Valuetainment - July 26, 2025


＂Who's In Your Ear？＂ – Jacksonville Cop UNDER FIRE Over VIRAL Traffic Stop


Episode Stats

Length

34 minutes

Words per Minute

203.66185

Word Count

7,030

Sentence Count

162

Misogynist Sentences

13

Hate Speech Sentences

27


Summary

On this episode of the podcast, we talk about a recent traffic stop in which a cop hits a driver in the head with his baton. The cop involved in the incident is under investigation, but what happened to the driver is still under investigation.


Transcript

00:00:00.580 Jacksonville, Florida police investigating viral video showing officer punching driver
00:00:06.680 in the face.
00:00:08.420 Okay.
00:00:08.780 We've seen this video.
00:00:10.020 So if you want to play the video that we've all seen, guys, brace for impact.
00:00:13.960 That's a little bit disturbing.
00:00:14.980 When you watch the video, the guy gets smacked upside the head by a cop.
00:00:18.140 And then Vinny's got a bunch of stuff that he wants to say.
00:00:20.220 So I'm giving you a warning.
00:00:21.140 It's a little bit disturbing.
00:00:22.500 He's going to get hit in the face.
00:00:25.100 Vinny, if you want to tell us what's going on so far, just for this video, not the other
00:00:28.120 context of stuff.
00:00:28.840 So what led up to it?
00:00:30.320 So what led up to it?
00:00:30.900 Okay.
00:00:31.180 So William McNeil Jr.
00:00:33.780 He's getting pulled over.
00:00:35.540 And thank you, Pat.
00:00:36.300 He didn't have his headlights on during inclement weather.
00:00:38.920 And just an FYI to everybody out there that's like, what?
00:00:42.320 It's law in Florida.
00:00:43.820 If your wipers are on, your headlights have to be on, too.
00:00:46.760 Okay.
00:00:46.920 On top of that, he wasn't wearing a seatbelt.
00:00:49.400 Okay.
00:00:49.780 So now all you're getting.
00:00:51.560 And mind you, this incident happened months ago.
00:00:53.880 He waited a month and then just posted this one piece of content to get the public pissed
00:01:00.880 off.
00:01:01.280 And this is when he starts.
00:01:03.000 Okay.
00:01:03.300 And then I have Rob.
00:01:04.280 I sent Rob a video of the pre thing.
00:01:06.280 But this is what this guy, William McNeil, posted.
00:01:09.840 So, Rob, go ahead and post this.
00:01:11.040 Is that the guy who's driving?
00:01:12.140 Go ahead, Rob.
00:01:12.620 And just a clarification.
00:01:13.660 The traffic stop happened in February.
00:01:15.620 February.
00:01:15.920 The video footage was obtained in March.
00:01:18.480 And then they sat on this until July to release it.
00:01:21.120 He did.
00:01:21.900 He did.
00:01:22.440 He waited months.
00:01:23.860 And I'll tell you what, because the sheriff does something great in this interview.
00:01:27.040 But go ahead, Rob.
00:01:27.460 Play this.
00:01:27.580 He keeps looking into his own.
00:01:28.880 Tom, stop, Tom.
00:01:29.740 Go back a little bit.
00:01:30.740 Go for it.
00:01:31.240 Go ahead.
00:01:31.640 When he pulled me over, he walked up.
00:01:33.860 I opened my door because my window don't work, right?
00:01:35.520 Okay.
00:01:36.020 And then I said, so what I did wrong?
00:01:38.140 Yeah.
00:01:38.520 He said, well, for one, your headlights are off under this weather.
00:01:43.540 I'm like, there's multiple people's headlights off, first of all.
00:01:47.320 And then there's no rain.
00:01:50.180 It doesn't matter.
00:01:51.680 You're still required to have headlights on.
00:01:53.760 Can you pull that law up?
00:01:55.040 It says there's no rain.
00:01:55.760 There's water on the window up top of the sunroof.
00:01:58.340 Yeah.
00:01:58.660 Can you call your supervisor?
