Valuetainment - January 20, 2020


Episode 417： Who Did You Speak To Last Night？


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8 minutes

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1,809

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180

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In this episode, I talk about the power of the last person you talk to before you go to sleep at night and how it can have a huge impact on your chances of success in the next 12 months. Don t forget to SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss the next episode!

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00:00:00.000 What if I told you you and I can predict the level of success somebody will have
00:00:25.940 in the next 12 months based on who they talk to last before they go to sleep at night?
00:00:32.680 Let me say this one more time.
00:00:33.800 What if I told you, you and I can predict the level of success somebody will have in
00:00:37.740 the next 12 months based on who's in their ear, who they talk to last before they go
00:00:42.780 to sleep at night?
00:00:43.880 Let me unpack this entire message to you.
00:00:45.980 Look, life is all about odds.
00:00:47.780 Everything is about odds.
00:00:49.180 You buy stock based on odds.
00:00:51.280 In your mind, you're thinking you're going to make more money.
00:00:53.320 You buy a house based on odds.
00:00:55.340 You go into a business based on certain odds.
00:00:57.720 Man, I feel the odds are pretty high of me making it here.
00:01:00.080 Or I date somebody because I just feel I met her dad.
00:01:03.180 I met her parents.
00:01:04.040 They go to church.
00:01:05.200 You know, he seems like he's got a great...
00:01:06.900 Every decision you make in your mind, you don't know it, but you have certain machine here
00:01:10.700 mechanism that's increasing the chances, hopefully, of making a better decision.
00:01:15.920 So what do I mean?
00:01:16.960 The last person you talk to at night.
00:01:18.640 Look, here's how it works.
00:01:20.140 I've seen many people in business come and go.
00:01:21.900 A lot of people.
00:01:22.420 I've seen so many talented people fail miserably because they didn't know how to control the
00:01:29.240 last person they talked to before they went to sleep at night.
00:01:32.380 Here's what I mean by it.
00:01:33.580 I've seen average people when at the highest level because the last person they talked to
00:01:36.960 said the right things.
00:01:38.080 I'll give you both of them.
00:01:38.940 Okay?
00:01:39.140 Say, let's just say Johnny goes to sleep at night and he's laying in bed next to his
00:01:42.220 girlfriend or his wife or his, you know, whoever it is.
00:01:45.420 He says, oh my God, babe, I can't tell you how excited I am.
00:01:48.200 Oh my gosh.
00:01:49.000 I'm so excited about tomorrow.
00:01:50.640 I don't know why I feel like we're going to be doing so well.
00:01:53.220 We're going to make money, babe.
00:01:54.100 We're going to be millionaires.
00:01:54.920 We're going to be able to send the babies, the kids to private school.
00:01:57.460 We're going to, and then, and then all of a sudden girlfriend stops.
00:01:59.480 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:02:00.580 What are you talking about, babe?
00:02:03.020 Have you forgotten?
00:02:04.100 Like no one in our family has ever made money, babe.
00:02:06.560 Why are you believing that guy telling you this stuff?
00:02:09.480 Why are you believing your boss?
00:02:10.760 Like you seriously think you're going to make that kind of, are you out of your mind?
00:02:14.500 Are you crazy, babe?
00:02:15.720 We're regular people.
00:02:16.680 Babe, don't get distracted.
00:02:18.520 You got a good job.
00:02:20.180 They pay you $22 an hour, babe. 0.99
00:02:23.560 If you go out to space in the next three years, you'll be at $30 an hour.
00:02:27.220 That's amazing.
00:02:28.240 More money than both of our parents have ever made.
00:02:30.560 Don't get confused, babe, please.
00:02:32.740 I know these dreams are great, but let's face it, babe.
00:02:35.340 We're just regular people, baby.
00:02:36.600 What are you talking?
00:02:37.120 Neither one of us has a degree.
00:02:38.560 That's the last voice.
