Episode 371： Type A Personality Explained
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Summary
Type A personalities are people who are willing to do whatever it takes to win. In this episode, we talk about why they are difficult to work with and why they can be difficult to date. 1. Winning at all costs 2. Being overbearing 3. Getting bored easily
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30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put them up, reach the sky, touch the stars, up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the underdog.
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I'm Patrick Bedevi, host of Value Tim, and today we are talking about type A personalities, yes, all the type A personalities that sometimes are difficult to work with, difficult to date, difficult to have as a friend or family, we're going to talk about those guys in this episode.
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Number one, winning at all costs, doesn't matter what it is, I don't care about breaking the rules, I'm willing to break the law to win.
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So those regulations, laws that are in place, I'll cross the line to be able to win. I don't care. So compliance is not being looked at.
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You know, regulatory issues not being looked at. Investment into attorneys not being done. Investment into compliance is not being done because I don't care what's going to happen.
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It's winning at all costs. I used to compete with several guys that were willing to compete at all costs, and they did in the financial industry what wasn't good for the client.
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They lost their license for a decade. They took away their 663-26 because it was winning at all costs.
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It's so tempting for type A personalities, but this could waste a decade of your career if you do that.
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So number two, being overbearing. What is overbearing? Overbearing to me is working with somebody that nothing is ever good enough.
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It's like, oh my gosh, I just did what you told me to do. It's like, it's not enough yet. It's not as good. It's not that good yet.
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It's not this and that's not that. I don't know if this is good. And you're like, what can I ever do that's going to please you?
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But this is actually an area that investors, MVCs, and PE firms like because they're willing to go a certain level of expectations that others aren't willing to go to.
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I'm interviewing Patti McCord, a former chief talent officer of Netflix of 14 years.
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She worked directly with Reed Hastings, helped the company go from zero to $150 billion.
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She tells the story of the day they crossed a million users on subscribers to Netflix.
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She says, our chief operating officer comes in. She says, guess what? Our CMO comes in. Guess what? What?
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You know, Reed is there. She's there. Everybody's like, oh, that's awesome.
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And Reed stops. Everybody says, listen, this is great. You guys can celebrate, but I'm going for five million.
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I don't care. You guys can do all the celebration we want. It's off to five million.
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It's like, are you out of your mind now that they're at 70, 80 million users worldwide?
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What happened there? That's the overbearing aspect.
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But the part I want to make a point here with the overbearing is,
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there's overbearing to building something big that you're going for.
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Then there's overbearing where even day-to-day stuff that people do right,
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That's the part that's a little bit difficult working with type A's.
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Just keep in mind, that is an area that sometimes gets under people's skills.
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If they do something right, let them know that.
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Now this boredom isn't just, they get bored and then they go do some dumb stuff.
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The boredom I'm talking about is, so you come up with a strategy hypothetically.
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You got the strategy that you're excited about, and you and your board came up with it,
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and here's what we're going to be doing, right?
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You put this into action, but after a month, two months,
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you're bored out of your mind, you change the strategy again.
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And you change it again, and you change it again, and change it again.
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Instead of adjusting, you massively change it again.
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You're not giving it enough time to create momentum.
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And then you're like, I'm not making any money.
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Because there's a part of it that's like, you got to allow your strategy to brew and grow a little bit.
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When you're getting bored easily and you're changing stuff, you're not letting momentum come into your sight.
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Temper tantrums are very common with this personality type.
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However, maturity sometimes comes sooner than later for some.
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I mean, when you talk about Bill Gates, he's known as having one of the biggest temper tantrums in Seattle.
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They would say Steve Jobs had a temper tantrum, but some people that work closely with Bill Gates said his temper tantrums were horrible.
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As you age and you mature and you have a wife and kids and family happens, a little bit of that calms down.
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But you can have it more control if you're type A.
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And if I could tell you there's a reason why people stop working with type As.
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If there had to be a number one, this is probably one of the top ones.
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Everything good they do that happens to the business, they did it.
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And he's like, you know, that person right there, this like, let's just say something great happened.
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And let's just say somebody else did it, not them.
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They will privately go campaign to everybody and tell them that I came up with that.
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You weren't in the meeting, but behind closed doors, I'm really the one that came up with that.
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I told them this, but you know, it's okay, you know, it's okay, it's okay.
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Then when that miserably fails, then guess what they say?
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If they would have listened to me, this would have never happened.
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That's the part about Taipei that's the manipulative side sometimes that's extremely unattractive
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because it really brings out their insecurities and it's not fun to be around when you do
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If you work with a Taipei that does this, tell them to go watch this video.
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Hopefully they'll figure the part that you wanted them to get.
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Taipei's have such an imagination where everything is possible, right?
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Oh, we can go do this and we can go do that and we can go do this.
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That sometimes Taipei's escape from reality due to them being bored could be drugs, alcohol,
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too much alcohol because they have to have an escape.
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It's like, oh my gosh, there's so much pressure when you're building a business and you're
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a startup or an entrepreneur or you're an intrapreneur that there's got to be an escape.
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Sometimes the escape ends up hurting them and ruining everything that they spent years building
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There's a lot of other escapes you can have that doesn't cause you to lose everything.
