Valuetainment - The Loneliness Epidemic： America's Silent Health Crisis

00:00:00.000 You know there's one epidemic that gradually over the years has come up and creeped up on us and all

00:00:04.440 of a sudden boom during COVID it amplified and everybody's like wait a minute what are you

00:00:08.200 talking about to the point where the U.S. Surgeon General declared a loneliness epidemic and said

00:00:13.640 ready that loneliness can be as damaging to a person's health as smoking and they even tied a

00:00:19.820 number to it. Here's a number they said being alone this was a study published in the journal

00:00:24.860 PLOS medicine loneliness has such far-reaching consequences that the health impact is comparable

00:00:31.080 to smoking up to 15 cigarettes per day and by the way according to CDC you know how many people died

00:00:38.100 last year from smoking in U.S. 480,000 according to World Health Organization you know how many people

00:00:43.320 died last year worldwide 8 million loneliness cigarettes 15 boom 480 U.S. 8 million are you

00:00:52.260 kidding me and then when you see the charts some of the data that we have is it affecting men

00:00:56.820 women generation school and during COVID everything was social distance kids don't go to school 0.99

00:01:02.220 stay away from people for three weeks if you got COVID and work from home because it's what we got

00:01:06.380 to do isolation isolation isolation loneliness loneliness loneliness and then they tell us this

00:01:13.000 why weren't you saying this three years ago we're going to talk about that today all right if you

00:01:17.700 get value out of this video give it a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel let's get right into it

00:01:20.980 let's look at a chart take a look at this chart here this is from U.S. Census Bureau and look what

00:01:24.940 this means this is the number of single person households in the U.S. from 1960 to 2022 now watch

00:01:31.500 this go to 1960 you'll notice that blue that number is roughly 7 million single person households in

00:01:38.340 America look where it's at today roughly today 37 38 million people now you may say well Pat I mean

00:01:47.060 the population's gotten bigger so isn't this supposed to increase totally fair we looked at the

00:01:51.440 population in U.S. in 1960 you know what it was 179 million people you know what it is today 340 million

00:01:58.220 people you know how much of an increase that is roughly 90 percent but watch this in 1960 single

00:02:04.060 person households was 7 million today it's 38 million you know how big of an increase that is

00:02:09.580 442 percent meaning population increased 90 percent loneliness increased 442 percent and why is that why

00:02:19.920 did this all of a sudden start happening by the way some of the numbers tell us that over 50 percent of

00:02:24.160 U.S. adults report feeling lonely and loneliness today is associated with an increased risk of heart

00:02:29.240 disease depression and cognitive decline now let's let's look at generation to see which one feels the

00:02:34.840 loneliest according to statistics 61 percent of all U.S. adults reported feeling lonely which is up

00:02:40.340 seven percent from last year and if you look at generations here women 45 percent men 46 so it's not like

00:02:48.600 men is astronomically more than women it's about the same 45 46 boomers 50 millennial 71 but look at gen z 0.54

00:02:56.300 79 percent of gen z feels lonely and guess who's mostly on their phones like this boomers or gen z 0.99

00:03:04.280 gen z this is part of the loneliness epidemic and by the way you know what's crazy about everything

00:03:09.820 i just said this chart we just looked at this is the 2019 chart what do you think it looks like for

00:03:14.080 2023 off the chart the statistic doesn't have the numbers for 2023 but let's continue as of 2022

00:03:19.820 Pew Research Center found 30 percent of U.S. adults are neither married living with a partner nor engaged

00:03:25.920 in a committed relationship that means one-third next nearly half of young adults are single 34 percent of

00:03:31.780 women and a whopping 63 percent of men you may say pat same age group house 34 percent women but 63 percent

00:03:39.020 men because women rarely date a man same age they date the next generation or an older man so men are 0.99

00:03:45.420 sticking around saying hey who can i date there's not a lot of inventory for me to date 63 percent of

00:03:51.900 men young adults are single okay so if you're watching this and you're one of the 61 percent of U.S.

