Valuetainment - May 16, 2019


Episode 304 - Why The People You Love Don’t Motivate You


Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

158.75058

Word count

1,357

Sentence count

155

Harmful content

Misogyny

2

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In today's Motivation Monday video, I talk about why the people you love so much don't motivate you as much as you think they do and why it's better to have a good relationship with those people in your life.

Transcript

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00:00:00.300 30 seconds. One time for the underdog. Ignition sequence start.
00:00:06.980 Let me see you put them up. Reach the sky, turn the stars up above.
00:00:11.100 Cause it's one time for the underdog. One time for the underdog.
00:00:17.320 I'm Patrick Bedeva, host of AIT, and in today's Motivation Monday video,
00:00:20.340 I'm going to talk about why the people you love so much don't motivate you as much as you think they do.
00:00:25.540 You know, I don't think we give enough credit to the people that mistreated us in our lives.
00:00:30.000 Yes, the people that mistreated you, betrayed you, backstabbed you, said something negative about you.
00:00:36.820 Maybe a parent that left you and didn't see you again.
00:00:39.700 A father that left you and a mother that didn't want to see you again.
00:00:44.800 I don't think we give enough credit to those people.
00:00:47.700 I think we give way too much credit for motivation to the people that were very good to us.
00:00:52.220 And by the way, more power to the people that were very good to us.
00:00:55.920 But motivation doesn't come from there.
00:00:57.600 Think about it this way. You know, how many people I've done business plans with and they say, I ask them, I say, so tell me, why are you starting a business?
00:01:05.560 Why are you doing this?
00:01:07.440 Oh, because I want to retire my mom. 0.89
00:01:09.340 Really?
00:01:10.540 Six months later, they're not moving.
00:01:12.540 They quit their business.
00:01:13.400 They shut it down.
00:01:14.400 What happened?
00:01:15.480 I thought you really wanted to retire your mom.
00:01:17.600 No.
00:01:18.580 Well, who's been nicer to you than your mom?
00:01:20.500 Nobody.
00:01:21.380 How come there's no motivation?
00:01:22.460 I see a lot of people say, I'm doing this for my kids.
00:01:26.140 Really?
00:01:26.720 Yes.
00:01:27.460 Hmm.
00:01:28.220 You're later.
00:01:29.040 You come in late.
00:01:30.060 You're not running your office.
00:01:32.020 You know, your company shuts down.
00:01:33.580 Your office shuts down.
00:01:34.380 You go back to your job.
00:01:35.300 What happened there?
00:01:37.640 Didn't you love your kids?
00:01:39.540 I love my kids.
00:01:41.240 How come it didn't create an urgency for you?
00:01:44.740 How come you didn't move faster?
00:01:46.060 How come it didn't make you come to the office early in the morning and compete and work hard?
00:01:52.260 Does it mean you don't love your kids?
00:01:53.820 No.
00:01:55.500 Let me tell you something here.
00:01:57.700 You know how many people I know?
00:01:59.980 Their motivation came because one person said, you'll never make it.
00:02:06.500 Or another person said, you'll never win without me.
00:02:09.040 Or a dad left at the age of seven, never came back, and called back once you started winning.
00:02:20.200 You know how many stories there's like that?
00:02:23.460 Or a mother told a child, you'll never succeed in life.
00:02:29.680 Those are the things that moves people.
00:02:33.460 It's very easy to say, oh my gosh, it's only for the people I love.
00:02:37.300 But it's not how it works.
00:02:40.580 It's not how it works.
00:02:42.660 I just made a list of 50 names on what moved them.
00:02:48.380 None of the main reasons of the people I made a list of that moved them were the people they loved the most.
00:02:56.580 The motivation for the people they loved the most was in the top five, but wasn't number one on the list.
00:03:03.020 It wasn't.
00:03:05.460 Didn't create that urgency.
00:03:07.900 You know, I love my haters.
00:03:09.740 I can't tell you how much I love them.
00:03:11.940 I'm very grateful for them.
00:03:13.600 I'm not trying to give you one of these rah-rah, positive, like, sweet, nice, oh my gosh, she's just trying to be so... 1.00
00:03:22.100 No, no, no.
00:03:22.660 Let me tell you...
00:03:23.300 Believe me.
00:03:24.580 Let me tell you why I love them.
00:03:26.640 They don't have any clue what kind of fire they created.
00:03:29.840 You know how many lists of names I have with phrases and sentences and things they said?
00:03:33.840 I have them all.
00:03:35.400 So this video isn't about me.
00:03:37.880 This video is about you.
00:03:38.820 What are you doing it for?
00:03:41.380 You think it's just the people you love?
00:03:43.500 Maybe one of the reasons.
00:03:46.100 Has it moved you?
