Valuetainment - February 07, 2023


How To Stop Being Lazy


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Length

13 minutes

Words per Minute

217.70564

Word Count

2,951

Sentence Count

257

Misogynist Sentences

2

Hate Speech Sentences

3


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 So the question is, can someone stop being lazy?
00:00:02.080 There's a part of me that says yes, there's a part of me that says no.
00:00:04.740 You'll find out what that is.
00:00:05.980 There's three things I'm going to reference.
00:00:07.320 One, a book, two stories.
00:00:09.120 Then the third one's going to be a movie I just watched.
00:00:11.220 I was so pissed off at the end.
00:00:13.480 Mario wanted to go watch this movie with me.
00:00:15.420 I agreed.
00:00:16.180 We went.
00:00:16.740 Acting was phenomenal.
00:00:18.760 The whale.
00:00:19.700 Brandon Fraser crushed it.
00:00:21.160 But I hated the movie.
00:00:22.840 Specifically the end.
00:00:24.040 And I'll tell you why.
00:00:25.000 Spoiler alert.
00:00:25.880 Don't watch this video.
00:00:27.360 If you're planning on watching the movie, it's probably going to be a waste of your
00:00:30.520 time because I'm going to tell you exactly what happens at the end.
00:00:32.160 So having said that, let's get right into it.
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00:01:56.260 So I'm at an event last week, San Antonio Houston.
00:01:58.660 I'm giving a speech, and every time I go through these January conventions conferences, there's
00:02:03.740 a group of people that I know when I talk to them, they're going to tell me the same
00:02:07.140 thing every time.
00:02:07.640 So, how was your numbers?
00:02:08.820 How'd you finish off the year?
00:02:09.820 Oh, Pat, if you only knew what I went through in 2022, but 2023 is going to be big, as if
00:02:14.940 2023 is not going to have new sets of problems, right?
00:02:17.880 No, if you only know what I went through in 2022, it was very hard for us.
00:02:21.760 Very.
00:02:22.400 We went through so many difficulties.
00:02:24.260 I'm like, for your straight, your script is the same.
00:02:27.180 It's as if you want to go on stage to justify why you didn't perform.
00:02:30.780 By the way, lazy people like to do that, to justify why their numbers aren't good, because
00:02:35.640 life is so hard.
00:02:37.040 I'm going through really tough times right now, my relationships, with this, with that.
00:02:40.420 No problem.
00:02:40.820 So I get on stage, I have a whole speech mapped out.
00:02:43.040 I'm like, okay, I'm going to change it up.
00:02:44.140 I'm going to open up with a different story.
00:02:45.280 I said, hey, I want you to write down the three biggest problems you faced in 2022.
00:02:50.100 30 seconds.
00:02:51.360 Everybody gets a minute.
00:02:52.140 They're writing it down.
00:02:53.640 I said, now here's a game we're going to play.
00:02:55.440 You got your set of problems.
00:02:57.020 I'm going to give you three.
00:02:58.020 Tell me if you'd like to exchange your three problems for the three problems I'm going to
00:03:00.900 give you.
00:03:01.240 Good?
00:03:01.600 Yeah.
00:03:01.880 Okay, fantastic.
00:03:03.040 I want you to think about you're a 15-year-old boy.
00:03:06.920 Your mother dies at 15 years old.
00:03:09.300 Okay?
00:03:09.680 You watch her die.
00:03:10.560 I want you to think about you're a 35-year-old man, 36-year-old father, man, husband.
00:03:15.940 You're at a soccer game.
00:03:18.200 Your 15-year-old younger brother, who's a great soccer player, gets hit with a soccer
00:03:23.960 ball in a regular soccer match.
00:03:26.420 He collapses in the middle of the game, goes to the hospital, dies at 15 years old.
00:03:32.420 Younger brother.
00:03:33.780 Then six months later, your father dies from brain cancer.
00:03:37.080 Okay?
00:03:37.900 You have your problems.
00:03:39.280 I got these three problems for you.
00:03:41.300 Would you exchange your three problems with these problems?
00:03:43.420 Nobody raised their hands.
00:03:44.280 I said, the reason why I give you this story is because there's a guy right there, Adam
00:03:48.180 Stand Up.
00:03:49.220 His name is Christian.
00:03:49.940 I said, that's exactly what he went through last year.
00:03:52.180 That's exactly what he went through in his life.
00:03:53.900 The brother and his father, that just happened last 12 to 24 months.
00:03:57.320 I said, he needs the MVP of the entire group here.
00:04:00.280 2,000 people in the room, he ended up becoming the MVP of the entire group.