00:03:56.300 adults that are feeling lonely it's probably a good idea for you to talk to somebody but sometimes you

00:03:59.660 feel embarrassed to go to a therapist physically waiting in the waiting room and other people

00:04:03.580 coming and seeing your co-worker oh larry what are you doing here like i don't want to go to a place

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00:04:56.540 matched with a therapist who will listen and help you now what typically happens when somebody is

00:05:01.900 lonely if you somebody's lonely you got a lot of time on your hands if you have a lot of time on your

00:05:05.200 hands what do you start doing you either start living in the future which produces anxiety or you

00:05:08.780 start living in the past which causes depression most people live where in the past i shouldn't have

00:05:13.840 done that i shouldn't have broken up with her i should have talked to her i don't know why that

00:05:16.940 happened that's because it was raised this way it was my mom's fault it was my dad's fault it's my

00:05:20.620 brothers my sister's fault depression depression depression so is there a correlation between

00:05:24.540 loneliness and being depressed when you have people around you don't have time to be depressed

00:05:28.440 you're occupied with conversations with relationships watch the data here rising trends

00:05:33.700 lifetime and current depression rates look what this says here so if you look at the green line right

00:05:38.520 there that's percentage lifetime depression and the dark blue line is current depression okay so let's

00:05:44.840 look at the green the light green 19.6 percent in 2015 it's where now look when covet hit it went up

00:05:51.400 and hasn't slowed down at 29 percent a 10 percent increase in eight years and if we look at the

00:05:57.860 current depression it was at 10 and a half percent in 2015 it's at 17.8 percent that's an increase of

00:06:03.620 70 percent in eight years of depression so we wanted to break this down to see who is it women men age

00:06:11.540 category if you look at this one chart here from a study done by survey center on american life you'll

00:06:15.860 notice young women most likely to report losing touch with friends during the pandemic more than

00:06:20.580 others so look at the dark blue that's lost touch with most of my friends light blue is lost touch with

00:06:26.700 a few of my friends and green is remained in regular contact and it shows male female age category 18 to

00:06:32.980 29 they lost touch with most of my friends nine percent nine out of 100 a few of my friends 43 and then

00:06:39.660 that's 46 remaining in regular contact so men and if you go older the older generation remains they

00:06:45.160 didn't really lose that much of touch it's mainly the younger but look at the female 18 to 29 bracket

00:06:49.720 right there lost touch with most of my friends 16 lost touch with a few of my friends 43 remained in

00:06:56.320 regular contact 40 lowest bracket so women 18 to 29 during covid lost the most contact with their friends

00:07:03.520 so then the next bracket here talks about young men relying more on parents for personal support

00:07:08.580 so this shows if you look at the colors at the top blue is a friend green is spouse or partner

00:07:14.620 pink is parents then it's children a sibling other family members others and then refused look at all

00:07:20.120 americans it shows 16 out of 100 a friend they seek to for support spouse was 53 out of 100 which is the

00:07:28.260 highest one for all americans and he got the rest but if you look at young men ages 18 to 29

00:07:33.760 look at their biggest support this pink pink is what parents so parents for them they rely a lot

00:07:39.780 on their parents for support now let's look at the next one the number of close friendships that americans

00:07:44.920 have has declined over the past decades watch this to make this sense this is out of 100 so if you look

00:07:51.480 at 2021 where it says 12 1990 it says three what this means is in 2021 when asked how many people have

00:07:59.780 close relationships 12 people said none i don't have any close relationships where in 1990 31 years

00:08:06.540 ago it used to be three so it's four rexed in 31 years today it's seven people say that 1990 was four

00:08:12.360 and then 13 9 17 11 11 and 8 go all the way down to 10 or more today 2021 only 13 people said they have

00:08:19.860 10 or more close friendships back in 1990 was 33 or more and back in 1990 there was no facebook there was no

00:08:28.560 youtube there was no twitter there was no instagram there was no tiktok there was no snapchat

00:08:33.400 maybe maybe aol chat but we had more close relationships with people than today what does

00:08:39.100 that say now someone may be watching and saying well pat are you kidding me do i really want to have

00:08:42.800 more than 33 close relationships that must be such a headache you know i've even heard you pat say you

00:08:47.480 know you don't need more than five best friends and why would i want to have 33 this is not about

00:08:51.420 33 best friends it's close relationship and contacts so does data prove that people who have

00:08:58.320 more friendships more relationships are happier more satisfied let's take a look same study americans

00:09:03.760 with more friends report greater satisfaction with how many they have look at this none 12 completely

