WARNING To Childless Women - Are You Happier or Miserable With That Decision?
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Summary
Childless women are the happiest people of all, says a website called WeHaveKids.com. They argue that having kids is a waste of money, time, and energy. Women who don t have kids are happier than those who do.
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There are a lot of decisions you're going to make in your life, but a handful of them
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are going to be big decisions in your life, with one of them being having kids, and there's
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Are women happier if they have kids, or are women happier not having kids?
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Chelsea Handler made a video a couple weeks ago, going after Adam, because Adam said a
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couple different words, and she said, I am so much happier for not having kids.
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45% of working women ages 25 to 45, by 2030, will be non-married, no kids, single.
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I'm sorry, but if the child-free joyride I'm on triggers you, here's a hint.
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If you need daily alpha content to remind you to be alpha, you might not be an alpha.
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And the truth is, studies show that single women live longer and are happier.
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We're going to give the argument being made by those that don't have kids, on why they're
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Then we're going to make the argument for those who have kids, and why they're happy,
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and we'll look at a bunch of stats, and we'll see who's right.
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So if you get value out of this video, give it a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel.
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Look, society is going to be selling you on a lot of different ideas.
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Go and be with hundreds of men and hundreds of women, no.
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Save yourself and only go out there and spend time with the people you love and date a couple
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God forbid you buy the wrong one, you could lose a decade or two of your life.
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Argument for not having kids and argument for having kids.
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Here's HuffPo why they're saying it's better to not have kids.
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You don't like the appearance or smell of vomit or poop.
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You don't like the idea of wiping another person's snot.
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You like to shut the door while you're in the bathroom.
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These are some of the kids that are saying you don't want to have kids.
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These are some of the things you don't want to deal with.
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WeHaveKids.com argument for having kids, to carry on the family name and values, to give
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and receive unconditional love, to give meaning to life, to create and mold a life, to have
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a family, to fix the mistakes of their parents, social pressure and expectations, human biology.
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Medium.com said the following, children make us happier.
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Children force you to become a better version of yourself.
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Some of you may be watching and saying, I got 10 more things I would add to this list.
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But, let's look at a couple of articles on what they're saying.
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Unmarried childless women are happiest people of all, says Expert.
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If you're a man, you should probably get married.
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If you're a man, you should probably get married.
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You think someone's going to read that and say, maybe I shouldn't get married.
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Half of women have not yet had a child by age 34, the first time ever figures show.
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Women born in 1990 were the first cohort ever where half were not mothers by their 30th birthday.
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Now, if you're part of that camp, you're like, oh, thank God, we're making progress.
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Some of you may say, what are we talking about here?
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One in four projecting childlessness among today's young women.
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Meaning, one in four is probably going to have a kid.
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Three out of four is probably not going to have any kids.
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But, you know, let's look at some other numbers because when I retweeted Chelsea Handler's video when she said what she said about men and Alpha Motivation Zero, I retweeted and said, here's a study from University of Pennsylvania saying childless women were 46% more likely to be highly depressed than mothers.
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But then we said, well, okay, let's play devil's advocate because maybe people are happier that don't have kids.
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Why don't we look at and break down four different stats?
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Married with children, women who are married but they're childless, women who are unmarried with children, and those who are unmarried and childless.
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Are they happier when they're younger and as they age they get more depressed and miserable?
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Or are they unhappy when they're younger and when they age, hey, I don't have any kids, I'm just happier now.
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But married childless, 33 of them were happy, which means those who were married and didn't have any kids, they had more time with their spouse, they were actually happier than those who were married with kids.
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Then you have unmarried with children, 12% of them said they were happy.
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And unmarried childless, only 7% said they were happy.
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So the argument is, go find your love but don't go have kids.
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35 to 54, married with children, 28% said they were happy.
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Married childless, fell to second place now, 24% said they were happy.
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Unmarried with children, 11% said they were happy.
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Now comes the next phase, 55 and up, because as you're 55 and up, you can't be dating.
