Episode 408： The People You’ll Never Win Over
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Summary
What if I told you there's a group of people in your life you're never going to win over? Yes, you are. You can be the richest man in the world, passing Gates and Bezos. You can buy the biggest house in New York, in LA, in Manhattan, a penthouse, date the finest women, finest men, have caviar every day, date in Hollywood, be in Hollywood. Buy nice Paganis, Bugattis, whatever you want. You'll never win these people over. Matter of fact, you'll piss them off even more the more you win.
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What if I told you there's a group of people in your life you're never going to win over?
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Yes, you are never going to win a certain group of people over.
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No matter what you do, you can be the richest man in the world passing Gates and Bezos.
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You can buy the biggest house in New York, in LA, in Manhattan, penthouse.
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Date the finest women, finest men, have caviar every day.
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Some of them are your family members, you know, co-workers, best friends.
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Matter of fact, you'll piss them off even more the more you win.
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What if I told you there are a group of people you're not going to win over?
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A lot of times when we do business planning, people talk about the things they want to own.
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I want to buy a house, a car, jewelry, finer clothes, all this other stuff.
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My business planning was, I don't want this habit of how I view money to go into the next year with me.
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I don't want this mindset I have on how I view marriage, business, economy, politicians, politics.
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I don't want this mindset to continue into 2020.
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This could be one of the mindsets for you where you're trying to win everybody over, but you cannot.
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Many, many years ago, for the first 10 years of my business, I tried to change everybody.
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My friends, family members, I was trying to win everybody over through whatever measures it took.
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I got all this gray hair here, stressed out, not sleeping at night.
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But they don't want to do the work to win for their family.
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They'd much rather watch Netflix, TV, sleep in, eat cheesecake at 9 o'clock at night, not tell anybody and say,
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You know, I don't know what's going on with my money.
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See, when you read the book, Power Versus Force, if you haven't read it,
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he talks about in the book, the author, that you get to a level of consciousness.
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The lowest level, I believe, he talks about is apathy, grief, guilt, blame, all this stuff.
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Fear, desire, and then, you know, pride, anger.
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Then the first level of consciousness, which is a good level of consciousness, is courage.
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You have the courage to face your, why you think you're so entitled to things.
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And the next level is, I think, acceptance, willingness.
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I have realized over the years that I get along with people that know how to reason.
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See, I used to be the person that was unreasonably stubborn to everything.
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Then it got to a point when I sat there and I said, okay, if that person has got a better
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life than me and they're winning at a higher level than me and they're keeping things together
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and they're still showing like they have flaws and there's nothing really crazy about
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them, why don't I just actually submit and try to learn from this guy to see what they're
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I said, okay, I can learn a little bit from this guy, a little bit from that guy, a little
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And I looked and I said, okay, I can do something about this.
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Then I changed the mindsets of how I viewed marriage, money, how to reason with people.
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When I looked at certain politics, finance, economy, I said, that just does make sense.
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I got to a point where I ask the following question.
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If I show you a point, okay, that this may make sense.
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Are you willing to reason this topic and actually do something about it?
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Sometimes when you debate somebody and they say yes, but they're never, ever willing to
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talk anything with you and reason with you, it's difficult.
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The key is to teach whoever you're working with the power of reasoning, of sitting down
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and saying, let's reason together to see what is the best possible solution for this.
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When you negotiate with another person that's willing to reason, when you hire a group of
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salespeople that are willing to reason, when you hire employees that are willing to reason,
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when you hire vendors, partners, whoever it is that are willing to reason, you're actually
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But the people you can't win over are the people that are not willing to reason.
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And those who are not willing to reason, if you continuously put your energy into people
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who are not willing to reason, it's your fault.
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Put your energy into other people that are willing to reason, who may not agree with
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They have the courage, the willingness, the acceptance to say, maybe you make sense and
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And then once you learn to love on those people, good things start happening to you.
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Matter of fact, go up and look up the book, Power Versus Force, and actually look at the chart
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And then make a decision for yourself what level you're at and what you need to do to
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change into 2020 and go into 2020 to make sure 2020 doesn't become like 2019 or 2018
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and just becomes exponentially better than any other year you've ever had.
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