The Mindset of Winners: Lessons from Kobe Bryant & Michael Jordan
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In this episode, former NBA player Patrick Beverley joins Jemele to discuss his new book, "A Mindset That Lasts Forever," and his relationship with the late Kobe Bryant. He also discusses the differences between Kobe and Michael Jordan.
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I've been fortunate enough to sit there and hear those conversations on a private plane with MJ, Tiger, Gretzky, Jeter.
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What would they say mental disorders they have?
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If Mike's sitting right here and we asked Kobe, what's the definition of success?
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Whatever Kobe would say, Mike would have to one-up him.
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Why don't most people subscribe to wanting to find out what their capacity looks like and go at the highest level?
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If it was that easy, everybody would be doing it.
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You've trained the best of the best in the game of basketball.
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You said Kobe worked harder, but Jordan worked smarter.
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What are those signs that he said there's a very distinct difference between this guy and that guy?
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With Kobe, I saw it very early against Utah when he shot all those air balls.
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For most individuals, that would have just totally killed their confidence.
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I tell the story about early down in the MJ days, there was no Fitbit.
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I've returned more money than I've actually kept.
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I had one individual right in the middle of the game.
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I told one of my assistants, grab my checkbook.
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We're in a society now where sleep deprivation is like a sign of success.
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So, here's what Kobe Bryant had to say about my guest today.
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He said, Tim Grover is the master of mental toughness.
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The book is the blueprint for discovering what you are capable of achieving, getting results
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you never imagined, reaching the highest level of success, and then going even higher.
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If you compete at anything, sports or business or life, you need this book.
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No one knows more than Tim Grover about competitive intensity, killer instinct, and crushing the
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He is the best at what he does, creating champions.
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He called him the asshole, which he took it as a compliment so I can say it to him because
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And I don't know if you're aware of this record or not.
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You held the record for the most F-bombs ever dropped in an interview.
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I think the numbers you were counting is like 72, whatever the number was.
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He beats you because it was a longer interview.
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So if we put the optics together, I think you guys are very close to each other.
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And I know you were telling me this is your first live interview you're doing for the book launch,
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I know you're, you know, I'm a big student of your previous book.
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But before we get into the questions, in your mind, give me the difference between the book
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Relentless and the biggest difference between this book that you wrote that's coming out
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It was just like what I was talking about with the other individuals that I dealt with,
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how they thought, how they went through different, how they went through different processes
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But the path people take to get to winning, everybody wants the end result and they want
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to feel the sugar and the confetti and all that other stuff.
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But what you have to endure to win, no one wants to talk about.
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And that's what really winning is about because you spend more time enduring it and being in
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And I wanted to bring it out and say, hey, no matter what you do in life, where you're
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And when you find that win every single day, you can get closer to whatever winning means
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This is about going out and actually achieving that mindset and getting what you want.
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At for what matters to the person or is it more capacity, meaning, you know, you meet
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somebody where you say, this guy's got a big upside.
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And then he says, Tim, I just want to be an all star.
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If I never make in the Hall of Fame, I'm going to live a happy life.
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So is winning to you the individual's level of success they want to have or is winning
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to you somebody that goes out there and says, I want to find out what my best version looks
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I want to find out what my capacity looks like.
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You know, if you don't, people, they look at winning and finishing as the same.
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Those individuals that you're talking about, they're just looking to finish.
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They're like, OK, this is where I got this nice house.
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And a lot of people to that, they're like, they feel like if they finish, they've won.
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These individuals, it's a completely different level.
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So you have individuals that go out and run marathons.
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You know, if you compete at the highest level and you're a person that just runs marathon,
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the chances of you winning that marathon are pretty much zero.
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But being able to finish that marathon puts you in a mindset to win at something else.
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You know, we talk about what Kobe, one of his biggest lines is, you know, don't rest in
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When you talk about people that just want to finish, just what you said, they rest in
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You know, for the longest time, I was, people asked the question, you know, what's success
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What's, you know, one of those questions, what's the key to success?
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And I've heard a million different things, you know, marry the right person, you know,
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faith, hard work, save money, make money, read books, you know, all this stuff that
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we hear from a bunch of different people, to me, it was alignment where, you know, your
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values and principles match the lifestyle you're living.
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So, and not worrying about what others think about you.
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But for you, you spent a lot of time around Mike, MJ, and you spent a lot of time around
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You've spent a lot of time on a lot of other guys, you know, Dwayne, Pat Riley, you know,
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whether it's Barkley, you've spent a lot of time around these guys.
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But if Mike's sitting right here and we asked Kobe, okay, what's the definition of success
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Well, in the book, Kobe said, he said, winning is everything.
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And you sit here and if you talk to Mike, whatever Kobe would say, Mike would have to
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Because there's still, the competition never stops.
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You know, both those individuals, you know, obviously Kobe's not with us anymore, but both
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those individuals, the competition and the desire and the feeling of winning, even though
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they were done with playing, manifested into something else.
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You know, MJ, the most successful sneaker brand out there.
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Owning a team, tequila business, in the sports gambling business.
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With Kobe, it was like, I'm going to win an Oscar.
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He literally, his goal, his plan was to take over Hollywood.
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He was like, I owned L.A. on the basketball court, and now I want to own L.A.
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Everyone knows I own L.A. on the basketball court.
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And if you look at the paths he was going through, that's what he, that's what he was doing.
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That's what he was, that was his, that was his next definition of winning.
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We had him over at the event, and I gave him a couple gifts.
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I gave him a script, I think, by Star Wars, and it was signed.
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Like, we were having a conversation in the back, all he was talking about was storytelling,
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So, the feeling of winning, obviously, is a million times better than you think it's
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It's just a ridiculous feeling that you go there.
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Movies do very well because in the storyline, somebody ends up winning.
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And the audience comes and says, oh my gosh, what a great underdog story.
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The guy ends up playing for, you know, the Jets, a regular bartender.
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So, you see all these different movies do well because we see somebody winning.
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Why don't most people subscribe to wanting to find out what their capacity looks like
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They enjoy the story, but why don't they want to commit to it?
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They want to participate in somebody else's win because that's where their euphoria comes
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from because they want to see what, they know what winning feels like, but what it takes
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to go down that unforgiving race to winning, they don't want to do because it's just too
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They'd rather stay because that's where the majority of the comfort is.
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Everybody wants to be seen until it's time to be seen.
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And once you become, and once everyone can see you, you become a target.
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So, everybody, everyone has their perception of winning as this glorious thing.
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But the book talks about everything that goes along that path and what winning will bring
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And they sit back and you have times and you're just like, why am I doing this?
