Valuetainment - Top 10 Life Decisions That’ll Take You to the Next Level

00:00:00.000 Today we're going to talk about the 10 biggest decisions you'll need to make as a young man

00:00:03.780 and point number one is going to confuse you a little bit.

00:00:15.220 All right, if you get value out of this video, give it a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel.

00:00:18.420 And I'm going to show you a chart that if you want to get all the notes I have,

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00:00:27.600 We'll give you the PDF.

00:00:28.720 Let's get right into it.

00:00:30.000 Number one, first decision you have to make is how selfish do you want to be and for how long?

00:00:37.780 Let me explain.

00:00:38.820 When you look at this chart many years ago, I'm working with my guys in the insurance company

00:00:43.440 and I'm watching the brokers that are very good at developing newer brokers.

00:00:49.400 And I'm watching guys who are horrible at developing new brokers.

00:00:54.500 And I kept going and saying, maybe they're not good with people.

00:00:57.180 They were.

00:00:57.620 Maybe they're not very good in this business.

00:01:00.120 They were.

00:01:01.080 Maybe they're not very good salespeople.

00:01:02.800 They were very good.

00:01:03.660 Some of my best salespeople I had weren't good at developing others.

00:01:07.380 And then I would go over here.

00:01:08.840 Some of the guys that built and built some of the biggest agencies weren't the best salespeople.

00:01:14.520 They weren't necessarily the most talented people.

00:01:16.840 Some of you, some of them had terrible accents, but this score, when it comes down to how selfish

00:01:22.780 they were, they had the right mixture of selfless and selfish.

00:01:28.280 By the way, this is not to say being selfish is bad.

00:01:31.220 You're going to see when we go through this chart.

00:01:32.820 And this is the graph we finally came up with.

00:01:34.700 Here's what it looks like.

00:01:35.620 When a person is 100% selfish and 0% selfless, this is a criminal.

00:01:43.920 This is a danger to society.

00:01:45.860 When everything in the world revolves around you, you're the worst person to be around. 0.93

00:01:51.120 You're horrible for society. 1.00

00:01:53.000 When it's 90-10, you're a narcissist. 0.98

00:01:56.580 Everything revolves around you, but you still don't commit a crime because you want to make

00:02:01.960 sure to be able to enjoy your life.

00:02:03.240 So you're not going to commit a crime because you're still, it's all about you, right?

00:02:06.580 80-20, these are solopreneurs.

00:02:08.700 These are the guys that want to have a laptop.

00:02:10.820 They want to go somewhere and be like, hey, I'm in Thailand.

00:02:13.360 I'm working, making $7,000 a month.

00:02:15.620 Look at me.

00:02:16.220 I don't need anybody's help.

00:02:17.300 I'm doing this by myself.

00:02:18.480 Solopreneur, net positive to society, pretty good life.

00:02:21.940 But it's around mainly what they want to do.

00:02:24.840 That's the 80-20 split.

00:02:26.800 The 70-30 is the perfect split. 1.00

00:02:29.860 These are kingmakers.

00:02:31.160 These are drivers.

00:02:32.780 They're 70% selfish because they have big goals.

00:02:35.160 They want to go do big things.

00:02:36.840 They have certain aspirations in place, but they're selfless enough to understand you

00:02:41.140 can't do it by yourself.

00:02:42.860 You need to develop other people.

00:02:44.800 You need to sit there and develop this person's identity and say you're capable of doing this.

00:02:48.860 You need to go out and find the right people around you.

00:02:51.140 60-40, this is a synergist.

00:02:54.100 This is somebody that gets everybody to be able to work together.

00:02:57.240 This is one of the most valuable assets in any company is to have synergist.

00:03:02.200 60-40 split.

00:03:03.680 They're still selfish.

00:03:04.840 They still want to move up.

00:03:06.300 They still would like to want to be a VP.

00:03:08.400 One, they would like to be a C-suite executive.

00:03:10.000 They would like to be financially free.

00:03:11.800 But they're still about building the team and bring everybody together.

00:03:15.580 Then you got the 50-50. 0.86

00:03:17.320 These are the advisors.

00:03:18.440 They're thinkers.

00:03:18.880 They sit on the board.

00:03:20.440 Well, I think we need to.

00:03:21.340 They're not the biggest doers, but they're thinkers.

00:03:24.360 What if we did this?

00:03:25.660 What if we did that?

00:03:26.740 Very inquisitive questions that they ask, but they're not the ones that get the job done.

00:03:31.420 Then you got 60-40 good team members.

00:03:34.340 Then you got the 70-30.

00:03:36.340 They're selfless.

00:03:37.580 30-selfish.

00:03:38.940 They're somewhat passive.

00:03:40.240 Oh, do whatever you want to do.

