Episode 376： Do Daily Affirmations Work？
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In this episode, Pat shares how he came about with affirmations, and how he uses them in ways you ve probably never heard or read before. He talks about how he got started with them, and why they changed his life.
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30 seconds, one time for the underdog, ignition sequence start, let me see you put em up, reach
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the sky, touch the stars up above, cause it's one time for the underdog, one time for the
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I'm Patrick Bedeva, host of Value Tim, and today I'm going to share with you how I use
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my daily affirmations in ways you've probably never heard or read before.
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How I came about with affirmations is an evolution.
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So for me, when I first got out of the military and I went into sales, my sales manager told
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Then I started reading books and everybody said affirmation, affirmation, affirmation, right?
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Because to compensate for all the years that your parents rejected you or you growing up,
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And there's a book called The Genius in All of Us, and in the book the author talks about
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how lower income families, kids have been rejected 600,000 times from 0 to 18, then it
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says middle income families from 0 to 18 have been rejected 100,000 times, meaning 100,000
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more negatives than positives, and upper class family children have 100,000 more affirming
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Now, if you were raised in a low income family, like I'm a welfare kid, parents got a divorce,
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you don't hear a lot of positive, oh, you can get them, oh, you can get this, and you
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So I started collecting all these affirmations.
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I mean, I can tell you I literally have an entire folder here and here with affirmations.
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The one I'm looking at right now is the four surefire rules for success.
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Show up, pay attention, ask questions, don't quit.
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You know, I'd go and get affirmations from restaurants.
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The winner, the winner's always a part of the answer.
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You know, attitude, the longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.
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I will touch many people's lives before I leave this planet.
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I'm, you know, I will, I have never and will never be a normal person.
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This is my affirmation at 21 years old that I have till today.
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And by the way, again, I can go through a bunch of them here, okay?
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So, but as I'm going and doing this, one day I told myself, there's got to be a deeper
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If you ever came into my apartment from 22 years old on, I always had three, four of these
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I had it on my wallet, I had it on my speedometer, my car, I had it in my office, I had it on
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I had it literally taped up everywhere, these affirmations, and I would read them.
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But I wanted to take it to a whole different level, and here's what happened.
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So, you know, on a flight back once from Chicago, I started writing things down, and I started
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kind of taking an inventory of this guy's life, okay?
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So, it was very simple, it was, Pat, what were the five most painful times in your life?
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The time your girlfriend and you and her were going to get out of the army, and you called
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back, and she got into a car accident, and she passed away.
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Monica, you know, the time, you know, you have to say goodbye to your dad in 1989, airport
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Iran while we're going to Germany, and my dad gives me a hug, my sister and my mom are right
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behind me, we go on the Lufthansa flights, the last time I saw my dad for a year and a
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So, I wrote these things, I'm not going to tell you all of them, there's a lot of them,
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it's more than five, but I wrote these things down, and it was painful, and I have to think
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about it a little bit, and it was painful, and I ranked them.
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Then, it's writing out five most successful moments of your life.
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Today, I was talking to one of my consultants, and I'm talking to the guy, and I said, I want
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you to tell me three times in your life where you won, and you were absolutely amazed with
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Because our mind is filled with layers, and layers, and layers, and layers of memory that's
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filled with so much juice that we never tap into.
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Can you tell me every file you have in your computer?
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Can you tell me every Excel spreadsheet you got?
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But if you unpack your computer, you ever done that when you go to certain documents?
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You're like, oh my gosh, I can't believe I wrote this nine years ago.
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Oh my gosh, I can't believe I wrote this eight years ago.
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And it starts reminiscing and produces a certain emotion, right?
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The mind is just like that, except a hundred times more powerful.
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But because we don't tap into it, we don't know how to bring that juice out.
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Five most painful, five most successful moments, five most painful statements.
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Moments of someone died, statements are, you will never do anything big with your life.
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Our MVP, the company, we announced a few weeks ago in Las Vegas, you know, he was told that
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He told him, you will never do anything with your life.
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And it's a way that produces juice for him if he ever needs to tap into it.
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What are the most five painful phrases that you write down?
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And last but not least is moments where you felt untouchable.
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Have you guys thought about if we go first here, first here, first here?
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We need to call this person, call that person, call this person.
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All of a sudden, hour later, everybody was panicking.
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In that moment, you get a feeling of six people in the room couldn't figure this out.
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You have those, you know you have those moments.
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I know you have those moments, but you don't take inventory.
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I said, do you remember the first time a girl broke your heart?
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Do you remember when she ended up dating a guy who she started dating and the first time
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you met the guy, you made eye contact and he had a smirk on his face.
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He tried to control it to not smile, but he knew he's hooking up with your girl that he
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And she shattered your heart because you know your girl told him about you on how she shattered
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I want you to get in that state and then go to your lines.
