Valuetainment - February 14, 2019


Episode 269： 4 Hardest Things to Find in Life


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

192.25143

Word Count

1,358

Sentence Count

77


Summary

The 4 Toughest Things to Find in Life 1. Find a good friend 2. A good partner 3. A great spouse 4. Find your purpose Find out what you re passionate about


Transcript

00:00:00.000 30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put em up, reach
00:00:09.220 the sky, touch the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the
00:00:16.200 underdog.
00:00:17.280 I'm Patrick Bedeb, your host of Valuetainment, and today we will talk about the four toughest
00:00:20.820 things to find in life.
00:00:22.300 First one is this, I was taught by my father, he always told me, he says, Patrick, you're
00:00:26.640 going to know a lot of people, you're going to have a lot of friends, you're going to
00:00:29.360 have a lot of acquaintances, but he said, one great friend weighs more, is valued more than
00:00:37.580 thousands of people you may know in your life.
00:00:40.200 One great friend, one great friend that you know is worth more than thousands of people
00:00:45.140 you may have in your life.
00:00:47.100 He said, it's one of the hardest things to find in life as somebody who's a great friend
00:00:52.400 because life changes and you change and you grow and if you have somebody else that's
00:00:56.220 grown with you, accepting you, loving on you, all those deep rooted experiences that
00:01:00.380 is less judgment, you know, you did this, you did that, he's more important, there's
00:01:03.700 a pure, real relationship, accepting that both people are going through experiences in
00:01:08.400 life, one of the hardest things to find and that person who is a friend of yours, if you
00:01:14.380 only treat them like a friend and somebody who is not a blood or somebody who is not as
00:01:20.000 important to you as a family member, you will generally lose that person, so if a person
00:01:24.700 gets to that level of a great friend, love them and treat them like family because they
00:01:30.080 are as valuable as that, it's very hard to find.
00:01:33.620 Second thing, it's finding a great partner and a spouse, it's got to be one of the most
00:01:39.280 difficult things to do because when you find this person, this person's got to know your
00:01:44.900 weaknesses, he or she is going to know your flaws, your challenges, your problems, your
00:01:49.780 irks, you're not cleaning the bathroom or, you know, the stuff that no one else knows
00:01:54.020 about, your clothes are everywhere, your socks are everywhere, you mismatch, you know, doing
00:01:57.960 your clothes, laundry, dirty clothes, food, how you eat your plate, you know, everyone's
00:02:03.480 got something, your temper, your, the way you flare, your attitude sometimes, the way you
00:02:08.420 get quiet to yourself, you don't want to talk, you do this, but they love on you because
00:02:12.820 they're a great spouse, they're a great partner, it's somebody who doesn't criticize
00:02:18.000 you publicly, but they do criticize you privately, it's somebody who may back you
00:02:23.060 up publicly, but privately when they want to say something, they'll pull you out and
00:02:26.340 say, honey, I got to tell you something, I think what you did today wasn't right, I
00:02:29.280 think you should reconsider that, it's somebody that doesn't create more paranoia in
00:02:33.040 your life, it's someone that strengthens your relationships around you, it's a very, very
00:02:37.540 hard thing to find and that's a great partner, great spouse.
00:02:40.040 Number three, it's a great cause that you're passionate about, a great crusade, something
00:02:45.740 that very few people in life experience, you know, as I, 2008 was the year where I really
00:02:50.980 wanted to find out what was the cause that Patrick B. David was meant to do and this didn't
00:02:54.980 mean I needed to change a industry and go from try to go into real estate or try to go
00:03:01.700 become a doctor or try to just, not at all.
00:03:03.900 Cause doesn't have to do with occupation.
00:03:05.720 Cause is a byproduct of what your occupation allows you to put time and effort into this
00:03:12.140 cause.
00:03:13.740 And if you can find a way to combine the two together, even better.