00:02:01.620 Huh?
00:02:02.080 Can you call your supervisor?
00:02:03.200 All right.
00:02:03.380 Go for it.
00:02:06.860 Oh, damn.
00:02:07.600 Exit the vehicle now.
00:02:08.980 Exit the vehicle.
00:02:11.400 Show me your hands.
00:02:12.580 Here.
00:02:18.560 I'm here.
00:02:19.160 What is your reason, sir?
00:02:22.440 What is your reason?
00:02:23.640 Step out now.
00:02:24.280 All right.
00:02:25.840 No.
00:02:26.420 No.
00:02:26.940 No.
00:02:27.840 Resisting arrest.
00:02:29.220 Resisting arrest.
00:02:29.840 Fighting the cops.
00:02:30.480 Stop fighting.
00:02:31.420 Put your hands behind your back.
00:02:32.360 Put your hands behind your back.
00:02:33.320 Fighting the cops.
00:02:34.280 Put your hands behind your back.
00:02:36.620 Okay.
00:02:36.920 Now.
00:02:37.460 Now.
00:02:37.900 You guys see this video.
00:02:39.040 If you just see this, what are you seeing?
00:02:42.280 What are you?
00:02:42.660 How deceiving is social media?
00:02:44.320 You see this and oh my God.
00:02:46.620 The cops are bad.
00:02:47.420 That is very disturbing.
00:02:48.340 Mind you.
00:02:48.720 Very disturbing.
00:02:49.620 By the way, the cop that hit him, PBD, with the hit, he's under investigation.
00:02:53.660 He was relieved of duties.
00:02:54.760 That's being dealt with.
00:02:55.980 But now, what you guys didn't see, and Rob, can you play the clip that I sent you?
00:03:00.660 Yeah.
00:03:00.880 And just so you know, where the actual window breaking happens is more than six minutes
00:03:05.760 into the traffic stop.
00:03:06.720 Yeah.
00:03:06.900 So this, Bob, I sent you one that has boom, boom, boom, boom.
00:03:08.720 I got it.
00:03:08.960 Okay, yeah.
00:03:09.280 So remember, six, almost six and a half minutes of dealing with this guy.
00:03:13.760 And so watch.
00:03:14.220 They're going to show you this.
00:03:15.160 I want you guys to see this, and I'm going to say my piece.
00:03:16.760 Go ahead.
00:03:17.100 Can you call your supervisor?
00:03:19.520 All right.
00:03:19.980 Can you call your supervisor?
00:03:21.100 All right.
00:03:21.280 Go for it.
00:03:23.080 Okay.
00:03:23.480 Now watch this.
00:03:24.880 Is there a reason why you're popping the door open like that?
00:03:26.900 I don't have a window that works.
00:03:28.700 Is there a reason that you're pulling me over?
00:03:30.220 Yeah, absolutely there's a reason why I'm pulling you over.
00:03:31.960 For one thing, inclement weather, you don't have your lights on.
00:03:34.960 Two thing is you're not wearing your seatbelt.
00:03:36.160 It's daylight.
00:03:36.620 I don't need the lights.
00:03:37.660 And it's not weather.
00:03:38.320 It's not raining.
00:03:38.940 It's not raining.
00:03:40.180 Okay.
00:03:40.540 I'm not arguing with you.
00:03:41.320 I'm telling you why I'm pulling you over.
00:03:42.940 Give me your driver's license, registration, proof of insurance.
00:03:44.700 No.
00:03:45.420 No.
00:03:46.140 No.
00:03:46.600 Excuse me?
00:03:47.400 Call your supervisor.
00:03:48.600 Step out.
00:03:49.020 Step out.
00:03:49.720 Step out of the vehicle.
00:03:50.200 Look.
00:03:50.820 No.
00:03:51.180 And then, okay.
00:03:52.180 Locks the door.
00:03:53.160 Watch this.
00:03:53.880 Watch this, Tom.
00:03:56.520 I've already told you.
00:04:01.100 What?
00:04:01.540 Right now, you're under arrest or resisting.
00:04:03.720 Sir, it's your last warning.
00:04:04.800 Watch this.
00:04:05.160 Open the vehicle and exit before we're going to break the window.
00:04:07.500 Open the door and exit or we are going to break the window.
00:04:09.900 Two times.
00:04:10.440 Open the door and exit or we are going to break the window.
