Valuetainment - Episode 501： The Danger Of Using Weak Words

00:00:00.000 You ever seen somebody go from a very dark place, I mean a very, very dark place, they're

00:00:26.000 addicts, drug, alcohol, alcoholic, DUI after DUI after DUI and DWI and not good friends,

00:00:33.380 not in a good place, boom, 3, 6, 12 months later, 24 months later, 3, 5 years later, they're

00:00:38.120 in an incredible place, fully changed, a whole different human being.

00:00:41.520 You don't even recognize them.

00:00:42.780 You watch them, you see their eyes, you see the way they walk, talk, everything they do

00:00:46.720 is so impressive.

00:00:47.780 What caused this?

00:00:48.780 By the way, let me give you the flip side, you ever seen somebody that's doing great,

00:00:52.420 they're doing great things, contributing, good family life, they're in a good place,

00:00:55.860 good surrounding, making the right decision, 3, 6, 12 months later, you don't recognize

00:00:59.860 them, they're in a dark place.

00:01:00.960 What happened to them?

00:01:02.540 Why are they not growing the way they were growing before?

00:01:05.700 This person, same body, same spirit, everything's the same, how is it so different of an attitude

00:01:13.000 and the results they're getting?

00:01:14.640 What causes somebody to make drastic change?

00:01:16.900 You ready?

00:01:17.820 Very simple for me.

00:01:19.820 Words, language.

00:01:21.620 Today I'm on a conference call with my guys and one of my guys asked a question, he says,

00:01:25.180 Pat, what do you think about burning out?

00:01:28.660 What do you do when you're working and your people are burning out and just, it's burn

00:01:31.860 out and burn out this and burn out that.

00:01:33.280 I said, you know what, first of all, I don't use that phrase, I said, how long have you

00:01:36.420 been working with me?

00:01:37.420 A long time.

00:01:38.420 When's the last time you saw me burn out?

00:01:39.420 I've never seen you burn out.

00:01:40.420 I said, I'm not a robot, I'm not a machine.

00:01:41.420 I said, you know how I slept last night?

00:01:42.420 I said, how'd you sleep last night?

00:01:43.420 I said, I don't even know how I slept last night.

00:01:45.420 I pulled my head down, I was gone.

00:01:48.800 I woke up, I don't even know what I dreamt about, I had slept so good, it's like, a thousand

00:01:53.580 pounds on the bed going down because I was gone, I slept so good.

00:01:57.920 I'm not telling you I don't rest, I'm not telling you I don't rest, but I said, I don't

00:02:01.800 burn out.

00:02:02.800 Why don't you burn out?

00:02:03.800 Okay, let's talk about that.

00:02:06.480 Everything in life is about language, everything.

00:02:09.800 There's a word I don't use, I don't use the phrase, I was saying this on a conference,

00:02:13.240 I don't use the phrase, I'm, you see the T word, it's one of the most dangerous

00:02:16.840 words in the world, I don't use the T word, I don't like to use the T word, and I don't

00:02:20.880 like people using the T word around me, very comfortable, you said, you know, you use whatever

00:02:26.240 words you want to use around me, fine, yeah, some of the stuff I don't like, fine, I was

00:02:30.500 in the military, we curse professionally, we curse for a living, is what we did in the military,

00:02:36.040 and that stuck with me in works I've done, everything else I've done, not telling you

00:02:38.920 I walk on water here, but I can't stand the T word, why not?

00:02:44.220 Find yourself with five people around you, let them keep telling me how T they are, oh

00:02:47.460 my gosh, I'm so tired, oh my gosh, I'm tired, at three o'clock, I'm so tired, I need a nap,

00:02:53.400 I'm so tired, oh my gosh, you're driving me nuts, you're driving me nuts with this T word,

00:03:00.040 you say it, you're right, I don't want to say it, I don't want to say the T word, just like

00:03:05.700 I don't want to say a lot of words, other words, my dad was in town, I went home, the TV

00:03:09.480 was on, the news was on, I can't even stand watching the news right now, I like the news,

00:03:14.340 I enjoy seeing what's going on, I want to be educated and aware of what's going on with

00:03:19.620 the economy and the market today, but I read today, I don't watch today, it's so divisive

00:03:24.900 today, it's so manipulative today, it's so, everything's about dividing today, you know

00:03:31.380 when you run a Dana White, a Dana White pits his guys against each other, for what?

00:03:37.600 Exposure, competition, bigger payday, people make more money, right?

00:03:40.940 Okay, ESPN, you know, Cleveland, Lakers, Bulls, all these guys, why?

00:03:47.000 Because it's results, competition, it's great.

00:03:49.560 There's nothing wrong with competition in sports, there's nothing wrong with competition in business,

00:03:54.120 there's nothing wrong with competition in those types of areas, there's a lot of problems

00:03:57.640 of competition in politics, you know why?

