Valuetainment - Episode 296 - 10 Things To Unlearn In 2019

00:00:01.000 30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put em up, reach

00:00:09.240 the sky, turn the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the

00:00:16.240 underdog.

00:00:17.320 I'm Patrick Bedevi, host of ITM, and today we're going to talk about 10 things to unlearn

00:00:21.180 in 2019.

00:00:22.220 This is purely perspective on thinking in a completely different way.

00:00:24.840 Number one, many, many years, you and I have heard that statement of you are six degrees

00:00:30.160 of separation.

00:00:31.680 You are six degrees away from the president, six degrees away from a billionaire, six degrees

00:00:36.180 away from Michael Jordan, six degrees away from anybody.

00:00:39.320 Today, it's no longer six degrees.

00:00:41.600 Today, you're probably two degrees away from anybody.

00:00:44.560 If you go look at your social media, what I would love to see happen one day, if somebody

00:00:47.720 was able to put this technology together, imagine your 800 friends you have on Facebook, Twitter.

00:00:53.140 Whoever it is that you follow personally that you know, if there was a way for you to be

00:00:58.860 able to know who they knew, who they had contact with, whose phone number they had, whose email

00:01:04.760 address they had, you literally become one or two degrees away from being connected with

00:01:09.100 the president, connected with anybody.

00:01:10.860 It's a complete different ballgame today than ever before.

00:01:14.140 So don't look at it as a big deal.

00:01:16.060 How do I get in?

00:01:16.960 How do I have a meeting with that CEO?

00:01:18.300 How do I have a meeting with this billionaire?

00:01:19.840 How do I have a meeting with that politician?

00:01:21.140 How do I have this meeting with this influencer?

00:01:23.140 Not today.

00:01:23.920 It's easier than ever before.

00:01:25.020 You've got to unlearn thinking it's a big deal to get connected with an influencer.

00:01:28.360 Number two, being a celebrity today, it's no longer what it was in the 80s.

00:01:32.940 Let me explain.

00:01:33.480 In the 80s, there was no YouTube star.

00:01:36.540 In the 80s, there was no, hey, sensation, this person had a beautiful body, post their

00:01:41.820 pictures, 4.9 million followers.

00:01:44.080 Nothing like that existed.

00:01:45.260 In the 80s, if you had a nice body, you look good in Miami.

00:01:49.040 You look good in LA.

00:01:50.120 Maybe you look good at a beach in, you know, you went to Italy or you went to Spain and

00:01:54.840 they knew how pretty you were.

00:01:56.380 But they only knew you in that city.

00:01:57.920 They only knew you in that town.

00:01:59.100 Today, the world knows who you are.

00:02:01.020 So the value of being a celebrity is not what it used to be in the 80s.

00:02:05.120 Meaning, if somebody like you meets somebody, there's a big difference between a celebrity

00:02:10.320 versus being an influencer.

00:02:12.100 An influencer, positive influencer, somebody is positively impacting people's lives.

00:02:18.100 If you are going to make a decision to be anything, a lot of people say, well, I'm an

00:02:21.480 influencer, I'm an influencer, I'm an influencer.

00:02:23.200 There are many ways to be influencers.

00:02:24.920 There could be negative influence.

00:02:26.040 There could be, you know, influence just because your body, your body's not going to really

00:02:29.360 do anything to me.

00:02:30.240 It's just, wow, she's gorgeous.

00:02:32.080 Wow, he's got nice abs.

00:02:33.180 But to be an influencer where you are positively impacting the world through whatever methods

00:02:40.200 you have to do, that's a complete different story.

00:02:43.100 So nowadays, the value of celebrity, not what used to be in the 80s, if you are positively

00:02:47.920 impacting the world and you're an influencer, that's a completely different place to be.

00:02:51.360 My challenge to you is to start thinking about celebrity this way.

00:02:54.860 I want to be an influencer, not as much as being a celebrity for the right reasons.

00:02:58.040 Number three, meaning of money.

00:03:00.120 Money, if there's anything you can learn about money, it's how money works and your relationship

00:03:06.180 with money.

00:03:06.840 Money is very interesting.

00:03:07.860 Think about it this way.

00:03:09.440 Money is the person you know in your life where if you allow them to, allow them to, they

00:03:15.820 will use you.