00:03:41.280 It's okay.

00:03:41.940 It's okay.

00:03:42.740 A little bit on the passive end.

00:03:43.860 They're not net positive to companies, societies, sports teams.

00:03:48.120 Then you have the 80-20.

00:03:49.800 Indecisive.

00:03:50.520 All they want to do is conform.

00:03:52.280 Make everybody around them happy.

00:03:54.180 Again, problematic.

00:03:55.160 90-10. 0.53

00:03:56.280 These are weak-willed.

00:03:57.700 They're scared. 1.00

00:03:58.520 Somewhat cowardly.

00:03:59.980 And then the 100% selfless.

00:04:01.720 0% selfish.

00:04:03.140 Doesn't exist.

00:04:03.900 So now why am I showing this to you?

00:04:05.160 Here's what's crazy.

00:04:06.540 Generally speaking, it's not always the case, but generally speaking, the younger you are, 0.93

00:04:11.980 the more selfish you are.

00:04:13.780 And the older you are, the more selfless you are. 0.98

00:04:17.000 Why?

00:04:17.360 You have more to lose.

00:04:18.520 You have a wife.

00:04:19.920 You have kids.

00:04:20.980 You have grandkids.

00:04:22.320 So you're thinking about what your kids are doing.

00:04:24.580 You're thinking about what your grandkids are doing.

00:04:26.840 You naturally evolve into being a selfless person.

00:04:30.140 If you're 50 years old, 45 years old, single, no kids, the world revolves all around you,

00:04:36.200 you have a very high selfish score and everything is about you.

00:04:40.020 You may think you're living a great life.

00:04:42.500 And you may be.

00:04:43.080 You may be somebody that doesn't commit crime.

00:04:44.900 You have some money and savings.

00:04:45.980 You're doing pretty good for yourself.

00:04:47.320 But the reality of it is, is that the life you want to live when you're 45?

00:04:51.900 At 25, I get it.

00:04:53.020 30, maybe.

00:04:53.880 45, probably not.

00:04:55.100 You may want to make some changes in your life.

00:04:56.600 By the way, we're getting close to the end of the year.

00:04:59.400 This whole thing I'm showing you, this chart, is on page 184 in the book, Choose Your Enemies Wisely.

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00:05:28.420 All right.

00:05:28.740 Next, number two, whose bus to get on?

00:05:33.300 We don't like the word follow, but the reality is everybody follows somebody.

00:05:38.620 I follow people gladly.

00:05:41.000 And the younger you are, it's very important to choose whose bus you want to get on.

00:05:46.100 Very, very important.

00:05:47.740 We're at our event at MGM Grand Arena.

00:05:49.400 Coach K is there, one of the greatest college basketball coaches of all time.

00:05:52.700 He gets up on stage.

00:05:53.900 He's being interviewed by Matt Sapali.

00:05:55.300 He tells a story.

00:05:56.060 He says, when I was younger, I'm out there playing basketball.

00:05:59.020 My mom says, hey, Mike, come here.

00:06:01.060 I got to talk to you.

00:06:01.760 What's that?

00:06:02.240 Son, always remember, be very careful whose bus you get on.

00:06:07.380 It's like, what do you mean, mom?

00:06:08.640 Be very careful who has influence over your ear.

00:06:12.860 Meaning, who do you follow?

00:06:14.940 How does that person live?

00:06:16.520 What does their personal life look like?

00:06:18.260 How do they look like financially?

00:06:20.060 How do they raise their kids?

00:06:21.580 Are they net positive to society?

00:06:23.520 Do they have victim mindset?

00:06:25.380 Are they always blaming somebody else?

00:06:27.440 Are they taking responsibility?

00:06:29.220 Are they leading?

00:06:29.940 You know what's better for you, but sometimes it's easier to listen to somebody that's like

00:06:34.040 weak and blame and it's your mom's fault and it's your dad's fault and it's this 0.86

00:06:37.420 and it's that.

00:06:38.440 If you choose to get on the right bus, follow the right person, you're going to have some

00:06:44.140 success in your life.

00:06:45.100 Now, the second part that Coach K's mother said is, if you are eventually leading a group

00:06:50.740 of people, you have to be very careful who you let on your bus. 0.77

00:06:55.560 So two things.

00:06:57.000 Whose bus do I get on?

00:06:58.060 Who do I follow?

00:06:59.360 And who do I let on my bus?

00:07:01.300 One is who's in your here.

00:07:02.840 Two is who's on your team.

00:07:04.440 And the people that are on your team, they're going to be either pulling you down or pushing

00:07:08.200 you up.

00:07:08.920 It's very simple.

00:07:10.000 Any environment I've grown in where I've seen people develop, there's a leader picking

00:07:14.680 people up and there's people here that are pushing people up.

