440 with them
00:17:58.080 okay so
00:17:58.600 what intensifies
00:18:00.160 anxiety attacks
00:18:01.300 your anger
00:18:02.900 your anger
00:18:04.120 will intensify
00:18:05.360 your anxiety
00:18:06.260 so anger
00:18:07.880 is fuel
00:18:08.680 to anxiety
00:18:09.480 if you control
00:18:10.420 if you allow your anger
00:18:12.480 to get out of control
00:18:13.460 your anxiety
00:18:14.100 goes even higher levels
00:18:15.380 so anger
00:18:16.580 is generally
00:18:17.520 stemmed from
00:18:19.260 us
00:18:20.200 telling the world
00:18:22.340 that I have a problem
00:18:23.400 that I don't think
00:18:24.160 I can solve
00:18:24.780 that's what
00:18:25.640 the feeling
00:18:27.360 and emotion
00:18:27.760 of anger really is
00:18:28.560 I'm having a problem
00:18:29.500 I don't know how to solve it
00:18:30.280 I'm so ticked off
00:18:31.040 right now
00:18:31.380 okay
00:18:32.620 it's learning
00:18:34.260 how to
00:18:35.100 take that same passion
00:18:37.420 that anger
00:18:37.960 that you have
00:18:38.620 instead of
00:18:39.680 into feeling like
00:18:40.680 you can't solve it
00:18:41.480 try to come up
00:18:42.940 with a solution
00:18:43.540 and it goes away
00:18:44.460 short sentence
00:18:46.000 short lifespan
00:18:47.320 it has
00:18:47.760 if you can find
00:18:48.560 and use that same energy
00:18:49.500 of anger
00:18:49.900 to solve it
00:18:50.920 instead of staying
00:18:51.780 into it
00:18:52.160 as if you cannot solve it
00:18:53.340 that's all it means
00:18:54.080 next time you're angry
00:18:54.920 why am I angry
00:18:56.080 it's because
00:18:56.640 I'm trying to tell the world
00:18:57.740 that I have a problem
00:18:58.300 I can't solve
00:18:58.820 yes I can
00:18:59.480 stay present
00:19:00.740 can I solve it
00:19:01.540 great
00:19:01.800 it moves on
00:19:02.960 so
00:19:03.340 same thing with anger
00:19:06.680 some basic things
00:19:07.800 of breathing
00:19:08.260 taking the time out
00:19:09.200 do not bottle up
00:19:10.000 your feelings
00:19:10.700 accept responsibility
00:19:13.060 do not blame
00:19:13.960 a lot of time
00:19:14.540 when a bad relationship
00:19:16.200 or bad business relationship
00:19:17.620 or bad breakup
00:19:18.620 or something happens
00:19:20.220 that you're upset
00:19:21.340 at the other person
00:19:22.040 on what they did
00:19:22.560 you can't really
00:19:23.020 control anything on that
00:19:23.980 I can take responsibility
00:19:24.960 and see on what I can do better
00:19:26.160 and that's all I can control
00:19:27.480 I can get angry over them
00:19:28.480 because they don't want to change
00:19:29.220 maybe
00:19:29.440 and that's okay
00:19:30.020 it's not on me
00:19:30.900 maybe I didn't do something
00:19:31.800 that was right
00:19:32.340 and I can work on it
00:19:33.480 take responsibility
00:19:34.900 grudges
00:19:35.980 probably one of the
00:19:37.340 worst things we can do
00:19:39.020 it happens in family
00:19:39.940 friendships
00:19:40.320 business relationships
00:19:41.300 cold shoulder
00:19:42.300 I'm just not going to talk to him
00:19:43.820 I'm not going to call him back
00:19:45.640 I'm not going to do this
00:19:46.620 we hold this grudge
00:19:47.540 grudges hurt you
00:19:50.120 more than anything else
00:19:51.180 you've heard
00:19:51.720 the thing before
00:19:53.640 you know
