Valuetainment - Episode 388： Toughest Thing To Learn In Life

00:00:00.000 You know what is one of the toughest things to do in life?

00:00:19.980 Is learning who to take advice from.

00:00:21.680 Let me explain to you what this means.

00:00:23.300 This is not one of these, rah, rah, go get the right advisor, mentor, life will change.

00:00:27.300 No, I never put weight on who's given the advice.

00:00:32.580 Think about it this way.

00:00:34.220 The world is filled with wisdom.

00:00:36.680 How come only a small percentage wins at the highest level?

00:00:39.980 Is it the person giving the advice or is it the person receiving the advice?

00:00:45.360 What do you mean?

00:00:46.300 Let me explain.

00:00:46.860 If today, in my mind, I want to convince myself to leave my family.

00:00:57.300 I can't intentionally take any advice given by anybody and turn it in the direction of what I want to hear.

00:01:05.620 Not because the advice that people are giving me.

00:01:08.240 Like you can sit there and talk to somebody and somebody's going to say,

00:01:10.940 let's just you're going through marital issues and somebody says,

00:01:14.000 well, you know, one of the things is, well, unless 99% of the stuff they say is about you staying together.

00:01:20.000 The 1% they say no.

00:01:21.440 The only thing, if you only want to hear that 1%, that's the only thing you'll take.

00:01:24.660 So it's not the person giving the advice.

00:01:28.160 I'm not trying to kind of get you confused.

00:01:30.200 Let me go a little layer deeper than that.

00:01:33.020 Here's another thing that's confusing.

00:01:35.100 I got a call the other day from one of our guys that I work with.

00:01:38.900 And she said, hey, Pat, I got a call from somebody that's in their 70s.

00:01:44.280 And they were giving me advice, and it was very confusing.

00:01:48.280 I said, tell me why it was confusing to you.

00:01:51.640 Because it was advice being given for me to slow down.

00:01:56.220 I said, how did you process that?

00:01:58.480 And she says, I couldn't understand it.

00:02:01.320 I said, well, tell me more.

00:02:02.500 I'm not giving any feedback.

00:02:03.720 I'm just trying to see what she says.

00:02:05.360 She says, one, why are they giving us this advice?

00:02:09.200 Two, do you think they're giving me the advice from their current situation?

00:02:14.520 Or do you think they're giving it from their failures that they made,

00:02:18.020 and it didn't work out for them?

00:02:19.200 Or do you think they're giving me the advice from where I'm at today?

00:02:22.320 When she started asking me those questions, guess what's the first thing I thought about?

00:02:25.700 I said, she knows how to take advice. 0.97

00:02:30.300 Does that make sense?

00:02:31.140 Like, she's weighing it all out.

00:02:34.920 And she's processing it and saying, why would this person say something?

00:02:39.680 Let me explain something to you, even deeper with this.

00:02:41.580 So think about it this way.

00:02:43.080 Let's just say I'm 73.

00:02:46.140 And I'm worth a couple hundred million dollars.

00:02:49.780 And you come and ask me, hey, what does it feel like to have a couple hundred million dollars?

00:02:52.580 And I say, that's not what you think it is.

00:02:56.320 It's really not what you think it is.

00:02:59.160 And you're kind of like, oh, really?

00:03:01.440 And you were planning on working your tail off to go make a couple hundred million dollars.

00:03:04.900 No, it's not really what it's, you know, you're like a little confused.

00:03:09.280 But then as you peel the layers of the onion, you start realizing

00:03:14.140 this person may have just lost somebody in their lives.

00:03:17.180 Maybe they just got news a month ago that their son, who became a great lawyer,

00:03:22.620 started making a half a million dollar year income, and went to the right school, everything.

00:03:25.680 And this person put so many years into the son.

00:03:28.480 But he's got a cocaine addiction that they can't drop.

00:03:30.560 Or a pain medication addiction they can't.

00:03:32.460 You don't know the whole story of the advice.

00:03:34.800 Very rarely will a 72-year-old or a 63-year-old or an 81-year-old in that situation give you advice

00:03:42.940 that's best needed for you at the 32-year-old age.

00:03:48.560 Because they've been disconnected from 32 for 40 years.

00:03:52.680 You understand what I'm saying?

00:03:53.520 They've been disconnected from you for 40 years.

00:03:55.200 So, they're only giving you advice from a 72-year-old to a 30, whatever your age is.

00:04:00.760 You know, 32, this girl that called me, let's just say she's in her early 30s. 0.97

00:04:05.220 That advice is only being coming from not thinking about where you're at.

00:04:12.620 So, for me, I talk to a lot.

00:04:14.220 People say, Pat, don't you think it's a bad idea all these people you're talking to?

