Valuetainment - January 31, 2023


The Biggest Red Flag For Toxic People


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Length

4 minutes

Words per minute

231.74667

Word count

1,149

Sentence count

107

Harmful content

Misogyny

2

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Summary

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In this episode, I talk about how to spot a good recruiter and how to know who to look out for in a potential new employee. I give you a few red flags that you should be looking out for. 1. Flattery 2. Talk bad about your exes 3. Tell bad things about the last 3 people they've worked with 4. Don t fall for the compliments 5. Don't be an amateur

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Having been in business for nearly 25 years, I've hired people that became rock stars and
00:00:04.060 changed the company, and I recruited people that waste a lot of time, cost money, maybe
00:00:08.880 millions of dollars, and eventually I had to learn how to filter the two out.
00:00:13.380 I'm going to give you one of the biggest signs on how to filter these guys out.
00:00:17.080 When I tell you this story, it's going to make a lot of sense to you.
00:00:19.140 If you get value out of this video, give it a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel.
00:00:22.980 So let me tell you this story.
00:00:23.660 It's eight years ago.
00:00:24.480 I'm sitting down with this one guy.
00:00:25.580 Let's call him Anthony, okay?
00:00:26.760 And he comes in and he says, oh my God, Patrick, this is such an honor to meet you.
00:00:32.880 I've been following you in the insurance industry.
00:00:35.340 No wonder everybody talks about you're the guy to be in business with.
00:00:37.940 I'm like, okay.
00:00:38.800 I'm always a little careful where it's a little too much flattery.
00:00:41.020 It's a big red sign, red flag for me.
00:00:43.200 I'm like, okay, I'll receive it.
00:00:44.420 Hey, thank you so much, brother.
00:00:45.660 Appreciate you, man.
00:00:46.340 Thank you.
00:00:47.080 It's great to meet you as well.
00:00:48.240 You mind telling me a little bit about your background, how you've done what you've done.
00:00:52.820 Well, I've been in the insurance space for 12 years.
00:00:55.100 Fantastic.
00:00:56.100 First five years I was with New York Life.
00:00:58.040 How was New York Life?
00:00:59.420 Horrible.
00:01:00.040 Really?
00:01:00.540 Yeah.
00:01:00.800 Tell me why.
00:01:01.560 There's no money to be made.
00:01:03.080 The leaders are this.
00:01:04.120 It's a bad company.
00:01:05.220 They don't take care of their people.
00:01:06.860 I'm like, okay, cool.
00:01:08.380 Where'd you go afterwards?
00:01:09.280 I went to this other company called Prime America because they told me they're going to teach me how to recruit and I'm going to build an agency and this.
00:01:14.360 And what happened?
00:01:15.440 Nobody helped me out.
00:01:16.620 No one was doing this.
00:01:17.820 All they care about is this.
00:01:19.040 None of them care about that.
00:01:20.660 I go, where'd you go after that?
00:01:21.760 I went to Transamerica.
00:01:22.760 How was Transamerica?
00:01:23.940 Nobody makes money there.
00:01:25.080 Their products are this.
00:01:26.320 It's all about fees.
00:01:27.560 This is all they care about.
00:01:29.680 Oh, interesting.
00:01:31.080 Okay.
00:01:31.640 I said, can I ask you a question?
00:01:32.620 He says, yes.
00:01:33.800 I said, so 12 years, three companies, bad experiences everywhere.
00:01:37.520 Absolutely.
00:01:38.580 But this is why I've been looking forward to working with a great leader like you because I think working with you, it's going to be awesome.
00:01:45.340 I've never worked with somebody great.
00:01:46.900 I've never done this.
00:01:48.000 I'm so excited about this.
00:01:49.300 It's going to be life changing.
00:01:50.700 I said, can I be direct with you?
00:01:54.240 Yeah, of course.
00:01:54.840 How long do you think it'll take before I'm the fourth company you're going to hate?
00:02:03.100 What do you mean?
00:02:04.500 Well, I mean, New York Life, I know a lot of great people there.
00:02:07.880 Company's been around for a long time.
00:02:09.880 They've changed a lot of people's lives.
00:02:11.780 People make millions of dollars.
00:02:14.060 They got good products.
