7 Habits to Dominate in 2019: 1. Change your mind very often. 2. Win arguments with numbers, not just words. 3. Accountability. 4. Look at everybody in your life as a piece on the chessboard.
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00:00:17.260I'm Patrick with the host of ITM and today we're going to talk about 7 habits to help you dominate in 2019.
00:00:22.720The first one is very specific to those of you that change your mind very, very often. It's a bad habit and it's costing you relationships, friendships, and success in business.
00:00:33.940Let me explain what I mean by this. No matter what business you choose to do, they're all ugly. No business is pretty. It's like a relationship.
00:00:42.660There isn't anything you're going to do in the world of business that's going to be all good and dandy. Nothing. Not a single business.
00:00:49.000However, this is a common trend you see with a lot of people. None of us like to lose. But some people, when they lose, they respond in three different ways.
00:00:58.120One is freeze. They don't know what to say. The other one is they go and fight. And the last one is they flight. You know what flight is?
00:01:05.160They change their minds. I don't want to do this anymore. And they run away. You know why? Because they're afraid of commitment.
00:01:10.960Very simple. In the world of business. In the real world of business, if you want to win in 2019, if you keep changing your mind, nobody is going to take you seriously.
00:01:20.180The second one is for those of you that like to win arguments with words. Let me explain to you what I mean by this.
00:01:25.220You don't understand how hard I'm working. I am the best. You don't even know what's going on. Let me explain to you what happened.
00:01:31.000I'm doing my best. I'm doing the most appointments. I'm working hard. I'm running appointments. I'm running this.
00:01:36.240The best way to win arguments is to win arguments with performance, not with words.
00:01:42.280Because when you win arguments with performance, everybody knows what you did.
00:01:47.200When you win arguments with words, it may be because you're a wordsmith, but maybe you're not a worker.
00:01:52.880To get the credibility of other people who know what it is to work, in 2019, win arguments with numbers, with performance, not just words.
00:02:03.960The third one. This is one thing I never liked coming up. It was a lack of maturity on my end.
00:02:08.900And it was being accountable. And let me explain to you what I mean by accountability.
00:02:11.920I'm not talking about just accountability as in, well, go be accountable to somebody. No, no.
00:02:17.080There's a part about being accountable, and then there's a part about being accountable to the right person.
00:02:23.000Let me explain the difference. Anybody can be accountable to somebody that's a lower performer.
00:02:28.480Anybody can be accountable to somebody that's at the same level as you.
00:02:32.180Hey, friend, hold me accountable. Well, we're not going to be that tough on ourselves.
00:02:36.620But there's a difference between you being held accountable by somebody on a weekly basis that is ahead of you, who is willing, who is willing.
00:02:43.860This is the key. Not everybody is willing to deal with everybody who is willing to hold you accountable with your performance on a weekly basis and is not afraid of pointing out and saying, look at this part, look at that part, look at this part.
00:02:58.560As a CEO of an insurance company that's growing, we had a board meeting today.
00:03:02.920The entire conversation with the board meeting today where we invited every single insurance carrier was we were being held accountable nonstop the entire time.
00:03:10.920And you know what happens as you want to build a bigger business? Accountability must go higher.
00:03:16.040The fourth habit is directed to those of you that are so determined to win that you look at everybody in your life as somebody, as a piece on the chessboard.
00:03:24.240This person can help me do this, and that person can help me do this, and this person is going to help me advance to the other area.
00:03:30.520And what happens when you look at everybody like that, that they're disposable, there's one thing that goes away.
00:03:50.040Who are the five relationships that you currently have in your life, business, personal life, five relationships that you currently have right now in your life that you cannot lose,
00:03:57.660and you want to have 10, 20, 30, 40 years from now?
00:04:51.020In 2019, make an effort to study every single one of your trends.
00:04:57.160Let me explain to you what I mean by studying your trend.
00:04:59.440The next time you're angry, get a paper and pen and write down exactly what caused you to be angry.
00:05:04.460If you're depressed, if you're agitated, if all of a sudden you're having a division with somebody you've been very good for for 6, 12 months,
00:05:12.200why are you all of a sudden angry at this person?
00:05:14.960Why are you taking things out on this person?
00:05:17.280Maybe you just spoke to your ex and maybe your ex doesn't like this person and every time you talk to your ex,
00:05:22.940he says, well, you know how he is, you know how she is, and all of a sudden you're taking it out on this person.