00:03:16.500 You ever met anybody that if you allow them to, they'll use you, they'll abuse you, they'll

00:03:19.840 bully you?

00:03:20.160 You ever have somebody like that in your life?

00:03:21.960 That's money.

00:03:22.860 But that same person, if you lead them, they realize you can't be pushed around, that's

00:03:29.640 money.

00:03:30.480 If money realizes you're putting money to work, not the other way around, money says,

00:03:34.200 you know what?

00:03:34.580 I found a leader.

00:03:35.260 I'll follow this person.

00:03:36.480 Because money loves to be led.

00:03:39.020 Money loves to be put to work.

00:03:40.960 But most people don't know how to put money to work.

00:03:43.540 If you don't put money to work, money goes out there and does other things and works for

00:03:47.380 somebody else.

00:03:47.900 So your relationship with money has got to change.

00:03:50.400 Start thinking of that as a tool.

00:03:52.120 Start thinking about it in a completely different way.

00:03:53.640 If you've never watched a video of 20 Rules of Money, Mario, let's put a thumbnail up here.

00:03:57.480 Click over here to go watch the video of 20 Rules of Money.

00:04:00.100 And then after that, go watch the next video called How to Double Your Money.

00:04:03.000 It'll give you a complete different perspective about how money works going into 2019.

00:04:06.880 The next thing to learn in 2019 is political beliefs.

00:04:09.960 Let me explain to you what I mean by this.

00:04:11.160 Listen, if there's anything you can pick up in 2019 that can help you out is the following.

00:04:16.380 Don't let any of the media outlets emotionally confuse you and make you change your mind.

00:04:24.180 Let me explain to you.

00:04:25.440 Imagine I got two people here.

00:04:27.020 They're both trying to sell their ideas on to you.

00:04:32.400 One of them gets up based on a ton of research done by Pew Research.

00:04:37.700 That's not Republican.

00:04:38.720 That's not Democrat.

00:04:39.580 This is not Fox News research.

00:04:41.880 That's Republican.

00:04:42.740 This is not CNN, MSNBC research.

00:04:44.660 That's Democrat.

00:04:45.440 I'm talking somebody that is, you know, not necessarily leaning on one side politically.

00:04:49.920 This person gets up and makes their case to you.

00:04:51.800 And they say, here's what's going on right now.

00:04:54.360 Here's what's happened with the economy.

00:04:56.120 This is what's taking place in this area.

00:04:58.220 Here's why this is taking place.

00:04:59.900 This is what the percentage is.

00:05:01.120 For instance, hey, you know, people going back to prison.

00:05:03.980 I'm making an argument to you and telling you, recidivision rates, right?

00:05:08.160 After one year of a person being out of prison, 56% end up back in prison.

00:05:13.980 Okay?

00:05:14.240 So I went into prison.

00:05:15.600 I get out.

00:05:16.700 56% of inmates that got into prison and left go back in a year later.

00:05:21.420 67% is three years later.

00:05:23.440 76% is five years later.

00:05:25.920 That's stats, right?

00:05:27.660 And I give you a story.

00:05:29.140 Another person gets up and it's purely emotion.

00:05:32.100 But they're unfair.

00:05:33.980 But they have no idea what they're doing.

00:05:36.240 They don't really care about people.

00:05:38.100 They don't really care about this.

00:05:39.460 But there is zero fact.

00:05:41.180 They're only talking emotion.

00:05:42.700 Don't fall for it.

00:05:44.840 I want both.

00:05:46.460 I want to hear emotion.

00:05:47.900 Cool.

00:05:48.240 That makes sense.

00:05:49.120 I really felt the pain.

00:05:50.880 But I also want logic.

00:05:52.020 Give me some data.

00:05:52.720 Give me some numbers.

00:05:53.960 So if you're Republican and you only watch Fox News, you're blinded.

00:05:58.380 If you're a Democrat and you only watch CNN, you're blinded.

00:06:01.460 You need both.

00:06:02.580 I want both.

00:06:03.340 I want to watch and read all of it.

00:06:05.860 I read Republican books.

00:06:07.180 I read Democratic books.

00:06:08.520 Don't get too blind in this area in 2019 because there's going to be a lot of games in 2019 and 2020 when it comes down to politics.