00:19:54.020 holding a grudge
00:19:54.840 is kind of like
00:19:55.500 you're holding on to coal
00:19:56.800 it's on fire
00:19:57.600 and you don't throw it away
00:19:59.220 you hold on to it
00:20:00.080 and you're really the one burning
00:20:01.060 you know
00:20:01.980 it's letting go grudges
00:20:03.560 is a big part of anxiety
00:20:05.400 laughing it off
00:20:06.980 and accepting it
00:20:08.320 and trying to laugh off
00:20:09.720 at your own craziness
00:20:12.660 and your own madness
00:20:13.540 it's actually so effective
00:20:15.440 when you do that
00:20:17.060 obviously exercising
00:20:19.480 again
00:20:19.820 meditating
00:20:20.220 and praying
00:20:21.500 it's very very effective
00:20:22.820 quiet moment
00:20:23.600 pray
00:20:24.000 meditate
00:20:24.880 it's incredibly effective
00:20:26.620 when you do that
00:20:28.100 so
00:20:28.400 now
00:20:29.260 next thing
00:20:30.140 on how to stop
00:20:31.100 anxieties
00:20:32.400 from leading into
00:20:33.760 a panic attack
00:20:34.560 very basic
00:20:35.560 stop believing your brain
00:20:37.500 all the time
00:20:38.480 okay
00:20:39.000 your brain
00:20:40.000 is not right
00:20:40.920 all the time
00:20:41.640 they say
00:20:42.060 listen to your heart
00:20:43.160 not your brain
00:20:44.520 your brain
00:20:45.020 can really mess with you
00:20:46.400 if you listen to your brain
00:20:48.080 all the time
00:20:49.920 okay
00:20:50.400 so
00:20:51.280 a few things
00:20:52.180 with panic attack
00:20:53.080 has to do with your diet
00:20:54.080 and your diet is
00:20:55.220 avoiding the following
00:20:57.040 alcohol
00:20:59.020 nicotine
00:21:00.100 and coffee
00:21:01.040 can create anxiety
00:21:02.640 because you're just so
00:21:03.820 bottled up
00:21:04.900 and you're so wired up
00:21:05.940 and if you
00:21:06.480 do too much of that
00:21:07.620 you generally
00:21:08.160 ever see somebody
00:21:08.880 that drinks a lot of coffee
00:21:09.880 they're just so wired
00:21:11.040 well that's
00:21:11.500 that's anxiety right there
00:21:12.480 and anything is just
00:21:13.420 going to make it a bigger deal
00:21:14.380 than it really is
00:21:15.120 if you can avoid it
00:21:16.180 you can avoid it
00:21:16.900 I'm not a big fan of coffee
00:21:18.360 my staff and my teammates
00:21:19.780 will tell you
00:21:20.260 I'm insane
00:21:20.840 I'm crazy
00:21:21.420 but I'm not a big fan of coffee
00:21:23.140 my wife thinks
00:21:23.780 I'm nuts
00:21:24.300 but I don't drink coffee
00:21:26.400 because it amps me up
00:21:28.700 even to a whole different level
00:21:29.920 so
00:21:30.300 if you can avoid those things
00:21:32.060 that can also be a part
00:21:34.480 to minimize situations
00:21:36.400 for anger
00:21:37.000 exercise
00:21:37.480 again is a part of it
00:21:38.540 highly recommend meeting
00:21:39.800 with a dietician
00:21:40.660 or a nutritionist
00:21:41.420 someone that knows
00:21:42.180 what they're doing
00:21:43.200 to find out
00:21:43.720 with your blood type
00:21:44.540 to recommend things
00:21:45.240 that you ought to eat
00:21:45.860 and you shouldn't eat
00:21:46.600 it's very easy to do that
00:21:47.980 you pay somebody $100
00:21:48.700 $200
00:21:49.260 and they'll put that together
00:21:50.780 for you
00:21:51.080 they'll take your blood type
00:21:51.860 that's a very good thing
00:21:52.580 to do
