Valuetainment - Episode 245： How To Break the Curse of Your Limiting Beliefs

00:00:00.980 30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put em up, reach

00:00:09.220 the sky, turn the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the

00:00:16.220 underdog.

00:00:17.160 I'm Patrick Bedeby, host of IT, and today's topic's gonna be a little bit emotional for

00:00:21.000 you, a little bit different for you, and I hope you listen to the whole thing, because

00:00:23.900 I had to go through this many, many years ago, it's talking about what you could do

00:00:27.640 to break the curse of your current limiting beliefs that are holding you back in life.

00:00:32.000 Few things you gotta know about life, right?

00:00:33.820 We got issues with faith that we struggle with, we have family, friendship, relationship, marriage,

00:00:40.360 we have finance, business, health, and politics.

00:00:42.280 Now, on each one of these, you may have a limiting belief, because think about it, there are people,

00:00:48.680 you ever hear people that, you know, will brag about the fact that they are, you know, very

00:00:54.780 good in their health, and they have six packs, and they have good bodies, and they work out

00:00:58.700 seven times a week, and you see them showing their legs, and they do all this stuff, and

00:01:02.460 they're in such good shape, right?

00:01:04.180 No money in the bank account, no good personal life, no good marital life, not a good faith,

00:01:10.120 but they have an incredible body.

00:01:11.640 Why is that?

00:01:12.580 Well, because they don't have limiting beliefs in their health, but they do have limiting

00:01:17.120 beliefs in other areas of your life.

00:01:19.140 I don't know what your limiting belief is in what area, but I promise you there's a limiting

00:01:24.040 belief that's holding you back in each one of the areas.

00:01:26.900 Let's give you an idea.

00:01:28.340 One could be faith.

00:01:29.520 You could be somebody that grew up in a church, and I hear this happen all the time.

00:01:34.080 The pastor gets up one day and says, you know, I've been having an affair with somebody in

00:01:37.540 the church, da-da-da-da-da, and I'm stepping down, and all of a sudden you say, I will never

00:01:42.660 go to a church ever again.

00:01:44.180 That is a limiting belief, because an event took place to you when you were 16 years old,

00:01:48.560 and your parents were so disappointed, and you were devastated, and now you don't believe

00:01:52.580 in God because you based everything of your faith was a vertical relationship, and you

00:01:57.440 were disappointed by horizontal because somebody around you let you down.

00:02:00.420 So that is a limiting belief, and you need to crack the code to it.

00:02:03.760 So you don't believe there's a God, or you're an atheist, you're an agnostic, or whatever.

00:02:07.560 Our churches just want to make money, because I remember one time we gave this pastor money,

00:02:11.220 and he came on a Bentley, and he came, it doesn't matter.

00:02:13.580 I don't know your limiting belief, but if you have a faith issue, you have a limiting

00:02:17.640 belief here that you can address.

00:02:18.680 And if only it's important to you, you'll be able to crack the code to your family,

00:02:22.440 friendship, relationship, marriage.

00:02:23.520 So let's look at that one.

00:02:25.040 You may be afraid of having kids.

00:02:26.520 Why?

00:02:26.940 Because your mom or dad wasn't a good mom, and she left, or he left, and you're afraid

00:02:30.600 that if you have a kid, you're going to be like that, and it's going to hurt you, and

00:02:33.720 you're afraid to have kids, because you were hit and abused when you were a kid growing

00:02:37.000 up, and you're afraid that maybe you're going to do that, and no one knows about that,

00:02:39.680 but it's a fear that you've been arrested, and it's a prison.

00:02:42.060 No one knows it.

00:02:43.120 Relationship.

00:02:43.480 Your parents got a divorce.

00:02:44.500 You're afraid of getting married, because if you do get married, what if somebody gets

00:02:48.740 a divorce, or if you're a woman, and every time you date a man, and all of a sudden you

00:02:52.340 realize this is a good guy, they could be married, you cheat on him, and you go with

00:02:55.280 somebody else, because you don't want to break, you don't want it to get too serious, because

00:02:58.360 what if you get serious, and then 17 years later, when your parents were married, your

00:03:01.980 father left and broke, all that stuff.

00:03:05.240 It's so deep, but it is a limiting belief that's holding you back.

00:03:09.020 If it is, that's the area.

00:03:10.900 Friendships.