00:07:18.160 Or the bad environments are the leader doesn't help anybody out and the people are pulling

00:07:23.540 others down.

00:07:24.280 So you have to be very, very protective of who you let on your team.

00:07:31.180 One bad apple can destroy an entire business, company, sports team, whatever it may be.

00:07:38.500 One bad apple can destroy.

00:07:40.160 Number three, you got to get clear about your philosophies in life.

00:07:43.060 And what are we talking about philosophies in life?

00:07:44.540 When I was younger, I would go to Bible study with this one man in Pasadena and he was very

00:07:49.660 good about talking about with Socrates and, you know, Seneca and Stoicism and Aristotle

00:07:55.560 and all this Aristotle's understanding of what a friendship was and all these other things.

00:07:59.320 And then we would bring in faith in it.

00:08:01.600 And it was great conversation.

00:08:03.460 We would have every other Friday night in Pasadena from 6 p.m. to 2 o'clock in the morning.

00:08:07.100 And we were really talking about philosophies of life.

00:08:09.520 How many kids do you want to have? 0.56

00:08:10.300 What do you want to do with your family?

00:08:11.840 And so the philosophies of life is, what is the definition of success?

00:08:15.680 Okay.

00:08:16.200 To somebody, definition of success is being home at night at 4.30, having dinner with

00:08:20.900 the family every night at 6 o'clock.

00:08:22.440 That's some people's definition of success.

00:08:24.060 It is not mine.

00:08:25.360 To some people, the definition of success is being a cop and having a pension plan and

00:08:31.460 you retire at 55 years old and you can go hunt and do whatever you want for the rest

00:08:35.880 of your life.

00:08:36.320 That's somebody's definition of success.

00:08:37.920 It's not mine.

00:08:38.660 It doesn't matter.

00:08:39.200 You have to identify what is your definition of success.

00:08:44.160 Man, as long as I got money and I can stay home and relax, that my definition of success,

00:08:48.580 the less I work, the better it is.

00:08:50.880 Somebody else's definition of success is, man, I want to contribute.

00:08:54.120 God gave me all these talents and I want to find a way to contribute to society.

00:08:57.660 Wherever I work, I'm going to contribute.

00:08:59.740 That's my definition of success.

00:09:01.460 You got to get clear on this and this journey of identifying that's going to take a while.

00:09:05.920 Next one, faith.

00:09:07.400 Why is faith important?

00:09:08.600 Faith is very important.

00:09:09.560 When I talk to my boys, I look at them and I say, listen, guys, what's a more important

00:09:14.920 relationship to you?

00:09:15.860 You guys with me or you guys with each other?

00:09:17.980 And they'll say, us with you?

00:09:18.880 I said, nope, it's the two of you guys together.

00:09:20.460 Why is that?

00:09:21.260 You guys are going to be in each other's life longer than I'm going to be in your life.

00:09:25.100 You're looking at your best friend in life.

00:09:27.020 God gave you your best friend and that's your brother and that's your sisters.

00:09:32.040 That's your best friend in the world.

00:09:33.540 You guys got to find a way to be good with each other.

00:09:35.800 But I tell them, are you ever alone by yourself and I'm not around you?

00:09:39.360 You're scared.

00:09:39.800 Yeah.

00:09:39.960 What do you do?

00:09:40.440 I don't know, daddy.

00:09:41.180 You pray.

00:09:42.420 That's when you lean on God.

00:09:44.020 That's where faith comes in.

00:09:45.220 There's going to be many moments in your life where you don't know what to do.

00:09:51.320 You're like, man, am I going to be able to do this by myself?

00:09:53.800 You have to pursue your faith.

00:09:55.660 For me, I became a Christian man January 21st of all four when I gave my life to Christ.

00:10:00.600 That was for me.

00:10:01.240 I lived the life of an atheist for 25 years.

00:10:03.700 I used to go to all these things.

00:10:04.860 I used to go to Scientology Bible studies.

00:10:06.940 I used to go to Los Angeles Church of Christ.

00:10:09.000 I used to study what LBS was with Joseph Smith and things.

00:10:11.900 I used to study Seventh-day Adventist, Jehovah Witness, Christianity.

00:10:15.220 Christianity, Judaism. 0.84

00:10:16.220 I used to study this because I wanted to find out what role faith was going to be in my life.

00:10:20.700 I wanted to do something big, and I knew I couldn't do it by myself.

00:10:24.120 So this is something you have to pursue on your own.

00:10:27.140 Number two, how to vote.

00:10:29.280 Okay?

00:10:29.680 Young man, how do you vote?

00:10:32.020 Do you vote Democratic?

00:10:33.080 Do you vote Republican?

00:10:33.960 Do you vote Independent?

00:10:34.820 Does your vote matter?

