Episode 264： How to Choose a Mentor- Seek Trifectas
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about the qualifications of an expert and how to find the right mentor for you. I discuss the three levels of expertise and the trifecta of the T-theory that determines the level of expertise in a person.
Transcript
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30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put em up, reach
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the sky, turn the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the
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I'm Patrick Bedevio, host of ITEM, and today we're going to talk about what you can do
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Prior to me getting into this, I want you to think about this.
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There are a lot of people on YouTube that do well because they're attractive.
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There are some that do well because they're very good at telling stories, they're great
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There are some that do well that are very, very funny, incredible personalities, and all
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of those things can be attractive, but just like you and I get judged on friends that we
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have, you and I will get judged on relationships we have, you get judged on anything you do.
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You're also going to get judged based on the experts you choose because it comes down to
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how well you process what makes someone an expert.
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First of all, there are experts, but there are three areas that determine someone to become
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Someone who is very well read, somebody who has done lots of research on a topic, somebody
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who has, you know, studied a topic, someone who has investigated a topic, and so they have
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their own philosophies, they have their own ideas, but it's purely an expert based on theories
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Experience to me is someone who has worked under somebody who ran a real estate business, and
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So this person didn't necessarily sell real estate, but the person selling real estate
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He was so close to her, so he learned from her through experience and watching it happen.
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That is the second highest level of an expert, because you can talk to them and say, hey,
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And through experience, he could tell you about the successful traits of Mary, Bob, or whoever
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the successful real estate person, entrepreneur is, right?
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The third highest level of an expert is somebody that is through application.
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This is someone you go and talk to, and you say, hey, when you fought Buster Douglas, how
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When you fought Mike Tyson, what did you have to look for when you were fighting Mike Tyson?
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When you started your business, what were some pitfalls?
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When you had a partner that didn't work out, well, how did you create the exit strategy
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When you were going through a breakup in your personal life, and you were still running your
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business, how did you manage yourself to not go crazy and still keep your business together?
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That's the highest level, because they're talking about application on what they did,
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So how do you qualify someone to become an expert?
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YouTube is filled with people that are theory type of experts.
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The trifecta of an expert, if you're lucky enough to find somebody who's a trifecta, is
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Someone who has experience with theory, because they've studied the subject.
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Someone who has had the experience of watching other people who are very good at it do it.
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And someone who has applied the things that they learned for themselves in a business.
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If you can find that person, that's the real expert.
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Now, what is the most important question to ask of somebody who calls themselves an expert?
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Well, because nowadays, a lot of online experts will talk about a subject, and they never made
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They're just talking about that subject because they read a lot of books about it.
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Or they had somebody who did that, and they talk about it.
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And I actually want to know how you made your money.
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I actually really want to know how you made your money.
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Because nowadays, if somebody says, you know, I made my money this way, and it's not online,
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but they're calling themselves a multi-millionaire, but no one knows about it online, I have a
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I remember one time I went to, what's that one book?
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I went up to Simon Sinek, and I really like his book.
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And I went up to him, and I said, hey, Simon, how did you make your money?
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And there was no answer on how he made his money.
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But I never looked at him as a trifecta expert after that.
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I just saw him as a good speaker who promoted his book well, and he had a great message that
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He's not an application necessarily expert at the highest level.
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So if you want me to get a little bit more specific with this, I'll give you an example
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In the world of NBA, you have the play-by-play commentator, and you have the analyst.
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If you look at TNT, they have Ernie Johnson, who's a great commentator, play-by-play.
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But the analyst is Kenny Smith, Charles Barkley, Shaq.
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They're the experts because of application and experience and theory.
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They're the trifecta experts that everybody wants to hear from.
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When the movie Lone Survivor was shot with Mark Wahlberg, Mark Wahlberg did the story
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of the lone survivor because he went and met him, and the lone survivor told them what
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it is to do their job, the pain, the experience, the workout, because Mark Wahlberg wanted to
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find out from the guy who applied what he knows and the experience and the theory so he can get
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into the role, the part, the best to his abilities.
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And that's why so many people love the movie Lone Survivor.
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So, you know, again, going back to it, three types of expert theory, education, experience,
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And the most important question to ask is, how did you make your money?
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So if you're an expert watching this, you may be the expert watching this, okay?
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So you're watching this saying, wait a minute, I kind of don't like this because, you know,
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people are coming up to me and this, what do I do now?
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Just be clear and real about what type of an expert you are because today in the world
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If you haven't made money as an expert in that specific subject, and the more real you
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are, the more real customers you're going to get, the more you try to kind of make up
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Then it really backfires and you definitely don't want to have that type of a reputation
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So with that being said, ask the right question.
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Look for some Trifecta mentors and make sure when you find those Trifecta experts, you
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