Valuetainment - January 07, 2019


Episode 241： How To Build Leaders


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In this episode, Pat Trubet talks about how you can build leaders within your organization and why it is so important to have leaders in your organization. He also shares a story of how he was able to build leaders in his organization.

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00:00:00.000 30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put em up, reach the sky, turn the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the underdog.
00:00:17.320 I'm Pat Trubet, your host of Value Team, and today we'll be talking about how you can build leaders within your organization.
00:00:22.500 How to build leaders. This is an art that everybody in business or in sports, in church, in anything, if you look at anything that's growing, it has to do with leadership, but a lot of times when you think about people who decide to subscribe to leadership, because a long time ago, I decided to subscribe my entire life to leadership, my entire life.
00:00:49.280 Everything had to be about leadership, and initially, when you subscribe to wanting to become a leader, you think you have to be this perfect figure. Let me explain.
00:01:03.180 What is it to build leaders? So many people who decide to build leaders end up giving up on the process of building leaders, and you'll hear a lot of people saying, I don't like babysitting.
00:01:15.860 Or you'll hear the common phrase of somebody saying, I just couldn't find anybody that really wanted to build. People are lazy nowadays. People are not hard workers nowadays.
00:01:24.140 The millennial generation, they're very lazy, and the Gen X, they don't like to work. You know, us boomers, we used to like to work, and seniors, we used to work, and now this generation just cannot, you know, they don't like to work, and they don't listen, and they don't do this. Great. 0.97
00:01:36.680 And then they go away from wanting to build leaders. This could be anybody. Even millennials say it's about millennials.
00:01:43.260 But what I learned, probably the best thing I learned about leadership was from my father, and how he raised me, and how he developed me as a leader.
00:01:55.680 It was very difficult being his son, in a way where I don't think he ever laid his hands on me one time. Not from that sense where it was difficult being his son, or abusive with his words. That wasn't the case.
00:02:09.240 But what I mean was, it was very difficult being his son was, you couldn't ever make excuses. You couldn't ever be soft. I'll give you a story here on what happened this past week.
00:02:23.180 So this past week, I'm driving out to speak in Jacksonville, and one of our biggest, because I'm on a 35 state, 30 days, I'm living in an RV, six of us, 16 cities speaking, two or 10,000 miles.
00:02:37.420 And on one of the stops, we had to go from Houston to New Orleans, and then from New Orleans to Jacksonville.
00:02:45.680 If you know that distance of a drive, it's a long drive. When we got to New Orleans, somebody accidentally hit the mirror on the side of the RV.
00:02:55.120 We need a mirror, because if you're driving in an RV, you don't see your left side, you're going to hit somebody.
00:02:59.440 So as we're driving, this guy ends up coming back, and we get his insurance. He's willing to pay for everything.
00:03:04.360 As we're driving, then another 18-wheeler hits the mirror. So now the mirror is completely gone.
00:03:10.880 And we go to a local place. It takes us three, four, five hours to fix it, but this is back in a sub.
00:03:17.040 We're not going to get any rest to go to Jacksonville. Sometimes in life, things like this happens.
00:03:22.900 So what do we do? Well, we go ahead and get in the RV, and we get it fixed, and it's late,
00:03:30.120 and we have nine hours to get to Jacksonville to speak. And in the middle of the night, our driver's falling asleep.
00:03:37.140 He's not feeling good. His stomach is not feeling good. And so we had to switch drivers, and other people decided to drive,
00:03:43.140 and I'm driving. Everybody's driving, right? Nobody's getting any sleep. I got one hour of sleep that night.
00:03:48.560 And the moment we're getting, we get to a gym because we're showering at gyms.
00:03:51.800 You know, when we're just speaking, we got to go to a gym, change, and boom, go to the place.
00:03:56.600 So we go to a gym, and when you're in an RV with six other people, you got to have some basic rules.
00:04:00.800 One of them is no bathroom. There is no one does any one or number two.
00:04:04.960 I mean, let alone number two, but nothing in our RV. We're not even showering the RV.
00:04:10.200 We found gyms, and we go and shower at the gyms.
00:04:12.920 So this gym we go to is closed. They went out of business.
00:04:15.940 Okay, my buddy didn't yelp it. Okay, it's going out of business.
00:04:18.500 So now we're upset. We haven't eaten anything, nothing. Nothing we've eaten.
00:04:22.620 Long story short, we go to find another gym. We work out. We get in the RV.
00:04:26.640 We barely pull up to Jacksonville by 930. Okay?
00:04:30.420 I haven't eaten anything, and I haven't slept for a day and a half, one hour of sleep.
