Valuetainment - Episode 408： The People You’ll Never Win Over

What if I told you there's a group of people in your life you're never going to win over? Yes, you are. You can be the richest man in the world, passing Gates and Bezos. You can buy the biggest house in New York, in LA, in Manhattan, a penthouse, date the finest women, finest men, have caviar every day, date in Hollywood, be in Hollywood. Buy nice Paganis, Bugattis, whatever you want. You'll never win these people over. Matter of fact, you'll piss them off even more the more you win.

00:00:00.000 What if I told you there's a group of people in your life you're never going to win over?

00:00:25.800 Yes, you are never going to win a certain group of people over.

00:00:28.620 No matter what you do, you can be the richest man in the world passing Gates and Bezos.

00:00:32.540 You can make billions.

00:00:33.540 You can buy the biggest house in New York, in LA, in Manhattan, penthouse.

00:00:37.520 Date the finest women, finest men, have caviar every day. 1.00

00:00:40.440 Put the best parties together.

00:00:42.340 Invite them.

00:00:43.000 Be in Hollywood.

00:00:44.240 Buy nice Paganis, Bugattis, whatever you want.

00:00:46.920 You're never going to win these people over.

00:00:48.540 Some of them are your family members, you know, co-workers, best friends.

00:00:52.180 You've done the most for.

00:00:53.400 You'll never win them over.

00:00:54.340 Matter of fact, you'll piss them off even more the more you win.

00:00:57.100 What if I told you there are a group of people you're not going to win over?

00:00:59.960 Now, why am I saying this?

00:01:00.820 Because 2020 is around the corner.

00:01:02.900 A lot of times when we do business planning, people talk about the things they want to own.

00:01:05.780 I want to buy a house, a car, jewelry, finer clothes, all this other stuff.

00:01:09.500 My business planning was, I don't want this habit of how I view money to go into the next year with me.

00:01:15.980 I don't want this mindset I have on how I view marriage, business, economy, politicians, politics.

00:01:23.880 I don't want this mindset to continue into 2020.

00:01:26.740 This could be one of the mindsets for you where you're trying to win everybody over, but you cannot.

00:01:31.200 So what are you talking about, Pat?

00:01:32.440 Let me explain it to you.

00:01:33.700 Many, many years ago, for the first 10 years of my business, I tried to change everybody.

00:01:37.180 I was trying to win everybody over.

00:01:38.460 My friends, family members, I was trying to win everybody over through whatever measures it took.

00:01:43.940 And you know what happened?

00:01:44.680 This is what I got.

00:01:45.260 I got all these things here.

00:01:46.320 I got all these things here.

00:01:47.220 I got all this gray hair here, stressed out, not sleeping at night.

00:01:50.620 I was furious.

00:01:51.760 How can these guys not get it?

00:01:53.940 Why don't you want to win for your family?

00:01:55.520 I want to win for my family.

00:01:57.200 But they don't want to do the work to win for their family.

00:01:59.260 They'd much rather watch Netflix, TV, sleep in, eat cheesecake at 9 o'clock at night, not tell anybody and say,

00:02:04.380 I don't know why I'm gaining weight.

00:02:05.960 I don't have the energy.

00:02:07.060 I don't know why I've gained 78 pounds.

00:02:08.860 I don't know what happened here.

00:02:09.960 It's not my fault.

00:02:11.180 I'm big boned.

00:02:12.100 You know, I don't know what's going on with my money.

00:02:14.520 It's not my fault.

00:02:16.260 It's not my fault.

00:02:17.260 It's everybody else's fault.

00:02:19.480 You know, it's not me.

00:02:20.940 I don't know why.

00:02:21.720 You can't win certain people over.

00:02:24.580 What kind of people can you not win over?

00:02:26.980 See, when you read the book, Power Versus Force, if you haven't read it,

00:02:30.220 he talks about in the book, the author, that you get to a level of consciousness.

00:02:33.960 The lowest level, I believe, he talks about is apathy, grief, guilt, blame, all this stuff.

00:02:39.320 Fear, desire, and then, you know, pride, anger.

00:02:43.120 Then the first level of consciousness, which is a good level of consciousness, is courage.

00:02:47.040 You have the courage to face your fears.

00:02:48.640 You have the courage to face your apathy.

00:02:49.940 You have the courage to face your, why you think you're so entitled to things.

00:02:52.960 Why you're a victim.

00:02:53.660 You have the courage.

00:02:54.980 And the next level is, I think, acceptance, willingness.

00:02:57.860 Then it's reason.

00:02:59.320 Neutrality, then it's reason, right?

00:03:01.220 And reason.