00:03:11.260 You have a hard time keeping friends, because one of your friends that was your best friend

00:03:14.780 ended up dating your boyfriend at that time, and you have a hard time trusting friendships,

00:03:19.300 or you had a father that left, so you have a hard time trusting men all your life, or

00:03:23.360 you had a mother that said all these negative things about you, and she doesn't believe in

00:03:27.180 you, and all that stuff, so you have a hard time working with other women in your life, 1.00

00:03:30.440 because there was something in your life that's a limiting belief that's stopping you from

00:03:34.380 working with those people in the right relationship.

00:03:37.040 Marriage could be the same thing, lots of them.

00:03:38.520 Finance.

00:03:39.880 You grew up in a family where your father worked very hard, and all of a sudden, he lost everything

00:03:43.500 that he had.

00:03:44.020 It was devastated, lived in three different homes, so you think money sucks, and anybody

00:03:47.120 that works that hard should have stayed home, either my dad won't.

00:03:50.060 That's a limiting belief.

00:03:51.040 You think money's terrible.

00:03:52.180 You have a family that you grew up poor, and you saw your mom and dad struggle over money,

00:03:56.260 so you're afraid of money, your scarcity.

00:03:58.600 Every time you go, you think you're going to lose everything you have, so you hoard all your

00:04:01.220 money, you cover all your money, because that's a limiting belief that you've been

00:04:04.460 living with for a while.

00:04:05.500 Unless you crack the code, you're going to live with that forever, money.

00:04:09.520 You either don't deserve it, you make $180,000 a year, but you really only think you're paying

00:04:13.720 your 60, so you're being overpaid, so you take that 120 that you're making, and you waste

00:04:17.800 it on cards, jewelry, everything, and three years later, you lose everything again, because

00:04:21.000 your limiting belief is a 60.

00:04:23.260 Man, I'm getting overpaid.

00:04:24.360 These people don't even know.

00:04:25.120 I'm not worth 180.

00:04:26.400 There is a limiting belief problem there.

00:04:29.000 Another one is health, right?

00:04:30.320 You grew up in a family, people generally didn't take care of their health, so you kind

00:04:35.440 of will eat whatever it is, cheesecakes, sweets, late night, you don't work out, you don't exercise,

00:04:41.400 your parents didn't work out, nobody exercised, somebody did, somebody got hurt, exercise is

00:04:45.880 not good, all this other stuff, so you don't exercise.

00:04:48.500 Politics.

00:04:49.580 You hate Republicans, because your parents hate Republicans.

00:04:52.540 Because a president that was a president 28 years ago, that did one law, or one thing

00:04:57.940 that they changed, and your father says, I hate Ronald Reagan, because Ronald Reagan

00:05:01.960 wasn't fair to immigrants. 0.83

00:05:03.160 He's the worst president of all time.

00:05:04.400 We're not Republicans in my family. 0.92

00:05:06.260 So my family, we're Hispanic, we're Democrats.

00:05:08.900 We're African American, we're Democrats.

00:05:11.300 We're Middle Eastern, we're Democrats.

00:05:12.920 That's what we are.

00:05:13.800 Or, you know, I grew up in a family, and I saw my mom or my dad, they were on welfare all

00:05:18.500 the time, always Section 8, taking advantage of everything, and, you know, they weren't

00:05:22.320 really working, they could have worked, I cannot stand the communistic system, I get

00:05:26.100 everything about communism, because everybody abuses the system to get money, ta-ta-ta-ta.

00:05:30.200 I just cannot stand that.

00:05:31.900 I don't want to have anything to do with Democrats, because I'm a Republican, or you grew up in

00:05:36.280 a family that there was so much fight about politics, you don't even want to talk about

00:05:39.400 politics, because you're afraid of it.

00:05:41.180 There is a limiting belief with something to do with politics, to you.

00:05:45.720 If you don't have that challenge, don't worry about it.

00:05:47.860 But if you do, there's a limiting belief, and what is it?

00:05:50.260 You've got to crack the code in that, if it's important to you.

00:05:52.620 So now, the challenge with limiting beliefs is this.

00:05:57.900 Most of the time, there is the real truth, right?

00:06:01.580 The real truth of whatever one of these beliefs that you may have, and then there is your truth.

00:06:07.560 Your truth is not the real truth.

00:06:10.560 Your truth is what you have been self-sabotaging yourself, you've been self-sabotaging yourself

00:06:16.160 all your life, that has become a truth.

00:06:19.220 But it's not the truth.

00:06:20.580 It is your truth.

00:06:23.000 You know, if you keep telling yourself a lie over and over and over and over and over again,

00:06:26.740 you could believe that lie.

00:06:28.320 But it's true to you, even though it's a lie in reality.

00:06:32.160 If I tell myself, two plus two, the real answer is four.

00:06:36.100 But I say two plus two is seven.