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But then you become, I know exactly why I'm doing this.
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Those other people, when they say, why am I doing this?
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With the people that continue to win, that why doesn't exist.
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So, do you think those who say, well, you know, I don't know if it's something worth
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Do they know that they're going to get that kind of criticism?
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It's just, I don't think it's worth me paying the price to get this.
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Is it they don't have the point to want to prove to somebody?
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See, what everybody's trying to figure out, what's the, you get this question all the
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So, everybody, what's the one thing to success?
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Man, if it was that easy, everybody would be doing it.
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You know, people, they have, everyone has, and this drives me crazy.
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This drives me, this drives me absolutely crazy.
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And I was told by another individual that the one thing I have to do in my, in my teachings
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I have to give people five steps, 10 steps, so forth.
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It's not something that's worked for the individuals.
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I know it simplifies things and helps people out.
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But when you look at the road to winning, people look at you and they're like, you're a success.
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And you don't know if that next step is going to be there, but you have enough belief in
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That step may go into quicksand, but I know there's another step.
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I believe inside me that there's another step that I have to take, that somebody else isn't
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And you continue to take those, those steps are infinite.
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People don't want to continue to take those steps.
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I don't care what kind of shape an individual is in.
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The greatest athletes, all right, as much training as they ever do, if you've ever had to run
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So when people say there's, there's the, there's 10 easy steps or, you know, there's
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five steps of greatness or this, the, those steps to me are, their steps to me are infinite.
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And even when you put that plan out there, people aren't willing to even take those five
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So intuition for you, you, you've trained the best of the best in the game of basketball.
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I guess the question for me would be even prior to Michael become Michael or Kobe becoming
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When you're training somebody, what signs does somebody give you to say, this guy is potentially
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And at that level, I mean, these guys have made it at the highest level of a game.
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It's not like they're not the, they're the cream of the crop.
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So you're talking about whoever is in the NBA today, they're the, they're, they're a Hollywood
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celebrity on the bat, you know, high school campus.
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Then you go into the NBA like, oh shit, I'm a bench warmer.
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I'm coming up and it's all started and it's this, then it's that.
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What, what signs do you see where you say, this guy's different.
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There's something about this guy that's different.
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What are those signs that you see that he said, there's a very distinct difference between
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She's just as talented, but there's something very weird and different about his personality.
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He just, if you just pay attention to the details, you pay attention to the details, you
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could, those distinguish, those distinctions are easy to, are easy to see.
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Everybody talks about working, working hard, showing up early, showing up late, doing all.
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It's the mannerisms of the way they carry themselves.
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It's the way they absorb information, how coachable they are.
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The one thing, all my athletes in business, in sports, the best of the best are so coachable.
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They're willing, they want that information and they know the difference between false
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information and information that can actually work for them.
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You know, Kobe had a, with the first interview they did with Kobe, when they said, oh, you
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He was like, yeah, he did great things for MJ and he's done great things for other things.
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And too many people look at the history of what they've done in the past.
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They look at their past wins, their past, their past successes.
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These individuals, they've always want, they, you could.
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When you look at that competitive person, you can always see.
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With Kobe, I saw it very early when the, in the playoffs in, against Utah, when he shot
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all those air balls at that, you know, he was what, 17 and always came in the league at
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For most individuals, that would have just totally killed their confidence.
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No, he came back and owned what he did and says, I'm coming back.
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For MJ, it was just never forgetting that he got cut from the varsity team when he tried
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And there's another story that, you know, people don't know.
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So he goes, everyone told him, don't go to North Carolina.
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So he says, no, I'm going, cause you're never going to play.
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You're not going to be, you're going to be on the, you're going to be on the bench.
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So he goes to North Carolina and I'm pretty sure, um, Buzz Peterson was the number one ranked
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So Dean Smith comes in and they, he makes them roommates and he, and Dean, Dean was like,
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he goes, Michael, I want you to meet, uh, I want you to meet, uh, Buzz Peterson.
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Last year in high school is the number one recruit.
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And Michael, first thing goes to Dean, he goes, he ain't never played me.
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Now, let me ask you, when Dean did that, did Dean know Jordan's wiring or he did not?
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And he's just, just trying to, just trying to see because he wanted to say, okay, I know
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what this kid has now, how I just laid something out for him.
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So first day of practice, let's see where he, or let's see where he, let's see where
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And now people say things now, are they actually going to do it?
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The one thing all these individuals had after each championship, while everybody was celebrating,
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they would come and give me a hug and say, what's next?
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Because they're like, you can't, we can't come back the same.
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If we come back the same, winning isn't going to, winning is no longer going to greet us.
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Because, you know, I have a thing in the, in the book where the bus, the bus takes you
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And then when you get back on that same bus, after you've won the championship, the sign
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Because if you're not willing to take that ride, this will be your last win.
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You know, every single successful person, every single one that you, that you've had,
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every single win, the next one's a little bit more difficult.
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You know, you know more, but you can't come back.
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You cannot come back the same individual, especially when you're trying to repeat at something
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So to win the first Oscar, to win that second, what is it?
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But you, those things are just, they're so, and those are the things you look for in
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It's just like, you know, what can, what can, what can I see in game six after.
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And they're having, he's had, they're having dinner.
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And, you know, I, I, I've never worked for the organization.
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So there's certain things that I, I have to say, I had to stay away from.
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So he's sitting there and he's having dinners with, with the coaches and the team.
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And then, you know, I get a text to say, come on down.
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And this is, this is already, you know, remember he's already won three championships.
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So this was, this was going, this was going for number, this was going for number four.
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And he's gone and he sits there and he has this conversation with me.
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And he goes, man, I hit him with everything but the kitchen sink.
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And I looked at him, I said, what in the hell are you saving the sink for?
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I said, how many times do people go through in life?
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Did he, did his reaction to you get pissed at you or was his reaction like you're right?
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Meaning like if something's happened to the game, hey, Tim, what do you think about the game I played today?
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But the thing is, we would only discuss things that I saw that could have been done better.
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Before you even point out, they're already like, I already know.
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Because their obligation to themselves is so much greater than anybody else's obligation to them.
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And they understand the difference between criticism and feedback.
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And basically, the difference between the two is how you hear it.
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Is it the level of sensitivity or a level of – so how much of it is – because sometimes you give feedback to a guy.
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Is it that or is it – then there's certain people you give the feedback to.
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Or is it also the fact that the person has to 100% be a proven guy like you who knows what they're doing to take the feedback from them?
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I'm sure he didn't take feedback from a lot of different people.
