Valuetainment - How Young Men Can Beat Today’s Struggles

00:00:00.000 I have a 20-20-20 rule that I follow, four 20s.

00:00:03.340 First 20, your first 20 years of growing up,

00:00:05.580 don't make big mistakes.

00:00:07.060 Don't make royally big mistakes.

00:00:09.280 And you know which ones I'm talking about.

00:00:10.300 I know which ones you're talking about.

00:00:11.140 I'm not saying make the small ones.

00:00:12.140 You're going to do them.

00:00:12.880 No ones, you don't walk on water.

00:00:14.300 Just don't make them.

00:00:15.820 In the car with a guy that's selling a kilo of Coke

00:00:19.120 and you're in there and he gets arrested,

00:00:20.560 you get arrested.

00:00:22.100 Distribution, you go get a felony.

00:00:23.840 It's just like, dude,

00:00:24.460 if you can prevent those big ones, good for you, right?

00:00:27.680 Happened, happened, try to clean it up.

00:00:29.480 But hopefully, first 20 years,

00:00:31.080 you don't make the big mistakes.

00:00:32.160 Next 20 years, find one industry,

00:00:35.280 lock in, become the best,

00:00:37.840 make a lot of money.

00:00:39.220 Minimum 10 million,

00:00:40.480 upwards of $100 million,

00:00:41.860 if you can make it 20 to 40.

00:00:43.200 Net worth or in regards to,

00:00:44.960 what do you mean by 10 million?

00:00:46.280 Buy 40, have a net worth of 100 million.

00:00:48.420 Okay, buy 40.

00:00:49.340 Buy 40, have a net worth of 100 million.

00:00:51.340 I love you, Patrick.

00:00:52.320 Buy 40, have a net worth of 100 million minimum.

00:00:54.400 Yo, what's good, everybody?

00:00:55.340 This is Hafiz,

00:00:56.180 and welcome to another episode of The Roommates.

00:00:59.940 Guys, I am so glad you all are here

00:01:02.840 because I know you've seen the thumbnail, guys.

00:01:05.960 I had to come back to Florida.

00:01:08.000 You know, I was there the entire month of February,

00:01:10.040 I mean, January.

00:01:11.220 I had to come back to Florida

00:01:12.700 for one of my favorite people of all time.

00:01:15.840 Guys, I always tell you guys,

00:01:17.860 find digital mentors who can inspire you,

00:01:21.140 who can encourage you,

00:01:22.320 who can uplift you,

00:01:23.220 who can make you into better men.

00:01:25.300 So there's nobody,

00:01:26.940 there's absolutely nobody

00:01:28.400 who helped me more than this guy

00:01:32.060 in regards to my business,

00:01:33.960 in regards to motivation,

00:01:35.440 in regards to encouragement.

00:01:36.560 So without further ado,

00:01:37.720 I'm not going to spend too much time.

00:01:39.420 Please, guys, welcome to the show,

00:01:41.120 the one and only Patrick Beck David.

00:01:44.880 Patrick, it's a privilege

00:01:47.220 to be back in your presence.

00:01:49.560 It's good to be with you.

00:01:50.460 First of all, congratulations to you guys.

00:01:51.820 Last time, I think you had 50,000 or 60,000 subs.

00:01:54.140 You're at, probably by the time this thing goes up,

00:01:56.880 it's going to be over a quarter million subs.

00:01:58.480 You guys are on your way to a million subs.

00:02:00.020 You ought to be excited.

00:02:00.960 This is good.

00:02:01.460 No, no, man.

00:02:02.920 It's been a blessing, you know,

00:02:04.340 because as you know,

00:02:05.320 when you're doing any business,

00:02:06.780 the first couple of years,

00:02:08.080 that's a trying years.

00:02:09.280 Yes.

00:02:09.660 When you're not seeing the results

00:02:11.680 that society is telling you

00:02:14.280 you're supposed to experience.

00:02:15.560 And so I think it was that consistent grind,

00:02:17.480 that consistent patience.

00:02:18.580 And we'll talk about it more.

00:02:19.760 You know it the best.

00:02:20.600 COVID was a time to strike

00:02:23.040 if you were a content creator.

00:02:24.320 And you had a video that came out

00:02:26.020 when you were talking about

00:02:27.000 how everybody else was shutting down

00:02:29.200 and you doubled down.

00:02:30.720 And that excited me so much.

00:02:33.140 And we literally followed that same path.

00:02:35.660 And I love seeing your results.

00:02:37.540 And we also have those similar results as well.

00:02:40.320 Very excited for you guys.

00:02:41.840 When you came that time,

00:02:43.200 we spent time to get,

00:02:44.040 I felt genuineness, humility, hunger,

00:02:46.540 curiosity, work ethic, determination,

00:02:48.360 and those qualities are going to help you win.

00:02:50.420 Thank you so much, Patrick.

00:02:51.960 So, man, so many things I want to talk about.

00:02:56.300 Are we allowed to talk about the move?

00:02:57.920 Do whatever you want to talk about.

00:02:59.220 All in.

00:03:00.280 The move is very curious to me

00:03:02.500 because I didn't expect it.

00:03:04.880 What was going into your mind

00:03:06.960 making the move to Florida?

00:03:08.400 I just saw that you were

00:03:09.280 in such an amazing position in Dallas.

00:03:11.140 Yeah, and I was.

00:03:12.180 Here's the thing.

00:03:12.820 So, I live, for those that don't know,

00:03:14.760 I lived in California for 24 years.

00:03:16.500 Okay.

00:03:16.740 So, mine is the military.

00:03:18.660 Kentucky, Tennessee, South Carolina.

00:03:20.280 I'm in California for 24 years.

00:03:22.740 And there came a time

00:03:24.100 where one day I'm in my office

00:03:25.520 and this tax guy just shows up

00:03:27.340 and says,

00:03:28.460 man, I speak with Patrick Bed-David.

00:03:30.460 So, you know,

00:03:31.140 the girls bring it back to me.

00:03:32.440 I said, yeah, how you doing?

00:03:33.380 He says, well, here's my business card.

00:03:35.360 I'm the local tax assessor

00:03:38.680 for L.A. County.

00:03:39.960 Sure, no problem.

00:03:41.620 You owe us some $70,000 to $80,000.

00:03:44.320 I said, what for?

00:03:45.660 I said, I pay my state.

00:03:47.000 I pay my federal.

00:03:47.920 I pay everything.

00:03:48.880 What is this all about?

00:03:49.960 We know you're growing.

00:03:51.160 Here's what you need to pay.

00:03:52.320 So, I called my CPA.

00:03:53.260 I said, what is this all about?

00:03:54.060 They said, well, you need to pay it.

00:03:55.040 It's hit and miss.

00:03:56.240 One in every 50, 200 business

00:03:57.980 that they found out you're growing,

00:03:59.160 they found out online you're growing.

00:04:00.400 They came to you have to pay for it.

00:04:01.840 I said, what counties in California

00:04:04.120 do I not pay for, right?

00:04:06.400 So, they told me, well, you know,

00:04:07.940 it's going to be Glendale, Burbank

00:04:09.020 because of Hollywood,

00:04:09.720 Santa Monica, Victorville.

00:04:10.940 It was like 13 of them.

00:04:12.500 So, I moved from Woodland Hills to Glendale.

00:04:14.740 That was my first sign

00:04:15.980 of trying to go to a more

00:04:18.300 small business friendly community.

00:04:20.160 So, I went to Glendale.

00:04:20.940 I went to a building called 801 North Brand.

00:04:23.480 It's the New York Life building

00:04:24.780 with Equinox right in front of it,

00:04:26.160 right off the 134 freeway.

00:04:28.000 Then, all of a sudden,

00:04:28.740 I started reading all these things.

00:04:30.100 You know, Time Magazine came out

00:04:31.080 with a magazine titled

00:04:32.520 The United States of Texas.

00:04:34.300 And they said for every two people

00:04:37.160 leaving California to Texas,

00:04:39.520 only one goes from Texas to California.

00:04:43.100 So, everyone's leaving.

00:04:44.080 And to get a U-Haul from Texas

00:04:46.700 to California is only 300 bucks.

00:04:49.220 And to get a U-Haul from California

00:04:50.900 to Texas is $3,000.

00:04:52.840 Wow.

00:04:53.160 Let me say that one more time.

00:04:54.000 300 to take the U-Hauls back to California,

00:04:56.640 but 3,000 from California to Texas.

00:04:59.460 Those were the numbers I'm giving you.

00:05:01.200 It could be a few hundred dollars off.

00:05:02.820 But the point is,

00:05:04.260 they had no U-Hauls left in California

00:05:06.640 because everybody was leaving.

00:05:07.840 But they had a ton of U-Hauls in Texas

00:05:09.060 because no one is leaving.

00:05:10.200 So, then we moved our family

00:05:11.620 and our business to Texas, Dallas,

00:05:14.300 which on a golf score

00:05:15.160 is probably one of the best places

00:05:16.240 to live in America.

00:05:17.780 Entrepreneur, business owner,

00:05:18.880 taxes, regulation.

00:05:20.260 You got all the sports.

00:05:21.260 You want stars, hockey.

00:05:22.640 You got baseball.

00:05:24.080 Rangers, you got Mavs.

00:05:25.520 You got Cowboys.

00:05:26.080 You got the whole nine.

00:05:26.720 Great restaurants, great hotels,

00:05:28.640 convention the whole nine.

00:05:30.800 So, then where does Florida come into this deal?

00:05:33.460 So, now I'm running two companies.

00:05:35.300 I'm running an insurance company

00:05:36.500 with 18,000 agents.

00:05:37.680 Today, we're growing.

00:05:38.600 We have nearly 150 offices nationwide.

00:05:41.500 We're, you know,

00:05:42.660 our numbers, our last five years,

00:05:44.320 no matter what,

00:05:44.900 top-line revenue minimum,

00:05:46.040 40% we've grown.

00:05:47.680 Some years, 60%.

00:05:48.740 Some years, 50%.

00:05:49.780 EBITDA's grown at a very, very fast pace.

00:05:52.800 And so, then media company,

00:05:54.060 I'm sitting there saying,

00:05:54.680 why move to Florida?

00:05:55.360 So, we looked at Greenwich, okay?

00:05:58.020 Greenwich, where I would live in Greenwich

00:06:00.240 and I would go to New York,

00:06:01.320 Manhattan for the media company,

00:06:02.620 Valuetainment.

00:06:03.400 And I looked at California, Newport.

00:06:05.060 I know my context in California,

00:06:06.800 but then COVID happened.

00:06:07.960 The moment COVID happened,

00:06:09.180 the way Newsom and Cuomo

00:06:10.740 handled those two states

00:06:12.100 made me say,

00:06:13.080 California, New York, South.

00:06:14.460 So, once those two were out,

00:06:16.260 I knew I wasn't going to stay

00:06:17.480 in Dallas long-term.

00:06:18.500 I wanted lifestyle for my kids.

00:06:20.260 I want to be close to the water.

00:06:21.980 So, I came to Florida.

00:06:22.920 So, in a perfect world,

00:06:24.000 if California and Texas had a baby,

00:06:27.100 it would be Florida.

00:06:28.160 Man.

00:06:28.680 So, I decided to come to Florida

00:06:30.060 and we're very happy.

00:06:32.840 The kids are very happy

00:06:33.660 and my wife's very happy.

00:06:34.720 That's amazing.

00:06:35.480 That's amazing.

00:06:36.120 One of the things I've admired

00:06:37.380 about you, Patrick,

00:06:38.380 is you're such a visionary.

00:06:40.660 You're such a man,

00:06:41.520 like you're talking about in the book,

00:06:43.000 who's always playing chess.

00:06:44.740 I don't know if you remember this or not,

00:06:46.020 but the first time we met,

00:06:47.620 you showed me the Wayne Gretzky card.

00:06:50.400 I think that's when you,

00:06:51.100 may have been the first time you got it.

00:06:52.960 Wow.

00:06:53.260 But you showed me the Wayne Gretzky card.

00:06:54.780 That I showed in the interview.

00:06:55.740 That's right.

00:06:56.060 Yeah, you showed it to me during the interview.

00:06:57.120 You opened the box

00:06:57.900 and you showed it to me.

00:06:58.740 You showed me all these cards.

00:07:00.000 And you're like,

00:07:00.240 look at this card.

00:07:00.960 I got it for a million.

00:07:01.360 People thought I was nuts

00:07:02.480 that I spent a half a million dollars

00:07:03.800 on two cards.

00:07:04.560 I remember you telling me about that.

00:07:05.960 But you were like,

00:07:06.640 wait and see what's going to happen.

00:07:08.620 And literally,

00:07:09.320 I was like,

00:07:09.920 I'm always watching your channel

00:07:11.000 and I saw that video

00:07:12.300 that you posted

00:07:13.020 about the profit

00:07:14.520 that you made

00:07:15.700 when you sold that card.

00:07:17.100 And I was like,

00:07:18.320 man,

00:07:18.560 that visionary mindset

00:07:20.160 of Patrick Bette David

00:07:21.880 is so inspirational.

00:07:23.560 And then when I see you drop the book,

00:07:25.740 your next five steps,

00:07:27.620 everything clicked.

00:07:28.560 Because it literally,

00:07:30.360 they could see that

00:07:31.280 what you're teaching in the book

00:07:33.080 is not so much

00:07:34.300 a message of encouragement

00:07:36.340 that you've read somewhere,

00:07:37.820 but practical application

00:07:39.320 that you've done

00:07:40.240 in your everyday life.

00:07:42.420 Yeah,

00:07:42.680 so it's so funny

00:07:43.920 you bring that up

00:07:44.500 because when I bought the card,

00:07:45.640 everybody's like,

00:07:46.140 what are you doing

00:07:46.540 spending this kind of money

00:07:47.560 on a card?

00:07:48.060 Who the hell is going to do anything?

00:07:49.200 No one even follows hockey.

00:07:50.900 I'm like,

00:07:51.100 no one follows hockey.

00:07:52.040 You don't know

00:07:52.600 what hockey's all about, right?

00:07:53.800 So then the two cards

00:07:55.900 ended up selling at a record.

00:07:57.720 One of them sold for $720,000

00:07:59.760 and the other card sold

00:08:01.500 for $1.291 million.

00:08:04.580 So in a span of 18 months,

00:08:06.480 I think I ended up making

00:08:07.580 $1.3 million on two cards.

00:08:10.660 Wow.

00:08:10.800 Right?

00:08:10.940 Two pieces of paper,

00:08:12.120 $1.3 million.

00:08:12.720 Now it's the other way around,

00:08:13.780 right?

00:08:13.940 Now cards are overpriced.

00:08:15.160 Yeah.

00:08:15.780 Michael Jordan,

00:08:16.560 PSA 10,

00:08:17.780 1986 Fleer,

00:08:18.980 a year ago was selling

00:08:19.900 for $40,000.

00:08:21.300 One just sold for $738.

00:08:23.160 Wow.

00:08:23.700 Very overpriced.

00:08:24.780 Wow.

00:08:24.840 So this is a very different time

00:08:27.200 right now with the market.

00:08:28.660 But yeah,

00:08:29.440 you know,

00:08:29.880 I think something

00:08:30.800 we don't do enough

00:08:31.760 is to follow.

00:08:32.420 I think something

00:08:33.000 we don't do enough

00:08:33.660 is to follow.

00:08:34.020 We don't sit there.

00:08:35.740 They say Napoleon,

00:08:36.580 anytime before he went to war,

00:08:37.840 he would take a week,

00:08:38.660 sit in a room

00:08:39.140 with a lot of paper

00:08:39.840 and stuff to write on.

00:08:41.280 And he would just strategize.

00:08:43.220 Okay?

00:08:43.940 What if we did this?

00:08:44.840 What if the enemy did this?

00:08:45.760 What's their strength?

00:08:46.440 Who's the strength?

00:08:47.120 Who's the best general here?

00:08:47.980 Who does he have?

00:08:48.840 How many soldiers do they have?

00:08:50.000 And then he would look

00:08:51.360 at the maps

00:08:52.320 and think about

00:08:52.800 the quality of maps

00:08:53.880 back then,

00:08:54.400 terrain,

00:08:55.180 like the mountains,

00:08:56.540 you know,

00:08:56.840 the water,

00:08:57.960 all this stuff.

00:08:58.460 You don't have the kind of map

00:08:59.720 that we have today.

00:09:00.540 So he's using,

00:09:01.660 you know,

00:09:02.360 low quality stuff

00:09:03.760 that it's just,

00:09:04.640 hey,

00:09:04.960 I think this is what

00:09:06.200 it looks like

00:09:06.840 and it's this many miles away

00:09:08.240 and this many kilometers away.

00:09:09.660 But he would sit there.

00:09:11.020 Then he would come back out

00:09:12.040 and have a meeting

00:09:12.860 with his soldiers

00:09:13.420 and say,

00:09:13.880 hey,

00:09:14.100 here's what we're going to be doing.

00:09:15.480 You and your soldiers

00:09:16.620 are going here.

00:09:17.640 This unit,

00:09:18.300 you're going here.

00:09:19.120 If they attack from here,

00:09:20.200 it's this.

00:09:20.620 The strength of this army

00:09:21.640 is this.

00:09:22.260 The strength of the army

00:09:23.080 is this.

00:09:23.780 Here's what they're going

00:09:24.380 to be doing.

00:09:24.820 This is the seasons.

00:09:25.660 Who's trained

00:09:26.080 to be able to do this?

00:09:26.820 You guys have been most

00:09:27.680 prepared to go

00:09:28.960 on the mountain terrain.

00:09:29.840 You're going to go here.

00:09:30.360 You guys have been most

00:09:31.080 for forest.

00:09:32.040 You're going to go here.

00:09:32.640 You guys have been cold.

00:09:33.780 You guys.

00:09:34.460 So then he would put

00:09:35.340 his plan of action

00:09:36.040 and then he would go out

00:09:36.760 and they would ask him

00:09:37.420 and say,

00:09:37.800 hey,

00:09:38.240 Napoleon,

00:09:38.800 whose strategy

00:09:39.500 do you use the most

00:09:40.440 when it comes down to war?

00:09:41.280 You know what his answer was?

00:09:42.340 No one's.

00:09:43.300 That's what made him predictable.

00:09:45.540 Unpredictable,

00:09:45.960 right?

00:09:46.180 So the enemy didn't know

00:09:47.480 what he was going to do.