00:04:13.100 Open the door and exit.
00:04:13.960 Four times.
00:04:14.300 You are under arrest for resisting.
00:04:16.220 Open the door and exit.
00:04:17.400 Five times.
00:04:18.160 You are under arrest for resisting.
00:04:20.440 Open the door and exit.
00:04:22.080 You are under arrest for resisting.
00:04:24.460 Open the door and exit.
00:04:26.600 You are under arrest for resisting.
00:04:28.880 I'm about to break the window.
00:04:30.140 Okay.
00:04:30.720 Now, guys.
00:04:31.700 Okay.
00:04:31.920 So see how this went
00:04:33.320 Rob, I'm going to have you play
00:04:35.660 The sheriff in a second
00:04:38.060 But guys, he just
00:04:39.440 Pulls out the phone
00:04:40.880 Posts it online like he's the victim
00:04:43.020 And then the internet goes crazy
00:04:44.740 The officer, like I said, is going to get in trouble
00:04:46.200 But here's the thing
00:04:47.640 And I want everybody to understand this
00:04:49.240 If you're getting pulled over
00:04:50.800 And they're asking for your driver's license
00:04:52.520 Just listen, if you have no warrants
00:04:54.960 You have a valid license
00:04:56.260 Just comply, he could have been on the road in five minutes
00:04:59.920 But the guy wanted this moment
00:05:02.240 And when they searched his car, Rob
00:05:04.160 Guess what they found?
00:05:05.100 An unsheathed, serrated knife
00:05:06.960 Sitting on the passenger side, on the floorboard
00:05:09.200 The cops were saying that he reached for it
00:05:11.360 I think they're still disputing that
00:05:13.620 But you know what this reminds me of?
00:05:15.240 You guys remember when Tyree Kill
00:05:16.800 Was going to the Miami Games
00:05:18.800 Speeding like a maniac
00:05:20.480 Got pulled over, closes the door
00:05:23.280 Closes the window, arguing with the police
00:05:25.400 He acted like an entitled, rich
00:05:27.680 Freaking brat
00:05:28.700 He didn't want to listen
00:05:29.780 Because the rules don't apply with him
00:05:31.200 And then guess what?
00:05:31.800 When they interview him
00:05:32.540 You know what he said?
00:05:33.480 I'm just being a black man
00:05:34.920 That's it
00:05:35.580 I'm just being a black man in America, bruh
00:05:37.800 That's not it, okay?
00:05:39.600 That's not why you got pulled over
00:05:41.220 Okay, you were driving like an idiot
00:05:42.920 And there's this sentiment now
00:05:44.460 Towards cops back
00:05:45.580 And especially like in the younger community
00:05:48.320 The African American community
00:05:49.760 It's like, no, I ain't got to do shit
00:05:51.360 Roll up the window
00:05:52.160 Just comply, okay?
00:05:54.960 You're never going to deal with this situation
00:05:57.040 If you just listen
00:05:58.200 We all do it
00:05:59.420 Give me your driver's license
00:06:00.300 I don't put on a camera
00:06:02.020 And try to fight with a freaking cop
00:06:04.140 Just listen to what they're saying
00:06:05.360 It's the law
00:06:06.500 It's the law
00:06:07.400 It's a traffic stop, okay?
00:06:09.960 This guy would never be in this situation
00:06:11.780 Same thing with George Floyd
00:06:12.840 If George Floyd wasn't a scumbag
00:06:14.780 He never would have met that cop
00:06:16.340 Derek Chauvin
00:06:17.080 If you weren't a scumbag
00:06:18.340 Okay, and this guy's a scumbag in my eyes
00:06:20.620 And Rob, play this video
00:06:21.840 Of what the sheriff said
00:06:22.760 Social media is not reality
00:06:25.200 One video clip
00:06:27.440 Devoid of context
00:06:28.520 Can be very misleading
00:06:29.720 Given that Maynil
00:06:31.260 Never brought this incident
00:06:32.280 To JSO's attention
