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00:00:00.000 So the question is, can someone stop being lazy?

00:00:02.080 There's a part of me that says yes, there's a part of me that says no.

00:00:04.740 You'll find out what that is.

00:00:05.980 There's three things I'm going to reference.

00:00:07.320 One, a book, two stories.

00:00:09.120 Then the third one's going to be a movie I just watched.

00:00:11.220 I was so pissed off at the end.

00:00:13.480 Mario wanted to go watch this movie with me.

00:00:15.420 I agreed.

00:00:16.180 We went.

00:00:16.740 Acting was phenomenal.

00:00:18.760 The whale.

00:00:19.700 Brandon Fraser crushed it.

00:00:21.160 But I hated the movie.

00:00:22.840 Specifically the end.

00:00:24.040 And I'll tell you why.

00:00:25.000 Spoiler alert.

00:00:25.880 Don't watch this video.

00:00:27.360 If you're planning on watching the movie, it's probably going to be a waste of your

00:00:30.520 time because I'm going to tell you exactly what happens at the end.

00:00:32.160 So having said that, let's get right into it.

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00:01:56.260 So I'm at an event last week, San Antonio Houston.

00:01:58.660 I'm giving a speech, and every time I go through these January conventions conferences, there's

00:02:03.740 a group of people that I know when I talk to them, they're going to tell me the same

00:02:07.140 thing every time.

00:02:07.640 So, how was your numbers?

00:02:08.820 How'd you finish off the year?

00:02:09.820 Oh, Pat, if you only knew what I went through in 2022, but 2023 is going to be big, as if

00:02:14.940 2023 is not going to have new sets of problems, right?

00:02:17.880 No, if you only know what I went through in 2022, it was very hard for us.

00:02:21.760 Very.

00:02:22.400 We went through so many difficulties.

00:02:24.260 I'm like, for your straight, your script is the same.

00:02:27.180 It's as if you want to go on stage to justify why you didn't perform.

00:02:30.780 By the way, lazy people like to do that, to justify why their numbers aren't good, because

00:02:35.640 life is so hard.

00:02:37.040 I'm going through really tough times right now, my relationships, with this, with that.

00:02:40.420 No problem.

00:02:40.820 So I get on stage, I have a whole speech mapped out.

00:02:43.040 I'm like, okay, I'm going to change it up.

00:02:44.140 I'm going to open up with a different story.

00:02:45.280 I said, hey, I want you to write down the three biggest problems you faced in 2022.

00:02:50.100 30 seconds.

00:02:51.360 Everybody gets a minute.

00:02:52.140 They're writing it down.

00:02:53.640 I said, now here's a game we're going to play.

00:02:55.440 You got your set of problems.

00:02:57.020 I'm going to give you three.

00:02:58.020 Tell me if you'd like to exchange your three problems for the three problems I'm going to

00:03:00.900 give you.

00:03:01.240 Good?

00:03:01.600 Yeah.

00:03:01.880 Okay, fantastic.

00:03:03.040 I want you to think about you're a 15-year-old boy.

00:03:06.920 Your mother dies at 15 years old. 0.95

00:03:09.300 Okay?

00:03:09.680 You watch her die.

00:03:10.560 I want you to think about you're a 35-year-old man, 36-year-old father, man, husband.

00:03:15.940 You're at a soccer game.

00:03:18.200 Your 15-year-old younger brother, who's a great soccer player, gets hit with a soccer

00:03:23.960 ball in a regular soccer match.

00:03:26.420 He collapses in the middle of the game, goes to the hospital, dies at 15 years old.

00:03:32.420 Younger brother.

00:03:33.780 Then six months later, your father dies from brain cancer.

00:03:37.080 Okay?

00:03:37.900 You have your problems.

00:03:39.280 I got these three problems for you.

00:03:41.300 Would you exchange your three problems with these problems?

00:03:43.420 Nobody raised their hands.

00:03:44.280 I said, the reason why I give you this story is because there's a guy right there, Adam

00:03:48.180 Stand Up.

00:03:49.220 His name is Christian.

00:03:49.940 I said, that's exactly what he went through last year.

00:03:52.180 That's exactly what he went through in his life.

00:03:53.900 The brother and his father, that just happened last 12 to 24 months.

00:03:57.320 I said, he needs the MVP of the entire group here.

00:04:00.280 2,000 people in the room, he ended up becoming the MVP of the entire group.

00:04:03.980 Everybody's like, silence in the room.

00:04:06.280 There's nothing to say.

00:04:07.400 You know why?

00:04:07.900 One of the biggest signs of laziness is we have convinced ourselves our life is so hard

00:04:14.500 and that is our out.