00:09:48.900 Yeah.

00:09:49.220 Because if you reveal

00:09:50.140 you're using someone's strategy,

00:09:51.520 guess what the enemy

00:09:52.060 is going to do?

00:09:52.940 I know exactly

00:09:53.580 what your next move

00:09:54.300 is going to be.

00:09:55.180 Then there's that element of,

00:09:57.280 you know,

00:09:57.520 I know exactly

00:09:58.220 what you're going to do

00:09:58.920 so I know how to pivot myself.

00:10:00.240 So in life,

00:10:01.220 it's the same exact thing.

00:10:02.340 And by the way,

00:10:04.080 this isn't about

00:10:05.100 being a billionaire.

00:10:05.880 This isn't about

00:10:06.400 being a millionaire.

00:10:07.120 This isn't about

00:10:07.860 Ferraris and Lambos

00:10:09.240 and 20,000 square foot homes

00:10:10.580 on the ocean

00:10:11.160 and this isn't about that.

00:10:12.240 This isn't about

00:10:12.880 having dinner

00:10:14.040 with the presidents

00:10:15.380 and all.

00:10:16.020 Nope.

00:10:16.560 This is you.

00:10:18.380 There's seven and a half

00:10:19.360 billion people

00:10:20.020 living in the world.

00:10:21.120 There's no one

00:10:21.800 in the world

00:10:22.180 that's more important

00:10:23.040 than you,

00:10:23.740 to you.

00:10:24.300 What I mean by,

00:10:25.280 I don't mean selfishly.

00:10:26.840 I mean,

00:10:27.740 my son,

00:10:28.660 I'm spending time

00:10:29.320 with him right now.

00:10:29.920 Today was at the office

00:10:30.660 and they just left right now.

00:10:32.680 We're at lunch.

00:10:33.300 We're having this seafood,

00:10:34.620 right?

00:10:34.760 I'm having some oysters

00:10:35.820 and he's sitting there

00:10:36.700 in the corner.

00:10:37.660 From the moment

00:10:38.560 he sat down,

00:10:39.960 he knew what he wanted.

00:10:41.080 He wanted to play

00:10:42.140 the Santa Claus game.

00:10:43.640 Do you know

00:10:44.280 how many times

00:10:45.020 he asked me,

00:10:45.800 Dad,

00:10:45.940 can I play the Santa Claus game?

00:10:47.120 Dad,

00:10:47.320 can I play the Santa Claus game?

00:10:48.500 Can I play it now?

00:10:49.740 I said,

00:10:50.160 Dad,

00:10:50.340 one minute,

00:10:50.920 Dad,

00:10:51.060 I'm on the phone.

00:10:51.980 One minute later.

00:10:52.880 Dad,

00:10:53.240 it's been a minute.

00:10:54.300 Can I play the game now?

00:10:54.840 Can I play the game?

00:10:56.080 He is so persistent.

00:10:59.100 It's ridiculous

00:11:00.540 how many times

00:11:01.820 he asked me

00:11:02.260 what he wants.

00:11:03.180 His brother's

00:11:03.940 slightly different.

00:11:04.740 His sister's

00:11:05.320 slightly different.

00:11:06.300 What he likes,

00:11:07.660 my middle one doesn't like.

00:11:08.940 My youngest doesn't.

00:11:09.680 My youngest temperament

00:11:10.740 is demanding.

00:11:12.120 She wants everything.

00:11:13.360 You better respect

00:11:14.100 what she wants.

00:11:15.240 So as these guys age,

00:11:16.940 I can't say,

00:11:17.520 hey,

00:11:17.660 why don't you go

00:11:18.000 be an entrepreneur

00:11:18.440 like your dad?

00:11:19.140 It's not going to be the case.

00:11:20.160 They're all going to be different

00:11:21.020 because the most important person

00:11:22.420 that matters

00:11:23.040 in the equation

00:11:24.180 of knowing

00:11:24.580 what you want to do next

00:11:25.520 is who?

00:11:26.200 You.

00:11:27.360 That's all that matters.

00:11:28.220 So if I sit down

00:11:28.840 in quiet time

00:11:29.560 and I say,

00:11:30.380 let's just say I'm Bobby,

00:11:31.200 Johnny,

00:11:31.560 Patrick,

00:11:32.380 Hafiz,

00:11:32.920 whoever you are,

00:11:33.780 you're sitting there saying,

00:11:35.140 you know,

00:11:35.520 what do I really want to do?

00:11:36.900 Let me tell you,

00:11:37.280 when I grew up,

00:11:38.620 I remember when I was going

00:11:39.480 through this

00:11:39.860 and I saw Foster

00:11:40.580 and da-da-da-da-da,

00:11:41.700 here's what I want to do.

00:11:43.040 Yesterday,

00:11:43.440 I interviewed a guy

00:11:44.120 that's a former CIA agent.

00:11:45.520 I don't know

00:11:45.800 if you've seen the movie

00:11:46.420 Jack Ryan.

00:11:47.280 He's the real life

00:11:48.100 Jack Ryan.

00:11:48.820 Wow.

00:11:49.080 Former CIA agent

00:11:50.160 that was a para-rescue agent

00:11:51.440 that's now,

00:11:52.640 his entire mission today

00:11:53.980 is human trafficking.

00:11:55.400 Why human trafficking?

00:11:57.040 Like,

00:11:57.860 why did he wake up

00:11:58.720 one day

00:11:58.960 and want to do

00:11:59.300 human trafficking?

00:12:00.740 Foster care

00:12:01.480 is where he came out of.

00:12:02.420 60% of human trafficking

00:12:03.920 comes out.

00:12:04.720 So look at the connection

00:12:05.960 of what drove him

00:12:06.820 to want to do that.

00:12:08.000 Make sense?

00:12:08.620 100%.

00:12:09.100 I grew up extremely poor.

00:12:10.500 I grew up not having anything.

00:12:11.840 I'm a welfare kid.

00:12:12.800 I escaped Iran

00:12:13.520 to come here.

00:12:14.860 So politically,

00:12:15.720 why am I such a protector

00:12:16.720 of capitalism

00:12:17.240 and entrepreneurship?

00:12:18.240 Because I've been

00:12:18.880 on the other side

00:12:19.500 where you can't say anything.

00:12:20.500 You better be quiet.

00:12:21.180 You got to walk on eggshells.

00:12:22.340 But that's my story.

00:12:23.520 What's yours?

00:12:24.160 What's the individual's?

00:12:24.860 I think very,

00:12:26.000 very rarely

00:12:27.360 do people take

00:12:28.920 the most important time

00:12:30.120 out of the life,

00:12:31.200 which is your time out.

00:12:32.960 And you sit there quietly

00:12:34.140 and say,

00:12:34.440 okay,

00:12:34.600 I'm 28 years old.

00:12:36.320 What have I done so far?

00:12:37.480 Not much.

00:12:38.180 I'm not happy with it.

00:12:38.880 I'm 42 years old.

00:12:40.220 What's the next move?

00:12:41.020 And then you sequence it out

00:12:42.000 and then you go execute.

00:12:43.140 I love that, Patrick.

00:12:44.200 So let me tell you a story

00:12:45.360 about what happened this year.

00:12:47.560 Like I said,

00:12:48.160 I think we started,

00:12:48.840 sorry, 2020.

00:12:49.800 Started in 2020,

00:12:50.900 roughly about 54,000 subscribers.

00:12:53.900 And so,

00:12:54.880 like I said,

00:12:55.300 around February, March,

00:12:56.460 everybody was shutting down.

00:12:57.500 Watch your video.

00:12:58.280 Really inspired me.

00:12:59.120 I said,

00:12:59.280 no,

00:12:59.440 we're tripling the content.

00:13:01.300 We're going to produce.

00:13:02.260 We're going to produce.

00:13:02.720 We're going to produce.

00:13:03.380 By the time August hit,

00:13:04.740 we're about 80,000,

00:13:06.720 about like 79,

00:13:07.620 80,000 subscribers.

00:13:08.380 So just six months ago,

00:13:09.440 you're at 80,000.

00:13:10.260 Yeah.

00:13:10.920 So literally,

00:13:12.500 all of a sudden,

00:13:14.780 just things just started unfolding

00:13:16.700 and we had a back catalog.

00:13:19.020 Because what happened is,

00:13:19.700 we had a back catalog.

00:13:20.820 It's just,

00:13:21.100 we just lacked brand awareness.

00:13:22.740 You're a business guy.

00:13:23.640 You know it's product and placement.

00:13:24.780 You have the greatest product,

00:13:25.700 but if it's not placed

00:13:26.260 in front of your audience,

00:13:27.160 they won't be able to buy it.

00:13:28.640 So when the audience finally saw the product,

00:13:30.860 we went from literally 80,000 subscribers

00:13:32.700 in the beginning of August

00:13:34.120 to 200,000 by November.

00:13:36.960 And so what ends up happening is,

00:13:38.580 like I said,

00:13:39.060 we interview a lot of people.

00:13:40.140 We've interviewed Candace Owens.

00:13:41.320 We've interviewed you,

00:13:42.520 Gary V,

00:13:43.720 Ben Shapiro.

00:13:44.280 We're interviewing people

00:13:44.900 for all different backgrounds.

00:13:46.240 But one of the things

00:13:47.120 that guys are always focusing on

00:13:49.140 a lot of times

00:13:49.720 is the dating videos,

00:13:50.920 like the relationship stuff.

00:13:51.960 The guys are fans of that.

00:13:54.240 And then I got to a point

00:13:56.000 where a lot of those guys

00:13:58.260 were then reaching out to me

00:13:59.860 complaining about

00:14:00.880 where they were at in life,

00:14:02.660 where they're at,

00:14:03.240 why they couldn't get certain girls,

00:14:04.600 why they couldn't get certain things.

00:14:06.160 And I said,

00:14:07.080 okay,

00:14:07.480 who are you?

00:14:09.020 Where is your plan?

00:14:10.520 Where are your goals?

00:14:11.860 What are you trying to achieve?

00:14:13.640 What business plans

00:14:14.780 have you put in your life?

00:14:16.300 No answer.

00:14:17.340 And then I said,

00:14:17.940 you know what makes me mad

00:14:18.720 about you guys?

00:14:19.800 I interviewed one of my favorite people,

00:14:21.440 Patrick Bet David,

00:14:22.380 last year,

00:14:24.280 none of you guys watched it.

00:14:25.760 He gave so much free information

00:14:27.580 that will benefit you guys' life,

00:14:29.080 but you're watching

00:14:29.800 all the entertainment videos instead.

00:14:32.040 I kind of went on a rant,

00:14:33.400 literally that day,

00:14:34.060 like 10,000 people watched the video,

00:14:35.780 and I got so many messages

00:14:37.280 from young men telling me

00:14:39.060 I found Valuetainment,

00:14:40.420 thank you so much,

00:14:41.140 Patrick's amazing,

00:14:42.120 get him back on the show,

00:14:43.000 get him back on the show.

00:14:43.740 So the past five months,

00:14:45.220 I've been bothering Kai

00:14:46.400 to make sure I get you back on the show.

00:14:48.200 Yeah, I got to give you credit.

00:14:49.300 You said,

00:14:50.220 Kai's like,

00:14:50.960 I'm like 30 minutes.

00:14:51.760 He said,

00:14:52.080 no, Pat,

00:14:52.440 he's saying one hour.

00:14:53.300 Kai's like,

00:14:54.080 hey,

00:14:54.460 30 minutes.

00:14:55.240 Look,

00:14:55.660 I'm coming in for an hour.

00:14:56.960 You got your hour.

00:14:58.140 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:14:58.720 You stayed firm.

00:14:59.180 I got it from your book,

00:15:00.220 you know what I mean?

00:15:00.780 You demand what you want in life

00:15:02.220 and be persistent for that.

00:15:03.340 And I respect that.

00:15:04.260 Thank you so much, sir.

00:15:05.020 I respect that.

00:15:05.460 I respect that approach.

00:15:06.520 Good for you.

00:15:06.960 Thank you so much.

00:15:07.480 So eventually what happened

00:15:09.420 is that a lot,

00:15:10.300 I realized so many guys,

00:15:11.880 like you said,

00:15:12.540 did not have a plan.

00:15:13.900 So many guys did not have a path.

00:15:15.680 And one of the videos

00:15:16.420 I always recommend

00:15:17.380 is your video

00:15:18.280 where you talk about

00:15:19.000 how to make a million dollars a year

00:15:20.440 because you really break it down

00:15:22.260 piece by piece,

00:15:23.380 outsmart,

00:15:23.960 outstrategize,

00:15:24.860 outwork,

00:15:25.400 all these great things.

00:15:26.900 And so I'm so excited

00:15:28.440 about your book,

00:15:29.580 you know,

00:15:29.900 because I think it's going to help

00:15:31.500 so many young men,

00:15:32.600 especially those who grew up

00:15:34.420 without fathers,

00:15:35.480 be able to get concise plans

00:15:37.420 to become the man

00:15:38.400 that they want to be.

00:15:39.380 So what made you decide

00:15:40.760 to write your new book?

00:15:42.000 And what are some of the feedback

00:15:43.740 you've been getting

00:15:44.360 as you've been receiving

00:15:45.960 some of the people

00:15:47.100 sharing their opinions?

00:15:48.200 So your next five moves,

00:15:49.580 so the whole thing got started

00:15:50.720 with one day I woke up

00:15:51.920 and I was in my mid-20s

00:15:53.520 and my girlfriend

00:15:54.460 sent me a message in text

00:15:55.940 and she says,

00:15:56.740 we're breaking up.

00:15:57.780 You spend way too much time working.

00:15:59.540 I love you,

00:16:00.640 but long term,

00:16:01.440 I don't see this thing

00:16:02.120 you're working out

00:16:02.520 because you're working

00:16:03.040 100 hours a week,

00:16:03.860 it's just not going to work out.

00:16:05.420 So 6 a.m.,

00:16:06.460 then I get a call from my mom,

00:16:08.000 guilt.

00:16:08.480 She says,

00:16:09.600 what happened to my baby boy

00:16:10.920 that used to call me more

00:16:11.880 and tell me,

00:16:12.240 you don't call me anymore,

00:16:13.040 you don't do this,

00:16:13.520 do you still love your mom, right?

00:16:14.860 So first feeling,

00:16:16.000 emotional is what?

00:16:16.820 Heartbreak.

00:16:17.260 Second one is guilt.

00:16:18.720 Next one I get

00:16:19.520 is a client of mine

00:16:20.320 that says,

00:16:20.780 I cancel what I just bought from me.

00:16:23.160 That's a $10,000 commission.

00:16:24.500 Lots of money for me

00:16:25.520 at that time.

00:16:26.700 Then my number one sales guy quit.

00:16:28.640 So heartbreak,

00:16:30.460 guilt,

00:16:31.560 cost,

00:16:32.120 money,

00:16:32.540 I need that money.

00:16:33.780 And then my number one sales guy

00:16:34.780 quit is pressure.

00:16:35.680 So I'm sitting there saying,

00:16:38.060 who do I call first?

00:16:39.500 What do I do first, right?

00:16:41.540 Do I first call my mom

00:16:43.040 and mom,

00:16:44.200 I'm so sorry,

00:16:44.800 you know I love you

00:16:45.440 and send her a gift

00:16:46.060 and all that stuff

00:16:46.560 and I'm going to go

00:16:46.840 take her out to lunch?

00:16:47.900 Well then if I do that

00:16:48.720 for the rest of my life,

00:16:49.580 I'm training her

00:16:51.000 to use guilt

00:16:52.400 to get what she wants out of me.

00:16:53.940 Is that really what I wanted?

00:16:55.160 I think a lot of times

00:16:55.980 we teach our kids

00:16:57.760 to use guilt

00:16:58.500 to get what they want

00:16:59.360 out of us.

00:16:59.920 We don't even know

00:17:00.540 we're doing it.

00:17:01.180 That's good.

00:17:01.700 So then I said,

00:17:03.120 girlfriend,

00:17:03.580 okay,

00:17:03.840 do I call her back

00:17:04.720 and say,

00:17:05.000 oh my gosh,

00:17:05.440 babe,

00:17:05.600 just come over,

00:17:06.600 I'll do anything for you,

00:17:07.700 I'll take the whole day off,

00:17:08.560 I'll take the week off.

00:17:09.800 Then I'm compromising

00:17:11.080 my vision long term

00:17:12.300 of who I want to be.

00:17:13.620 No matter how great

00:17:14.880 the sex is,

00:17:15.580 no matter how beautiful

00:17:16.440 she is,

00:17:16.920 no matter how whatever it is,

00:17:18.600 is it me compromising?

00:17:20.700 I don't know if it's worth

00:17:21.520 me compromising my vision.

00:17:23.180 I don't know what

00:17:23.840 I'm going to do there.

00:17:24.880 Do I call,

00:17:25.540 so eventually I said,

00:17:26.600 what does the most

00:17:27.720 successful person today,

00:17:29.360 if they were my age

00:17:30.240 right now,

00:17:30.540 25,

00:17:31.040 what would they have

00:17:31.580 done right now?

00:17:32.520 So then I made the decision

00:17:33.600 based on that.

00:17:34.160 I said,

00:17:34.280 okay,

00:17:35.060 let me first call the client

00:17:36.080 to get intel about the sales guy

00:17:37.420 because the sales guy

00:17:38.200 and I are the ones

00:17:38.700 that did the client sale.

00:17:40.280 So maybe he's going to tell me

00:17:41.280 more stuff about the sales guy.

00:17:42.260 So I called the client,

00:17:43.000 the client says,

00:17:44.660 yeah,

00:17:44.940 here's why,

00:17:45.520 you know,

00:17:45.820 you're,

00:17:46.340 you know,

00:17:46.560 I talked to one of your agents

00:17:47.540 and he told me that there's

00:17:48.540 a policy going on over here

00:17:49.800 that's going to be cheaper.

00:17:50.700 So I said,

00:17:50.900 oh,

00:17:51.040 interesting.

00:17:51.320 I got intel.

00:17:51.680 I said,

00:17:51.860 let me ask you a question.

00:17:52.460 Are you fully out

00:17:53.200 or if I can help you out

00:17:54.220 with this and get,

00:17:54.860 you know,

00:17:55.060 I'm not fully out.

00:17:56.040 I just,

00:17:56.420 you know,

00:17:56.580 he confused me.