00:02:39.900 You want me to give you the other one?
00:02:41.640 The other one is Mary.
00:02:43.180 Mary has this dream of building a bakery into a franchise. 1.00
00:02:46.860 She's laying in bed.
00:02:48.120 She says, oh my gosh, babe, let me tell you.
00:02:49.940 I talked to this one group.
00:02:51.420 I was at this YPO event, and I met these other two ladies who are introducing me to these other girls
00:02:56.160 that they think they're going to help us with the bakery.
00:02:58.460 I'm so excited because I think they want to partner up, and they want to bring in the money and the capital.
00:03:03.820 And the husband says, oh my gosh, babe, I'm so proud of you.
00:03:07.040 I'm so excited.
00:03:07.600 And, oh my, this is amazing, babe.
00:03:10.160 This is awesome.
00:03:11.680 Go for it.
00:03:12.280 You're so amazing.
00:03:13.100 I'm excited for you.
00:03:14.060 Okay?
00:03:15.180 When is this voice?
00:03:16.080 When is that voice?
00:03:17.160 Now, how is that guy going to go to sleep?
00:03:18.800 Here's how he's going to go to sleep.
00:03:20.200 He lays down.
00:03:21.660 He says, maybe she's right. 0.82
00:03:24.440 Yeah, she does have a point.
00:03:25.380 I'm making good money.
00:03:26.140 More money than my parents.
00:03:27.520 What am I talking about?
00:03:28.400 I can't make that kind of money.
00:03:30.340 Millions?
00:03:30.660 I've never seen $100,000 in a bank before.
00:03:33.940 Let her own millions. 0.98
00:03:35.480 Get over yourself, bro.
00:03:36.840 She's right.
00:03:37.680 And a boom.
00:03:39.080 Versus the other one.
00:03:40.500 She talks to her husband, and she goes to sleep saying, oh my gosh, I can't believe this is going to happen.
00:03:45.680 You know, he supports me.
00:03:46.740 I can't wait for it tomorrow.
00:03:48.780 I can't wait to go to work.
00:03:49.500 This is so exciting.
00:03:50.720 See the difference?
00:03:51.840 Last voice in your ear.
00:03:55.520 Last person you talk to.
00:03:57.180 Guys, I've sat down with people.
00:03:59.380 I have sat down with people.
00:04:01.600 On a Wednesday night, 9 o'clock, I'm sitting down with somebody.
00:04:06.120 They're excited about life.
00:04:08.240 They want to do incredible things in life.
00:04:10.280 They get emotional tears.
00:04:11.840 I'm going to win for my wife. 0.93
00:04:13.120 I'm going to win for my mom and dad.
00:04:14.700 I'm going to win for my husband.
00:04:15.760 I'm going to win.
00:04:16.960 I'm going to win at the highest level.
00:04:19.000 Next day, they come to work, and I see their eyes changed.
00:04:23.580 Same person.
00:04:24.900 Same physique.
00:04:25.760 Same weight, pretty much.
00:04:27.800 Arms crossed, eyes change.
00:04:29.220 Why do you think?
00:04:30.380 What happened from 9 p.m. to 9 a.m.?
00:04:33.800 The difference between 9 p.m. and 9 a.m. is who they talk to in that 12-hour period.
00:04:39.960 Whoever they talk to last makes them think, and for 6 to 8 hours, they're thinking about that.
00:04:46.180 So for some of you that are watching this right now saying, oh my gosh, that's why I'm not winning.
00:04:49.980 It's my wife's fault. 1.00
00:04:51.360 It's my husband's fault.
00:04:52.780 It's my boyfriend, girlfriend's fault. 0.98
00:04:53.860 It's my parents' fault.
00:04:55.060 I knew it.
00:04:55.840 I can't wait to have them watch this video.
00:04:57.480 They need to watch this video.
00:04:58.820 Let me give you the opposite side of this.
00:05:00.800 Here's what it is.
00:05:02.080 Look, if somebody makes you quit on your dreams and you believe it, it's also your fault.
00:05:11.940 Let me explain to you what I mean by this.
00:05:13.380 Parents' family members want the best for you.
00:05:19.080 Your husband, wife, your parents, they pretty much want the best for you.
00:05:22.400 Of course, they would love for you to go out there and succeed at the high school and become
00:05:25.240 millionaires.
00:05:26.160 But they don't believe it.
00:05:28.320 And sometimes they indirectly bully you, not intentionally.
00:05:32.520 It's an indirect form of bullying.
00:05:34.760 And if you don't stand up for yourself, they believe you.
00:05:38.160 For example, let me give you an idea.