00:06:16.200 Don't be naive.

00:06:16.960 By the way, even someone that's watching this right now is saying, I'm not going to be naive.

00:06:21.320 Yet you still only listen to the stuff that you like to hear, that you agree with.

00:06:25.180 You're still not making the argument stronger.

00:06:26.840 You've got to be able to listen to everything, kind of get an idea if you've got any blind spots there.

00:06:30.380 Number five, meaning of friendship.

00:06:33.720 What is a meaning of friendship?

00:06:34.780 Look, you party with your friends.

00:06:37.800 I had one of our guys the other day who's one of our top earners in the company, Ricky Aguilar, said,

00:06:42.500 Just because I partied with you for three, four, five years doesn't make you my best friend.

00:06:48.560 It just means we partied together.

00:06:50.320 And at that time, I enjoyed it.

00:06:52.020 He says, I have made a decision to grow my life in a whole different place.

00:06:55.460 And I'm realizing those people aren't friends.

00:06:58.140 They were people I partied with.

00:06:59.820 There's a big difference between people I partied with and people that I'm friends with.

00:07:03.520 And I think a lot of times, people emotionally say, well, you know, it's just Larry and John, you know, we used to party together, man.

00:07:11.000 I feel like we have very deep roots.

00:07:12.700 No, no, that's partying.

00:07:14.280 That doesn't mean someone's going to defend you and back you up to help you go to the next level when it becomes friends.

00:07:19.300 How many times do you see these posts on Instagram where somebody says, you know, oh, bro, you know, I got a job.

00:07:24.880 Congratulations.

00:07:25.460 I got my college degree.

00:07:26.880 Congratulations.

00:07:27.460 I'm starting my business.

00:07:28.780 Oh, my gosh.

00:07:29.660 You know, go the separate direction.

00:07:30.760 You've seen those memes.

00:07:32.020 Well, you know, it lets you say there's some truth to that.

00:07:34.820 You realize who your friends are.

00:07:36.240 So in 2019, really eliminate some of those people that you thought were friends that you partied with.

00:07:41.700 Get rid of them.

00:07:42.800 And replace them with some people that actually can go deeper rooted with values, principles, things that can help you become a better human being.

00:07:49.800 Redefine the meaning of friendship to you.

00:07:52.300 Number six, family support.

00:07:54.620 I can't tell you how many times people tell me things like, Pat, you know, what do I do?

00:07:58.240 My mom and dad don't support me.

00:08:00.200 You know, they don't support me for what I'm doing.

00:08:02.420 My mom didn't support me to become an entrepreneur.

00:08:04.520 I'll get messages after messages after messages on Instagram.

00:08:06.820 They don't support me.

00:08:07.620 They don't support me.

00:08:08.280 Here's one thing you've got to realize.

00:08:10.380 Most parents are not going to support your dreams.

00:08:13.480 Just realize that.

00:08:14.720 They're not.

00:08:15.280 Your job is to make them know if it's real or not.

00:08:20.620 And by the way, if your dreams are 100% important to you and they become a reality, guess what your parents say?

00:08:25.840 Wow, he was serious.

00:08:27.180 When I first told my dad, I'm going to get into the financial industry.

00:08:29.840 Let me tell you what my dad told me.

00:08:30.700 Here's what my dad told me.

00:08:32.020 My dad said, how are you going to go be a financial advisor with Morgan Stanley Dean Witter when you have $49,000 of debt?

00:08:37.980 How are you going to do it?

00:08:39.400 And guess what?

00:08:39.960 I sat there and I said, maybe this guy makes sense.

00:08:42.100 And I almost quit the financial industry.

00:08:44.340 First time he heard me speak, year and a half, I was speaking in front of 500 people at an event.

00:08:48.820 And he says, you were on stage.

00:08:50.020 I said, yes.

00:08:50.520 He says, you're 22 years old.

00:08:51.620 Why are they listening to you speak?

00:08:53.280 I said, well, I'm starting to make a name for myself in the world of business.

00:08:56.280 And then he became a believer.

00:08:58.300 Not the other way around.

00:09:00.280 Don't try to win your family support and say, my parents don't support me.

00:09:03.980 That's why I didn't make it.

