Valuetainment - May 18, 2023


WARNING To Childless Women - Are You Happier or Miserable With That Decision？


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18 minutes

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225.14987

Word Count

4,056

Sentence Count

352

Misogynist Sentences

21

Hate Speech Sentences

9


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 There are a lot of decisions you're going to make in your life, but a handful of them
00:00:02.460 are going to be big decisions in your life, with one of them being having kids, and there's
00:00:05.740 a debate going on right now.
00:00:06.960 Are women happier if they have kids, or are women happier not having kids?
00:00:12.460 Chelsea Handler made a video a couple weeks ago, going after Adam, because Adam said a
00:00:16.520 couple different words, and she said, I am so much happier for not having kids.
00:00:20.260 45% of working women ages 25 to 45, by 2030, will be non-married, no kids, single.
00:00:30.560 I'm sorry, but if the child-free joyride I'm on triggers you, here's a hint.
00:00:35.840 If you need daily alpha content to remind you to be alpha, you might not be an alpha.
00:00:40.460 Take it from an alpha.
00:00:41.780 And the truth is, studies show that single women live longer and are happier.
00:00:47.480 Today, we're going to break it down.
00:00:48.540 We're going to give the argument being made by those that don't have kids, on why they're
00:00:52.360 happier.
00:00:52.880 Then we're going to make the argument for those who have kids, and why they're happy,
00:00:55.900 and we'll look at a bunch of stats, and we'll see who's right.
00:01:07.120 So if you get value out of this video, give it a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel.
00:01:09.960 So let's get right into it.
00:01:10.820 Look, society is going to be selling you on a lot of different ideas.
00:01:13.640 Get married, don't get married.
00:01:14.720 Be poor, be rich.
00:01:15.720 Travel, don't travel.
00:01:16.520 Go and be with hundreds of men and hundreds of women, no.
00:01:19.320 Save yourself and only go out there and spend time with the people you love and date a couple
00:01:23.200 different before you get married.
00:01:24.500 Everyone's selling you their philosophies.
00:01:26.240 God forbid you buy the wrong one, you could lose a decade or two of your life.
00:01:29.820 That's simply what it is.
00:01:30.780 So let's look at some of this data here.
00:01:32.760 Argument for not having kids and argument for having kids.
00:01:36.480 Here's HuffPo why they're saying it's better to not have kids.
00:01:39.900 You like to sleep.
00:01:40.960 You like to have money.
00:01:42.120 You like your freedom.
00:01:43.160 You like to swear.
00:01:44.260 You like your personal space.
00:01:45.420 You don't like the appearance or smell of vomit or poop.
00:01:48.540 You don't like the idea of wiping another person's snot.
00:01:51.340 You like to shut the door while you're in the bathroom.
00:01:53.660 These are some of the kids that are saying you don't want to have kids.
00:01:55.580 These are some of the things you don't want to deal with.
00:01:57.200 Here's a website called WeHaveKids.com.
00:01:59.300 Why you shouldn't have kids.
00:02:01.040 Kids are messy.
00:02:02.160 You'll be sleep deprived.
00:02:03.560 It's mentally tiring.
00:02:04.900 Everyone takes longer when a kid is involved.
00:02:07.000 It's hard to travel with them.
00:02:08.720 Some good points.
00:02:09.920 Now, let's see the other side.
00:02:11.200 WeHaveKids.com argument for having kids, to carry on the family name and values, to give
00:02:16.140 and receive unconditional love, to give meaning to life, to create and mold a life, to have
00:02:20.500 a family, to fix the mistakes of their parents, social pressure and expectations, human biology.
00:02:26.000 Medium.com said the following, children make us happier.
00:02:29.200 Avoid dying alone.
00:02:30.480 Children give us hope.
00:02:31.560 Help us believe in something bigger.
00:02:33.080 Children force you to become a better version of yourself.