00:03:02.140 What is reason?

00:03:03.180 I have realized over the years that I get along with people that know how to reason.

00:03:06.520 What do you mean, Pat?

00:03:08.000 See, I used to be the person that was unreasonably stubborn to everything.

00:03:13.800 Didn't serve me.

00:03:14.600 I was broke. 1.00

00:03:15.680 Arrogant, cocky, big ego. 0.99

00:03:17.620 But I didn't win. 1.00

00:03:19.440 And I kept losing everybody.

00:03:21.580 Then it got to a point when I sat there and I said, okay, if that person has got a better

00:03:25.780 life than me and they're winning at a higher level than me and they're keeping things together

00:03:29.380 and they're still showing like they have flaws and there's nothing really crazy about

00:03:34.860 them, why don't I just actually submit and try to learn from this guy to see what they're

00:03:38.760 doing?

00:03:39.560 So I kind of looked out a little bit.

00:03:40.760 I said, okay, I can learn a little bit from this guy, a little bit from that guy, a little

00:03:43.080 bit from this guy.

00:03:44.140 And it started changing perspectives for me.

00:03:46.360 And I'm talking about books, by the way.

00:03:48.360 And I looked and I said, okay, I can do something about this.

00:03:51.080 Then I changed the mindsets of how I viewed marriage, money, how to reason with people.

00:03:56.280 When I looked at certain politics, finance, economy, I said, that just does make sense.

00:04:00.480 What do you want to do?

00:04:01.500 You can argue all you want.

00:04:02.600 It makes sense.

00:04:03.640 The data is showing that it's working.

00:04:05.580 What are you upset about?

00:04:06.640 It's data.

00:04:07.320 You can't fight data.

00:04:08.640 Well, no, you don't understand.

00:04:10.100 He's this, she's that. 0.56

00:04:11.580 That's emotions.

00:04:12.520 I'm not talking emotions.

00:04:13.520 So very simple.

00:04:14.940 I got to a point where I ask the following question.

00:04:16.940 If I show you a point, okay, that this may make sense.

00:04:22.240 Are you willing to reason this topic and actually do something about it?

00:04:27.120 Yes.

00:04:27.840 Perfect.

00:04:28.880 Then I go into it and we start debating.

00:04:30.300 Sometimes when you debate somebody and they say yes, but they're never, ever willing to

00:04:34.500 talk anything with you and reason with you, it's difficult.

00:04:38.780 The key is to teach whoever you're working with the power of reasoning, of sitting down

00:04:44.620 and saying, let's reason together to see what is the best possible solution for this.

00:04:51.020 When you negotiate with another person that's willing to reason, when you hire a group of

00:04:55.160 salespeople that are willing to reason, when you hire employees that are willing to reason,

00:04:59.360 when you hire vendors, partners, whoever it is that are willing to reason, you're actually

00:05:04.240 making progress.

00:05:05.560 But the people you can't win over are the people that are not willing to reason.

00:05:10.660 And those who are not willing to reason, if you continuously put your energy into people

00:05:14.660 who are not willing to reason, it's your fault.

00:05:17.100 It's not their fault.

00:05:18.140 Because you are giving them your energy.

00:05:19.640 You don't have to give them your energy.

00:05:21.720 Put your energy into other people that are willing to reason, who may not agree with

00:05:25.320 you today, but are willing to reason.

00:05:27.780 They are willing to see it.

00:05:28.820 They have the courage, the willingness, the acceptance to say, maybe you make sense and

00:05:33.500 I'm willing to reason with you.

00:05:35.260 And then once you learn to love on those people, good things start happening to you.

00:05:38.500 So going into 2020, go and study for yourself.

00:05:41.840 Matter of fact, go up and look up the book, Power Versus Force, and actually look at the chart

00:05:44.640 for yourself.

00:05:45.140 And then make a decision for yourself what level you're at and what you need to do to

00:05:48.640 change into 2020 and go into 2020 to make sure 2020 doesn't become like 2019 or 2018

00:05:54.300 and just becomes exponentially better than any other year you've ever had.

00:05:58.960 Ever had.

00:05:59.640 Thanks everybody for listening.

00:06:00.880 And by the way, if you haven't already subscribed to Valuetainment on iTunes, please do so.

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00:06:08.400 And if you have any questions for me that you may have, you can always find me on Snapchat,

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00:06:14.220 Just search my name, Patrick MidDavid.

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00:06:21.100 With that being said, have a great day today.

00:06:22.900 Take care everybody.

00:06:23.660 Bye-bye.

Valuetainment - December 30, 2019

Episode 408： The People You’ll Never Win Over

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