00:21:52.920 if you meet with a dietician
00:21:54.540 you can always find
00:21:55.200 a good one
00:21:55.720 around
00:21:56.520 next one
00:21:57.080 that has to do with anxiety
00:21:58.240 and anger
00:21:58.760 is overcoming guilt
00:21:59.600 so let's talk about
00:22:00.240 overcoming guilt
00:22:00.920 I can't tell you
00:22:02.260 how many
00:22:02.760 friends and family members
00:22:04.880 I know
00:22:05.280 that had to overcome this
00:22:06.500 and some that took
00:22:07.400 10, 20, 30, 40 years
00:22:08.820 and
00:22:09.960 guilt
00:22:11.380 doesn't allow
00:22:12.640 to live a happy life
00:22:14.000 the sooner
00:22:15.260 you can identify
00:22:16.280 and overcome guilt
00:22:17.260 the sooner
00:22:17.700 you can live a happy life
00:22:18.880 all of these
00:22:20.600 are part of life
00:22:21.760 but entrepreneurs
00:22:22.480 experience this more
00:22:23.660 because
00:22:24.080 anxiety typically happens
00:22:25.920 to people that are
00:22:26.540 in more pressure type situations
00:22:27.940 military, athletes
00:22:29.080 TV, media, politics
00:22:30.940 and a debate
00:22:31.540 entrepreneur, business owner
00:22:32.820 and
00:22:33.700 let me explain some to you
00:22:35.240 the more you want to experience
00:22:37.540 the higher level of competition
00:22:39.000 the more of a likelihood
00:22:39.940 there is
00:22:40.560 that there's a possibility
00:22:41.440 of imminent anxiety
00:22:42.180 so
00:22:42.380 some people tell you
00:22:43.360 that's exactly why
00:22:44.380 I don't want to be an entrepreneur
00:22:45.320 an athlete
00:22:45.900 a military
00:22:46.380 that's fine
00:22:48.080 I want to get
00:22:49.100 the juice of life
00:22:50.000 and sometimes
00:22:51.220 the juice of life
00:22:52.000 means putting yourself
00:22:52.940 in situations
00:22:53.620 that you need to learn
00:22:54.900 how to cope with yourself
00:22:56.040 and if you do that
00:22:57.680 that's what leads
00:22:58.760 to becoming a leader
00:22:59.660 remember at the beginning
00:23:00.540 of the video
00:23:01.100 I have not yet met
00:23:02.500 a strong man
00:23:03.340 or a woman
00:23:03.960 without an easy past
00:23:05.280 with an easy past
00:23:06.320 because they don't go together
00:23:07.320 your body needs to be torn
00:23:11.060 to become a stronger muscle
00:23:13.320 that's the same thing
00:23:14.380 with a leader
00:23:14.980 and an entrepreneur
00:23:15.900 the bigger the empire
00:23:16.640 you want to build
00:23:17.060 sometimes you need to go
00:23:17.880 through the ripping
00:23:19.380 of the muscle
00:23:20.100 the ripping of the mind
00:23:21.260 the ripping of a new mindset
00:23:22.660 that you got to go through
00:23:23.780 to reach those new heights
00:23:25.180 overcoming guilt
00:23:26.080 guilt is a crippling
00:23:28.440 and it is important
00:23:29.540 emotion of human body
00:23:31.320 too
00:23:31.580 one
00:23:32.020 understand why you're guilty
00:23:34.140 two
00:23:35.020 acknowledge your guilt
00:23:36.440 three
00:23:37.260 empathize
00:23:38.540 because empathy
00:23:39.460 is the greatest human nature
00:23:40.660 and human emotion
00:23:41.460 and
00:23:41.700 you know
00:23:43.440 when you understand
00:23:44.280 someone else's pain
00:23:45.260 you are truly
00:23:45.960 on the path
00:23:46.580 to forgiveness
00:23:47.600 so you got to empathize
