Valuetainment - November 08, 2019


Episode 388： Toughest Thing To Learn In Life


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

184.37917

Word Count

1,429

Sentence Count

118

Misogynist Sentences

3

Hate Speech Sentences

1


Summary

The world is filled with wisdom. How come only a small percentage wins at the highest level? Is it the person giving the advice or the person receiving the advice? Pat McAfee explains why it matters who you take advice from.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You know what is one of the toughest things to do in life?
00:00:19.980 Is learning who to take advice from.
00:00:21.680 Let me explain to you what this means.
00:00:23.300 This is not one of these, rah, rah, go get the right advisor, mentor, life will change.
00:00:27.300 No, I never put weight on who's given the advice.
00:00:32.580 Think about it this way.
00:00:34.220 The world is filled with wisdom.
00:00:36.680 How come only a small percentage wins at the highest level?
00:00:39.980 Is it the person giving the advice or is it the person receiving the advice?
00:00:45.360 What do you mean?
00:00:46.300 Let me explain.
00:00:46.860 If today, in my mind, I want to convince myself to leave my family.
00:00:57.300 I can't intentionally take any advice given by anybody and turn it in the direction of what I want to hear.
00:01:05.620 Not because the advice that people are giving me.
00:01:08.240 Like you can sit there and talk to somebody and somebody's going to say,
00:01:10.940 let's just you're going through marital issues and somebody says,
00:01:14.000 well, you know, one of the things is, well, unless 99% of the stuff they say is about you staying together.
00:01:20.000 The 1% they say no.
00:01:21.440 The only thing, if you only want to hear that 1%, that's the only thing you'll take.
00:01:24.660 So it's not the person giving the advice.
00:01:28.160 I'm not trying to kind of get you confused.
00:01:30.200 Let me go a little layer deeper than that.
00:01:33.020 Here's another thing that's confusing.
00:01:35.100 I got a call the other day from one of our guys that I work with.
00:01:38.900 And she said, hey, Pat, I got a call from somebody that's in their 70s.
00:01:44.280 And they were giving me advice, and it was very confusing.
00:01:48.280 I said, tell me why it was confusing to you.
00:01:51.640 Because it was advice being given for me to slow down.
00:01:56.220 I said, how did you process that?
00:01:58.480 And she says, I couldn't understand it.
00:02:01.320 I said, well, tell me more.
00:02:02.500 I'm not giving any feedback.
00:02:03.720 I'm just trying to see what she says.
00:02:05.360 She says, one, why are they giving us this advice?
00:02:09.200 Two, do you think they're giving me the advice from their current situation?
00:02:14.520 Or do you think they're giving it from their failures that they made,
00:02:18.020 and it didn't work out for them?
00:02:19.200 Or do you think they're giving me the advice from where I'm at today?
00:02:22.320 When she started asking me those questions, guess what's the first thing I thought about?
00:02:25.700 I said, she knows how to take advice.
00:02:30.300 Does that make sense?
00:02:31.140 Like, she's weighing it all out.
00:02:34.920 And she's processing it and saying, why would this person say something?
00:02:39.680 Let me explain something to you, even deeper with this.
00:02:41.580 So think about it this way.
00:02:43.080 Let's just say I'm 73.
00:02:46.140 And I'm worth a couple hundred million dollars.
00:02:49.780 And you come and ask me, hey, what does it feel like to have a couple hundred million dollars?
00:02:52.580 And I say, that's not what you think it is.
00:02:56.320 It's really not what you think it is.
00:02:59.160 And you're kind of like, oh, really?
00:03:01.440 And you were planning on working your tail off to go make a couple hundred million dollars.
00:03:04.900 No, it's not really what it's, you know, you're like a little confused.
00:03:09.280 But then as you peel the layers of the onion, you start realizing
00:03:14.140 this person may have just lost somebody in their lives.
00:03:17.180 Maybe they just got news a month ago that their son, who became a great lawyer,
00:03:22.620 started making a half a million dollar year income, and went to the right school, everything.
00:03:25.680 And this person put so many years into the son.
00:03:28.480 But he's got a cocaine addiction that they can't drop.
00:03:30.560 Or a pain medication addiction they can't.
00:03:32.460 You don't know the whole story of the advice.
00:03:34.800 Very rarely will a 72-year-old or a 63-year-old or an 81-year-old in that situation give you advice
00:03:42.940 that's best needed for you at the 32-year-old age.