00:10:35.540 I don't think my vote matters.

00:10:36.640 Who cares about my vote?

00:10:37.680 My friend tells me my vote doesn't.

00:10:39.260 My dad tells me, why would you even vote?

00:10:40.740 Nobody's even going to care anyways.

00:10:42.520 You only have one vote, and there's 150 million people that are going to be voting.

00:10:45.220 America, why would you vote?

00:10:46.200 It's a waste of time.

00:10:47.260 That's victimhood language, but you've got to realize, how are you going to vote?

00:10:50.340 Are you going to vote for pro-life or pro-choice?

00:10:53.120 Higher taxes or low taxes?

00:10:54.820 High regulation, low regulation?

00:10:56.320 Big government, small government?

00:10:58.140 Strong military, weak military?

00:10:59.820 More entitlement, less entitlement?

00:11:01.420 How are you going to vote and why?

00:11:03.240 By the way, I'm not going to tell you how to vote right now.

00:11:05.940 I'm going to tell you.

00:11:06.460 It's your job to go and pursue and watch a bunch of debates and make a decision on how

00:11:11.340 you choose to vote in life.

00:11:12.940 That's one of the philosophies in life.

00:11:15.100 The next one, relationship with money.

00:11:17.160 What does money mean to you?

00:11:18.500 I cannot tell you how many people I met, whether they make 10 grand a month, they're broke.

00:11:23.120 They make 100 grand a month, they're broke.

00:11:25.360 NFL pays them $300 million, 10 years later, they're broke.

00:11:28.000 The relationship with money is understanding what this guy is.

00:11:33.080 What is money to you?

00:11:34.760 Is it something you get to spend?

00:11:36.820 Most people, when they say, I want to be a millionaire one day, an author who wrote a

00:11:40.660 book on money said, they're not saying they want to be a millionaire one day, like they

00:11:43.360 want to have a million dollars on the back.

00:11:44.520 When a person says, I want to be a millionaire one day, they say, I want to be able to spend

00:11:47.620 a million dollars one day.

00:11:48.760 But that's not the understanding of how money works.

00:11:51.600 This means a soft pillow.

00:11:54.340 This is a tool.

00:11:56.120 This allows you to invest into your kids.

00:11:58.380 This allows you and your wife to have good times together.

00:12:00.800 This allows you to live in a secure area.

00:12:02.900 This allows you to take care of your family when they're going through difficult times.

00:12:06.160 This allows you to contribute to society, to certain charities you want to support.

00:12:09.960 This is the relationship with money.

00:12:12.060 I'm not going to tell you what to do.

00:12:13.900 You have to be in a pursuit of getting a clear understanding of a relationship with money.

00:12:18.380 By the way, you make fun of people with money, you will never have money.

00:12:23.460 You make fun of people ahead of you that are doing better than you financially, you will

00:12:26.760 never be rich because money is not attractive to people like you.

00:12:29.140 If you respect and lift up other people who won, money is going to say, you know what?

00:12:34.920 This guy's got the identity who can handle people like me, wealth.

00:12:38.340 I'm going to give a little money to him.

00:12:40.200 And a more, boom.

00:12:41.020 And a more, you got to arrogant now.

00:12:42.660 I'm going to go to another person.

00:12:44.340 Very simple.

00:12:45.480 Okay.

00:12:45.620 But this as a tool, nothing more, nothing less.

00:12:49.060 And when it comes down to philosophies, when do you fight?

00:12:52.240 When do you walk?

00:12:53.560 When is time for you to keep fighting for your wife, for your parents, for your siblings?

00:12:57.960 When is it time to walk from a relationship?

00:13:00.140 And I'm sick and tired of this girl. 0.98

00:13:02.140 She brings out the worst in me.

00:13:04.040 I'm sick and tired of this friend.

00:13:06.440 First, he's smoking cigarettes when he was 16.

00:13:09.480 Then he's drinking beers at 18.

00:13:12.280 Then he's smoking weed at 17, 18.

00:13:14.600 Now he's doing cocaine.

00:13:16.100 Now he's doing special care.

00:13:17.120 Now he's doing ecstasy.

00:13:18.120 Now he's doing everything.

00:13:19.260 I'm done with this guy.

00:13:20.500 I'm out.

00:13:21.020 When is it time to fight?

00:13:23.100 When is it time to walk?

00:13:25.000 This would be one of the most difficult things for you to put together in your life, especially

00:13:29.360 with the people that you have in your life.

00:13:31.060 When to do one of these two things.

00:13:32.560 And by the way, you got to come up with this.

00:13:35.300 Not my job.

00:13:36.240 It is your job.

00:13:37.060 I have my own philosophies on what's worked for me.