00:04:00.740 Because it's mindsets being injected, it's manipulation being injected, and many people

00:04:05.400 are buying it.

00:04:06.480 Long time ago, I refused to buy a lot of different mindsets being imposed to me, both from my

00:04:11.000 mom's side and my dad's side, and people on my dad's side, I would say, you know how

00:04:14.700 women are, they're all the same, they're all the same, they're all the same, you know 1.00

00:04:19.100 how they're, I said, stop telling me, I don't want to hear that, why not?

00:04:24.920 I don't want to hear that, I said, because one day I want to get married and have a family,

00:04:28.940 I don't want to believe that, don't say it around me, why are you getting so upset?

00:04:32.820 Because I don't want to hear that, I don't want to hear it, not around me, I don't want

00:04:37.340 to hear it, on the other side.

00:04:39.000 Let me tell you how these types of people are, stop telling me how rich people are, I

00:04:43.960 judge everybody based on how they are, I don't judge them by their wealth, I know poor

00:04:49.140 people who treat me royally, and I know poor people that treat me like shit, I know

00:04:54.840 rich people that treat me with respect, and I know rich people that don't, dollar sign

00:04:58.760 never made a difference, it's the character of the individual, stop putting that stuff

00:05:02.300 on my mind, I don't want to hear it, I was 21 years old saying these things, I was in

00:05:07.860 the army, couple of guys telling me you'll never be rich, I don't want to hear it, say

00:05:12.600 to somebody else, I worked at Bally's, a guy named Jose was one of my boss, why are you

00:05:18.020 reading all these books, I can tell you exactly what book I was reading at that time, what author

00:05:22.500 I was reading, I was 21 years old, you're wasting time reading these books, you're never

00:05:27.000 going to be a millionaire, I said, you can say it to yourself, don't ever say that to

00:05:29.760 me again, I stopped those thoughts, I don't want it to enter this mind, I don't, I don't

00:05:36.620 want to do it, you remember the scene, my pursuit of happiness, you know that famous scene, I

00:05:41.100 interviewed a real guy, Chris Gardner, I introduced him at an event, back in 07, 08, there's a scene

00:05:46.780 where he says, don't let anybody change your mind, not including myself, your father, I

00:05:53.000 don't want to do that, the other day, as a father I made a mistake next to my son, talking

00:05:57.940 to this couple, and we're talking about a third baby, they're considering a third baby, my

00:06:02.480 son is next to me, I said, kids are so annoying sometimes, I said it in front of them, my son

00:06:10.540 went under the table, he wouldn't come up for 20 minutes, my heart, my soul was crushed,

00:06:17.960 I didn't like that, all day I thought about it, I went home, I went to my son, I said, we're

00:06:25.140 leaving, my wife's like, is he in trouble, I said, he's not in trouble, daddy's in trouble,

00:06:29.080 I said, we're leaving right now, we're leaving, he says, where are we going, I said, I got

00:06:33.320 to tell you something, he says, is everything good, I said, believe me, everything's good,

00:06:36.200 but we got to go, I took him in the car, we drove, I pulled over, I said, I want you

00:06:43.120 to look at me, I said, this is a kid with a lot of pride, very proud kid, and I love this

00:06:47.420 kid, very special kid, I said to him, I said, you know, I said something today, and I noticed

00:06:52.220 you didn't like it, I said, yes, I said, I want you to know something, he says, what's

00:06:57.620 that, I need you to look at me in my eyes, he says, look at me in my eyes, I said, you know

00:07:02.160 what was the greatest day of my life, what, the day you were born, greatest day of my

00:07:08.140 life, obviously you have two other siblings, those were also incredible days for me, but

00:07:12.860 up until that point, the greatest day of my life was when you were born, I said, I took

00:07:18.120 you, you stayed at the hospital, you had jaundice, we'd come in, we'd watch the light, your skin

00:07:22.680 was yellow, when you came home after five nights, I put you on my lap, we watched the

00:07:27.400 Super Bowl, that's when you came home, you were born February 1st of 2012, I was the

00:07:32.140 happiest man alive, because I named my son, Patrick Gabriel Bed David, Patrick is my

00:07:37.600 name, Gabriel is your grandfather's name, two people, that's going to inject the spirit

00:07:42.020 into you, and Bed David is the house of David, Beta, a Syrian last name, Bed David, I said,

00:07:48.580 you fulfilled me because God gave me the greatest gift ever, was my first son, let me tell you,

00:07:55.260 I've watched you since the day you were born, you've always been very independent, you've

00:07:59.580 always demanded respect, and what I said today was not a responsible statement by your dad,

00:08:04.640 I want you to tell me, I want to explain to you what I mean by this, so you understand

00:08:07.240 this part, he says, what's that, I said, here's what I mean by annoying, I said, sometimes is