00:23:49.060 and why is that person
00:23:50.420 feeling that way
00:23:51.680 why did that person
00:23:52.480 do this
00:23:52.860 why is that person
00:23:53.560 if I was in that situation
00:23:55.200 how would I act
00:23:56.100 and why is that person
00:23:57.060 thinking
00:23:57.400 why did that person
00:23:58.180 do this
00:23:58.640 so empathize
00:24:00.180 then it's circumstances matter
00:24:02.220 no one
00:24:03.180 this is the one part
00:24:04.080 you know how we
00:24:04.860 we all do it
00:24:06.980 you know we watch a sport game
00:24:08.180 and so if I was LeBron James
00:24:09.420 I would have done this
00:24:10.060 if I was Kobe Bryant
00:24:11.000 if I was
00:24:11.520 you know
00:24:12.240 if I was the president
00:24:13.440 if I was this
00:24:14.360 if I was that
00:24:14.980 and if I was this actor
00:24:16.180 I would have never
00:24:16.920 we like to do this
00:24:18.420 if I was
00:24:19.140 I would do this
00:24:19.700 listen
00:24:19.940 no one
00:24:21.060 and I mean
00:24:21.660 no one
00:24:22.460 knows
00:24:23.300 every single detail
00:24:25.320 to any decision
00:24:26.340 any human being ever makes
00:24:27.640 no one ever does
00:24:28.720 we all want to say
00:24:30.440 that we would do
00:24:31.220 something differently
00:24:31.920 we're all guilty of it
00:24:33.240 but to overcome guilt
00:24:35.140 you kind of need to
00:24:36.540 you know
00:24:37.560 see what you could do
00:24:38.840 and
00:24:39.300 maybe try to have
00:24:40.700 as much information
00:24:41.460 about why the decision
00:24:42.280 that was made by that person
00:24:43.420 but circumstances matter
00:24:44.600 so
00:24:44.940 you can't sit there
00:24:46.680 and say
00:24:47.140 here's what that person
00:24:48.440 should have done
00:24:49.060 right
00:24:49.360 next
00:24:51.420 learn from your mistakes
00:24:52.540 easy
00:24:53.200 everybody's going to make them
00:24:54.160 learn from them
00:24:54.740 six
00:24:55.040 change
00:24:55.480 human beings
00:24:56.560 are capable of change
00:24:57.600 but it comes only with
00:24:58.520 extreme dedication
00:24:59.660 be nicer
00:25:01.660 be transparent
00:25:02.500 next
00:25:03.400 acknowledge toxic relationships
00:25:05.360 it's tough to
00:25:07.600 let go of toxic relationships
00:25:08.980 because sometimes
00:25:09.660 those people are your cousins
00:25:10.680 and they're your friends
00:25:12.140 of 10, 15, 20 years
00:25:13.340 and
00:25:13.660 we feel guilty
00:25:15.920 if we have to let go
00:25:16.880 of a toxic relationship
00:25:17.880 with a person
00:25:18.380 that's always negative
00:25:19.380 around us
00:25:19.940 and doesn't believe in you
00:25:21.380 and constantly bashes you
00:25:23.020 and constantly
00:25:23.540 re-reminds you
00:25:24.240 of things that you did
00:25:24.840 in the past
00:25:25.260 that were bad
00:25:25.760 and you can't be an entrepreneur
00:25:27.140 you know you can't run a business
00:25:28.260 you can't go out there
00:25:29.480 and look for me
00:25:30.120 like you don't have a degree
00:25:31.500 Patrick
00:25:31.920 you can't go work for Morgan Stanley
00:25:33.500 you don't know what it is
00:25:34.820 to take your license
00:25:35.340 you went to the military
00:25:36.220 because you weren't that smart
00:25:37.200 you're not the brightest
00:25:37.960 that whole thing