00:04:03.980 Everybody's like, silence in the room.
00:04:06.280 There's nothing to say.
00:04:07.400 You know why?
00:04:07.900 One of the biggest signs of laziness is we have convinced ourselves our life is so hard
00:04:14.500 and that is our out.
00:04:16.640 And stories like that annoy because I guarantee you, no matter how hard you think you're like
00:04:21.380 you, if you know how my dad was, if you know how my mom was, you don't know what my girlfriend
00:04:26.820 did to me.
00:04:27.360 You don't know what my husband did to me, my wife did to me, my kid.
00:04:30.660 Do you know who just passed?
00:04:31.520 Do you know who this?
00:04:32.080 Do you know who that?
00:04:33.000 I totally get it.
00:04:33.740 Life sucks sometimes.
00:04:35.000 It's hard to be a father sometimes.
00:04:37.640 It's hard to be a son.
00:04:38.960 It's hard to be a husband.
00:04:40.300 It's hard to be a woman, a man.
00:04:42.320 It's hard.
00:04:43.160 It's not supposed to be easy.
00:04:45.660 It's just not.
00:04:46.860 But every time clinging on that idea that your life is so much harder than somebody else's,
00:04:52.600 while somebody with a harder life than you is winning and not making excuses.
00:04:57.020 So number one is that story.
00:04:58.380 Let me go to the second one.
00:04:59.680 Can somebody choose to stop being lazy?
00:05:02.380 I think it's all going to come down to one thing.
00:05:05.340 A book I read a long time ago, I'm going to reference, yeah, I reference as much as I
00:05:09.320 can.
00:05:09.800 I like to reference this book.
00:05:11.240 It's called Power Versus Force.
00:05:12.520 When you're looking at the screen, there are different levels it goes through that gets
00:05:17.360 somebody to be willing to change.
00:05:19.320 So it talks about levels of consciousness.
00:05:21.820 There's a level above 200 where you're becoming a leader, anything below you're not.
00:05:26.360 The lowest level starts with shame.
00:05:28.760 You're ashamed, okay, we all at some point have been shamed.
00:05:32.620 The next one is guilt.
00:05:34.040 Nobody does anything good that feels guilty, okay, for something you did in the past.
00:05:38.260 Then there's apathy, right?
00:05:40.420 Then there's grief, there's fear, there's desire, there's anger, there's pride.
00:05:45.160 If you have any of those, which we all have, you're not going to change.
00:05:49.320 Your pride, your ego, I'm wrong, anger, desire, grief, you don't know, I feel sorry for me.
00:05:54.600 You ain't changing.
00:05:55.860 You are not changing.
00:05:57.020 The first level of change that it talks about in the book is courage.
00:06:00.440 One has to have courage to stop being lazy.
00:06:03.960 Right after courage is neutrality, which means being willing to receive different arguments
00:06:09.380 of people to say, here's what I think you ought to consider doing.
00:06:13.140 So you've got courage, neutrality, then it's willingness.
00:06:16.240 I am willing to improve.
00:06:18.580 Then it's acceptance.
00:06:19.500 I am willing to accept that I've been lazy the last two years and I want to do something
00:06:24.300 about it.
00:06:24.900 Then after acceptance is reason.
00:06:27.360 Let's reason on what I need to do and prove, right?
00:06:29.820 So the part of me that says, yeah, this person can't change.
00:06:32.340 No, that person can't change is the following reason.
00:06:34.640 You know how so many people DM and say, I'd love to work with Elon Musk.
00:06:38.200 I'd love to work with Michael Jordan.
00:06:39.840 Man, I'd love to work.
00:06:40.720 I'd love to be Brady's teammate.
00:06:42.200 I'd love to work with you, Pat.
00:06:43.560 I'd love to be at the office with you, seeing exactly what you're doing.
00:06:46.720 Really?
00:06:47.340 Yeah.
00:06:47.900 Okay.
00:06:48.400 What do you think it's like to work with Jobs?
00:06:51.340 You think Jobs is always sitting there saying, imagine if one day Apple builds a phone and
00:06:55.820 you're like, hey, what a visionary.
00:06:58.680 Did you feel that?
00:07:00.120 I felt it.
00:07:01.840 Or do you think it's like, hey, I want you guys to take something, a computer, this big
00:07:07.180 ass computer, and I want you to fit it in this.
00:07:10.600 You got six months.
00:07:12.440 What a moron.
00:07:13.460 Who are you to say something like that?
00:07:14.860 If you're so smart, why don't you do it?
00:07:17.060 You need to do it.
00:07:17.880 You don't do it, you're fired.