00:09:05.400 Lame.

00:09:05.860 I know many people that didn't have family support.

00:09:07.680 They made it.

00:09:08.180 And then their family said, we respect you because even though we didn't support you,

00:09:12.220 you still went through with your dreams.

00:09:13.560 Number seven, social media, pros and cons.

00:09:15.740 You've got to understand both aspects of it.

00:09:17.420 There's a lot of people that only sell pros.

00:09:19.740 There's a lot of people that only sell cons.

00:09:21.380 You need to know both.

00:09:22.160 If you know one thing about me is, I like perspective.

00:09:24.780 I want to see both sides.

00:09:25.940 I'm going to give you both sides on social media.

00:09:27.940 Let's start off with cons.

00:09:29.900 Getting hacked.

00:09:31.160 Accounts are getting hacked lately.

00:09:33.340 Hardcore.

00:09:34.220 We got hacked, Mario, what was it?

00:09:35.980 Four weeks ago?

00:09:36.800 Five weeks ago we got hacked.

00:09:37.900 Let me tell you what happened.

00:09:38.840 The email comes out and it has the Instagram email.

00:09:42.580 Everything looks real.

00:09:44.240 And it says, click here.

00:09:46.360 You have a post that is unapproved.

00:09:48.840 Your account's about to be deleted because of something you broke or something you did

00:09:52.740 wrong, et cetera, et cetera.

00:09:53.920 And they're not approving it, right?

00:09:55.780 So all of a sudden what they'll do is, you'll have that email.

00:09:58.820 You'll click on it and you'll log on.

00:10:00.960 The moment you log on, that wasn't an email from Instagram or Facebook or Twitter or YouTube.

00:10:07.720 They go into your account, then they go immediately, change your account password.

00:10:13.540 After they go on your account and change your account password, you don't have access to

00:10:17.100 your account.

00:10:18.020 From there, they automatically go in and do whatever they want to do.

00:10:21.060 This guy got on our Valuetainment Instagram account.

00:10:24.700 He got on.

00:10:25.400 He changed it.

00:10:26.200 He changed the handle.

00:10:27.620 He changed everything.

00:10:28.440 We lost control for six hours.

00:10:30.460 And then finally I ended up sending him a message.

00:10:32.260 And I told him, I said, look, you know, and I put this respond back.

00:10:34.960 Then the guy came back.

00:10:35.700 He felt bad.

00:10:36.220 He said he gave me the password and we got Valuetainment activated.

00:10:38.740 Again, we got control of the account.

00:10:40.000 But many times this doesn't happen.

00:10:41.280 And by the way, Instagram doesn't have a help account.

00:10:44.520 Facebook doesn't.

00:10:45.420 Twitter doesn't.

00:10:46.080 YouTube doesn't.

00:10:46.680 Many of these accounts don't.

00:10:48.380 And they may take a month to get back to you because you're not that big of a priority

00:10:52.260 if you're not high profile.

00:10:53.740 So what does it mean?

00:10:54.940 Be very careful when you're getting these emails.

00:10:56.920 Don't fall for them.

00:10:57.800 Next, permanent.

00:10:58.720 Whatever you post on social media is permanent.

00:11:00.860 Pictures, doing any of that stuff.

00:11:02.720 You may be in your 20s or a teenager thinking it's not a big deal.

00:11:05.700 20 years later, it's going to come back and catch up to you.

00:11:08.200 Bullying.

00:11:08.960 There's bullying going on on social media all the time.

00:11:11.620 I share bullying with you because you've got to share bullying with your kids.

00:11:15.640 Bullying when it comes down to social media.

00:11:17.400 You've got to talk to your kids about bullying.

00:11:19.700 Happening all the time.

00:11:20.740 I get these messages.

00:11:21.780 Parents always contact me saying, what do I handle about this?

00:11:24.620 What do I handle about that?

00:11:25.480 This past week when we were on Palm Springs with 141 of our execs, I talk to them about

00:11:30.260 how I speak to my kids about sex.

00:11:32.500 How I speak to my kids about secrets.

00:11:34.920 Like, I'm not a fan of people saying, do you want to keep a secret?

00:11:38.060 I tell my kids, there's only two people you keep secrets with.

