Valuetainment - December 16, 2019


Episode 402： How To Get People's Attention


Episode Stats

Length

6 minutes

Words per Minute

183.63274

Word Count

1,104

Sentence Count

87

Misogynist Sentences

2


Summary

Have you ever been in a situation where no one else in your family has an interest in what you're interested in? Have you ever felt like you're the only one who likes a certain thing, but nobody else in the family likes that thing? Or maybe you have an interest that nobody else is interested in that you know of? What do you do about it?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 So I want to challenge you to do something differently this weekend.
00:00:19.800 Here's what it is.
00:00:20.500 Before I give you the challenge, I want to ask my son a question and then we'll go from
00:00:24.120 there.
00:00:24.320 Tico, what movie did we just watch right now?
00:00:27.280 Adam's Family.
00:00:28.000 Now, did we watch Adam's Family because I like Adam's Family, because mommy likes it
00:00:32.480 or because you like it?
00:00:33.780 Me.
00:00:34.220 Now, why do you like it?
00:00:35.400 Because it was so funny and all the monsters and I'm interested in monsters.
00:00:39.740 You like monsters, you like vampires.
00:00:41.280 What else do you like?
00:00:42.900 Venom.
00:00:43.580 You like things like that, right?
00:00:45.440 Mm-hmm.
00:00:45.820 Okay.
00:00:46.180 Okay.
00:00:46.440 So now having said that, let's ask a question from them, okay?
00:00:49.520 Here's a question for you.
00:00:51.460 What are you interested in that nobody else is interested in, that you know of?
00:00:55.540 For instance, maybe you have an interest in, I don't know, horror movies, okay?
00:01:00.060 And no one in your family likes horror movies.
00:01:02.120 What if you have an interest in baseball cards?
00:01:04.840 What if you have an interest in philosophy or war or generals or politics?
00:01:10.200 Whatever it may be, you have the strangest interest in an area.
00:01:13.520 And how do you feel when sometimes you bring up your interest to people who are not interested
00:01:18.960 in what you are interested in?
00:01:21.320 Doesn't feel that good, right?
00:01:22.300 Now, watch this.
00:01:23.040 I got three kids.
00:01:24.180 I got Patrick.
00:01:25.140 Patrick, are you the youngest or the oldest?
00:01:26.960 Oldest.
00:01:27.480 You're the oldest.
00:01:28.140 What's your, do you have a brother?
00:01:30.220 Yes.
00:01:30.580 Is he younger than you?
00:01:31.940 Yes.
00:01:32.280 Do you also have a sister?
00:01:33.420 Yes.
00:01:33.760 And she's younger than you?
00:01:34.780 Yes.
00:01:35.120 Is she the youngest?
00:01:37.000 She's the youngest, right?
00:01:38.100 Okay.
00:01:39.080 Now, Senna likes pink.
00:01:42.560 Senna likes dolls.
00:01:44.220 Senna likes to have a small cup of tea with me, right?
00:01:47.480 And she wants to, you know, go out there and do that.
00:01:49.240 Okay, great.
00:01:50.160 Dylan likes a whole different slew of things.
00:01:52.160 He likes to play Lego, right?
00:01:54.500 Dylan likes to, you know...
00:01:55.960 Play video games?
00:01:56.680 Play.
00:01:56.880 He likes video games a little bit as well.
00:01:58.360 You're right.
00:01:58.740 So, all of these things that I look at, I went to a parent-teacher conference last week
00:02:03.760 and I met with all the teachers.
00:02:06.200 And they talked about my daughter in a different way than my middle son.
00:02:09.220 And they talked about my oldest son.
00:02:10.460 And everybody was different.
00:02:12.000 Here's a moral of the story I'm making to you.
00:02:13.860 As somebody who is trying to develop leaders with all my three kids,
00:02:18.000 my outcome isn't to impose my interests on them.
00:02:22.540 My outcome is to impose my values and principles, which, for example, Tico,
00:02:26.840 what are the four things we do as a family?
00:02:28.780 Lead, respect, improve, and love.
00:02:30.700 Can you say that one more time slowly?
00:02:32.120 Lead, respect, improve, love.
00:02:34.740 Improve, and love.
00:02:35.700 Yes?
00:02:36.240 Do we bully?
00:02:37.700 No.
00:02:38.180 Do we get bullied?
00:02:39.000 No.