00:02:35.520 Your baby may be the one who saves the world.
00:02:37.740 Some of you may be watching and saying, I got 10 more things I would add to this list.
00:02:40.520 Yeah, I totally get it.
00:02:41.200 I'm just giving you an ID here.
00:02:42.580 But, let's look at a couple of articles on what they're saying.
00:02:45.180 Here's one.
00:02:46.060 Unmarried childless women are happiest people of all, says Expert.
00:02:50.040 If you're a man, you should probably get married.
00:02:52.340 If you're a woman, don't bother.
00:02:54.200 Can you imagine that?
00:02:54.900 If you're a man, you should probably get married.
00:02:56.440 If you're a woman, don't bother.
00:02:58.480 You think someone's going to read that and say, maybe I shouldn't get married.
00:03:00.780 Here's another one.
00:03:01.580 Half of women have not yet had a child by age 34, the first time ever figures show.
00:03:05.660 Women born in 1990 were the first cohort ever where half were not mothers by their 30th birthday.
00:03:12.020 Now, if you're part of that camp, you're like, oh, thank God, we're making progress.
00:03:15.000 Some of you may say, what are we talking about here?
00:03:17.320 What else is the purpose for not having kids?
00:03:18.960 Are you kidding me?
00:03:19.460 You don't want to have kids?
00:03:20.140 That's the data telling you.
00:03:21.120 Watch this next one here.
00:03:22.120 One in four projecting childlessness among today's young women.
00:03:26.660 Meaning, one in four is probably going to have a kid.
00:03:29.400 Three out of four is probably not going to have any kids.
00:03:31.540 That's the direction we're going today.
00:03:32.860 But, you know, let's look at some other numbers because when I retweeted Chelsea Handler's video when she said what she said about men and Alpha Motivation Zero, I retweeted and said, here's a study from University of Pennsylvania saying childless women were 46% more likely to be highly depressed than mothers.
00:03:49.680 But then we said, well, okay, let's play devil's advocate because maybe people are happier that don't have kids.
00:03:55.220 Maybe it is something.
00:03:56.220 Why don't we look at and break down four different stats?
00:03:58.540 Married with children, women who are married but they're childless, women who are unmarried with children, and those who are unmarried and childless.
00:04:07.060 Are they happier when they're younger and as they age they get more depressed and miserable?
00:04:12.460 Or are they unhappy when they're younger and when they age, hey, I don't have any kids, I'm just happier now.
00:04:18.220 Let's look at what the stats tells us.
00:04:19.420 Here's what we're looking at.
00:04:20.380 Ages 18 to 34.
00:04:22.260 Married with children, 30 of them were happy.
00:04:25.160 But married childless, 33 of them were happy, which means those who were married and didn't have any kids, they had more time with their spouse, they were actually happier than those who were married with kids.
00:04:34.840 Then you have unmarried with children, 12% of them said they were happy.
00:04:39.440 And unmarried childless, only 7% said they were happy.
00:04:43.120 So in this cohort, the happiest ones were who?
00:04:45.820 Married but no kids.
00:04:47.260 So the argument is, go find your love but don't go have kids.
00:04:50.080 It's too much work.
00:04:50.840 Now let's see what happens as you age in life.
00:04:52.560 35 to 54, married with children, 28% said they were happy.
00:04:57.080 Married childless, fell to second place now, 24% said they were happy.
00:05:01.540 Unmarried with children, 11% said they were happy.
00:05:05.280 Unmarried childless, 12% said they were happy.
00:05:08.720 Now comes the next phase, 55 and up, because as you're 55 and up, you can't be dating.
00:05:12.440 You don't have as many options as you did when you were in your 20s.
00:05:14.680 Body looked good, everything was perfect, maybe even in your 30s.
00:05:17.180 You look great, you're going out, everybody's still flirting with you.
00:05:19.740 Life changes a little bit at 55.
00:05:21.240 Let's see what the numbers tell us now.
