Valuetainment - The Ugly Side of Entitlement

00:00:00.000 How often do people go out of their way to help you?

00:00:24.800 Yes, you.

00:00:25.180 How often do people go out of their way to do favors for you, help you out, give you

00:00:30.300 time, support you?

00:00:31.960 How often does this happen?

00:00:33.440 The answer could be, not often, man.

00:00:35.740 I never experience help.

00:00:37.460 Why?

00:00:38.460 Or the answer may be, all the time.

00:00:39.940 People always do me favors.

00:00:41.400 Why?

00:00:41.940 So let's process both of them.

00:00:43.520 Two weeks ago, I decided to do a giveaway on Twitter.

00:00:46.200 Typically, I give away money on a monthly basis.

00:00:48.340 But this time around, a friend told me during COVID, says, do a giveaway on Twitter.

00:00:52.480 I did it the first time.

00:00:53.540 Turned out amazing.

00:00:54.300 I gave $1,000 to three different people.

00:00:56.340 You just had to retweet it and send me a DM, and I'm going to call you once you call my

00:01:00.940 cell phone.

00:01:01.320 And I personally call.

00:01:02.160 I don't say, you know, Mario, you call or my assistant to call.

00:01:04.620 I'm going to call you.

00:01:05.620 One of the ladies that retweeted it ended up becoming a very good friend. 1.00

00:01:10.000 It's amazing how this relationship, she's probably in her mid-60s.

00:01:13.700 I said, send me your number.

00:01:14.740 She had no idea why I asked her for her number.

00:01:16.200 It's kind of a surprise because she was the winner.

00:01:17.880 Like 10,000 people retweeted it.

00:01:20.020 She sends me her number.

00:01:20.940 I call her.

00:01:21.360 I said, how are you doing?

00:01:21.940 She says, I'm really not doing that well.

00:01:23.260 Well, things are not, who is this Patrick?

00:01:24.880 Oh my gosh, Patrick, how are you?

00:01:26.320 I've never met this person before.

00:01:28.360 She says, oh, it's so good to hear from you.

00:01:30.060 I said, well, how's your day going?

00:01:31.060 Things are not going good.

00:01:31.940 What's going on?

00:01:32.940 Tree fell on my house.

00:01:33.900 Like, I know it sounds weird.

00:01:34.920 The tree literally fell on her house.

00:01:36.920 I said, can I make it up for you?

00:01:38.120 Can I make your day?

00:01:39.180 Is it okay if I make your day?

00:01:40.460 Yeah, of course you can make my day.

00:01:41.880 I said, I want to give you $1,000.

00:01:43.540 What do you mean?

00:01:44.360 I want to gift you $1,000.

00:01:46.940 You want to give me $1,000?

00:01:48.040 Yes.

00:01:48.840 Come on, Patrick.

00:01:49.720 I said, no.

00:01:50.380 Do you have a Zelle account or a PayPal account?

00:01:52.560 Yes.

00:01:53.220 Give me your account.

00:01:54.040 We took it.

00:01:54.780 Logged on.

00:01:55.360 $1,000.

00:01:55.940 I said, go check your profile.

00:01:57.120 You just gave me $1,000.

00:01:58.520 I said, yes.

00:01:59.240 She said, you don't understand how much I needed this $1,000.

00:02:01.680 I really needed this $1,000.

00:02:03.740 I said, no problem.

00:02:04.620 Have a wonderful day.

00:02:05.860 She says, no, I got to do something.

00:02:06.920 I said, no, don't even worry.

00:02:07.820 I'm not doing nothing.

00:02:08.840 Don't want nothing in return.

00:02:10.380 We get off.

00:02:11.640 Every day, messaging back and forth on Twitter.

00:02:14.500 She says, I noticed you like cards.

00:02:16.120 She said, yeah, I collect cards.

00:02:17.400 How many cards did she send me the other day?

00:02:19.480 Ten Jordan cards came to mind.

00:02:21.460 She says, this is some of the collections that I had for my grandkids and my family.

00:02:25.160 It was there.