00:25:39.520 that's toxic
00:25:40.280 those relationships
00:25:41.280 need to be set aside
00:25:43.700 and you can revisit it
00:25:45.060 5-10 years later
00:25:46.080 and if they work on it
00:25:47.520 great
00:25:47.680 if they don't
00:25:48.220 maybe there's time
00:25:49.040 for a new relationship
00:25:49.880 that is going to appear
00:25:50.740 in your life
00:25:51.660 but you got to be strong enough
00:25:52.600 to let go of those relationships
00:25:53.720 to move on
00:25:54.440 8-forgive yourself first
00:25:56.640 then you'll forgive other people
00:25:57.620 the hardest person
00:25:58.240 to ever forgive is yourself
00:25:59.380 you know
00:26:01.080 there's a lot of people I meet
00:26:02.640 and they don't want to give it
00:26:03.520 everything they got
00:26:04.120 and I say
00:26:04.380 what is it
00:26:04.840 there's something you're dealing with
00:26:05.840 inside
00:26:06.140 you're bottling up
00:26:06.940 you got to forgive yourself
00:26:08.480 and the last one is obviously
00:26:09.580 Let It Go
00:26:10.200 the famous song
00:26:13.200 from
00:26:15.260 is it Frozen?
00:26:17.560 is it Frozen?
00:26:18.120 it says Let It Go
00:26:18.760 I've listened to that song
00:26:20.180 so many times
00:26:20.700 I can't even tell you
00:26:21.520 went to a kid's birthday
00:26:23.300 the other day
00:26:23.880 a kid is a year old
00:26:24.660 and my son was a year and a half
00:26:25.800 at that time
00:26:26.320 he thinks
00:26:27.900 what's the character's names?
00:26:30.720 what's the character's name
00:26:31.580 for Olaf?
00:26:32.600 Olaf and the girl's name
00:26:33.640 as well
00:26:33.880 what's the girl's name?
00:26:35.020 Elsa
00:26:35.380 Elsa
00:26:35.420 he thought Elsa was there
00:26:36.980 to visit him
00:26:37.640 you know
00:26:38.020 we had to listen to
00:26:38.880 Let It Go
00:26:39.320 a million times that night
00:26:40.480 and I walked away that night
00:26:42.300 saying Patrick
00:26:42.920 you just got to let it go
00:26:44.360 you know
00:26:44.740 from watching Frozen
00:26:46.360 anyways
00:26:46.680 you got to let it go
00:26:47.340 okay
00:26:47.520 so last one
00:26:48.060 Power to Change
00:26:49.500 I did a video
00:26:50.100 on how to create a habit
00:26:51.240 and there's a formula
00:26:53.500 on how to create new habits
00:26:54.560 and how to get rid of bad habits
00:26:55.720 link is on the bottom
00:26:56.860 if you haven't seen it
00:26:57.580 go watch that episode
00:26:58.560 as well
00:26:58.840 because it has a lot
00:26:59.580 to do with this
00:27:00.180 on learning
00:27:01.080 how to create new habits
00:27:02.200 but the power to change
00:27:03.760 our brain
00:27:04.560 hates change
00:27:06.020 remember
00:27:06.420 the brain doesn't like change
00:27:08.400 they make sure
00:27:09.900 it remains the same
00:27:10.960 and stays comfortable
00:27:12.020 it's on you
00:27:13.000 the programmer
00:27:14.620 of the brain
00:27:15.500 to make that change
00:27:16.900 if you the programmer
00:27:18.020 doesn't do it
00:27:18.840 it won't change
00:27:19.540 but you're in charge
00:27:20.260 of the programming
00:27:20.880 so the power of change
00:27:22.560 one
00:27:22.780 understand the need
00:27:23.700 to change
00:27:24.420 two
00:27:25.140 condition your brain
00:27:26.800 on how to change
00:27:28.400 three
00:27:29.180 expect friction
