Valuetainment - Episode 376： Do Daily Affirmations Work？

00:00:00.000 30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put em up, reach

00:00:09.240 the sky, touch the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the

00:00:16.220 underdog.

00:00:17.400 I'm Patrick Bedeva, host of Value Tim, and today I'm going to share with you how I use

00:00:20.700 my daily affirmations in ways you've probably never heard or read before.

00:00:25.780 How I came about with affirmations is an evolution.

00:00:29.180 So for me, when I first got out of the military and I went into sales, my sales manager told

00:00:36.400 me, Pat, you've got to have some affirmations.

00:00:38.640 It's very good.

00:00:39.380 Then I started reading books and everybody said affirmation, affirmation, affirmation, right?

00:00:43.040 And the whole idea about affirmations is what?

00:00:44.940 Because to compensate for all the years that your parents rejected you or you growing up,

00:00:51.300 you were rejected.

00:00:52.260 And there's a book called The Genius in All of Us, and in the book the author talks about

00:00:57.100 how lower income families, kids have been rejected 600,000 times from 0 to 18, then it

00:01:04.320 says middle income families from 0 to 18 have been rejected 100,000 times, meaning 100,000

00:01:10.160 more negatives than positives, and upper class family children have 100,000 more affirming

00:01:17.500 positive statements than negative statements.

00:01:20.520 That's in the book The Genius of All of Us.

00:01:22.180 It's a good book.

00:01:22.680 Now, if you were raised in a low income family, like I'm a welfare kid, parents got a divorce,

00:01:26.800 you don't hear a lot of positive, oh, you can get them, oh, you can get this, and you

00:01:30.340 can do that.

00:01:31.180 That's not the environment.

00:01:32.080 So I started collecting all these affirmations.

00:01:34.180 I mean, I can tell you I literally have an entire folder here and here with affirmations.

00:01:40.360 I mean, I would go to a piano store.

00:01:43.120 The one I'm looking at right now is the four surefire rules for success.

00:01:47.240 Show up, pay attention, ask questions, don't quit.

00:01:49.360 You know, I'd go and get affirmations from restaurants.

00:01:53.120 The winner, the winner's always a part of the answer.

00:01:55.540 You know, attitude, the longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

00:01:59.540 Persistence, my daily affirmations.

00:02:01.400 Here's one of them, very basic ones.

00:02:03.380 I have a positive attitude about everything.

00:02:05.280 I will always be respectful.

00:02:06.380 I'll be the best speaker ever.

00:02:07.400 I'm a great speaker.

00:02:08.640 I will touch many people's lives before I leave this planet.

00:02:10.840 I will read this three times a day.

00:02:12.040 I'm the greatest miracle on the planet.

00:02:13.400 I'm, you know, I will, I have never and will never be a normal person.

00:02:17.120 I will persist until I succeed.

00:02:18.580 I have a great body and physique.

00:02:19.720 I make everyone happy around me.

00:02:21.220 This is my affirmation at 21 years old that I have till today.

00:02:24.780 19 years ago, I have it.

00:02:26.140 And by the way, again, I can go through a bunch of them here, okay?

00:02:29.220 So, but as I'm going and doing this, one day I told myself, there's got to be a deeper

00:02:34.240 way of doing this.

00:02:34.960 If you ever came into my apartment from 22 years old on, I always had three, four of these

00:02:41.880 things on the shower wall everywhere.

00:02:44.080 I had it on my wallet, I had it on my speedometer, my car, I had it in my office, I had it on

00:02:49.860 my computer.

00:02:51.000 I had it literally taped up everywhere, these affirmations, and I would read them.

00:02:56.420 But I wanted to take it to a whole different level, and here's what happened.

00:02:59.700 So, you know, on a flight back once from Chicago, I started writing things down, and I started

00:03:06.500 kind of taking an inventory of this guy's life, okay?

00:03:09.480 So, it was very simple, it was, Pat, what were the five most painful times in your life?

00:03:17.400 Okay?

00:03:17.720 Most painful, and I started writing them down.

00:03:19.900 The time you almost lost your dad, okay?

00:03:22.040 The time your girlfriend and you and her were going to get out of the army, and you called

00:03:25.880 back, and she got into a car accident, and she passed away.

00:03:28.280 She was 20 years old, okay?

00:03:29.800 Monica.

00:03:30.120 Monica, you know, the time, you know, you have to say goodbye to your dad in 1989, airport

00:03:36.880 Iran while we're going to Germany, and my dad gives me a hug, my sister and my mom are right

00:03:41.960 behind me, we go on the Lufthansa flights, the last time I saw my dad for a year and a

00:03:44.840 half, two years.

