＂Era Of Participation Trophies Is OVER!＂ - FAFO Parenting Takes OVER As Parents STOP Coddling Kids
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Summary
Parents are ditching the softer approach to child rearing that has dominated the culture and taking a harder line. Parents are taking a hard line in disciplining their kids and disciplining them in a way that critics blame for their workplace and mental health struggles.
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goodbye gentle parenting hello f around and find out this is a wall street journal story
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this does not offend me i have four children so yes i want to hear your thoughts on this
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right this is an actual story that just came out folks it's called goodbye gentle parenting
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hello f around and find out parents are back they're making a comeback yeah parents are
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ditching the softer approach to child rearing that has dominated the culture and taking a harder line
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uh out feral there what is it feral what is it what does that mean out feral they're feral
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anyways let me read this story and then scott i'm coming to you first okay because i i want to know
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how you parent your kids soft you're like baby it's okay everything's gonna be okay all right
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carla dylan a 35 year old mother of two outside richmond virginia embraced a fafo f around and
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find out parenting style throwing her 13 year old son against the wall and taking a baseball bat i'm
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just kidding oh god damn get it girl go for it no no throwing her 13 year old son in a pond after
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he sprayed her with a water gun stating some of the best lessons in life are the hard ones she rejected
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gentle parenting saying my kids will walk all over me if i do that and noted maybe our kids wouldn't
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like that but not to be rude my kid is tougher than yours
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fafo prioritizes consequences over gentle method which crit critics blame for gen z's workplace and
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mental health struggles john wellington a 46 year old stand-up comedian and fafo father of five from
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somerville south carolina believes hardline parenting is necessary stating the era of participation trophy
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is over and it caused us to get a little bit soft he required his high school daughter to attend color
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guard practice despite her dislike saying in the real world when you commit to a loan or car payment
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or house payment or even a marriage you have to finish that thing until it's over with scott thoughts
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on this uh first of all i have four uh 16 11 9 and 7 all boys if you do not take this attitude in my
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household they will immediately subdue you and be in charge of everything they'll subdue i mean they can run
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everything they're the captain now yeah and you have to teach them that actions have consequences
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you have to teach them that the world owes you nothing you have to teach them that schedules and
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structure are good are a good thing and you have to tell them that you love them but telling people
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that you love them means also telling them the truth which means sometimes stop being an idiot
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you have i mean these are the things you have to do and if you you know if you leave them to their
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own devices and don't give them that leadership and guidance recipe for it is that all it took was
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trump winning for parents to realize all it took was all it took was daddy coming back to teach us
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the parenting lessons honestly there there is i read this the other day i couldn't get enough of it
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because i know people who take the other approach and i look maybe when you have one you can get away
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when you have four it's a that's a whole war hey scott jennings you're outnumbered hey scott
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uh you ever hit your kids no would you ever would i i'm saying do you ever almost almost pow pow
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nothing nah so not necessary if you show the proper adult leadership it's unnecessary never hit one of
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your kids you're not gonna get in trouble here well you're saying hit like beating like spanking i'm
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saying that there's levels this is good this is actually a very good question i want to know what's
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your approach my my approach is is that we're the adults you're the children so i'm not here to
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negotiate i'm not here to debate i'm here to tell you how it's going to be and that if you don't
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accept that actions have consequences you're going to learn this later in life i mean i tell them this
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all the time decision making is vital and actions have consequences and so i i just i never try to let
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situations spiral to the point where everybody is angry and on the brink of an emotional reaction
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you just you just have to have a structure to your decision what happens if you had a boss that
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you respected but he's also a big guy he might have also maybe became mr olympia and he threatens
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you if you step out of line you might get a pow pow boy asking for a friend vinnie how many times a
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week does adam get pop out adam got pop out last night but let me tell you guys what happened this
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weekend oh my god guys this was uncomfortable you know the ice cream spot we go to i'm not going to
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say the name we know which one i'm talking about my daughter loves this ice cream spot and you just
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have to watch her after she gets the rainbow she dances i've never seen anybody happier than when
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they get this rainbow ice cream anyways we're in line and it's me senna dylan and brooklyn and there's
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this mother by herself with four kids and she's trying to tell her son you're not going to get ice
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cream because of what you did earlier the son is probably 13 years old he's crying and he goes like
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this to her because i can't believe you're doing this i can't believe you're doing this i told you
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don't do it earlier you're such a dumbass mom oh no you're such a dumbass and all of a sudden i'm
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like oh my god my blood pressure yeah yeah yeah and then senna looks at me and then dylan looks at
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me i said go ahead and try that on me yeah exactly they try to approach you what happens go go for it
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she's like i cannot believe how he's speaking to her mom that's not the first time he's done that no
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that's not that's the thing he knows he can do it he knows he can do it there are no consequences so i
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look at the mom i'm like let me ask you a question does your son play sports he does he's so wonderful
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and i'm trying to like see if she's because then i look at her hand first thing i look at his hand