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Very small circle of people giving the feedback.
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Very small circle of people and very small people who have actually delivered results.
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You know, people always say, hey, they say, you got to respect me.
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Well, I had to give them something to respect every single day.
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You know, I tell the story about early down in the MJ days of how I won and how I wanted to separate myself.
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When I first started with MJ, there was no Fitbit.
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So how could I do something that I knew was right that would bring me closer to winning, that would bring me closer to him to say, hey, I'm paying attention to the details.
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And I don't even know how many people in this audience are going to remember this.
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But there used to be a recording machine called a Betamax or a VHS machine where you actually had to put a tape in and it would record.
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Because when I'm at the game, I don't have time.
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You know, by the time we got out of the locker room, it would be 10, 30, 11 o'clock.
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I have to rewatch the game because the workout next morning is either at 5 a.m., 6 a.m., or 7 a.m.
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I have to rewatch the game because I have to count his steps.
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I got to know how many times he went right, how many times he went left, when he went backward.
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When people go work out and they think about training, they're like, okay, I'm going to do 10 reps on one side and 10 reps on the other side.
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Well, if during that game, he's going one way more often than he's going the other, I can't work out the legs the same.
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And I'm doing this, and people were looking at me crazy.
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Well, why does he have a 15-pound dumbbell in one hand and a 30-pound dumbbell in the other hand?
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Or why does he have a basketball in one hand and he has a 40-pound dumbbell?
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And I'm like, this side of the body does not need the resistance that this side of the body does.
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One day we may all say, listen, we're only going to work this half of the body out.
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And those were the details that I paid attention to.
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And that's how I got when I spoke, they paid attention.
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Because it doesn't want to point to anybody who isn't worthy.
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So I think you'll get a kick out of it if you watch a documentary.
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So I watched the documentary and I'm sitting there saying, wow.
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You know, the role his father played in Tiger's life.
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I don't know if Tiger is Tiger without the father.
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You sit there and you think about something from two years old.
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So what if your dad's like, if Tiger's my kid, would Tiger be Tiger because of golf?
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So you sit there and you think about some of these guys that get at the level that they get.
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You know, people think dad was a disciplinarian.
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You think about Michael, the story with his dad, where the one part in the last dance,
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he says, you know, his dad's like, oh, you know, why don't you just go out there and do what you're doing?
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You know, I'm going to go here with your brother.
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And his dad was kind of challenging him, playing some mind games with him.
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And he talked about it in the last dance, right?
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And Michael said, when you're going through it, it's very difficult.
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It's torture because you don't know what's really happening to you when someone's challenging you.
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Obviously, his father played, and I have that idea, but I don't know who, you know, the role dad played.
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In a mathematical formula, you'll hear, you know, Pythagorean theorem.
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If you take this and you take this and you take this equals this, right?
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If you want to make a bomb or if you want to make an explosive, you're in a military, you're a Navy SEAL.
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If you take this, you combine it with this, you combine it with this.
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It equals an explosive product that you're producing, right?
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If you want to make a milkshake, you know, you take this, you combine this.
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There's a recipe to the madness, specifically to the madness, not all the other stuff.
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If you were to take the recipe of a guy like a tiger or a Kobe or a Jordan, I'm specifically talking about those who are not one of the best.
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I'm talking about the goatly we're talking about.
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Is there a weird family member that psychologically messed with you a little bit to challenge you?
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Is there a massive setback in life with a ton of pain?
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Is it someone you love so much that you want to make proud?
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Is it a massive public humiliation, you know, where somebody embarrassed you?
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Is it the DNA of the individual because the same four kids could be from the same family, but only one of them ends up becoming?
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And I don't even know if you have the answer to this, but what would you say from experiences, the 1% of the 1% that people read about, people write about, people watch documentaries about, what separates those guys?
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Everything that you mentioned, everything that you mentioned.
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Obviously, listen, you're not going to be a great, if you don't have the genetics to be a great athlete, no matter how much training you do, you're just never going to be, you're never going to be able to reach that level.
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That, that, that pays an important, that pays an important role, picking the, picking the rights, picking the right sport.
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You have to, there's always been an individual that's held you accountable when you're young.
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It could be a parent, it could be somebody that's like, really, doesn't let you, doesn't let you get away with things that, that put, that pushes you, that forces you to do things.
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You look at the Williams sisters from tennis, they're, you know.
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There's, there's all, all, there's always that, there's always that individual.
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There's something there that you just, that you, that you, that you remember and you just like, that becomes your, that's, that's your fuel.
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That's like something that you don't need anybody else to light that fire.
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That's, that's what, that's what you're, that's what you're made of.
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And how you handle that, because a lot of individuals, when they go through that, when they go through that challenge, they go through that disappointment, other people make it too easy for them.
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You know, because our job as parents, our job as individuals, it is the comfort.
00:32:50.580
In order to see winning in all its glory, it wants to see you suffer.
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It, it, it, it, it needs, it needs to, it needs to know that because think about all your wins.
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I know individuals that have won championships 12 years ago that are still celebrating those championships.
00:33:18.460
All right, you look at your value attainment numbers, or you look at your followers, you look at this, you know, I remember when, you know, you hit your, how many years ago was it when you hit the million?
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Two years ago, two years ago when we hit a million.
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Now you're like, was there a big celebration at two million?
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We don't even remember celebrating two million.
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Like there's a, there's a story by Patty McCord who was the former chief human resource officer for Netflix.
00:34:13.160
Our CFO brought everybody into the room and he brings Reed in and says, Hey guys, guess what?
00:34:19.040
We just crossed 5 million subscribers at Netflix.
00:34:30.140
This is now I'm going to go out there and get to 10 million.
00:34:32.260
Everybody else was like, no, but we got to celebrate.
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Do, is it, you know, is it a level of, I guess, I guess what I'm trying to get to is.
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Question came the other day about Trevor Lawrence being picked up as number one.
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And he says, you know, whether I do this life is my life is not just the NFL.
00:35:00.580
And then guys came back and says, I don't care if he said that or not.
00:35:05.540
He came out and he still won two championships.
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And he put up stats that's beyond anybody else has done in any sport.
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If you look at baseball, football, basketball, no one comes close to Gretzky's separation.
00:35:24.380
So, is there a lot of similarities between the great ones all together?
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Or could somebody just be like, no, I'm just going to come and do the job and go out there.
00:35:46.800
And if we don't win a championship this year, it's cool.
00:35:51.760
Do you buy into what they're saying about Lawrence?
00:35:54.840
To be a Brady, you have to be a psychopath, competitor, obsessive to want to kill the other guy.