00:07:20.280 That's how Steve would be.
00:07:22.620 I don't see him being like that.
00:07:24.220 I see him saying stuff like, but I believe you guys got this, because I just feel it.
00:07:30.260 Let's do yoga together and take some LSD and let's make some smartphones together.
00:07:35.300 No.
00:07:36.560 You may have worked with somebody that's a hard charging person, but you hated it, because
00:07:40.860 they drove you nuts, they expected so much from you, they challenged you, you couldn't
00:07:44.900 stand it.
00:07:45.900 Meaning, maybe you weren't ready for it.
00:07:48.020 So this whole idea about, you know, if I'm around the right people, I would change too.
00:07:52.820 Only if you have the courage to be neutral, to accept, to willing to improve, to reason,
00:07:59.080 yes.
00:07:59.740 If not, your ego gets in the way, your pride gets in the way, you feel sorry for yourself,
00:08:03.500 apathy, grief, shame, guilt, any of that stuff, forget about it.
00:08:06.940 It's not going to happen.
00:08:08.060 And last but not least, the third part, which is the movie, again, spoiler alert, don't stick
00:08:11.260 around if you're going to watch the movie The Whale.
00:08:13.200 I see his speech, he's getting emotional crying, I'm like, man, I'm so glad this guy's back.
00:08:18.200 He had put on weight, everybody forgot about Brandon Fraser, and now he crushes it with
00:08:23.160 the acting that he does.
00:08:24.240 Now, movie story, I don't like the story.
00:08:26.700 I like Brandon Fraser, not the story.
00:08:28.860 So I'm criticizing the story, let me get into it.
00:08:31.400 Should I go watch this movie with Mario?
00:08:32.860 He's like, pal, you got to watch the movie The Whale.
00:08:34.320 Great, let's go watch it.
00:08:35.160 Now, sitting there, it's a story of a man who is married, got a daughter, eight years
00:08:40.380 old, he's married to a woman, got a daughter, eight years old, ends up falling in love with
00:08:44.480 one of his students and leaves wife and daughter to be with this man.
00:08:49.240 This man he ends up falling in love with, they end up being together, ends up committing
00:08:53.180 suicide.
00:08:54.040 He puts on all this weight, he's like 500, 600 pounds.
00:08:56.540 The sister of the man he falls in love with becomes his caretaker.
00:09:00.020 So just kind of following on what's going on here.
00:09:01.540 Anyways, his doctor keeps saying, you're two weeks away from dying, four weeks away from
00:09:05.520 dying because the way you're eating, he keeps eating pizza, all this stuff because he's
00:09:08.300 just done with his life, right?
00:09:10.200 Then all of a sudden, out of nowhere, his daughter who resents him because left him, comes into
00:09:14.800 his life and there's that relationship.
00:09:17.540 But she's bitter, she's angry, she's upset at him.
00:09:20.100 How could you leave me?
00:09:21.260 All this other stuff.
00:09:22.260 He says, but you know what?
00:09:23.760 I have $120,000 that's safe to give to you.
00:09:27.100 He's like, I'm going to give it to you.
00:09:28.040 All you need to do is write.
00:09:29.060 All you need to do is do this.
00:09:30.360 If you come here, I'll help you with your homework.
00:09:31.880 I'll help you with their paper.
00:09:32.780 I'll help you with this.
00:09:33.840 And I'm going to give you this $120,000.
00:09:36.440 And then at the end, there's this scene where the daughter is begging.
00:09:41.020 He says, I don't care about your $120,000.
00:09:44.100 Begging the dad to change, to choose to change and lose the weight because he can so he can
00:09:50.700 see his daughter winning.
00:09:52.840 So he can see his daughter's dreams become a reality.
00:09:55.680 The daughter wants the father to walk her down the aisle one day.
00:10:00.740 You know how the movie ends?
00:10:01.900 The movie ends saying, no, no, but this is the right thing.
00:10:05.680 He dies.
00:10:06.760 Leaves her the money.
00:10:07.900 And the movie ends.
00:10:08.760 And the credit shows up.
00:10:09.820 I'm sitting like, what a freaking stupid movie.
00:10:12.520 What kind of a story is this?
00:10:13.660 You want me to be inspired by this?
00:10:15.220 You know what?
00:10:15.900 When life gets hard, screw it.
00:10:17.540 Just give up and let your life die.
00:10:20.520 Your daughter loves you, but it's $120,000.
00:10:24.620 You know, you're leaving $120,000.
00:10:27.380 No.
00:10:28.200 That movie is a movie that inspires other people to think they can't change and refuse to change.
