Episode 451： Why Only A Few Succeed
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Summary
Your day, your week, your month, your year, your life, your career is a reflection of the lens you put on this morning when you woke up. And I'm not talking about glasses, I'm talking about a lens.
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What if I told you your day, your week, your month, your year, your life, your career
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is a reflection of the lens you put on this morning when you woke up?
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Last week at a conversation with one of my employees, I brought her in.
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It was a goal-setting type of a situation that her and I were having.
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And I said, why are you not giving your all to be in your best?
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And going back and forth, all of a sudden, she breaks and she sits there and she says,
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you know what, I got to tell you this story that's really stuck with me all these years.
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She says, years ago, I had a lady that was my mentor.
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She had the house, the cars, the money, the records, the accolades, the books, all of it.
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She was amazing at what she did, except while I was by her deathbed, she started opening up
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to me and she told me, listen, my husband left me.
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Whenever it comes down to you, given everything you got to your career and your goals and
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dreams, step back a little bit because it could come at a cost of your husband, your
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And so she says, Pat, why would I give everything I got?
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They don't get to take the cars, the money, the houses.
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There's millions of people that hesitate of giving their best because of the lens they
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Let's just say you're thinking about getting married.
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I said, I take you, and we do a focus group, a market research together with you.
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I take you into a room with 10 couples that at one point were married to each other and
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they made millions because they went for their careers and they decided to get married
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When you walk into the room, you look at these 10 couples, then I ask the 10 couples
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And this five that stands up, their marriage didn't work out.
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They have okay relationships with their kids and they lost it all with their careers and
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And then two at the end, lived an incredible life.
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But they ended up having a great life because of the lens they put on.
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I said, if you walk into that room and you've got these 10 couples to choose from and you're
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thinking about marriage and you walk out saying, oh my gosh, did you notice half of
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them got a divorce and the marriage didn't work out and they can't stand it?
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Did you notice how ticked off he was when he talked about her?
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And that one couple, oh, I never want to do that.
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I don't ever want to give my best to career marriage.
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That's a reflection of the lens you look at the world from.
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But if you walked in and you said, oh my goodness, did you see the two people, the life they
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What if I was able to build somebody, a family like that?
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What if I was able to have a marriage like that?
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Whatever you look at when you leave dictates how you view the world.
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By the way, the lens isn't just marriage and money.
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Spiritual, health, finance, relationship, friendship, politics, everything has to do
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So now you may ask the question, well, Pat, how do I change that lens?
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Whether it's your family, friends, shows, books, audio, coworkers, peers, what you let
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Like you have to, when somebody's feeding you something, you have to say, I'm not accepting
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I don't buy into this concept or else it's going to go in.
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It's a leak to the world of your fears and concerns.
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If you leak out all the fears, all the concerns, all the worries, that's what you attract.
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I'm talking about everything comes out as a little bit entitled.
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There's a little bit, wow, you don't understand.
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But my life and the way I was raised and all of that also attracts the life.
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So for you, if you're watching this here and you maybe relate to her, because I think
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at some point everybody does, you've got to kind of grab a paper and pen and write down
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how you view the world and every aspect of life.
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You have to write it with marriage, finance, money, business, health, exercise, politics,
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And then ask yourself, is this producing the life that I want?
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And then go find people where you want their life and ask them, how do you view the world?
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And then let it come out and then see what happens to your life.
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But if you don't change the lens, life ain't going to get better.
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So starting today, my challenge to you, do that one exercise.
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And then after that, put on the right lens and see what happens to the rest of your life.
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