00:05:22.780 You ready?
00:05:24.100 Married with children, 25% happy.
00:05:28.320 Married childless, massive drop-off, 14%.
00:05:31.960 Unmarried but with children, 11%.
00:05:36.040 And unmarried, childless, went to last place.
00:05:39.160 So the happiest went from married with kids, then those who are married without kids,
00:05:44.560 but it's a big drop-off from 25 to 14, then unmarried with children, and unmarried childless.
00:05:50.020 So when you look at this data, what do you think about?
00:05:51.660 The argument could be made from the other side to say, you see, you see, even the person
00:05:55.920 that's married childless is happier than the person that's unmarried with child.
00:06:00.920 Okay, so don't have marriage out of wedlock or something like that.
00:06:03.100 Okay, fine.
00:06:03.700 Maybe you can make that argument.
00:06:04.960 Great.
00:06:05.400 On the other side could be, do you see what happens?
00:06:07.540 Because as you age, what used to be important to you in your 20s, to go party, hang out,
00:06:12.580 go to clubs, left and right, date man, date this, date that, that is not going to be a
00:06:16.020 priority in your 50s.
00:06:17.220 Things that drive you in your 20s are not going to drive you as much in your 30s, then 40s,
00:06:22.460 then 50s, then 60s.
00:06:23.860 Life changes, you change, I change, we all change.
00:06:27.060 My dad's best friend today, he's 81 years old, is his granddaughter, my 23-month-old
00:06:31.260 daughter, Brooklyn.
00:06:32.480 They're together glued.
00:06:33.740 If you ask my dad what was his priority 40 years ago, it's a very different thing than
00:06:37.460 60 years ago when he was in his 20, right?
00:06:39.960 Life changes for all of us.
00:06:41.400 We can continue this.
00:06:42.520 Here's a study done by National Library of Medicine.
00:06:45.060 Data shows that women with children were significantly less likely to have depressive symptoms.
00:06:50.400 Depressive symptoms, what causes depression?
00:06:53.400 What causes anxiety?
00:06:54.540 Anxiety is caused by us stressed out about the future.
00:06:57.180 Depression is caused by us stressed out about the past, the decisions that we made.
00:07:00.520 Maybe one of the things that causes depression is to sit there and say, man, I wish I had
00:07:04.300 a kid.
00:07:05.140 A big mistake I made.
00:07:06.140 And you constantly keep reliving it.
00:07:08.100 That's tough.
00:07:09.040 You ever have to keep thinking about a decision you made in the past and you keep recurring
00:07:12.160 on what it does to you?
00:07:13.900 It's not a good feeling, right?
00:07:15.060 Now imagine you're 58 years old.
00:07:16.680 You never had kids.
00:07:17.580 And all you think about is, I should have kids.
00:07:19.660 That's tough.
00:07:20.500 It's got to be painful.
00:07:21.420 So how did we get here?
00:07:22.120 It could be one of the things.
00:07:22.840 Look, I've got a bunch of different data I can show you.
00:07:24.340 I don't want to overwhelm you.
00:07:25.200 The fact that, hey, college degrees, it used to be a lot more men used to get college degrees.
00:07:29.180 For the first time ever, women are getting more four-year college degrees than men.
00:07:32.640 This is a transition we've looked at from 1940 to 2021.
00:07:35.900 Women are now competing and maybe thinking, I no longer need a man.
00:07:39.820 I can make the money.
00:07:40.600 I don't need your money.
00:07:41.740 I can do it myself.
00:07:42.520 Why do I need to have a husband in the first place?
00:07:44.640 And if you look at right now, more women in workforce for every hundred in 1990, for
00:07:49.340 every man working in 1990, 74.5% women.
00:07:53.620 Today, that's 82, which means women are getting close to having the same exact number as men.
00:07:59.080 And the argument a lot of times made, well, women have babies.
00:08:01.400 They can't work as many as ours as a man does.