00:09:10.740 satisfied most of them are not satisfied at all then one friend is 15 then go all the way down to 10

00:09:16.180 plus friends look how many surveyed out of 100 31 said they're completely satisfied 44 said they're

00:09:21.560 very satisfied which means 75 out of 100 who have 10 or plus friends are completely satisfied or very

00:09:29.780 satisfied versus the ones that don't have any only 29 out of 100 are satisfied this is an issue that

00:09:35.780 we see here all right so this next one here uh men hang tight because by the time this is over with

00:09:40.500 you're gonna you're gonna kind of think about whether it applies to you or not so brace for impact

00:09:44.160 women receive more emotional support from their friends okay so watch this blue pink thank god in 1.00

00:09:50.780 this article blue is for men pink is for women so so let's kind of break this down 21 men receive

00:09:56.600 emotional support from a friend versus 41 women told the friend you love them only 25 men versus 49

00:10:03.960 women shared personal feelings or problems with a friend men 30 women 48 women are willing to give more

00:10:11.720 emotional support talking about issues they're going through than men men kind of keep it to themselves

00:10:16.220 they don't talk to other men about the issues they're dealing with that's also an issue now this next one

00:10:20.560 is for best friends so a question for you how many best friends do you have i know a lot of times we have

00:10:24.260 different names for best friends homie pal brother dude bff bestie forever friend pal chum sister

00:10:29.960 ride or die sport buster day one running mate no matter what it is let's see if we have more best 0.98

00:10:36.120 friends today than we did a couple decades ago if you look at this shit from 1990 to 2021 in 1990 0.97

00:10:42.400 75 out of 100 say they have a best friend today it's 59 16 less than 30 years ago so now why are 0.95

00:10:50.060 all these things happening according to the surgeon general here's what they say according to the

00:10:53.960 surgeon general we become more mobile people move away from home at higher frequencies and communities

00:10:59.160 become more fragmented less people live in an extended family environments less participation in

00:11:04.080 community activities and they even had a study with technology watch this one here in a u.s based

00:11:08.700 study participants who reported using social media for more than two hours a day had about double the

00:11:13.180 odds of reporting increased perceptions of social isolation compared to those who use social media for

00:11:19.360 less than 30 minutes a day so more of this you're more isolated less of this the less you're isolated

00:11:25.660 let's unpack some of the examples of technology harm so one displaces in person engagement okay

00:11:31.160 monopolizes our attention reduces the quality of our interactions diminishes our self-esteem fear of

00:11:36.320 missing out conflict reduce social connection and by the way just to be very honest with you the more

00:11:40.900 we're also consuming stuff on the phone what are you really thinking about what are you seeing it's

00:11:44.720 all crisis bad news did you see what happened did you see this video oh my god watch what happened

00:11:49.020 you watch what happened there and then all of a sudden you're 62 years old and you're saying

00:11:52.500 what what happened to my kids what happened to my friendships my relationships oh wow that went by pretty

00:11:57.520 quick yeah and by the way here's also the problem it also depends what type of content you're consuming

00:12:01.700 so if you're most of the content on the internet or social media is what it's bad it's negative it's

00:12:05.980 fear porn it's death it's end of the world we're going to do this with and then some content you

00:12:10.900 have you're like wow what about my life what about my dreams what about what's going to happen to me

00:12:14.220 there's also consequence of negative content you're consuming versus positive unfortunately most of

00:12:20.920 what's online today is negative i want you to see this here from the office of the u.s surgeon general

00:12:25.640 when it comes down to the national trends for social connection look at it from 2003 to 2020

00:12:30.280 time spent alone increased while time spent on in-person social engagement decreased so take a

00:12:35.980 look at this social isolation top left an increase of 24 hours per month look at the spike from 2003 to

00:12:43.320 2020 go to household family social engagement decreased a decrease of five hours per month companionship

00:12:50.620 a decrease of 14 hours per month social engagement with friends is down 20 hours per month non-household

00:12:58.460 family social engagement down six and a half hours social engagement with others minus 10 hours

00:13:04.840 obviously everything that has to do with interacting with people has gone down everything that has to

00:13:09.860 do with interacting with a phone or a technology has gone up so we just kept talking about the problem

