Valuetainment - ＂Era Of Participation Trophies Is OVER!＂ - FAFO Parenting Takes OVER As Parents STOP Coddling Kids

00:00:00.000 goodbye gentle parenting hello f around and find out this is a wall street journal story

00:00:06.680 this does not offend me i have four children so yes i want to hear your thoughts on this

00:00:10.360 right this is an actual story that just came out folks it's called goodbye gentle parenting

00:00:16.500 hello f around and find out parents are back they're making a comeback yeah parents are

00:00:21.360 ditching the softer approach to child rearing that has dominated the culture and taking a harder line

00:00:27.780 uh out feral there what is it feral what is it what does that mean out feral they're feral

00:00:33.260 anyways let me read this story and then scott i'm coming to you first okay because i i want to know

00:00:37.980 how you parent your kids soft you're like baby it's okay everything's gonna be okay all right

00:00:43.420 carla dylan a 35 year old mother of two outside richmond virginia embraced a fafo f around and

00:00:52.320 find out parenting style throwing her 13 year old son against the wall and taking a baseball bat i'm

00:00:57.520 just kidding oh god damn get it girl go for it no no throwing her 13 year old son in a pond after 0.99

00:01:04.680 he sprayed her with a water gun stating some of the best lessons in life are the hard ones she rejected

00:01:10.500 gentle parenting saying my kids will walk all over me if i do that and noted maybe our kids wouldn't

00:01:15.680 like that but not to be rude my kid is tougher than yours

00:01:19.560 fafo prioritizes consequences over gentle method which crit critics blame for gen z's workplace and

00:01:28.720 mental health struggles john wellington a 46 year old stand-up comedian and fafo father of five from

00:01:34.720 somerville south carolina believes hardline parenting is necessary stating the era of participation trophy

00:01:40.060 is over and it caused us to get a little bit soft he required his high school daughter to attend color

00:01:45.780 guard practice despite her dislike saying in the real world when you commit to a loan or car payment

00:01:51.140 or house payment or even a marriage you have to finish that thing until it's over with scott thoughts

00:01:56.640 on this uh first of all i have four uh 16 11 9 and 7 all boys if you do not take this attitude in my

00:02:04.140 household they will immediately subdue you and be in charge of everything they'll subdue i mean they can run

00:02:11.020 everything they're the captain now yeah and you have to teach them that actions have consequences

00:02:15.660 you have to teach them that the world owes you nothing you have to teach them that schedules and

00:02:21.060 structure are good are a good thing and you have to tell them that you love them but telling people

00:02:27.260 that you love them means also telling them the truth which means sometimes stop being an idiot

00:02:31.200 you have i mean these are the things you have to do and if you you know if you leave them to their

00:02:37.340 own devices and don't give them that leadership and guidance recipe for it is that all it took was

00:02:42.740 trump winning for parents to realize all it took was all it took was daddy coming back to teach us

00:02:49.360 the parenting lessons honestly there there is i read this the other day i couldn't get enough of it

00:02:54.360 because i know people who take the other approach and i look maybe when you have one you can get away

00:02:59.940 when you have four it's a that's a whole war hey scott jennings you're outnumbered hey scott

00:03:05.080 uh you ever hit your kids no would you ever would i i'm saying do you ever almost almost pow pow

00:03:13.240 nothing nah so not necessary if you show the proper adult leadership it's unnecessary never hit one of

00:03:19.780 your kids you're not gonna get in trouble here well you're saying hit like beating like spanking i'm

00:03:24.460 saying that there's levels this is good this is actually a very good question i want to know what's

00:03:27.520 your approach my my approach is is that we're the adults you're the children so i'm not here to

00:03:32.960 negotiate i'm not here to debate i'm here to tell you how it's going to be and that if you don't

00:03:39.980 accept that actions have consequences you're going to learn this later in life i mean i tell them this

00:03:45.240 all the time decision making is vital and actions have consequences and so i i just i never try to let

