Episode 296 - 10 Things To Unlearn In 2019
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Summary
10 things to unlearn in 2019: 1. Think in a completely different way 2. Being a celebrity today is no longer as important as it used to be in the 80s 3. Money is the person you know in your life where if you allow them to use you, they will use you.
Transcript
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30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put em up, reach
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the sky, turn the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the
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I'm Patrick Bedevi, host of ITM, and today we're going to talk about 10 things to unlearn
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This is purely perspective on thinking in a completely different way.
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Number one, many, many years, you and I have heard that statement of you are six degrees
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You are six degrees away from the president, six degrees away from a billionaire, six degrees
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away from Michael Jordan, six degrees away from anybody.
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Today, you're probably two degrees away from anybody.
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If you go look at your social media, what I would love to see happen one day, if somebody
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was able to put this technology together, imagine your 800 friends you have on Facebook, Twitter.
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Whoever it is that you follow personally that you know, if there was a way for you to be
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able to know who they knew, who they had contact with, whose phone number they had, whose email
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address they had, you literally become one or two degrees away from being connected with
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It's a complete different ballgame today than ever before.
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How do I have this meeting with this influencer?
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You've got to unlearn thinking it's a big deal to get connected with an influencer.
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Number two, being a celebrity today, it's no longer what it was in the 80s.
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In the 80s, there was no, hey, sensation, this person had a beautiful body, post their
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In the 80s, if you had a nice body, you look good in Miami.
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Maybe you look good at a beach in, you know, you went to Italy or you went to Spain and
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So the value of being a celebrity is not what it used to be in the 80s.
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Meaning, if somebody like you meets somebody, there's a big difference between a celebrity
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An influencer, positive influencer, somebody is positively impacting people's lives.
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If you are going to make a decision to be anything, a lot of people say, well, I'm an
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influencer, I'm an influencer, I'm an influencer.
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There could be, you know, influence just because your body, your body's not going to really
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But to be an influencer where you are positively impacting the world through whatever methods
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you have to do, that's a complete different story.
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So nowadays, the value of celebrity, not what used to be in the 80s, if you are positively
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impacting the world and you're an influencer, that's a completely different place to be.
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My challenge to you is to start thinking about celebrity this way.
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I want to be an influencer, not as much as being a celebrity for the right reasons.
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Money, if there's anything you can learn about money, it's how money works and your relationship
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Money is the person you know in your life where if you allow them to, allow them to, they
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You ever met anybody that if you allow them to, they'll use you, they'll abuse you, they'll
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But that same person, if you lead them, they realize you can't be pushed around, that's
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If money realizes you're putting money to work, not the other way around, money says,
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But most people don't know how to put money to work.
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If you don't put money to work, money goes out there and does other things and works for
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So your relationship with money has got to change.
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Start thinking about it in a completely different way.
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If you've never watched a video of 20 Rules of Money, Mario, let's put a thumbnail up here.
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Click over here to go watch the video of 20 Rules of Money.
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And then after that, go watch the next video called How to Double Your Money.
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It'll give you a complete different perspective about how money works going into 2019.
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The next thing to learn in 2019 is political beliefs.
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Listen, if there's anything you can pick up in 2019 that can help you out is the following.
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Don't let any of the media outlets emotionally confuse you and make you change your mind.
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They're both trying to sell their ideas on to you.
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One of them gets up based on a ton of research done by Pew Research.
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I'm talking somebody that is, you know, not necessarily leaning on one side politically.
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This person gets up and makes their case to you.
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And they say, here's what's going on right now.
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For instance, hey, you know, people going back to prison.
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I'm making an argument to you and telling you, recidivision rates, right?
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After one year of a person being out of prison, 56% end up back in prison.
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56% of inmates that got into prison and left go back in a year later.
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Another person gets up and it's purely emotion.
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So if you're Republican and you only watch Fox News, you're blinded.
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If you're a Democrat and you only watch CNN, you're blinded.
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Don't get too blind in this area in 2019 because there's going to be a lot of games in 2019 and 2020 when it comes down to politics.
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By the way, even someone that's watching this right now is saying, I'm not going to be naive.
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Yet you still only listen to the stuff that you like to hear, that you agree with.
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You've got to be able to listen to everything, kind of get an idea if you've got any blind spots there.
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I had one of our guys the other day who's one of our top earners in the company, Ricky Aguilar, said,
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Just because I partied with you for three, four, five years doesn't make you my best friend.
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He says, I have made a decision to grow my life in a whole different place.
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There's a big difference between people I partied with and people that I'm friends with.
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And I think a lot of times, people emotionally say, well, you know, it's just Larry and John, you know, we used to party together, man.
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That doesn't mean someone's going to defend you and back you up to help you go to the next level when it becomes friends.
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How many times do you see these posts on Instagram where somebody says, you know, oh, bro, you know, I got a job.
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Well, you know, it lets you say there's some truth to that.
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So in 2019, really eliminate some of those people that you thought were friends that you partied with.
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And replace them with some people that actually can go deeper rooted with values, principles, things that can help you become a better human being.
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I can't tell you how many times people tell me things like, Pat, you know, what do I do?
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You know, they don't support me for what I'm doing.
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My mom didn't support me to become an entrepreneur.
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I'll get messages after messages after messages on Instagram.
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Most parents are not going to support your dreams.
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Your job is to make them know if it's real or not.
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And by the way, if your dreams are 100% important to you and they become a reality, guess what your parents say?
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When I first told my dad, I'm going to get into the financial industry.
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My dad said, how are you going to go be a financial advisor with Morgan Stanley Dean Witter when you have $49,000 of debt?
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I sat there and I said, maybe this guy makes sense.