00:04:16.640 And stories like that annoy because I guarantee you, no matter how hard you think you're like

00:04:21.380 you, if you know how my dad was, if you know how my mom was, you don't know what my girlfriend

00:04:26.820 did to me.

00:04:27.360 You don't know what my husband did to me, my wife did to me, my kid.

00:04:30.660 Do you know who just passed?

00:04:31.520 Do you know who this?

00:04:32.080 Do you know who that?

00:04:33.000 I totally get it. 0.97

00:04:33.740 Life sucks sometimes.

00:04:35.000 It's hard to be a father sometimes. 0.99

00:04:37.640 It's hard to be a son.

00:04:38.960 It's hard to be a husband.

00:04:40.300 It's hard to be a woman, a man. 0.58

00:04:42.320 It's hard.

00:04:43.160 It's not supposed to be easy.

00:04:45.660 It's just not.

00:04:46.860 But every time clinging on that idea that your life is so much harder than somebody else's,

00:04:52.600 while somebody with a harder life than you is winning and not making excuses.

00:04:57.020 So number one is that story.

00:04:58.380 Let me go to the second one.

00:04:59.680 Can somebody choose to stop being lazy?

00:05:02.380 I think it's all going to come down to one thing.

00:05:05.340 A book I read a long time ago, I'm going to reference, yeah, I reference as much as I

00:05:09.320 can.

00:05:09.800 I like to reference this book.

00:05:11.240 It's called Power Versus Force.

00:05:12.520 When you're looking at the screen, there are different levels it goes through that gets

00:05:17.360 somebody to be willing to change.

00:05:19.320 So it talks about levels of consciousness.

00:05:21.820 There's a level above 200 where you're becoming a leader, anything below you're not.

00:05:26.360 The lowest level starts with shame.

00:05:28.760 You're ashamed, okay, we all at some point have been shamed.

00:05:32.620 The next one is guilt.

00:05:34.040 Nobody does anything good that feels guilty, okay, for something you did in the past.

00:05:38.260 Then there's apathy, right?

00:05:40.420 Then there's grief, there's fear, there's desire, there's anger, there's pride.

00:05:45.160 If you have any of those, which we all have, you're not going to change.

00:05:49.320 Your pride, your ego, I'm wrong, anger, desire, grief, you don't know, I feel sorry for me.

00:05:54.600 You ain't changing.

00:05:55.860 You are not changing.

00:05:57.020 The first level of change that it talks about in the book is courage.

00:06:00.440 One has to have courage to stop being lazy.

00:06:03.960 Right after courage is neutrality, which means being willing to receive different arguments

00:06:09.380 of people to say, here's what I think you ought to consider doing.

00:06:13.140 So you've got courage, neutrality, then it's willingness.

00:06:16.240 I am willing to improve.

00:06:18.580 Then it's acceptance.

00:06:19.500 I am willing to accept that I've been lazy the last two years and I want to do something

00:06:24.300 about it.

00:06:24.900 Then after acceptance is reason.

00:06:27.360 Let's reason on what I need to do and prove, right?

00:06:29.820 So the part of me that says, yeah, this person can't change.

00:06:32.340 No, that person can't change is the following reason.

00:06:34.640 You know how so many people DM and say, I'd love to work with Elon Musk.

00:06:38.200 I'd love to work with Michael Jordan.

00:06:39.840 Man, I'd love to work.

00:06:40.720 I'd love to be Brady's teammate.

00:06:42.200 I'd love to work with you, Pat.

00:06:43.560 I'd love to be at the office with you, seeing exactly what you're doing.

00:06:46.720 Really?

00:06:47.340 Yeah.

00:06:47.900 Okay.

00:06:48.400 What do you think it's like to work with Jobs?

00:06:51.340 You think Jobs is always sitting there saying, imagine if one day Apple builds a phone and

00:06:55.820 you're like, hey, what a visionary.

00:06:58.680 Did you feel that?

00:07:00.120 I felt it.

00:07:01.840 Or do you think it's like, hey, I want you guys to take something, a computer, this big

00:07:07.180 ass computer, and I want you to fit it in this.

00:07:10.600 You got six months. 1.00

00:07:12.440 What a moron. 1.00

00:07:13.460 Who are you to say something like that? 1.00

00:07:14.860 If you're so smart, why don't you do it?

00:07:17.060 You need to do it.

00:07:17.880 You don't do it, you're fired.

00:07:20.280 That's how Steve would be.

00:07:22.620 I don't see him being like that.

00:07:24.220 I see him saying stuff like, but I believe you guys got this, because I just feel it.