00:27:30.420 your brain
00:27:30.980 is going to fight you
00:27:32.240 on the new change
00:27:33.120 that you're trying to make
00:27:34.060 four
00:27:34.900 do not expect results
00:27:36.080 overnight
00:27:36.500 it will not happen
00:27:37.380 overnight
00:27:37.680 five
00:27:38.780 be realistic
00:27:39.720 six
00:27:40.760 have a certain time limit
00:27:42.280 seven
00:27:43.040 get comfortable
00:27:44.500 meaning
00:27:45.160 staying
00:27:46.040 in your comfort zone
00:27:47.640 will never allow you
00:27:48.820 to realize your change
00:27:49.800 so get uncomfortable
00:27:51.340 is the word
00:27:53.100 get uncomfortable
00:27:54.040 it's going to be difficult
00:27:55.420 at times
00:27:56.120 when you're going through it
00:27:58.200 eight
00:27:58.900 keep yourself motivated
00:28:00.400 and nine
00:28:01.040 adapt
00:28:01.940 your goals
00:28:03.040 so
00:28:03.600 to recap
00:28:04.720 today's message
00:28:06.180 on what I
00:28:07.200 eventually
00:28:08.360 had to do
00:28:09.760 to
00:28:10.440 that helped me out
00:28:12.040 was
00:28:12.900 I was trying to do
00:28:14.880 20 different projects
00:28:16.140 at the same time
00:28:17.120 and one of the things
00:28:18.640 that's helped me out
00:28:19.660 tremendously
00:28:20.660 is
00:28:21.960 minimizing
00:28:23.260 all of these
00:28:24.800 multiple
00:28:26.080 activities
00:28:27.380 or
00:28:28.440 projects
00:28:29.260 that I'm working on
00:28:30.220 to
00:28:30.860 lesser things
00:28:31.920 to put my focus on
00:28:32.960 the fewer things
00:28:33.960 you can put your focus on
00:28:35.040 the better you do
00:28:35.720 meaning
00:28:36.100 I have to worry
00:28:38.480 about my family
00:28:39.260 okay
00:28:39.860 my faith
00:28:40.280 my family
00:28:40.940 my health
00:28:42.260 my business
00:28:43.580 and
00:28:44.520 the friends
00:28:45.440 that I have
00:28:46.020 that matter to me
00:28:46.740 the most
00:28:47.240 and that's five things
00:28:48.900 and
00:28:49.700 stuff that I gotta do
00:28:50.860 with
00:28:51.380 hobbies
00:28:52.240 whatever else it may be
00:28:53.680 the more I can
00:28:54.380 minimize those things
00:28:55.800 the better it is
00:28:57.200 and the more efficient
00:28:58.420 I can be
00:28:59.140 in all areas
00:29:00.380 of my life
00:29:01.580 if I can minimize
00:29:02.660 the projects
00:29:03.800 I'm working on
00:29:04.560 you will become
00:29:05.820 more effective
00:29:06.480 the more you can
00:29:07.400 minimize the projects
00:29:08.220 you're trying to do
00:29:08.920 so
00:29:09.160 few books to recommend
00:29:10.660 to you
00:29:11.140 Age of Anxiety
00:29:12.540 great book
00:29:13.460 Zen Golf
00:29:14.800 very very good book
00:29:16.940 this did a very very good book
00:29:18.300 because golf
00:29:19.040 golfers struggle
00:29:20.200 with anxiety all the time
00:29:21.300 especially you see
00:29:22.140 what happens to a lot
00:29:23.320 of these golfers
00:29:24.000 when they're in the last
00:29:24.680 they're about to win
00:29:25.320 the Masters
00:29:25.780 how many golfers
00:29:27.340 have choked
00:29:27.820 symptom
00:29:28.680 anxiety
00:29:29.400 normal
00:29:29.940 this happens to
00:29:31.120 professional athletes
00:29:32.560 last second
00:29:33.200 they need to shoot the ball
00:29:34.060 they don't
00:29:34.820 Jordan comes back
00:29:35.720 from retirement