00:04:36.040 I get up and speak. Next thing you know, I'm just feeling dizzy,
00:04:39.780 and my dizziness is just out of control, and my energy is low.
00:04:43.900 I'm trying to drink some electrolytes with Gatorade and all this stuff, and nothing's happening.
00:04:49.220 So within the break, I do the meeting, and I go downstairs to one of the guys that's with us.
00:04:53.540 I said, look, I'm not feeling good.
00:04:55.440 And he says, what do you want to do?
00:04:56.640 I said, I don't know. I think I'm going to fight it through this, and I'm going to go.
00:04:59.100 I go back up, and I try it again. Nope, not happening.
00:05:01.720 I'm almost about to pass out.
00:05:03.720 So I said, I'm having pains and all this stuff.
00:05:05.800 Let's go to urgent care.
00:05:07.280 So we go to urgent care right off the bat, Saturday afternoon.
00:05:11.500 We go to urgent care, and when we go to urgent care, the doctor comes out.
00:05:18.500 I'm laying out, and they're giving me all this.
00:05:22.020 They're taking my blood, and they're doing all this stuff.
00:05:26.260 They're concerned.
00:05:26.980 You may have chest or heart and all this other stuff, and they did an EKG.
00:05:31.200 They took a bunch of blood.
00:05:32.680 They did a CAT scan.
00:05:34.580 First, they tested to see if I have heart conditions, and then they tested to see maybe I have a blood cloth,
00:05:39.000 and all this stuff they did, right?
00:05:41.220 I mean, two IV bags.
00:05:43.320 They put as if my body sucked the whole IV within 10 seconds.
00:05:47.520 The IV is empty.
00:05:48.340 The guy's looking at it saying, what happened here?
00:05:50.720 Anyways, long story short, they come back.
00:05:52.960 They said, look, nothing happened with you.
00:05:54.780 It's just pure exhaustion.
00:05:57.200 I said, okay, that's fine.
00:05:58.540 So we got the IV.
00:05:59.780 We went back in the RV, and we drove down to Miami.
00:06:02.420 It's another six, seven-hour drive from Jacksonville, and we came down to Miami.
00:06:07.900 We went in and had dinner and ate and all this stuff, and then we went out and had a good time that night
00:06:12.480 with some of the folks who are here with us, and a lot of people will hear this, and we'll say,
00:06:19.120 wow, you know, heat exhaustion.
00:06:21.480 You're really pushing yourself.
00:06:22.520 You should take a break.
00:06:23.340 You should really do this, and this is not healthy.
00:06:26.140 This is not good.
00:06:26.820 Well, let me tell you about my father, what happened to him this week, okay?
00:06:29.260 My dad, it's Father's Day.
00:06:32.740 I have missed, I haven't missed many fathers when I'm around him.
00:06:36.000 If you, my father to me is my best friend in the world.
00:06:39.220 If anybody asks me who's your best friend, I would say my dad's my best friend in the world.
00:06:43.620 I get a call from my sister, my wife, and they're not telling me anything that's going on.
00:06:48.300 So come to find out my dad, he's had a lot of heart attacks, but my dad's intestines have been popping out for the last seven years,
00:06:54.740 where he has to put it back in, and he has to push it back in, and if you're around him, you see it.
00:06:59.380 He always puts it back in with his two hands, and he puts a belt over it, and boom, it pops up again.
00:07:02.800 He's got to push it back in.
00:07:04.200 Very painful, but the doctor said you can't do surgery because if you do, you have heart conditions.
00:07:08.840 You take blood thinners.
00:07:09.940 Your blood's very thin.
00:07:10.900 If we don't do it right and quickly, you may pass away.
00:07:13.080 You've got a 50% chance.
00:07:14.820 Well, this last week, the pop said it's not coming in, and he's not feeling good.
00:07:18.180 So, 74, he goes to the hospital on his own, doesn't call anybody, goes to the hospital on his own.
00:07:26.780 The doctors, right in the emergency room, they said, we can't even do anything about it.
00:07:30.560 There's no chance of saying, do you want to do this or not.
00:07:32.420 They cut him open within 10 minutes.
00:07:34.700 They cut him open, okay?
00:07:36.720 They do the whole surgery on him, 50% chance, not telling anybody, not nobody.
00:07:41.400 I don't get any calls because I'm one of the speaking tours.
00:07:43.440 My wife and my sister don't want to tell me.
00:07:44.940 He definitely doesn't like to tell people his health issues.
00:07:47.140 And then I get a call when he knows he's alive.