00:03:47.220 Really?
00:03:48.360 Really?
00:03:49.200 Really?
00:03:50.280 It's moved you?
00:03:51.600 So you mean to tell me you've been working 80 hours, 100 hours every week for the last 17 months?
00:03:57.020 No, you haven't.
00:03:58.020 So it doesn't move you.
00:03:59.700 But Pat, you mean to tell me I've got to work 80 to 100 hours a week?
00:04:02.220 See, if something moves you, no one can stop you.
00:04:06.840 See, I don't measure how many hours I work a week, but I know how many hours I work a week.
00:04:12.060 If people realize, like, how many hours I put in, it may scare some of the people.
00:04:18.360 But there's a deeper motivation there.
00:04:23.020 Deeper.
00:04:23.920 Deeper motivation there.
00:04:24.980 You've got to figure it out.
00:04:25.840 I used to think it was like, oh my gosh, the people will win, you know, perfect parents, everything solid.
00:04:32.480 No, no, no.
00:04:33.920 They learn how to tap into the real motivation.
00:04:38.180 Do you?
00:04:39.720 Have you?
00:04:42.940 If you figured out.
00:04:49.500 Imagine like a source.
00:04:51.340 Like, imagine you dig a well and you strike oil.
00:04:59.160 Like somewhere in the Middle East type of oil.
00:05:02.180 Texas oil.
00:05:03.680 Venezuela oil.
00:05:04.740 Alaska oil.
00:05:06.300 South Dakota type of oil.
00:05:09.060 And it never stops.
00:05:12.100 You know what I'm saying?
00:05:13.660 That's the kind of motivation I'm talking about.
00:05:17.140 It never stops.
00:05:18.360 So, stop discounting the people that mistreated you.
00:05:25.520 Stop discounting the statements they made to you.
00:05:29.860 And realize, many of those people could be the reason why you end up doing what you're doing in your life that's big.
00:05:41.200 Very big.
00:05:42.020 So, make a list.
00:05:46.240 Write the phrases down.
00:05:49.040 And tell yourself.
00:05:50.760 I am doing it for my kids.
00:05:52.100 I am doing it for my wife, my husband, my family, my mom, my dad, the people I love.
00:05:56.480 I'm going to tell you something here.
00:05:58.420 Here's also these ten pictures, these ten faces, these ten names.
00:06:01.720 And it's secret.
00:06:04.140 Only you versus you.
00:06:06.580 And you say, never forget when my ex-boyfriend said this.
00:06:12.080 Never forget when my ex-girlfriend or ex-wife or my ex-husband said this.
00:06:17.080 You can't make it without me.
00:06:20.000 You will never be anything in life.
00:06:22.220 And those are some exciting words.
00:06:28.700 Or such exciting words.
00:06:31.520 People tell me, my parents told me I can't make it.
00:06:33.740 They don't support me.
00:06:34.800 Good.
00:06:35.300 Let's see what you're going to do about it.
00:06:38.160 Good.
00:06:38.920 I'm glad you're getting some rejection.
00:06:40.660 I'm glad you're getting some pain.
00:06:42.760 I'm glad it bothers you a little bit.
00:06:44.580 I hope it bothers you.
00:06:45.800 I hope it keeps you up at night.
00:06:47.960 I hope it makes you want to do more.
00:06:52.220 Because I love you so much, baby.
00:06:55.940 Where's the motivation in that?
00:06:57.820 I love you so much, baby.
00:06:59.860 I love you, baby, baby, baby.
00:07:02.180 Baby, baby, baby, baby, baby.
00:07:05.940 No.
00:07:07.120 That's fine.
00:07:07.660 We all need to be loved.
00:07:08.420 Don't get me wrong.
00:07:08.960 I'm not saying I don't want to be loved.
00:07:10.600 Believe me, I love it.
00:07:11.500 My family, my kids, the people that matter to me love me.
00:07:19.540 But you need more than that.
00:07:20.700 You need more than that.
00:07:23.000 So make a list of your top 10 haters.
00:07:25.880 Write down what they did to you.
00:07:29.360 And every day, throughout the day, somehow remind yourself of those phrases.
00:07:34.880 See what kind of feeling it creates for you.
00:07:37.960 Don't get angry.
00:07:39.260 Get excited.
00:07:41.480 Get jacked up.
00:07:42.640 Let's visualize what happens when it becomes a reality.
00:07:48.020 You don't have to say anything.
00:07:49.320 The world's going to know about it when it becomes a reality.
00:07:51.640 It's the best kind.
00:07:53.320 Believe me.
00:07:54.460 Best kind.
00:07:57.820 Best kind.
00:07:59.280 Natural highs are the best highs.
00:08:00.840 Anyways, hey, I hope this message resonates with you.
00:08:06.760 I hope you have a killer week this week.
00:08:08.440 Thanks, everybody, for listening.
00:08:09.760 And by the way, if you haven't already subscribed to Valuetainment on iTunes, please do so.
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00:08:17.240 And if you have any questions for me that you may have, you can always find me on Snapchat,
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00:08:23.280 Just search my name, PatrickVidDavid.
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00:08:30.180 With that being said, have a great day today.
00:08:31.920 Take care, everybody.
00:08:32.640 Bye-bye.