00:03:52.420 situations spiral to the point where everybody is angry and on the brink of an emotional reaction

00:03:58.280 you just you just have to have a structure to your decision what happens if you had a boss that

00:04:03.700 you respected but he's also a big guy he might have also maybe became mr olympia and he threatens

00:04:08.700 you if you step out of line you might get a pow pow boy asking for a friend vinnie how many times a

00:04:15.140 week does adam get pop out adam got pop out last night but let me tell you guys what happened this

00:04:20.400 weekend oh my god guys this was uncomfortable you know the ice cream spot we go to i'm not going to

00:04:24.740 say the name we know which one i'm talking about my daughter loves this ice cream spot and you just 0.99

00:04:29.280 have to watch her after she gets the rainbow she dances i've never seen anybody happier than when

00:04:34.940 they get this rainbow ice cream anyways we're in line and it's me senna dylan and brooklyn and there's

00:04:41.740 this mother by herself with four kids and she's trying to tell her son you're not going to get ice

00:04:46.740 cream because of what you did earlier the son is probably 13 years old he's crying and he goes like

00:04:53.380 this to her because i can't believe you're doing this i can't believe you're doing this i told you

00:05:00.260 don't do it earlier you're such a dumbass mom oh no you're such a dumbass and all of a sudden i'm 0.98

00:05:07.500 like oh my god my blood pressure yeah yeah yeah and then senna looks at me and then dylan looks at

00:05:13.160 me i said go ahead and try that on me yeah exactly they try to approach you what happens go go for it

00:05:18.420 she's like i cannot believe how he's speaking to her mom that's not the first time he's done that no

00:05:22.940 that's not that's the thing he knows he can do it he knows he can do it there are no consequences so i

00:05:26.920 look at the mom i'm like let me ask you a question does your son play sports he does he's so wonderful

00:05:32.960 and i'm trying to like see if she's because then i look at her hand first thing i look at his hand

00:05:39.880 to see if she's got a ring okay i look at her hand i'm like she's married

00:05:46.540 who the hell gives him the permission to talk to you like this i understand if there's not a

00:05:54.700 father figure in the picture to be there to teach the discipline what makes him think he can talk like

00:06:00.680 this to you great point but then at that point the way she said it they're such great kids

00:06:05.540 your son calling you dumbass in public you know i heard it that's a great kid 0.98

00:06:13.980 that is a that is a big problem of parents wanting to be friends with their kids i'm going to vegas

00:06:24.600 this week because of our annual conference that we got and then we're going to go pay a quick visit

00:06:28.320 to la for something that we'll be doing and we'll come back to town we'll be out of town for a week

00:06:32.720 and you know you're putting together the message on what message you want to give to these 10 000

00:06:40.200 guys at mgm grand arena okay and i'm with tom was it saturday night or saturday night right

00:06:45.560 to get saturday tom what time did we finish saturday night at the house uh you me and our very good

00:06:50.480 buddy tigran didn't finish till 12 30 yeah so we're done and you know what it is vinnie we're going

00:06:56.340 through all these pictures all these pictures that i went back and found okay all of these pictures

00:07:01.760 okay and and you know the best one is here tom the very respectful sentimental tom side

00:07:06.580 tom's got that side right but anyways we're going through all these pictures don't judge maybe i was

00:07:11.200 upset and you know what it is it's it's thinking about messaging that sometimes when you're trying

00:07:17.940 to help develop somebody god didn't put that person in your life at the time to try to be your

00:07:22.420 best friend that person's in your life to lead you at this phase so god willing one day you guys can

00:07:26.780 become friends in the future and i can take a minute a lot of parents guy sends me a question

00:07:31.560 on minek by the way one one thought for you guys with minek f y i okay vinnie currently where we

00:07:40.260 broke the record for the most completed minek in a month he's at 561 but guess what i know guys