00:08:03.280 If they're having kids and they have to take this, they have to do that.
00:08:05.260 Fine.
00:08:05.580 No problem.
00:08:05.940 I'm just giving you stats on what's going on.
00:08:07.540 And then also, income-wise.
00:08:08.980 If you look at income-wise, 65 and up, there's a very big disparity between how much men make
00:08:13.600 and how much women make.
00:08:14.700 55 to 64, men still have a big lead.
00:08:16.900 45 to 54, men still have a big lead.
00:08:18.880 35 to 44, men have a big lead.
00:08:20.860 But if you look at 25 to 34, they're making about the same amount of money.
00:08:24.300 And if you look at 20 to 24, it's about the same amount of money.
00:08:26.900 So that race is getting closer and closer and closer.
00:08:29.580 And if you look at these stats, the U.S. National Survey of Families and Households determined
00:08:32.980 that those who report being happy in their marriages declined when women earned more than
00:08:38.060 their husbands.
00:08:38.660 That was said to increase the risk of divorce by 50%.
00:08:41.200 When a woman makes more money than a man, there's a 50% higher chance of divorce.
00:08:44.720 Now, you may be able to say on the other side, and the argument could be what?
00:08:46.940 Well, that's because men are insecure, and it's the insecure man's fault.
00:08:50.540 Could be.
00:08:50.980 I'm just giving you the stat on what could be the reason that this is taking place.
00:08:53.780 Maybe a man wants to be the guy that's kind of like, somebody needs me.
00:08:56.820 I'm needed.
00:08:57.480 There's a purpose for me being here.
00:08:59.240 You rely on me.
00:09:00.200 It makes me feel important, and I want to do even more for you.
00:09:03.120 That could be in the DNA of a man that naturally we're wired that way.
00:09:07.100 We can go on and on and on and talk about, well, you know, one of the things that changes
00:09:09.880 back this before social media, if a girl was a really hot girl that was living in a state
00:09:13.340 in a city, she would have married somebody there.
00:09:15.060 Now, she can post her picture on social media, and thousands of other men could DM her, and
00:09:18.440 she could realize, look, I'm really hot.
00:09:20.020 These guys are DMing me from UK, from Spain, from Brazil, from New York.
00:09:24.020 I don't live in New York.
00:09:24.860 I live in Arkansas.
00:09:25.660 I live in this.
00:09:26.760 I live in that.
00:09:27.000 So that could be one of the reasons that it changed now.
00:09:29.280 All the good-looking men are getting all the women, and the men that would have typically
00:09:32.220 gotten at least some plate today, they're not getting any of it.
00:09:34.480 It's hard for men to find women.
00:09:36.540 Now, a calculator's out there, if you've never used it, called the delusion calculator.
00:09:39.940 So what this female delusion calculator does is it uses income and marital status information
00:09:44.080 derived from the 2020 Annual Social and Economic Supplement of Current Population Survey conducted
00:09:49.020 by the Census Bureau of the United States, and then it breaks things down.
00:09:51.800 Hey, I want a guy that's this tall.
00:09:53.380 I want him to be this weight.
00:09:54.360 I want him to make this kind of money.
00:09:55.560 What percentage of men who fall into this category?
00:09:58.120 If you've never used this calculator, ladies, you ought to use this calculator to realize the
00:10:02.800 guy you're looking for, how few of them are in the marketplace.
00:10:06.320 But women have way more options.
00:10:10.020 Men don't have as many options.
00:10:11.340 So this thing has changed a little bit, but does that mean it makes women happier long-term?
00:10:15.320 Stat says no.
00:10:16.300 I'm giving my final thoughts, but this thing's about to take a turn here.
00:10:19.200 And if you make it to this last part, this is the best part of this entire message, because
00:10:22.960 we have to understand other people's pain.
00:10:24.900 When I interview people, I want to know why you're the way you are.
