＂It's IMPORTANT To Be Hot＂ - Are Good Looks SECRETLY Boosting POWER In Business？
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Summary
In the age of Ozempic and micro lifts, the pretty privileged gap is growing. Emily Reynolds runs a PR company, and with that responsibility comes the pressure to look young. She s 44, but often passes as younger.
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I'm going to get into the next story here I want to get to.
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So this next story, maybe it doesn't have to do with economy.
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So in the age of Ozempic and micro lifts, the pretty privileged gap is growing.
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And with that responsibility comes the pressure to look young, she tells me.
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She often passes as younger, and that's by design.
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Reynolds has tried Botox, filler laser facials, hydro facials, and invests in expensive skincare products.
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She has a Peloton and does intense workouts, this LaBerry's boot camp.
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She's walking the precarious line, and she tells me between looking mature enough to show
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she's an experienced professional who can run and mentor a team and young enough to be relevant.
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Even as she thinks critically about beauty standards imposed on women,
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Reynolds worries about what would happen to her business and professional reputation
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And what's going to happen as she continues to age.
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How long will I be quote-unquote publicly relevant, perceived as attractive, Reynolds says.
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And when I'm not, what happens to me professionally?
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What a thing to be thinking about daily with that.
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Do you think it's extremely important to be hot if it's a job requirement today?
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Meaning the better you look, the more likely it is that you're going to get the job.
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It's not, it's no coincidence that the former personal assistant to Gates,
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Jobs when he was alive, and more recently Elon is the same woman.
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She's written a book and how she's set up to go after Jobs first,
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She didn't have any kids with Elon, because Elon likes to have a lot of kids,
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And most of the top assistants, female I'm talking about,
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to the big Wall Street guys are all good looking.
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There's no old hags, you know, that look like Volkswagens.
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Do you think it helps guys as well, or to guys it doesn't matter,
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whether they're good looking or not, to make money?
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Does it help to be good looking, to be in shape, and business for men?
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My Hall of Fame doesn't have one six-pack on it.
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I've got some guys that take steroids and have big muscles, but no six-pack.
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The question is, how important is it to look good?
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A lot of people may, you know, I'm reading the comment section out of it.
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They're worried about you having to use the bathroom every single podcast.
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I'm drinking a lot of water, but my voice sounds good.
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and it affects women way more than it affects men.
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So women have to understand this, that inner beauty and outer beauty is completely different.
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Outer beauty will get you in the door anywhere, but inner beauty will keep you in the house
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So there's a lot of hot girls relying on pretty privilege these days, but that only goes so far.
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Just being hot will not keep you there long enough.
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Now, as far as a man, for a man to have status, you have multiple factors that you can rely on other than looks.
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Looks, if you ask women, are not even the number one thing.
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Doesn't matter if you're a couple pounds overweight.
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Okay, so the reality is I don't even know if this chick's married, and not that it matters per se,
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but if she is not married, you may want to take a step back from your career
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and focus on family and kids before it's too late.
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Can you go to another one that says Emily Roberts?
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So I believe that there is something to coming into an interview and looking sharp.
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But I'll tell you, the further along I've been in my career, the more I've looked at it,
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what can you do, when can you do it, and who can I call to confirm it?
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I thought you were going to say, who can you do?
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I've got Sir Dan Pena here, you're going to say things like this, please.
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Now, if you come in looking disheveled, that makes a difference.
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But if you come in looking sharp, you don't have to be handsome or particularly beautiful
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You just need to be sharp and put together like you take care of yourself.
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I'll tell you, there is a bias, and it is a factual bias, and no one's going to want to
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hear this, and this is not fat shaming, but people that are incredibly overweight, there
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is a perception about employers, are you taking care of yourself, and if you care enough to
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take care of yourself, will you care enough to take care of the job that I'm hiring you
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You have to come in and say, this is my background.
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Now, younger people, do women that are more beautiful get hired into a role like an assistant
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Sure, I'd be a fool to say that that doesn't happen, but for the broad spectrum, we're looking
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for people to get the job done, not to surround ourselves with everybody we work out with at
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So to me, I think when it comes down to this, you have to, I used to work at Bally's, and
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when I would work at Bally's, guys would come in, and I would have some fun with them,
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but I would also be, it was 50% fun, 50% series.
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When's the last time you had a steady relationship?
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I said, look, man, what are you going to do to make this work?
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So then I'm like, listen, can I just talk to you openly?
