Valuetainment - October 27, 2023


The Loneliness Epidemic： America's Silent Health Crisis


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Length

17 minutes

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211.49371

Word Count

3,636

Sentence Count

27

Misogynist Sentences

2

Hate Speech Sentences

5


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You know there's one epidemic that gradually over the years has come up and creeped up on us and all
00:00:04.440 of a sudden boom during COVID it amplified and everybody's like wait a minute what are you
00:00:08.200 talking about to the point where the U.S. Surgeon General declared a loneliness epidemic and said
00:00:13.640 ready that loneliness can be as damaging to a person's health as smoking and they even tied a
00:00:19.820 number to it. Here's a number they said being alone this was a study published in the journal
00:00:24.860 PLOS medicine loneliness has such far-reaching consequences that the health impact is comparable
00:00:31.080 to smoking up to 15 cigarettes per day and by the way according to CDC you know how many people died
00:00:38.100 last year from smoking in U.S. 480,000 according to World Health Organization you know how many people
00:00:43.320 died last year worldwide 8 million loneliness cigarettes 15 boom 480 U.S. 8 million are you
00:00:52.260 kidding me and then when you see the charts some of the data that we have is it affecting men
00:00:56.820 women generation school and during COVID everything was social distance kids don't go to school
00:01:02.220 stay away from people for three weeks if you got COVID and work from home because it's what we got
00:01:06.380 to do isolation isolation isolation loneliness loneliness loneliness and then they tell us this
00:01:13.000 why weren't you saying this three years ago we're going to talk about that today all right if you
00:01:17.700 get value out of this video give it a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel let's get right into it
00:01:20.980 let's look at a chart take a look at this chart here this is from U.S. Census Bureau and look what
00:01:24.940 this means this is the number of single person households in the U.S. from 1960 to 2022 now watch
00:01:31.500 this go to 1960 you'll notice that blue that number is roughly 7 million single person households in
00:01:38.340 America look where it's at today roughly today 37 38 million people now you may say well Pat I mean
00:01:47.060 the population's gotten bigger so isn't this supposed to increase totally fair we looked at the
00:01:51.440 population in U.S. in 1960 you know what it was 179 million people you know what it is today 340 million
00:01:58.220 people you know how much of an increase that is roughly 90 percent but watch this in 1960 single
00:02:04.060 person households was 7 million today it's 38 million you know how big of an increase that is
00:02:09.580 442 percent meaning population increased 90 percent loneliness increased 442 percent and why is that why
00:02:19.920 did this all of a sudden start happening by the way some of the numbers tell us that over 50 percent of
00:02:24.160 U.S. adults report feeling lonely and loneliness today is associated with an increased risk of heart
00:02:29.240 disease depression and cognitive decline now let's let's look at generation to see which one feels the
00:02:34.840 loneliest according to statistics 61 percent of all U.S. adults reported feeling lonely which is up
00:02:40.340 seven percent from last year and if you look at generations here women 45 percent men 46 so it's not like
00:02:48.600 men is astronomically more than women it's about the same 45 46 boomers 50 millennial 71 but look at gen z
00:02:56.300 79 percent of gen z feels lonely and guess who's mostly on their phones like this boomers or gen z
00:03:04.280 gen z this is part of the loneliness epidemic and by the way you know what's crazy about everything
00:03:09.820 i just said this chart we just looked at this is the 2019 chart what do you think it looks like for
00:03:14.080 2023 off the chart the statistic doesn't have the numbers for 2023 but let's continue as of 2022
00:03:19.820 Pew Research Center found 30 percent of U.S. adults are neither married living with a partner nor engaged
00:03:25.920 in a committed relationship that means one-third next nearly half of young adults are single 34 percent of
00:03:31.780 women and a whopping 63 percent of men you may say pat same age group house 34 percent women but 63 percent
00:03:39.020 men because women rarely date a man same age they date the next generation or an older man so men are
00:03:45.420 sticking around saying hey who can i date there's not a lot of inventory for me to date 63 percent of
00:03:51.900 men young adults are single okay so if you're watching this and you're one of the 61 percent of U.S.
00:03:56.300 adults that are feeling lonely it's probably a good idea for you to talk to somebody but sometimes you
00:03:59.660 feel embarrassed to go to a therapist physically waiting in the waiting room and other people
00:04:03.580 coming and seeing your co-worker oh larry what are you doing here like i don't want to go to a place