00:03:45.380 Very difficult for me, but I remember that.

00:03:47.420 So, I wrote these things, I'm not going to tell you all of them, there's a lot of them,

00:03:49.960 it's more than five, but I wrote these things down, and it was painful, and I have to think

00:03:54.280 about it a little bit, and it was painful, and I ranked them.

00:03:57.280 So, that was five right there.

00:03:58.380 Then, it's writing out five most successful moments of your life.

00:04:02.880 When did you win?

00:04:03.640 You know what's interesting?

00:04:04.360 Today, I was talking to one of my consultants, and I'm talking to the guy, and I said, I want

00:04:10.700 you to tell me three times in your life where you won, and you were absolutely amazed with

00:04:16.460 what you did.

00:04:17.160 Here's what he said.

00:04:18.320 He says, let me get back to you on this one.

00:04:22.440 The man is 45 years old.

00:04:23.980 He said, let me get back to you on this one.

00:04:25.680 He couldn't think about it in that moment.

00:04:27.140 Why is that?

00:04:28.380 Very simple why that is.

00:04:29.960 Because our mind is filled with layers, and layers, and layers, and layers of memory that's

00:04:38.160 filled with so much juice that we never tap into.

00:04:41.640 Think about it this way.

00:04:42.600 Your computer you have in your house.

00:04:45.200 Can you tell me every file you have in your computer?

00:04:48.600 Can you tell me every Excel spreadsheet you got?

00:04:51.280 Every Microsoft Word files you got?

00:04:54.240 Every PowerPoint?

00:04:55.820 Can you tell me every file?

00:04:57.460 Every image?

00:04:58.220 Every video?

00:04:58.920 Every music?

00:05:00.080 Every recording you've ever done?

00:05:02.060 Can you tell me all of that?

00:05:03.720 Could you tell me that?

00:05:04.720 No.

00:05:05.200 But if you unpack your computer, you ever done that when you go to certain documents?

00:05:08.820 You're like, oh my gosh, I can't believe I wrote this nine years ago.

00:05:11.580 Oh my gosh, I can't believe I wrote this eight years ago.

00:05:13.460 And it starts reminiscing and produces a certain emotion, right?

00:05:17.320 The mind is just like that, except a hundred times more powerful.

00:05:21.420 Because it's not logic, it's emotion.

00:05:24.060 But because we don't tap into it, we don't know how to bring that juice out.

00:05:27.420 So stay with me here.

00:05:29.000 Five most painful, five most successful moments, five most painful statements.

00:05:34.800 So moments are different than statements.

00:05:37.060 Moments of someone died, statements are, you will never do anything big with your life.

00:05:42.560 Ever.

00:05:43.300 Do anything big with your life.

00:05:44.580 Okay, never.

00:05:45.900 Our MVP, the company, we announced a few weeks ago in Las Vegas, you know, he was told that

00:05:53.740 in 2008 by his former mentor.

00:05:56.700 He told him, you will never do anything with your life.

00:05:59.960 He remembers it till today.

00:06:01.360 And it's a way that produces juice for him if he ever needs to tap into it.

00:06:05.600 It's one method of juice to tap into, right?

00:06:08.320 So you got five phrases.

00:06:09.360 What are the most five painful phrases that you write down?

00:06:11.860 Okay, so so far we got what?

00:06:13.200 Painful moments, okay?

00:06:14.920 We have successful moments.

00:06:16.800 We have painful comments.

00:06:18.920 And last but not least is moments where you felt untouchable.

00:06:24.200 So what do I mean by this?

00:06:25.560 Let me explain.

00:06:26.460 Something happens in the family.

00:06:28.100 It's crisis.

00:06:29.020 They're trying to solve a problem.

00:06:30.680 They come to you.

00:06:31.900 You come into the room.

00:06:33.020 Everybody's sitting there panicking.

00:06:34.860 You say, have we thought about doing this?

00:06:36.860 No.

00:06:37.340 Have we thought about doing that?

00:06:38.600 No.

00:06:39.380 How about this?

00:06:40.200 No.

00:06:40.480 And you're very calm.

00:06:41.780 Let me make a couple calls.

00:06:43.340 Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.

00:06:44.700 Here's what I think we do.

00:06:45.920 Have you guys thought about if we go first here, first here, first here?

00:06:48.240 No.

00:06:48.280 Here's what we need to do.

00:06:49.400 We need to call this person, call that person, call this person.

00:06:51.520 Everything's going to be fine, okay?

00:06:53.280 Everybody says, yes, yes.

00:06:54.400 You make the call.

00:06:55.040 Pa, pa, pa, pa, pa, pa.