00:03:17.260 But when you find out your cause, you're introduced to a person you've never met before.
00:03:21.580 A lot of times people ask me and say, so Pat, how do I find out my purpose, my cause, my
00:03:25.440 crusade, something that fires me up.
00:03:28.240 One of the best books I read on this subject was by a British diplomat.
00:03:32.300 It was titled leaderless revolution.
00:03:35.200 And he said, there's three ways to find out what your purpose and your cause is.
00:03:39.440 Number one, you got to make a list of things you hate.
00:03:42.340 And you've heard the saying before, whatever you don't hate, you learn to tolerate.
00:03:46.000 So what do you hate in life?
00:03:48.360 Maybe you experienced something as a kid.
00:03:49.940 Maybe you experienced something as a nation.
00:03:51.760 When you watch the country, the direction is going, what do you hate?
00:03:54.520 What bothers you?
00:03:55.680 Write it down.
00:03:56.380 You, you're bothered by young kids who are taken advantage of.
00:03:59.740 You're bothered by traffic and you're bothered by something.
00:04:01.900 What is it?
00:04:03.240 Three, what do you love?
00:04:05.520 Make a list of things that you love.
00:04:06.900 You love kids.
00:04:08.120 You know, you love whatever, maybe something that you love.
00:04:11.240 Generally, when you make that list, you find something and say, wait a minute, there's
00:04:13.820 something deeper there.
00:04:14.640 And you can go into it and introduce you to a whole different side.
00:04:17.640 And you notice your belly changes.
00:04:19.220 You think different.
00:04:19.880 Your heart changes.
00:04:20.960 You get excited.
00:04:21.700 And the last most, last but not least, most difficult thing to find in life, in my opinion,
00:04:26.840 is a great group of people to run with.
00:04:31.680 I was in the army.
00:04:32.700 There's nothing like being part of a unit that we had camaraderie.
00:04:36.800 I can't explain it to you.
00:04:38.420 I didn't need to make $50,000 a month or a million dollars a month to be happy in the army.
00:04:43.180 They paid me $800 a month.
00:04:44.660 And I was fulfilled because we are made to be part of a community.
00:04:49.200 We are made to be part of another group of people that strengthen us, that make us whole.
00:04:53.640 This person's better in this and I'm better in this.
00:04:55.480 And together, we're great.
00:04:56.440 And we can go against whatever bigger force because it's an army of one.
00:05:00.380 And we have each other's back.
00:05:02.660 And we push each other.
00:05:04.100 We challenge each other.
00:05:04.980 We upset each other.
00:05:05.880 We know each other at times.
00:05:07.460 But we know when we're looking at each other, there's that level of respect knowing you gave
00:05:11.780 everything in and I gave everything in and that we're in this thing together and it's
00:05:16.220 a sincere, no backstabbing games.
00:05:18.080 I've been part of that as well.
00:05:19.040 I'm talking a sincere, real, genuine group of people that you can run with for the rest
00:05:24.480 of your life.
00:05:25.040 One of the hardest things to find in life, when you find those four things, don't take
00:05:32.100 them for granted because they're very difficult to find.
00:05:34.960 However, they're not attracted to force.
00:05:38.300 They're attracted to somebody who is attracting to them.
00:05:42.080 Okay?
00:05:42.300 So you can't force a friend.
00:05:44.200 You can't force a great spouse.
00:05:45.780 You can't force a great cause.
00:05:47.600 You can't force a great group of people.
00:05:49.700 They're attracted to you.
00:05:51.220 You work on you.
00:05:52.440 They're attracted to you.
00:05:54.080 The more clear you are about what you want, the more clear you are about the sense of direction
00:05:58.360 you're going in your life, then all of a sudden, these four elements appear in your
00:06:01.660 life, one by one by one.
00:06:03.300 It's not going to come on your terms.
00:06:04.680 It never comes on our terms.
00:06:06.000 But it does show up to the person that's clear about what they're going in their life.
00:06:09.420 Thanks, everybody, for listening.
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00:06:31.120 With that being said, have a great day today.
00:06:32.860 Take care, everybody.
00:06:33.580 Bye-bye.
00:06:33.820 Bye-bye.
00:06:33.840 We'll be right back.