00:17:57.360 I said,

00:17:57.600 let me make one phone call.

00:17:58.460 Then I called my agent.

00:17:59.540 My agent was worried

00:18:00.380 that we were about to sell,

00:18:01.360 lose the client.

00:18:02.180 So he was resenting.

00:18:03.420 I said,

00:18:03.580 listen,

00:18:03.820 it's not going to be done.

00:18:04.580 Let's go meet with the client.

00:18:05.360 So the first thing I did

00:18:06.020 is I went and met with the client.

00:18:07.560 So I saved that.

00:18:08.780 I saved the agent.

00:18:09.920 They stuck around.

00:18:10.680 That probably ended up

00:18:11.420 making me additional $200,000

00:18:12.840 the next two years,

00:18:13.780 which I needed at that time

00:18:15.440 because I was broke.

00:18:16.480 Then I had the conversation

00:18:19.160 with my girl

00:18:19.620 and I gave her

00:18:20.980 the most ridiculous,

00:18:22.220 what do you call it?

00:18:23.380 Ultimatum?

00:18:23.880 It was a very weird ultimatum

00:18:25.660 because I said to her,

00:18:27.540 I said,

00:18:27.820 you know,

00:18:28.040 we've been together

00:18:28.540 for two years.

00:18:29.300 I love you.

00:18:30.120 I know you love me too.

00:18:31.520 I say we go 30 days

00:18:32.700 without sex

00:18:33.440 and see how we do

00:18:34.740 because we're going to find out

00:18:36.140 if we're going to be together

00:18:37.060 long term,

00:18:37.600 if we have anything in common

00:18:38.580 or is it just a,

00:18:39.720 we have way too much fun together.

00:18:41.400 So first time we go out

00:18:42.560 Friday night,

00:18:43.640 we go to the movies,

00:18:44.520 we come back in the movies.

00:18:45.400 I got a big expedition

00:18:46.300 with plenty of room in the back

00:18:47.280 and she looks at me,

00:18:48.540 what do you want to do?

00:18:49.300 I'm like,

00:18:49.540 I got to drop you off.

00:18:50.860 So we sit in the expedition

00:18:52.880 to see what we can talk about.

00:18:54.440 There's really not much

00:18:55.100 to be talking about.

00:18:56.660 Nothing.

00:18:57.140 Like we're just like family,

00:18:58.800 all this stuff.

00:18:59.240 And I'm like,

00:18:59.580 okay,

00:19:00.140 I guess I'll see you,

00:19:00.860 I'll see you.

00:19:01.500 One week,

00:19:02.000 two weeks,

00:19:02.380 three weeks,

00:19:03.060 we kind of pretty much know.

00:19:04.920 We're either going to stay together

00:19:05.900 because of how much fun we're having,

00:19:07.580 but we know long term

00:19:08.620 we're not going to be together.

00:19:09.320 By the way,

00:19:09.540 we're friends still today.

00:19:10.740 She runs a successful business.

00:19:12.060 I help her out.

00:19:12.700 Even my wife is friends with her.

00:19:14.080 Oh, wow.

00:19:14.680 Very interesting.

00:19:15.480 Yeah.

00:19:15.540 Yeah.

00:19:16.020 So then that left.

00:19:17.620 My mom,

00:19:18.360 that was never going to change.

00:19:19.320 So I had to make sure she knew.

00:19:20.460 Mom,

00:19:20.660 I just want you to know

00:19:21.260 I'm pursuing my dreams.

00:19:22.560 I love you.

00:19:23.200 You're important to me,

00:19:23.860 but at the same time,

00:19:24.640 I can't.

00:19:25.420 So everything about this book is

00:19:27.740 what do I need to be doing first,

00:19:30.880 then second,

00:19:31.800 then third,

00:19:32.420 then fourth?

00:19:33.140 Initially,

00:19:33.640 my title was

00:19:34.340 Your Next 15 Moves.

00:19:36.200 But Simon & Schuster says

00:19:37.600 15 is too big of a number.

00:19:38.620 Start off with five.

00:19:39.280 But in the book,

00:19:39.940 I explain 15 moves

00:19:41.100 is what the masters do.

00:19:42.580 The average chess player,

00:19:43.860 when they play with you,

00:19:44.620 they only know their one move.

00:19:46.120 Here's what I'm doing next.

00:19:47.180 Yeah.

00:19:47.800 The pros know three to five moves.

00:19:50.260 So the masters know 10 moves

00:19:52.000 and the grandmasters

00:19:53.020 know their next 15 moves, right?

00:19:55.500 So in business,

00:19:56.260 it's the same thing.

00:19:56.920 Most people are like,

00:19:57.480 oh, what do I do?

00:19:58.000 Just make phone calls.

00:19:58.660 Okay, let me go sell.

00:20:00.560 Versus one guy that's an older,

00:20:01.920 well, I'm going to sell.

00:20:02.880 Once I get to 100,000,

00:20:03.920 I'm going to ask the guy

00:20:04.720 if he lets me open up an office over here.

00:20:06.480 Then I'm going to go find this customer.

00:20:08.020 Then I'm going to do this.

00:20:08.780 And then I'm going to open up my fifth office

00:20:10.280 when I'm making a half a million.

00:20:11.360 Then I'm going to go and be a broker.

00:20:13.120 And then I'm going to make my million

00:20:14.160 five years from now.

00:20:15.420 And when I do,

00:20:15.800 I'm going to buy that condo at this place.

00:20:17.920 Everything's about

00:20:18.600 then when I,

00:20:19.620 then when I,

00:20:20.160 then when I,

00:20:20.720 then when I,

00:20:21.280 then when I,

00:20:21.780 then when I,

00:20:22.380 versus what do I do today?

00:20:24.300 So there is an element of long-term planning

00:20:27.740 and what my moves are going to be.

00:20:30.240 And that's the part with sequence.

00:20:31.740 And look, I'm 42 years old.

00:20:33.120 You're what in your age?

00:20:34.380 Okay, so 30.

00:20:35.740 I have a 20, 20, 20 rule that I follow.

00:20:38.360 Four 20s.

00:20:39.240 First 20,

00:20:40.100 your first 20 years of growing up,

00:20:41.520 don't make big mistakes.

00:20:42.920 Don't,

00:20:43.280 don't make royally big mistakes.

00:20:45.140 And you know which ones I'm talking about.

00:20:46.160 I know which ones you're talking about.

00:20:46.860 I'm saying make the small ones.

00:20:48.100 You're going to do them.

00:20:48.800 No ones,

00:20:49.220 you don't walk on water.

00:20:50.240 Just don't make them.

00:20:51.440 Yeah.

00:20:51.860 In the car with a guy

00:20:53.380 that's selling a kilo of coke

00:20:55.060 and you're in there

00:20:55.780 and he gets arrested.

00:20:56.500 You get arrested.

00:20:58.080 Distribution.

00:20:58.680 You go get a felony.

00:20:59.740 It's just like,

00:21:00.180 dude,

00:21:00.380 you could,

00:21:00.760 if you can prevent those big ones,

00:21:02.300 it's good for you, right?

00:21:03.640 Happened,

00:21:04.180 happened,

00:21:04.660 try to clean it up.

00:21:05.600 But hopefully first 20 years,

00:21:07.040 you don't make the big mistakes.

00:21:08.120 Next 20 years,

00:21:09.420 find one industry,

00:21:11.220 lock in,

00:21:12.480 become the best,

00:21:13.820 make a lot of money.

00:21:15.140 Minimum 10 million,

00:21:16.440 upwards of $100 million

00:21:17.480 if you can make it 20 to 40.

00:21:19.140 Net worth or in regards to,

00:21:20.900 what do you mean by 10 million?

00:21:22.220 Buy 40,

00:21:22.860 have a net worth of 100 million.

00:21:24.360 Okay,

00:21:24.660 buy 40.

00:21:25.280 Buy 40,

00:21:25.940 have a net worth of 100 million.

00:21:27.300 I love you,

00:21:27.780 Patrick.

00:21:28.260 Buy 40,

00:21:28.860 have a net worth of 100 million minimum

00:21:30.260 because you're going to,

00:21:31.180 listen,

00:21:31.420 anything you give 15 to 20 years to

00:21:33.340 as an industry,

00:21:34.420 if you give it everything you got,

00:21:36.420 you're going to make that kind of money.

00:21:37.880 No question.

00:21:38.940 No question about it.

00:21:39.900 So,

00:21:40.420 you may say,

00:21:40.980 I want to be a great podcaster.

00:21:42.220 You take this thing to 10 million subs,

00:21:44.080 you're killing it.

00:21:45.300 All of a sudden,

00:21:45.980 Spotify comes up to you,

00:21:46.900 says $85 million contract we're giving you.

00:21:48.820 You don't know what's going to happen,

00:21:49.800 right?

00:21:50.180 There's a business model

00:21:51.340 to the madness as well.

00:21:52.840 Then from 40 to 60 is

00:21:54.800 taking that money you made

00:21:56.360 and using creative,

00:21:58.400 you still can manage your businesses,

00:21:59.700 but using creative

00:22:01.060 on what you want to do next.

00:22:02.500 You always wanted to do movies?

00:22:03.580 Now you can do it.

00:22:04.580 You want to do music?

00:22:05.540 Now you can do it.

00:22:06.100 You want to go buy art?

00:22:07.100 Now you can do it.

00:22:07.760 You wanted to go out there

00:22:08.440 and do real estate investments,

00:22:10.240 maybe be a small owner of a sports team?

00:22:12.220 Now you can do it.

00:22:13.120 And then 60 to 80,

00:22:14.860 politics and giving back.

00:22:16.260 Very simple.

00:22:17.000 So for me,

00:22:18.120 it's all about the plans,

00:22:19.800 20,

00:22:20.140 20,

00:22:20.480 20,

00:22:20.800 20,

00:22:21.100 and you're knowing exactly

00:22:22.500 what you want to do next.

00:22:23.540 So if you're 30,

00:22:24.100 you're like by 39,

00:22:25.100 I should be doing XYZ.

00:22:26.480 So that's why I wrote that book.

00:22:27.980 I absolutely love that,

00:22:28.940 Patrick.

00:22:29.320 And let me tell you something

00:22:31.060 which really moved me

00:22:33.280 when you wrote the book.

00:22:34.840 The beginning,

00:22:35.920 dedication.

00:22:36.880 You dedicated it to your father.

00:22:38.560 Yeah.

00:22:38.920 And you said,

00:22:40.180 you said he was my Aristotle.

00:22:42.420 And I think a lot of people

00:22:43.740 didn't catch that

00:22:44.680 because a lot of people

00:22:45.920 are not history buffs

00:22:46.840 the way you and I are.

00:22:47.920 Because what happened was

00:22:49.560 one of the greatest leaders

00:22:51.600 of all time

00:22:52.340 was Alexander the Great.

00:22:54.320 And Alexander the Great

00:22:55.520 was the son of Philip of Macedon,

00:22:59.680 who was also another one

00:23:01.080 of the greatest leaders

00:23:01.780 of all time.

00:23:02.940 And Alexander had so much support

00:23:06.060 and he had his mentor

00:23:07.820 was Aristotle as well.

00:23:10.020 So when you think about

00:23:12.040 your father is this powerful,

00:23:14.660 dominant warlord,

00:23:15.980 but then he gives you

00:23:17.060 one of the wisest men

00:23:18.380 to ever walk the face

00:23:19.340 of the earth as a mentor,

00:23:20.500 to be able to sharpen your mind

00:23:22.320 as you're sharpening your body,

00:23:23.880 which by age of 32,

00:23:25.840 Alexander literally conquered

00:23:27.160 literally most of the known world

00:23:28.920 at that time.

00:23:29.980 So I love that

00:23:31.280 because it meant to me

00:23:32.760 how much your father meant to you,

00:23:34.960 how much wisdom

00:23:35.960 and information

00:23:36.860 and advice

00:23:38.520 and how he really blossomed you

00:23:40.440 as a man.

00:23:41.200 But unfortunately,

00:23:42.900 you know,

00:23:43.300 a lot of young men

00:23:44.300 don't have that.

00:23:45.080 A lot of men

00:23:46.080 don't have an Aristotle

00:23:47.140 the way you do

00:23:47.820 and the father that I did

00:23:49.000 and a lot of them are lost

00:23:50.500 and a lot of them are confused,

00:23:51.940 which is why I'm always

00:23:52.620 recommending your book.

00:23:54.060 So for a lot of these young men

00:23:55.540 who don't have a father

00:23:57.280 like yours,

00:23:58.540 who don't have that guidance

00:23:59.700 and direction,

00:24:00.400 who are even confused

00:24:01.540 about step number one,

00:24:03.340 what is some advice

00:24:05.000 that you would give

00:24:05.700 to those guys

00:24:06.740 who are just trying

00:24:07.660 to take that first initial step?

00:24:09.080 So, you know,

00:24:10.240 my dad,

00:24:11.680 what he passed down to me,

00:24:13.300 think about it.

00:24:13.820 I got a friend of mine

00:24:14.500 the other day

00:24:14.860 who called me.

00:24:15.540 He says,

00:24:15.860 look, Pat,

00:24:16.760 I watch your videos.

00:24:17.920 He says,

00:24:18.320 what you're passing down

00:24:19.420 to your kids

00:24:20.260 is books and reading

00:24:21.580 and knowledge.

00:24:22.800 He says,

00:24:23.140 that wasn't me.

00:24:23.780 What I'm passing down

00:24:24.660 to my kids is soccer.

00:24:25.980 I was a great soccer player.

00:24:27.960 So he coaches his kids

00:24:29.220 in soccer in ways

00:24:30.000 I could never do,

00:24:31.560 ever do.

00:24:32.620 His eight,

00:24:33.540 nine-year-old kid

00:24:34.260 in soccer,

00:24:34.940 videos were sent to me.

00:24:36.320 Let me tell you,

00:24:36.860 he'll do laps around my kids.

00:24:39.380 Not because maybe of the kid.

00:24:42.320 Maybe it's because of the father

00:24:44.180 who's a great teacher.

00:24:45.300 I'm not a great teacher

00:24:46.100 when it comes down to soccer

00:24:47.080 or baseball or basketball.

00:24:48.880 But I know how to pass

00:24:50.040 this down to you, right?

00:24:51.060 Okay.

00:24:51.780 My dad was never the entrepreneur.

00:24:53.480 My dad was never the businessman.

00:24:56.640 My dad wasn't a millionaire.

00:24:57.860 My dad, you know,

00:24:58.620 we've always lived

00:24:59.580 in an apartment complex.

00:25:00.760 We never had a house.

00:25:01.760 My dad wasn't,

00:25:02.760 he was a cashier

00:25:03.420 at a 99 cent store.

00:25:04.580 He wasn't like,

00:25:05.420 if you went to Inglewood,

00:25:06.300 Great Western Forums there,

00:25:08.160 a mile away,

00:25:09.060 my dad was in a 99 cent store,

00:25:10.540 right across from a KFC

00:25:11.860 and right next to a 20-20 store.

00:25:14.200 And when my parents got a divorce,

00:25:15.740 when we left Iran,

00:25:16.560 I was 10 years old.

00:25:17.400 10 or 12,

00:25:18.140 I didn't see my dad

00:25:18.860 because we lived

00:25:19.360 in a refugee camp.

00:25:20.260 My dad was back in,

00:25:22.000 he went from Iran

00:25:23.020 to Chicago,

00:25:23.920 down to LA.

00:25:24.840 Then when we came to LA

00:25:26.060 at 12,

00:25:27.300 he sent somebody

00:25:28.120 to our house

00:25:28.720 when we were living

00:25:29.300 in Doran,

00:25:30.020 in Glendale,

00:25:30.560 right next to Virgil's.

00:25:32.080 He said,

00:25:32.640 the lady said,

00:25:34.220 Patrick's father

00:25:36.380 would like to see him

00:25:37.340 and his sister.

00:25:38.840 And mom says,

00:25:39.700 do you guys want to see him?

00:25:40.340 I'm like,

00:25:40.540 yeah,

00:25:40.620 I want to see him.

00:25:41.260 So I went and saw my dad

00:25:42.180 and I saw my dad

00:25:42.900 once a month

00:25:43.620 for the next six years.

00:25:44.880 Then I joined the army

00:25:45.720 for three years,

00:25:46.360 then I came back.

00:25:47.120 But what did my dad

00:25:48.960 pass down to me?

00:25:49.980 Here's what my dad's

00:25:51.000 the Aristotle of my life.

00:25:53.480 My dad passed down to me

00:25:55.260 hard work

00:25:56.540 like you wouldn't believe.

00:25:58.440 My dad passed down to me,

00:26:00.300 if you say you're going

00:26:01.220 to start something,

00:26:02.200 you better finish it.

00:26:03.660 My dad passed down to me,

00:26:05.200 never be afraid of the truth.

00:26:07.000 Never.

00:26:07.320 He says,

00:26:07.600 don't win with your fist.

00:26:09.700 Win with results

00:26:10.560 and your words.

00:26:11.440 Never win with your fist

00:26:12.600 because there's no point there,

00:26:13.760 right?

00:26:14.500 He taught me values

00:26:16.000 and principles.

00:26:17.120 He would sit there

00:26:17.940 and say,

00:26:18.260 think about this.

00:26:19.700 You know,

00:26:20.160 Patrick,

00:26:20.820 you're too hurry sometimes.

00:26:22.460 You know,

00:26:23.080 if you want to,

00:26:23.900 if you put a seed

00:26:24.540 right in a watermelon,

00:26:25.500 how long will it take?

00:26:26.260 I'm like,

00:26:26.480 what is this guy talking about?

00:26:27.960 You know,

00:26:28.080 what are you talking about?

00:26:29.020 If you want a baby,

00:26:30.080 how long does it take?

00:26:30.860 Why does God say 40 weeks?

00:26:32.460 You can't just go have a baby today

00:26:34.040 and have it tomorrow.

00:26:35.060 Business is the same way.

00:26:36.140 You have to be,

00:26:36.760 so he brought the values

00:26:38.860 and principles side

00:26:39.940 on what it took place.

00:26:41.160 Now,

00:26:41.320 somebody doesn't have that.

00:26:42.340 Okay.

00:26:43.460 There's a 52,

00:26:44.960 55 year old man

00:26:46.060 just started a YouTube

00:26:46.860 channel last year.

00:26:48.080 Yep.

00:26:48.580 And in the first 90 days,

00:26:50.160 he got a million subscribers.

