Valuetainment - Episode 276： Most Important Person To Study In The World

00:00:00.820 30 seconds. One time for the underdog. Ignition sequence start.

00:00:06.980 Let me see you put them up. Reach the sky, touch the stars up above.

00:00:11.100 Cause it's one time for the underdog. One time for the underdog.

00:00:17.300 I'm Patrick Bedevi, host of Alleytayman, and today we are going to talk about the most interesting,

00:00:21.900 the most important person you can ever study in the world.

00:00:25.880 So often we read books or watch videos or read a blog to learn how to persuade other people,

00:00:31.040 how to close others, negotiate, read others. It's always about how can I do something to other

00:00:36.960 people, right? So we study other people so much, but I will tell you the most important subject you

00:00:41.780 and I can study. The most important subject you and I can study is the person we're going to live

00:00:46.160 with for the rest of our lives more than any other person in the world is ourselves. And what I mean

00:00:51.260 by ourselves is how do you trend? Not on social media. How do your decisions in life trend?

00:00:59.540 Do you study how you trend? And we're going to talk about that today because, you know,

00:01:03.460 some of my favorite quotes here, I'll tell you what Aristotle said. He said,

00:01:07.420 knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. Aristotle, he mentored Alexander the Great, right?

00:01:13.400 Rumi, and you, when will you begin that long journey into yourself? Ralph Ellison, when I discover who I

00:01:22.960 am, I will be free, right? So instead of trying to study everybody else and get them to do what you

00:01:29.480 want for you, why don't you study yourself for you to make better choices so life will be simpler?

00:01:34.480 So let's study some of these trends here. Okay. Patrick, what do you mean? How do you trend? Okay.

00:01:39.840 So let's look at this. Pick the last three crises that happened in your life. Okay. Whatever those

00:01:45.500 crises may be. Loss of a loved one, a divorce, a bankruptcy, a health issue, a setback, something

00:01:53.240 happened, got fired, whatever those three things are. Okay. Write them down on whatever they are.

00:01:59.580 Then study how you reacted to each one of them. What was your reaction to each one of them? Okay.

00:02:06.340 Is your reaction bad mouthing? It's their fault. It's his fault. It's the company's fault. It's

00:02:13.420 because this, it's not my fault. I couldn't do anything. This is how I ran. If you study these

00:02:18.740 trends, you will notice there are certain clues about you. Okay. Then you ask yourself the question,

00:02:27.080 do I like how I trend? Do I like how I respond to the crisis? Do I like the results of the way

00:02:36.300 I respond to crisis? If the answer is yes, you keep doing it. But if the answer is every time

00:02:42.300 crisis happens, the way you respond to it is something that does not bring fulfillment in

00:02:47.240 your life. It's constant misery and setback. Then you got to make a shift to that. Here's

00:02:51.460 another one. I had a friend of mine that would talk about relationships. You know, it's always

00:02:55.120 this girl's fault. No, no, no. That one didn't work out because she's this. This one didn't work 0.93

00:02:58.880 out because she's that. That one didn't work out because she's this. Eventually we sat there and I

00:03:02.680 said, listen, let me ask you a question. You've been telling me this about the last five

00:03:05.400 girls you dated. You really want to tell me it's all these girls' problems? So if that's the case,

00:03:10.400 what do we need to shift for us not to have that experience? That goes back to trend. Health goes

00:03:15.220 in this. The types of people that you argue with, the types of people you don't like, the types of

00:03:21.780 people you don't get along with. Make a list of those three people you don't get along with and ask

00:03:27.140 yourself, what's the trend? Is it because they push you too much? Do they remind you of your father?

00:03:32.620 Do they remind you of your mother? Do they remind you of somebody? Do they remind you of

00:03:36.940 your ex? Is that the trend with them? They're not your ex. So why are you responding to that?

00:03:42.440 So either you're going to continue having those types of relationships with these types of people,

00:03:46.700 or if you want to be able to have a better relationship with these folks, you need to

00:03:50.680 make a shift on how you respond to these folks. So now this exercise with trending, it is very

00:03:56.080 fascinating when you study you. Let me tell you what happened with me. Many years ago, one of the

00:04:01.960 most important events that took place in my life was in August of 2003. I got a hold of these

00:04:07.660 questions that a friend gave me. It was 83 questions. I got away, and I went to the beach,

00:04:13.140 El Matador. I mean, over the years, I've collected a lot of these questions, but I got a hold of these

00:04:16.560 questions. I went to El Matador, and it's somewhere in Malibu, I think. And I would go there on Sundays.

00:04:23.440 I grabbed these questions, six, seven, eight hours, and every question was about events that happened in my

00:04:29.340 life that affected the way I am today, right? My personality, the way I think today. By the time I was

00:04:36.580 done going through these questions, I was so emotional, it was intense. I was crying. I was furious with

00:04:42.360 myself. I was angry. I was so disappointed with myself, but I was happy with myself. I started accepting

00:04:48.820 myself. Then I started realizing the problem is here, and the good news is you can fix it. That's

00:04:54.760 the great news about above all. This can be fixed. There are solutions for this. If I want to, and I

00:05:01.000 did, life started changing. So I decided years later, just a few months ago, to make those questions

00:05:07.520 public on my website, PatrickBayDavid.com, and it's called the Ultimate Self-Discovery Questionnaire. Let me

00:05:12.700 just put it to you this way. Thousands of people have already taken it around the world, and we've gone

00:05:18.200 thousands of emails. If you've sent us emails and we haven't gone back to you, it's because

00:05:21.300 we've been bombarded with emails, and we haven't had a chance to give back to everybody.