00:06:33.280 But rather pushed
00:06:34.480 The cell phone camera footage
00:06:35.900 That he had in his possession
00:06:37.240 Since March 5th
00:06:38.780 Out on social media
00:06:39.960 One can only assume
00:06:41.520 And I'm saying I assume
00:06:42.580 That he intended to inflame the public
00:06:44.700 The administrative process
00:06:46.220 Is still ongoing
00:06:46.980 And as such
00:06:47.740 I will neither defend
00:06:49.120 Nor commend
00:06:50.300 Officer Bauer's response
00:06:51.620 To resistance
00:06:52.160 Until all the facts are known
00:06:53.540 And the investigation is completed
00:06:55.340 However
00:06:56.040 As the leader of this agency
00:06:58.000 I will not remain silent
00:06:59.120 While important facts
00:07:00.580 And information are buried
00:07:01.560 To advance
00:07:02.140 An anti-police agenda
00:07:04.080 The truth is
00:07:05.740 William McNeil Jr.
00:07:07.440 Was non-compliant
00:07:08.300 With JSO officers
00:07:09.340 Within 21 seconds
00:07:10.660 After he was stopped
00:07:11.500 For multiple civil infractions
00:07:13.020 His non-compliance
00:07:14.540 Quickly rose to the level
00:07:15.660 Of criminal resistance
00:07:16.500 To a police officer
00:07:17.420 McNeil was arrested
00:07:19.100 And pled guilty
00:07:19.820 To resisting a police officer
00:07:20.960 Without violence
00:07:21.740 Force absolutely looks ugly
00:07:24.240 And because all force is ugly
00:07:25.960 Whether or not
00:07:26.880 The officer involved
00:07:27.640 Acted within
00:07:28.780 Outside JSO policy
00:07:30.180 That's still
00:07:31.300 What we're investigating
00:07:32.160 Yeah
00:07:32.420 That punch by the way
00:07:33.660 He's getting under investigation
00:07:35.000 That cop
00:07:35.780 Was relieved of his duty
00:07:37.420 And good
00:07:38.180 Doing an investigation
00:07:38.980 And getting him in trouble
00:07:39.480 But this attitude
00:07:40.440 This sentiment towards cops
00:07:42.160 Of the hell with them
00:07:43.280 And they're just trying
00:07:43.980 To kill us
00:07:44.560 And that's horse shit
00:07:45.700 And the stats
00:07:47.120 Are on our side
00:07:48.460 Okay
00:07:48.980 Just comply
00:07:50.620 Give me your driver's license
00:07:52.020 You know how easy that is
00:07:53.340 Here
00:07:54.040 Okay officer
00:07:54.920 I didn't know
00:07:55.860 I'm sorry
00:07:56.380 Let me put them on
00:07:57.180 Bye
00:07:57.640 You're gone in five minutes
00:07:58.740 Instead you want to play this
00:08:00.080 Roll the window
00:08:01.100 Close up
00:08:01.800 Not listen
00:08:02.400 That's what you get
00:08:03.400 That's what you get
00:08:04.400 But don't try to
00:08:05.100 That's why he's trying
00:08:05.800 To inflame the public
00:08:06.600 And trying to make us
00:08:07.340 Against cops
00:08:08.320 All the cops are trying to kill us
00:08:09.220 His family was speaking up too
00:08:10.420 Like
00:08:10.600 Oh it's just because
00:08:11.900 He's a black man
00:08:12.620 And no bullshit
00:08:13.420 It's because you're acting like that
00:08:15.040 And that's the behavior
00:08:15.800 Adam
00:08:16.660 I just love the way
00:08:18.240 That this sort of
00:08:18.840 Played out
00:08:19.520 I like the way that
00:08:20.120 Our friend Rob
00:08:20.780 Sort of teed this up
00:08:21.700 Because if you only see
00:08:22.540 The first video first
00:08:23.980 He's a victim
00:08:24.660 I was shocked
00:08:25.780 Yeah
00:08:26.200 Shocked
00:08:27.840 And then the one thing
00:08:28.920 Like
00:08:29.180 Punch him in the face
00:08:31.880 I'm like
00:08:32.260 Oh my
00:08:32.600 Here it is again
00:08:33.280 George Floyd
00:08:33.900 Yeah exactly