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to see if she's got a ring okay i look at her hand i'm like she's married
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who the hell gives him the permission to talk to you like this i understand if there's not a
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father figure in the picture to be there to teach the discipline what makes him think he can talk like
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this to you great point but then at that point the way she said it they're such great kids
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your son calling you dumbass in public you know i heard it that's a great kid
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that is a that is a big problem of parents wanting to be friends with their kids i'm going to vegas
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this week because of our annual conference that we got and then we're going to go pay a quick visit
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to la for something that we'll be doing and we'll come back to town we'll be out of town for a week
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and you know you're putting together the message on what message you want to give to these 10 000
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guys at mgm grand arena okay and i'm with tom was it saturday night or saturday night right
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to get saturday tom what time did we finish saturday night at the house uh you me and our very good
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buddy tigran didn't finish till 12 30 yeah so we're done and you know what it is vinnie we're going
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through all these pictures all these pictures that i went back and found okay all of these pictures
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okay and and you know the best one is here tom the very respectful sentimental tom side
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tom's got that side right but anyways we're going through all these pictures don't judge maybe i was
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upset and you know what it is it's it's thinking about messaging that sometimes when you're trying
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to help develop somebody god didn't put that person in your life at the time to try to be your
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best friend that person's in your life to lead you at this phase so god willing one day you guys can
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become friends in the future and i can take a minute a lot of parents guy sends me a question
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on minek by the way one one thought for you guys with minek f y i okay vinnie currently where we
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broke the record for the most completed minek in a month he's at 561 but guess what i know guys
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guess what lindy lee is right behind him at 555 guys please don't love them have already broken my
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record don't let her be if you want vinnie to win minek tim let's go you want lindy don't even mention
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her don't even mention her the future is female guys let's go for it somebody somebody sends me
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about parenting and we're going back and forth on parenting i'm like why are you apologizing about
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you know challenging and pushing and raising strong kids being apologetic trying to be too
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you know friend too early when the kids need a leader in their lives i think it's an issue anyways
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great take here um tom did you have any thoughts on this on this one or because you're you're no i i
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agree with it i mean you know you you spend your life trying to be your kid's friend and protect
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them from everything you're preparing them for nothing that's not the way the real world works
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not that the way this works that's not the way consequences work and scott said a couple things
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i completely echo because i look at it you want to protect them from critical consequences but the
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little consequences that come along are important life lessons my two girls were kind of you know i don't
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know whether it was daring each other or being kind of ornery with each other one time with this
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mexican restaurant and there was a sriracha pepper and and one said to the other well if this happens
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you have to eat it this happens you have to eat it now some parents would be like oh my gosh that's a
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sriracha pepper don't do it i just sat there and i said i'm going to watch this and sure enough
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one of them tricked the other chomped in oh no to the sriracha pepper and she thought she had just
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consume lava and so she's like oh my gosh oh my gosh i said yeah that didn't work out did it she
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starts to cry a little bit i said see see and i just let it go and there's a million lessons you
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have to go that way i let her go for about three minutes and i told her guys can you please milk
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and bread will take it over tell him what a terrible but you know what these are torturing son of a gun
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these are simple things but the other thing is like what you brought up you have to finish you
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committed to be on drill team you'll finish drill team for the benefit of the other people you said
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you were going to support you may not like it but you don't get to punch out every moment of life
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are going to now go take your example you should get jalapeno and those hot hot chips you know the
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hot chips that we're talking about that people that's a tough one chip challenge oh i'm on team
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tom on this one if it's hot i want to go to terrorists i want to go to terrorists i just say one
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thing keep it short i think parents you should hit your kids now don't beat them says the guy that
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doesn't have kids yes well listen i also had a father who beat the shit out of me so look at
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how i'm doing okay now yeah i didn't have a nanny i had a cut man the i think gen i think gen z these
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days and uh the the generation below that are very soft you know they say that the hard times
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create weak men weak men create soft times all that fun stuff i think there's a there's a generation
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of kids that have never been punched in the face and they need to and i'm not encouraging everyone
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to punch in the face but i think there's a lot of people that can toughen up and deal
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with what's on there because the the real world is not nice and cozy and your parents won't be with
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you there at work if you could take it as a teenager if you take it as a kid you'll be a tougher adult
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and i think the future will look bright if you have some trauma in your life yo and that's a great
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transition rob can you pull up the amazon adam's latest book 10 rules for parenting by adam sosnick
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is just coming out next week folks it's going to take you hours to find it on amazon but you'll
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eventually find it and if you need me to come beat your kids um okay no i mean all right let's go to
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