00:06:38.700 And I keep saying that for 20, 30 years.

00:06:40.600 Guess what?

00:06:40.960 I really believe two plus two is seven.

00:06:42.640 But it's not the real truth.

00:06:44.500 So what does this mean to you?

00:06:45.600 So what is your truth about money?

00:06:47.340 You've got to write it down.

00:06:48.700 What is your truth about business?

00:06:50.620 You think businessmen are all greedy?

00:06:52.160 Well, you're never going to yet have money.

00:06:54.040 You're never going to have money.

00:06:55.080 You think rich people are rich because they took advantage of somebody else?

00:06:57.920 If you really believe that, you're never going to have money.

00:07:00.580 If you think all men cheat, men are going to cheat in your life.

00:07:03.640 If you keep thinking all men cheat.

00:07:05.020 If you think, you know, women are this, you're not going to find that girl unless if you crack 1.00

00:07:10.360 that code and stop self-sabotaging yourself and hurting yourself on the way of your life.

00:07:15.440 Now, let's continue.

00:07:16.820 Okay?

00:07:17.240 So now, next.

00:07:18.660 Limiting belief statements.

00:07:20.000 Typically, a limiting belief statement is a very simple statement that you make.

00:07:24.460 You'll typically say something like, I can't do X because of Y.

00:07:29.120 I can't get married because my parents da-da-da-da-da-da. 1.00

00:07:34.440 I can't become a millionaire because all rich people suck. 0.99

00:07:38.440 I can't go out there and do this because of da-da-da-da-da. 0.99

00:07:41.280 Limiting belief statement.

00:07:42.820 Another one is, I'm not good enough, right?

00:07:45.040 I don't believe in God.

00:07:46.940 I don't believe in marriage really exists.

00:07:49.240 I don't believe in, you know, keeping a strong diet.

00:07:53.420 I think you should eat everything.

00:07:54.500 I don't believe in having my finances in order.

00:07:56.480 I don't believe in saving because you live once so you should spend all your money because

00:07:59.680 that's what your family does and you should spend all your money because you don't believe

00:08:02.220 in that, right?

00:08:03.380 I don't need anyone's help.

00:08:04.580 That's a very big limiting belief.

00:08:05.980 People that think, I don't need anybody's help.

00:08:07.560 I'm a girl.

00:08:08.480 I don't need a man in my life.

00:08:09.740 I don't need anybody's help.

00:08:10.880 Yeah, you're probably not going to find a man that wants to stay married to you because 1.00

00:08:13.240 he wants to feel needed.

00:08:15.040 I'm a guy.

00:08:15.700 I don't need any woman's help. 1.00

00:08:17.060 I'm a man.

00:08:17.520 You're probably not going to find a woman that is going to stay with you because she also wants 0.99

00:08:21.400 to feel needed.

00:08:22.360 I don't need anybody's help in business.

00:08:24.040 I can do it all on my own.

00:08:25.100 You're probably not going to find people that want to be in business with you.

00:08:28.260 I don't need it.

00:08:29.240 It doesn't matter.

00:08:30.140 If you have a statement, they say, I don't need anyone's help.

00:08:32.460 That's a limiting belief.

00:08:33.280 Another one, it's not my fault.

00:08:35.180 A limiting belief.

00:08:35.960 It's not my fault.

00:08:36.320 I didn't do it.

00:08:37.380 He did it.

00:08:38.080 She did it.

00:08:38.580 It's not my fault.

00:08:39.200 It's my wife.

00:08:39.640 It's my husband, my mom, my dad, my brother, my sister.

00:08:42.000 I had a conversation with somebody on a conference call.

00:08:44.820 What's today?

00:08:45.440 Today's what?

00:08:46.060 Wednesday?

00:08:46.840 Tuesday morning.

00:08:47.580 I had a conversation with somebody and somebody said something to me on the conference call and

00:08:51.260 I said, listen, I totally understand that that may be a truth.

00:08:55.820 But what I like to do with my life that I had to graduate this back in 2004 is to understand.

00:09:02.180 Instead of saying it's not my fault, it's to understand.

00:09:04.720 What can I do with this situation myself to have improved it?

00:09:08.740 Do I have to voice my opinion?

00:09:10.540 Do I have to say something?

00:09:11.360 Do I have to act?

00:09:11.960 Do I have to look at my choices?

00:09:13.400 But if I sit there and I let it happen and I don't do something myself, you can't say it's

00:09:17.620 that person's fault.

00:09:18.420 It's your fault.

00:09:18.980 So it's responsibility.

00:09:20.000 That's a limiting belief.

