Valuetainment - The Fatherless Crisis In America

00:00:00.000 I have some disturbing stats I want to share with you about fatherless homes.

00:00:04.000 And by the way, some of the stats, you're going to say, I'm going to tell you when you

00:00:07.740 read some of these stats, you're going to sit there and say, that is insane.

00:00:11.080 By the way, these stats are from 2021 of the impact a father makes in a child upbringing,

00:00:17.660 both a girl and a boy.

00:00:19.980 Like I said, disturbing, but you will be shell-shocked with the stats.

00:00:24.040 If you get value from the video, give it a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel.

00:00:27.680 Let me get right into it.

00:00:28.540 The U.S. has the highest rate of children living in a single-parent household of any

00:00:33.220 nation in the world.

00:00:35.080 About 80% of single-parent homes are led by single mothers at a rate of 23% of children

00:00:41.040 living with one parent and no other adult.

00:00:44.460 The United States stands over three times the world average of 7% of children raised by one

00:00:51.420 parent.

00:00:52.200 For reference, the number stands at 3% in China, 4% in India.

00:00:56.580 This is not an area we want to be competing with other countries, by the way.

00:01:00.860 If there is a statistic to not be competing in, this is one of the statistics.

00:01:05.960 China's at 3%, India's at 4%, the world's at 7%.

00:01:10.060 We're at 23% in America.

00:01:14.440 Zero bragging rights.

00:01:15.520 This is the stat everybody wants to hide.

00:01:18.740 And this is the stats where the side effects of this, we ain't going to see for two decades

00:01:23.120 or three decades or longer.

00:01:25.300 Takes a while to see the side effects.

00:01:26.900 Let me continue.

00:01:27.880 Even for children with a father present in the home, the average school-age boy only spends

00:01:32.580 about 30 minutes per week with one-on-one conversations with his father.

00:01:36.580 For comparison, the same boy, on average, will spend about 44 hours a week watching television,

00:01:42.880 playing video games, and surfing the internet.

00:01:44.980 In our house, there is no video games throughout the week.

00:01:47.500 It's on the weekends.

00:01:48.560 After you read 150 pages throughout the week, then you have the right to play video games

00:01:54.840 for an hour or two on the weekend, and that's what you have to earn.

00:01:58.320 You have to move your body.

00:01:59.220 You have to exercise.

00:02:00.320 There are certain things you need to do to get to that point.

00:02:02.520 That's our household, but the stat tells you 44 hours a week of watching TV, playing video

00:02:07.980 games, and surfing the internet.

00:02:09.640 Let me continue.

00:02:10.380 90% of all homeless and runaway children, 63% of teen suicides, 85% of children and teens

00:02:20.480 with behavior disorders come from fatherless homes.

00:02:23.520 Let me read that stat to you one more time.

00:02:24.780 90% of all homeless and runaway children, 63% of all teen suicides, 85% of children and

00:02:34.200 teen with behavioral disorder come from fatherless homes.

00:02:38.360 That is a very, very big number.

00:02:40.920 Next, fatherlessness likewise has a direct link to teen pregnancy and sexual activity.

00:02:46.480 Roughly 70% of teenage pregnancies come from women raised in a fatherless home.

00:02:52.900 70% of teenage pregnancies comes from fatherless homes.

00:02:58.980 70%!

00:03:00.480 That's a big number.

00:03:01.640 And these same women have significantly higher abortion rates than women raised by both a father 0.97

00:03:08.520 and a mother.

00:03:09.100 On the whole, fatherless kids are 20 times more likely to be incarcerated and 11 times

00:03:16.180 more likely to exhibit violent behavior than children from two-parent households.

00:03:21.440 20 times more.

00:03:23.980 Okay?

00:03:24.480 20 times more.

00:03:25.980 If a man and a wife raise a child, they're less likely to end up in jail, but they have 1.00

00:03:32.180 the same chances as children raised by just their father.

00:03:35.460 You may already be blown away by the stats before, so maybe come back and let me read

00:03:40.600 this to you.

00:03:41.500 Embrace for Impact, if you missed it.

00:03:43.460 Let me read it one more time.

00:03:44.600 Listen.