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I don't want to talk about people I don't know.
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I don't have a relationship with and that I haven't studied.
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But if you look at all the individuals that you've named, if you were to put them all in the same room,
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if you were to have them interview here all in the same room,
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and you had a way to make their voices sound exactly the same,
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There's things they say to the media, and there's things they say among themselves.
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And I've been fortunate enough to be blessed to be in those conversations.
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To sit there and hear those conversations on a private plane with MJ, Tiger, Gretzky, Jeter.
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To sit there and then have them sitting together and just sit back and just listen.
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If a psychologist or a psychiatrist was sitting in a room with all those guys,
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they would, what would they say mental disorders they have?
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They'd actually have to come up with something new.
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These individuals are different in the way they do things.
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It's a pretty crazy story you got here in the book.
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And I have a feeling the audience is going to have the chills all over their body when I read this.
00:38:51.480
So you say on page 103, winning wants all of you.
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And balance, you know, is a very trending topic.
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People always want to say it's not healthy to not live a balanced life.
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When my daughter was around five years old, she was watching me pack for a long road trip.
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And she asked, Daddy, why do you have to travel so much?
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This is how I take care of our family, I told her.
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I travel for my work so I can take care of you and mom and put food on the table.
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And then she said the words that stung me harder than anything that has ever been said to me.
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I was like, I was just kind of like shaken by it.
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And my daughter, you know, same age when you tell her, she's about to turn five years old.
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The next part of that, like I said, most people would be like, okay, the story would be, yes, I unpacked.
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And the only reason I had to be selfish during that time is because I had a path and a goal that I wanted her to be able to achieve and her to be able to see.
00:40:48.060
And knowing that I had to make this sacrifice now for the benefit of what was going to deliver down the line.
00:40:59.460
And if I couldn't deliver what I wanted to deliver down the line, it would actually be more detrimental to myself and to the family and to my growth and to her growth if I didn't complete what I was set out to complete.
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I have not allowed them to read the chapter yet.
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Is this the same daughter you're about to go visit?
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Or is this the same daughter you're about to go visit?
00:41:33.100
I want to spend a couple minutes talking about the topic of guilt.
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I made a video like two months ago talking about guilt because it messes with people.
00:41:43.600
Guy comes up to me and says, Patrick, I got to talk to you, man.
00:41:57.140
I'm doing everything and everything I can, but I got a six-month-old daughter that just
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came, and I'm going through this, and I'm going through that.
00:42:06.100
Because my wife is a stay-at-home mom, and she's trying to take care of the kid, but
00:42:09.220
at the same time, I feel like I'm overworking in real estate.
00:42:12.340
I'm working six, all this stuff that he's telling me, right?
00:42:14.340
In my mind, I'm listening to this guy, and I'm asking myself, first of all, there is
00:42:23.760
If you're asking it, whatever answer you give, the guy's already asking for permission to
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He's just asking for permission is what he's doing, right?
00:42:32.160
We're saying, hey, make me feel good that I work less and stay home and kick back and
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I'm like, I don't have an answer for you, buddy.
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This is a decision you're going to make, right?
00:42:43.700
How do you process the concept of guilt with people who you get to a certain level, and
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You're like, oh, I can compete with this level, guys, and this is great, and I'm going to
00:42:55.600
Then you go to the next level, like, okay, six months ago, yeah, I can beat these guys
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Then you go to the next level, and you're like, I don't know about this level.
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I think at this level, I'm okay being in the top 20%.
00:43:07.960
To be in the top 1% of this level, that guy does that, that guy does this, this guy does
00:43:16.600
Do you think that is a decision the individual has to make, or do you think that is a decision
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Most of the time, that decision, somebody else is sold on by somebody else.
00:43:30.500
The question I'm asking about the guilt side is the following.
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I'm asking, a guy's come in, he wants to be a killer, right?
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But he's hit the wall where he's experiencing similar guilt to the story you talked about
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So he's coming to you, and he's saying, look, here's what I'm going through, Tim.
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You know, you remember that story you said on 103, I'm kind of going through this.
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What do you think about this, this, this, this, that?
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Versus the guy who's a Michael or a Kobe or this, he already knows.
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It doesn't mean you're not going to have an emotional moment.
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It doesn't mean you're not going to cry about it.
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But is it the individual's decision, or is somebody else going to sell you on, don't
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Every single decision, there's so much guilt that try people.
00:44:28.500
People try to put, not only are you working so much, why do you need to go work out?
00:44:36.100
Everybody's all, those are all, that's just people's way of laying guilt on you.
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So people are going to be constantly laying guilt on you.
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You make a decision to be, this is who I'm going to be.
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And these are the consequences that come with being this person.
00:45:12.560
And she asked, well, how do you deal with your husband that's working like this?
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But believe it or not, most people don't know how to have this conversation.
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Because many times if you don't have this conversation, this leads to merit.
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You know, this leads to issues with friends, with family, with mom, with dad, falling out,
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From your experience, I haven't been around for a while.
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You got wisdom in this more than we do because you're the expert in this area.
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What is the right approach to take with the people you love the most?
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Have the conversation early, have the conversation often, but your results have to dictate what
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If you tell somebody, I need 90 days, you got 90 days to deliver.
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Don't turn five years later and say you didn't deliver in 90 days.
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Before you make any judgment on the training, anything that's going on, I need 30 days.
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So when you tell those individuals, and those results have to not only benefit you,
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If you're putting in all this time now, then when you do take that trip with the family
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and you do that, you're in that trip with that family.
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You're like, you've earned that time to be with them.
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When I was, when my daughter was younger, I moved to LA to train Kobe.
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He goes, I need you to, I need you to live here.
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So I would, and my daughter was a volleyball player.
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I said, give me the volley, give me the volleyball schedule.
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And this is now from flying in from Orange County.
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I would look at Kobe's schedule from a workout, training, game schedule.
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I would literally catch a 7 a.m. flight from Orange County.
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Go to my daughter's volleyball game for 90 minutes, drive back to the airport, get on
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the 7.30 flight back, and be ready for the training session next day.
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You know, do you almost tell somebody who, like, let's just say I come to you and I
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say, tell them, let me tell you, I'm not scared of these guys.
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If I come to you, do you tell me, you sure you're going to be okay with this?
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You sure you're going to be accepting the fact that, you know, parents are not going
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It's like, okay, this is what I'm going to do and this is what I'm willing to do.
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You know, everybody likes to tell you, yeah, I want to be the best.
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And I'll say, okay, I'll see you tomorrow for the workout.