00:08:11.700 your daddy annoying, yes, I said, do I sometimes push you too hard, yes, do I sometimes challenge

00:08:16.800 you, yes, do we have a lot of fun together, yes, do you like to wrestle with me, yes, do I,

00:08:20.900 when I come, do you like to jump on my back, yes, I said, do you know I love you, yes,

00:08:24.260 yes, do you know I love you a lot, absolutely, I said, great, but I sometimes know you, no,

00:08:29.380 yeah, and sometimes you guys do as well, I didn't mean it in a way for you to not know

00:08:33.660 that I don't love you, you need to understand that part, I wanted to give you my interpretation

00:08:37.980 of the word annoying, you need to know, you being born changed my life, do you understand

00:08:43.640 me, yes, daddy loves you, great, I took him home, you know why I did that, I don't want

00:08:48.400 that to linger, because words have so much weight behind them, I don't want that to

00:08:52.800 linger, and we went home, we had a great time, we came back out, there are certain words I

00:08:58.060 refuse to accept, I made a video this week, people got pissed off, posted on Instagram,

00:09:03.460 three, four thousand comments within the first couple hours, posted on Facebook, a bunch of

00:09:07.300 different comments, here's my thoughts about this, I can't believe you said this, why, I

00:09:11.920 don't like another person imposing their fears, insecurities, and victimhood on me, I'm Armenian,

00:09:19.980 I'm Assyrian, every year we have the Armenian and the Assyrian genocide, one and a half million

00:09:25.500 Armenians, 500,000 Assyrians, I am Armenian and I'm Assyrian, these are events that took

00:09:31.400 place over 100 years ago, with young Turks, on what they did, what the Turkish empire did

00:09:37.360 to Armenians, one and a half million people, and there are words that I see, my community

00:09:43.220 use, where they say victims, I can't listen to that word, because I don't see myself as

00:09:48.160 a victim, I don't, it's too powerful of a word, I don't see myself as that, so I'm not

00:09:54.440 going to say, well, we're victims, I'm sorry, I'm not a victim, I don't buy that, so why am

00:09:59.720 I saying this to you, look, I've seen people change from good to bad, I've seen people change

00:10:04.640 from good to bad, to dark places, well, I don't even recognize them, I don't even know

00:10:08.880 what happened to this individual, and I've seen people go from dark places, to bad, to

00:10:13.780 good, to great, the change from good to bad, and the change from bad to good, is both caused

00:10:20.000 by words, be very careful what words you use, you choose whatever words, I'm just telling

00:10:24.620 you some of mine, the T word happens to be one of them, I don't like to use it, I talk

00:10:29.620 about it openly with other people and I'll use it, obviously for the example, I'm not giving

00:10:33.300 the whole word to you, but you know what the T word is, I'm tired, I'm tired, no, not going

00:10:38.560 to use it, make a list of certain words that you use, that don't serve you well, what are

00:10:43.120 those words, your kids are listening to you, your siblings are listening to you, your peers

00:10:47.000 are listening to you, the people who work with you are listening to you, are those effective

00:10:50.260 words, no, stop using them, add them to a list, say, moving forward, I don't want to use

00:10:54.500 these words, you use them once, be aware, not going to use it again, then, what words do

00:10:58.920 you want to add to your repertoire, what words do you want to add to your dictionary, start

00:11:02.660 using those words, and people around you, when they freely throw words around, stop

00:11:07.280 them, stop them, don't let them use it around you, because a form of unites, not saying anything

00:11:11.980 means you're accepting those words, you don't have to accept those words, you can say, Bobby,

00:11:15.760 I don't agree with that mindset, you can believe it, totally fine, it's America, you have the

00:11:19.760 right to believe that, I'm just, I'm not buying that, so it's going to stop right here, you

00:11:23.240 can buy that, I refuse to buy that, and then eventually, people around you are going to

00:11:28.000 be like, what is wrong with you, you sound a little weird, no, no, no, I'm just being protective

00:11:31.660 of my spirit, because however I feel, my family's going to feel, and I don't want them to have

00:11:35.600 that kind of spirit in my household, you get to decide that, so, my challenge to you, make

00:11:40.200 a list of the words, and those that don't produce results, replace them with some good

00:11:43.760 ones, and then go keep talking about it, over, and over, and over again, and watch yourself

00:11:49.420 go from wherever you are right now, to incredible places.

00:11:52.360 Thanks everybody for listening, and by the way, if you haven't already subscribed to

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00:12:01.120 and if you have any questions for me that you may have, you can always find me on Snapchat,

00:12:05.120 Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube, just search my name, Patrick David, and I actually do respond

00:12:10.620 back when you snap me, or send me a message on Instagram. With that being said, have a great day

00:12:15.300 today, take care everybody, bye-bye.

Valuetainment - July 28, 2020

Episode 501： The Danger Of Using Weak Words

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