00:03:46.040 Just stay with me.

00:03:46.880 Don't get distracted.

00:03:47.580 Stay with me.

00:03:48.020 Listen.

00:03:49.340 If a man and a wife raise a child, they're less likely to end up in jail, but they have the 1.00

00:03:57.460 same chance as children raised by just their fathers.

00:04:02.020 Husband and wife raise their kid.

00:04:03.500 The chance of this kid going to jail is the same as just the father raising his kids.

00:04:07.920 The problem is the single mother without a father in the picture that can sit there 1.00

00:04:13.300 and discipline the kids, give them hope, values, principles, all the other stuff.

00:04:17.360 We play different roles.

00:04:19.180 This is statistic.

00:04:20.440 If somebody's watching and saying, oh my God, you're discounting women, you're discounting

00:04:24.500 mothers, go get upset at the stats. 1.00

00:04:27.400 Not at me.

00:04:28.620 This is stats.

00:04:29.500 You can't get upset at three times three is nine.

00:04:32.920 That's stats.

00:04:33.700 I'm giving you stats that's being given to us by the government because they have access

00:04:37.980 to these stats.

00:04:39.300 This is disturbing.

00:04:40.520 Let me continue.

00:04:41.720 Girls with no fathers have lower self-esteem.

00:04:44.440 We can lower crime, lower mental issues, help the economy, lower suicide rates, and decrease

00:04:50.320 homelessness by bringing back the family nucleus.

00:04:53.460 There are things that my wife can do as a mother that I can't do. 0.99

00:04:58.020 There's things she can bring that I can't bring, but there are things I can do that she

00:05:02.660 can't do.

00:05:03.820 So now you may say, well, Pat, I agree.

00:05:05.640 I do agree.

00:05:06.640 We can lower this.

00:05:07.560 But then how come it's not happening?

00:05:09.120 And here's the other question.

00:05:10.300 Who's to blame?

00:05:11.960 Who do we blame with this?

00:05:13.540 Now you may be listening to this saying, well, it's got to be the husband and wife's fault. 0.56

00:05:16.420 It's got to be the man and the woman's fault. 1.00

00:05:18.500 Fine.

00:05:19.320 How come it's not the same ratios around the world?

00:05:21.980 Why is U.S. fatherlessness at 23% everywhere else is 7% average?

00:05:28.780 So is it really the mom and dad?

00:05:30.820 So how about the mom and dad in India?

00:05:32.640 How about the mom and dad in China?

00:05:33.900 How about the mom and dad in Germany?

00:05:35.100 How about the mom and dad in Brazil?

00:05:36.520 How about the mom and dad in other places?

00:05:38.360 Why are we at 23%?

00:05:40.780 How did this happen?

00:05:42.040 Was it like this before?

00:05:43.280 Is it an evolution?

00:05:44.060 Is it mainstream media?

00:05:45.260 Is it Hollywood?

00:05:45.720 Is it the fact that parents are afraid of parenting because everybody is so much involved?

00:05:50.940 You can't do that to your kid.

00:05:52.080 You can't do this to your kid.

00:05:53.320 You can't discipline your kid like that.

00:05:54.860 Whose fault is it?

00:05:55.860 It's someone's fault.

00:05:57.520 Is it the fact that, hey, you know, we can't really bring church and schools and pray and

00:06:01.900 all this stuff.

00:06:02.320 I don't know.

00:06:02.980 Maybe that's not something you agree with.

00:06:05.240 Maybe it is.

00:06:06.060 Maybe we need those values and principles.

00:06:07.900 But it's somebody's fault in America that this is happening.

00:06:11.500 This is purely a systemic issue that we're having.

00:06:13.960 This cannot be like, you know, it's really the community, it's the parents, it's the culture,

00:06:20.440 it's all this other stuff.

00:06:21.100 No.

00:06:21.640 Standards are standards.

00:06:23.180 We're sitting there not educating.

00:06:24.600 Oh, it's not a big deal.

00:06:25.320 Go ahead and do that.

00:06:25.940 Oh, it's not a big deal.

00:06:26.560 Go ahead and do that.

00:06:27.020 Oh, it's not a big deal.