00:04:17.300 Some of them are mobsters.

00:04:18.120 Some of them are this.

00:04:19.200 I'm not worried about who's giving me the advice.

00:04:21.200 But I'm concerned about fixing how I process the advice.

00:04:26.780 I don't care who gives me advice.

00:04:28.200 People give me advice.

00:04:28.840 Every day I watch TV, CNN, Fox, MSNBC, ESPN, radio, books, magazines.

00:04:34.240 Everybody's giving you advice.

00:04:35.600 What does that have to do with me?

00:04:36.900 That doesn't mean I'm taking everybody's advice.

00:04:38.860 But if you have made up your mind on a shortcut or a way out or a way that you don't want to do the work,

00:04:46.140 I guarantee you, your advice you receive from everybody around you will be exactly what you want to receive.

00:04:51.860 And then one day you're going to look back and say, damn it, I screwed up.

00:04:54.820 Look at this entire Antonio Brown situation.

00:04:57.440 Oh, Pittsburgh, they don't take care of their people. 1.00

00:04:59.360 Da-da-da-da-da. 0.90

00:05:00.080 Roethlisberger, coach this, coach that.

00:05:02.040 He leaves.

00:05:02.960 Oh, I want to be a Raider.

00:05:03.940 I want to be a Raider.

00:05:05.200 Helmet, helmet.

00:05:05.900 I don't like the helmet.

00:05:06.920 Fine.

00:05:07.600 Use this helmet.

00:05:08.680 And then John Gruden calls him.

00:05:10.980 John, what's going on, man?

00:05:12.120 Do you just want to play or what?

00:05:14.240 You guys want me to be the Raider?

00:05:15.780 I want to be a Raider.

00:05:17.340 What do you want to do?

00:05:18.800 And then boom, Instagram post, release me.

00:05:22.340 And then they release him.

00:05:23.440 Then he does a video.

00:05:24.260 Oh my gosh, Grandma, they release me.

00:05:26.640 They release me.

00:05:27.440 And then video goes viral.

00:05:28.700 He uses John Gruden's recording.

00:05:31.300 Then Bill Belichick comes and picks him up.

00:05:32.800 Why?

00:05:33.060 Bill Belichick knows how to work with Randy Moss and those kinds of players.

00:05:36.120 He picks him up.

00:05:37.700 And then he goes to New England.

00:05:39.360 Then he goes to New England Patriots.

00:05:41.080 First game, scores a touchdown.

00:05:42.280 Then he's got some personal life allegations.

00:05:44.300 Then the Patriots drop.

00:05:46.260 You know what happens after the Patriots drop him?

00:05:48.960 When Belichick drops you, that is not good reputation.

00:05:56.040 Because Bill Belichick, everybody follows him.

00:05:59.660 What he does is what everybody does.

00:06:02.180 So if the guy everybody is respecting drops you, there is a statement being made.

00:06:08.700 So why did that happen?

00:06:10.440 Again, who is Brown taking advice from?

00:06:14.020 And how is he processing the advice?

00:06:15.820 I have a lot of people in my family, my loved ones, that love me.

00:06:20.320 I don't take their advice.

00:06:21.720 Just because you love me, that doesn't qualify as advice.

00:06:25.120 That's not the qualification.

00:06:26.840 So look, I know you've been watching this for a few years.

00:06:29.140 Look, what is the message you're trying to convey to me?

00:06:30.920 The message I'm trying to convey to you is the call I got this week from one of our best leaders in the company that I'm working with.

00:06:39.880 She's so brilliant.

00:06:41.140 And I am so impressed by the fact that she questioned the advice being given to her based on the face of her life she's currently in.

00:06:52.280 That is wisdom at a young age.

00:06:54.940 And I think everybody can learn from this.

00:06:57.160 To think about at what age to take advice from who and what level they're at.

00:07:02.460 It's a complete different story.

00:07:04.700 Hope that made sense to you.

00:07:06.340 If you're confused, don't worry about it.

00:07:08.420 Go watch a cat video or a motivational video or go watch a prank video to kind of get yourself back into being normal.

00:07:14.140 But if this made sense to you on how and who to take advice from, then good for you.

00:07:20.620 Thanks everybody for listening.

00:07:21.880 And by the way, if you haven't already subscribed to Valuetainment on iTunes, please do so.

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00:07:29.380 And if you have any questions for me that you may have, you can always find me on Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube.

00:07:35.420 Just search my name, Patrick Bid David.

00:07:37.180 And I actually do respond back when you snap me or send me a message on Instagram.

00:07:42.320 With that being said, have a great day today.

00:07:44.060 Take care everybody.

00:07:44.780 Bye bye.

Valuetainment - November 08, 2019

Episode 388： Toughest Thing To Learn In Life

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