00:07:30.260 Let's do yoga together and take some LSD and let's make some smartphones together.

00:07:35.300 No.

00:07:36.560 You may have worked with somebody that's a hard charging person, but you hated it, because

00:07:40.860 they drove you nuts, they expected so much from you, they challenged you, you couldn't

00:07:44.900 stand it.

00:07:45.900 Meaning, maybe you weren't ready for it.

00:07:48.020 So this whole idea about, you know, if I'm around the right people, I would change too.

00:07:52.820 Only if you have the courage to be neutral, to accept, to willing to improve, to reason,

00:07:59.080 yes.

00:07:59.740 If not, your ego gets in the way, your pride gets in the way, you feel sorry for yourself,

00:08:03.500 apathy, grief, shame, guilt, any of that stuff, forget about it.

00:08:06.940 It's not going to happen.

00:08:08.060 And last but not least, the third part, which is the movie, again, spoiler alert, don't stick

00:08:11.260 around if you're going to watch the movie The Whale.

00:08:13.200 I see his speech, he's getting emotional crying, I'm like, man, I'm so glad this guy's back.

00:08:18.200 He had put on weight, everybody forgot about Brandon Fraser, and now he crushes it with

00:08:23.160 the acting that he does.

00:08:24.240 Now, movie story, I don't like the story.

00:08:26.700 I like Brandon Fraser, not the story.

00:08:28.860 So I'm criticizing the story, let me get into it.

00:08:31.400 Should I go watch this movie with Mario?

00:08:32.860 He's like, pal, you got to watch the movie The Whale.

00:08:34.320 Great, let's go watch it.

00:08:35.160 Now, sitting there, it's a story of a man who is married, got a daughter, eight years

00:08:40.380 old, he's married to a woman, got a daughter, eight years old, ends up falling in love with

00:08:44.480 one of his students and leaves wife and daughter to be with this man.

00:08:49.240 This man he ends up falling in love with, they end up being together, ends up committing

00:08:53.180 suicide.

00:08:54.040 He puts on all this weight, he's like 500, 600 pounds.

00:08:56.540 The sister of the man he falls in love with becomes his caretaker.

00:09:00.020 So just kind of following on what's going on here.

00:09:01.540 Anyways, his doctor keeps saying, you're two weeks away from dying, four weeks away from

00:09:05.520 dying because the way you're eating, he keeps eating pizza, all this stuff because he's

00:09:08.300 just done with his life, right?

00:09:10.200 Then all of a sudden, out of nowhere, his daughter who resents him because left him, comes into

00:09:14.800 his life and there's that relationship.

00:09:17.540 But she's bitter, she's angry, she's upset at him.

00:09:20.100 How could you leave me?

00:09:21.260 All this other stuff.

00:09:22.260 He says, but you know what?

00:09:23.760 I have $120,000 that's safe to give to you.

00:09:27.100 He's like, I'm going to give it to you.

00:09:28.040 All you need to do is write.

00:09:29.060 All you need to do is do this.

00:09:30.360 If you come here, I'll help you with your homework.

00:09:31.880 I'll help you with their paper.

00:09:32.780 I'll help you with this.

00:09:33.840 And I'm going to give you this $120,000.

00:09:36.440 And then at the end, there's this scene where the daughter is begging.

00:09:41.020 He says, I don't care about your $120,000.

00:09:44.100 Begging the dad to change, to choose to change and lose the weight because he can so he can

00:09:50.700 see his daughter winning.

00:09:52.840 So he can see his daughter's dreams become a reality.

00:09:55.680 The daughter wants the father to walk her down the aisle one day.

00:10:00.740 You know how the movie ends?

00:10:01.900 The movie ends saying, no, no, but this is the right thing.

00:10:05.680 He dies.

00:10:06.760 Leaves her the money.

00:10:07.900 And the movie ends.

00:10:08.760 And the credit shows up. 1.00

00:10:09.820 I'm sitting like, what a freaking stupid movie. 1.00

00:10:12.520 What kind of a story is this? 1.00

00:10:13.660 You want me to be inspired by this?

00:10:15.220 You know what?

00:10:15.900 When life gets hard, screw it. 0.99

00:10:17.540 Just give up and let your life die. 0.97

00:10:20.520 Your daughter loves you, but it's $120,000. 0.97

00:10:24.620 You know, you're leaving $120,000.

00:10:27.380 No.

00:10:28.200 That movie is a movie that inspires other people to think they can't change and refuse to change.

00:10:33.620 Even though your daughter, who's lived a miserable life without a father figure, they're always

00:10:38.020 in trouble.

00:10:39.240 The dad leaves for another student, a man, and now the dad doesn't want to change.