00:07:50.700 He calls me the next day saying, you know, my wife calls me, and the way she tells me is,
00:07:55.080 hey, hey, don't get upset.
00:07:56.160 Don't get mad.
00:07:56.760 Don't this, you know.
00:07:58.120 I said, no, I fell by my dad.
00:08:00.380 And boom, this is what happened.
00:08:03.020 And I said, you've got to be kidding me.
00:08:04.080 I said, no, I called my dad.
00:08:05.100 This happened last week.
00:08:06.060 And my heat exhaustion happened yesterday or two days ago.
00:08:09.120 And you sit there and you say, man, you think something happens to you in its heart.
00:08:15.300 A 74-year-old man is pushing the envelope to the highest level.
00:08:20.440 This man works 70, 80 hours a week.
00:08:22.920 You will never see him sitting down or complain about anything.
00:08:26.800 But I will tell you how my dad built me as a leader.
00:08:30.500 My dad always talked about the difficult things in life.
00:08:34.400 He didn't talk about, hey, you're going to be great.
00:08:36.180 People are going to recognize you.
00:08:37.180 It's going to be amazing.
00:08:38.300 I think sometimes developing leaders, we do more the dream.
00:08:40.520 And we ought to do the dream.
00:08:41.500 The dream's got to be talked about regularly.
00:08:43.920 But I don't think we spend more time talking about if we don't do certain things, what life will look like.
00:08:51.400 If you don't do this, life will be very difficult.
00:08:53.980 If you don't do this, your marriage may not work.
00:08:56.420 If you don't do this, you're going to fail in business.
00:08:59.660 If you don't do this, we constantly talk about if you do this, you're going to have this life.
00:09:02.760 If you do this, if you do this.
00:09:03.640 So one of the parts about leadership that I subscribe to eventually is anybody I built is I started talking about all the difficulties of life, everything to anticipate that could happen next, anything, financial difficulties.
00:09:20.180 Someone's going to pass away in your family.
00:09:21.440 It's going to be difficult.
00:09:22.740 A relationship's not going to work out.
00:09:24.420 A bankruptcy.
00:09:25.300 Somebody's not going to pay their rent, their lease, or whatever it may be.
00:09:28.800 Spending more time talking about that than spending time talking about all the great things.
00:09:34.780 Because, I mean, listen, I'm in Miami right now.
00:09:38.700 A bunch of nice buildings.
00:09:40.560 This place is filled with Ferraris, Lamborghinis, Porsches, Phantoms, McLaren's, everywhere.
00:09:46.720 There's beautiful homes.
00:09:48.160 There's 10, 20, 30, 40, 50, 100 million dollar homes here.
00:09:52.200 There are millions of dollar homes all over the world.
00:09:55.580 Cars are everywhere.
00:09:56.620 They don't only make five McLarens or five Ferraris.
00:09:58.840 They make a ton of them.
00:10:00.460 Because people believe they can buy that.
00:10:03.020 But the people that you see making it to the next level, they spend more time thinking about, if I don't do this, this thing could happen in my life also.
00:10:13.720 So, that is what gets them fired up to get up and go do it.
00:10:17.420 Where the other person says, it's okay.
00:10:19.160 He doesn't spend time thinking about that.
00:10:21.200 And a person who's building leaders, they're constantly talking about all the positive things.
00:10:25.800 Not about the stuff that's possible.
00:10:28.000 And the next thing you know, you're not developing a leader.
00:10:30.180 And it's a weak leader.
00:10:31.000 And so, something that happens difficult to them, they don't know how to handle it.
00:10:34.060 They don't know how to manage it on their own.
00:10:35.460 They constantly need to come to you for solving every single one of their problems.
00:10:38.680 And you realize, I did not build a leader.
00:10:40.620 If your phone, you know, rings off the hook with 100, 200 times a day with people wanting you to solve everybody's problems, you have not built leaders.
00:10:49.680 Okay?
00:10:50.780 If you speak to people that are going through problems and you try to solve everybody's problems on your own, you're still relying on everybody to call you to solve everyone's problems.
00:11:02.500 You still haven't built a leader.
00:11:03.740 But if you teach them how to process and the possibilities and the options and feed it back to them and they're going through it in their own mind and they start trusting their own intuition, their own judgment, their own way of doing things, now you're possibly building a leader.
00:11:20.240 Possibly building a leader because they can still make the big mistakes in business and fail miserably and be out of business.
00:11:26.520 And so, leadership isn't just about talking about all the great things.
00:11:35.520 It's talking about all the tough things and preparing people to anticipate what's next.