00:13:39.440 You got to take your life experiences, read all the books, ask other people,

00:13:44.600 see what this person does it, see how that person does it, and then eventually put it

00:13:48.060 together.

00:13:48.520 And that's your philosophy.

00:13:50.040 And then every once in a while, you fine tune, fine tune, fine tune, fine tune, fine tune.

00:13:53.360 And then you pass it down to the next generation.

00:13:55.960 All right.

00:13:56.220 Next one here we got is your career.

00:13:58.320 Okay.

00:13:58.960 When it comes down to your career, there's a few things you need to realize early on.

00:14:02.340 For me, I realized I love people and I love numbers.

00:14:04.840 Very simple.

00:14:06.020 So what talents do you have?

00:14:08.480 What interest do you have?

00:14:10.060 Me.

00:14:11.120 I'm good with numbers.

00:14:13.080 Interest.

00:14:13.780 I love people.

00:14:15.320 I like people.

00:14:16.160 I sincerely am interested in people's stories.

00:14:19.540 I want to know why this guy got two degrees of national security.

00:14:23.000 I want to know this guy who has his birthday today.

00:14:25.180 I want to know this guy who just became a father right now.

00:14:27.360 I want to know that guy who's from Chile, why he thinks the way he does.

00:14:30.680 Cause he's a big fan of, you know, the middle East and all this other stuff, but I'm interested.

00:14:35.200 I'm interested in people and my talents are X, Y, Z.

00:14:39.220 Then it's my contacts and community.

00:14:41.240 So through my contact, I got into the financial industry.

00:14:45.220 The financial industry was able to use my talents and interests through that.

00:14:49.380 My career took off and the rest is history.

00:14:51.920 So career wise, what do you want to do with your career?

00:14:54.600 And by the way, I've met people that go, go, go from company to company, to company, to company,

00:15:00.120 every single time it's a company's fault.

00:15:02.000 It's not the company's fault.

00:15:02.920 It's on you.

00:15:04.080 If the last three jobs, they don't work out for you.

00:15:06.340 It's the, you know, you blame it on the company.

00:15:07.900 It's not the company.

00:15:08.520 It's all on you.

00:15:09.240 I've met many, many people like that who blame everything on the company, their boss, the

00:15:14.420 industry.

00:15:15.040 Nope.

00:15:15.600 It's not how it works.

00:15:16.380 Zero excuses when it comes down here.

00:15:18.300 How can you make the situation better?

00:15:20.620 How can you approach the game better? 0.99

00:15:22.540 In every single company, there are those who are in the click of talking shit behind the boss's 1.00

00:15:27.120 back. 0.99

00:15:27.460 Every company has this, not just ours, not just Amazon.

00:15:30.120 Not just Hooper, every company.

00:15:32.340 Then there are those in the company that just do enough, right?

00:15:35.200 They just do enough.

00:15:36.080 So make sure nobody notices them.

00:15:37.820 Then there is the guys that are like, I've showed up.

00:15:40.140 I want to work.

00:15:40.880 I want to represent.

00:15:41.660 I want to do my part.

00:15:42.460 I want to give back.

00:15:43.440 I want to make sure everything I can do to make this company better, they get noticed,

00:15:47.660 they get elevated.

00:15:48.720 Does it happen every time?

00:15:49.800 No.

00:15:50.500 Does it happen the second you do it?

00:15:51.840 No.

00:15:52.060 Sometimes it takes three, six, 12 months.

00:15:53.420 Yes.

00:15:53.640 But eventually the market's going to be like, who are you?

00:15:56.540 You're getting promoted.

00:15:57.580 Come on.

00:15:57.840 We want to give you a different opportunity, right?

00:15:59.460 And sometimes you're going to raise your hand.

00:16:01.000 Can I do it?

00:16:02.060 Can I do it?

00:16:02.680 Can I volunteer?

00:16:03.380 I'd like to be, can I, well, not right now, maybe in six months.

00:16:05.920 Okay.

00:16:06.180 Just consider me.

00:16:06.900 Can I do it?

00:16:07.380 Can I do it?

00:16:07.860 Right.

00:16:08.040 But the reality is talent, interest, contact leads you to an opportunity, turning in your

00:16:14.220 favor.

00:16:14.540 Number six, who and when to marry.

00:16:17.960 Who and when to marry.

00:16:19.920 My wife and I last night had a very, very good conversation together about kids.

00:16:24.000 And we both would love to have more kids.

00:16:26.720 The other day we're having dinner with our kids and our kids are begging for another kid.

00:16:31.640 And trust me, we want it.

00:16:33.040 But the fourth one was very difficult on Jen, on my wife.

00:16:36.600 So last night, we're kind of having that conversation, which is kind of like, she's telling me, she's

00:16:40.780 babe, you realize the next time, because Brooklyn came in our bed last night and she's just laying 1.00

00:16:44.640 next to the bed.