00:09:21.260 What if I fail?

00:09:22.140 What if it doesn't work?

00:09:23.000 What if this marriage doesn't work?

00:09:24.080 What if I can't do it?

00:09:24.840 What if this limiting belief statements, if you start from there, a positive one instead

00:09:29.520 of a limiting belief, maybe, you know, a imagine if I could, well, what if, imagine

00:09:34.420 if I could make it?

00:09:35.340 Imagine if this, sometimes we go back to, what if I fail?

00:09:37.840 What if it doesn't work?

00:09:38.520 What if I'm not good enough?

00:09:39.180 What if I'm not smart enough?

00:09:40.740 Limiting belief.

00:09:41.620 What if I'm not?

00:09:42.780 What if I'm not?

00:09:43.880 What if I'm not?

00:09:44.920 What if I'm not?

00:09:46.120 Right?

00:09:46.420 Those are limiting belief statements.

00:09:47.880 Make a list of some of your limiting belief statements that you have.

00:09:50.140 Now, next one.

00:09:53.000 We've heard this in other places before, generational curses, that whether they are true or not,

00:10:01.580 okay, let's just say they're not true.

00:10:03.900 Okay, that's great.

00:10:05.120 Maybe you need to tell yourself that.

00:10:06.500 But sometimes people tend to follow the exact footsteps of their mom or dad, whether it's

00:10:14.260 good or bad.

00:10:14.980 Sometimes the bad we tend to continuously do because it's a generational curse that keeps

00:10:19.880 continuously happening.

00:10:20.960 I may say, Patrick, you know, that's generational curse stuff is not the truth.

00:10:24.160 Really?

00:10:24.820 Hmm.

00:10:25.620 Well, if you look at the generational curse, if you look at a kid that has played ball,

00:10:31.800 you'll generally see the kid may also play ball and the father played ball and continuously

00:10:36.080 will go down, right?

00:10:37.560 Steph Curry, his father played, his brother played, Eli Manning, Peyton Manning, you know,

00:10:43.200 Archie, is it Archie Manning?

00:10:45.160 Archie Manning.

00:10:46.360 There's a generational trend there.

00:10:49.160 That's not a curse.

00:10:49.880 That's a trend there.

00:10:51.180 But you also see it with some curse that takes place.

00:10:53.740 Holding grudges.

00:10:54.520 If you notice people that hold a grudge heavily, there's typically somebody in that lineage

00:11:00.620 of their family that may hold a grudge.

00:11:04.400 They may have had a relative or a mom or a father.

00:11:07.640 I won't talk to that person ever again.

00:11:09.980 That's holding a grudge.

00:11:10.980 But there's something there.

00:11:12.140 So why are you holding a grudge?

00:11:13.560 So you may ask yourself, who my family held grudge?

00:11:15.460 Why am I continuing this holding grudge?

00:11:18.100 Do I want my kids to also keep holding grudges?

00:11:20.880 It's not really a big deal to hold a grudge.

00:11:22.700 Well, do you want to go 17 years without talking to your brother?

00:11:26.200 Do you want to go 12 years without talking to that best friend of yours that you guys were

00:11:29.560 best of friends?

00:11:30.920 He's successful.

00:11:31.760 You're successful.

00:11:32.520 It's not like you guys have negative habits.

00:11:34.480 Both of you are successful.

00:11:35.480 Why aren't you talking to that person?

00:11:37.180 I don't want to talk to this person.

00:11:38.440 I don't want to talk to that person.

00:11:40.120 That's holding grudges with people.

00:11:42.140 Next, money.

00:11:43.400 That's a big generational curse.

00:11:45.320 You'll notice a trend.

00:11:46.880 If you write the lineage, father, grandfather, how would they financially?

00:11:50.700 Are you continuing that tradition as well, financially, good or bad?

00:11:55.360 Why?

00:11:56.060 Why do you think you also have to continue that?

00:11:58.960 This is not to blame them at all.

00:12:01.000 This is that eventually on the generational curse, the good news is it can be stopped, 0.99

00:12:04.620 and it's normally stopped by one person that becomes the hero for the future generations

00:12:09.400 of the family when that one person decides to stop a generational curse.

00:12:13.140 So your spending habits, how many of it is similar to your mom or your dad?

00:12:16.740 Do you hoard?

00:12:17.800 Do you do this?

00:12:18.340 Where did that come from?

00:12:19.640 You've got to ask those questions.

00:12:21.460 Alcohol.

00:12:22.240 Sometimes you see a son drinks, father drank, grandfather drank.

00:12:26.280 Alcohol.

00:12:26.860 Come home.