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What do you got going on at 3.30 in the morning?
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And usually when I say 3.30, they think about 3.30 in the afternoon.
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So everybody says they're going to do, they're going to do these things and very few will
00:49:56.600
Oh, I fired more clients and I've, I've returned more money than I've actually kept.
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High end individuals, high end sports, wealthy, all stars, all that.
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I had one individual right in the middle of the game.
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He was just like, here, I said, I told one of my assistants, I go into the office, grab
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Once I put my reputation on an individual, I have certain expectations.
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If I can't, I can only, I'm only as good as my clients allow me to be.
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My results are dictated by how hard and how well somebody else is willing to listen and
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willing to do the work and follow directions when I'm not around.
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I can, I cannot physically put the ball in the basket for you.
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If I could, you and I would still, you and I would be playing.
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So the things that I'm requiring of you, those are non-negotiables in that point.
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Because you have, you have, you have to do this because my obligation and your obligation
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is to yourself, to your family, to the organization, to your fans, to the people that sit down and
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What, what are you going to do to get there and to stay, and to stay there?
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It's just, it's just, it's just, it's too, too hard.
00:52:34.400
When I asked Kobe, you know, I have this thing in the book, I said, the language of winning.
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And Kobe's answer was, I said, winning is everything.
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When you see your kids win, how, how, how good is, yes.
00:52:51.640
When your spouse wins, when your significant other, when your team wins, the feeling it
00:53:08.580
I'm going to read some of the principles you got, and we'll get into a couple of them
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And then I want to spend some time talking about the last dance.
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So I'm going to just read through some of these here.
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Number one, winning makes you different and different scares people.
00:53:24.120
Winning wages war in the battlefield of your mind.
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Winning isn't heartless, but you'll lose, but you'll use your heart less.
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Everything that you've hidden in the closet, winning knows all of it.
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And that's one of the questions I ask all my clients because I don't know them.
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I need to know everything that's going on in your life.
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And so this was during this was during a championship number.
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So one of the players all of a sudden like a month before the playoffs.
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So Kobe goes, hey, I need you to go talk to him.
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I said, you've been in the league for how many years now?
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I said, every single game you've always, this ain't the time to change.
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Because everybody told him that this is what you're supposed to do.
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And the things that actually allowed him to play at his best, he stopped doing.
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Because everybody said, these are detrimental to you.
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And for most individuals, they might be detrimental.
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Long hours, lack of sleep may be detrimental to a lot of people.
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You know, we're in a society now where we look at it where sleep deprivation is like a sign of success.
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So everybody thinks, well, if I beat the sun up, I'll be successful.
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One of the most important things I got Colby to do was to take naps.
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You can do all the recovery modalities in the world.
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And I said, let's see how your performance happens.
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Let's see what goes on with your performance when you take those naps.
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I said, in one week, back then you're going to play maybe three games, maybe four games.
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You know, you got this beautiful bike over here.
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You got to sometimes the greatest individuals, you got to teach them to stop.
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It's got to be the right person saying it for the person to, the individual to want to accept that.
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And that, you know, with Kobe, when I got him to do less, when I actually got him to do less, which was a challenge, which was a huge challenge, to get him to do less.
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And that's when things really changed for that.
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That thing's when really is the longevity of being able to play 20, being able to play 20 years.
00:59:52.580
You said Kobe worked harder, but Jordan worked smarter, right?
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So, Jordan was willing to take your counsel to say stop, but you would tell Kobe to stop.
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Kobe would come back in the afternoon shoot for a couple more hours.
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So, we'd have these crazy workouts late at night.
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You know, Kobe is, you know, everyone knows about those things.
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I would literally sit in the gym for another half hour because I know he's coming back.
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How much of that is, because you're a non-negotiable guy as well, right?
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The guy tells you, hey, when you get up on stage, don't curse.
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But the guy before he gets up on stage and he curses, you're like, wait a minute.
01:00:34.580
Why does he, you're getting like, I have two non-negotiables.
01:00:42.200
So, is this an element of Kobe saying, screw everybody.
01:00:45.240
This is my non-negotiable that I'm going to come and do this no matter what.
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And he can't get past taking counsel for someone like you?
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And sometimes that inner battle turned into a physical battle.
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And I'd have to, I'd have to stand, I'd have to stand my ground.
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Oh, well, there's a lot of adjectives and words used that I used, you know?
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But if you're strong enough in your, you hired me to do this job.
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So, by the way, is that a sign that Jordan's trusted more than Kobe did?
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No, I just, with MJ, I started earlier in his career.
01:02:04.840
I came in during the Olympics time, during the Olympic times.
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That's when it's so, it was a totally, it was different stages.
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And I was only, from an outside training standpoint, I was the only trainer MJ had.
01:02:23.600
Kobe had been through numerous, numerous during that time, a lot of them.
01:02:30.980
So, there was, he had already had a baseline of thinking.
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I give a great, he would love to do track work.
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Kobe would love to do, he'd love to run on the track.
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And he was always taught to run in the same direction.
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Same direction, same direction, same direction.
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Well, I said, Kobe, if you keep running the bank on the same way, all right, every time you take a turn,
01:03:03.720
Because if you look at a NASCAR, okay, the NASCARs, all the turns are left, left, left, left.
01:03:12.720
So, he was just like, this doesn't, I don't understand what you're saying.
01:03:19.260
So, I just, I literally put him in touch with a pit crew of the NASCAR individuals.
01:03:25.860
So, did both of them need to be explained, or did Michael just take the counsel, but Kobe needed an explanation?
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Michael took the counsel, Kobe always needed, always all, you know, when you interviewed him.
01:03:46.640
But both crazy, psycho competitors, one needed an explanation.
01:03:50.720
The other one is like, just tell me, I'll go out there and do it.
01:03:52.520
The other guy said, hey, I hired you to do this.
01:03:56.880
He goes, if I have to question you, then I've lost trust and I've lost faith in you.
01:04:05.160
Yeah, but he would always, he would always, he knew the difference between if somebody was trying to BS him and what was real.
01:04:14.240
You know, there's a whole thing about winning never lies.
01:04:18.700
It's just like, okay, he just, he had that innate ability to be like, yeah, this doesn't sound right.
01:04:24.260
This doesn't, this doesn't sound, he would always like, is this a gimmick?
01:04:28.740
No, no, no, this is, yeah, Michael says, no, no, no, there's, there's, there's no gimmicks.
01:04:36.000
This, and it was a quick, it was a, and he wanted to see the results.
01:04:41.380
Kobe, Kobe, you know, more of a renaissance man, did a lot of reading, you know, spoke, what, four, five languages?