00:06:55.880 All of a sudden, hour later, everybody was panicking.

00:06:59.380 Everything's solved.

00:07:00.420 In that moment, you get a feeling of six people in the room couldn't figure this out.

00:07:06.380 Five of them are older than me.

00:07:07.800 I came and I led the family.

00:07:09.540 I wonder what I can lead in my life.

00:07:11.860 You have those, you know you have those moments.

00:07:13.640 You're watching this.

00:07:14.280 You're saying, I have those moments, pa.

00:07:16.220 I know you have those moments, but you don't take inventory.

00:07:19.420 Go in here.

00:07:20.200 Stay with me.

00:07:20.760 We're still talking about affirmations.

00:07:21.900 So watch this.

00:07:22.860 Imagine I am your director.

00:07:24.480 We're doing a movie together.

00:07:25.840 You're playing Bobby.

00:07:27.440 You're supposed to talk to Johnny.

00:07:30.280 You do your role.

00:07:31.700 You mess it up.

00:07:32.440 Over.

00:07:33.100 Take two.

00:07:33.920 Take three.

00:07:34.680 Take four.

00:07:35.360 Take five.

00:07:36.000 Take six.

00:07:36.580 Take seven.

00:07:37.500 I can't stand it.

00:07:38.340 You're not doing a good job.

00:07:39.040 You can't get it.

00:07:40.440 I pull you set.

00:07:41.380 I said, come here.

00:07:42.600 I said, can I talk to you for a second?

00:07:43.900 Yes.

00:07:45.420 I said, do you remember the first time a girl broke your heart? 1.00

00:07:48.900 Yes.

00:07:49.380 What was her name?

00:07:50.720 Mary.

00:07:51.520 Okay.

00:07:52.400 Do you remember when she ended up dating a guy who she started dating and the first time

00:07:58.400 you met the guy, you made eye contact and he had a smirk on his face.

00:08:02.680 He tried to control it to not smile, but he knew he's hooking up with your girl that he

00:08:06.380 used to be with.

00:08:07.400 And she shattered your heart because you know your girl told him about you on how she shattered

00:08:12.940 your heart.

00:08:13.660 Do you remember that look on his face?

00:08:15.520 I do remember the look on his face.

00:08:17.900 See that guy right there, Johnny?

00:08:19.480 That's your girlfriend's boyfriend.

00:08:22.040 That's him.

00:08:23.360 I want you to get in that state and then go to your lines.

00:08:27.420 Yes?

00:08:28.240 I'll give you a couple minutes.

00:08:29.780 Go prepare.

00:08:30.560 Get mentally there.

00:08:31.700 Come back.

00:08:32.500 Please don't talk to anybody.

00:08:33.860 When you do come back, you're going to play Bobby.

00:08:36.860 You're no longer you.

00:08:38.000 You're Bobby.

00:08:38.920 Yes?

00:08:39.480 Yes.

00:08:40.040 Please go.

00:08:40.480 And I want you to go deeper and deeper and deeper and deeper and deeper with additional

00:08:45.460 things that were said and happened that can produce more juice.

00:08:49.300 Go get him.

00:08:50.180 And you step away.

00:08:51.460 Then you come back.

00:08:52.980 You talk to Johnny.

00:08:55.140 Johnny's shivering because he really believes that you believe you're Bobby.

00:09:00.180 What Johnny doesn't know is you purposefully went to a state in your life that you remember

00:09:06.060 the boyfriend that your girlfriend was dating and then, boom, you're in that state.

00:09:10.860 That's what great actors do.

00:09:13.460 What great actors do is they have an arsenal of stories and moments in their lives that

00:09:17.680 they tap into.

00:09:18.220 This is why some of the best actors in the world were former military, former this, their

00:09:22.780 parents got a divorce, mom was an alcoholic, or dad was an alcoholic.

00:09:26.360 The more stories that they have, the more they can get into that moment.

00:09:30.220 The same goes with business as well, by the way.

00:09:31.720 So think about it right now.

00:09:32.480 You're about to go give a speech.

00:09:34.000 You're about to go into an appointment.

00:09:35.120 You're kind of nervous because it's a big appointment.

00:09:37.020 So if you just go into an appointment, you're not going to be as effective as you're sitting

00:09:40.920 there saying, this is a big appointment, Johnny.

00:09:42.880 Johnny, let me tell you something, it was December 2nd, 2003, when I walked into the

00:09:50.320 meeting with the family.

00:09:52.260 Nobody had any idea how to handle the situation I did.

00:09:55.240 If I handled a complicated situation like that in our family that had to do with a loss

00:09:59.660 of a loved one, I can close this deal today.