00:26:51.360 Remember you talking about that?

00:26:51.800 You know what the channel is?

00:26:52.980 It's called Dad How Do I.

00:26:54.540 Exactly.

00:26:55.020 By the way,

00:26:55.240 he only uploaded five videos.

00:26:56.820 I saw it.

00:26:57.400 Okay.

00:26:57.580 It wasn't like,

00:26:58.160 and none of his videos

00:26:58.880 got 50 million views.

00:27:00.300 One of his videos

00:27:01.100 got a million views,

00:27:01.940 but a guy on Facebook

00:27:03.120 posted the Facebook video

00:27:05.200 of that

00:27:05.660 and that video went viral

00:27:07.340 and said,

00:27:07.760 let's help this dad

00:27:09.140 get to a million subscribers.

00:27:11.000 So people got behind it.

00:27:12.040 Yeah.

00:27:12.460 And it's called

00:27:13.040 Dad How Do I.

00:27:14.160 So what does he do?

00:27:15.120 He shows people

00:27:15.920 how to change a,

00:27:17.880 you know,

00:27:18.260 leak you got in plumbing.

00:27:19.720 Okay.

00:27:20.080 He shows you how to paint the wall.

00:27:21.560 He shows you,

00:27:22.100 Dad,

00:27:22.240 how do I paint that?

00:27:23.040 How do I fix that?

00:27:23.740 How do I change the oil?

00:27:25.020 Very basic video that he made.

00:27:26.440 Okay.

00:27:27.020 What's the point there?

00:27:28.220 Here's the point.

00:27:30.080 There is nobody that grew up

00:27:32.120 with a perfect family.

00:27:34.180 None of us do.

00:27:35.120 Sometimes you look at the kid,

00:27:36.440 like,

00:27:36.620 oh,

00:27:36.720 look at that kid,

00:27:37.360 man.

00:27:37.580 He's so lucky.

00:27:38.660 You know,

00:27:38.800 mom and dad,

00:27:39.340 Christians,

00:27:39.900 and they live in a $10 million home

00:27:42.000 and they got nice cars

00:27:43.160 and look at the mom and dad

00:27:44.280 and all this other stuff.

00:27:45.580 You have no idea

00:27:46.400 that dad's got a cocaine addiction.

00:27:47.980 You have no idea

00:27:48.680 the mom and dad fight it.

00:27:49.540 You have no idea

00:27:50.260 that they don't even sleep

00:27:51.520 in the same bed.

00:27:52.020 You don't know everyone's drama,

00:27:53.640 but everyone's got

00:27:54.680 some kind of drama.

00:27:56.000 So I think one of the things

00:27:57.400 that helped me

00:27:58.020 is the following.

00:28:00.280 When I would look at my lack of

00:28:04.020 in an area of my life,

00:28:05.560 and I'd say,

00:28:05.840 oh my gosh,

00:28:06.340 but man,

00:28:06.700 my parents got a divorce.

00:28:07.660 Oh my gosh,

00:28:08.160 but I'm a one-pointer GPA.

00:28:09.300 Oh my gosh,

00:28:09.820 look at me.

00:28:10.560 I'm from Iran.

00:28:11.520 Nobody wants to buy insurance

00:28:12.580 from a guy that's Iranian

00:28:13.860 when 9-11 just happened.

00:28:15.160 I would hear all that stuff

00:28:16.400 that I'm feeding myself,

00:28:18.080 right?

00:28:19.360 I had one rule I followed.

00:28:20.920 Listen,

00:28:21.920 if you can talk,

00:28:23.640 if you can walk,

00:28:25.340 if you can see,

00:28:26.180 if you can hear,

00:28:27.280 if you can taste,

00:28:28.140 if you can smell,

00:28:29.140 if you speak a language,

00:28:30.320 if your mind works,

00:28:31.900 and you can do enough of that,

00:28:33.620 you can do whatever

00:28:34.300 you want to do in your life.

00:28:35.640 Period.

00:28:36.380 I don't need an alibi.

00:28:39.000 I don't need an excuse.

00:28:40.300 So for some people,

00:28:41.940 that is a father.

00:28:42.860 For some,

00:28:43.280 it's a mother.

00:28:44.240 For some,

00:28:44.860 it's abuse.

00:28:45.440 For some,

00:28:45.840 it's parents that were there,

00:28:46.760 but hardcore abuse,

00:28:48.220 which is sometimes worse

00:28:49.260 than not having a father,

00:28:50.820 because if there's hardcore abuse,

00:28:52.120 that abuse can go to a lot

00:28:53.160 of different levels,

00:28:53.800 right?

00:28:54.480 So,

00:28:55.380 you know,

00:28:55.780 sitting there and wondering

00:28:57.060 about what we lacked

00:28:58.620 and all this other stuff,

00:29:00.940 you know,

00:29:01.340 almost always for the rest

00:29:02.780 of your life,

00:29:03.500 you will always use

00:29:05.100 an alibi with that.

00:29:07.060 I had a guy that told me,

00:29:07.920 and he said,

00:29:08.800 messaging him right now,

00:29:09.840 and he says,

00:29:10.660 well,

00:29:10.940 you know,

00:29:11.320 you don't understand what's,

00:29:12.380 for example,

00:29:13.260 perfect example to give you,

00:29:14.200 we have two events

00:29:14.820 going on this week,

00:29:16.100 okay?

00:29:17.220 One is in Dallas,

00:29:18.520 one is in Louisville.

00:29:19.860 Both of them are expected

00:29:21.080 to have 2,000 to 4,000 people

00:29:22.600 at their events,

00:29:23.380 okay?

00:29:23.860 Dallas and Louisville.

00:29:24.860 Now watch this.

00:29:27.220 Dallas,

00:29:27.840 weather has a bad storm.

00:29:30.240 So,

00:29:30.440 Dallas is going to be

00:29:31.140 in the 20s to 40s.

00:29:33.380 This week,

00:29:34.400 Dallas is going to be

00:29:35.100 one degree on Monday.

00:29:36.760 One degree.

00:29:37.680 When I lived in Dallas

00:29:38.640 five years,

00:29:39.020 we never had one degree.

00:29:40.540 The other team's

00:29:41.400 going to Louisville.

00:29:42.540 Louisville's conditions

00:29:43.240 are also bad.

00:29:44.400 So,

00:29:44.580 I just did a Zoom today

00:29:45.380 and guess what I said?

00:29:46.120 I said,

00:29:46.320 guys,

00:29:47.160 this is the week

00:29:47.920 to see who's going to make

00:29:48.900 the least amount of excuses.

00:29:50.920 Both of you are going

00:29:52.040 to bad weather conditions.

00:29:53.880 Both of you,

00:29:54.920 but just like in sports

00:29:56.020 when they say

00:29:56.640 that other team

00:29:58.160 knows how to play

00:29:59.180 in the cold weather,

00:30:00.220 they're going to win.

00:30:01.240 We're about to find out

00:30:02.180 which one of you guys

00:30:02.920 can win in cold weather

00:30:04.580 and still make it happen,

00:30:05.800 right?

00:30:06.060 Okay.

00:30:07.820 Which means what?

00:30:08.940 Well,

00:30:09.120 but you don't understand.

00:30:10.240 The weather is cold,

00:30:10.980 but you don't understand.

00:30:11.960 Airports,

00:30:12.400 but you don't understand,

00:30:13.200 but you don't understand.

00:30:14.020 You can say,

00:30:14.600 but you don't understand

00:30:15.560 for the rest of your life

00:30:16.480 with mom,

00:30:17.140 dad,

00:30:17.480 girlfriend,

00:30:17.860 money,

00:30:18.120 all this other stuff.

00:30:19.180 But what you don't understand

00:30:20.240 is you get to choose

00:30:22.120 what you do

00:30:23.280 and how you handle

00:30:24.040 that moving forward.

00:30:24.860 So,

00:30:25.200 I'm not a big fan

00:30:26.360 of alibis.

00:30:27.100 I always put the pressure

00:30:28.000 back on the person

00:30:28.760 to say,

00:30:29.740 at the end of the day,

00:30:30.480 if you can,

00:30:30.940 you know,

00:30:31.260 smile,

00:30:31.600 walk,

00:30:31.860 talk,

00:30:32.080 all that other stuff,

00:30:33.180 you can go out there

00:30:33.780 and do whatever you want

00:30:34.400 to do with your life.

00:30:35.260 I love it.

00:30:35.720 So,

00:30:36.000 right now,

00:30:36.620 there's a guy,

00:30:37.880 he's 27 years old.

00:30:40.340 Okay.

00:30:41.720 He,

00:30:42.480 let's say he went to school,

00:30:44.740 didn't finish.

00:30:45.500 Okay.

00:30:46.060 He,

00:30:46.860 right now,

00:30:47.400 has a part-time job

00:30:48.700 making about $25,000 a year.

00:30:51.440 Okay.

00:30:52.180 And he doesn't really have

00:30:54.020 much drive in life.

00:30:55.800 What is the first step

00:30:57.280 that you're going to tell

00:30:57.920 that man to do?

00:30:58.840 Nothing.

00:30:59.940 Hmm.

00:31:00.240 Nothing.

00:31:02.720 Why does he not have

00:31:03.720 drive in his life?

00:31:04.980 So,

00:31:05.320 so,

00:31:05.800 let me give it to you

00:31:06.600 maybe from a different

00:31:07.260 perspective.

00:31:07.880 Okay.

00:31:08.740 Um,

00:31:09.700 my dad kept telling me

00:31:10.820 I'm lazy as a kid

00:31:11.760 because I was.

00:31:13.700 I was bored half the time.

00:31:15.520 Class,

00:31:16.180 everything was boring to me.

00:31:17.320 Hmm.

00:31:18.040 So,

00:31:19.040 eventually,

00:31:19.660 I go and I get a 1.8 GPA.

00:31:22.200 I have a job at Haagen-Dazs

00:31:23.560 and I worked my ass off

00:31:24.820 at night from 11 o'clock

00:31:25.980 to 12 o'clock

00:31:26.720 when everybody was asleep.

00:31:28.240 I'd go grab a shopping cart

00:31:29.840 and I would go into trash cans

00:31:31.560 and I would find

00:31:32.200 two liter bottles and cans

00:31:33.560 and then I would go to Albertson

00:31:34.640 and I would recycle.

00:31:35.460 So,

00:31:35.620 every night I was making

00:31:36.260 10 bucks a night

00:31:37.020 with my shopping cart

00:31:38.720 that I had.

00:31:39.240 10 or 20,

00:31:39.780 my friend and I would split it.

00:31:41.380 He would get half,

00:31:42.000 I would get half

00:31:42.580 and we'd collect it.

00:31:43.840 Why are you guys,

00:31:44.420 what are you guys doing?

00:31:45.600 Because we wanted to buy cards.

00:31:47.620 I wanted a Sergei Fedorov

00:31:49.180 rookie card.

00:31:49.860 I wanted a David Robinson

00:31:50.900 1989 Hoops rookie card.

00:31:52.720 So,

00:31:52.900 my motivation was what?

00:31:54.260 Cards at the time,

00:31:55.220 right?

00:31:55.500 Okay.

00:31:56.480 So,

00:31:57.320 later on

00:31:58.160 when I sat there

00:31:59.900 and I'm like,

00:32:00.420 you know,

00:32:00.760 lazy man,

00:32:01.220 this topic keeps coming up.

00:32:02.220 Lazy,

00:32:02.500 lazy,

00:32:02.780 lazy.

00:32:03.000 Why are people lazy?

00:32:04.760 Everything to me

00:32:05.640 is linking a word

00:32:07.020 to another word.

00:32:08.380 When somebody says,

00:32:09.660 man,

00:32:09.920 Patrick,

00:32:10.360 I'm the owner

00:32:11.000 of 100% of this company.

00:32:12.320 We're doing $5 million a year.

00:32:13.560 I want to bring another guy in,

00:32:14.660 but I just don't feel

00:32:15.900 like I can control.

00:32:16.800 I feel like I want

00:32:17.420 to control everybody.

00:32:18.700 I said,

00:32:18.980 can you tell me

00:32:19.380 why you want to control everybody?

00:32:20.620 Why?

00:32:21.280 I said,

00:32:21.560 what word links with control?

00:32:23.580 The more you want

00:32:24.520 to control somebody,

00:32:26.020 the less you trust them.

00:32:27.400 The less you want

00:32:28.220 to control somebody,

00:32:29.420 the more you trust them.

00:32:30.780 I said,

00:32:30.960 you simply don't trust your people.

00:32:32.380 So,

00:32:32.780 you got to figure out a way

00:32:33.920 how much of that is on you,

00:32:34.960 how much of that is on them.

00:32:35.880 I said,

00:32:36.020 okay,

00:32:36.320 that does kind of make sense.

00:32:37.660 You find somebody that's bitter.

00:32:38.980 Why is somebody bitter?

00:32:40.300 You're not part of a community

00:32:41.380 and you're not creating anything new.

00:32:43.400 The moment you no longer create

00:32:45.200 something of value to the world,

00:32:47.140 you become bitter.

00:32:48.060 Who's typically bitter?

00:32:49.300 Old man.

00:32:49.860 Old people.

00:32:50.540 Why are they bitter?

00:32:51.220 Because they're no longer contributing.

00:32:53.040 You got to figure out a way

00:32:54.160 to get them to contribute

00:32:55.280 to feel like I am still needed

00:32:57.440 in society.

00:32:58.800 The world still needs me.

00:33:00.360 Wooden died at 99.

00:33:01.720 John D. Rockefeller,

00:33:02.740 who was born in 1835,

00:33:04.140 said,

00:33:04.400 I'm going to live 100 years

00:33:05.520 and I'm going to make $100,000.

00:33:07.440 He didn't make $100,000.

00:33:08.840 In today's money,

00:33:09.540 he made $340 billion.

00:33:11.340 Do you know in 1835,

00:33:12.360 the average life expectancy

00:33:13.480 for a man was 39 and a half years old?

00:33:15.260 Do you know how long he lived?

00:33:16.740 97 years and 11 months

00:33:18.240 because he kept contributing.

00:33:20.200 Okay?

00:33:20.760 So,

00:33:20.980 when you look at this stuff

00:33:22.020 and you're like,

00:33:22.380 okay,

00:33:22.620 well,

00:33:22.740 here's what we got going on.

00:33:23.600 How about this 27-year-old kid

00:33:24.920 making 25 grand a year,

00:33:27.180 part-time job,

00:33:27.960 and has no drive?

00:33:29.120 He's bored out of his mind.

00:33:30.560 You either need an enemy,

00:33:32.080 you need a vision,

00:33:33.200 you need somebody

00:33:33.820 to tell you you can't do something,

00:33:34.900 you need to put yourself

00:33:35.680 in a position

00:33:36.180 where somebody slaps you around

00:33:37.480 that pisses you off

00:33:38.360 and you wake up

00:33:39.080 and you're like,

00:33:39.460 wait a minute,

00:33:39.840 what did you say?

00:33:40.840 I'm going to go out there

00:33:41.600 and go to war

00:33:42.100 and show you that

00:33:42.760 I'm going to do something big

00:33:43.500 with my life.

00:33:44.460 But that 25-year-old

00:33:45.580 is bored out of their minds

00:33:46.560 and quite frankly,

00:33:47.360 many times,

00:33:47.840 there's nothing you can do about it.

00:33:49.180 It has to come internal.

00:33:50.660 Look,

00:33:50.820 life is a test.

00:33:53.340 You're being tested right now.

00:33:54.760 I don't know how

00:33:55.180 you're being tested right now,

00:33:56.000 but somehow you're being tested.

00:33:56.920 It could be personal life,

00:33:57.540 it could be family,

00:33:58.060 it could be finance,

00:33:59.080 it could be ego,

00:33:59.840 it could be desires,

00:34:00.580 it could be a vice.

00:34:01.340 No one knows,

00:34:02.000 but you're being tested.

00:34:03.040 I'm being tested.

00:34:04.260 She's being tested.

00:34:05.500 He's being tested.

00:34:06.180 There's not a person right now

00:34:07.220 that's not being tested, right?

00:34:08.780 Some of us don't pass the test.

00:34:10.980 Who controls that?

00:34:12.300 You do.

00:34:13.080 That's not on you and I.

00:34:14.320 So that 25-year-old,

00:34:15.960 that 27-year-old

00:34:17.120 is being tested today

00:34:18.660 and he's failing today

00:34:20.080 because he has no desire

00:34:21.520 to go out there

00:34:22.000 and do something.

00:34:22.860 He has to figure out a way

00:34:24.280 to self-motivate himself right now.

00:34:26.000 There's nothing you and I can do.

00:34:27.300 At the end of the day,

00:34:28.080 the individual has to want

00:34:29.120 to help themselves.

00:34:30.140 We can't make miracles.

00:34:31.140 I can bring Tony Robbins,

00:34:33.460 Joel Osteen,

00:34:34.060 bring the biggest motivational speakers

00:34:37.100 in the world,

00:34:37.540 put them in a room

00:34:38.660 of 1,000 people

00:34:39.540 and you're still going

00:34:40.660 to have 80% of people

00:34:41.540 that are going to do nothing

00:34:42.300 when they leave that room.

00:34:43.980 Numbers are numbers.

00:34:44.900 That person's got to

00:34:45.560 want it themselves.

00:34:46.240 There's nothing you can do about it.

00:34:47.500 Man, so the first time I met you,

00:34:49.960 I remember you came in the room

00:34:51.700 and there was an energy shift

00:34:55.820 in the room

00:34:56.480 when you walked into the room

00:34:57.660 and the only way

00:35:00.120 I could describe it

00:35:00.980 is like this dragon energy.

00:35:02.340 It was like this powerful being

00:35:04.140 and the more I began to read

00:35:06.260 and to learn,

00:35:07.000 it's this sense

00:35:08.020 of this masculine energy

00:35:09.420 that you exude

00:35:10.380 and one of the things

00:35:11.820 that I was reading about

00:35:12.880 is this masculine energy

00:35:14.140 is this initiative.

00:35:15.540 It's this drive.

00:35:16.460 It's this passion

00:35:17.120 and you can just feel it

00:35:18.820 when somebody walks in the room

00:35:20.140 to which I believe you said

00:35:21.700 like part of your family crest

00:35:23.320 is a lion.

00:35:23.960 Did you communicate that?

00:35:25.200 And that's what it embodies, right?