00:29:36.300 he's facing the Orlando Magic
00:29:37.620 Scotty Pippen says
00:29:39.040 I cannot believe
00:29:39.700 Jordan gave up the ball
00:29:40.540 he typically wants
00:29:41.180 to shoot the ball
00:29:41.760 Michael Jordan
00:29:42.900 the greatest basketball player
00:29:44.540 of all time
00:29:45.500 struggle with anxiety
00:29:46.700 this is a very normal thing
00:29:49.340 that people experience
00:29:50.940 and the other book
00:29:51.880 I would tell you is
00:29:53.080 it's called
00:29:54.820 it's called
00:29:55.620 Mario what's the name
00:29:57.000 of the other book
00:29:57.680 it's called
00:29:58.260 Panic and Anxiety Relief
00:30:02.280 by Jaden Taylor
00:30:04.800 Jaden
00:30:05.820 J-A-Y-D-O-N
00:30:07.400 Taylor
00:30:08.180 great book
00:30:09.320 Jaden
00:30:09.740 I wish you would have
00:30:10.620 written it in print
00:30:11.380 because we would have
00:30:12.280 ordered a thousand
00:30:13.000 of your books
00:30:13.660 but it's only on
00:30:15.420 ebook
00:30:16.040 on Amazon
00:30:16.800 they can order it
00:30:17.840 I highly
00:30:19.020 recommend
00:30:19.980 you order it
00:30:20.860 I'm going to put the link
00:30:21.500 on the bottom
00:30:21.920 for all these books
00:30:22.700 if you want to find
00:30:24.060 and so hopefully
00:30:25.600 this message today
00:30:26.900 helps you
00:30:28.140 realize that
00:30:29.120 even
00:30:29.720 as a CEO
00:30:31.180 with all these
00:30:32.060 other responsibilities
00:30:32.900 I have a good marriage
00:30:35.780 my wife and I
00:30:36.540 have a very good relationship
00:30:37.700 we're working on
00:30:39.020 bettering our relationship
00:30:39.980 all the time
00:30:40.600 I work on becoming
00:30:41.360 a better father
00:30:42.000 all the time
00:30:42.600 and spend time
00:30:43.040 with my boys
00:30:43.680 and my family
00:30:44.900 becoming a better brother
00:30:45.880 a better son
00:30:46.680 a better friend
00:30:47.480 a better leader
00:30:48.220 a better CEO
00:30:49.040 and also at the same time
00:30:51.300 knowing that you can give
00:30:52.480 everything you got
00:30:53.500 to max out the life
00:30:55.140 that you have
00:30:55.740 but also at the same time
00:30:57.480 nobody's perfect
00:30:59.020 and when life happens
00:31:00.820 all over the place
00:31:01.640 especially today's world
00:31:02.440 with social media
00:31:03.080 and technology
00:31:03.660 you need more tools
00:31:05.380 to be able to cope
00:31:06.480 with anxiety
00:31:07.660 with depression
00:31:09.140 with bitterness
00:31:10.280 with panic
00:31:11.540 with your imagination
00:31:13.000 with fears
00:31:13.760 and the moment
00:31:14.620 you have tools
00:31:15.360 you can be in
00:31:16.760 pressure type situations
00:31:17.920 and knowing
00:31:18.580 here's how I process it
00:31:20.220 it becomes automatic
00:31:21.460 and you'll lead better
00:31:22.920 you'll live better
00:31:24.100 and you'll be happier
00:31:25.280 thanks everybody
00:31:26.360 for listening
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00:31:47.300 with that being said
00:31:48.120 have a great day today
00:31:49.120 take care everybody
00:31:49.800 bye bye
00:31:50.240 I'll see you next time
00:31:52.240 I'll see you next time
00:31:53.240 I'll see you next time
00:31:54.240 I'll see you next time
00:31:56.240 I'll see you next time