00:02:25.500 I knew you were a card person.

00:02:26.600 I said to you, what?

00:02:28.040 And I said, you know what?

00:02:29.360 Good experience.

00:02:30.060 I'm going to do another giveaway.

00:02:31.300 Two weeks ago, I said, I'm going to do another giveaway.

00:02:33.440 This time around, I said, I'm going to give $500 to six people in 72 hours.

00:02:38.660 So people retweet.

00:02:39.600 And we filter people on who we want to give the money to.

00:02:42.300 We look at people that are real profiles.

00:02:44.160 There's a lot of bots on Twitter that are, here's my cash app.

00:02:47.560 Here's my this.

00:02:48.540 Send me money anonymously.

00:02:50.300 I'm struggling.

00:02:50.900 It's a lot of these signs.

00:02:51.880 Like, I'm poor.

00:02:52.480 I'm struggling.

00:02:53.040 I have cancer.

00:02:53.500 I have this.

00:02:54.360 And every tweet of theirs, it's only about people giving them.

00:02:57.540 And all they ever retweet is giveaways.

00:02:59.340 So there's these fake accounts that people start that they just go to do all these giveaways

00:03:03.760 because it increases the chance of winning $100 here, $50 here, $200.

00:03:07.660 It's not often.

00:03:08.280 It's a $500 giveaway.

00:03:09.580 So I did a big one.

00:03:11.020 It came to choose the winners.

00:03:12.760 I announced the winners.

00:03:14.180 I sent a message to the winners.

00:03:15.580 Send me your phone number.

00:03:17.020 I call the winners.

00:03:18.520 They get, oh my gosh, my husband loves you.

00:03:21.460 Hike, come here. 1.00

00:03:22.980 Look who it is.

00:03:24.000 Oh my gosh.

00:03:25.000 Hey guys, how you doing?

00:03:25.840 Great.

00:03:26.200 I'm going to send you $500.

00:03:27.160 No way.

00:03:27.600 We're in Sacramento.

00:03:28.360 Awesome.

00:03:29.080 Dude, you're great.

00:03:30.060 Another guy, oh my gosh, Pat.

00:03:31.540 I love you.

00:03:32.100 I've never met any of these folks that we give the money to, right?

00:03:35.880 Okay.

00:03:36.900 Then all of a sudden, I saw people saying, this is a scam.

00:03:40.960 It's all his friends.

00:03:42.340 He chose his peers.

00:03:43.560 Not one of the people I gave the money to is in my insurance company.

00:03:46.600 Not one of the people is a person I know.

00:03:47.900 Not one of the people is a person I've shook hands.

00:03:49.460 I've never met these folks ever in my life.

00:03:51.920 It's my giveaway.

00:03:52.940 I'm giving away the money I worked hard for, right?

00:03:54.980 Let me tell you what happened.

00:03:56.620 I started noticing a bunch of people were entitled.

00:03:59.320 One guy went out there and sent out a tweet and said, look at this.

00:04:01.520 This is a scam.

00:04:02.220 This is not how you do a giveaway.

00:04:03.720 The real protocol for a giveaway is this.

00:04:05.700 And Cash App tells you to put your name and your user on your Twitter because they can

00:04:10.260 anonymously give you money.

00:04:11.820 Of course, Cash App is going to tell you to put your username because it's more traction

00:04:14.720 for them.

00:04:15.380 I get Cash App's strategy on why they want to do that.

00:04:17.500 But they dictated how I should do my giveaway.

00:04:20.540 And I said, let me give you a nine-part tweet that I send out.

00:04:23.380 And I explained, here's how I did the giveaway.

00:04:26.640 You don't have to like it.

00:04:27.920 It's my money.

00:04:28.840 I'm giving away my money.

00:04:30.140 And I chose to give it to these people.

00:04:31.860 But let me explain the first thing I thought about when this happened.

00:04:33.780 I said, you know what?

00:04:35.040 How often do certain people want to do good for you, but after they do it, the expectation

00:04:42.640 is higher and you feel you're entitled for more from them and they never want to do

00:04:46.360 it for you again?