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00:04:56.540 matched with a therapist who will listen and help you now what typically happens when somebody is
00:05:01.900 lonely if you somebody's lonely you got a lot of time on your hands if you have a lot of time on your
00:05:05.200 hands what do you start doing you either start living in the future which produces anxiety or you
00:05:08.780 start living in the past which causes depression most people live where in the past i shouldn't have
00:05:13.840 done that i shouldn't have broken up with her i should have talked to her i don't know why that
00:05:16.940 happened that's because it was raised this way it was my mom's fault it was my dad's fault it's my
00:05:20.620 brothers my sister's fault depression depression depression so is there a correlation between
00:05:24.540 loneliness and being depressed when you have people around you don't have time to be depressed
00:05:28.440 you're occupied with conversations with relationships watch the data here rising trends
00:05:33.700 lifetime and current depression rates look what this says here so if you look at the green line right
00:05:38.520 there that's percentage lifetime depression and the dark blue line is current depression okay so let's
00:05:44.840 look at the green the light green 19.6 percent in 2015 it's where now look when covet hit it went up
00:05:51.400 and hasn't slowed down at 29 percent a 10 percent increase in eight years and if we look at the
00:05:57.860 current depression it was at 10 and a half percent in 2015 it's at 17.8 percent that's an increase of
00:06:03.620 70 percent in eight years of depression so we wanted to break this down to see who is it women men age
00:06:11.540 category if you look at this one chart here from a study done by survey center on american life you'll
00:06:15.860 notice young women most likely to report losing touch with friends during the pandemic more than
00:06:20.580 others so look at the dark blue that's lost touch with most of my friends light blue is lost touch with
00:06:26.700 a few of my friends and green is remained in regular contact and it shows male female age category 18 to
00:06:32.980 29 they lost touch with most of my friends nine percent nine out of 100 a few of my friends 43 and then
00:06:39.660 that's 46 remaining in regular contact so men and if you go older the older generation remains they
00:06:45.160 didn't really lose that much of touch it's mainly the younger but look at the female 18 to 29 bracket
00:06:49.720 right there lost touch with most of my friends 16 lost touch with a few of my friends 43 remained in
00:06:56.320 regular contact 40 lowest bracket so women 18 to 29 during covid lost the most contact with their friends
00:07:03.520 so then the next bracket here talks about young men relying more on parents for personal support
00:07:08.580 so this shows if you look at the colors at the top blue is a friend green is spouse or partner
00:07:14.620 pink is parents then it's children a sibling other family members others and then refused look at all
00:07:20.120 americans it shows 16 out of 100 a friend they seek to for support spouse was 53 out of 100 which is the
00:07:28.260 highest one for all americans and he got the rest but if you look at young men ages 18 to 29
00:07:33.760 look at their biggest support this pink pink is what parents so parents for them they rely a lot
00:07:39.780 on their parents for support now let's look at the next one the number of close friendships that americans
00:07:44.920 have has declined over the past decades watch this to make this sense this is out of 100 so if you look
00:07:51.480 at 2021 where it says 12 1990 it says three what this means is in 2021 when asked how many people have
00:07:59.780 close relationships 12 people said none i don't have any close relationships where in 1990 31 years
00:08:06.540 ago it used to be three so it's four rexed in 31 years today it's seven people say that 1990 was four
00:08:12.360 and then 13 9 17 11 11 and 8 go all the way down to 10 or more today 2021 only 13 people said they have
00:08:19.860 10 or more close friendships back in 1990 was 33 or more and back in 1990 there was no facebook there was no
00:08:28.560 youtube there was no twitter there was no instagram there was no tiktok there was no snapchat
00:08:33.400 maybe maybe aol chat but we had more close relationships with people than today what does
00:08:39.100 that say now someone may be watching and saying well pat are you kidding me do i really want to have
00:08:42.800 more than 33 close relationships that must be such a headache you know i've even heard you pat say you
00:08:47.480 know you don't need more than five best friends and why would i want to have 33 this is not about
00:08:51.420 33 best friends it's close relationship and contacts so does data prove that people who have
00:08:58.320 more friendships more relationships are happier more satisfied let's take a look same study americans
00:09:03.760 with more friends report greater satisfaction with how many they have look at this none 12 completely