00:11:39.340 Meaning, and there's got to be timing in it and some common sense in it where it's not, I'm not going to sit there with my three-year-old son, Tico, and tell him, hey, one day, you know, you and your wife are going to have to pay the bills together.
00:11:50.200 No, but I'm going to tell him about, hey, kid, you're going to go to school, a big boy is going to bully you.
00:11:54.440 I just hope you realize this is going to happen.
00:11:56.140 Not all kids are going to like you.
00:11:58.500 There's going to be days where you may get into a fight.
00:12:00.580 A kid may push you around.
00:12:01.680 Somebody may say something you may not like.
00:12:03.680 That's okay.
00:12:04.360 This is part of life.
00:12:05.200 It's normal.
00:12:05.660 I'm going to teach him those things.
00:12:07.680 You know, when he turns 10 years old, 12 years old, 14 years old, hey, girl's going to break your heart. 0.99
00:12:11.040 You may break a girl's heart.
00:12:12.780 Breaking heart is part of life.
00:12:14.120 It's normal.
00:12:14.700 It's going to be hard.
00:12:15.380 It's going to be difficult.
00:12:16.120 We will forever remember it.
00:12:17.780 It's okay.
00:12:18.420 When a person gets a job, hey, you may get, if you do this, you may get fired.
00:12:22.640 If you do that, you may, if you don't hit your quota, you may be replaced by somebody else.
00:12:26.820 So it's always timing on where they're at to talk about the issue that's next for them and challenging them to not make any excuses and say, oh, my God, I'm going through such tough times and all.
00:12:35.840 The more you take that away, the more you talk about the possibilities and challenges and saying, you still ought to push the limits because exhaustion, you know how many times this has happened in my life?
00:12:44.840 This isn't the first time I was hospitalized for exhaustion.
00:12:47.560 I just don't need to advertise it.
00:12:49.800 And, yes, sometimes you question yourself as a leader.
00:12:52.100 Say, oh, my God, maybe I'm pushing toward.
00:12:53.200 Maybe that's the weak, that's our insecurities, our average identity, our low self-image that we've had most of our lives.
00:13:01.060 And you're going too hard.
00:13:01.860 You're pushing too hard.
00:13:03.040 And then you hear all the great ones that have always pushed past that.
00:13:06.060 And your body is created as a mechanism that's going to tell you, hey, you are dehydrated.
00:13:12.100 Drink some water.
00:13:13.720 You need to go get a couple IVs.
00:13:15.580 You need to go to a physical.
00:13:17.120 You need to constantly check it.
00:13:18.360 You need to exercise.
00:13:19.380 You need to stop eating that meat.
00:13:20.720 You need to stop eating the sugar.
00:13:22.380 You're eating too much.
00:13:23.520 And you're going to be taught that.
00:13:24.940 And then from there, your body is going to tell you stop doing that and you adjust towards that.
00:13:28.560 But building leaders, there's a reason why most people quit building leaders because it's not everybody's job.
00:13:35.820 Not only it's not because it's not everybody's job.
00:13:37.500 Not everybody teaches people on how to be a leader because they keep telling them all the good stuff.
00:13:43.640 And they spend 10% of their time talking about the difficult, bad stuff.
00:13:47.340 And they spend 90% of their time talking about the good stuff.
00:13:49.620 And that pendulum needs to start off with a lot of the good first and maybe less bad.
00:13:55.080 And then eventually, the bigger they get, the more of a successful entrepreneur you get.
00:13:58.860 It's got to be more, hey, you could make one big mistake and ruin it your entire empire.
00:14:03.580 You can become too arrogant and sabotage your own mind, lose everything you got.
00:14:07.520 Okay?
00:14:07.860 You can become cocky, get unaligned, and next thing you know, you lose people.
00:14:11.440 You can start thinking it's all you.
00:14:12.820 Nobody ever helped you out and then nobody wants to ever help you out again.
00:14:16.220 That's the stuff that you've got to talk about more.
00:14:18.280 And they'll generally, if you're building a strong leader yourself, that relationship with the leader and the potential leader,
00:14:23.580 there needs to be a lot of constant friction backed up by love.
00:14:27.540 But there needs to be constant friction.
00:14:28.920 If there's no friction, you're not building a leader.
00:14:31.100 There's got to be somewhat of a level of friction as you're building the leader.
00:14:34.260 Anyways, I can go talking about this for hours.
00:14:36.360 That's my thoughts on how to build leaders.
00:14:37.900 Thanks, everybody, for listening.
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00:14:59.600 With that being said, have a great day today.
00:15:01.340 Take care, everybody.
00:15:02.060 Bye-bye.