01:04:51.760
Kobe could have done a lot of different things.
01:04:53.500
And he, Kobe could have been a private equity guy.
01:04:55.340
Kobe could have been a, you know, his mind is very, when I think about Kobe's mind,
01:05:02.220
I think about an analytical, crazy, genius type of a brain that he had.
01:05:11.820
Who goes out and knows that you sign Pau Gasol,
01:05:17.720
and the way you're going to communicate with him on the court,
01:05:21.780
it's going to be in Spanish, so nobody else can understand what's going on.
01:05:27.680
So you're literally calling plays, because everybody knows the numbers and so forth.
01:05:38.600
So he's, they're literally talking back and forth.
01:05:41.500
And the other eight guys on the court are like, what are these two,
01:05:45.000
what are these, what are these two individuals talking about?
01:05:47.460
You talk about it in the GQ commercial, GQ video that you did.
01:05:50.000
I think it was GQ that you did, where you said he was learning Mandarin
01:05:53.120
because he was seeing the direction the NBA was going.
01:06:08.080
And he understood because he started to make those trips before.
01:06:15.680
Just like, hey, let's, me and the team, or sometimes the family,
01:06:19.240
let's just go down there so people would see him.
01:06:26.880
You know, just like when he, who's, Luca Dandis for Dallas.
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And it's just like, Luca was like, who's that speaking to me?
01:06:41.660
So he spoke, you know, obviously he spoke Italian.
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He spoke, you know, everybody knows he spoke English.
01:06:48.080
And, you know, whatever else he was, whatever else he was working,
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By the way, you know, you said sometimes the whole tire thing, right?
01:07:02.840
When you're wearing it out, eventually you got your knees.
01:07:05.200
Because, you know, Kobe had the whole knee situation.
01:07:12.360
We had one of our clients that was here, Dr. Gill.
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He actually sent me a picture of you guys yesterday.
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And he said the fact that you went with Kobe to Germany when he went through it.
01:07:33.980
And platelet, you know, the whole thing that was, you know, he went in, got the injections,
01:07:48.820
You know, maybe athletes are going to push work and play until 45.
01:07:52.440
Maybe some guy in the next 20 years is going to play until 50 with the way you're going, right?
01:07:56.760
What are your thoughts about the treatments with PRP stem cells?
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My opinion on it is what the research is available.
01:08:09.500
And then for other individuals, it just doesn't.
01:08:12.000
So, what I look at is if you're dealing with an injury, go out there and study and try all the modalities that are out there,
01:08:30.360
Talk to the athletes that or individuals that it's worked for.
01:08:35.920
Find out where they got it, what the procedure was, all that.
01:08:38.700
And if you're not willing to do that, have somebody else who is.
01:08:43.500
But you have so much more that's available to you.
01:08:46.700
But also, when you have too much data available to you, it confuses you.
01:08:54.720
I mean, you have organizations with teams that have defined jobs.
01:09:04.380
You have your strength and conditioning individuals.
01:09:10.400
It's very hard to find individuals that are all on the same page because everybody's looking for the credit.
01:09:15.480
But everybody's looking for the credit for the success of that individual, that athlete, and so forth.
01:09:24.440
Instead of figuring out what's best for that individual, the success lies in how the individual, the company performs.
01:09:37.800
So when you're out there getting, make sure everybody on your organization, on your team, they can all have different styles.
01:09:47.140
When we go back, I remember this, for our first interview, I was in a suit that didn't fit, and you were in a leather jacket, sitting on two lounge chairs.
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Our identity, your identity hasn't changed from them.
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You know, you look at the individuals, the way they dress, the way they do things, the way they handle business.
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You know, some people like to eat while they're working.
01:10:37.440
But the identity of a successful team, the identity of winning has to be the same.
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It's just like, listen, I've seen you transform from an individual that used to be in jeans.
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Your identity from where I first met you to now is exactly the same.
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If winning's not going to lie, you can't lie to winning.
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Too many people don't know who they are, and they lie.
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My realtor says, I just want you to know, I'm the best of the best in Fort Lauderdale.
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But this guy's the best of the best in Palm Beach.
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He was selling Trump's house for like $140 million.
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And we looked at the house yet because it was his house before he sold it to Sly for like
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And while I'm with him, he gets a call from Steve Wynn.
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And then I said, so how long have you known Wynn, Trump, all these guys?
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So he starts kind of telling me the personality, all this other stuff.
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He says, you know, some of the guys that make it at the small percentage of, you know,
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1% of 1%, whatever that number is, they have very few friends.
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They have a lot of people they know, but they have very, very few friends.
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How hard is it to be friends with a guy like, was there a, was Michael more a friendly guy
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who he had a lot of friends or, you know, Kobe is known for not being a guy that had a
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He was more to himself than it was the other way around.
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But what, what could you say about who they let in and how easily they befriended people?
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They let very few people in and they, both of them didn't have a lot of friends.
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A friend comes and goes when things are good and they're gone when they're bad and friends
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Friends give you the answers when something isn't going well.
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These guys, they're not looking for, they've never settled for okay in their life.
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So if you tell them everything's going to be okay, they're like, that's a miserable day.
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Everybody that's one, they're all allies because they can relate to each other.
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So those, those are, those are the individuals.
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Is it because they all speak the same language and nobody else speaks the language they speak,
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You can always tell when a kid's going to fib something because the story gets real, real
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It just gets a little longer and long and that doesn't change with individuals.
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When you're performing well, they'll let you know.
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When you're not performing well, they'll let you know.
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If you're doing something destructive, they'll let you know.
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And sometimes your allies aren't even your closest, they're not even your closest associates.
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They just pop in to be like, they hold you accountable and they leave.
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But people don't want to be surrounded about those guys because you look in a relationship.
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And if it requires all of you, it requires you to be honest.
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What's the first thing people say they want in a relationship?
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When you are honest with an individual and you tell them the truth,
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it's supposed to lead to better performance, better understanding.
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Because now you have to deal with an emotional situation.
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These people know how to go from one emotion to another quickly.
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They know how to go from fun to serious, serious back to fun, quiet to loud, loud to quiet.
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One minute he's got thinking about his enemies.
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His mind was, is it the level of creativity or is it the level of focusedness?
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Or is it the level of they feel all the sensitivities?
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They are so aware of everything that's going around them.
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Is it the slightest thing could bother them or no?
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They know whether they need to use it or not use it.
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They don't forget, but they have the shortest memories.
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I've always said that to the greatest athletes out there, thinking is a distraction.