00:12:27.320 I'm going to drink.

00:12:27.940 I'm going to do this, and it's not a big deal initially.

00:12:29.720 And next thing you know, two beers, three beers, then hard liquor, then every day,

00:12:33.340 then all the time. 0.99

00:12:34.460 Then it's just making a fool out of yourself. 0.98

00:12:36.380 You lost the job, lose relationships. 0.99

00:12:38.180 You do all these other things.

00:12:39.620 It's a generational curse that could be taking place.

00:12:42.600 Breaking the law.

00:12:43.300 Sometimes you see, hey, my father's in prison, my brother's in prison, my grandfather's in

00:12:49.180 prison, so you're going to prison.

00:12:50.480 Why do you need to continue that as well?

00:12:51.840 That's a generational curse that you're continuing. 0.99

00:12:54.360 Sex. 0.99

00:12:56.320 Married, yet having five girlfriends. 0.86

00:12:58.540 Okay?

00:12:59.180 You look after your father did that.

00:13:00.660 Yes, that may be a generational curse that's passing down.

00:13:04.000 Right?

00:13:04.340 Same with one mother. 0.96

00:13:05.880 Your mother maybe would hold it back from your father and say, you know, I haven't had 0.91

00:13:10.580 sex with your father for six months. 0.86

00:13:12.300 So you do the same to your husband. 0.96

00:13:13.660 That doesn't help the marriage out.

00:13:15.440 Right?

00:13:16.120 You know, I don't care if this, this, this, this, that.

00:13:18.100 We're just not going to do this.

00:13:19.520 That's also something that could be passed on because you saw one of the behaviors of

00:13:23.300 somebody, so you're continuing that as well.

00:13:25.460 It may not be the real truth, but it's your truth.

00:13:28.420 Drugs.

00:13:28.940 See how common that is?

00:13:30.840 Smoking pot.

00:13:31.900 They smoke pot.

00:13:33.100 Ecstasy.

00:13:33.840 Coke.

00:13:34.180 Hard drugs.

00:13:35.620 Drugs.

00:13:36.080 It doesn't matter.

00:13:36.800 You'll see that trend taking place as well.

00:13:39.340 Next one is racism.

00:13:40.540 You see a lot of that.

00:13:41.420 That's a generational curse.

00:13:42.740 And let me tell you what I mean by racism. 0.89

00:13:44.840 It's, you know, you have to marry a Hispanic person because we're Hispanic. 0.72

00:13:50.940 You have to marry somebody that's also Hispanic. 0.98

00:13:52.660 Okay? 0.99

00:13:53.400 We don't marry white people. 1.00

00:13:55.200 We don't marry black people. 1.00

00:13:56.460 We don't marry Middle Easterners. 1.00

00:13:57.660 We don't marry this. 0.93

00:13:58.900 That's a generational curse.

00:14:00.400 I grew up in a family that, hey, you know, you have to marry somebody that's a Middle Eastern.

00:14:04.840 I married a Caucasian girl from Great Britain.

00:14:07.640 That's why I married, right?

00:14:09.160 And, you know, that didn't look at, hey, all my friends, oh my goodness, he married an American.

00:14:15.040 He married somebody.

00:14:15.840 You should have seen the reaction of my friends at our wedding. 0.93

00:14:18.260 You got all Middle Eastern hairy people on one side. 1.00

00:14:20.540 You got all these Caucasian blue-eyed, green-eyed people on the other side. 1.00

00:14:23.360 They're looking at each other.

00:14:24.280 There's no way in the world this is going to work out.

00:14:25.920 That is a generational curse of racism that could take place.

00:14:29.940 It could be slight.

00:14:30.860 It's not even a big deal.

00:14:32.580 But many times I heard somebody the other day say, I don't like working with white people.

00:14:37.960 You know, because I believe the white man has this and white man has that and white man has this.

00:14:41.800 Well, that's probably going to be passed on to your kid.

00:14:44.320 You know, white people have been suppressing all this. 0.99

00:14:46.160 I don't like working with black people because black people this and black people that. 1.00

00:14:49.600 And you see what they're the crime and all this others. 0.99

00:14:52.660 I don't want to work with Hispanics because they just want to do this. 1.00

00:14:55.140 I don't want to work with you. 0.97

00:14:57.120 You may not even know it because every time we say racism, the first thing we think about is African-American.

00:15:01.200 That's not the case at all.

00:15:02.660 It has nothing to do with African-American.

00:15:04.700 And it has to do with a complete different thing that you may have.

00:15:08.340 I grew up, you know, you look at the Russians, Turkish, you know, all religions.