00:10:02.760 Let's get into that state, Johnny.

00:10:04.260 Then you get into that state.

00:10:05.420 Then you get into that state.

00:10:06.920 Then you walk into the appointment and you're a whole different human being.

00:10:09.760 That little conversation with yourself changes your state.

00:10:14.640 Now, by the way, some people will say, well, Pat, you mean to tell me people really do

00:10:17.520 this stuff?

00:10:18.220 Yes.

00:10:18.720 So now let's go back to affirmations.

00:10:21.160 Basic level affirmations is what?

00:10:23.100 You're awesome.

00:10:23.680 You're great.

00:10:24.140 You're amazing.

00:10:24.760 You're this.

00:10:25.140 You're that.

00:10:25.480 You're this.

00:10:26.200 It's still effective.

00:10:27.480 It's still good.

00:10:28.180 I'm not taking anything away from it.

00:10:29.940 I have a hard time with hokey affirmation stuff.

00:10:32.760 You know what I'm saying?

00:10:33.400 Like, as long as you said you're going to do great stuff.

00:10:35.460 I know so many people that do affirmations that it does nothing for them, right?

00:10:39.340 Here's why.

00:10:39.920 Let me give you the second part of affirmations.

00:10:41.660 Here's how it works.

00:10:43.040 So the first part of the affirmation is the statement.

00:10:46.360 I am a great leader, okay?

00:10:48.300 The first part of the affirmation is I will make a great comeback.

00:10:51.380 I will make a comeback story.

00:10:53.600 That's great.

00:10:54.660 I will make a great comeback.

00:10:56.240 That's great.

00:10:57.460 But it's not at the highest level.

00:10:59.120 It's at the highest level when you follow up and you say, I will make the greatest comeback

00:11:03.680 story.

00:11:04.240 Because I'll never forget what happened when my mother died.

00:11:08.460 Because I'll never forget what happened when such and such relationship didn't work out.

00:11:13.380 Because I'll never forget when I filed bankruptcy and I lost everything.

00:11:16.680 Because I'll never forget when I lost my house and my car was repoed and I was 22 years old

00:11:21.660 living on my friend's couch and I made the sickest comeback and I got my own house.

00:11:27.280 I got $200,000 in the bank.

00:11:28.860 I got this.

00:11:29.340 I got this.

00:11:29.720 I got that.

00:11:30.540 I'm going to make the greatest comeback ever because I've done it before I can do it again.

00:11:35.220 That's an affirmation with weight behind it.

00:11:37.700 That's what you need to be doing.

00:11:38.700 So every time you have your list of affirmations that you add, add it with a story.

00:11:42.140 So let me go back to it again.

00:11:43.520 Five things, right?

00:11:44.900 Five what?

00:11:45.960 Five painful moments.

00:11:47.620 Five successful moments.

00:11:50.180 Five painful statements.

00:11:52.120 And five moments where you felt you were untouchable.

00:11:55.720 The way you handled yourself.

00:11:57.160 Where you were untouchable.

00:11:58.260 Moments where you're like, I came through, it was a pressure type situation.

00:12:01.260 I was calm, I handled it.

00:12:02.440 So I'm sharing this with you with the affirmations.

00:12:04.960 But I want to take you a level deeper with this as well.

00:12:07.100 So, you know, what you have to understand as I'm going through this.

00:12:10.300 I was doing a podcast yesterday and a guy asked me a question.

00:12:14.440 And he says, hey Pat, I got a question for you.

00:12:16.820 I said, what is it?

00:12:17.820 He said, what gave you confidence to see that you can go and do what you're doing right now

00:12:23.320 with your life?

00:12:24.120 I said, it's interesting you say that.

00:12:26.080 And I've never talked about this before.

00:12:27.940 So I said, let me see what I can come up with.

00:12:29.940 No preparation, nothing.

00:12:31.780 I said, you know, it's funny.

00:12:33.820 I don't know why, but one of them was, and this applies to a lot of people.

00:12:37.880 You've experienced this before as well yourself.

00:12:39.540 Even if it's a glimpse, I don't know why, but I think number one is fate.

00:12:45.040 He says, faith?

00:12:46.040 I said, no, no, fate.

00:12:47.580 What do you mean by fate?

00:12:48.780 I think there's an element of me, you know, I've had glimpses of it where I felt like I

00:12:55.340 was destined to do something special in my life.

00:12:57.800 It's almost like a higher law is counting on me to come through and do something big.

00:13:01.580 So fate was one of them.

00:13:02.920 He says, interesting, what else?

00:13:04.480 I said, faith is the second one.

