Valuetainment - April 06, 2020


Episode 451： Why Only A Few Succeed


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Length

6 minutes

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217.94473

Word Count

1,404

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115


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 What if I told you your day, your week, your month, your year, your life, your career
00:00:27.040 is a reflection of the lens you put on this morning when you woke up?
00:00:30.380 What if I told you that?
00:00:31.460 And I'm not talking about glasses.
00:00:33.100 I'm talking about a lens.
00:00:34.300 Let me explain to you what I mean by this.
00:00:35.980 Last week at a conversation with one of my employees, I brought her in.
00:00:39.520 It was a goal-setting type of a situation that her and I were having.
00:00:42.760 And I was challenging her.
00:00:43.880 I said, listen, who do you want to be?
00:00:44.880 What do you want to do with your life?
00:00:46.160 And I said, why are you not giving your all to be in your best?
00:00:50.000 What is it?
00:00:50.560 And going back and forth, all of a sudden, she breaks and she sits there and she says,
00:00:55.400 you know what, I got to tell you this story that's really stuck with me all these years.
00:00:57.880 I said, what is it?
00:00:59.180 She says, years ago, I had a lady that was my mentor.
00:01:03.100 She was a Fortune 100 CEO.
00:01:04.840 She had the house, the cars, the money, the records, the accolades, the books, all of it.
00:01:10.000 She was amazing at what she did, except while I was by her deathbed, she started opening up
00:01:14.760 to me and she told me, listen, my husband left me.
00:01:17.880 My kids don't want to talk to me.
00:01:19.560 I don't have great friendships.
00:01:21.520 Whenever it comes down to you, given everything you got to your career and your goals and
00:01:25.520 dreams, step back a little bit because it could come at a cost of your husband, your
00:01:29.680 kids, your family.
00:01:31.040 I wouldn't do that if I were you.
00:01:32.700 That stuck with her from that moment.
00:01:35.300 And so she says, Pat, why would I give everything I got?
00:01:38.200 Why would I want to give my best?
00:01:39.760 Look how many people are dying.
00:01:41.340 What are they taking with them?
00:01:42.720 They don't get to take the cars, the money, the houses.
00:01:45.000 They don't get to take all that stuff.
00:01:46.500 Why should I give everything?
00:01:48.100 I get to enjoy my life a little bit more.
00:01:50.500 I said, you know, it's so interesting.
00:01:51.340 You say that.
00:01:51.740 You're not alone there.
00:01:52.860 There's millions of people that hesitate of giving their best because of the lens they
00:01:56.780 put on every morning.
00:01:57.540 I said, I want you to think about something.
00:01:59.060 Let's just say you're thinking about getting married.
00:02:00.700 She said, okay.
00:02:01.800 I said, I take you, and we do a focus group, a market research together with you.
00:02:05.720 I take you into a room with 10 couples that at one point were married to each other and
00:02:11.360 they made millions because they went for their careers and they decided to get married
00:02:15.280 and have kids.
00:02:16.160 10 couples.
00:02:16.700 When you walk into the room, you look at these 10 couples, then I ask the 10 couples
00:02:21.240 to reveal how it turned out for them.
00:02:23.960 Five of them stand up.
00:02:26.060 And this five that stands up, their marriage didn't work out.
00:02:28.940 They can't stand each other.
00:02:30.360 They're not friends.
00:02:31.420 They have okay relationships with their kids and they lost it all with their careers and
00:02:35.060 they got a regular life.
00:02:36.140 Five out of the 10.
00:02:37.760 Three of them lived an okay life.
00:02:39.980 It was a good life.
00:02:41.000 They've been traveling.
00:02:41.940 They're doing okay.
00:02:42.620 But it wasn't great relationships.
00:02:44.740 It was good relationships.
00:02:45.920 It wasn't a great life.
00:02:47.220 It was a good life.
00:02:48.320 It wasn't great experiences.
00:02:49.620 It was good experiences.
00:02:51.140 And then two at the end, lived an incredible life.
00:02:54.420 I'm talking incredible legacy type of a life.
00:02:57.400 Good relationship with their kids.
00:02:59.020 They're proud of their kids.
00:03:00.120 They're proud of their family.
00:03:00.880 They're not saying they don't have problems.
00:03:02.440 Of course, they argued.
00:03:03.460 They fought.