00:09:10.740 satisfied most of them are not satisfied at all then one friend is 15 then go all the way down to 10
00:09:16.180 plus friends look how many surveyed out of 100 31 said they're completely satisfied 44 said they're
00:09:21.560 very satisfied which means 75 out of 100 who have 10 or plus friends are completely satisfied or very
00:09:29.780 satisfied versus the ones that don't have any only 29 out of 100 are satisfied this is an issue that
00:09:35.780 we see here all right so this next one here uh men hang tight because by the time this is over with
00:09:40.500 you're gonna you're gonna kind of think about whether it applies to you or not so brace for impact
00:09:44.160 women receive more emotional support from their friends okay so watch this blue pink thank god in
00:09:50.780 this article blue is for men pink is for women so so let's kind of break this down 21 men receive
00:09:56.600 emotional support from a friend versus 41 women told the friend you love them only 25 men versus 49
00:10:03.960 women shared personal feelings or problems with a friend men 30 women 48 women are willing to give more
00:10:11.720 emotional support talking about issues they're going through than men men kind of keep it to themselves
00:10:16.220 they don't talk to other men about the issues they're dealing with that's also an issue now this next one
00:10:20.560 is for best friends so a question for you how many best friends do you have i know a lot of times we have
00:10:24.260 different names for best friends homie pal brother dude bff bestie forever friend pal chum sister
00:10:29.960 ride or die sport buster day one running mate no matter what it is let's see if we have more best
00:10:36.120 friends today than we did a couple decades ago if you look at this shit from 1990 to 2021 in 1990
00:10:42.400 75 out of 100 say they have a best friend today it's 59 16 less than 30 years ago so now why are
00:10:50.060 all these things happening according to the surgeon general here's what they say according to the
00:10:53.960 surgeon general we become more mobile people move away from home at higher frequencies and communities
00:10:59.160 become more fragmented less people live in an extended family environments less participation in
00:11:04.080 community activities and they even had a study with technology watch this one here in a u.s based
00:11:08.700 study participants who reported using social media for more than two hours a day had about double the
00:11:13.180 odds of reporting increased perceptions of social isolation compared to those who use social media for
00:11:19.360 less than 30 minutes a day so more of this you're more isolated less of this the less you're isolated
00:11:25.660 let's unpack some of the examples of technology harm so one displaces in person engagement okay
00:11:31.160 monopolizes our attention reduces the quality of our interactions diminishes our self-esteem fear of
00:11:36.320 missing out conflict reduce social connection and by the way just to be very honest with you the more
00:11:40.900 we're also consuming stuff on the phone what are you really thinking about what are you seeing it's
00:11:44.720 all crisis bad news did you see what happened did you see this video oh my god watch what happened
00:11:49.020 you watch what happened there and then all of a sudden you're 62 years old and you're saying
00:11:52.500 what what happened to my kids what happened to my friendships my relationships oh wow that went by pretty
00:11:57.520 quick yeah and by the way here's also the problem it also depends what type of content you're consuming
00:12:01.700 so if you're most of the content on the internet or social media is what it's bad it's negative it's
00:12:05.980 fear porn it's death it's end of the world we're going to do this with and then some content you
00:12:10.900 have you're like wow what about my life what about my dreams what about what's going to happen to me
00:12:14.220 there's also consequence of negative content you're consuming versus positive unfortunately most of
00:12:20.920 what's online today is negative i want you to see this here from the office of the u.s surgeon general
00:12:25.640 when it comes down to the national trends for social connection look at it from 2003 to 2020
00:12:30.280 time spent alone increased while time spent on in-person social engagement decreased so take a
00:12:35.980 look at this social isolation top left an increase of 24 hours per month look at the spike from 2003 to
00:12:43.320 2020 go to household family social engagement decreased a decrease of five hours per month companionship
00:12:50.620 a decrease of 14 hours per month social engagement with friends is down 20 hours per month non-household
00:12:58.460 family social engagement down six and a half hours social engagement with others minus 10 hours
00:13:04.840 obviously everything that has to do with interacting with people has gone down everything that has to
00:13:09.860 do with interacting with a phone or a technology has gone up so we just kept talking about the problem
00:13:15.580 problem problem lonely depressing you're probably sitting there saying oh my god i feel like i am