00:15:14.040 Oh, you don't marry this religion. 1.00

00:15:15.420 You don't marry that. 0.98

00:15:16.180 That a part of that has to do with racism.

00:15:19.640 And then obviously abuse.

00:15:21.860 And we're talking about abuse, tongue.

00:15:23.860 It's either verbal abuse where you saw somebody lashing out on your wife, your father lashed out on your mother.

00:15:32.460 So you do that to your wife or you saw your mother lash out on your father and you do that or your father lashed out on you.

00:15:38.940 You're doing that as well.

00:15:39.940 You know, sometimes this is more painful than a pau-pau. 1.00

00:15:43.760 This is sometimes a lot more painful than you're giving your kid a pau-pau because this stays.

00:15:47.940 This is a very, the tongue is a, it's a very powerful weapon.

00:15:53.000 Believe me, it's a lot more powerful than a baseball bat.

00:15:56.340 A lot more powerful than any of that stuff.

00:15:58.300 Because a baseball bat, you get a wound, you get over it.

00:16:00.560 This stays right here and right here.

00:16:02.540 That leaves a scar.

00:16:03.580 So you've got to write down what statements have been made to you that have been lingering with you from your mother or your father.

00:16:09.580 I had to do this 11, 12 years ago to experience that.

00:16:13.040 And was that the real truth?

00:16:14.720 Or was that her statement?

00:16:16.260 Was that his statement?

00:16:17.760 Right?

00:16:18.280 Or is it my truth?

00:16:19.880 And that's not the real truth.

00:16:21.080 Right?

00:16:21.900 And then the other type is domestic.

00:16:23.400 You know, physical abuse.

00:16:24.380 You've seen some, you know, fathers abuse the wife or mother abuses the husband.

00:16:29.260 And there's fights and abuse and physical.

00:16:30.940 And you see that and a kid grows up thinking that's normal.

00:16:34.240 Every one of these can be addressed.

00:16:37.040 By the way, let me add something else to this as well.

00:16:39.380 That kind of has to do with it.

00:16:40.620 It's slightly different.

00:16:42.100 It's your personal vice management.

00:16:46.800 And I'll explain to you what I mean by this.

00:16:48.420 Most people don't, if right now, think about the most embarrassing thing you've done on the last month that no one knows about.

00:16:58.440 Think about that one thing.

00:17:00.220 That you have a vice that no one knows about.

00:17:02.020 But if that vice all of a sudden became public right now on Facebook and social media, how would you and I react?

00:17:08.040 Embarrassed.

00:17:08.740 Right?

00:17:09.600 You have no idea how many of us are being held back by a vice.

00:17:15.020 It's a secret.

00:17:16.680 No one knows it.

00:17:17.920 What is that vice?

00:17:19.580 A secret habit that you have that no one knows you do. 0.95

00:17:22.980 A certain drug, alcohol, a mistress, online porn.

00:17:27.860 It doesn't matter what it is. 0.99

00:17:29.040 You have a vice that you're absolutely lazy.

00:17:32.860 No one knows about it. 0.85

00:17:34.660 You sleep in.

00:17:35.940 You slouch.

00:17:37.420 No one knows about it.

00:17:38.800 You binge.

00:17:39.880 You eat.

00:17:40.680 And no one knows about it.

00:17:41.880 Late at night, no one's right.

00:17:42.720 Just sit down and eat cheesecake, chocolate, ice cream.

00:17:45.140 I don't know how I gain weight.

00:17:46.700 It's a vice.

00:17:47.700 No one knows about it.

00:17:49.060 Listen, you can only fool the world for so long with your vice until the vice catches up to all of us.

00:17:55.960 All of us.

00:17:56.460 And by the way, don't think for a moment there are these perfect people that don't have any vice.

00:18:01.300 No one is free of this.

00:18:03.280 Like this is not something that the perfect church-going people don't struggle with.

00:18:07.200 No, no, no, no, no.

00:18:09.000 Every one of us struggles with this.

00:18:12.600 Everyone's closet has some skeletons in it, except some have a lot of skeletons.

00:18:16.980 Some have a few, but everyone's got skeletons in it.

00:18:20.320 The sooner you address your vice and you drop those two vices or one you're dealing with,

00:18:26.000 it kind of sets you free a little bit more to get away from a curse that's holding you back.

00:18:31.720 But you've got to sit down and do this exercise and find out for yourself.

00:18:35.220 Let me continue.

00:18:36.400 So now, the question becomes, so what do I do?

00:18:40.100 What do I do this whole thing here that I'm dealing with?