00:10:27.900 Whether you made an incredible decision and you took a business to levels that nobody thought
00:10:32.140 you were going to take it, or Kobe, or you made a bad decision and you turn.
00:10:35.320 Who let you down?
00:10:36.580 Who hurt you?
00:10:37.300 What happened to your life?
00:10:38.100 I've lived a very weird life.
00:10:39.680 This is why I want to know people's motives and why they do what they do.
00:10:42.740 So Chelsea, you know, when she was a kid, nine years old, her favorite person in her life,
00:10:47.620 she writes this in the memoir she wrote, which is titled, Life Will Be the Death of Me and
00:10:52.140 You Too.
00:10:52.740 She's nine years old.
00:10:53.700 Her favorite person in the world is her brother, which is 22 years old.
00:10:57.100 He goes on a hiking trip.
00:10:58.220 And his last words, her brother is, I will be back and can't wait to see you.
00:11:03.620 He goes on this hiking trip, never comes back.
00:11:06.660 He falls hiking and he dies at 22 years old.
00:11:11.380 She's nine.
00:11:12.560 She says, this guy was my hero, was pretty much her favorite person in the world.
00:11:16.740 Father figure and her first boyfriend.
00:11:18.800 First boyfriend, 9, 22.
00:11:20.460 Imagine the dynamics of that relationship.
00:11:23.280 She says, look, I may be a successful comedian.
00:11:25.280 Her words, I just felt broken and didn't know how to deal with these feelings for years.
00:11:30.620 Let me read some more about what happened with her father when this took place.
00:11:33.820 His death had an impact on our entire family.
00:11:36.340 Chelsea notes emotionally that his death changed the way she saw relationships because she felt
00:11:40.780 betrayed by her brother's last word, which were that he would return from the trip.
00:11:45.080 But look what happens here with her and her father.
00:11:47.140 Chelsea's parents are Seymour, a used car salesman, and Rita, a homemaker.
00:11:51.120 She has spoken at length about growing up in a household where there were a lot of unknown
00:11:55.620 variables, admitting my parents were great, there were a lot of love in our house, but
00:11:59.520 they were kind of hot messes as well.
00:12:01.080 You ready for this next part?
00:12:02.120 The relationship with dad?
00:12:03.200 I didn't like seeing my father weak.
00:12:05.160 I'd already lost my brother.
00:12:07.020 I couldn't lose my dad too, and I did.
00:12:09.280 My dad never recovered.
00:12:10.640 Kind of changes things, right?
00:12:12.120 And Cindy says, ah, why would you want to have a kid?
00:12:15.180 Can you imagine the fear, right?
00:12:16.100 Let me have a kid and raise this person nine years later, this person could die and why
00:12:19.500 would I put myself through that kind of a pain?
00:12:20.960 Why get married?
00:12:21.700 Are you kidding me?
00:12:22.260 That person leaves me?
00:12:23.360 Why would I want to go through that kind of a pain?
00:12:24.740 What's a big challenge men have?
00:12:26.300 How many men fear getting married?
00:12:27.980 Why do you think?
00:12:28.480 Somebody hurt them.
00:12:29.180 Something happened.
00:12:29.760 Mother, somebody hurt them.
00:12:30.720 Somebody cheated on them.
00:12:31.840 This is a real issue that a lot of us have.
00:12:34.280 She is not alone here.
00:12:35.640 But let me bring this back to one of the most important decisions you'll make in your life
00:12:39.320 is having kids.
00:12:39.920 I got four kids.
00:12:40.700 Our fourth one, Brooklyn, 23 months.
00:12:43.980 We were not supposed to have because Jennifer, when she was pregnant with our third, Senna, we went
00:12:49.380 out to dinner on her birthday.
00:12:50.440 She's born on Valentine's Day, my wife.
00:12:52.260 And she says, look, babe, I don't want any gifts from you.
00:12:54.800 The only thing I want is this becomes our last baby.
00:12:58.060 I want 10 kids.
00:12:59.920 I want a lot of kids.