00:35:26.720 This fierce, ferocious,

00:35:27.840 competitive go-getter

00:35:28.860 and you're 100% right.

00:35:30.780 For a lot of these young men,

00:35:32.880 they don't have that in them.

00:35:34.840 You know,

00:35:35.140 they don't have it in them.

00:35:36.640 And so,

00:35:37.640 I know you said

00:35:38.380 there's nothing

00:35:38.660 that we can do about it

00:35:39.940 but have you seen anybody

00:35:42.000 go from very passive

00:35:43.640 and lazy

00:35:44.300 and then awaken

00:35:45.260 that inner lion?

00:35:46.160 Myself.

00:35:46.780 Okay.

00:35:47.580 Myself.

00:35:48.400 See,

00:35:49.000 the reason why

00:35:49.780 I believe people change

00:35:50.940 is because

00:35:51.400 I've witnessed my life.

00:35:53.800 If you were to,

00:35:54.660 you know,

00:35:54.880 one of the things

00:35:55.320 I did a few years ago,

00:35:56.680 I brought up

00:35:58.000 my former sergeant

00:35:59.680 from the army.

00:36:00.680 Okay.

00:36:02.200 And I put him on stage.

00:36:04.000 I said,

00:36:04.140 I want you to tell everybody

00:36:04.840 a little bit

00:36:05.260 about who I was in the army.

00:36:06.540 And we started telling stories.

00:36:08.480 I ended up bringing my sister

00:36:10.380 into the business with me.

00:36:11.380 She's one of our vice presidents now,

00:36:12.780 Paulette and Siamak.

00:36:13.580 They do a great job.

00:36:14.800 They're one of the vice presidents

00:36:15.680 in the company.

00:36:17.120 And I told everybody,

00:36:19.120 go ask my sister

00:36:20.020 anything you want to ask

00:36:21.480 about how I was.

00:36:22.580 And I said,

00:36:23.180 Paulette,

00:36:23.840 say whatever you want to say.

00:36:25.060 I'm good.

00:36:25.760 And she would say,

00:36:26.420 Pat was lazy.

00:36:27.140 Pat was this.

00:36:27.840 Yeah,

00:36:28.000 totally fine.

00:36:28.960 I'm okay.

00:36:30.340 Then I brought another friend

00:36:31.680 who from the military

00:36:32.940 and people would ask him

00:36:34.780 the questions.

00:36:35.380 Hey,

00:36:35.500 how was Pat?

00:36:35.980 How was this?

00:36:36.440 How was that?

00:36:37.100 I don't have any problems

00:36:38.080 with that.

00:36:38.800 Then I went and called.

00:36:39.720 One of my friends

00:36:40.280 called me one time.

00:36:41.020 I'll never forget this.

00:36:41.740 His name is Adrian.

00:36:42.900 And he said,

00:36:43.560 hey,

00:36:43.700 can we go out to lunch?

00:36:44.560 And we went out to lunch.

00:36:45.300 This was even 12 years ago,

00:36:46.860 maybe 10 years ago,

00:36:47.560 maybe even before

00:36:48.480 like I was online anything.

00:36:50.980 And he says,

00:36:51.360 Pat,

00:36:51.520 can I tell you something?

00:36:52.220 I said,

00:36:52.560 yeah.

00:36:53.000 At the time,

00:36:53.580 I'm probably making

00:36:54.180 quarter million

00:36:54.920 to a half a million dollars

00:36:55.780 when him and I

00:36:56.280 are having this conversation,

00:36:57.180 my late 20s.

00:36:58.060 He says,

00:36:58.700 I'm going to tell you something

00:37:00.140 that most of your friends

00:37:00.880 are not going to tell you.

00:37:01.580 So what's that,

00:37:02.080 Adrian?

00:37:02.760 He says,

00:37:03.180 Pat,

00:37:03.460 I never thought

00:37:04.320 you were going to make it.

00:37:05.340 I'm not one of these guys

00:37:06.140 that's going to tell you.

00:37:06.800 I know Pat was going to make it.

00:37:07.720 He says,

00:37:07.740 Pat,

00:37:07.880 I never thought

00:37:08.520 you were going to make it.

00:37:09.380 I never thought

00:37:10.140 you could know anything

00:37:10.840 with your life.

00:37:11.480 When you went into the army,

00:37:12.300 I thought that was it.

00:37:12.940 Like you're going to go

00:37:13.420 make 38 grand,

00:37:14.340 40 grand,

00:37:14.780 and that's it.

00:37:15.580 He says,

00:37:16.180 I am shocked

00:37:16.940 at who you became.

00:37:17.840 Okay,

00:37:18.080 perfect.

00:37:18.820 So now flip it.

00:37:19.500 You asked me the question

00:37:20.140 with this 25-year-old.

00:37:22.500 I'm telling you,

00:37:23.300 I didn't have any fire.

00:37:25.400 I didn't have any fire.

00:37:26.840 One day,

00:37:28.960 I'm at UCLA Medical Center

00:37:31.760 in LA.

00:37:33.720 My dad has a heart attack.

00:37:34.960 You've heard me

00:37:35.340 tell this story before.

00:37:36.120 My dad has a heart attack.

00:37:37.820 And you know,

00:37:38.120 my dad is like,

00:37:38.820 my dad,

00:37:39.300 at this time,

00:37:39.820 I'm partying five,

00:37:40.500 six days a week.

00:37:41.040 I'm in Vegas

00:37:41.600 every other weekend.

00:37:42.900 So I go to the hospital

00:37:43.940 and I see him.

00:37:44.520 And I see him laying in bed

00:37:46.380 and the nurse,

00:37:46.960 he's calling the nurse

00:37:47.660 not showing up.

00:37:48.340 The nurse gave him

00:37:49.100 a little bit of an attitude

00:37:49.920 and that's when I lost it.

00:37:51.840 I'm calling out the nurse

00:37:53.300 just acting fully irresponsible

00:37:55.360 at the hospital.

00:37:55.940 My dad is panicking.

00:37:56.940 Patrick,

00:37:57.340 please calm down.

00:37:58.200 Please calm down.

00:37:58.880 And he just had a heart attack.

00:37:59.860 Just foolish.

00:38:01.660 Absolutely.

00:38:02.260 There's nothing about my behavior

00:38:03.900 that was acceptable

00:38:04.760 except the fact

00:38:06.000 that I wanted my dad

00:38:06.900 to get better service,

00:38:07.900 right?

00:38:09.140 So eventually,

00:38:09.700 they kick me out.

00:38:10.540 I get kicked out of the hospital.

00:38:11.740 I can't go visit my dad.

00:38:12.680 They kick me out of the hospital

00:38:13.980 and I get in my car,

00:38:17.160 Ford Focus,

00:38:18.300 and I sit there

00:38:19.120 and I cry

00:38:20.360 for 30 straight minutes,

00:38:22.720 okay?

00:38:24.120 The next day,

00:38:25.220 I told my friends,

00:38:26.520 never ever call me again

00:38:27.900 to go to clubs.

00:38:29.140 Pat,

00:38:29.540 come on,

00:38:29.840 man.

00:38:29.920 What are you talking about?

00:38:30.580 I said,

00:38:30.740 don't ever call me again.

00:38:31.660 I'm not going.

00:38:32.920 You're not going to see me

00:38:33.560 at the clubs anymore.

00:38:34.800 I'm not going to party with you.

00:38:36.040 I'm not going to go

00:38:36.580 to clubs with you.

00:38:37.260 Pat,

00:38:37.440 you're out of your mind.

00:38:38.020 There's no way in the world

00:38:38.840 you can stop.

00:38:40.420 We all know who you are

00:38:41.360 because I was great

00:38:42.300 at the party and said,

00:38:43.320 you will never stop.

00:38:44.420 I said,

00:38:44.700 okay,

00:38:45.040 I'm just telling you,

00:38:46.140 don't call me anymore.

00:38:47.360 So they started calling me.

00:38:48.660 One month,

00:38:49.820 two months,

00:38:50.660 three months,

00:38:51.400 six months.

00:38:51.900 Guess what happened?

00:38:53.260 Never went to the clubs

00:38:54.340 ever again.

00:38:55.380 That night decision was made.

00:38:56.580 The old Pat died.

00:38:57.580 I killed the old Pat.

00:38:59.160 Give you another part

00:38:59.900 of the story here.

00:39:01.400 One day,

00:39:02.440 I'm sitting there,

00:39:03.080 I'm like,

00:39:03.620 why do I drink?

00:39:05.100 I don't know why I'm drinking.

00:39:06.780 Done with alcohol.

00:39:08.000 I dropped alcohol

00:39:08.760 and I stopped drinking.

00:39:10.180 Now this is coming from a guy

00:39:11.260 that every weekend in the army

00:39:12.440 I would drink two bottles

00:39:13.420 of tequila

00:39:13.940 when I would go to the clubs.

00:39:15.780 We would drive from Kentucky

00:39:16.840 all the way up to Nashville,

00:39:17.860 Tennessee,

00:39:18.840 Mixed Factory Connections,

00:39:20.500 Silverados,

00:39:21.200 all this stuff.

00:39:22.160 And by the time we got there,

00:39:23.340 we're hammered.

00:39:23.940 If you see most of my military

00:39:25.140 pictures in Nashville,

00:39:26.440 if there's any military picture

00:39:28.080 you see out of my album

00:39:28.960 in Nashville,

00:39:29.560 I am hammered.

00:39:30.620 And you'll see it

00:39:31.400 on the look of my face.

00:39:32.600 To all of a sudden saying,

00:39:34.060 dude,

00:39:34.200 I'm done.

00:39:35.020 Okay?

00:39:36.060 And to me saying,

00:39:37.640 no sex for 17 months

00:39:39.320 until I make my money.

00:39:40.680 I made some drastic decisions.

00:39:42.680 Who can't do that?

00:39:43.720 They can do that.

00:39:44.800 You control the choice.

00:39:46.080 See,

00:39:46.540 the reason why capitalism

00:39:47.980 is a beautiful thing

00:39:49.060 is because of four things.

00:39:50.760 You have the freedom to buy

00:39:52.100 whatever you want to buy

00:39:53.020 that's legal.

00:39:54.060 You have the freedom to sell

00:39:55.220 whatever you want to sell

00:39:56.380 that's legal.

00:39:57.480 You have the freedom

00:39:58.200 to try whatever you want.

00:40:00.300 You don't want to do real estate?

00:40:01.460 Try insurance.

00:40:02.220 You don't want to do insurance?

00:40:02.960 Try digital marketing.

00:40:03.740 You don't want to go try YouTube.

00:40:05.100 You can try anything you want.

00:40:06.600 But you know what the last one is?

00:40:07.640 The freedom to fail.

00:40:09.880 We don't give enough credit to this.

00:40:11.640 The reason why certain people

00:40:12.960 in the world

00:40:13.520 are respected and admired

00:40:15.260 at the level that they are

00:40:16.540 is because so many people fail.

00:40:18.920 Because when the pressure hits,

00:40:20.420 most people leave the arena.

00:40:22.060 We all root for the people

00:40:23.500 in the arena

00:40:24.060 and we criticize them.

00:40:26.540 What we don't recognize

00:40:27.920 is the fact that

00:40:29.360 whoever is in the arena

00:40:30.560 getting their asses handed to them,

00:40:32.360 at least they had the courage

00:40:33.780 to get in the arena.

00:40:35.360 They're not fans on the outside.

00:40:37.020 They're in the arena fighting.

00:40:38.640 Those are the people we admire.

00:40:40.020 So these young guys

00:40:41.000 that you're talking about,

00:40:41.880 Pat,

00:40:42.200 you know,

00:40:42.400 a lot of people

00:40:42.740 don't have the drive.

00:40:44.000 I wish you knew me

00:40:45.020 in my early 20s.

00:40:46.780 You would have had more confidence

00:40:48.100 in people being able to shift

00:40:49.260 because I had to choose.

00:40:50.600 One thing happened.

00:40:52.240 Next thing,

00:40:52.920 I'm a whole different person.

00:40:53.800 I love that, man.

00:40:55.000 That message,

00:40:55.640 I hope the guys took that to heart.

00:40:57.780 And so one of the things

00:40:59.460 is there's a lot of conversations

00:41:01.540 about, you know,

00:41:03.440 the behaviors of very successful men.

00:41:05.680 And, you know,

00:41:06.460 and I always said

00:41:07.380 there's levels to the game.

00:41:08.760 You know,

00:41:09.060 there's the guys that,

00:41:10.960 you know,

00:41:11.260 there's a hundred thousands,

00:41:12.420 there's a million,

00:41:13.320 there's a 10 million,

00:41:14.040 you know,

00:41:15.180 Pat's at the top of the level.

00:41:16.920 You know what I mean?

00:41:17.220 Pat is a guy

00:41:18.140 who is an extremely successful man.

00:41:20.020 A lot of people

00:41:20.600 will show things on social media,

00:41:22.640 but Patrick hands down

00:41:24.520 successful man

00:41:26.240 that you cannot deny.

00:41:28.340 So one of the questions

00:41:29.740 that people always ask

00:41:31.060 is what is the incentive

00:41:32.540 of a very successful,

00:41:33.720 especially financially successful man

00:41:35.560 to settle down

00:41:36.520 and become and get married?

00:41:38.060 So I'm very curious about

00:41:39.640 from your personal perspective

00:41:41.280 as a man who was

00:41:42.700 being successful,

00:41:43.760 who had an onward trajectory,

00:41:45.340 who was doing so well,

00:41:46.540 what made you decide

00:41:48.080 to get married?

00:41:49.180 The risk is very high,

00:41:50.240 by the way,

00:41:50.680 to get married.

00:41:51.380 You know,

00:41:51.640 for me,

00:41:52.160 when I was 28,

00:41:52.900 I had made a decision,

00:41:53.700 I'm never going to get married.

00:41:54.760 Oh, wow.

00:41:55.280 I'm staying single.

00:41:56.920 And my assistant,

00:41:58.600 very good friend of mine

00:41:59.500 at that time,

00:42:00.260 Sandra,

00:42:00.800 Patty,

00:42:01.700 said,

00:42:01.980 why don't you go read this book,

00:42:02.920 101 Questions to Ask

00:42:04.000 Before You Get Engaged

00:42:04.940 by Norman Wright.

00:42:05.820 So I read the book.

00:42:07.120 When I read the book,

00:42:07.900 I'm like,

00:42:08.260 huh,

00:42:08.700 interesting.

00:42:09.200 I was talking to four girls

00:42:10.240 at the time.

00:42:10.640 I said,

00:42:10.860 why don't you guys read this book

00:42:11.760 as well and see how you feel about it?

00:42:13.460 So they did.

00:42:14.160 I'm like,

00:42:14.500 I could never be with you.

00:42:15.760 You and I would never work out.

00:42:18.560 But I asked the one question,

00:42:20.120 why get married?

00:42:21.000 There's way too much risk to it.

00:42:23.540 So then I sat there and said,

00:42:24.640 well,

00:42:24.900 you have somebody

00:42:25.560 to come home to every night.

00:42:26.760 You can still have somebody

00:42:27.780 to come home to if you're single.

00:42:29.160 Matter of fact,

00:42:29.540 you can have options.

00:42:30.860 You know what I mean?

00:42:31.600 When you have the money,

00:42:32.320 you can do whatever

00:42:32.840 you want to do with that.

00:42:34.280 Yeah,

00:42:34.940 but tax benefits,

00:42:36.520 I don't care about that.

00:42:37.320 I can move to another state

00:42:38.440 and get better tax benefits.

00:42:40.320 It's somebody that you're,

00:42:41.960 you know,

00:42:42.620 it's somebody that can help you.

00:42:44.140 It's somebody that can do this.

00:42:45.300 It's not there yet.

00:42:47.640 And then it goes to,

00:42:49.400 okay,

00:42:50.280 look,

00:42:50.840 you can make all the money

00:42:51.800 in the world.

00:42:52.980 Then what?

00:42:53.800 Like what leaves you?

00:42:55.000 A book?

00:42:55.680 Yeah,

00:42:55.960 they say the Jewish proverb says

00:42:57.500 there's three things

00:42:58.220 every man should do.

00:42:59.520 Write a book,

00:43:00.300 plant a tree,

00:43:01.480 have a son.

00:43:02.520 Why?

00:43:03.360 Because they all outlive you.

00:43:05.360 We as men

00:43:06.400 want to live

00:43:08.160 thousands of years.

00:43:09.820 The only way

00:43:10.680 you're going to live

00:43:11.140 thousands of years

00:43:11.940 is by the value

00:43:12.740 you bring to the world

00:43:13.400 that's documented.

00:43:14.080 It's by

00:43:15.740 giving back to,

00:43:17.320 and I know the tree

00:43:18.160 is what they're saying

00:43:18.760 with tree,

00:43:19.240 not even tree today

00:43:20.080 because a tree

00:43:20.780 is being cut down

00:43:21.580 and turned into paper.

00:43:22.500 It's a business model now,

00:43:23.360 right?

00:43:24.380 But it's family.

00:43:26.320 It's blood.

00:43:27.560 And when you see

00:43:28.460 your kid

00:43:29.480 and you find somebody

00:43:31.460 to build a family with

00:43:32.980 that's a good partner,

00:43:34.560 meshes with you,

00:43:35.360 good personality,

00:43:36.340 you sit there and say,

00:43:37.140 okay, great,

00:43:37.720 this looks good.

00:43:39.040 We can actually pull this off.

00:43:40.420 Then there's value for it.

00:43:41.500 But I'm going to tell you

00:43:42.460 something here right now.

00:43:43.440 Basic rules about

00:43:44.080 getting married today.

00:43:45.220 If I'm a man,

00:43:46.620 I'm not getting married

00:43:47.280 before 30 at all.

00:43:49.540 I would not even think

00:43:51.260 about getting married

00:43:52.140 pre-30.

00:43:52.880 A lot of people argue with me.

00:43:54.380 You don't know

00:43:54.720 what you're talking about.

00:43:55.500 I got married at 22 years old

00:43:56.900 and I'm happily married.

00:43:57.720 I'm 62.

00:43:58.960 22, 62,

00:44:00.500 that was 40 years ago.

00:44:01.460 That means the 80s.

00:44:02.540 You didn't have social media.

00:44:03.800 You didn't have Snapchat.

00:44:04.540 You didn't have Tinder.

00:44:05.200 You don't have accessibility

00:44:06.000 to what's out there today.