00:10:33.620 Even though your daughter, who's lived a miserable life without a father figure, they're always
00:10:38.020 in trouble.
00:10:39.240 The dad leaves for another student, a man, and now the dad doesn't want to change.
00:10:43.660 What's the moral of the story?
00:10:45.120 You don't want to change?
00:10:46.820 You don't want your daughter to have a relationship with you?
00:10:48.980 You don't want to change?
00:10:50.060 See, the whole reason why I'm explaining this story the way I'm giving it to you is because
00:10:53.080 if you're still watching this video at this point, you're feeling the pain of this video.
00:10:58.040 Okay?
00:10:58.480 The only thing that caused this lazy man to change, this guy, up until 18, my dad, the only
00:11:03.840 thing he would say, you're so lazy, you're so this, you're so that, you're lazy.
00:11:06.900 Eventually, I watched my dad potentially dying on his deathbed when he lost 40 pounds.
00:11:13.460 And I said, this is not going to happen.
00:11:15.880 I'm going to get my ass to work.
00:11:17.420 It was so freaking painful visualizing my dad dying, I was not willing to live with it.
00:11:23.360 Period.
00:11:24.480 I dropped certain habits.
00:11:26.040 I feared success.
00:11:27.260 I feared failure.
00:11:28.380 I feared embarrassment.
00:11:30.200 What if I can't do it?
00:11:31.080 What if I'm not good enough?
00:11:32.060 What if I'm not smart?
00:11:32.820 I've had all this grief, but you don't know.
00:11:35.240 I went through, my parents went through a divorce, but you don't know my life.
00:11:37.780 All this bullshit.
00:11:39.260 I read this.
00:11:39.880 I'm like, done.
00:11:41.120 I'm doing this.
00:11:41.860 I'm changing.
00:11:43.100 Pain eventually got me to say, I'm going in the army, force, putting myself in a situation
00:11:48.640 that I don't have a choice.
00:11:50.060 I have to be up at four o'clock in the morning.
00:11:51.880 I have to work out.
00:11:52.960 I have to run.
00:11:53.840 I have to be in shape.
00:11:54.800 I have to be around all that stuff.
00:11:57.080 A big decision with that.
00:11:58.340 Now, some of them may be watching and say, Pat, I'm 42 years old.
00:12:00.380 What do you want me to do?
00:12:01.500 Have a workout partner and you work out with them at six o'clock where you can't disappoint
00:12:04.820 them.
00:12:05.440 Hire a trainer you're paying them money to get you to get up in the morning.
00:12:08.620 Create a seven o'clock breakfast with potential prospects for you to see.
00:12:12.420 Create opportunities where you are being held accountable in a situation where you have
00:12:17.320 to choose to change or else.
00:12:19.000 Because if you don't change, you can convince everybody life is hard, but eventually you're
00:12:26.560 going to be a certain age and you're going to look at that person in the mirror and you're
00:12:29.420 going to say you're so full of shit.
00:12:30.900 That's very painful.
00:12:32.320 It's very painful.
00:12:33.800 If you're okay with that, go watch the whale.
00:12:35.940 Let that inspire you to not change.
00:12:38.840 Go watch the whale and say, you know what?
00:12:40.300 I'm all about this.
00:12:42.160 Pat's wrong.
00:12:42.860 Some people are this.
00:12:43.780 Some people are that.
00:12:44.600 No problem.
00:12:45.240 That's why I said, I don't know if you're going to choose to change or not.
00:12:48.260 Or if you're watching and saying, you know what?
00:12:49.940 I'm sick of it.
00:12:50.980 Maybe go buy the book Power Versus Force.
00:12:54.320 Maybe go read.
00:12:56.000 Maybe do certain things that's going to put you in a place to say, I better get my act
00:12:59.360 together.
00:13:00.040 Maybe paint a picture for yourself if you don't change what life's going to look like.
00:13:03.280 How painful is that?
00:13:04.160 You're okay with that?
00:13:05.600 Your girl leaving.
00:13:06.760 Your kids now wanting to see you.
00:13:08.480 You being alone by yourself.
00:13:09.880 If you're okay with that, do what you're doing.
00:13:12.580 If you're not, go light it up.
00:13:15.260 So, I'm 50-50 on some that will change and some that won't because 100% of it is on who?
00:13:21.320 It's on you.
00:13:22.600 So, I got a video for you to watch.
00:13:24.560 Okay?
00:13:25.280 The video I want you to watch is a video I did four or five years ago.
00:13:27.540 It's called How to Improve Your Work Ethic.
00:13:28.880 If you've never watched this video, click here to watch the video.
00:13:32.280 Take care, everybody.
00:13:33.040 Bye-bye.