00:03:48.560 Because they've been disconnected from 32 for 40 years.
00:03:52.680 You understand what I'm saying?
00:03:53.520 They've been disconnected from you for 40 years.
00:03:55.200 So, they're only giving you advice from a 72-year-old to a 30, whatever your age is.
00:04:00.760 You know, 32, this girl that called me, let's just say she's in her early 30s.
00:04:05.220 That advice is only being coming from not thinking about where you're at.
00:04:12.620 So, for me, I talk to a lot.
00:04:14.220 People say, Pat, don't you think it's a bad idea all these people you're talking to?
00:04:17.300 Some of them are mobsters.
00:04:18.120 Some of them are this.
00:04:19.200 I'm not worried about who's giving me the advice.
00:04:21.200 But I'm concerned about fixing how I process the advice.
00:04:26.780 I don't care who gives me advice.
00:04:28.200 People give me advice.
00:04:28.840 Every day I watch TV, CNN, Fox, MSNBC, ESPN, radio, books, magazines.
00:04:34.240 Everybody's giving you advice.
00:04:35.600 What does that have to do with me?
00:04:36.900 That doesn't mean I'm taking everybody's advice.
00:04:38.860 But if you have made up your mind on a shortcut or a way out or a way that you don't want to do the work,
00:04:46.140 I guarantee you, your advice you receive from everybody around you will be exactly what you want to receive.
00:04:51.860 And then one day you're going to look back and say, damn it, I screwed up.
00:04:54.820 Look at this entire Antonio Brown situation.
00:04:57.440 Oh, Pittsburgh, they don't take care of their people.
00:04:59.360 Da-da-da-da-da.
00:05:00.080 Roethlisberger, coach this, coach that.
00:05:02.040 He leaves.
00:05:02.960 Oh, I want to be a Raider.
00:05:03.940 I want to be a Raider.
00:05:05.200 Helmet, helmet.
00:05:05.900 I don't like the helmet.
00:05:06.920 Fine.
00:05:07.600 Use this helmet.
00:05:08.680 And then John Gruden calls him.
00:05:10.980 John, what's going on, man?
00:05:12.120 Do you just want to play or what?
00:05:14.240 You guys want me to be the Raider?
00:05:15.780 I want to be a Raider.
00:05:17.340 What do you want to do?
00:05:18.800 And then boom, Instagram post, release me.
00:05:22.340 And then they release him.
00:05:23.440 Then he does a video.
00:05:24.260 Oh my gosh, Grandma, they release me.
00:05:26.640 They release me.
00:05:27.440 And then video goes viral.
00:05:28.700 He uses John Gruden's recording.
00:05:31.300 Then Bill Belichick comes and picks him up.
00:05:32.800 Why?
00:05:33.060 Bill Belichick knows how to work with Randy Moss and those kinds of players.
00:05:36.120 He picks him up.
00:05:37.700 And then he goes to New England.
00:05:39.360 Then he goes to New England Patriots.
00:05:41.080 First game, scores a touchdown.
00:05:42.280 Then he's got some personal life allegations.
00:05:44.300 Then the Patriots drop.
00:05:46.260 You know what happens after the Patriots drop him?
00:05:48.960 When Belichick drops you, that is not good reputation.
00:05:56.040 Because Bill Belichick, everybody follows him.
00:05:59.660 What he does is what everybody does.
00:06:02.180 So if the guy everybody is respecting drops you, there is a statement being made.
00:06:08.700 So why did that happen?
00:06:10.440 Again, who is Brown taking advice from?
00:06:14.020 And how is he processing the advice?
00:06:15.820 I have a lot of people in my family, my loved ones, that love me.
00:06:20.320 I don't take their advice.
00:06:21.720 Just because you love me, that doesn't qualify as advice.
00:06:25.120 That's not the qualification.
00:06:26.840 So look, I know you've been watching this for a few years.
00:06:29.140 Look, what is the message you're trying to convey to me?
00:06:30.920 The message I'm trying to convey to you is the call I got this week from one of our best leaders in the company that I'm working with.
00:06:39.880 She's so brilliant.
00:06:41.140 And I am so impressed by the fact that she questioned the advice being given to her based on the face of her life she's currently in.
00:06:52.280 That is wisdom at a young age.
00:06:54.940 And I think everybody can learn from this.
00:06:57.160 To think about at what age to take advice from who and what level they're at.
00:07:02.460 It's a complete different story.
00:07:04.700 Hope that made sense to you.
00:07:06.340 If you're confused, don't worry about it.
00:07:08.420 Go watch a cat video or a motivational video or go watch a prank video to kind of get yourself back into being normal.
00:07:14.140 But if this made sense to you on how and who to take advice from, then good for you.
00:07:20.620 Thanks everybody for listening.
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00:07:42.320 With that being said, have a great day today.
00:07:44.060 Take care everybody.
00:07:44.780 Bye bye.