The Ugly Side of Entitlement
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Summary
How often do people go out of their way to do favors for you? Yes, you. How often do you have people help you out, do favors, give you time, support you? How often does this happen? The answer may be, all the time. People always do me favors.
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How often do people go out of their way to help you?
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How often do people go out of their way to do favors for you, help you out, give you
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Two weeks ago, I decided to do a giveaway on Twitter.
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Typically, I give away money on a monthly basis.
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But this time around, a friend told me during COVID, says, do a giveaway on Twitter.
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You just had to retweet it and send me a DM, and I'm going to call you once you call my
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I don't say, you know, Mario, you call or my assistant to call.
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One of the ladies that retweeted it ended up becoming a very good friend.
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It's amazing how this relationship, she's probably in her mid-60s.
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She had no idea why I asked her for her number.
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It's kind of a surprise because she was the winner.
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Do you have a Zelle account or a PayPal account?
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She said, you don't understand how much I needed this $1,000.
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Every day, messaging back and forth on Twitter.
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She says, this is some of the collections that I had for my grandkids and my family.
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Two weeks ago, I said, I'm going to do another giveaway.
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This time around, I said, I'm going to give $500 to six people in 72 hours.
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And we filter people on who we want to give the money to.
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There's a lot of bots on Twitter that are, here's my cash app.
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And every tweet of theirs, it's only about people giving them.
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So there's these fake accounts that people start that they just go to do all these giveaways
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because it increases the chance of winning $100 here, $50 here, $200.
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I've never met any of these folks that we give the money to, right?
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Then all of a sudden, I saw people saying, this is a scam.
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Not one of the people I gave the money to is in my insurance company.
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Not one of the people is a person I've shook hands.
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I'm giving away the money I worked hard for, right?
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I started noticing a bunch of people were entitled.
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One guy went out there and sent out a tweet and said, look at this.
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And Cash App tells you to put your name and your user on your Twitter because they can
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Of course, Cash App is going to tell you to put your username because it's more traction
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I get Cash App's strategy on why they want to do that.
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And I said, let me give you a nine-part tweet that I send out.
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And I explained, here's how I did the giveaway.
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But let me explain the first thing I thought about when this happened.
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How often do certain people want to do good for you, but after they do it, the expectation
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is higher and you feel you're entitled for more from them and they never want to do
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So I got certain people in my life that I've helped out a lot.
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I don't know why I don't want to do for this person anymore.
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Why don't you want to do for this person anymore?
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Because no matter when I've gone above and beyond for these few people, it's never enough.
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But I'm just putting my resources and my time into other people.
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Because every time I do it to you, you just don't like it and you want more of it.
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I'm giving and I have to do more because I'm entitled.
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So if you're watching this here right now, there's two different positions here.
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There's no way in the world you're going to be happy to be in this position.
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I've been here before and let me tell you, it's miserable because there's going to be
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No matter how big of an empire you want to build, let's assume you have big dreams.
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If you have big dreams and you want to build a big company, a big empire, be ready to do
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a lot for a lot of people without getting anything in return from 90% of people.
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You have to be comfortable with that because if you're not, you're going to build a small
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empire and you're going to be by yourself because a lot of people are not going to return
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If you do have big things you want to do in your life, if you do have big things you want
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to do in your life, you're going to need people to want to do things for you.
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So if anybody at any point goes above and beyond to help you out, always be thankful, never
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have more expectation, and always return the favor because the more you get and the more
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you're constantly giving without any expectation, all of a sudden one day you're waking up saying,
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He doesn't have to do that kind of stuff for me.
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The guy went out of his way and then all of a sudden you're looking and saying, oh my
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gosh, look at the empire I've built because you have officially opened up and welcomed
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And for some of you that are saying, man, I gave on, like for me, I said, I'm not going
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I'm not going to do it again, but I'm still going to give the money that I give on a monthly
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It's just not going to be on Twitter again because those folks got somebody to say, I will not
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It's a very simple concept and it applies to family.
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So having a go, processing this thing together with you, when I ask you the question, how often
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If your answer was rarely, now you know the answer why.
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So if the answer to you was no, maybe it's time to start making some adjustments so others
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will start continuously, want to go out of their way to help you.
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