Episode 381： How To Measure Success
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Summary
In this episode of ITIM, Pat and Doug talk about how to measure success and why it's not about how much money you make, it's about whether or not you're a success. How do you measure success?
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30 seconds. One time for the underdog. Ignition sequence start. Let me see you put them up. Reach the sky, turn the stars up above. Cause it's one time for the underdog. One time for the underdog.
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I'm Patrick Bedevi, your host of ITIM, and today we're going to talk about how to measure success. Yes, how can you measure success? Are you a success or not? And if yes, how do you measure it?
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Doug asks me, Pat, how do you measure success? Look, the way I view success may be slightly different. Let me explain to you what I mean by this.
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You see, in sports, there's a lot of people that they call triathletes. Or this person like Deion Sanders played football and baseball.
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Brian Jordan, you know, football and baseball. Bo Jackson, same. You know, football and baseball.
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And you know, Mahomes used to be a great pitcher, 96 mile hour pitch, and he's a great quarterback, MVP last year.
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In KC and in Hollywood, they call him triple threat. Justin Timberlake can dance and sing and act.
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J-Lo, all three. Beyonce, all three. All these people, you're like, oh my gosh, these are triple threats in baseball.
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They say triple crown, RBI, hits, you know, home runs, Ted Williams type of person.
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And these are what you call people that are great at three different things or more, right?
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In life, if you look at Hollywood, a Dwayne Johnson may not be a triple threat because he's never done a music video.
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Well, he actually did with Moana, right? He was singing in that movie.
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But dancing, maybe he can do his dancing that he does, the Hawaiian stuff that he does.
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But you know what? He's a wrestler, and he went to the top in wrestling.
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If you look at his physique, he's got an incredible physique.
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People look at his body. He's got a contract with Under Armour.
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Every other week, he's coming out with new products, number one selling product on Under Armour.
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He's their number one promoter around the world, number one moneymaker on Hollywood,
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$120-some million in a year, and he's doing businesses here in China.
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He's number one in the world by recognizing his face.
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So now let's come to you. Let's talk about you here.
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Okay. You ever meet people who have great marriages, but they see somebody who is worth a lot of money,
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but they try to, you know, kind of undermine that person in the area they failed in
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and kind of glorify themselves in the area they succeed in.
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Sometimes we all tend to do this because we're insecure with ourselves, right?
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You think about it, like, oh my gosh, look at that guy. Look at me, right?
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If you're fully engaged in your own life winning, you don't do a lot of that.
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My biggest concern when you look at this is when you explain how do you measure success,
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there are a lot of people that are very successful in their marriages.
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You look at them, think about the most successful person you know that's been happily married to his wife and her husband,
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and they've been married for 42 years. Happily.
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You look at them, you're like, you guys ought to write a book together.
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We've been happy. We had a formula. Here's what we follow. We always did this.
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How'd you do it? But they're broke. But they're happily married, right?
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And you look at some Marios, and you say, wow, look at this person here.
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You know, he's made so much money for himself. Most successful person you know.
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Look at his physique. What a body. He's in shape. He does Iron Man. Unbelievable.
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Look at the amount of books this person writes.
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This person's incredible with their work and their career.
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They're the best at their work. Oh my gosh, he's the best graphic designer.
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The best writer. The best copywriter. The best journalist.
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The best person in sports and whatever they do.
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The best backgammon player. The best chess player.
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This other person, every time I want to get a hold of anybody, I just call this guy.
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You know, this other person's a great hedge fund manager.
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Then for you, the reason why I say success is multidimensional is because of you.
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A lot of times, when I see my peers or people that I know or people in the marketplace,
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value-tainers when they talk to me, they typically measure their own success to others' failures.
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Instead, for you, my challenge to you is becoming a triple threat, if not more.
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Some think you can't have a great marriage and be in shape and have kids and win in business
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All of that stuff is said by people that simply don't want to make an effort.
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We were having a conversation earlier today because the book that I'm getting ready to publish,
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we are this close, I am so excited about the book.
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This is the first time with the book we've been working on for three years, a business book,
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where I look and I say, I can't wait to sell this book and share it with everybody.
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The moment people read, they're going to say, this is going to help me out.
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Because I don't think one person can go out there and be the greatest at 10 different things.
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I don't think somebody can be great, phenomenal, best of the best in five different things
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because you got to be focused into one thing to do it very good.
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And typically when you do one thing very, very good, it typically bleeds into other aspects
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If you're the greatest comedian, you're automatically going to make a lot of money and have a lot
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And your Rolodex, your phone book, all this other stuff is going to get better and better
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You're probably going to get access to the better trainers, better teachers, better everything,
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Once you win so big at one level, other places come.
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If you're watching this, question for you is the following, and it's a challenge for you.
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Take a close inventory of yourself and ask yourself, if you sit there and mainly measure the area
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of your life that you've been incredibly successful at and discount the other areas that you can put an
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effort in to compete as well, and you kind of make an excuse to hide away from it.
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Now, I don't know if I need to necessarily do this part, but look how great I am in this, okay?
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Can you really make the effort also to get good at a couple different areas here, or are you just
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Now, for some of you that are sitting there saying, man, Pat, after listening to this,
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Because a person like Doug, Doug, let me tell you something.
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To raise a kid who he will never forget that his daddy played games with him and didn't
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judge him and brought a computer to entertain him, and his son ends up going and working
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at Best Buy, and you don't judge him, and now he's working as a cybersecurity person in
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For a person like Doug that's been married for 20, 40 years, he and his wife are running
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a business together, that's another method of success.
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If you're the person that's constantly measuring yourself against others' failures, change your
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But if you're the person that's always comparing others' success to your failures, never forget
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Sometimes Doug and people like him, you've got to re-remind yourself other areas you won
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and to inject confidence in a new place that you can also win because the track record,
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the clue that was left from winning another industry, that formula's there as well.
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