00:13:01.100 I love kids.
00:13:02.140 And I'm like, I don't want to talk about it right now.
00:13:03.660 Why are you doing this?
00:13:04.280 I just want this gift.
00:13:05.160 I don't want anything from you.
00:13:06.120 I just want you to.
00:13:06.720 I'm like, okay, great.
00:13:08.360 No problem.
00:13:08.940 We're not having any more kids.
00:13:09.940 One day, come to the house.
00:13:12.700 She says, she's crying in the closet.
00:13:14.360 She's like, I'm like, what's going on?
00:13:15.320 They said, babe, I don't know why I want another kid.
00:13:18.560 I'm like, you want another kid?
00:13:19.740 By the way, it's been years, right?
00:13:21.260 I want another.
00:13:21.820 You want another kid?
00:13:22.700 Yeah.
00:13:23.340 What are you talking about?
00:13:23.940 You want another kid?
00:13:24.920 In my mind, I checked off that, you know, this thing is not something I'm thinking about.
00:13:28.680 I want another kid.
00:13:29.720 Anyways, we have twins, okay?
00:13:32.460 We go to the doctor.
00:13:33.820 That whole scene's like, well, listen, I got some news for you guys.
00:13:36.260 What's that?
00:13:36.640 You're not having one kid.
00:13:37.800 You're having two.
00:13:38.880 I'm laughing.
00:13:39.920 She's crying.
00:13:40.700 That whole funny mixture motion feelings.
00:13:44.440 12 weeks later, one of them doesn't make it.
00:13:47.080 The boy doesn't make it.
00:13:48.600 And she makes it.
00:13:49.700 And the doctor says, we don't know which one made it.
00:13:52.540 One of the kids is not healthy.
00:13:54.200 So till the day the baby is born, we don't know which one's making it.
00:13:58.260 Do you understand what I'm saying to you?
00:13:59.400 We don't know which one's making it.
00:14:00.740 Baby's born, it's Brooklyn.
00:14:03.740 Brooklyn is the life of the party.
00:14:05.740 She's amazing.
00:14:06.300 I can't imagine my life not having ever met Brooklyn.
00:14:11.100 Do you understand what I'm saying?
00:14:11.900 Like, I asked the guys, who's your favorite person in the world?
00:14:14.660 One says, grandfather.
00:14:15.780 The other one says, mom.
00:14:16.780 Imagine you never meeting your favorite person in the world.
00:14:20.100 What's life like if you don't meet that person, right?
00:14:23.040 I can't imagine that.
00:14:24.500 Now, do I sleep more?
00:14:25.960 No.
00:14:26.700 Is marriage harder having kids?
00:14:28.400 Yes.
00:14:29.120 Is life harder having kids?
00:14:30.480 Yes.
00:14:31.040 Is running companies harder?
00:14:32.200 Yes.
00:14:32.600 Is your health?
00:14:33.760 Yes.
00:14:34.040 I'm carrying my back.
00:14:35.120 You know, kids, she likes them.
00:14:36.860 Yes.
00:14:37.620 There's so many different factors of where you can make the case for not having kids.
00:14:42.840 But I got to tell you, man, if the reason you don't want to have kids is because of the
00:14:46.240 risk of having your heart broken, which is a very valid risk.
00:14:49.400 I respect it.
00:14:50.460 If the risk of not wanting to get married because you're worried about losing half your wealth
00:14:54.160 because someone could take it away from you.
00:14:55.600 I'm totally with it.
00:14:56.180 I understand marriage is very hard.
00:14:57.300 We take it one year at a time.
00:14:58.260 I don't know how long we're going to be married.
00:14:59.980 It's very hard.
00:15:00.760 I never pitch marriage being easy.
00:15:03.260 But some of the greatest things in life comes with a freaking big risk.
00:15:07.020 And kid is one of them, bro.
00:15:08.600 It just is.
00:15:09.900 Getting married is one of them.