00:04:47.000 Let me say this again.

00:04:48.480 So I got certain people in my life that I've helped out a lot.

00:04:51.400 I've gone above and beyond, right?

00:04:53.340 And all of a sudden, I'm like, you know what?

00:04:54.780 I don't know why I don't want to do for this person anymore.

00:04:57.500 Why don't you want to do for this person anymore?

00:04:59.560 Because no matter when I've gone above and beyond for these few people, it's never enough.

00:05:05.220 And you just say, you know what?

00:05:06.240 I love you.

00:05:08.460 You're good people.

00:05:09.720 But I'm just putting my resources and my time into other people.

00:05:12.520 Because every time I do it to you, you just don't like it and you want more of it.

00:05:16.600 It's like, I'm owing you.

00:05:17.920 I feel like I'm indebted to you.

00:05:19.200 I'm giving and I have to do more because I'm entitled.

00:05:23.420 So if you're watching this here right now, there's two different positions here.

00:05:26.040 One is giving and expecting things in return.

00:05:29.820 There's no way in the world you're going to be happy to be in this position.

00:05:31.880 I've been here before and let me tell you, it's miserable because there's going to be

00:05:36.320 people in your life.

00:05:37.000 No matter how big of an empire you want to build, let's assume you have big dreams.

00:05:41.460 If you have big dreams and you want to build a big company, a big empire, be ready to do

00:05:46.540 a lot for a lot of people without getting anything in return from 90% of people.

00:05:51.060 You have to be comfortable with that because if you're not, you're going to build a small

00:05:55.640 empire and you're going to be by yourself because a lot of people are not going to return

00:05:58.340 the favor.

00:05:58.760 Now here's the flip side.

00:06:00.120 If you do have big things you want to do in your life, if you do have big things you want

00:06:04.180 to do in your life, you're going to need people to want to do things for you.

00:06:08.260 So if anybody at any point goes above and beyond to help you out, always be thankful, never

00:06:16.240 have more expectation, and always return the favor because the more you get and the more

00:06:22.160 you're constantly giving without any expectation, all of a sudden one day you're waking up saying,

00:06:27.640 why is this guy helping me out?

00:06:28.860 Why is this guy doing this thing for me?

00:06:30.380 Why is that guy doing this for me?

00:06:31.740 Why is that guy doing this for me?

00:06:32.680 He doesn't have to do that kind of stuff for me.

00:06:34.460 The guy went out of his way and then all of a sudden you're looking and saying, oh my

00:06:37.280 gosh, look at the empire I've built because you have officially opened up and welcomed

00:06:42.600 people helping you out.

00:06:44.140 You.

00:06:44.820 And for some of you that are saying, man, I gave on, like for me, I said, I'm not going

00:06:48.340 to give money away on Twitter.

00:06:49.540 I'm not going to do it again, but I'm still going to give the money that I give on a monthly

00:06:52.500 basis to charity and different kinds of funds.

00:06:54.460 It's just not going to be on Twitter again because those folks got somebody to say, I will not

00:07:00.360 give money on Twitter again.

00:07:01.640 It's a very simple concept and it applies to family.

00:07:04.920 It applies to parenting.

00:07:06.240 It applies to friendship.

00:07:07.480 It applies to relationship.

00:07:08.680 It applies to business.

00:07:09.600 So having a go, processing this thing together with you, when I ask you the question, how often

00:07:14.140 do people help you?

00:07:15.440 If your answer was rarely, now you know the answer why.

00:07:19.900 And if I ask how often do people help you?

00:07:22.000 And the answer was all the time.

00:07:23.360 You also now know why.

00:07:24.480 So if the answer to you was no, maybe it's time to start making some adjustments so others

00:07:30.420 will start continuously, want to go out of their way to help you.

00:07:34.640 Thanks everybody for listening.

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00:07:56.100 With that being said, have a great day today.

00:07:57.920 Take care everybody.

00:07:58.660 Bye-bye.

Valuetainment - September 06, 2020

The Ugly Side of Entitlement

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