Valuetainment - June 14, 2021


I Wish I Knew This Earlier

Hosted by
Patrick Bet-David
Mentioned
Entrepreneur Dude
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Episode Stats


Length

6 minutes

Words per minute

230.38

Word count

1,429

Sentence count

193

Harmful content

Misogyny

2

sentences flagged

Toxicity

3

sentences flagged

Hate speech

1

sentences flagged


Summary

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In this episode, I teach you why it's so difficult to leave your comfort zone and leave your family and friends behind. It's because they are holding you back, not knowingly, but they do it to you.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 With this rubber band, I'm going to show you why it's so difficult to leave your comfort zone,
00:00:02.980 especially what your friends and family do to hold you back, not knowingly, but they do it to you.
00:00:07.680 So here we go.
00:00:08.740 This hand represents you.
00:00:10.740 This hand represents your friends and family.
00:00:13.360 This is you saying, I want to go do something big with my life.
00:00:16.560 You go, you go, you go, but your friends are like, wait a minute, come back down here.
00:00:19.340 What are you doing?
00:00:19.760 You come back down.
00:00:20.920 You go, I want to dream.
00:00:22.460 I want to do something big.
00:00:23.380 Your wife says, babe, what are you talking about?
00:00:24.840 No, no, you're working too hard.
00:00:26.080 Okay, babe, you're right.
00:00:27.260 No, mom, dad, I'm so sick and tired of being broke.
00:00:30.340 Son, come back down here.
00:00:31.220 We're not special.
00:00:31.980 We're just regular family.
00:00:32.840 What do you think you're going to be a million in one day?
00:00:34.260 And you keep going.
00:00:36.060 Eventually, when you try to go and go, the tension gets harder.
00:00:39.380 When you get to this point, it's so difficult to break away because if you do, it's going to snap.
00:00:44.760 When it snaps, a couple things happen.
00:00:46.500 This illustration, I showed it to group last week on a Zoom.
00:00:49.340 Look what happened to me.
00:00:50.400 It's not a big cut, but it's a cut.
00:00:52.360 When it hit back, my fingers started bleeding.
00:00:54.100 I wasn't even looking at it.
00:00:54.940 Next thing you know, I'm writing.
00:00:55.720 There's blood all over my hands.
00:00:57.200 Like, that's the pain we're afraid of.
00:00:58.680 Watch what happens.
00:00:59.340 Let me just show it to you.
00:01:00.440 So this is you and I.
00:01:01.660 We want to go distance ourselves from our friends and family because we have dreams.
00:01:04.740 You go, you go, you go.
00:01:05.400 Boom.
00:01:06.020 That hurts right now.
00:01:07.020 But watch.
00:01:07.920 Many of you, you have not only one.
00:01:11.480 You have not only two.
00:01:13.100 So one represents your mom.
00:01:14.740 One represents your wife or ex or friend or peer or cousin.
00:01:18.860 Another one and another one and another one and another one.
00:01:23.080 These are all people that are holding you back.
00:01:25.080 Now watch.
00:01:26.140 Watch how hard this is.
00:01:27.660 I want to go.
00:01:29.120 Ah!
00:01:29.700 Ah!
00:01:30.180 You can't, right?
00:01:31.480 They're powerful.
00:01:32.740 Okay?
00:01:32.960 It's a very strong power that they have on you when they hold you back.
00:01:35.940 But if one by one by one, you show that you want to go out there and win big, eventually
00:01:41.140 they're going to realize how serious you are.
00:01:43.420 By the way, you know what the biggest fear is?
00:01:45.060 Look what happens to this.
00:01:46.380 When I'm going to show it to you, just watch closely.
00:01:48.520 When the disconnect, when this thing, when it cuts, look how quickly this goes.
00:01:55.440 Meaning, when you eventually get to a point that they no longer have power over your dreams.
00:02:00.840 They don't control you anymore.
00:02:02.240 Your old habits, your friends, your family.
00:02:03.860 You love these guys.
00:02:05.160 But they're afraid of you separating yourself from them.
00:02:07.880 It's an emotional scenario that you're going to experience.
00:02:10.740 But once you overcome that, look how quickly you explode.
00:02:13.460 Watch.
00:02:14.220 I'm going.
00:02:14.820 I'm going to go slow.
00:02:15.380 Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.
00:02:19.800 Your hand just goes up.
00:02:21.600 It explodes.
00:02:23.040 And the separation goes.
00:02:23.960 By the way, my finger right now got cut as well.
00:02:25.980 The separation is instant.
00:02:27.580 Pain, pain, pain, pain, pain, pain.
00:02:29.260 I don't know if I can do this.
00:02:31.440 Bam, you're gone.
00:02:33.520 That's how life works.
00:02:35.000 I'm a regular guy making $3.75 an hour.
00:02:38.800 Dude, Pat, stop dreaming.
00:02:40.500 We're not meant to do something big.
00:02:41.980 I don't want to live a small life.
00:02:43.840 Pain, pain, pain, boom.
00:02:46.060 Then you make six figures.
00:02:47.820 And your peers are making six figures.
00:02:49.280 I don't want to just make six figures.
00:02:51.180 Dude, we're making more money than ever.
00:02:52.620 I want to do something big.
00:02:54.120 Boom, boom, boom.
00:02:54.760 God, boom. 0.99
00:02:55.420 You're going next.