00:13:06.480 He says, oh, really?

00:13:07.220 What do you mean by faith?

00:13:08.040 I said, faith is, I don't know why I feel like God, a higher spirit, has got my back.

00:13:16.340 I don't know how to explain it to you.

00:13:18.260 It's as if, think about, you put Bruce Lee, the most scariest MMA fighter, UFC fighter,

00:13:25.380 everybody, toughest guys in the world, they all have your back, and then multiply times

00:13:30.160 a hundred.

00:13:30.820 Imagine if you got that kind of backing.

00:13:32.480 What kind of confidence would you have?

00:13:33.640 I feel like I have that.

00:13:35.280 So faith is one, faith is two.

00:13:37.260 Number three is the following, and a lot of people don't do this.

00:13:40.000 I got so clear on my vision, then I told everybody about it, then the right people showed up out

00:13:46.360 of nowhere.

00:13:47.340 Just accidentally, they started showing up, because people now know what you're looking

00:13:50.820 for.

00:13:51.640 So faith, faith, casting your vision.

00:13:55.220 Here's what we're going to be doing, and this is why.

00:13:57.740 This is our vision.

00:13:58.660 Here's what we're looking for.

00:13:59.840 People show up.

00:14:00.560 And I said, last but not least, is luck.

00:14:02.360 And he says, luck, really?

00:14:03.500 Not a lot of people like to talk about luck.

00:14:05.060 I said, yeah, I believe luck is a part of it.

00:14:06.920 So he said, you mean luck like really getting lucky, isn't it?

00:14:10.000 When people say, you know, I work hard, I don't get it.

00:14:11.680 The harder you work, the luckier, all this other stuff.

00:14:13.760 I said, no.

00:14:14.480 I said, I think I'm the luckiest person in the world.

00:14:16.360 I really believe that, by the way.

00:14:17.680 I really believe I'm the luckiest human being alive.

00:14:19.720 When I tell you, I didn't believe this before.

00:14:21.960 I believe it today.

00:14:22.700 You know why?

00:14:23.440 Because of these formulas.

00:14:25.180 Because of these formulas.

00:14:26.280 I did it so much with the formula I gave you, that eventually this guy believes it.

00:14:31.200 This guy believes it.

00:14:32.300 This guy believes it.

00:14:33.000 It's like pure confidence on the vision, on the clarity of it, and it produces this energy.

00:14:40.000 Now, I know this may sound weird to some people, but I challenge you to do it.

00:14:44.080 Here's my challenge for you.

00:14:45.100 Just write down five most painful moments, five most successful moments, five most painful

00:14:51.000 statements, five most untouchable moments, and then tie it with a list of your affirmations.

00:14:56.620 I'm great.

00:14:57.340 I'll make a comeback.

00:14:58.280 I'm going to do this.

00:14:59.040 I'm going to make that kind of money.

00:15:00.220 I'm going to do this part.

00:15:01.580 Tie it to that, and do it for a month, and see what happens to you.

00:15:04.760 And by the way, I'll give you the last thing that I used to do.

00:15:06.960 So I took all that stuff, and I added my affirmations.

00:15:09.620 Then I recorded a six-minute, six-minute audio.

00:15:12.620 And I had my guy add music to it.

00:15:15.680 I liked trance, lower-level trance, not high beat, a little lower-level trance.

00:15:20.300 And I put that together.

00:15:21.460 It was the trance song of Braveheart.

00:15:23.620 You know?

00:15:24.320 Da-na-na-na-na-na-na-na. 0.99

00:15:26.860 The Braveheart trance.

00:15:28.060 Da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da. 0.87

00:15:29.640 Just like this.

00:15:30.300 And I put my affirmations for six minutes and 30 seconds and I recorded it and I said Pat you go in places buddy

00:15:36.960 Here's why do you remember that one time what happened?

00:15:38.900 Here's what you did do you remember that?

00:15:40.440 I know you remember that day

00:15:41.440 So you got this and I recorded this and back then it was CDs because nowadays you can put on your phone

00:15:46.560 Listen just a lot is your back then it was CDs. So I put it in my car. I put it in my office

00:15:50.540 I woke up to it. I worked out to it. I was driving listen to it. I was sleeping to it everything

00:15:54.740 All over again and then eventually it stuck and this guy started believing it

00:16:01.880 Thanks everybody for listening and by the way if you haven't already subscribed to Valuetainment on iTunes

00:16:06.500 Please do so give us a five star write a review if you haven't already and if you have any questions for me that you may have

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00:16:23.680 With that being said have a great day today. Take care everybody. Bye-bye

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Episode 376： Do Daily Affirmations Work？

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