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You don't have as many options as you did when you were in your 20s.
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Body looked good, everything was perfect, maybe even in your 30s.
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You look great, you're going out, everybody's still flirting with you.
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So the happiest went from married with kids, then those who are married without kids,
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but it's a big drop-off from 25 to 14, then unmarried with children, and unmarried childless.
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So when you look at this data, what do you think about?
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The argument could be made from the other side to say, you see, you see, even the person
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that's married childless is happier than the person that's unmarried with child.
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Okay, so don't have marriage out of wedlock or something like that.
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On the other side could be, do you see what happens?
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Because as you age, what used to be important to you in your 20s, to go party, hang out,
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go to clubs, left and right, date man, date this, date that, that is not going to be a
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Things that drive you in your 20s are not going to drive you as much in your 30s, then 40s,
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Life changes, you change, I change, we all change.
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My dad's best friend today, he's 81 years old, is his granddaughter, my 23-month-old
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If you ask my dad what was his priority 40 years ago, it's a very different thing than
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Here's a study done by National Library of Medicine.
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Data shows that women with children were significantly less likely to have depressive symptoms.
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Anxiety is caused by us stressed out about the future.
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Depression is caused by us stressed out about the past, the decisions that we made.
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Maybe one of the things that causes depression is to sit there and say, man, I wish I had
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You ever have to keep thinking about a decision you made in the past and you keep recurring
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And all you think about is, I should have kids.
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Look, I've got a bunch of different data I can show you.
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The fact that, hey, college degrees, it used to be a lot more men used to get college degrees.
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For the first time ever, women are getting more four-year college degrees than men.
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This is a transition we've looked at from 1940 to 2021.
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Women are now competing and maybe thinking, I no longer need a man.
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Why do I need to have a husband in the first place?
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And if you look at right now, more women in workforce for every hundred in 1990, for
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Today, that's 82, which means women are getting close to having the same exact number as men.
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And the argument a lot of times made, well, women have babies.
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They can't work as many as ours as a man does.
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If they're having kids and they have to take this, they have to do that.
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If you look at income-wise, 65 and up, there's a very big disparity between how much men make
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But if you look at 25 to 34, they're making about the same amount of money.
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And if you look at 20 to 24, it's about the same amount of money.
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So that race is getting closer and closer and closer.
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And if you look at these stats, the U.S. National Survey of Families and Households determined
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that those who report being happy in their marriages declined when women earned more than
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That was said to increase the risk of divorce by 50%.
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When a woman makes more money than a man, there's a 50% higher chance of divorce.
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Now, you may be able to say on the other side, and the argument could be what?
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Well, that's because men are insecure, and it's the insecure man's fault.
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I'm just giving you the stat on what could be the reason that this is taking place.
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Maybe a man wants to be the guy that's kind of like, somebody needs me.
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It makes me feel important, and I want to do even more for you.
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That could be in the DNA of a man that naturally we're wired that way.
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We can go on and on and on and talk about, well, you know, one of the things that changes
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back this before social media, if a girl was a really hot girl that was living in a state
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in a city, she would have married somebody there.
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Now, she can post her picture on social media, and thousands of other men could DM her, and
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These guys are DMing me from UK, from Spain, from Brazil, from New York.
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So that could be one of the reasons that it changed now.
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All the good-looking men are getting all the women, and the men that would have typically
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gotten at least some plate today, they're not getting any of it.
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Now, a calculator's out there, if you've never used it, called the delusion calculator.
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So what this female delusion calculator does is it uses income and marital status information
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derived from the 2020 Annual Social and Economic Supplement of Current Population Survey conducted
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by the Census Bureau of the United States, and then it breaks things down.
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What percentage of men who fall into this category?
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If you've never used this calculator, ladies, you ought to use this calculator to realize the
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guy you're looking for, how few of them are in the marketplace.
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So this thing has changed a little bit, but does that mean it makes women happier long-term?
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I'm giving my final thoughts, but this thing's about to take a turn here.