00:06:27.660 Go ahead and do that.

00:06:28.460 No.

00:06:29.140 Standards have dropped.

00:06:30.440 And the numbers are showing.

00:06:31.220 If we judged a country based on how many kids are being raised by fatherless homes that's

00:06:41.180 producing crimes at the levels that we're getting, sex during teenage pregnancy, abortion,

00:06:47.920 suicide, incarceration.

00:06:50.220 Maybe we ought to look at this.

00:06:52.920 Maybe this is very important. 0.99

00:06:55.380 Maybe our educational system sucks. 0.98

00:06:57.560 Yes, maybe kids spend more time around teachers than they do around their parents. 0.98

00:07:03.220 Maybe, who do we blame?

00:07:05.200 The responsibility has to lie on the nation.

00:07:09.860 Maybe we're either too much involved or we're not selling.

00:07:14.880 Take your time to get married. 0.86

00:07:16.720 Take your time before you have sex with someone. 0.52

00:07:18.800 Take your time before you get pregnant. 1.00

00:07:20.560 Take your time before you have a baby. 0.86

00:07:22.400 Protect yourself.

00:07:23.620 Stay home. 0.94

00:07:24.680 Do not just go out there and have unprotected sex. 0.94

00:07:26.740 Because maybe we're not talking about this kind of stuff. 0.72

00:07:29.100 Maybe we are.

00:07:29.560 Maybe we're not.

00:07:30.060 The stat says we're not selling it in the right way.

00:07:33.400 And we're paying a price for it.

00:07:34.860 If you're in a community that crime is high, hello, you're feeling it.

00:07:40.320 That's the stats.

00:07:42.020 So the next time you see a father that takes their job as a father seriously, you can actually

00:07:47.080 say, you know how we see somebody in military uniform?

00:07:50.100 Guess what you say?

00:07:50.620 Hey, thank you for your service.

00:07:51.860 What do you mean?

00:07:52.880 Hey, man.

00:07:54.240 Stats.

00:07:54.600 23% fatherlessness.

00:07:56.880 And you're there with your kids.

00:07:58.340 Thank you for your service.

00:07:59.400 Being a father is tough.

00:08:00.860 Good for you guys.

00:08:01.500 Husband and wife trying to make this work.

00:08:02.920 Marriage is tough.

00:08:03.880 Salute.

00:08:04.760 You make my life better and safer by raising good kids.

00:08:08.940 Salute to you.

00:08:09.900 Maybe.

00:08:10.740 Maybe we ought to give those awards.

00:08:12.260 Maybe we need to kind of recognize father of the year award.

00:08:14.980 A bigger deal.

00:08:15.680 Man, if I ran a state or a country, we would be recognizing certain behavior and turning great

00:08:20.840 fathers and mothers into heroes.

00:08:23.700 Into heroes.

00:08:25.060 Because God knows their job is hard.

00:08:27.700 Very hard.

00:08:28.960 Not, you know, making their job harder.

00:08:31.740 Not recognizing the guys that are doing a good job.

00:08:33.620 Just kind of winging it, which is the way we're doing it right now.

00:08:35.800 Stats don't favor us.

00:08:36.640 We've got some work to do.

00:08:37.900 This is an area where I will very comfortably say America's got a lot of work to do.

00:08:42.760 We've stepped away from values and principles and we're kind of winging it.

00:08:45.400 Anyways, no one masters parenting.

00:08:47.720 And none of us know if we're going to be great parents or not for about 40 years until our

00:08:50.480 kids are 40 years old.

00:08:51.700 By the time you know you're a great parent, you're probably not alive.

00:08:54.280 Because your grandkids will validate that you were a good parent.

00:08:56.440 So, you're never going to know whether you were a grandparent or not.

00:08:59.020 But I made a video from all the different things I've learned and what I apply in my life

00:09:02.900 about parenting called How to Raise Successful Kids.

00:09:04.820 If you've never seen it, click here to watch that video.

00:09:07.640 Shout out to those of you guys that take your job as a father very seriously.

00:09:12.040 Take care everybody.

00:09:12.760 Bye-bye, bye-bye.

Valuetainment - January 18, 2023

The Fatherless Crisis In America

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