00:02:56.040 I don't want to just be an average guy.
00:02:57.800 But we got a great life.
00:02:59.260 At every single level, new people with these rubber bands shows up.
00:03:05.440 It's not just your friends and family.
00:03:07.100 At every level.
00:03:08.640 Say you're an athlete.
00:03:09.920 High school.
00:03:10.340 I want to go to college.
00:03:11.460 But no.
00:03:12.000 Let's just high school ball.
00:03:12.880 No.
00:03:13.540 I want to be disciplined.
00:03:14.960 I don't want to smoke the weed and go party like everybody else.
00:03:17.260 I want to play in the NBA.
00:03:18.720 Boom.
00:03:19.180 Separation, friend.
00:03:20.040 Look at this guy.
00:03:20.600 All he cares about is himself.
00:03:21.760 Now you're playing college.
00:03:23.200 But I don't want to just play in college.
00:03:24.600 I want to go into the NBA.
00:03:26.000 Boom.
00:03:26.820 Separation.
00:03:27.380 Look at this guy.
00:03:27.960 He thinks he's a guy that can go into the NBA.
00:03:29.780 He goes into it.
00:03:30.520 I don't want to just be a guy on the NBA team.
00:03:32.440 I want to.
00:03:33.440 This whole thing is so flippant scary.
00:03:36.140 But it's so real.
00:03:37.700 So the next time you're sitting there and you're worried about the pain.
00:03:41.700 My finger right now has pain.
00:03:43.360 You're worried about that pain.
00:03:45.500 Once you make that distance and you go this way.
00:03:48.200 Let me put it to you this way.
00:03:49.840 I'm experiencing certain things in my life right now that makes no sense.
00:03:53.160 Certain things in my life right now that makes no sense.
00:03:55.500 Recently, I just got a property.
00:03:57.720 I didn't want to make it public.
00:03:59.000 But all of a sudden, everybody's texting me.
00:04:00.860 Because when you buy a house this size, everybody wants to write about it.
00:04:04.200 Because it's a record-breaking sale that I had.
00:04:06.760 Do you know what it was like for me living in an apartment complex in Glendale on 1323 Broadway?
00:04:11.980 One bedroom with my sister and my mom.
00:04:13.680 And we were broke.
00:04:14.460 Now, no money.
00:04:15.340 My mom ran out of money going back to Iran.
00:04:17.260 I joined the army because I had nothing to my name.
00:04:20.160 Nothing.
00:04:21.420 Get out of the army.
00:04:22.480 I live with my sister.
00:04:24.220 When I'm living with my sister and I get out of the army, I'm living with my dad.
00:04:27.740 Trying to figure out life.
00:04:29.280 But I have dreams.
00:04:31.300 I want to do something big.
00:04:34.460 Everybody's holding me back.
00:04:36.180 And then today, you know what the next level is?
00:04:39.180 There's still people like that.
00:04:40.680 But you know how much harder it is for people to convince you to stay small?
00:04:44.280 You know how much harder it is?
00:04:45.640 You know what muscles you've developed at this level?
00:04:49.040 However, you know how many of you are actually going to go to...
00:04:51.280 By the way, later on today, you know what's going to happen to you?
00:04:53.200 You're going to talk to your friend, your wife, your mom, your dad.
00:04:55.500 Someone's going to say something.
00:04:56.380 You're going to say, you know what, Mom?
00:04:57.240 I want you to watch a video.
00:04:58.120 You remind me of a rubber band.
00:04:59.900 What?
00:05:00.400 Just watch this video, Mom.
00:05:01.360 Don't be a rubber band. 0.98
00:05:02.180 Man, baby, I don't know what the hell you're talking about. 0.99
00:05:04.840 Just watch this video. 0.98
00:05:06.000 You're being a rubber band.
00:05:07.260 You don't even know you're doing it.
00:05:08.740 Your wife will do it to you. 1.00
00:05:09.920 Show them this video.
00:05:10.840 Your husband will do it to you.
00:05:12.040 Show them this video.
00:05:12.860 Your boyfriend will do it to you.
00:05:14.160 Show them this video.
00:05:14.960 Your cousin will do it to you.
00:05:16.080 Show them this video.
00:05:16.720 Just say, text them.
00:05:17.580 Don't be my rubber band holding me back.
00:05:21.520 Let them think.
00:05:22.920 And after they watch this video, if somebody shared this video with you, let that person
00:05:26.880 go after their dreams.
00:05:28.840 Stop holding them back.
00:05:30.860 And hopefully, maybe you ought to also join them on the journey of wanting to do something
00:05:34.920 big with their lives.
00:05:35.640 So if this video made any sense to you to look at rubber bands in a whole different
00:05:40.820 way, I've got another video I want you to watch.
00:05:42.660 It's a video I did a couple years ago.
00:05:45.200 I gave a message at this one event in Long Beach.
00:05:47.800 And it was called Think Like a Grand Master Entrepreneur.
00:05:50.980 If you type in entrepreneur on your phone, it's one of the first videos that comes up.
00:05:53.580 But if it doesn't, click over here.
00:05:55.620 Go watch that video.
00:05:56.920 I talked to you about step-by-step mindset on how I went from just being a regular guy
00:06:02.420 to thinking about my next 5, 10, 15 steps.
00:06:06.140 If you've never seen that video, click over here.
00:06:08.400 And if you've not subscribed to the channel, please do so.
00:06:10.520 Thanks for watching, everybody.
00:06:11.440 Take care.
00:06:11.920 Bye-bye.