00:44:08.440 Accessibility to sex today

00:44:10.000 is so easy.

00:44:11.480 The ability to be tempted today

00:44:13.380 and screw up

00:44:14.040 is so easy.

00:44:15.160 The ability to screw up

00:44:16.600 and make a royally,

00:44:17.680 publicly humiliating mistake

00:44:19.260 today is very high.

00:44:21.220 And a no man walk on water.

00:44:23.360 And no man walks on water.

00:44:25.700 Everybody sees and says,

00:44:26.640 oh my gosh,

00:44:27.140 oh she's beautiful.

00:44:27.820 But I'm married.

00:44:28.680 There's nobody that's perfect

00:44:30.380 to say,

00:44:31.060 oh I don't have to worry

00:44:31.720 about the mistakes

00:44:32.200 I'm going to make.

00:44:32.880 The risk is high today.

00:44:35.040 The reward is not as high

00:44:37.400 as it used to be.

00:44:38.160 Because at least back in the days,

00:44:39.900 you know back in the days,

00:44:41.160 say you and your wife

00:44:41.840 came into a fight

00:44:42.540 20 years ago.

00:44:43.800 You got a 30 minute drive.

00:44:45.480 Okay?

00:44:45.800 And at the office

00:44:46.400 you talk to her.

00:44:47.460 Why don't I come home

00:44:48.280 and talk to you tonight?

00:44:49.760 You got 30 minutes

00:44:50.500 to calm down

00:44:50.960 by the time you come home.

00:44:52.400 Today if you get into a fight,

00:44:53.940 instantly that second

00:44:55.280 what you want to say,

00:44:56.160 you say.

00:44:56.640 So you offend,

00:44:57.300 you offend,

00:44:57.720 you offend,

00:44:58.140 you offend,

00:44:58.580 scar, scar, scar, scar, scar,

00:44:59.660 scar.

00:45:00.380 It's just like,

00:45:01.020 dude, I'm so done

00:45:01.560 with this marriage.

00:45:02.280 So today we have

00:45:03.580 too much of the opportunity

00:45:04.920 to react instantly.

00:45:06.220 There's too much instant reaction

00:45:08.100 and hey,

00:45:09.620 you don't know

00:45:09.940 what you're talking about.

00:45:10.660 That fight is too instant.

00:45:12.160 So those are all scars

00:45:13.260 that you're leaving

00:45:13.800 on each other, right?

00:45:14.820 And eventually

00:45:15.520 after all the scars

00:45:16.340 you get,

00:45:16.620 it's like,

00:45:16.900 I just have no desire

00:45:19.120 to do anything

00:45:19.620 with you in bed anymore.

00:45:20.460 I really don't.

00:45:21.280 I'm good.

00:45:21.600 I'm just,

00:45:21.860 you're facing this way.

00:45:22.960 She's facing that way.

00:45:24.180 So it has to be built

00:45:24.940 on the right values

00:45:25.580 and principles.

00:45:26.700 It has to be somebody

00:45:27.500 that you date

00:45:28.480 for some time

00:45:29.160 and you see all the dark side

00:45:30.700 of them and yourself

00:45:31.400 to see if you can do this

00:45:32.380 or not.

00:45:33.560 Preferably a referral

00:45:34.420 that's coming through somebody

00:45:35.500 instead of cold.

00:45:36.940 I knew my wife

00:45:38.200 five and a half years

00:45:38.900 before we got married.

00:45:39.840 She knew my flaws.

00:45:40.500 I knew her flaws.

00:45:41.100 Oh yeah,

00:45:41.300 she dated other guys.

00:45:42.200 I dated other girls

00:45:42.980 and eventually we said,

00:45:44.680 let's see what could happen here

00:45:45.760 and we build a family together.

00:45:47.360 You have to create

00:45:48.120 certain criterias

00:45:49.160 before you,

00:45:50.520 and when you get married,

00:45:51.500 watch the fights.

00:45:52.740 Watch the arguments.

00:45:54.240 Watch how people argue.

00:45:55.340 I remember one time

00:45:55.960 my wife,

00:45:56.740 we were dating

00:45:57.380 and she is about to lose

00:46:01.880 financially.

00:46:03.400 She wasn't the best of place

00:46:04.360 at that time.

00:46:05.160 Certain challenges took place.

00:46:06.980 She was in a mortgage

00:46:07.580 real estate business

00:46:08.480 and one month,

00:46:10.140 she calls,

00:46:10.460 we've been together

00:46:10.940 for three months.

00:46:11.460 She says,

00:46:12.080 you know,

00:46:13.100 this month,

00:46:13.760 I don't know

00:46:14.020 how I'm going to pay my rent.

00:46:16.280 I'm like,

00:46:16.660 ooh.

00:46:18.180 Okay.

00:46:18.860 Let's see where this goes.

00:46:19.960 Yeah.

00:46:20.520 She said,

00:46:20.740 I don't know

00:46:20.980 how I'm going to pay my rent.

00:46:21.880 Like,

00:46:22.160 really?

00:46:22.540 Yeah.

00:46:22.820 Yeah.

00:46:23.500 Hmm.

00:46:24.380 What are you thinking

00:46:25.000 you're going to do?

00:46:26.320 I don't know.

00:46:27.360 What do you think

00:46:27.800 I should do?

00:46:28.920 I said,

00:46:29.500 well,

00:46:29.640 number one,

00:46:30.320 I would go return

00:46:31.340 your BMW that you have.

00:46:32.940 That's $850 a month

00:46:34.100 car payment,

00:46:34.740 white convertible.

00:46:35.560 I'd go return that

00:46:36.260 and say,

00:46:36.760 can't pay the payment anymore.

00:46:38.680 What else would you do?

00:46:39.840 Number two,

00:46:40.860 I'd go back

00:46:41.660 and I would get a Nissan Sentra

00:46:43.020 $200 a month.

00:46:44.000 That saves you $600 a month.

00:46:45.880 Okay.

00:46:46.240 What else would you do?

00:46:47.360 I'd go back

00:46:48.120 and I know you're doing

00:46:48.800 insurance and real estate,

00:46:49.780 right?

00:46:49.920 And I'd go back

00:46:50.480 and get your old job

00:46:51.640 where you worked

00:46:52.300 to give you a good

00:46:53.600 shift where they can

00:46:54.160 pay you $40,000

00:46:55.000 that at least covers

00:46:55.980 your,

00:46:56.260 what do you call it,

00:46:57.100 expenses.

00:46:57.540 What else would you do?

00:46:58.740 Boom,

00:46:59.040 boom,

00:46:59.160 boom.

00:46:59.280 I said what I said

00:47:00.040 and she says,

00:47:01.800 okay.

00:47:02.800 I said,

00:47:03.200 what do you mean?

00:47:04.060 Let's go return the car.

00:47:06.120 I said,

00:47:06.320 you sure?

00:47:07.280 That day,

00:47:08.100 we drove to BMW.

00:47:09.220 She returned her car.

00:47:10.100 Then we dropped up

00:47:10.680 to Sentra.

00:47:11.200 She got to Sentra.

00:47:11.960 Then she went back

00:47:12.520 to her job

00:47:12.980 and she got a job

00:47:13.680 and I said,

00:47:15.440 never once did she say,

00:47:17.080 can you lend me $1,250?

00:47:18.440 Not one time.

00:47:19.720 So to me,

00:47:20.400 that was like,

00:47:21.180 okay,

00:47:21.520 because my biggest concern

00:47:22.500 was,

00:47:22.880 oh,

00:47:23.600 so you're kind of trying to

00:47:24.580 never did that

00:47:25.860 and I said,

00:47:26.720 she has no clue.

00:47:27.400 She just passed

00:47:27.880 an incredible test

00:47:28.640 for us,

00:47:29.520 right?

00:47:29.740 So it's very risky

00:47:32.580 and there is no 100%.

00:47:34.220 Everything about marriage

00:47:35.340 today's odds

00:47:36.200 and sometimes

00:47:37.480 you can have a fight

00:47:38.640 that no matter what,

00:47:39.780 you know,

00:47:40.100 Kansas City Chiefs

00:47:40.860 are supposed to win

00:47:41.460 the Super Bowl

00:47:41.900 and Brady could still win

00:47:43.240 so you can still

00:47:44.260 do all of it right

00:47:46.140 and the odds

00:47:47.100 are in your favor

00:47:47.640 for this marriage to work.

00:47:48.860 It could still fail.

00:47:49.700 Yeah.

00:47:50.280 No,

00:47:50.680 that is a conversation

00:47:53.040 that we're always having

00:47:53.920 and I think to me,

00:47:55.340 similar to you,

00:47:56.040 I think the advantage

00:47:57.280 of a man's ability

00:47:58.900 to raise his son

00:47:59.960 is so important

00:48:00.780 in today,

00:48:01.780 especially as the world

00:48:02.580 gets more and more crazy.

00:48:03.940 I just think,

00:48:04.540 you know,

00:48:05.060 that's one of the incentives

00:48:06.080 for me

00:48:07.020 is that like similar

00:48:08.220 to how my father

00:48:09.300 was able to be

00:48:10.240 in my life

00:48:10.780 and I know you shared

00:48:11.580 a story last time

00:48:12.240 on the podcast

00:48:12.880 how having that

00:48:14.200 one week with your dad,

00:48:15.580 one day a week

00:48:16.060 with your dad

00:48:16.660 really shaped your life

00:48:18.500 and I always said

00:48:19.120 that I grew up

00:48:20.400 very rich

00:48:21.040 and people are like,

00:48:22.100 oh my gosh,

00:48:22.740 you know,

00:48:22.920 you're a spoiled

00:48:23.340 how much courage

00:48:24.080 you're like,

00:48:24.440 no,

00:48:24.560 no,

00:48:24.660 no,

00:48:24.800 we,

00:48:25.400 my parents

00:48:25.820 were immigrants,

00:48:27.020 we had no money

00:48:27.700 but my dad gave me

00:48:29.160 so much love

00:48:30.100 and time

00:48:30.980 and that was the richness

00:48:33.000 that I grew up with

00:48:33.880 so for me,

00:48:34.960 the beauty and value

00:48:36.280 is in that for marriage

00:48:37.580 and so you made a point

00:48:39.080 about criteria

00:48:40.020 for selecting a wife

00:48:41.660 so if your son

00:48:42.640 was 32 years old,

00:48:44.800 you know,

00:48:45.060 he established himself

00:48:45.960 financially,

00:48:46.500 you see he's doing well

00:48:47.920 and he's trying

00:48:48.580 to settle down,

00:48:49.300 what would be

00:48:50.100 three criteria

00:48:51.300 that you give him

00:48:52.160 for a wife

00:48:52.740 that comes off

00:48:53.420 the top of your mind?

00:48:54.460 Yeah,

00:48:54.600 so first of all,

00:48:55.060 you have to be

00:48:55.560 physically attracted

00:48:56.360 so that's not even

00:48:57.520 one of the three

00:48:58.240 but you do have

00:48:59.000 to be physically attracted

00:49:00.040 so the whole idea

00:49:01.300 about,

00:49:01.660 well,

00:49:01.920 it doesn't matter,

00:49:02.780 oh no,

00:49:03.240 it matters,

00:49:04.520 okay,

00:49:04.680 it matters

00:49:05.080 and by the way,

00:49:05.860 my wife and I

00:49:06.400 until today,

00:49:06.820 we talk and we say,

00:49:07.600 hey,

00:49:08.120 you know,

00:49:08.420 we have to stay in shape

00:49:09.140 for each other,

00:49:09.700 we have to be attractive

00:49:10.600 to each other,

00:49:11.240 you know,

00:49:11.400 we have to want to have

00:49:12.300 sex with each other

00:49:12.980 because that is

00:49:14.100 a very important

00:49:15.000 part of marriage

00:49:15.720 so it's not like

00:49:16.380 280 pounds

00:49:17.820 but you said

00:49:18.460 through thick and thin,

00:49:20.060 yeah,

00:49:20.240 it's a little too much

00:49:20.960 thick right now

00:49:21.740 and I'd like some thin,

00:49:22.980 right,

00:49:23.260 you know,

00:49:23.720 but,

00:49:24.320 you know,

00:49:24.800 so that is a part

00:49:26.560 and sometimes men

00:49:27.560 let themselves go

00:49:28.380 and you see,

00:49:28.880 you know,

00:49:29.200 they got a big pouch,

00:49:30.060 but you're my wife,

00:49:31.700 that's not how things work,

00:49:33.000 you know,

00:49:33.220 you have to,

00:49:33.900 but let's set that

00:49:34.940 part aside,

00:49:35.600 let's set that part aside.

00:49:36.500 For me,

00:49:39.940 number one would be

00:49:40.920 values and principles

00:49:42.280 and I'll explain to you

00:49:42.960 from my parents' standpoint,

00:49:44.080 my parents,

00:49:44.660 both my parents

00:49:45.400 are Christians,

00:49:46.080 right,

00:49:46.400 but why did I get a divorce?

00:49:47.460 Here's why,

00:49:47.900 my mom was a communist,

00:49:49.660 my dad was an imperialist,

00:49:51.560 my mother believed

00:49:52.780 rich people were bad people,

00:49:54.380 my dad thought

00:49:55.240 poor people were lazy,

00:49:57.280 look how big

00:49:58.040 of a conflict that is,

00:49:59.620 so my dad's trying

00:50:00.720 to become rich

00:50:01.640 but that's who

00:50:02.380 my mom hates,

00:50:04.260 how can your husband

00:50:05.440 become exactly

00:50:06.360 what you hate?

00:50:07.080 The more my dad's

00:50:07.840 aspiring to become rich,

00:50:09.460 the more you despise

00:50:10.440 rich people.

00:50:11.340 Why would he become rich?

00:50:12.720 You don't like rich people,

00:50:14.140 I don't know

00:50:14.420 if that made sense

00:50:15.040 or not,

00:50:15.480 so it's kind of like,

00:50:16.780 dude,

00:50:16.940 I'm trying to really

00:50:17.740 give you the life

00:50:18.400 but she despises rich people,

00:50:20.400 so values and principles,

00:50:22.500 to me,

00:50:23.560 politics is almost

00:50:25.200 more important

00:50:25.920 than religion,

00:50:27.100 people say,

00:50:27.660 why would you say that?

00:50:28.480 That's so weird,

00:50:29.780 okay,

00:50:30.020 so if a Christian

00:50:30.620 marries a Catholic,

00:50:31.540 yeah,

00:50:31.720 they're both Christians,

00:50:32.580 a little bit different,

00:50:33.160 if a Christian marries a Jew,

00:50:35.740 okay,

00:50:35.880 one's a Christian,

00:50:36.560 one's a Jew,

00:50:37.120 but it's very different,

00:50:38.600 Patrick,

00:50:39.040 I get it,

00:50:39.820 but Ten Commandments,

00:50:42.240 Ten Commandments,

00:50:43.120 okay,

00:50:43.840 same values and principles

00:50:45.600 in that area

00:50:46.280 but economically,

00:50:48.360 if you believe

00:50:49.720 certain economy

00:50:51.520 is going to be one way

00:50:53.140 and she believes

00:50:54.200 and she believes

00:50:54.220 in a different way,

00:50:55.160 if you believe politically

00:50:56.160 one side

00:50:56.640 and she believes,

00:50:57.340 you're causing

00:50:58.080 too many fights

00:50:59.060 and you're causing

00:51:00.340 way too many things

00:51:01.420 for kids to also

00:51:02.540 have more fights with,

00:51:03.720 so philosophically,

00:51:05.780 you've got to be

00:51:06.100 on the same page,

00:51:07.520 you know,

00:51:07.940 the magic,

00:51:08.860 the excitement's got to be

00:51:09.900 when you're around each other,

00:51:10.980 it's not going to be

00:51:11.400 like that forever

00:51:12.000 because,

00:51:12.480 you know,

00:51:12.780 when you have kids,

00:51:13.460 you can't have sex

00:51:13.980 for three months

00:51:14.540 and it's going to be

00:51:15.400 a lot of things

00:51:16.180 that's going to hurt

00:51:16.720 the magic at times

00:51:17.700 but there's got to be

00:51:18.800 that twinkle

00:51:19.320 where you're like,

00:51:19.880 man,

00:51:20.040 I can't wait to see,

00:51:20.740 I can't wait to go

00:51:21.280 have that dinner with her,

00:51:22.140 right?

00:51:23.300 And then,

00:51:23.860 you know,

00:51:24.600 ask a lot of questions

00:51:26.700 up front,

00:51:27.300 man,

00:51:27.440 I asked,

00:51:28.160 so let me ask you this,

00:51:29.040 yeah,

00:51:29.140 what are we going to do

00:51:29.660 one day if this happens?

00:51:30.260 What would you do?

00:51:31.000 One time I asked my wife,

00:51:31.920 I said,

00:51:32.420 let me ask you,

00:51:32.920 if we get into a big fight,

00:51:34.380 okay,

00:51:34.980 terrible fight,

00:51:35.800 I'm talking horrible fight,

00:51:38.500 we're together for nine months

00:51:39.580 when I asked this question,

00:51:41.220 I said,

00:51:41.880 who would you call?

00:51:44.060 She said,

00:51:44.400 I would call this person,

00:51:45.220 that person,

00:51:45.620 this person,

00:51:45.960 this person,

00:51:46.440 this person,

00:51:46.900 I said,

00:51:47.160 okay,

00:51:47.660 so I got a paper and pen out,

00:51:48.960 tell me about this person,

00:51:49.900 are they married?

00:51:50.580 No,

00:51:50.980 she's divorced,

00:51:52.040 okay,

00:51:52.640 tell me about this person,

00:51:53.840 tell me about that person,

00:51:54.560 I said,

00:51:55.340 I said,

00:51:55.780 yeah,

00:51:55.900 I'm not ready to get married,

00:51:57.040 she says,

00:51:57.340 why not?

00:51:58.100 I said,

00:51:58.380 because everybody you call

00:51:59.840 is going to defend you

00:52:01.080 and they need to defend me

00:52:02.760 but everyone's going to defend you,

00:52:04.660 she says,

00:52:05.020 what do you mean?

00:52:05.740 Who are you going to call

00:52:06.800 if we get into a fight?