00:10:43.660 What's the moral of the story?

00:10:45.120 You don't want to change?

00:10:46.820 You don't want your daughter to have a relationship with you? 1.00

00:10:48.980 You don't want to change?

00:10:50.060 See, the whole reason why I'm explaining this story the way I'm giving it to you is because

00:10:53.080 if you're still watching this video at this point, you're feeling the pain of this video.

00:10:58.040 Okay?

00:10:58.480 The only thing that caused this lazy man to change, this guy, up until 18, my dad, the only 0.92

00:11:03.840 thing he would say, you're so lazy, you're so this, you're so that, you're lazy.

00:11:06.900 Eventually, I watched my dad potentially dying on his deathbed when he lost 40 pounds.

00:11:13.460 And I said, this is not going to happen. 0.98

00:11:15.880 I'm going to get my ass to work. 0.99

00:11:17.420 It was so freaking painful visualizing my dad dying, I was not willing to live with it. 0.99

00:11:23.360 Period.

00:11:24.480 I dropped certain habits.

00:11:26.040 I feared success.

00:11:27.260 I feared failure.

00:11:28.380 I feared embarrassment.

00:11:30.200 What if I can't do it?

00:11:31.080 What if I'm not good enough?

00:11:32.060 What if I'm not smart?

00:11:32.820 I've had all this grief, but you don't know.

00:11:35.240 I went through, my parents went through a divorce, but you don't know my life. 1.00

00:11:37.780 All this bullshit. 0.99

00:11:39.260 I read this. 1.00

00:11:39.880 I'm like, done.

00:11:41.120 I'm doing this.

00:11:41.860 I'm changing.

00:11:43.100 Pain eventually got me to say, I'm going in the army, force, putting myself in a situation

00:11:48.640 that I don't have a choice.

00:11:50.060 I have to be up at four o'clock in the morning.

00:11:51.880 I have to work out.

00:11:52.960 I have to run.

00:11:53.840 I have to be in shape.

00:11:54.800 I have to be around all that stuff.

00:11:57.080 A big decision with that.

00:11:58.340 Now, some of them may be watching and say, Pat, I'm 42 years old.

00:12:00.380 What do you want me to do?

00:12:01.500 Have a workout partner and you work out with them at six o'clock where you can't disappoint

00:12:04.820 them.

00:12:05.440 Hire a trainer you're paying them money to get you to get up in the morning.

00:12:08.620 Create a seven o'clock breakfast with potential prospects for you to see.

00:12:12.420 Create opportunities where you are being held accountable in a situation where you have

00:12:17.320 to choose to change or else.

00:12:19.000 Because if you don't change, you can convince everybody life is hard, but eventually you're

00:12:26.560 going to be a certain age and you're going to look at that person in the mirror and you're 1.00

00:12:29.420 going to say you're so full of shit. 1.00

00:12:30.900 That's very painful. 1.00

00:12:32.320 It's very painful.

00:12:33.800 If you're okay with that, go watch the whale.

00:12:35.940 Let that inspire you to not change.

00:12:38.840 Go watch the whale and say, you know what?

00:12:40.300 I'm all about this.

00:12:42.160 Pat's wrong.

00:12:42.860 Some people are this.

00:12:43.780 Some people are that.

00:12:44.600 No problem.

00:12:45.240 That's why I said, I don't know if you're going to choose to change or not.

00:12:48.260 Or if you're watching and saying, you know what?

00:12:49.940 I'm sick of it.

00:12:50.980 Maybe go buy the book Power Versus Force.

00:12:54.320 Maybe go read.

00:12:56.000 Maybe do certain things that's going to put you in a place to say, I better get my act

00:12:59.360 together.

00:13:00.040 Maybe paint a picture for yourself if you don't change what life's going to look like.

00:13:03.280 How painful is that?

00:13:04.160 You're okay with that?

00:13:05.600 Your girl leaving.

00:13:06.760 Your kids now wanting to see you.

00:13:08.480 You being alone by yourself.

00:13:09.880 If you're okay with that, do what you're doing.

00:13:12.580 If you're not, go light it up.

00:13:15.260 So, I'm 50-50 on some that will change and some that won't because 100% of it is on who?

00:13:21.320 It's on you.

00:13:22.600 So, I got a video for you to watch.

00:13:24.560 Okay?

00:13:25.280 The video I want you to watch is a video I did four or five years ago.

00:13:27.540 It's called How to Improve Your Work Ethic.

00:13:28.880 If you've never watched this video, click here to watch the video.

00:13:32.280 Take care, everybody.

00:13:33.040 Bye-bye.

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