00:11:41.260 That's your parents, okay?

00:11:42.660 You don't keep secrets with strangers.

00:11:44.680 These are things that you have to be teaching your kids.

00:11:46.560 I think a lot of times parents are so busy that they're worried about having the sex conversation,

00:11:50.840 the bullying conversation, the sexting conversation.

00:11:52.800 And then all of a sudden it's too late.

00:11:55.320 You've got to have that conversation and be prepared for it.

00:11:56.960 Camera's always on.

00:11:58.440 Location tracking.

00:11:59.360 The other day we went and ate at Flemings.

00:12:01.700 Marty had location tracking on his, what was it, Snapchat account or whatever it was.

00:12:06.860 One of those accounts.

00:12:07.840 And then all of a sudden, boom!

00:12:09.420 Guy runs in.

00:12:10.340 We have a private room.

00:12:11.880 He jumps in.

00:12:12.540 Can I shine your shoes?

00:12:13.420 Can I do this?

00:12:14.000 Can I do that?

00:12:14.560 And everybody started kind of panicking a little bit because the guy was breathing very hard

00:12:18.160 and he had stuff in his hand.

00:12:19.720 But then we started talking.

00:12:21.180 He was a stable guy.

00:12:22.380 But this has happened many times.

00:12:23.600 I've gone to movies and my tracker was on with a guy that took a Snapchat of me.

00:12:27.740 People showed up.

00:12:28.480 So you just have to know, you've got to have your tracking off.

00:12:31.700 You've got to have your notification off.

00:12:33.300 If you don't have your notification off, you will have no life.

00:12:36.340 All of these things will be updating like your Instagram messages off, Snapchat messages

00:12:41.520 off.

00:12:41.940 You have so many things that will haunt you if you keep your notifications on.

00:12:46.780 Opposition.

00:12:47.320 I'll tell you what about opposition when it comes onto social media.

00:12:49.860 There are a lot of people that don't like people to disagree with them.

00:12:53.640 Okay?

00:12:53.840 When I started creating content, you know, all of a sudden we started getting one negative

00:12:58.340 comment, two negative comments.

00:12:59.440 Nowadays, we get hundreds of negative comments that people post.

00:13:03.480 Here are some of them that I have up here.

00:13:05.160 You can read them.

00:13:06.120 We get a lot of them.

00:13:07.160 Some of them are funny.

00:13:08.080 Some of them are harsh.

00:13:08.960 Some of them are direct.

00:13:09.720 Some hurt.

00:13:10.660 But regardless, if you are planning on creating content, you have to know that people will

00:13:15.000 post you.

00:13:15.420 And if you can't handle that, you just need to make that decision whether you want to do

00:13:18.640 it or not.

00:13:19.000 Now here's pros.

00:13:20.600 Connection, speed, cost-effective marketing.

00:13:22.960 Connection, grandparents are staying in contact with grandkids because they can do FaceTime

00:13:27.620 and see the kids.

00:13:28.860 You're one video away from being an online celebrity, education accessible to making money.

00:13:34.340 Today, the youngest YouTuber is a seven-year-old kid who made $22 million in 2018.

00:13:40.600 He is the youngest YouTuber, highest paid YouTuber, seven years old, made $22 million last year.

00:13:47.760 Think about this.

00:13:48.420 He's a toy review YouTube channel.

00:13:50.780 So there's so many pros and cons with social media, your understanding about social media

00:13:55.880 has to change.

00:13:56.560 Both pros, both cons.

00:13:58.220 If all you think about is pros, you've got to get the perspective on the cons.

00:14:01.760 If all you think about is cons, you've got to think about the perspective on the pros.

00:14:05.240 Number nine, resume 2019.

00:14:07.260 You know how resume's always been what?

00:14:08.940 Here's my job.

00:14:09.700 Here's where I work.

00:14:10.340 Here's my degree.

00:14:10.980 Here's this.

00:14:11.380 Here's that.

00:14:12.020 Let me tell you what impresses me.

00:14:13.660 I'm sitting there hiring different CFOs.

00:14:15.680 And six CFOs are sitting there giving me their pitch.

00:14:19.420 The guy at the end says the following to me.

00:14:22.240 He says, by the way, I watched some of your videos.