00:52:08.100 I said,

00:52:08.300 let me tell you who,

00:52:09.520 I said,

00:52:09.820 Dudley,

00:52:10.400 my dad,

00:52:10.940 and I went through a list

00:52:11.740 of the names that I would call,

00:52:13.620 I said,

00:52:13.980 you know what every one

00:52:14.560 of these guys would defend?

00:52:15.620 Who?

00:52:16.100 You.

00:52:16.620 They would all say,

00:52:17.360 I messed up,

00:52:17.960 to come and apologize to you.

00:52:19.280 I said,

00:52:19.560 you see,

00:52:19.780 the challenge is,

00:52:21.640 if I have way too many

00:52:23.100 divorced friends,

00:52:24.400 divorced friends like to recruit

00:52:25.720 people to the divorce community.

00:52:28.080 Married people like to recruit people

00:52:29.620 to the married community.

00:52:31.320 Single people like to recruit people

00:52:32.640 to what?

00:52:33.300 Single community.

00:52:33.900 We're all recruiters,

00:52:34.760 by the way.

00:52:35.660 So when you get married,

00:52:37.460 it's very important

00:52:38.440 that most of the people you're around

00:52:40.280 is also what?

00:52:41.600 Like you.

00:52:42.200 Yeah.

00:52:42.500 Or else you're going to be tempted.

00:52:43.740 So I made the list,

00:52:45.140 she made the list,

00:52:45.800 so you guys got to have the conversation

00:52:47.100 where you ask and say,

00:52:47.960 if something happens,

00:52:48.600 who are you going to call?

00:52:49.700 And then I'm telling you,

00:52:50.800 90% of the questions you're asking

00:52:52.560 is 101 questions to ask

00:52:53.880 before you get engaged.

00:52:55.120 Baggage.

00:52:55.540 What do you bring to the table?

00:52:57.080 You know,

00:52:57.440 what things do I have to worry about?

00:52:59.700 Exes.

00:53:00.320 Are you comfortable with a kid?

00:53:02.120 I guess the last one

00:53:02.940 I would add with you

00:53:03.580 would be the following.

00:53:04.740 Create a list of your three

00:53:05.660 non-negotiables,

00:53:06.660 which means,

00:53:07.760 look,

00:53:08.000 no matter what,

00:53:09.440 we have to be both

00:53:10.800 same faith,

00:53:11.740 hypothetically.

00:53:12.680 No matter what,

00:53:13.480 you can't have any kids.

00:53:15.120 No matter what,

00:53:16.000 you can't be married before.

00:53:17.340 Or no matter what,

00:53:18.520 you can't have this.

00:53:20.020 Create your three no matter what

00:53:21.500 and don't create a 20 no matter what.

00:53:23.340 Only three no matter what.

00:53:24.360 So you got to think about

00:53:25.140 all the no matter what's

00:53:25.940 and then narrow it down to what?

00:53:27.900 Three.

00:53:28.780 Once you have your three,

00:53:30.160 never compromise the three.

00:53:31.380 Many people do

00:53:33.540 just because the sex is good

00:53:34.980 or just because she's too pretty

00:53:36.600 or just because he's way handsome

00:53:38.160 or just because,

00:53:39.420 you know,

00:53:40.320 you cannot compromise

00:53:41.480 your non-negotiables.

00:53:42.920 When I'm running a company,

00:53:44.100 a guy came up and he says,

00:53:45.120 hey,

00:53:45.220 Pat,

00:53:45.460 let's do a deal on the side.

00:53:46.480 I'm going to pay you

00:53:46.940 a million dollars here.

00:53:48.460 And this is when I was smaller.

00:53:49.660 He said,

00:53:49.780 I'm going to pay you a million dollars

00:53:50.540 here.

00:53:50.640 No one's going to know.

00:53:51.240 Let's do a side contract.

00:53:52.760 I said,

00:53:53.040 you know what's crazy?

00:53:53.600 He says,

00:53:53.800 what's that?

00:53:54.060 I said,

00:53:54.380 you have no idea

00:53:54.860 how much I need that million right now.

00:53:56.560 He says,

00:53:56.800 I said,

00:53:57.020 you have no idea

00:53:57.600 how much I need that million right now.

00:53:58.660 I'm telling you,

00:53:59.080 I need that million right now

00:53:59.900 because I'm bleeding.

00:54:01.180 I said,

00:54:01.660 but do you know

00:54:02.020 if one of my guys finds out

00:54:03.360 who's loyal to me

00:54:04.220 that I did a side deal

00:54:05.200 with them with you

00:54:05.920 even though I've never known you before.

00:54:07.080 We just started like six months ago.

00:54:08.640 I said,

00:54:09.080 I lose trust with all.

00:54:09.940 I said,

00:54:10.040 I can't do that.

00:54:10.540 It's part of my non-negotiable.

00:54:11.780 I said,

00:54:11.940 I can't do it.

00:54:12.320 I said,

00:54:12.480 I appreciate the offer,

00:54:13.720 but I cannot take you on that.

00:54:14.880 He was blown away

00:54:15.560 because everybody else said

00:54:16.760 because one of my non-negotiable was

00:54:18.920 win your existing loyal people over

00:54:21.980 and never disrespect them.

00:54:24.120 Always protect them.

00:54:25.720 Once you do that

00:54:26.720 and you go into a marriage,

00:54:28.320 you know,

00:54:28.620 you're hopefully the odds

00:54:30.600 will be on your side,

00:54:31.580 but still it's very important to know

00:54:33.380 there is no perfect perfection

00:54:36.200 when it comes down to that.

00:54:37.720 If you wait for that part,

00:54:39.200 you'll never,

00:54:39.700 if you actually do want to get married,

00:54:41.700 there is no perfection.

00:54:43.400 There is risk.

00:54:44.820 There is concern.

00:54:46.160 Your heart could be broken.

00:54:48.000 Things could go wrong,

00:54:49.260 but you're just hoping

00:54:50.460 the odds are on your side.

00:54:52.120 No,

00:54:52.320 that's great.

00:54:53.320 And something else

00:54:54.080 that you said stood out to me

00:54:55.300 when we first met.

00:54:56.320 So recently you announced

00:54:57.820 that your wife is pregnant

00:54:58.660 with twins.

00:54:59.540 Congratulations.

00:55:00.200 Bet the David family

00:55:00.940 keeps on growing.

00:55:01.680 I love the legacy

00:55:02.460 that you're leaving behind.

00:55:04.220 And you made a point

00:55:05.660 that you said

00:55:06.340 that you take it

00:55:07.120 one year at a time,

00:55:08.500 every year,

00:55:09.240 one year at a time.

00:55:10.300 So right now,

00:55:11.200 your wife is on the way

00:55:12.060 to have your fifth kid.

00:55:13.740 And so is there ever a sense

00:55:15.900 where it's like,

00:55:17.540 you know that she's on this team

00:55:20.580 for life?

00:55:21.460 Or are you still

00:55:22.380 taking it one year at a time?

00:55:24.180 Of course it's one year at a time.

00:55:25.340 Yeah.

00:55:25.720 Of course it's one year at a time.

00:55:26.640 By the way,

00:55:26.920 I appreciate that.

00:55:27.740 Although eight weeks ago

00:55:30.440 we went to the doctor

00:55:31.340 and when we did the ultrasound,

00:55:33.040 one of the babies died.

00:55:34.020 Oh, I'm sorry to hear that.

00:55:34.220 So one of the twins

00:55:34.840 didn't make it.

00:55:35.380 I appreciate that.

00:55:36.100 But we are having a baby

00:55:37.920 and we're excited about it.

00:55:39.300 And God knows how much

00:55:40.560 we prayed about

00:55:41.400 the entire event

00:55:43.320 that took place.

00:55:43.960 It's been a very interesting

00:55:44.980 pregnancy compared to the others.

00:55:47.440 But yeah,

00:55:48.200 of course there's still,

00:55:50.040 you know,

00:55:50.360 who knows what's going to happen.

00:55:51.420 We're still taking it

00:55:52.160 one year at a time.

00:55:53.020 I mean,

00:55:53.160 you've got to know

00:55:53.600 that we've moved now

00:55:54.400 10 times in 11 years

00:55:55.900 of being married.

00:55:56.640 Wow.

00:55:57.420 And to three different states.

00:55:59.160 So it's not like

00:55:59.780 we moved from here

00:56:00.440 to across the street.

00:56:01.500 We moved six times

00:56:03.600 in California,

00:56:04.440 then three times

00:56:05.460 in Texas,

00:56:07.140 then one time

00:56:08.000 in Florida.

00:56:09.040 And it's constantly.

00:56:10.220 So there's a lot of pressure

00:56:11.180 and I'm not going to slow down.

00:56:12.360 So it's not like

00:56:12.940 I'm going to be

00:56:14.440 this person

00:56:15.320 that's going to be home.

00:56:16.060 I'm still going to play offense

00:56:17.160 and, you know,

00:56:18.260 she's going to have

00:56:18.940 her own changes

00:56:19.600 as a human being

00:56:20.300 that takes place.

00:56:21.040 I can't predict the future.

00:56:23.000 But where we are right now,

00:56:25.020 we're in a very good place

00:56:25.920 right now.

00:56:26.300 That's awesome.

00:56:26.740 But every year,

00:56:27.380 we take it one year

00:56:28.160 out of 10

00:56:28.520 because you're not

00:56:29.340 somebody that can

00:56:30.220 know Stradamus

00:56:31.300 where you can predict

00:56:31.940 the future.

00:56:32.700 You just do your best

00:56:33.740 to have the odds

00:56:34.440 be on your side.

00:56:35.700 And then hopefully

00:56:36.180 eventually one day

00:56:36.800 you wake up,

00:56:37.300 you're like,

00:56:37.700 we're celebrating 50 years?

00:56:39.860 Yeah,

00:56:40.300 pretty crazy.

00:56:41.180 Never thought

00:56:41.780 this would happen.

00:56:42.540 Yeah.

00:56:42.900 Never thought

00:56:43.180 this would happen.

00:56:43.940 No, that's amazing.

00:56:44.960 So the last thing

00:56:45.840 as we wrap it up

00:56:47.440 is I feel like 2020,

00:56:50.520 I don't want to use

00:56:51.660 the word evolution

00:56:52.440 because I feel

00:56:52.920 the word evolution

00:56:53.580 is kind of setting

00:56:54.220 to a set.

00:56:55.220 But it was the becoming,

00:56:58.140 in my opinion,

00:56:59.500 of the next phase

00:57:00.640 of Patrick Bet David.

00:57:02.020 I saw a shift

00:57:03.600 in regards to the content.

00:57:06.040 I saw a shift

00:57:07.000 in regards to

00:57:08.360 the comfortability

00:57:11.040 even though

00:57:11.780 I always say

00:57:12.360 you're one of the

00:57:12.780 best interviewers

00:57:13.480 of all time

00:57:13.980 and one of the

00:57:14.380 best teachers

00:57:14.700 of all time.

00:57:15.260 I saw you

00:57:16.960 in your element

00:57:18.480 with the podcast.

00:57:20.680 I saw you

00:57:21.260 in your element

00:57:22.220 with more of the videos.

00:57:24.280 And to me,

00:57:25.080 it was a beautiful

00:57:26.420 metamorphosis

00:57:29.620 to experience.

00:57:31.800 And so,

00:57:32.700 I'm curious

00:57:33.540 to what went on

00:57:35.220 in 2020,

00:57:37.500 which I felt like

00:57:38.240 there was all this

00:57:39.600 weight that you

00:57:40.480 were carrying.

00:57:41.180 You just let it go

00:57:42.740 and you just

00:57:43.300 fully show the world,

00:57:45.260 no, this is who I am.

00:57:46.400 I don't care what you think

00:57:47.680 and I'm going to let you

00:57:48.620 know what I think

00:57:49.380 about life.

00:57:50.420 Yeah, there's risk

00:57:51.140 to that today,

00:57:51.700 by the way.

00:57:52.060 But for me,

00:57:53.120 I don't know

00:57:55.420 any other way

00:57:56.280 of living

00:57:57.220 because,

00:57:58.620 so you've noticed

00:57:59.700 I've used the word

00:58:00.540 odds a lot lately.

00:58:02.020 That's odds,

00:58:02.560 odds, marriage, odds.

00:58:03.560 All these things

00:58:04.020 are odds, right?

00:58:04.740 Okay.

00:58:05.500 So, when

00:58:06.680 I got to a point

00:58:09.500 in 2013, 2014

00:58:10.900 for about a year

00:58:11.600 and a half,

00:58:11.980 I kept questioning

00:58:12.760 my ability

00:58:13.540 to be a CEO.

00:58:14.760 So, the most common

00:58:15.660 question I ask

00:58:16.320 at 2013, 2014

00:58:17.340 is,

00:58:18.360 am I a great

00:58:19.300 sales leader

00:58:20.100 or am I a great

00:58:21.940 CEO?

00:58:22.720 I don't know.

00:58:23.840 I know I'm a great

00:58:24.760 salesperson.

00:58:25.520 I know I'm a great

00:58:26.180 sales leader.

00:58:26.840 I don't yet to know

00:58:27.720 if I'm a great CEO.

00:58:29.060 Okay?

00:58:29.680 And there was a lot

00:58:30.320 of criticism

00:58:30.800 saying from my own folks,

00:58:32.640 two guys specifically,

00:58:34.440 you know,

00:58:34.800 you know what you're

00:58:35.280 doing?

00:58:35.520 This is,

00:58:35.780 I'm like,

00:58:36.040 okay, great.

00:58:37.060 So, I questioned myself.

00:58:38.600 In mid-2014,

00:58:40.520 I sat there

00:58:41.220 and I said,

00:58:42.180 if I've ever done

00:58:44.080 anything in my life,

00:58:45.060 you guys are going

00:58:45.740 to be shell-shocked

00:58:46.500 by how much I'm

00:58:47.180 going to double down

00:58:48.180 on exactly what

00:58:49.580 bothers you the most,

00:58:50.900 which were some

00:58:51.680 of these guys

00:58:52.100 that didn't like

00:58:52.620 the way I led.

00:58:53.540 I doubled down on it.

00:58:55.280 And they said,

00:58:55.720 wait a minute,

00:58:56.040 you're still doing it?

00:58:56.780 I said,

00:58:57.020 this is who I am.

00:58:58.880 This is what I'm

00:58:59.200 going to be doing.

00:59:00.240 Next thing you know,

00:59:00.740 the company went from

00:59:01.480 doing five million a year

00:59:02.480 10 million a year,

00:59:03.600 20 million a year,

00:59:04.500 40 million a year,

00:59:05.640 70 million a year,

00:59:07.040 growing year after

00:59:08.360 year after year after

00:59:09.520 year.

00:59:09.700 And then you saw

00:59:10.040 how you can go from,

00:59:10.860 you know,

00:59:11.420 50,000,

00:59:12.360 quarter million,

00:59:13.200 half a mil,

00:59:13.900 two million,

00:59:14.340 now it's about to

00:59:14.760 cross three million.

00:59:16.640 But I realized

00:59:18.760 my philosophies

00:59:20.240 are getting clearer

00:59:21.320 in life.

00:59:23.080 And I'm not going

00:59:24.260 to sit there

00:59:24.660 and debate you

00:59:25.180 on energy

00:59:25.760 because I don't

00:59:26.340 have a clear

00:59:26.780 philosophy on energy.

00:59:28.220 I'm not going

00:59:28.520 to sit here

00:59:28.840 and debate you

00:59:29.360 on certain topics

00:59:31.520 that I have

00:59:32.240 no strong opinions

00:59:33.340 on.

00:59:34.040 But the areas

00:59:34.740 that I have

00:59:35.140 strong opinions

00:59:35.760 on,

00:59:36.220 yeah,

00:59:36.400 I'm very comfortable

00:59:37.080 with that.

00:59:38.060 And my philosophy

00:59:38.780 is getting more

00:59:39.420 clearer for me.

00:59:41.020 When your philosophy

00:59:42.020 gets clearer

00:59:42.740 in your life

00:59:43.860 on how you

00:59:45.160 lead,

00:59:45.960 how you raise

00:59:46.940 kids,

00:59:47.360 how you deal

00:59:48.520 with finances,

00:59:49.220 how you deal

00:59:49.640 with crisis,

00:59:50.260 how you deal

00:59:50.580 with all that

00:59:51.000 other stuff,

00:59:52.020 your confidence

00:59:52.600 goes hard.

00:59:53.220 Now I'll give you

00:59:53.620 another part as well

00:59:54.360 on what happened.

00:59:57.140 Competition,

00:59:57.840 when you first

00:59:58.340 start at the

01:00:00.820 beginning,

01:00:01.380 let's just say

01:00:01.880 you and I get

01:00:02.340 into a Coldwell

01:00:03.020 Banker office

01:00:03.680 or a Keller

01:00:04.400 Williams office

01:00:05.100 or a Morgan

01:00:06.140 Stanley office

01:00:06.840 and we're both

01:00:07.960 23 with the new

01:00:08.920 young stars

01:00:10.700 that are coming

01:00:11.120 in.

01:00:11.720 You came out

01:00:12.420 of a big school,

01:00:13.100 I came out

01:00:13.560 of a big school.

01:00:14.520 You're competitive,

01:00:15.300 I'm competitive.

01:00:15.820 You come at 5 o'clock,

01:00:16.760 I'm trying to come

01:00:17.180 in at 4.59.

01:00:18.280 Next day you come

01:00:18.940 in at 4.49 and you

01:00:20.000 have sweat because

01:00:20.500 you just finished

01:00:21.000 the gym,

01:00:21.600 I'm like,

01:00:21.860 dude,

01:00:21.980 I'm going to kick

01:00:22.360 his ass,

01:00:22.700 I'm coming at 4.30.

01:00:23.960 So we're coming

01:00:24.700 up,

01:00:24.940 right?

01:00:25.600 And we work.

01:00:26.680 You're one,

01:00:27.320 you beat me.

01:00:29.360 You're two,

01:00:30.080 you beat me

01:00:30.600 because that's

01:00:32.360 based on what?

01:00:33.080 Work.

01:00:33.740 You're simply

01:00:34.440 outworking me.

01:00:36.400 You're three,

01:00:37.120 you beat me.

01:00:38.320 Then all of a sudden

01:00:39.220 you're at a $300,000

01:00:41.260 of your income,

01:00:42.080 I'm at 220.

01:00:43.440 Then at $300,000

01:00:44.580 of your income,

01:00:45.960 you start liking

01:00:46.740 golf too much.