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Go to somebody, and I would introduce them to one of my guys.
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No girl's going to want to date you, and if she does, I would question her integrity, like
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When you walk into a room, what's going to be different about you?
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What do you dress that's just different than everybody else?
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And I think this is like even when we licensed 60,000 insurance agents in 50 states, so I
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had a lot of younger guys that would come in, and I've had many conversations where I
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I would say, first of all, you smell horrible, okay?
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If you can't figure out your hygiene, I don't know if you realize or not, it's hard to be
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These mint things that you put in, but that's a shortcut as well.
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Have these flossing stuff that the stuff gets out of your teeth because that's what smells
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As you get older, you got to take care of this stuff, and you got to figure out what you
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Just don't burn your private parts, but blow dry yourself, right?
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That's what makes your feet smell because it's nasty.
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And then eventually, three, six months later, they smell better.
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Hey, start off with this Perry Ellis, this 112 cologne, this Jupe cologne, whatever the old
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You're not going to go around handling Crete or Stefano colognes to people, but maybe.
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And then eventually, you're like, all right, so look what you look like.
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And then all of a sudden, they're walking like this.
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You've been doing this your entire life to younger guys.
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But I think the comment, Tom, that you made, I think it's extremely right because Tom's message applies to 90% of people.
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If you're handsome, you're good looking, you know what you can do many times?
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You cannot fix everything on your hair, your face.
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There's these people that can, they wake up and they look good.
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But to everybody else, I think it is important.
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And Dan, I'm going to give you the final thoughts on this year.
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One, when you walk in the door, she walks in the door.
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And the current generation, actually the last two generations, have piss poor communication skills.
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Bill Ackman, worth $9.2 billion, the other day gave a tip to people on X and it went viral.
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When you want to ask a girl out, ask her, may I meet you?
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And the amount of people that tried to troll him for saying, may I meet you, was nonstop.
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If that's what Ackman says, what would Dan Pena say?
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As an 80-year-old, you can't get away with anything.
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Can you pull my picture of my wife and I that is in our state?
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So when I was commissioned an officer, a young guy at NATO, I mean, your place or mine?
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And actually, I got it from a woman asked me during a lunch break, you know, your place
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That was that nice Russian woman that said, tell me all about your job.
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That's my wife last year, and that's my wife 30 years ago.
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Well, she was a big-time sailor, but she looks the same.
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That's when the boat's up at 44 degrees, and you just lean in into the wind.
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Okay, I'm just imagining, you know, the guy walks into Bally's for the first time, and
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That's 1,400 people just voted in the last minute.
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Adam was as close as mine the other day to like or hate him.
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And I know Fortune 50 CEOs that you know the names, that they can make it vulgar, more vulgar,
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Let's not go there, because then we're going to trigger Tom, and then...
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When they bonked her on the head and dragged her back.
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I can just picture the guy that walks into Bally's and Pat walks in and goes, you're fat,
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you smell, your hair is all messed up, your hygiene.
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I would be amazed how many of these guys came back being thankful.
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But that's my point, is that they're open to feedback and they're coachable.
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That's the one thing I've noticed between certain men and not certain men, and certainly
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between men and women, is that men are more comfortable being offended.
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Guys will tell each other, we bust balls, bro, you're fat, you're gross, clean it up.
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For a man, you need to be comfortable being offended.
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And people, you need to be told, you're fat, you're sloppy, clean it up, you're a loser.
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Men are willing to engage in self-deprecation, and women aren't.
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I've seen, not that we need to rehash this, some of the things you've said online, it's
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But you say, F you, clean it up, stop being a, da-da-da-ba-ba-ba-ba, and that's how men
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Like, if you've had a football coach, or a basketball coach, or a drill sergeant, they
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You can't go to a girl and say, you're fat, you're ugly, you're overweight, clean it up.
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If you say that to a guy and they clean it up, that means they're resilient.
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If they start crying in the corner, then they're weak, and they'll probably never get
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Forbes magazine put out a survey last year that 80% of employees throughout the United
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States of America cry at least one time a week.
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Employees from below the chairman and CEO, the C-suite, I guess they call it.
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So I asked my two kids to work for big companies, and my daughter, who's 39 now, she was 38,
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Well, I don't want to say this publicly, but last week, I saw Adam in the gym.
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Normally, it's Wednesdays, because it's like, you know, Brandon, I'm like, Adam.
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But normally, honestly, like the solution, one good hug wraps it up.
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