Valuetainment - May 15, 2019


Episode 303 - Band Aid Mentality


Episode Stats

Length

4 minutes

Words per Minute

205.68346

Word Count

953

Sentence Count

63


Summary

Most people live by the bandaid mentality. You can t fix everything with a bandaid. You can't fix your home, your business, your marriage, your health, your family, your finances, your financial problems, your mental health, if you fix it with a Bandaid, it will only compound into more problems. You have so many issues you re dealing with that you don t have time to pursue all of your dreams, you get stuck and sucked in all of these problems.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put them up, reach the sky, turn the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the underdog.
00:00:17.280 I'm Patrick with every host of ITIM and today I'm going to talk to you about something called the band-aid mentality.
00:00:21.920 Let me tell you about this band-aid mentality, most people live by the band-aid mentality, I've been talking about this for many, many years.
00:00:26.700 Listen, I'm in Jamaica right now, we brought a couple hundred of our executives to stay at this Moon Palace and one of my favorite parts about these trips, one of my favorite parts about these trips is a late night conversation, favorite part, because it gets deeper.
00:00:42.300 Last time I'm having a conversation, probably at about 1 o'clock, 12.30, and one of the guys I'm talking to, you know, everything that I brought up, this person kept saying,
00:00:52.820 well, you know, I'm just trying to make sure that this is not going to create another conflict with this person or I just want to make sure we're going to be good with this person for six months or 12 months or 18 months.
00:01:04.780 I just want them to be good. And I said, listen, every single thing you're looking at in life, you're looking at it as a band-aid.
00:01:11.300 Let me fix it with a band-aid. Let me fix it with a band-aid. Let me fix it with a band-aid. Let me fix it with a band-aid.
00:01:15.860 Some things you cannot fix with a band-aid. Some things you cannot. You cannot fix a lot of things with band-aid.
00:01:23.640 People have some major health issues and their band-aid mentality is, oh, I'll just take a Tylenol.
00:01:28.880 You can't fix a home with a band-aid at the top. If rain comes, your ceiling is going to get messed up.
00:01:35.560 You cannot fix a lot of your business problems with a band-aid. You cannot.
00:01:40.840 You cannot fix your marital problems with a band-aid. Some marital issues are terrible.
00:01:46.620 You got to go sit with a psychologist and figure them out.
00:01:49.860 You cannot fix your health issue, your weight problem with a band-aid.
00:01:53.260 Oh, let me drink, you know, such and such or let me take this pill or let me do this.
00:01:57.880 I'm going to lose 15 pounds. You can't fix a lot of things with a band-aid.
00:02:02.200 And here's what happens if you fix everything with a band-aid.
00:02:05.220 Fast forward a year from now, two years from now, three years from now,
00:02:08.260 all of those band-aids, the wounds, have gotten bigger, have gotten worse.
00:02:13.720 And now it's going to compound and you got to figure out a way to fix all those band-aids that you put up.
00:02:19.820 And now you got to do 30 surgeries and then you lose momentum.
00:02:23.980 And I go, oh my gosh, you just don't understand what I'm going through.
00:02:26.560 I'm having issues with my marriage. I'm having issues with my health.
00:02:29.140 I'm having issues with my business. I'm having issues with my family.
00:02:31.700 I'm having issues because you avoided conflict all these years
00:02:34.800 because everything to you was about fixing it with a band-aid.
00:02:39.360 So, as you watch this video, make a list.
00:02:44.280 What's that one conversation I need to have with a family member I haven't had for a while?
00:02:47.280 And I've been fixing it with a band-aid.
00:02:50.420 What am I doing with my marriage, with my relationship, trying to fix everything with a band-aid?
00:02:53.700 You know what? We just try to avoid each other so we don't fight.
00:02:56.380 You need to have that conversation.
00:02:59.380 I don't want to get my finances looked because it's so terrible.
00:03:01.920 Every time I look at it, I get depressed.
00:03:03.980 No, no, no. You got to take a look at it.
00:03:06.420 You're going to be 65 in no time.
00:03:08.680 You know this whole thing about health.
00:03:10.820 Make a list.
00:03:11.600 What part of your health you're treating as a band-aid?
00:03:13.280 Your weight, your bones, what part of it is it?
00:03:18.080 And then whatever list you make, one by one by one, you got to go address them
00:03:23.320 and create a solution for them and an action item.
00:03:26.400 Because I can guarantee you, all of those things you put band-aids on
00:03:30.360 eventually are going to compound into so many issues.
00:03:34.600 And then one day you have so many issues you're dealing with that you don't have time
00:03:38.760 to go pursue your dreams.
00:03:40.400 And you get stuck and sucked in to all of these problems.
00:03:45.700 And then it takes you 5, 10, 15, 20 years to solve and it's too late at that time.
00:03:50.040 So take a moment, ask yourself, what areas do I put band-aids on?
00:03:54.400 What can I do to fix them?
00:03:55.800 And moving forward, every single time you solve a problem,
00:03:58.900 are you looking at it from a short-term standpoint or a long-term?
00:04:01.360 Remember, is this a short-term solution or a long-term solution?
00:04:05.180 Bank on long-term solutions so you don't have dead weight hanging around
00:04:09.120 and it compounds where you have to solve it 5, 10, 20 years later.
00:04:13.480 Thanks everybody for listening.
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00:04:22.360 And if you have any questions for me that you may have,
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00:04:35.280 With that being said, have a great day today.
00:04:37.020 Take care everybody.
00:04:37.740 Bye-bye.