01:00:48.520 Then at a $300,000

01:00:49.760 of your income,

01:00:50.840 you're going

01:00:51.320 to the clubs

01:00:51.940 and you're doing

01:00:52.480 bottle service

01:00:53.220 and you're getting

01:00:53.740 that.

01:00:54.520 So your $300,000

01:00:55.100 becomes $350,000.

01:00:57.340 My $200,000

01:00:58.140 becomes $400,000.

01:00:59.600 My $400,000

01:01:00.380 becomes $800,000.

01:01:01.700 My $800,000

01:01:02.420 becomes $1.6,000.

01:01:03.660 Now your $350,000

01:01:04.460 is at $500,000.

01:01:05.500 Then all of a sudden

01:01:06.220 I'm making $3,000,000.

01:01:07.460 You're at $620,000.

01:01:08.600 We're not in the

01:01:09.200 same league anymore.

01:01:10.180 We don't belong

01:01:11.000 to the same clubs.

01:01:12.640 If I'm at $3,000,000,

01:01:13.560 you're at $620,000,

01:01:14.300 it's not the same

01:01:14.940 community.

01:01:16.000 It's not the same

01:01:16.800 conversations about

01:01:17.560 investments.

01:01:18.820 It's a very

01:01:19.500 different conversation.

01:01:20.920 The people that I

01:01:21.880 play poker with

01:01:22.660 on Friday nights

01:01:23.520 in my community

01:01:24.360 are different

01:01:24.920 than the people

01:01:25.460 you play poker

01:01:26.200 on Friday night

01:01:27.320 in your community.

01:01:28.480 But at one point

01:01:29.180 you whooped my ass.

01:01:30.280 So what happened here?

01:01:31.820 So the most

01:01:32.840 important area

01:01:34.160 that gave me

01:01:34.760 a lot of confidence

01:01:35.680 is I'm going to

01:01:36.140 tell you is this.

01:01:37.720 So first thing

01:01:38.440 is outwork.

01:01:39.940 We come into

01:01:40.660 the Morgan Stanley office,

01:01:41.640 Keller Williams office,

01:01:42.460 you outwork me.

01:01:43.280 The first year,

01:01:43.800 second year,

01:01:44.260 third.

01:01:44.480 So in the first

01:01:45.140 three years,

01:01:45.520 it looks like

01:01:45.880 you're going to

01:01:46.180 kill me long term.

01:01:47.880 Second one is

01:01:48.540 outimprove.

01:01:49.740 We improved

01:01:50.580 steadily the first

01:01:51.600 two years.

01:01:52.680 After the third

01:01:53.420 year,

01:01:53.580 you stopped

01:01:53.900 reading books

01:01:54.540 the way you used

01:01:55.300 to.

01:01:55.780 So now I got

01:01:56.520 an edge over you

01:01:57.100 on reading.

01:01:57.620 Even though you're

01:01:58.100 smarter than me

01:01:58.640 and better than me

01:01:59.260 talented wise.

01:02:00.380 But I'm now

01:02:00.920 able to improve

01:02:01.720 you a little bit

01:02:02.280 more.

01:02:03.040 Next one is

01:02:03.580 strategizing.

01:02:04.900 Out strategize,

01:02:05.980 that doesn't

01:02:06.460 happen overnight.

01:02:07.160 Strategy typically

01:02:07.940 takes five to

01:02:08.800 ten years.

01:02:09.740 So you have to

01:02:10.480 be competing for

01:02:11.220 five to ten years

01:02:11.940 to come up

01:02:12.460 with newer strategies

01:02:13.260 because people

01:02:14.280 don't even know

01:02:14.740 what's a struggle.

01:02:15.300 What do I do

01:02:15.680 with strategy

01:02:16.140 in real estate

01:02:16.660 or investment bank

01:02:17.380 or YouTube

01:02:18.040 or social media?

01:02:19.000 You don't know

01:02:19.560 those strategies yet,

01:02:20.420 right?

01:02:21.380 Then the last one

01:02:22.140 is what gave me

01:02:22.700 confidence in 2000.

01:02:23.960 And you know

01:02:24.360 what the last one

01:02:24.980 is?

01:02:25.160 Outlast.

01:02:25.960 Outlasting.

01:02:26.660 I cannot tell you.

01:02:29.320 One time a girl

01:02:30.400 got up on stage.

01:02:31.500 She's got the chills

01:02:32.080 all over me.

01:02:32.460 Look at this.

01:02:32.840 Look at this.

01:02:33.200 I see it.

01:02:33.920 One time I got up

01:02:34.780 on stage and this

01:02:35.840 girl called me out.

01:02:36.620 We were competing.

01:02:39.360 And later on that

01:02:40.540 night we were having

01:02:41.100 dinner.

01:02:42.200 I said,

01:02:42.660 let me tell you

01:02:43.200 something.

01:02:43.500 I said,

01:02:43.700 there's one secret

01:02:44.600 you don't know

01:02:45.060 about competition

01:02:45.760 and me that you

01:02:47.660 will never beat me

01:02:48.460 long term.

01:02:49.100 And she says,

01:02:49.740 you know,

01:02:50.180 you got to realize

01:02:50.640 I'm extremely

01:02:51.260 competitive already

01:02:51.960 at 42,

01:02:53.160 but I was out

01:02:53.820 of control

01:02:54.280 in my 20s.

01:02:55.100 Like out of

01:02:56.320 control.

01:02:57.400 If you said

01:02:58.320 you could beat

01:02:59.080 me in my 20s,

01:03:00.000 you don't even

01:03:00.460 know what it

01:03:00.900 did to you

01:03:01.520 on how competitive

01:03:02.880 I was after

01:03:03.720 what happened

01:03:04.080 to my dad.

01:03:04.580 Because in my

01:03:05.280 mind,

01:03:05.820 it's not about

01:03:06.700 beating you.

01:03:07.220 In my mind

01:03:07.860 is there's no

01:03:09.140 way in the world

01:03:10.040 you're going to

01:03:10.560 prevent me from

01:03:11.180 giving my dad

01:03:12.080 everything he wants

01:03:13.140 in life.

01:03:14.020 You were in the

01:03:14.980 way,

01:03:15.820 if that makes

01:03:16.380 any sense.

01:03:16.800 So to you,

01:03:18.000 you were really

01:03:18.440 calling my dad

01:03:19.200 out.

01:03:19.980 That's when I'm

01:03:20.620 just going to go

01:03:21.240 double down,

01:03:21.860 right?

01:03:23.400 Girl said,

01:03:24.460 oh,

01:03:24.780 we're going to

01:03:25.180 do this and

01:03:25.560 we're going to

01:03:25.820 do that.

01:03:26.160 I said,

01:03:26.900 let me put it

01:03:28.320 to you this

01:03:28.600 way.

01:03:29.200 I said,

01:03:29.360 you know what's

01:03:29.580 the difference

01:03:29.920 between me and

01:03:30.440 you?

01:03:30.700 What's that?

01:03:31.520 I will never

01:03:32.300 stop.

01:03:33.960 You're eventually

01:03:34.620 going to stop.

01:03:35.660 Odds are against

01:03:36.420 you.

01:03:36.900 I will never

01:03:37.380 stop.

01:03:38.640 And the moment

01:03:39.320 you realized,

01:03:40.440 I realized in

01:03:41.280 2020,

01:03:42.060 this game is

01:03:42.780 about the last

01:03:43.680 one.

01:03:44.140 That's the real

01:03:44.700 battle.

01:03:45.020 That's when

01:03:46.480 you realize

01:03:46.840 your competition

01:03:47.480 is not even

01:03:47.980 1%.

01:03:48.600 It's a very

01:03:50.000 small community

01:03:50.600 because most

01:03:51.120 people are going

01:03:51.400 to celebrate

01:03:51.760 with certain

01:03:52.280 cars,

01:03:52.820 women,

01:03:53.240 accolades,

01:03:53.800 money,

01:03:54.220 savings,

01:03:54.780 articles written

01:03:55.420 about you.

01:03:56.660 I don't really,

01:03:57.320 you know,

01:03:57.580 because the

01:03:59.000 bigger play

01:03:59.880 is permanent.

01:04:01.860 The bigger

01:04:02.580 legacy doesn't

01:04:03.420 last a year.

01:04:04.760 Oh,

01:04:04.940 did you see

01:04:05.280 that viral

01:04:06.000 article?

01:04:06.660 No,

01:04:06.880 no,

01:04:07.060 no,

01:04:07.220 no,

01:04:07.340 no.

01:04:08.220 Reagan's

01:04:08.640 forever going

01:04:09.020 to be remembered.

01:04:10.340 You know,

01:04:10.700 there are,

01:04:11.620 Rockefellers are

01:04:12.400 forever going

01:04:12.840 to be remembered.

01:04:13.480 The Kennedy

01:04:13.860 legacy family is

01:04:14.820 forever going

01:04:15.160 to be remembered.

01:04:15.640 Not 100 years

01:04:16.460 from now,

01:04:16.740 1,000 years

01:04:17.260 from now.

01:04:17.600 As long as

01:04:18.240 the Armageddon

01:04:19.140 doesn't come

01:04:19.580 around 1,000

01:04:19.960 years from now,

01:04:20.480 we're going

01:04:20.800 to know the

01:04:21.120 Kennedy legacy,

01:04:21.840 right?

01:04:22.460 So that's the

01:04:23.840 part where you

01:04:24.460 find that at

01:04:25.040 the end of

01:04:25.400 the day,

01:04:26.260 the biggest

01:04:26.720 thinkers win.

01:04:27.660 The biggest

01:04:28.120 thinkers win

01:04:28.760 because the

01:04:29.380 biggest thinkers

01:04:29.860 can last

01:04:30.280 longer than

01:04:30.640 you can.

01:04:31.440 Most people

01:04:31.900 can.

01:04:32.220 Not you,

01:04:32.620 I'm saying

01:04:32.860 generally like

01:04:33.560 anybody is.

01:04:34.480 Like a Tesla,

01:04:35.080 people say,

01:04:35.840 oh my gosh,

01:04:36.380 you see that

01:04:36.780 guy's killing

01:04:37.340 it on podcast,

01:04:38.660 or that guy's

01:04:39.080 killing it on,

01:04:39.600 that guy's

01:04:40.100 killing the

01:04:40.460 real estate,

01:04:40.820 that guy's

01:04:41.040 getting,

01:04:42.020 relax,

01:04:42.860 way too early.

01:04:44.580 This is a

01:04:45.060 20-year race.

01:04:46.200 We don't even

01:04:46.700 know what's

01:04:47.240 going on.

01:04:47.800 Some of the

01:04:48.340 people that

01:04:48.700 were big 10

01:04:49.220 years ago,

01:04:49.640 ain't nobody

01:04:50.280 talking about

01:04:50.980 them today.

01:04:51.880 This is a

01:04:52.360 long race.

01:04:53.080 So the

01:04:53.560 confidence in

01:04:54.240 2020 came

01:04:55.080 knowing I

01:04:56.180 can last.

01:04:56.940 And by the

01:04:57.300 way,

01:04:57.420 you said

01:04:57.700 levels.

01:04:58.080 Patrick's

01:04:58.400 pretty much

01:04:58.720 all the way

01:04:58.980 at the top

01:04:59.360 of the level.

01:04:59.820 I'm not.

01:05:00.840 I am at

01:05:01.700 two,

01:05:02.680 three levels

01:05:03.260 below some

01:05:03.840 of the guys.

01:05:04.460 Say put

01:05:04.840 Musk at the

01:05:05.400 top with,

01:05:06.060 what do you

01:05:06.420 call it?

01:05:07.700 Bezos.

01:05:08.660 Bezos.

01:05:09.100 Those two

01:05:09.420 guys are at

01:05:09.820 the top.

01:05:10.300 And you're

01:05:10.500 probably going

01:05:10.780 to have to

01:05:11.120 put Ellison

01:05:11.740 there.

01:05:12.080 You're going

01:05:12.200 to have to

01:05:12.460 put Zuck

01:05:12.860 there.

01:05:13.080 You're going

01:05:13.220 to have to

01:05:13.420 put Buffett

01:05:13.880 there, Gates

01:05:14.360 there.

01:05:14.720 There's a

01:05:15.520 community

01:05:15.920 there, right?

01:05:17.040 Then there's

01:05:17.460 the next level.

01:05:18.020 Then I'm

01:05:18.200 probably tier

01:05:19.080 four, five.

01:05:19.780 I got work

01:05:20.460 to do to

01:05:20.860 get up

01:05:21.200 there.

01:05:21.660 42 years

01:05:22.340 old.

01:05:22.640 Am I at

01:05:23.040 the top

01:05:23.360 of a 42

01:05:23.840 year old?

01:05:24.300 Am I in

01:05:24.560 yes?

01:05:25.340 42 years

01:05:25.940 above everybody?

01:05:27.080 No, I'm

01:05:27.380 competing.

01:05:28.500 The best

01:05:29.120 part is

01:05:29.520 knowing no

01:05:30.780 matter how

01:05:31.260 well you're

01:05:31.780 doing, never

01:05:32.920 believe in the

01:05:33.520 hype that

01:05:34.380 you've already

01:05:34.780 made it.

01:05:35.360 If you feel

01:05:36.020 you've made

01:05:36.460 it, you lost

01:05:37.040 the game

01:05:37.360 already.

01:05:37.980 You're never

01:05:38.520 going to compete

01:05:39.020 with the guys

01:05:39.460 at the top

01:05:39.920 because everyone's

01:05:40.740 going to tell you,

01:05:41.220 dude, you're

01:05:41.460 amazing, dude,

01:05:42.040 you're killing

01:05:42.420 it, dude,

01:05:42.780 you're this.

01:05:43.560 You almost have

01:05:44.300 to be deaf

01:05:45.040 when you hear

01:05:45.580 that from

01:05:45.920 people.

01:05:46.820 You can't

01:05:47.360 hear that

01:05:47.680 because that's

01:05:48.000 the last

01:05:48.500 thing you want

01:05:49.000 to hear.

01:05:49.320 Now, you

01:05:50.080 came in here,

01:05:50.600 I told you,

01:05:50.960 listen, you

01:05:51.280 guys are doing

01:05:51.560 a great job

01:05:51.960 with your

01:05:52.160 podcast, all

01:05:52.620 this other

01:05:52.900 stuff.

01:05:54.320 This is coming

01:05:54.960 from a guy

01:05:55.520 that we have

01:05:56.020 a relationship

01:05:56.460 with and so

01:05:57.500 this guy's

01:05:58.440 seeing what

01:05:58.660 we're doing?

01:05:58.960 Yeah, of

01:05:59.220 course, I

01:05:59.540 respect you.

01:06:00.100 Salute.

01:06:01.020 Okay, good.

01:06:01.480 That compliment's

01:06:02.080 coming from

01:06:02.480 what?

01:06:03.140 Somebody that's

01:06:04.380 been in the

01:06:04.920 game and

01:06:05.200 kind of knows

01:06:05.600 what's going

01:06:05.980 on and you're

01:06:06.560 going to get

01:06:06.780 two million

01:06:07.080 subs no matter

01:06:07.640 what.

01:06:07.860 You already

01:06:08.140 know you're

01:06:08.420 going to get

01:06:08.640 two million

01:06:08.920 subs.

01:06:09.180 It's not

01:06:09.280 like you're,

01:06:09.960 well, we're

01:06:10.200 going to

01:06:10.380 celebrate.

01:06:10.840 You know

01:06:11.100 you're going

01:06:11.300 to get

01:06:11.500 two million

01:06:11.800 subs.

01:06:12.760 But everybody

01:06:13.580 else that tells

01:06:14.300 you how amazing

01:06:14.760 you are, mute.

01:06:18.580 Man, Patrick, it

01:06:20.600 is an honor, it

01:06:21.820 is a privilege

01:06:22.300 to have you

01:06:22.680 back on the

01:06:23.160 show.

01:06:23.480 I think the

01:06:24.240 closing message

01:06:25.180 that you shared

01:06:25.800 was so powerful

01:06:26.620 because I tell

01:06:27.740 men this all the

01:06:28.480 time, life is a

01:06:29.420 marathon, not a

01:06:30.080 sprint.

01:06:30.920 And that's the

01:06:31.380 message that we

01:06:32.720 emphasize the

01:06:33.540 message we focus

01:06:34.280 on and thank you

01:06:35.080 so much for

01:06:35.720 sharing that

01:06:36.200 wisdom.

01:06:36.640 Guys, make sure

01:06:37.760 you get Patrick's

01:06:38.760 book, Your Next

01:06:39.760 Five Moves.

01:06:40.460 If you haven't

01:06:41.060 gotten it already,

01:06:42.300 please, please

01:06:42.920 make sure that you

01:06:43.580 get it.

01:06:43.980 Patrick, where can

01:06:44.580 they find you

01:06:45.080 if they want to

01:06:45.460 reach out to you?

01:06:46.200 I mean, you

01:06:46.780 can, you go on

01:06:47.620 YouTube, you type

01:06:48.380 in Value Tim and

01:06:48.960 you'll find the

01:06:49.480 channel.

01:06:49.840 But if you send

01:06:51.820 a tweet at

01:06:52.360 PatrickBedDavid

01:06:53.440 handle, I'll

01:06:54.180 respond in the

01:06:54.820 book they can

01:06:55.280 buy on Amazon

01:06:55.960 or Barnes &

01:06:56.660 Noble, even at

01:06:57.320 the physical

01:06:57.760 Barnes & Noble

01:06:58.260 stores.

01:06:58.820 Yeah, Patrick,

01:06:59.620 thank you so

01:07:00.100 much.

01:07:00.420 Anytime, brother.

01:07:01.220 My name is

01:07:01.680 Afiz and I'm

01:07:02.300 joined by

01:07:02.920 PatrickBedDavid.

01:07:04.060 We are the

01:07:04.520 roommates, guys.

01:07:05.260 Thank you so

01:07:05.640 much.

01:07:05.860 Make sure you

01:07:06.260 send Patrick a

01:07:07.020 tweet, let him

01:07:07.440 know the love

01:07:07.880 and get that

01:07:08.780 book, guys.

01:07:09.520 Hope this episode

01:07:10.160 has blessed you

01:07:10.680 as much as it

01:07:11.180 blessed me and

01:07:12.260 have a great day.

01:07:13.700 Take care.

Valuetainment - August 03, 2021

How Young Men Can Beat Today’s Struggles

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