00:05:39.880 Say that example where the wife tells the husband, babe, come on, get over yourself, babe. 0.97
00:05:44.360 You're making 22 bucks an hour.
00:05:45.660 One day you're going to make $30 an hour more than our parents have we've ever made.
00:05:49.500 And if you don't say nothing, she wins.
00:05:53.720 Internally, when she goes to bed, she says, I was kind of hoping you would fight me a little
00:05:57.400 bit on this.
00:05:58.560 And you didn't.
00:06:00.940 I don't know if I'm making sense or not.
00:06:03.040 See, I have a wife.
00:06:04.300 I'm married.
00:06:04.900 I got kids.
00:06:05.380 I got parents that didn't spoil what I was.
00:06:06.820 My dad had no idea what insurance was.
00:06:08.520 My mother thought I was a drug dealer.
00:06:10.340 Like, what is this guy doing?
00:06:11.540 Like, we don't have this kind of stuff in Iran.
00:06:13.820 Can you imagine life insurance or financial services in Iran?
00:06:16.560 What stock market, all this other stuff?
00:06:18.140 No.
00:06:19.040 You know, my dad had a car named Gian.
00:06:20.960 My uncles worked at a company called Paycom.
00:06:22.920 What do you mean this guy's going to go out there and be a millionaire?
00:06:26.000 But I've had moments where they made me doubt myself and I came back at them.
00:06:31.100 I said, listen, listen to me.
00:06:34.040 The Bed David family is going to be known.
00:06:37.000 But you got to trust your son and you got to support me.
00:06:39.900 If you're not going to support me, you're not going to see a lot of me.
00:06:42.860 If you want to see me, you got to support me.
00:06:45.660 All I'm asking for is for you to support me.
00:06:48.140 If you don't want to support me, please don't talk about my business and what I'm doing.
00:06:52.800 Is that clear with you, mom?
00:06:54.220 Is that clear with you, dad?
00:06:55.760 Is that clear with your family?
00:06:57.360 Is that clear with everybody?
00:06:59.560 Yes.
00:07:00.340 Perfect.
00:07:01.180 Then I went to work.
00:07:02.260 So as much as you're quick to want to blame your wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, all that other stuff, a bigger part of it is on you because when they bullied you indirectly, you allowed them to.
00:07:12.200 And you got to stand up for yourself.
00:07:13.760 You.
00:07:14.180 You got to stand up for yourself.
00:07:15.800 And indirectly, they'll watch and they'll say, ooh, this guy's serious.
00:07:19.460 And then more importantly, you got to go out and work your tail off and get results so they see progress.
00:07:24.180 You do that.
00:07:25.140 Good things are going to happen to you.
00:07:26.440 But make sure the last person you talk to, Edna, before you go to sleep is somebody worthy.
00:07:34.580 If you're not married, you still have an opportunity to really have this conversation before you get married.
00:07:41.280 If you are married, watch this video with your husband and your wife together because there's a part of it that you're being held accountable and there's a part of it that they're being held accountable.
00:07:50.340 But don't jump into conclusion and just say, well, you know, it's all good.
00:07:58.500 This doesn't apply to me.
00:07:59.560 I wish I could have a video for you to watch 50, 100 different situations at night on how these conversations take place in a bedroom.
00:08:09.120 And you would see exactly the results of that person 30 days, 60 days, 90 days, a year later.
00:08:14.840 And then you sit there and say, wow, there's a big difference between the two.
00:08:18.480 And you would see the correlation.
00:08:20.660 But it's on you to see which ride you're going to take.
00:08:23.520 Thanks, everybody, for listening.
00:08:24.700 And by the way, if you haven't already subscribed to Valuetainment on iTunes, please do so.
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00:08:32.340 And if you have any questions for me that you may have, you can always find me on Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube.
00:08:38.280 Just search my name, PatrickBitDavid.
00:08:40.200 And I actually do respond back when you snap me or send me a message on Instagram.
00:08:45.040 With that being said, have a great day today.
00:08:46.840 Take care, everybody.
00:08:47.580 Bye-bye.