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And if you make it to this last part, this is the best part of this entire message, because
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When I interview people, I want to know why you're the way you are.
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Whether you made an incredible decision and you took a business to levels that nobody thought
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you were going to take it, or Kobe, or you made a bad decision and you turn.
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This is why I want to know people's motives and why they do what they do.
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So Chelsea, you know, when she was a kid, nine years old, her favorite person in her life,
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she writes this in the memoir she wrote, which is titled, Life Will Be the Death of Me and
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Her favorite person in the world is her brother, which is 22 years old.
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And his last words, her brother is, I will be back and can't wait to see you.
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She says, this guy was my hero, was pretty much her favorite person in the world.
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She says, look, I may be a successful comedian.
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Her words, I just felt broken and didn't know how to deal with these feelings for years.
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Let me read some more about what happened with her father when this took place.
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Chelsea notes emotionally that his death changed the way she saw relationships because she felt
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betrayed by her brother's last word, which were that he would return from the trip.
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But look what happens here with her and her father.
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Chelsea's parents are Seymour, a used car salesman, and Rita, a homemaker.
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She has spoken at length about growing up in a household where there were a lot of unknown
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variables, admitting my parents were great, there were a lot of love in our house, but
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And Cindy says, ah, why would you want to have a kid?
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Let me have a kid and raise this person nine years later, this person could die and why
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would I put myself through that kind of a pain?
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Why would I want to go through that kind of a pain?
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But let me bring this back to one of the most important decisions you'll make in your life
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We were not supposed to have because Jennifer, when she was pregnant with our third, Senna, we went
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And she says, look, babe, I don't want any gifts from you.
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The only thing I want is this becomes our last baby.
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And I'm like, I don't want to talk about it right now.
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They said, babe, I don't know why I want another kid.
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In my mind, I checked off that, you know, this thing is not something I'm thinking about.
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That whole scene's like, well, listen, I got some news for you guys.
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And the doctor says, we don't know which one made it.
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So till the day the baby is born, we don't know which one's making it.
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I can't imagine my life not having ever met Brooklyn.
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Like, I asked the guys, who's your favorite person in the world?
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Imagine you never meeting your favorite person in the world.
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What's life like if you don't meet that person, right?
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There's so many different factors of where you can make the case for not having kids.
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But I got to tell you, man, if the reason you don't want to have kids is because of the
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risk of having your heart broken, which is a very valid risk.
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If the risk of not wanting to get married because you're worried about losing half your wealth
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I don't know how long we're going to be married.
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But some of the greatest things in life comes with a freaking big risk.
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Moving to a country, you don't speak any language, it's risky.
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So if you're in the middle and you're actually thinking about it, I'm 44 today.
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I always look at my hands like this because this hand is starting to look 44.
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I'm not going to sit here and preach to you on what direction to go with.
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But if there is a decision you don't want to screw up, that's going to give you so many
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incredible feelings, make you a better leader, help you with your patience, with empathy,
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with resilience, with selfness, kids force you to become better human beings.
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They kick your ass in ways that you don't even know.
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A conversation with your 7-year-old kid, you go to bed, you're thinking about it all night
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long, all week, you're thinking about it at work.
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But it's a good kind of messing with your head.
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You're saying, oh, everything's great and we're going to have great experience with my
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I am sure there's going to be some heartbroken on both sides.
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When I hear something like this, I know Chelsea's going, you know, she's got the pain.
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But when you have somebody that's going through that kind of pain, read why that happened.
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She's lived a very dramatic, hard event life at 9 years old.
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This is a decision you may want to think closely about because having kids is one of the greatest
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things you'll ever do if you do it right with the right person they think you can have
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You know, it's not cool to go through that at 9.
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Never in a million years did I think I'd get emotional for Chelsea.
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If you got value from this video, give it a thumbs up.
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And as a man, if you're watching this, don't take this and be like, well, ladies, give me
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This message isn't for you to feel like you're the victim.