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When you do come back, you're going to play Bobby.
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And I want you to go deeper and deeper and deeper and deeper and deeper with additional
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things that were said and happened that can produce more juice.
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Johnny's shivering because he really believes that you believe you're Bobby.
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What Johnny doesn't know is you purposefully went to a state in your life that you remember
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the boyfriend that your girlfriend was dating and then, boom, you're in that state.
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What great actors do is they have an arsenal of stories and moments in their lives that
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This is why some of the best actors in the world were former military, former this, their
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parents got a divorce, mom was an alcoholic, or dad was an alcoholic.
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The more stories that they have, the more they can get into that moment.
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The same goes with business as well, by the way.
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You're kind of nervous because it's a big appointment.
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So if you just go into an appointment, you're not going to be as effective as you're sitting
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there saying, this is a big appointment, Johnny.
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Johnny, let me tell you something, it was December 2nd, 2003, when I walked into the
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Nobody had any idea how to handle the situation I did.
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If I handled a complicated situation like that in our family that had to do with a loss
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Then you walk into the appointment and you're a whole different human being.
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That little conversation with yourself changes your state.
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Now, by the way, some people will say, well, Pat, you mean to tell me people really do
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I have a hard time with hokey affirmation stuff.
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Like, as long as you said you're going to do great stuff.
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I know so many people that do affirmations that it does nothing for them, right?
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Let me give you the second part of affirmations.
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So the first part of the affirmation is the statement.
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The first part of the affirmation is I will make a great comeback.
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It's at the highest level when you follow up and you say, I will make the greatest comeback
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Because I'll never forget what happened when my mother died.
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Because I'll never forget what happened when such and such relationship didn't work out.
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Because I'll never forget when I filed bankruptcy and I lost everything.
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Because I'll never forget when I lost my house and my car was repoed and I was 22 years old
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living on my friend's couch and I made the sickest comeback and I got my own house.
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I'm going to make the greatest comeback ever because I've done it before I can do it again.
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So every time you have your list of affirmations that you add, add it with a story.
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And five moments where you felt you were untouchable.
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Moments where you're like, I came through, it was a pressure type situation.
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So I'm sharing this with you with the affirmations.
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But I want to take you a level deeper with this as well.
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So, you know, what you have to understand as I'm going through this.
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I was doing a podcast yesterday and a guy asked me a question.
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And he says, hey Pat, I got a question for you.
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He said, what gave you confidence to see that you can go and do what you're doing right now
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I don't know why, but one of them was, and this applies to a lot of people.
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You've experienced this before as well yourself.
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Even if it's a glimpse, I don't know why, but I think number one is fate.
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I think there's an element of me, you know, I've had glimpses of it where I felt like I
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was destined to do something special in my life.
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It's almost like a higher law is counting on me to come through and do something big.
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I said, faith is, I don't know why I feel like God, a higher spirit, has got my back.
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It's as if, think about, you put Bruce Lee, the most scariest MMA fighter, UFC fighter,
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everybody, toughest guys in the world, they all have your back, and then multiply times
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Number three is the following, and a lot of people don't do this.
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I got so clear on my vision, then I told everybody about it, then the right people showed up out
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Just accidentally, they started showing up, because people now know what you're looking
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Here's what we're going to be doing, and this is why.
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So he said, you mean luck like really getting lucky, isn't it?
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When people say, you know, I work hard, I don't get it.
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The harder you work, the luckier, all this other stuff.
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I said, I think I'm the luckiest person in the world.
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I really believe I'm the luckiest human being alive.
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I did it so much with the formula I gave you, that eventually this guy believes it.
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It's like pure confidence on the vision, on the clarity of it, and it produces this energy.
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Now, I know this may sound weird to some people, but I challenge you to do it.
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Just write down five most painful moments, five most successful moments, five most painful
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statements, five most untouchable moments, and then tie it with a list of your affirmations.
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Tie it to that, and do it for a month, and see what happens to you.
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And by the way, I'll give you the last thing that I used to do.
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So I took all that stuff, and I added my affirmations.
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Then I recorded a six-minute, six-minute audio.
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I liked trance, lower-level trance, not high beat, a little lower-level trance.
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Da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da.
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And I put my affirmations for six minutes and 30 seconds and I recorded it and I said Pat you go in places buddy
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Here's why do you remember that one time what happened?
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So you got this and I recorded this and back then it was CDs because nowadays you can put on your phone
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Listen just a lot is your back then it was CDs. So I put it in my car. I put it in my office
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I woke up to it. I worked out to it. I was driving listen to it. I was sleeping to it everything
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All over again and then eventually it stuck and this guy started believing it
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