00:08:34.640 Michael Smith
00:08:35.260 Here it is
00:08:35.840 And you know
00:08:37.520 The weirdest part
00:08:38.400 The weirdest part
00:08:39.500 I don't know if you could
00:08:39.900 Play that video Rob
00:08:40.680 As soon as the glass breaks
00:08:42.580 He's coming
00:08:43.160 Do you see how calm
00:08:44.380 That dude is
00:08:44.780 Yeah he knows what he's doing
00:08:45.660 He knows what he's doing
00:08:46.260 See how
00:08:46.540 As if it's like
00:08:47.440 I expected this
00:08:48.480 Yeah
00:08:48.740 And it's on camera
00:08:50.020 And it's on camera
00:08:50.840 It was like
00:08:51.400 That was the weird
00:08:52.300 See how calm he is
00:08:53.300 Watch
00:08:53.540 Look how calm he is
00:08:54.440 Yeah look look
00:08:55.220 Look look look
00:08:56.880 Yeah
00:08:57.700 Oh yeah I didn't do anything
00:08:58.860 Yeah my camera's running
00:09:00.120 Because
00:09:00.660 He knew this was going to happen
00:09:03.300 Of course
00:09:03.740 Of course
00:09:04.360 And what's so
00:09:04.980 Look how innocent he looks
00:09:06.120 What's so important
00:09:06.980 Is playing
00:09:07.660 The beginning
00:09:08.820 And then also
00:09:09.960 The ending of this
00:09:11.140 Because it tells the truth
00:09:12.380 Man
00:09:13.660 Part of me
00:09:15.540 When I'm watching this
00:09:16.580 He doesn't look like
00:09:18.880 A bad kid
00:09:19.620 I'm sorry guys
00:09:21.460 He doesn't look like
00:09:22.500 A bad kid
00:09:23.140 Okay
00:09:24.140 I'm watching this thing
00:09:25.380 Like right after
00:09:26.360 He gets hit in the face
00:09:27.280 Go back to it Rob
00:09:28.500 And I know this is not
00:09:30.900 A popular position
00:09:32.400 I'm taking right now
00:09:33.080 Go back to him
00:09:33.540 When he's getting hit
00:09:34.000 In the face
00:09:34.460 Okay
00:09:35.440 And he holds
00:09:36.500 Okay press play right there
00:09:37.800 And we don't mean
00:09:39.440 To be playing this
00:09:40.080 Every time
00:09:40.300 So watch this
00:09:40.880 Boom
00:09:41.180 Immediately hands go up
00:09:42.500 Yep
00:09:43.220 Okay
00:09:43.920 Hands go up
00:09:45.460 And the way he talks
00:09:46.540 He's not
00:09:48.180 Does this guy have
00:09:48.780 A criminal record
00:09:49.760 Or no
00:09:50.160 I'm checking right now
00:09:51.220 Does he have a criminal record
00:09:52.200 However
00:09:53.500 February
00:09:54.500 No February
00:09:55.180 February was resisting
00:09:56.360 No previous record
00:09:57.780 Let's just assume
00:09:58.360 He's not a criminal
00:09:59.220 No but
00:09:59.660 He got pulled over
00:10:00.880 But let me go through it
00:10:01.900 And I'm going to go
00:10:02.480 With a very different angle
00:10:03.660 Can you find out
00:10:04.280 If this guy's got
00:10:04.760 A criminal record
00:10:05.340 Nothing about his
00:10:06.260 That moment behavior
00:10:08.040 Tells me the guy's
00:10:09.100 Got a criminal record
00:10:10.260 Does he have a criminal record
00:10:11.920 He's been described
00:10:12.540 A 22 year old
00:10:13.220 Biology major
00:10:15.020 And a marching band
00:10:16.060 He gives me a vibe
00:10:17.260 Of a marching band guy
00:10:18.240 Member at Livingstone College
00:10:19.520 No prior convictions
00:10:20.960 Pleaded guilty
00:10:22.240 And resisting
00:10:22.660 Okay
00:10:22.940 So okay
00:10:23.880 Hang on
00:10:24.420 Just wait for me
00:10:25.280 Just wait for me
00:10:25.980 On where I'm going here
00:10:26.660 Can you play the clip
00:10:27.520 With the stepfather rap
00:10:28.620 Go to the stepfather
00:10:29.460 Playing the clip
00:10:30.140 Okay
00:10:30.960 Go to the stepfather
00:10:32.000 Playing the clip
00:10:32.760 And yeah