00:13:19.600 depressed but i don't know am i sick am i going through something if you are great we got some
00:13:24.540 solutions for you if you're not be aware of it and share this with others here's what i would tell
00:13:28.560 you a few things that was very concerning for me was stay away from people for 21 days during covid
00:13:33.240 no problem kids stay home don't go play with kids for a year and a half okay no problem number three
00:13:37.520 work from home you don't need to go to work to be around other people uh okay no problem you can't go
00:13:42.980 to church churches are closed in many different states what do you mean can't go to church because
00:13:47.060 that's where i used to go to to be around other people to also feel like there's there's some faith
00:13:52.180 there's some hope that things are going to be okay no no you can't do that everything that we wanted
00:13:57.120 to do to be around others was no you can't do it so now the consequences are out and yeah well you
00:14:02.840 know what i fully believe in working from home it's actually not healthy for you to work from home
00:14:07.300 you're better off being around other people to build relationships especially if you're single you
00:14:12.740 don't have a girlfriend you don't have a boyfriend most people meet their spouse the person they marry
00:14:17.780 at college at church through a friend at a bar at work but they meet them going to a place where other
00:14:24.600 people are also there by the way you may say no i met mine online percentages are against meeting online
00:14:30.600 it's better to meet people at work that other people also know the history of that person then you
00:14:34.680 go to online and you don't have a clue who they were in the past you have to take their word for you
00:14:38.440 don't even know they went on 73 tinder dates the last two months and you're the 74th one yes you
00:14:42.960 you're the 74th one watching and how the hell do i know what their background is that's the part about
00:14:46.620 being around others by the way for about seven and a half years i was in a company where most of the
00:14:50.880 leaders at the top were mormon and i learned a lot from this religion i'm not a mormon myself but
00:14:55.320 latter-day saints i started studying what they were doing you know gordon b hinkley and all this stuff
00:14:59.380 their books all the stuff i was going through they had something called family night on monday nights
00:15:04.120 where they would play games uno monopoly cards whatever it was and that was a topic of discussion
00:15:09.300 father would come home mom would come home they would play games and then it was also an opportunity
00:15:13.000 to talk about god with their kids but it was a tradition you don't have to do it monday night
00:15:16.640 it could be saturday night could be friday night could be a tradition you create with your family
00:15:20.600 to get everyone to get together here's another basic skill okay when you go in the elevator when
00:15:24.720 you're around people when you see somebody around you don't just stand and go like this
00:15:27.980 actually look at them and say oh hey how are you good good that's what they're gonna do to you
00:15:34.860 you're gonna be like this gonna say how are you good you say oh i like your shirt i like your hand
00:15:39.560 where are you from start a conversation you impose you ask the question don't wait for them to do it to
00:15:44.200 you start a conversation guess what the reason why they act like they don't want to talk to you is
00:15:48.460 because they've been programmed like that a few years but when you start they're like oh wow i'm not used
00:15:52.860 to people wanting to talk to me nowadays no one wants to talk to me they're just on their phones
00:15:56.580 you break the ice you start the conversation you go be around communities whether it's at
00:16:01.180 workplace and you're going there getting coffee or getting the drink or getting water start
00:16:05.440 conversations with others even it's a basic innocent conversation of where are you from
00:16:10.640 another great place to meet people is go to the gym go work out go lift weights go offer to spot go
00:16:18.100 offer to help but go to the gym work out meet people there take yoga classes take whatever kind of
00:16:24.560 you know spin anything it is to be around other people it is on you to make sure you're on other
00:16:29.580 people it starts with you and by the way based on all the study that we're talking about here whether
00:16:34.300 it's around being other people exercising going to church faith hope conversation camaraderie it is
00:16:40.080 healthy for your mental health it's healthy for your state people who have some of the biggest
00:16:45.380 confidence have people that back them up friends and relationships although all these stats are true
00:16:51.440 this doesn't mean you have to buy into this way of living that's the stats and you don't have to be
00:16:57.300 a statistic if you got value out of this video give it a thumbs up subscribe to the channel and if
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