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You've got to figure those things out for yourself.
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One of the best advice I got, I was 30 years old and I met with a few friends and one of
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my friends says, Pat, every two years as a 30-year-old, you should go do executive health
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There's got some good ones in Minnesota or here in Dallas.
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You spend $4,000 and from morning till night, they take you to different doctors.
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And you get a report and say, here's your health.
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Here's what you need to improve and there's the recommendations.
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If you're above 30, I recommend you doing it every two years.
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If you're above 40, I recommend you doing it every one year.
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Especially if you're hard-charging, your health is going to hurt you with a lot of momentum.
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A lot of times, Taipei's just kind of, oh, it's okay.
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This could really take momentum out of your business.
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And a lot of times, it's like, man, she's so pretty and she's so this.
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It's like, even the people that are saying this, oh, well, Pat, you know, you're acting
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as if, you know, everybody doesn't have the sex issue.
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As any man, it's like, oh, I'm ready to get into something, right?
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But also, at the same time, there's a part of this that you've got to control.
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There's systems for it, by the way, especially for those guys that are married.
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I have a certain system I've taught hundreds of people that are personally mentored.
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It's not something I'm going to put on video, but I have talked about it many, many times.
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You've got to figure out a way, because this has been a distraction for a lot of people
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Hopefully, you can figure out a system that works for you.
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The challenge with wanting what's taken is sometimes you take it away from somebody that
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you are really going to piss off in a big way, and that person's vendetta is going to
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It could be years, but they're thinking about you.
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So sometimes at risk of wanting what's taken, I'm not telling you do it or don't do it.
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Just know what the repercussions are before you take something away from somebody.
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When it comes down to capitalism, in the world of capitalism, it's about competition.
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Whoever's able to wake up in the morning, go out there and do the best to get the best
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But when I say wanting what's taken is, you know, somebody is married and somebody is
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this and you're going and trying to take something that's taken, that's a lifelong commitment
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from somebody to commit revenge to you if you don't do that part right.
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Sometimes type A's behind closed doors will be like, well, you know who I am.
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And that feeling of behind closed doors is also felt in open doors.
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People are like, man, I just, when I'm around this person, he's so snobby, it's so annoying.
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Like, he doesn't think anybody's better than them.
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There's a big difference between confidence and arrogance.
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When you start looking down at people, guess what?
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People below you leave to go work for other people that look up and say, I think you could
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be one day dot, dot, dot, dot, dot, even bigger than where I'm at right now.
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Then I tell him, I say, he says, Daddy, am I smart?
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He reads books and he can recite the sentences, like stuff that's just very weird, how we recite
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But Daddy's goal is to help you start transitioning from being smart to being wise.
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Wisdom is the reason why people follow folks half their age.
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If somebody is wise, no one says, oh, you're only 22 years old.
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People like to do business with people who are wise.
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So there's a big difference between you thinking you can outsmart somebody.
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As smart as you may be, there's somebody smarter than you out there.
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But if you think wise, you'll be able to attract smart people that want to work with you.
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Sometimes if you think you're the smartest person, other smart people don't want to work
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But if you're wise, smart people can be around you and say, you know what, I don't mind working
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The way I work with him, I can still have my own identity.
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You want me to go and start working from the bottom?
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One of the reasons why I respect Arnold so much is when he was done being a governor
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and he went through his whole scandal, he wanted to go back into Hollywood.
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They asked him and they said, so what do you want to do with you going into Hollywood?
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He says, I've got to go out there and earn my stripes like everybody else.
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He says, I know, but I'm starting all the way from the bottom again.
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I've got to win the directors and the producers.
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And he came back up because he's willing to earn it again.
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Because a lot of people say, well, Elon doesn't know when to stop.
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You know, Krikorian, the former founder of, the owner of MGM, he didn't know how to stop.
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But sometimes type A personalities, because they don't know when to stop, they also don't enjoy the journey.
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Sometimes you've got to be able to stop and say, pretty cool what we're building here.
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Like, over here in the company, a lot of people will say, Pat, you know, we crossed 100,000.
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Yeah, and sometimes it's good to have people around you say, hey, the board forced me the
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The board's like, listen, hey, hey, hey, Patrick, we have invested into you.
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You need to go take a few days and take a break with you and your wife and kids.
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The board asked me to leave and go take a break.
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Because sometimes we've got to take a time out and say, this is pretty cool what we're building.
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Nothing wrong with getting yourself nice things.
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There's some people on social media that make you feel guilty if you get a Ferrari or a
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Lambo or Rolls or a big house or any of this stuff.
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If it moves you, don't let anybody tell you don't go get them.
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Because if it moves you to do bigger things, guess what?
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You know, when Cuban made his first money, he went and bought a $500,000 membership to
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He went and cut a check and bought a $60 million check.
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Can you imagine if it wasn't a driver, if somebody said, it's not a good thing for you to go
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But make sure you're not overspending to the point where you don't have the resources to
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keep your business in business when tough times come.
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Because when it comes, it's going to matter how much liquid cash you have to be able to
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survive the one year, two years, three years of tough times you could go with a business.
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Because ruckus and market and a lot of weird things can happen in the market at any point.
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If you're not prepared, you could be out of business.
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