00:02:39.460 What are the four things we pray for?
00:02:41.340 You know this one.
00:02:42.800 You want me to help you with one of them?
00:02:44.220 Okay.
00:02:44.860 Courage.
00:02:45.760 Courage, wisdom, tolerance, understanding.
00:02:48.460 There you go.
00:02:48.820 Courage, wisdom, tolerance, understanding.
00:02:50.560 Those are my values.
00:02:51.560 I impose on them, right?
00:02:53.040 But it's not my interests.
00:02:54.940 Like, for instance, he's not interested in basketball and baseball.
00:02:58.380 Not yet.
00:02:59.020 Not at this age.
00:03:00.060 Can you imagine if I tried to impose all my interests in him?
00:03:02.560 It'd be driving him insane, right?
00:03:04.020 But because I'm trying to develop him into a leader, I am focused on what his interests are.
00:03:08.920 How does this apply to business?
00:03:11.260 Everything of what I'm saying to you right now applies to business.
00:03:13.600 Because you have a team, you're working with a support team, your assistant, your finance, your folks that are operations.
00:03:21.280 Maybe you got, you know, compliance.
00:03:23.460 Maybe you got sales.
00:03:24.640 Maybe you got your partners you're dealing with.
00:03:26.140 No matter who you're dealing with, the most important part about helping develop leaders is to identify their interests first, support their interests.
00:03:36.860 And through that, when you know their interests and they automatically know that you are not trying to change what they're interested in, you are simply trying to challenge them to improve certain values and principles, to want to raise their own set of standards so they perform at a better level.
00:03:54.540 But they know deep down inside you are interested in their interests simply because they matter a lot to you.
00:04:01.940 So this week, whoever you're dealing with, whether it's clients, kids, parents, spouse, okay?
00:04:08.600 Friends, cousins, customers, salespeople, employees, support, anybody you're dealing with, see how different it will be if almost everybody you talk to this week, see if you can figure out a way to identify what their interests are this week.
00:04:26.680 And when you do, see what happens after you identify their interests and then find a way to water their interests by doing what?
00:04:37.860 I don't know.
00:04:38.960 Send an article to them based on what they're interested in.
00:04:41.960 Send a book to them based on what they're interested in.
00:04:44.900 Send a gift to them based on what they're interested in.
00:04:48.140 Send a certain information to them or a video based on what they're interested in.
00:04:53.440 And they'll sit there and they'll say, you know what, I appreciate the fact that you may not be interested in what I'm interested in, but you are definitely supportive of what I'm interested in.
00:05:02.960 By doing so, guess what?
00:05:04.720 I am willing to be open to the ideas that you want to share with me.
00:05:08.580 Then people are open to you.
00:05:10.540 Too often we want to impose our interests and our ideas onto others without first being interested in what others are interested in.
00:05:19.200 Because if it wasn't for this kid, guess what?
00:05:22.600 I am not going to watch Adam's Family.
00:05:24.500 The only reason I took him to watch Adam's Family today is because he's interested in it.
00:05:28.760 And because he's interested in it, daddy is as well.
00:05:31.560 Does that make sense?
00:05:32.480 Having said that, have a great week this week.
00:05:36.080 Thanks everybody for listening and by the way, if you haven't already subscribed to Valuetainment on iTunes, please do so.
00:05:42.160 Give us a five star, write a review if you haven't already.
00:05:45.060 And if you have any questions for me that you may have, you can always find me on Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube.
00:05:51.100 Just search my name, Patrick MidDavid.
00:05:53.020 And I actually do respond back when you snap me or send me a message on Instagram.
00:05:58.000 With that being said, have a great day today.
00:05:59.720 Take care everybody.
00:06:00.440 Bye-bye.
00:06:00.680 Bye-bye.