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Because if you're thinking, you're not in the moment.
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But it takes years and years and years and years of thinking not to be able to think.
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So these individuals that can go from one emotion to another.
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They have that ability to know what they can use and what they can't use.
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And they can get rid of it real, real, real, real quick.
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I ask this because you think about Michael and Chuck, right?
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You know this kid where Charles is wearing the blue jumpsuit.
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How could you say that guy's a better player than me?
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What gets a guy at that level to stop a relationship with a guy like Charles you've known for 20, 30 years?
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They just decide one day, I'm not doing this anymore.
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Obviously, I know what's been in the media and what's been going on.
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You made a decision to move your family, to move to this location, to separate the two businesses.
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How many individuals do you know are still making suggestions?
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Winning, that's the first thing winning will require.
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Are you deciding or are you suggesting to be in this unforgiving race?
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Michael made a decision and boom, that's what happens.
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I mean, listen, I think the world would love to see those guys back at it again, talking to each other.
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And Michael, is there any athlete that people are more enamored by than him?
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The first time you and I sat down, I brought up LeBron James.
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And you had at one point said LeBron James was a closer.
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But you said that even maybe when the book came out, you considered him a closer, not
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And you have the whole cooler, closer, cleaner.
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And the cleaner are guys like Michael and all these guys that are cleaners.
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Do you think the last dance is the worst thing that ever happened to the argument of
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Listen, I'm going to be subjective on this, obviously, because of my relationship with...
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I think even before the last dance, it just wasn't...
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I think if you're above 35, there is no argument.
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If you're above 40, there is no argument, right?
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But do you think the 22-year-old guy, the 28-year-old, the 26-year-old, maybe they didn't
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Saturday morning, Michael's coming up against Chicago, he scores 52 points, 55 points, all
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Do you think the 22-year-old, like a generation that missed watching this guy play Sid, that guy's
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Do you think last dance hurt those guys' argument?
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I've had so many people that come up to me and say the footage of MJ on YouTube is enhanced.
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And I've had so many individuals now, they're just like...
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They're just like, MJ's just a myth and ghost us.
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We hear all these stories and we've heard all these things and it's just...
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So the debate for you, it wasn't even a debate before, but the debate for you even afterwards,
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nothing changed for you, but for somebody else, maybe they said, this wasn't my...
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LeBron's probably watching that thing saying, ooh, they're going to say this, they're going
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When he came out and said it, he's chasing one guy.
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I was just dunking the ball, but you know what he's doing.
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Do you have a top five all time where you go, you know, let's say Michael's the greatest
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He's probably going to get like two views here, so don't worry about it.
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Well, obviously, Michael's going to be on there.
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I'd have to put, I'd have to put, well, you know what?
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If you look at, depending on the era of the game, if you're just, it could be, it's so
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I mean, if you're looking at the older game, you want, you definitely want Shaq in there.
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You're just the way he was probably the most dominant player that you just gave him the
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ball and he just, he just literally ran through everybody.
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I would probably, I would want, I would take MJ.
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You got Shaq, Kareem, Wilt, maybe Akeem, but he would probably be on the list.
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You know, I work with Akeem, so it's kind of difficult for me to keep him off, keep him
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But the way the game is played now, it's just like, I'd say Shaq.
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Larry Bird on a game decided, I'm just going to go shoot with the left hand today.
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He's like, you're so bored with the competition that you come out and says, eh, I'm going
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I'm going to go, I'm going to play, I don't know if it was the first half or whatever it
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He says, I'm just going to shoot the ball with the left hand.
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You know, one of the reasons I put it, obviously defense isn't a, it isn't a primary thing
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in this sport anymore, but you know, obviously we know Michael could play unbelievable defense.
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LeBron, when he chooses, he could play, he can, he can lock them down.
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If they do get around anybody, you got this big, you got this big monster in the middle.
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And all those individuals, the one thing they have is the ability to make everybody else
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They all have the ability to make everybody else around them.
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Dr. J comes out and he talks about, I'm sure you saw it when he comes out and he says,
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Hey, you know, what do you think about your top five?
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He says, first team, second team, first team, Oscar Robertson, Jerry West, Elgin Baylor,
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Bill Russell, Will Chamberlain, which obviously that's his era.
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And then he says, second team, he would put Magic, Michael, Larry, Malone, Kareem, the second
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So obviously Kobe's not on the list if he had to choose between.
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One, two, three, four, five is the way he did it.
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So he chose Kobe over, he chose Michael over Kobe.
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And then they asked him, they said, wait a minute, where's LeBron on this list?
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He says, he is the guy who has led the change in terms of super teams.
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When he put together a team in Miami, he put together a team in Cleveland as well.
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And he put together a team in LA so he can pick his own team.
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The guy turns around and says, I'm sure you saw it.
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He says, well, LeBron's verdict would be, there's been super teams for a long time.
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There was typically three or four all-stars on the same team.
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Two, what do you think about LeBron not being on his top five?
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Well, I mean, obviously, the top five is what you said.
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Listen, when you go to war, you're going to go with war.
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You need to go to war with the makeup of the people that you know, that you can trust.
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By the way, it's a great list if you think about it.
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Elgin Baylor was the first person to do all the stuff.
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And Julius punched him three times in the face.
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And, you know, Michael is obviously, everybody said, you know, he's the heir apparent to Dr. J.
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If I had to take one person out of my second team.
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I have a feeling I know who you're going to take.
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Because I don't think he went 2000, 2010, and today.
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I don't know if that's going to be his top five list himself.
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But, you know, again, the last dance, when I watched it, I was sending you a text.
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I'm like, Tim, this is insane with the stories that you're hearing about this guy.
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By the way, when they recorded it, did they know?
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When they recorded that season, did they know eventually they're going to do a last dance?
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He goes, when it's time or when I decide to do this, I will sign off.
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And originally, it was supposed to come out in the fall.
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By the way, I mean, timing-wise, timing kind of worked in their favor.
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Yeah, so they were just like, the last two episodes weren't even done when it started.
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Wait, so when we sat down and we watched the first two on a Sunday night?
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They had still not finished the last two episodes.
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Because they hadn't planned on showing it until, but then because of the pandemic and everything had.
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And, you know, everybody, there's like, everybody's, so they literally went in and asked, hey, we need, we want to move the production up.
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The one thing I have to say about Michael, and this is why I put him above everybody, whether it is kind of like Tiger also.
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Whether you were a basketball fan or a golf fan, you were a fan of that.
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If you didn't enjoy golf, you would literally, you'd look up the paper to see what Tiger did or where he was playing, what was going on.