00:07:45.940 guess what lindy lee is right behind him at 555 guys please don't love them have already broken my

00:07:53.360 record don't let her be if you want vinnie to win minek tim let's go you want lindy don't even mention

00:07:57.940 her don't even mention her the future is female guys let's go for it somebody somebody sends me 1.00

00:08:04.060 about parenting and we're going back and forth on parenting i'm like why are you apologizing about

00:08:09.540 you know challenging and pushing and raising strong kids being apologetic trying to be too

00:08:14.360 you know friend too early when the kids need a leader in their lives i think it's an issue anyways

00:08:18.340 great take here um tom did you have any thoughts on this on this one or because you're you're no i i

00:08:24.320 agree with it i mean you know you you spend your life trying to be your kid's friend and protect

00:08:29.040 them from everything you're preparing them for nothing that's not the way the real world works

00:08:34.800 not that the way this works that's not the way consequences work and scott said a couple things

00:08:39.440 i completely echo because i look at it you want to protect them from critical consequences but the

00:08:46.800 little consequences that come along are important life lessons my two girls were kind of you know i don't

00:08:53.040 know whether it was daring each other or being kind of ornery with each other one time with this

00:08:57.960 mexican restaurant and there was a sriracha pepper and and one said to the other well if this happens

00:09:04.620 you have to eat it this happens you have to eat it now some parents would be like oh my gosh that's a

00:09:09.760 sriracha pepper don't do it i just sat there and i said i'm going to watch this and sure enough

00:09:15.160 one of them tricked the other chomped in oh no to the sriracha pepper and she thought she had just

00:09:21.720 consume lava and so she's like oh my gosh oh my gosh i said yeah that didn't work out did it she 0.94

00:09:26.460 starts to cry a little bit i said see see and i just let it go and there's a million lessons you

00:09:32.680 have to go that way i let her go for about three minutes and i told her guys can you please milk

00:09:36.920 and bread will take it over tell him what a terrible but you know what these are torturing son of a gun

00:09:42.480 these are simple things but the other thing is like what you brought up you have to finish you

00:09:48.180 committed to be on drill team you'll finish drill team for the benefit of the other people you said

00:09:52.720 you were going to support you may not like it but you don't get to punch out every moment of life

00:09:56.820 are going to now go take your example you should get jalapeno and those hot hot chips you know the

00:10:01.560 hot chips that we're talking about that people that's a tough one chip challenge oh i'm on team

00:10:08.460 tom on this one if it's hot i want to go to terrorists i want to go to terrorists i just say one 0.67

00:10:12.920 thing keep it short i think parents you should hit your kids now don't beat them says the guy that

00:10:17.800 doesn't have kids yes well listen i also had a father who beat the shit out of me so look at

00:10:22.460 how i'm doing okay now yeah i didn't have a nanny i had a cut man the i think gen i think gen z these

00:10:28.280 days and uh the the generation below that are very soft you know they say that the hard times

00:10:33.740 create weak men weak men create soft times all that fun stuff i think there's a there's a generation

00:10:38.620 of kids that have never been punched in the face and they need to and i'm not encouraging everyone

00:10:43.040 to punch in the face but i think there's a lot of people that can toughen up and deal

00:10:47.700 with what's on there because the the real world is not nice and cozy and your parents won't be with

00:10:52.140 you there at work if you could take it as a teenager if you take it as a kid you'll be a tougher adult

00:10:56.260 and i think the future will look bright if you have some trauma in your life yo and that's a great

00:11:01.040 transition rob can you pull up the amazon adam's latest book 10 rules for parenting by adam sosnick

00:11:06.440 is just coming out next week folks it's going to take you hours to find it on amazon but you'll

00:11:12.100 eventually find it and if you need me to come beat your kids um okay no i mean all right let's go to

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Valuetainment - July 30, 2025

＂Era Of Participation Trophies Is OVER!＂ - FAFO Parenting Takes OVER As Parents STOP Coddling Kids

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