00:05:24.940 But here's some of the ones I want to read to you on what happened with some of these

00:05:28.100 folks who took these questions and how they responded to it. Here's the first one. This

00:05:32.740 is from Uruguay. I will not mention the name. I took your extensive question, and it really

00:05:38.580 made me answer some questions I wouldn't have answered before. It really made me think and dig

00:05:43.900 deep into some deep-rooted issues I have tried to bury. How many of us have tried to bury

00:05:50.960 deep-rooted issues that cause limiting beliefs in our lives that's preventing us to live a

00:05:57.360 fulfilled life, right? Here's another one. I'll save the best for last. Here's one from

00:06:02.000 Portugal. I do believe this type of email comes often to this inbox, but thank you for the

00:06:08.560 extreme eye-opener. That was a question. I find you via Facebook and your website by accident,

00:06:13.400 and I feel like a lucky bastard. In my mind, I didn't think it was possible to get emotional

00:06:17.460 and cry when answering these questions, but in fact, it happened. So many different emotions

00:06:21.540 in just a few questions. I want to hide the answer somewhere only I can have access to,

00:06:27.200 but I don't want to destroy them because I feel I might need to read them again in the future

00:06:31.580 to remind me of these feelings and what answering that did to me. But I don't want anyone else to see

00:06:37.900 them or feel, or I feel they would know too much about me. Is that not interesting to study you? Is

00:06:43.900 that not interesting to study you? Well, good for you for sending this email to us. You know who you

00:06:48.840 are. And this last one is from, I'll read. This is from India. And it says, about an hour ago,

00:06:54.620 colleague of mine placed a link on my Facebook channel to our company sales tips, you know,

00:06:58.220 what's up group. And then after scrolling to your Facebook down and intrigued by your video

00:07:01.040 post, I discovered the questioner button. I subscribed. After switching my phone to airplane

00:07:05.480 mode, she followed all the directions in the video. After switching my phone to airplane mode,

00:07:10.120 setting up my digital box to the song I suggested, which is symphony number four in A major.

00:07:18.480 And I found a relaxing seat in my home and started with a lot of anticipation. All set to go,

00:07:24.380 I started reading the first set of questions. Instantly, my breath stoked little by little.

00:07:28.620 By the time I had completed section one and reading the reflection, I was crying like a baby.

00:07:34.240 To give some inside info, I split up last December with my partner. One month after that,

00:07:38.480 I find out my father's lifeless body arranged his funeral and haven't shed a tear during the

00:07:42.780 entire process. 15 sessions of therapy did not give me where these questions got me.

00:07:48.240 And I'm only talking about first two sections right now. I truly believe the answers to this

00:07:53.840 questioner does tell you a lot about who you are. So thank you for that. And now I've calmed down.

00:07:58.620 And I've wiped the mask here off my cheeks. I will try to actually take a pen and write down

00:08:02.200 the answers to the questions that I've been avoiding for years and years. You see,

00:08:06.280 first of all, I applaud all of you that have gone through these questionnaires and thousands of you

00:08:10.340 that have sent it to us. Again, we haven't gone through all of them, but we will. We will read

00:08:13.200 through all of them because it's important that you want to share your experience with us.

00:08:16.320 If you watching this video, if you watch the entire video by this time, if you truly want to figure

00:08:24.260 out your capacity, your abilities, the clarity for you to have in life and what you're able to do

00:08:31.820 with your calling, you got to take a step back and study you. You got to take a step back and study

00:08:38.480 your trends. And many times in your life, when something happens in your life, this is how you

00:08:42.800 talk to yourself. When something happens, you say, normally you typically respond to it this way,

00:08:47.020 but let me tell you something. After doing the questionnaire, figuring out who you are and what

00:08:49.820 your trends are, I would suggest you responding to it this way. Don't say anything. Just relax.

00:08:54.060 I totally understand. You feel that way. I'm sorry I made you feel that way. I will work on it.

00:08:57.620 Or whatever it may be. That's awareness. And it changes all your relationships in your life.

00:09:02.780 Thanks everybody for listening. And by the way, if you haven't already subscribed to

00:09:05.800 Valuetainment on iTunes, please do so. Give us a five star. Write a review if you haven't already.

00:09:11.580 And if you have any questions for me that you may have, you can always find me on Snapchat,

00:09:15.660 Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. Just search my name, Patrick David. And I actually do respond back

00:09:21.480 when you snap me or send me a message on Instagram. With that being said, have a great day today.

00:09:26.140 Take care, everybody. Bye-bye.

Valuetainment - February 25, 2019

Episode 276： Most Important Person To Study In The World

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