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I had so many people that said, I'm not a basketball fan, but I'm a Michael Jordan fan.
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But, so you had, those, those individuals, transcended individuals that had no interest in that sport.
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You're going to love Tiger's documentary, by the way.
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They talk about what he did to the game of golf and how much it changed and how many people are now watching.
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Like the moment you hear about it, he's not in the Masters.
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I have no, but when Tiger was in it, glued to the screen, what's he going to do here at the restaurant?
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Can you please change the channel from the football game?
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You were curious about what he was going to be doing.
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When I, it's, I'm telling you, when you watch Tiger's documentary, it's very, very.
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When I see him, I look at him, I'm like, oh my gosh.
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Like, you look, we were at a poker tournament he put together.
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And you're just watching this guy on where he is and what state he's in.
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But today, after what just happened recently, I think that's very unlikely of taking place.
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You know, these conversations, this is what, this is my drug.
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You use a very technical scientific terminology in the book that I would want you, you know,
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to share with the audience, obviously your background in kinesiology.
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This scientific terminology you use, the I-D-G-A-F, can you tell us a little bit more about it?
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You know, what do you mean by that they have this mindset?
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I've done pretty good at keeping the language here.
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And I don't remember where it was, but you and I did an event together.
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And I remember you telling me, you actually, and I don't know if this talk was actually
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directed to me or not, but you had said something about the language thing.
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Because my agent, Sherry, was telling me the same thing.
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She goes, you have to know when to place and when not to.
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And I remember everything that you told me about the thing.
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Listen, yeah, we joke about I had the record for it.
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I would not have said, I'm talking about if I'm still doing it now.
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That means I didn't evolve as a better speaker.
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Most people, that's what I said, there's feedback and criticism.
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Which, it may be directed to you, but it's not being-
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And you went up, and there's, I think, four people were asking you questions.
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And they were kind of interviewing you, you know, the setting that you had.
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In order for my next evolution, is that something that I need to work on?
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I mean, I could have easily said, ah, forget that.
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But going back to the idea that, listen, it's a I don't give a fuck muscle.
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You're, you know, people, if you go at the history of you, people don't know one of your
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main goals is to be a professional bodybuilder.
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And you've had numerous professional bodybuilders on this show.
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And you, you know, you've talked to them because their minds-
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In basketball and football, all these individuals, when they're training and they're preparing
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for a game or whatever, they can still have a slice of pizza.
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Especially if you win it back to, like a Phil doing it seven.
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Ridiculous to be able to stay this point that long.
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He took, what, a year and a half off and finishing the top three?
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Coming back, I mean, it's just, like you said, maniacal.
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But just like any other muscle in your body, that muscle, people don't train enough.
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So, when you need to use it, you don't have the ability to say it.
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So, I don't give a fuck muscle is that muscle inside of you that blocks everything out.
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Regardless of what anybody else, anybody, that doesn't mean you're not open to feedback
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and criticism, but it doesn't, it takes you away from all the naysayers, from all the
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haters, from all the lack of focus, from everything else that's coming in, that's trying to derail
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Is that like, I think, do you think this is something that you learn?
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Like, there are certain parts of the game that you got to learn.
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Do you think this is where Michael had to go and say, dude, listen, I honestly don't
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give a flying, you know what, just who, is it an evolution for the individual?
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And the one, I would say the individual that's probably that the younger audience can relate
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You know, when he, when he first started with the media, he was extremely sensitive to what
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Now it's at the point, he's just like, here it is.
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This is what, this is what, this is what I'm going to do.
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That's one of the muscles he exercised throughout his career that is so freaking powerful.
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And he's, he's probably going to, going to be politically, this guy's not going away.
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He's going to be doing stuff the next few decades.
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I think he's got big aspirations and he's also another guy that's a pretty smart guy.
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I don't know when it was when he started reading a lot of books, you would see him be pregame,
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He would, you know, get away from social media and would just stay focused on his game.
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His, every individual around him that he keeps around, and this is very special.
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They're his close friends and they're his allies.
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If it's funny you say this, because we were talking about Mark Wahlberg and Mark would
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talk about, you know, everybody that's around him right now is people that he's known since
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he was a kid, you know, when he's coming up in Boston, whatever it was, right?
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That's not an easy thing to do for LeBron to turn his friends into individual stars themselves.
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You know, all these other names, Maverick, all these guys that he's got.
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Because that means you're growing and they're growing.
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That means you're growing and you're lifting them up.
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You got to give the guy credit for being able to do that.
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But that's why I think he's a different wiring than Kobe and Jordan.
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I don't think he's the same wiring as those guys.
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But that just shows you there's more ways, there's more than one, there's more than one
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There's more than, there's more than one way to get there.
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You said the opening, you said, listen, there's not a lot of ways to get there.
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You said, you know, winning, I can't give you the steps.
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But the guy that's going to win, he's going to figure out a way to do it his own way.
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Listen, you and I, in this line of speaking, we don't tell people what to do.
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That was one of the biggest criticisms I got about Relentless was you didn't tell it.
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Well, your whole life, everybody's telling you what to do.
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How you got to where you're at, how I got to where I'm at, where how these individuals that
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we talk about in the book, there's the ability to what to think and how to think.
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Everybody, a lot of the people in our space, it's all about, they give you information.
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And when you learn to combine the both, and that's what winning requires you to do.
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It's not, it needs you to gather the information, but it also needs you to be able to think on
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The onus has to be on the individual at the highest level to want to make that decision.
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You can kind of tell them where you can, you know, here's what you may want to think about.
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Here's this, here's what this person did, here's what this person did.
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The onus has to be on the individual to want to take it at whatever levels they want to
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But see, they want it simple because when you ask them, what do they want to do?
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I don't think for the 1% of the 1%, I don't think that the 1% of 1%, I don't think it
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I think for, I think you can't get into 1% and show people here is if you do this, you're
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But there's the additional cycle level to go through that.
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It's so much pain that you got to be willing to go through that.
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Anyways, look, if you're watching this, when, when Tim comes out with a book, I don't wait
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If you've not read Relentless or this, you got to buy both of them.
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I'm not even recommending you just buy this book.
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We're going to put the link below for you to go buy it.
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That'll be at the top of the link to buy this book.
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But on the bottom, when you're ordering it, if it gives you the option to also buy Relentless,
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But obviously, this is the one that just came out.
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Tim, once again, appreciate you for coming out.
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You know, I'm getting sharper and sharper because your content speaks my language.
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I know you've had some unbelievable guests on this show.
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And I've been honored to be a part of those events.
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