00:13:15.580 problem problem lonely depressing you're probably sitting there saying oh my god i feel like i am

00:13:19.600 depressed but i don't know am i sick am i going through something if you are great we got some

00:13:24.540 solutions for you if you're not be aware of it and share this with others here's what i would tell

00:13:28.560 you a few things that was very concerning for me was stay away from people for 21 days during covid

00:13:33.240 no problem kids stay home don't go play with kids for a year and a half okay no problem number three

00:13:37.520 work from home you don't need to go to work to be around other people uh okay no problem you can't go

00:13:42.980 to church churches are closed in many different states what do you mean can't go to church because

00:13:47.060 that's where i used to go to to be around other people to also feel like there's there's some faith

00:13:52.180 there's some hope that things are going to be okay no no you can't do that everything that we wanted

00:13:57.120 to do to be around others was no you can't do it so now the consequences are out and yeah well you

00:14:02.840 know what i fully believe in working from home it's actually not healthy for you to work from home

00:14:07.300 you're better off being around other people to build relationships especially if you're single you

00:14:12.740 don't have a girlfriend you don't have a boyfriend most people meet their spouse the person they marry

00:14:17.780 at college at church through a friend at a bar at work but they meet them going to a place where other

00:14:24.600 people are also there by the way you may say no i met mine online percentages are against meeting online

00:14:30.600 it's better to meet people at work that other people also know the history of that person then you

00:14:34.680 go to online and you don't have a clue who they were in the past you have to take their word for you

00:14:38.440 don't even know they went on 73 tinder dates the last two months and you're the 74th one yes you

00:14:42.960 you're the 74th one watching and how the hell do i know what their background is that's the part about

00:14:46.620 being around others by the way for about seven and a half years i was in a company where most of the

00:14:50.880 leaders at the top were mormon and i learned a lot from this religion i'm not a mormon myself but

00:14:55.320 latter-day saints i started studying what they were doing you know gordon b hinkley and all this stuff

00:14:59.380 their books all the stuff i was going through they had something called family night on monday nights

00:15:04.120 where they would play games uno monopoly cards whatever it was and that was a topic of discussion

00:15:09.300 father would come home mom would come home they would play games and then it was also an opportunity

00:15:13.000 to talk about god with their kids but it was a tradition you don't have to do it monday night

00:15:16.640 it could be saturday night could be friday night could be a tradition you create with your family

00:15:20.600 to get everyone to get together here's another basic skill okay when you go in the elevator when

00:15:24.720 you're around people when you see somebody around you don't just stand and go like this

00:15:27.980 actually look at them and say oh hey how are you good good that's what they're gonna do to you

00:15:34.860 you're gonna be like this gonna say how are you good you say oh i like your shirt i like your hand

00:15:39.560 where are you from start a conversation you impose you ask the question don't wait for them to do it to

00:15:44.200 you start a conversation guess what the reason why they act like they don't want to talk to you is

00:15:48.460 because they've been programmed like that a few years but when you start they're like oh wow i'm not used

00:15:52.860 to people wanting to talk to me nowadays no one wants to talk to me they're just on their phones

00:15:56.580 you break the ice you start the conversation you go be around communities whether it's at

00:16:01.180 workplace and you're going there getting coffee or getting the drink or getting water start

00:16:05.440 conversations with others even it's a basic innocent conversation of where are you from

00:16:10.640 another great place to meet people is go to the gym go work out go lift weights go offer to spot go

00:16:18.100 offer to help but go to the gym work out meet people there take yoga classes take whatever kind of

00:16:24.560 you know spin anything it is to be around other people it is on you to make sure you're on other

00:16:29.580 people it starts with you and by the way based on all the study that we're talking about here whether

00:16:34.300 it's around being other people exercising going to church faith hope conversation camaraderie it is

00:16:40.080 healthy for your mental health it's healthy for your state people who have some of the biggest

00:16:45.380 confidence have people that back them up friends and relationships although all these stats are true

00:16:51.440 this doesn't mean you have to buy into this way of living that's the stats and you don't have to be

00:16:57.300 a statistic if you got value out of this video give it a thumbs up subscribe to the channel and if

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Valuetainment - October 27, 2023

The Loneliness Epidemic： America's Silent Health Crisis

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