00:14:24.120 I just want you to know, just last week, I ran a mile in five minutes and 42 seconds.

00:14:29.440 I say, you did what?

00:14:30.640 He said, I ran a mile last week in five minutes and 42 seconds and I'm 46 years old.

00:14:34.620 I said, you've got to be kidding me.

00:14:35.900 No, I made a note of it.

00:14:37.340 That stuck with me when I stepped away.

00:14:39.740 Why?

00:14:40.480 I thought about his health conditions, stamina, energy to be able to last long.

00:14:44.640 What does this mean to you?

00:14:46.000 If I am applying anywhere today and I'm posting my resume, I'm going to tell you what I'm posting.

00:14:50.560 Here's what I'm posting in my resume.

00:14:52.320 If I've traveled the world, I'm letting you know I've traveled the world because I've seen

00:14:56.400 culture.

00:14:57.560 And I'm going to explain to you that I know how to deal with different cultures.

00:15:00.600 If I have contacts, the right contacts, I'm going to put the five contacts that I have

00:15:05.380 in high places, direct contacts, cell phone that I have a relationship with.

00:15:08.860 Influence.

00:15:10.460 If I have a certain influence with my following, I'm going to put on my resume, 62,000 people

00:15:15.720 follow me on Instagram.

00:15:17.340 You know, 93,000 people follow me on Facebook.

00:15:20.040 I have 17,000 followers on Twitter and their main niche is the following five words.

00:15:25.420 I'm going to put the books I've read.

00:15:26.880 Here's the top five books I've read in business.

00:15:29.160 I'm going to write it.

00:15:29.740 These are the top 10 books I've read.

00:15:31.360 I'm going to sit there and say, this guy's read these books?

00:15:33.380 Yes.

00:15:33.800 Wow.

00:15:34.340 I asked you about the book.

00:15:35.620 You know about the book.

00:15:36.380 I'm impressed more than your degree.

00:15:38.840 I'm impressed the books you've read.

00:15:40.320 Your credit score.

00:15:41.140 I got a 793 credit score.

00:15:42.700 How does this guy have a 793 credit score?

00:15:45.040 Credibility, discipline, your health.

00:15:47.640 I ran a marathon three weeks ago.

00:15:49.580 Really?

00:15:50.040 Which one?

00:15:50.440 Boston Marathon, 26.2 miles.

00:15:52.420 You ran it?

00:15:52.940 Yes.

00:15:53.160 I did an Ironman.

00:15:54.740 You know, I won the CrossFit, whatever, whatever for the state of Texas.

00:15:58.000 I'm impressed.

00:15:59.480 Those things today matter on your resume.

00:16:02.060 Maybe not 20 years ago.

00:16:03.340 Today they do.

00:16:03.980 Two, unlearn how you view resumes.

00:16:06.040 Number nine, being a millionaire.

00:16:07.260 It's no longer a big deal.

00:16:09.180 This is the easiest time to be a millionaire.

00:16:11.440 However, as easy as it is to be a millionaire, this is also time where more criticism is given

00:16:17.400 to millionaires.

00:16:18.320 So you have to close your ears to the criticism of being a millionaire and feeling bad about

00:16:22.140 being a millionaire.

00:16:23.100 And you have to realize it's so easy to go be a millionaire today.

00:16:25.340 Truly, this is the easiest time to be a millionaire in the world.

00:16:28.480 So, ever, go make your millions, last but not least, meaning of love.

00:16:33.080 One time, a good friend of mine, we're in Cinque Terre, Italy.

00:16:36.360 And we have a long drive from Tuscany.

00:16:37.920 I rented a 17-bedroom mansion in Tuscany, all the way up on top of the mountains.

00:16:42.400 A beautiful place.

00:16:43.420 Incredible time.

00:16:44.260 Pool in the backyard.

00:16:45.100 Hired chefs.

00:16:45.820 All these things.

00:16:47.080 And one day, we decided to go to Cinque Terre.

00:16:49.140 It's a beautiful place.

00:16:50.300 You've seen it on postcards before.

00:16:51.480 All these houses that are different color, orange, yellow, pink.

00:16:55.580 And we ended up eating over there.

00:16:56.900 On the drive there, we were having a conversation.

00:16:59.660 By the way, we ran out of gas on the way up.