00:03:03.920 They had some issues with finances.
00:03:05.100 Their kids made some mistakes.
00:03:06.260 But they ended up having a great life because of the lens they put on.
00:03:09.560 I said, here's a question for you.
00:03:10.620 She said, what's that?
00:03:12.480 I said, if you walk into that room and you've got these 10 couples to choose from and you're
00:03:16.760 thinking about marriage and you walk out saying, oh my gosh, did you notice half of
00:03:21.160 them got a divorce and the marriage didn't work out and they can't stand it?
00:03:23.880 Did you notice how ticked off he was when he talked about her?
00:03:26.420 And that one couple, oh, I never want to do that.
00:03:29.020 I don't ever want to give my best to career marriage.
00:03:31.400 You can tell it doesn't work out.
00:03:32.740 That's a reflection of the lens you look at the world from.
00:03:35.260 But if you walked in and you said, oh my goodness, did you see the two people, the life they
00:03:39.860 lived?
00:03:40.580 Did you see what their kids did?
00:03:42.320 Man, what if that happened to my life?
00:03:44.540 What if I was able to do what they did?
00:03:46.520 What if I was able to build somebody, a family like that?
00:03:49.360 What if I was able to have a marriage like that?
00:03:51.100 That's crazy.
00:03:52.780 Whatever you look at when you leave dictates how you view the world.
00:03:56.900 And that's a byproduct of the lens you put on.
00:03:58.600 By the way, the lens isn't just marriage and money.
00:04:01.960 Spiritual, health, finance, relationship, friendship, politics, everything has to do
00:04:08.780 with the lens you put on.
00:04:09.820 So now you may ask the question, well, Pat, how do I change that lens?
00:04:13.340 It's not easy, by the way.
00:04:14.780 But how do I change it?
00:04:16.180 Okay.
00:04:16.920 What is it a byproduct of?
00:04:18.620 Your lens is a byproduct of what you let in.
00:04:22.240 Whether it's your family, friends, shows, books, audio, coworkers, peers, what you let
00:04:28.200 in without filtering it.
00:04:29.680 You have to filter and not let things in.
00:04:31.520 Like you have to, when somebody's feeding you something, you have to say, I'm not accepting
00:04:34.700 this mindset.
00:04:36.040 I'm not.
00:04:36.500 I'm sorry.
00:04:37.000 I don't buy into this concept or else it's going to go in.
00:04:40.360 And if it goes in, you believe it.
00:04:42.220 Then it shows here.
00:04:43.340 Here's a second part.
00:04:44.220 So one is what you let in.
00:04:45.280 The second part is this.
00:04:46.840 What you let out.
00:04:48.420 It's a leak to the world of your fears and concerns.
00:04:51.660 It's a leak of your insecurities.
00:04:53.440 It's a leak of your hesitancy.
00:04:54.860 If you leak out all the fears, all the concerns, all the worries, that's what you attract.
00:05:01.540 If you constantly leak it.
00:05:02.520 This is not about not being vulnerable.
00:05:05.960 Not at all.
00:05:06.660 I'm talking about everything comes out as a little bit entitled.
00:05:10.140 There's a little bit victim.
00:05:11.120 There's a little bit, wow, you don't understand.
00:05:12.720 But my life and the way I was raised and all of that also attracts the life.
00:05:16.680 So for you, if you're watching this here and you maybe relate to her, because I think
00:05:21.540 at some point everybody does, you've got to kind of grab a paper and pen and write down
00:05:25.960 how you view the world and every aspect of life.
00:05:28.520 You have to write it with marriage, finance, money, business, health, exercise, politics,
00:05:33.080 everything.
00:05:33.980 Figure out exactly how you view the world.
00:05:36.280 And then ask yourself, is this producing the life that I want?
00:05:39.440 And then start scratching some of them off.
00:05:41.480 Scratch them off.
00:05:42.420 And then go find people where you want their life and ask them, how do you view the world?
00:05:46.640 And start buying some of them.
00:05:48.280 And put it in here.
00:05:48.980 And then let it come out and then see what happens to your life.
00:05:52.160 But if you don't change the lens, life ain't going to get better.
00:05:54.780 So starting today, my challenge to you, do that one exercise.
00:05:58.260 And then after that, put on the right lens and see what happens to the rest of your life.
00:06:02.220 Thanks everybody for listening.
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00:06:23.720 With that being said, have a great day today.
00:06:25.520 Take care everybody.
00:06:26.280 Bye-bye.