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First time he heard me speak, year and a half, I was speaking in front of 500 people at an event.
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I said, well, I'm starting to make a name for myself in the world of business.
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Don't try to win your family support and say, my parents don't support me.
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I know many people that didn't have family support.
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And then their family said, we respect you because even though we didn't support you,
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If you know one thing about me is, I like perspective.
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I'm going to give you both sides on social media.
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The email comes out and it has the Instagram email.
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Your account's about to be deleted because of something you broke or something you did
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So all of a sudden what they'll do is, you'll have that email.
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The moment you log on, that wasn't an email from Instagram or Facebook or Twitter or YouTube.
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They go into your account, then they go immediately, change your account password.
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After they go on your account and change your account password, you don't have access to
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From there, they automatically go in and do whatever they want to do.
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This guy got on our Valuetainment Instagram account.
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And then finally I ended up sending him a message.
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And I told him, I said, look, you know, and I put this respond back.
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He said he gave me the password and we got Valuetainment activated.
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And by the way, Instagram doesn't have a help account.
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And they may take a month to get back to you because you're not that big of a priority
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Be very careful when you're getting these emails.
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Whatever you post on social media is permanent.
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You may be in your 20s or a teenager thinking it's not a big deal.
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20 years later, it's going to come back and catch up to you.
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There's bullying going on on social media all the time.
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I share bullying with you because you've got to share bullying with your kids.
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You've got to talk to your kids about bullying.
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Parents always contact me saying, what do I handle about this?
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This past week when we were on Palm Springs with 141 of our execs, I talk to them about
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Like, I'm not a fan of people saying, do you want to keep a secret?
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I tell my kids, there's only two people you keep secrets with.
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These are things that you have to be teaching your kids.
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I think a lot of times parents are so busy that they're worried about having the sex conversation,
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the bullying conversation, the sexting conversation.
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You've got to have that conversation and be prepared for it.
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Marty had location tracking on his, what was it, Snapchat account or whatever it was.
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And everybody started kind of panicking a little bit because the guy was breathing very hard
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I've gone to movies and my tracker was on with a guy that took a Snapchat of me.
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So you just have to know, you've got to have your tracking off.
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If you don't have your notification off, you will have no life.
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All of these things will be updating like your Instagram messages off, Snapchat messages
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You have so many things that will haunt you if you keep your notifications on.
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I'll tell you what about opposition when it comes onto social media.
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There are a lot of people that don't like people to disagree with them.
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When I started creating content, you know, all of a sudden we started getting one negative
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Nowadays, we get hundreds of negative comments that people post.
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But regardless, if you are planning on creating content, you have to know that people will
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And if you can't handle that, you just need to make that decision whether you want to do
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Connection, grandparents are staying in contact with grandkids because they can do FaceTime
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You're one video away from being an online celebrity, education accessible to making money.
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Today, the youngest YouTuber is a seven-year-old kid who made $22 million in 2018.
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He is the youngest YouTuber, highest paid YouTuber, seven years old, made $22 million last year.
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So there's so many pros and cons with social media, your understanding about social media
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If all you think about is pros, you've got to get the perspective on the cons.
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If all you think about is cons, you've got to think about the perspective on the pros.
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And six CFOs are sitting there giving me their pitch.
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He says, by the way, I watched some of your videos.
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I just want you to know, just last week, I ran a mile in five minutes and 42 seconds.
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He said, I ran a mile last week in five minutes and 42 seconds and I'm 46 years old.
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I thought about his health conditions, stamina, energy to be able to last long.
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If I am applying anywhere today and I'm posting my resume, I'm going to tell you what I'm posting.
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If I've traveled the world, I'm letting you know I've traveled the world because I've seen
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And I'm going to explain to you that I know how to deal with different cultures.
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If I have contacts, the right contacts, I'm going to put the five contacts that I have
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in high places, direct contacts, cell phone that I have a relationship with.
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If I have a certain influence with my following, I'm going to put on my resume, 62,000 people
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I have 17,000 followers on Twitter and their main niche is the following five words.
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Here's the top five books I've read in business.
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I'm going to sit there and say, this guy's read these books?
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You know, I won the CrossFit, whatever, whatever for the state of Texas.
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However, as easy as it is to be a millionaire, this is also time where more criticism is given
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So you have to close your ears to the criticism of being a millionaire and feeling bad about
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And you have to realize it's so easy to go be a millionaire today.
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Truly, this is the easiest time to be a millionaire in the world.
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So, ever, go make your millions, last but not least, meaning of love.
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One time, a good friend of mine, we're in Cinque Terre, Italy.
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I rented a 17-bedroom mansion in Tuscany, all the way up on top of the mountains.
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All these houses that are different color, orange, yellow, pink.
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On the drive there, we were having a conversation.
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We just passed a red light and pulled into a gas station.
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Or else we'd be in a bad situation there because there was no gas stations all the way on top
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And he says, love to me is a feeling, an emotion.
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But if you love somebody, you've got to show it to them.
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But if they don't show you the action, you've got to kind of realize who loves you and who
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All these people that say they love you, it's such an easy word to use.
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Let me tell you, many, many men have used the word love 10 seconds before they got it
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And the guy's like, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding.
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All the blood is rushed to the middle part of the body.
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Okay, and then they have, and it says, well, I don't know if I love you like that.
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Love is a lot of effort that you've got to put into it.
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If love is truly a verb, who is truly loving on you?
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And love is truly a verb, who are you showing love to yourself?
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And if others are not, have that conversation with them.
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And if they still don't do it, then identify who is the person that you want to get tied
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on and identify in that community of love and who is just an acquaintance.
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You've got to get very clear about your relationships in 2019.
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