00:16:45.460 She kicks me, does everything, slaps me in the face, doesn't bother me at all. 0.99

00:16:48.320 Right.

00:16:49.140 She's babe, you realize the next time we experience something like this is probably going to be

00:16:55.920 in the next 15 years when our oldest decides to have a kid at 28 years old, God willing.

00:17:00.780 That means we're not going to experience this for 15 years.

00:17:03.760 Ah, such an emotional moment.

00:17:07.100 Why?

00:17:08.000 We love kids.

00:17:09.840 It's awesome.

00:17:11.620 Yes, it's some difficult days, but it's on freaking believable.

00:17:16.340 Right.

00:17:17.300 So who to marry?

00:17:19.460 You got to make sure you marry somebody based on set of values.

00:17:23.160 You got to marry somebody that the temperament matches yours.

00:17:26.500 You see how I am.

00:17:27.680 You, there's plenty of documented hours of me talking, you know, my temperament.

00:17:31.680 I used to date a girl just like me, Italian.

00:17:33.780 It's not going to work.

00:17:35.240 So temperament, then personality type kind of goes together.

00:17:40.200 Does it match yours?

00:17:41.320 Does it compliment yours?

00:17:43.340 Pace.

00:17:44.140 Can she go at your pace? 0.95

00:17:46.220 Do you want her to go at your pace?

00:17:48.220 Do you want her just to support?

00:17:50.060 How many kids do you want to have? 0.56

00:17:51.580 Do you guys want to build a family based on the same values and principles?

00:17:55.060 Who knows?

00:17:55.580 Yes, no, maybe.

00:17:57.020 But the reality of it is who and when some want to wait till later on in life.

00:18:02.440 It's your choice.

00:18:03.760 Some want to have it early on.

00:18:05.120 It's your choice.

00:18:06.560 And these are things like I was 23 years old.

00:18:09.100 I knew for a fact I wasn't ready to get married at 23 years old.

00:18:12.060 I was still going to a club six nights a week.

00:18:14.320 I can tell you every single one of the clubs I would go to every Sunday.

00:18:17.260 Monday is the only night I would take a break.

00:18:18.780 But every other night I was on the club.

00:18:20.780 It was either Monday or Tuesday.

00:18:21.760 It's been so long, 26 years.

00:18:23.480 Monday or Tuesday was my break.

00:18:24.980 Every other night I'm at the club.

00:18:26.340 Every night I'm at the club.

00:18:27.660 And then one day I'm like, I would never let my daughter marry the 23-year-old version 1.00

00:18:31.600 of PBD.

00:18:32.200 And I changed.

00:18:33.220 And from there, everything started changing for my life as well.

00:18:35.600 But who to marry and when to marry.

00:18:38.620 Seven.

00:18:39.720 Being a father.

00:18:40.720 How many kids?

00:18:41.740 How to raise them.

00:18:43.060 I'd like to have a lot of kids.

00:18:44.580 But I got four right now.

00:18:45.700 Okay, we're blessed with our four kids that God's given us.

00:18:49.300 How many kids do you want to have? 0.56

00:18:51.140 Okay, you watching this.

00:18:52.360 How many kids do you want to have? 0.56

00:18:53.160 One.

00:18:53.940 I don't want to have any kids.

00:18:55.100 I just want me and my girl to enjoy each other's company.

00:18:57.620 It's what we want to do.

00:18:58.960 All right.

00:18:59.740 So guess where you are.

00:19:01.280 You ready?

00:19:02.340 What community are you part of?

00:19:04.700 You are part of the solopreneur parent.

00:19:08.000 It's all about you guys enjoying each other's company.

00:19:11.100 I don't want to give back.

00:19:12.420 I just want to be just the two of us.

00:19:14.420 No problem.

00:19:15.120 It's your choice.

00:19:16.080 It's not my choice.

00:19:16.920 I'm not judging.

00:19:17.680 But that's where you are.

00:19:19.320 A part of us being here.

00:19:21.540 God gave you life.

00:19:22.860 You're one of the few trillion people that made it.

00:19:25.320 Okay, you're runners that's going around.

00:19:26.760 You made it.

00:19:27.460 Congratulations.

00:19:28.180 Guess what?

00:19:29.140 What are you going to do with that gift?

00:19:31.360 And how are you going to pass that knowledge, wisdom you have to somebody else?

00:19:34.560 A child.

00:19:35.700 So how many do you want to have?

00:19:36.840 My philosophy was you raise one.

00:19:39.540 They're too spoiled.

00:19:40.320 You raise two, they can team up against you.

00:19:44.020 You have three, one of them is always going to be on your side.

00:19:46.740 I'm going to check the other two.