00:18:43.200 But these are a few things I would tell you.

00:18:44.380 One, you've got to be real with yourself.

00:18:48.100 You cannot BS yourself.

00:18:50.200 This is no bullshitting here with this here.

00:18:52.800 You cannot do that.

00:18:54.500 You cannot sit here and tell yourself, oh, I'm okay, everything's okay.

00:18:58.100 It's not.

00:18:59.620 If you fool yourself, we can fool people for the rest of our lives.

00:19:04.520 The most difficult person to fool is the man in the mirror.

00:19:07.700 And let me tell you, the man in the mirror is the only person in your life you're going

00:19:12.780 to have to live with for the rest of your life.

00:19:14.920 Now your wife, now your husband, now your kids, now your mom, now your dad, now your best friend.

00:19:19.760 Nobody.

00:19:20.520 Only the man in the mirror.

00:19:22.700 And a man in the mirror does not hold back because he or she knows everything about you.

00:19:28.400 Everything about you.

00:19:29.940 The sooner you're real with yourself, the sooner you're liberated.

00:19:32.560 You know how many people live with handcuffs and shackles that are non-existent, but they're

00:19:36.340 holding them back?

00:19:37.240 You know how many people?

00:19:38.760 Billions of people.

00:19:40.160 These are non-existent, imaginary handcuffs and shackles simply because we don't want to

00:19:45.040 be real with ourselves and say, I have some issues I've got to address, man.

00:19:49.020 I've got to work on some of these issues that I'm getting.

00:19:51.540 You need to get frustrated with yourself.

00:19:53.560 You need to get emotional with yourself.

00:19:55.460 You need to cry, possibly.

00:19:57.420 You need to feel the pain.

00:19:59.400 Those things need to happen.

00:20:00.880 There is no intention of this, of, you know, you really need to feel that emotion in your

00:20:06.220 belly while you're going through this.

00:20:08.260 There's got to be some annoyance, some emotional, some pain, some frustration being felt.

00:20:12.180 That's number one.

00:20:13.280 First things first.

00:20:14.360 Second thing, take a time out.

00:20:17.060 When I say time out, I'm not talking two weeks off, a week off, or a weekend off.

00:20:20.480 You need a day away from everybody. 0.99

00:20:22.680 Turn this damn thing off sometimes, right? 0.99

00:20:27.320 Take a day and turn this thing off. 0.99

00:20:28.880 Everything.

00:20:29.540 Not just notifications.

00:20:30.960 Turn it off.

00:20:32.120 Get away. 0.73

00:20:33.700 Sit down.

00:20:34.760 A time out with you and you.

00:20:37.180 I'm not talking spouse or anybody.

00:20:39.100 You.

00:20:40.380 The only person that you've got to figure out to crack the code with is you.

00:20:43.780 Get away from everybody.

00:20:45.000 Number one, no BS.

00:20:45.760 Number two, take good time out.

00:20:47.240 Number three, go on the website.

00:20:49.320 I had to go through these questions 11 years ago, 12 years ago, and I've talked about this

00:20:54.720 over and over and over again.

00:20:55.720 Go take the ultimate self-discovery questionnaire.

00:20:58.880 It's free.

00:20:59.560 You don't pay for it.

00:21:01.220 It is free.

00:21:02.080 Go on my website, PatrickBetDavid.com.

00:21:05.360 Take the ultimate self-discovery questionnaire.

00:21:07.240 Let me just put it to you this way.

00:21:08.220 I launched this questionnaire a few months ago.

00:21:10.780 The first three months, 300 people took it.

00:21:14.040 Do you know how many people have taken the last two months?

00:21:16.480 26,000.

00:21:17.560 25,000 and change have taken it the last two months from 130 countries.

00:21:22.620 And if I showed you the amount of emails we're getting with emotional emails, you'd be amazed

00:21:26.680 by it.

00:21:27.440 But go take that questionnaire with your time out.

00:21:30.220 Get emotional.

00:21:31.080 Get frustrated.

00:21:32.420 Last one, the book, Go Get the 25 Loss for Doing Impossible.

00:21:36.160 Here's a copy of it.

00:21:36.920 Look, I don't make money on these things.

00:21:39.940 I may make a buck or two on these books.

00:21:41.820 I'm not selling this book to make a living.

00:21:44.660 I run a financial firm.

00:21:45.700 Listen, we had somebody from Facebook that came today.

00:21:48.800 People are sneaking up in our office right now, left and right.

00:21:51.740 Every day, people are coming from Korea, from all the parts of the world that are wanting

00:21:54.980 to come and visit us just to sit down and talk business.