00:02:15.040 They got a great brand.
00:02:16.740 Same with Prime America.
00:02:17.820 I can say Entrance, great leaders, change a lot of people's lives, money, all of that.
00:02:22.440 I don't solve for perfection.
00:02:23.740 I solve for results.
00:02:24.640 All three of them get great results with people that want to do things.
00:02:27.680 So if you're talking bad about those other three companies, I'm going to be the fourth one soon.
00:02:32.340 Don't you think?
00:02:33.040 I would never do that to you.
00:02:35.060 See, the difference is you.
00:02:36.080 I'm not trying to say all these guys are bad and all this other stuff, but it's you.
00:02:39.740 So red flag, flattery second.
00:02:42.880 If a person tells me bad things about the last three people they've worked with, you're going
00:02:47.500 to be the fourth.
00:02:48.260 If a girl you go on a date with, she talks badly about all her exes, you're going to be 0.99
00:02:53.400 the next one.
00:02:54.000 If a guy you're hiring tells you how horrible their bosses have been at the last 20 companies,
00:02:59.900 you're going to be the 21st.
00:03:01.400 This is not the company.
00:03:03.580 It's the individual, and you'll be next.
00:03:06.280 Do not fall for flattery and have a big red flag when somebody's talking badly about
00:03:11.560 all the different companies.
00:03:12.940 An amateur is going to fall for it because you want flattery and the compliments.
00:03:16.040 Oh my God, I'm so amazing.
00:03:17.360 Yes, you're right.
00:03:18.580 I am different.
00:03:19.420 You're not different.
00:03:20.920 That person's going to come here, bring you a lot of headaches, steal hundreds of hours
00:03:24.480 of your time, deceive you, use flattery, use guilt.
00:03:28.300 Eventually, when something doesn't go their way, you see what happened?
00:03:31.180 Nobody did this.
00:03:32.020 Nobody did that.
00:03:32.660 And that is why I failed.
00:03:34.000 And then they're going to go to the fifth company and tell the story.
00:03:36.200 You know what happened with that story?
00:03:37.760 That person came on board, okay?
00:03:39.920 Because I wasn't the decision maker of this person coming on board.
00:03:42.680 Somebody else was able to choose this person to work with them.
00:03:44.920 I said, look, I'm not working with them.
00:03:46.540 You can pick and choose.
00:03:47.420 The guy comes on board.
00:03:48.280 You know what happens two years later?
00:03:49.780 We became the fourth company, okay?
00:03:51.460 This was like four or five years ago.
00:03:53.000 We became the fourth company.
00:03:54.400 Why?
00:03:55.060 Because that's a trend, okay?
00:03:56.660 It's going to constantly happen with people that are always complaining about the situation.
00:04:01.480 So instead, what I would rather hear in an interview is somebody to say, you know what?
00:04:04.920 I was with XYZ Company for this many years.
00:04:06.700 Great experience.
00:04:07.360 Learned a lot from John Doe, pa, pa, pa, pa, pa.
00:04:09.420 When I decided to leave at that point because the person I was working with retired, so I kind
00:04:13.020 of, my loyalty, I really enjoyed working with them.
00:04:15.320 I decided to go to XYZ Place because my wife was best friends with this lady who her husband 1.00
00:04:20.100 went over there, worked great, made a lot of changes, and then that person moved to a
00:04:24.500 different place, so I eventually went and worked over here.
00:04:26.780 And now, quite frankly, I'd love to work with you because I see the opportunity here with
00:04:29.640 the company.
00:04:30.100 You guys are growing.
00:04:31.000 I'd love to get a shot at working with you guys.
00:04:32.960 It's a very different language than blame, blame, blame.
00:04:37.660 It's a clear, clear sign that you'll see to be careful for when certain people that are
00:04:42.380 complaining about their bosses, friends, exes, everybody, typically you're going to be
00:04:45.900 the next one.
00:04:46.360 And having said that, if you got value from the video, give it a thumbs up, subscribe to
00:04:49.940 the channel.
00:04:50.380 There's another video I want you to watch.
00:04:51.980 It's how to choose your business partner.
00:04:53.900 If you've never seen this before, click here to watch that video.
00:04:56.500 Take care, everybody.
00:04:57.240 Bye-bye.