00:15:11.720 It's freaking risky.
00:15:13.600 Starting a business is risky.
00:15:15.040 Moving to a country, you don't speak any language, it's risky.
00:15:17.440 But immigrants do it all the time.
00:15:18.800 So many different risks in life.
00:15:20.440 So if you're in the middle and you're actually thinking about it, I'm 44 today.
00:15:25.260 I always look at my hands like this because this hand is starting to look 44.
00:15:29.320 I look young like this.
00:15:30.600 I look 44 like this, right?
00:15:32.220 I look 44 here.
00:15:33.820 I look 44 here.
00:15:35.060 But I love it.
00:15:36.500 It's part of the story, you know?
00:15:38.420 So I don't know.
00:15:39.400 I'm not going to sit here and preach to you on what direction to go with.
00:15:42.620 But if there is a decision you don't want to screw up, that's going to give you so many
00:15:47.300 incredible feelings, make you a better leader, help you with your patience, with empathy,
00:15:51.880 with resilience, with selfness, kids force you to become better human beings.
00:15:56.420 They force you to become better leaders.
00:15:57.940 They kick your ass in ways that you don't even know.
00:16:02.880 A conversation with your 7-year-old kid, you go to bed, you're thinking about it all night
00:16:07.140 long, all week, you're thinking about it at work.
00:16:09.560 They will mess with your head.
00:16:10.900 But it's a good kind of messing with your head.
00:16:12.720 And by the way, I'm not selling you.
00:16:14.680 You're saying, oh, everything's great and we're going to have great experience with my
00:16:17.100 four kids.
00:16:17.700 I am sure there's going to be some heartbroken on both sides.
00:16:20.800 Myself, Mike, it's coming.
00:16:22.280 I'm not expecting God to make life easy on me.
00:16:25.080 I'm expecting to make it harder on me.
00:16:27.000 But I hope you get the message from my heart.
00:16:28.940 When I hear something like this, I know Chelsea's going, you know, she's got the pain.
00:16:32.500 Not here trying to be a psychologist.
00:16:34.160 She's got a good life.
00:16:35.040 But when you have somebody that's going through that kind of pain, read why that happened.
00:16:39.860 That doesn't apply to everybody.
00:16:41.360 She's lived a very dramatic, hard event life at 9 years old.
00:16:46.820 I understand.
00:16:47.340 This is a decision you may want to think closely about because having kids is one of the greatest
00:16:51.720 things you'll ever do if you do it right with the right person they think you can have
00:16:54.960 a family with.
00:16:56.160 Hopefully, this got you thinking.
00:16:57.820 But you know what, though?
00:17:06.780 You know, it's...
00:17:09.820 Nine years old, man.
00:17:13.480 You bull****, man.
00:17:15.400 It makes sense.
00:17:16.060 She has a, like, wrong car exterior.
00:17:17.580 Dude, that's tough, man.
00:17:18.940 Four.
00:17:19.860 I got kids.
00:17:20.840 You know, it's not cool to go through that at 9.
00:17:24.460 Damn.
00:17:29.920 Never in a million years did I think I'd get emotional for Chelsea.
00:17:34.320 But we all got a story, you know?
00:17:37.880 All right, we got to wrap this up.
00:17:39.400 If you got value from this video, give it a thumbs up.
00:17:41.120 Subscribe to the channel.
00:17:42.140 And as a man, if you're watching this, don't take this and be like, well, ladies, give me
00:17:46.260 a second chance and all this other stuff.
00:17:47.900 You got to go increase your market value.
00:17:49.500 That's what you got to do.
00:17:50.620 This message isn't for you to feel like you're the victim.
00:17:52.920 I'm telling you, you go improve yourself.
00:17:54.820 We made a video titled The Rise of a Weak Man.
00:17:58.320 Highly recommend you watch that video.
00:17:59.720 Take care, everybody.
00:18:00.440 Bye-bye, bye-bye.