00:19:47.960 So I always have three or more.

00:19:49.820 But you have to choose this.

00:19:51.240 How many kids and how you want to raise them based on what?

00:19:55.120 The philosophies that you want to raise your kids with.

00:19:57.920 How many and how you want to raise these kids.

00:20:00.700 What kind of a connection do you want to have with them later on in life?

00:20:03.260 Your dreams.

00:20:04.340 Very important.

00:20:05.180 The moment you no longer have dreams, you're just cruising casual.

00:20:09.340 You're content.

00:20:10.720 Putting on weight.

00:20:11.880 You know, nothing crazy.

00:20:13.280 Every time people are around you, you're yawning too much.

00:20:15.420 You're relaxing.

00:20:16.160 You're this, it's okay.

00:20:17.180 Everything's going to be okay.

00:20:18.320 If you're in the game, you know your short-term goals.

00:20:22.120 Long-term dreams.

00:20:23.360 What your dreams are with your family.

00:20:25.380 What your dreams are with travel.

00:20:26.820 Man, I haven't seen Monaco yet.

00:20:28.800 I want to go see Australia.

00:20:30.060 I want to go to Russia.

00:20:31.600 I want to go to Armenia.

00:20:33.080 I want to go to Brazil.

00:20:34.260 I want to go to Canada.

00:20:35.340 Great.

00:20:35.680 What places do you want to go see around the world?

00:20:38.740 Kids.

00:20:39.340 Dreams.

00:20:39.800 I want to be able to do X, Y, Z for my kids.

00:20:41.440 One day I want to have a kid.

00:20:42.200 I want my kid to run for office one day.

00:20:44.080 I want my kid to play baseball.

00:20:45.520 I want my kid to be in business with me.

00:20:47.600 Money.

00:20:48.300 Dreams.

00:20:48.820 House.

00:20:49.380 Cars.

00:20:50.460 You know, you have all these other things that you're looking at.

00:20:53.240 Church.

00:20:53.980 Charity.

00:20:55.180 Contribution.

00:20:56.000 Politics.

00:20:56.780 Your dreams.

00:20:57.400 I want to run for office one day.

00:20:58.540 I want to be able to become the local mayor. 0.92

00:21:00.420 Hypothetically.

00:21:01.400 But this, the heavier this is, it's exciting.

00:21:05.940 It's juicy.

00:21:07.160 I want to be an executive one day with the company I'm in.

00:21:09.540 I want to own a share of X, Y, Z.

00:21:11.180 I want to own a piece of X, Y, Z.

00:21:12.820 Whatever this may be.

00:21:14.280 I want to have a lake house.

00:21:16.240 Those things are important.

00:21:18.180 If you write these out, this energizes you to go long term.

00:21:22.400 Number nine.

00:21:23.200 Where to live.

00:21:24.900 Nowadays, everybody's like, oh, it's hard to leave New York.

00:21:28.280 I don't want to live.

00:21:29.660 The other day, I'm at my cigar lounge.

00:21:31.180 15 Armenians show up to our event.

00:21:32.960 The cigar lounge called Boredom.

00:21:34.180 If you want to learn more about it, we'll put the link below.

00:21:36.520 We're at the cigar lounge.

00:21:37.480 Eric Trump is doing a podcast.

00:21:38.740 Members only.

00:21:39.320 They get a chance to meet Eric Trump.

00:21:41.380 15 Armenians show up.

00:21:42.440 What are you guys doing here?

00:21:43.980 Well, watch your video.

00:21:44.920 10 reasons why to move to Florida.

00:21:46.540 So we moved down here.

00:21:47.440 Are you serious?

00:21:48.040 Yeah.

00:21:48.200 Where do you live?

00:21:48.920 Boca, Miami, Florida. 1.00

00:21:50.560 No shit. 0.99

00:21:51.160 Yeah, that's awesome. 0.99

00:21:53.000 Conversations.

00:21:54.080 A bunch of families moved here from Canada.

00:21:55.900 Why are you moving?

00:21:56.620 Well, let me tell you why we moved.

00:21:57.560 Because we were sick and tired of the taxes and regulation.

00:22:00.840 The climate for business was just complicated, but also the climate.

00:22:03.880 We want to be in a warmer climate.

00:22:05.600 Canada's cold.

00:22:06.780 We want to be in a better place.

00:22:08.060 Okay, no problem.

00:22:09.300 Freedom.

00:22:09.740 Where do you feel free?

00:22:10.700 Raising your kids based on the values you want to raise them on.

00:22:13.580 Lifestyle.

00:22:14.040 I want to be by the water.

00:22:14.980 I need to be by the water.

00:22:17.500 I do.

00:22:18.320 I need to be by the water.

00:22:19.520 I lived in California.

00:22:20.360 I love being by the water.