00:21:57.780 Malaysia, Dubai, South America, they're just coming here. 1.00

00:22:00.320 They're finding out our address and they're just coming and visiting us.

00:22:03.000 I run a financial firm.

00:22:04.200 I don't need to make another dollar or two on a book.

00:22:06.700 But this book is a simple book I'm recommending to you.

00:22:09.220 I wrote this book, 25 Loss for Doing the Impossible.

00:22:12.300 The reason why this goes with this is because you've got three phases you need to go through.

00:22:15.780 Number one, you've got to recreate yourself.

00:22:18.160 Number two, you've got to identify your cause.

00:22:20.640 Number three, you've got to go make history.

00:22:22.920 Specific, it's in this book.

00:22:24.680 You can buy it on Amazon, Barnes & Noble.

00:22:26.360 It's all over the place.

00:22:27.080 You can find it.

00:22:28.240 Go get the book.

00:22:29.000 So one, no BS, be real.

00:22:31.700 Two, take a time out.

00:22:32.600 Three, ultimate self-discovery questioner.

00:22:34.100 Four, read that book.

00:22:34.800 You can read it in one sitting.

00:22:36.320 And five, once you go through that, make a big, bold move.

00:22:41.500 Shock everybody.

00:22:43.160 Change the look of your eyes.

00:22:44.720 Let people see a new set of eyes because you have finally faced yourself and you've addressed

00:22:49.880 your curse, you've addressed your vice, you've addressed your issues.

00:22:52.700 You are no longer embarrassed of yourself.

00:22:56.300 You no longer have nothing to hide.

00:22:58.620 You have breaking the handcuffs and shackles.

00:23:01.380 You're free.

00:23:02.840 You are free.

00:23:04.200 And guess what?

00:23:05.680 The good news is tomorrow's a new day.

00:23:09.220 And guess what else is the good news?

00:23:11.480 Tomorrow's going to be an incredible day.

00:23:14.600 Moving on, this year is going to be an incredible year.

00:23:17.900 My life's going to be an incredible life.

00:23:20.700 I'm going to have the most incredible relationships.

00:23:23.440 I'm going to have the most incredible friendships.

00:23:25.820 I'm going to make incredible amount of money.

00:23:28.140 I'm going to go see the world.

00:23:29.900 I'm going to have fun.

00:23:31.080 I'm going to take care of my health.

00:23:32.340 I'm going to have a relationship with a God or a higher power.

00:23:35.760 I'm going to feel good about this cat.

00:23:38.540 So with the 75 to 90 years that I have in this existence, I'm going to give value back

00:23:44.300 and leave a legacy in the world.

00:23:46.840 And they're going to remember the mark I left in this world.

00:23:51.100 You go do that.

00:23:52.720 That's the time to go do it.

00:23:54.700 Don't set this thing aside.

00:23:56.480 This life thing is very exciting.

00:23:58.600 Like this it goes.

00:23:59.960 Gray hair.

00:24:01.220 Like this it goes.

00:24:02.260 I look at my leg today I was exercising.

00:24:04.920 I went to the gym in the morning.

00:24:06.640 I looked at my skin on the bottom of my ankle.

00:24:09.120 I saw the veins that I used to make fun of my mom and dad with the veins.

00:24:12.420 I have them now.

00:24:13.500 Never had those veins.

00:24:15.280 It's popping now.

00:24:16.800 What happened with that?

00:24:18.440 This guy's getting older and he's got an expiration date.

00:24:22.920 He ain't got 300 years to live.

00:24:25.240 I got anywhere between 70 to 90 years to live.

00:24:28.060 So do you.

00:24:29.120 You think you got a lot of time to change?

00:24:30.760 You don't.

00:24:31.360 Start today.

00:24:32.980 Make that decision today.

00:24:34.840 Grab a notepad and pen.

00:24:36.240 Go through it again.

00:24:37.620 Make these five points that you got to go through.

00:24:40.720 And then from there.

00:24:41.780 Look.

00:24:42.340 When you're done with this.

00:24:44.100 If you're shaking a little bit.

00:24:45.820 If you're emotional a little bit.

00:24:47.820 And from there you come out and it's like this very sense of calmness about you.

00:24:54.720 And you're kind of like whoa.

00:24:58.260 I'm not a cocky or arrogant at all.

00:25:01.000 But I feel good about life and myself.

00:25:03.440 I am very excited about life.

00:25:08.360 That's what it's supposed to be.

00:25:09.500 Thanks everybody for listening.

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Valuetainment - January 11, 2019

Episode 245： How To Break the Curse of Your Limiting Beliefs

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