00:17:01.140 It was pretty bad.

00:17:01.980 I mean, I went into the gas station.

00:17:04.200 Half a mile, the car is running out of gas.

00:17:06.200 It was a downhill.

00:17:07.440 We just passed a red light and pulled into a gas station.

00:17:09.620 We got some gas.

00:17:10.620 Or else we'd be in a bad situation there because there was no gas stations all the way on top

00:17:14.200 of the mountain.

00:17:15.260 And we're driving.

00:17:16.000 We started talking about the meaning of love.

00:17:17.700 I said, tell me what love means to you.

00:17:19.400 And he says, love to me is a feeling, an emotion.

00:17:24.040 I said, to me, love means verb.

00:17:28.200 Love is an action.

00:17:30.120 Love is shown.

00:17:31.460 He says, I don't know if I agree with you.

00:17:33.000 I said, that's totally fine.

00:17:34.040 We can have different meanings of love.

00:17:35.860 But if you love somebody, you've got to show it to them.

00:17:38.720 How do you show it to them?

00:17:39.780 Whatever way it is that you show it to them.

00:17:41.840 Show is action.

00:17:42.940 Show is a behavior.

00:17:44.000 So, why are we talking about love right now?

00:17:46.480 A lot of people say they love you.

00:17:47.920 But if they don't show you the action, you've got to kind of realize who loves you and who

00:17:51.200 doesn't love you.

00:17:52.340 All these people that say they love you, it's such an easy word to use.

00:17:54.880 Let me tell you, many, many men have used the word love 10 seconds before they got it

00:18:00.120 on with somebody.

00:18:01.120 Okay?

00:18:01.500 And it's just a magical word.

00:18:03.320 Just tell me you love me.

00:18:04.580 And the guy's like, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding.

00:18:06.060 All the blood is rushed to the middle part of the body.

00:18:08.820 And they say, I love you, baby.

00:18:10.300 Okay, and then they have, and it says, well, I don't know if I love you like that.

00:18:14.200 Love is action.

00:18:15.080 Love is a lot of work.

00:18:15.920 Love is a lot of effort that you've got to put into it.

00:18:17.640 Yes, baby?

00:18:18.760 Yes or no?

00:18:19.380 What do you think?

00:18:20.260 So, I love this baby.

00:18:21.300 So, you know what happens if I love you?

00:18:23.200 What do I do if I love you?

00:18:24.440 Can I show you some love?

00:18:25.360 Love you.

00:18:26.080 Yeah, I love you.

00:18:26.880 I give you a kiss.

00:18:28.020 Yes?

00:18:29.800 What do I do to love you?

00:18:31.400 I support you.

00:18:32.580 I protect you.

00:18:33.780 I tell you you're amazing.

00:18:35.260 Yes?

00:18:35.920 I take you places with me.

00:18:37.280 We spend quality time together.

00:18:39.220 We play.

00:18:40.040 We wrestle.

00:18:40.900 We go shopping together.

00:18:42.400 We go eating together.

00:18:43.860 We spend time together.

00:18:44.900 We laugh together.

00:18:45.720 We cry together.

00:18:46.680 Yes?

00:18:47.580 Yes or no?

00:18:48.580 You know what all that stuff is?

00:18:50.080 What is all that stuff?

00:18:51.120 All that stuff is love, baby.

00:18:53.240 So, in 2019, redefine the meaning of love.

00:18:56.600 Okay?

00:18:57.380 Really start looking at who truly loves you.

00:18:59.400 If love is truly a verb, who is truly loving on you?

00:19:02.640 And love is truly a verb, who are you showing love to yourself?

00:19:06.260 And if you're not, make an effort.

00:19:08.280 And if others are not, have that conversation with them.

00:19:10.360 And if they still don't do it, then identify who is the person that you want to get tied

00:19:13.820 on and identify in that community of love and who is just an acquaintance.

00:19:16.840 You've got to get very clear about your relationships in 2019.

00:19:19.980 Very, very clear.

00:19:21.220 Thanks, everybody, for listening.

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00:19:44.720 Take care, everybody.

00:19:45.280 Bye-bye.

Valuetainment - May 06, 2019

Episode 296 - 10 Things To Unlearn In 2019

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