00:22:21.900 Live in Florida.

00:22:22.680 I love being by the water.

00:22:23.660 I lived in Dallas.

00:22:24.500 I don't like the beach in Dallas.

00:22:25.800 Okay, if you know what I'm saying, you know what I'm saying.

00:22:28.040 Okay, community.

00:22:29.320 What community do you want to live in?

00:22:32.480 Traveling locations.

00:22:33.880 I'm here in Florida.

00:22:35.520 I got Europe.

00:22:36.680 I got Middle East.

00:22:37.940 I got New York.

00:22:39.240 I got Caribbean.

00:22:40.760 I got, you know, what do you call it?

00:22:42.460 Bahamas.

00:22:43.220 I got Port.

00:22:43.880 I got everything this way.

00:22:45.880 Guess what?

00:22:47.240 Traveling locations that you got to be looking at.

00:22:49.380 And by the way, you have to also realize everywhere you live, there's a price.

00:22:53.020 California earthquakes, Dallas tornadoes, and the weather shuts down winter.

00:22:57.860 Florida, we got hurricanes, high tide, water, all this stuff that happens.

00:23:01.660 Nowhere's going to be perfect.

00:23:02.740 You have to make a decision where you want to live.

00:23:04.600 And last but not least, is your purpose in life.

00:23:08.860 What is your purpose?

00:23:10.040 At 28 years old, I made a decision.

00:23:12.560 I want to be a leader amongst leaders.

00:23:14.060 For the rest of my life, that's been my MO.

00:23:16.520 Hasn't changed at 46.

00:23:17.780 I'm about to turn 47 on October 18th.

00:23:21.020 In 11 days, I'll be 47 years old.

00:23:24.440 It's been the same since 28 years old.

00:23:25.980 It's been consistent.

00:23:27.140 It's been focused.

00:23:27.940 And now it's about finding ways to elevate people around me, my kids, my family, folks.

00:23:33.580 I got certain goals I have in place with the Assyrian community.

00:23:36.160 I got certain goals in place with the Armenian community.

00:23:38.260 My dad's Assyrian.

00:23:39.540 My mother's Armenian.

00:23:40.800 Boghossian.

00:23:41.300 But David, I was born and raised in Iran.

00:23:43.280 I got certain things I like to see happen with the Iranian community.

00:23:46.100 And of course, the country that changed my life, America.

00:23:48.640 Greatest country in the world, in my opinion.

00:23:50.180 So, purpose.

00:23:51.640 What is that purpose for you?

00:23:53.720 This is like having a child.

00:23:55.900 It takes a while.

00:23:57.100 This is like finding a wife. 0.91

00:23:59.280 It doesn't happen overnight.

00:24:00.840 Don't expect to watch this and say,

00:24:02.340 why can't I come up with my purpose tonight in three hours?

00:24:05.540 It doesn't work that way.

00:24:06.840 If you're in pursuit of this, you read biographies.

00:24:10.760 You read autobiographies.

00:24:12.100 You watch documentaries.

00:24:13.540 You study certain people that did big things in life.

00:24:15.560 And you're like, I want to see what Joseph Kennedy did.

00:24:18.060 I relate to what this person did.

00:24:19.860 I love what Charlie, I love what, I love what this person,

00:24:22.960 I love what the Buffett, I love, and then boom.

00:24:25.860 You all of a sudden, like, I got it.

00:24:27.220 This is who I'm going to be.

00:24:28.080 No problem.

00:24:28.680 Light it up and go after it.

00:24:29.720 So, again, I got 15 other things where I can host a two-day event privately for young men

00:24:36.280 and have these conversations with you.

00:24:38.240 But this is a brief.

00:24:39.420 Here you go.

00:24:39.820 Look at this here.

00:24:40.340 This is what I wrote here.

00:24:41.140 Like, back in the days, except I don't have ink all over my clothes.

00:24:44.300 But this is 10 of the most important decisions you need to make as a young man.

00:24:48.940 And if you're watching this right now, and you're saying, man, my brother's got to see it.

00:24:53.180 My nephew's got to see it.

00:24:54.800 I think my daughter's got to see it.

00:24:56.240 I think my sister's got to see it.

00:24:57.460 I think my wife has got to see it.

00:24:59.100 Share it with others.

00:25:00.360 They need to see something like this.

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00:25:25.040 But aside from that, there's another video I'm going to share with you.

00:25:27.620 If you enjoyed today's video, I did a video many, many years ago on 20 rules of money.

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00:25:39.600 I think that'll help you with your philosophy of money.

00:25:41.920 With that being said, take care, everybody.

00:25:43.600 Bye-bye, bye-bye.

Valuetainment - October 14, 2025

Top 10 Life Decisions That’ll Take You to the Next Level

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