00:10:34.640 Go make it bigger
00:10:37.460 And then go to the next slide
00:10:38.540 Let him play
00:10:39.520 And then the stepdad speaks
00:10:40.640 And then the lawyer speaks
00:10:41.500 Zoom in a little bit
00:10:42.160 Is this him?
00:10:43.220 Yeah
00:10:43.320 You wait for it
00:10:50.520 The stepdad comes right on
00:10:53.700 I was really just scared
00:10:54.900 To see that video
00:10:56.600 Made me go back to the moment
00:10:58.740 When I was 22
00:10:59.600 And it hurt it
00:11:00.340 It hurt it
00:11:02.080 It made me upset
00:11:04.620 But I seen what my son did
00:11:08.880 That I had to do
00:11:10.380 Okay
00:11:10.660 Pause right there
00:11:11.500 All right
00:11:12.520 So unfortunately
00:11:14.640 Unfortunately
00:11:16.440 Last night
00:11:17.500 Something happened
00:11:19.080 With one of our kids
00:11:20.520 Anyways
00:11:20.900 And I have to go pick him up
00:11:23.680 And I'm talking to him
00:11:25.160 And we're having a long conversation
00:11:26.460 On the way back
00:11:27.800 You know what the conversation was?
00:11:30.360 Hey
00:11:30.800 You screwed up
00:11:32.080 What do you have me to do?
00:11:35.800 Doesn't change my unconditional love for you
00:11:37.620 Doesn't change the fact
00:11:39.500 That I'm going to be your dad
00:11:40.220 For the rest of your life
00:11:41.040 Doesn't change the fact
00:11:42.480 That you always know
00:11:43.580 You can count on me
00:11:44.620 Always
00:11:45.600 You can count on me
00:11:46.780 But guess what?
00:11:48.520 You screwed up
00:11:49.580 And that
00:11:51.560 Causes a decision
00:11:52.860 To be made
00:11:53.480 Okay
00:11:54.620 How much you think
00:11:57.820 This kid
00:11:58.320 Up until this point
00:11:59.540 Lived in a household
00:12:01.440 Or a community
00:12:02.360 Or mentors
00:12:03.360 That have been
00:12:03.920 Feeding him this thing
00:12:05.140 About black this
00:12:06.240 Cops this
00:12:07.320 How many years
00:12:08.020 Do you think
00:12:08.280 He's been fed this?
00:12:08.980 A lot
00:12:09.240 And the media doesn't help
00:12:10.280 He doesn't give me the vibe
00:12:11.420 That he's that guy though
00:12:12.520 He just did this
00:12:14.480 Because it's been fed to him
00:12:15.700 He gave me the vibes
00:12:17.080 Of a good boy
00:12:17.860 That is trying to be better
00:12:20.640 But guess what?
00:12:23.060 When someone
00:12:23.660 The basic stuff
00:12:24.540 When the law tells you
00:12:26.060 Hey
00:12:27.520 Cop pulls you over
00:12:28.720 Do what they ask you to do
00:12:30.600 It's simple
00:12:31.200 What
00:12:31.640 Like
00:12:32.020 The only reason
00:12:33.260 You would behave like that
00:12:34.700 Is because someone
00:12:35.580 Fed you nonsense
00:12:37.060 And now this is what's happening
00:12:38.900 And you're not a victim
00:12:40.320 You're not a victim
00:12:41.980 There's laws
00:12:43.180 Follow the law
00:12:44.520 Here's why I pulled you over
00:12:46.120 This is what happened
00:12:47.940 It's such a disappointing thing
00:12:51.460 And then the other part
00:12:52.200 Is like the lawyer
00:12:52.860 That shows back
00:12:53.500 It's the same lawyer
00:12:54.120 That you've seen before
00:12:54.920 If you go back to the link Rob
00:12:56.600 And you go to the third slide
00:12:57.560 With the exact Instagram thing
00:12:58.740 I sent you
00:12:59.320 You've seen this guy's face before
00:13:01.100 There's these guys
00:13:02.340 That this is a business model
00:13:03.440 They just wait for things
00:13:04.360 Like this to happen
00:13:05.180 And that same lawyer
00:13:06.140 It's that lawyer
00:13:06.680 You see him all the time
00:13:07.540 Go to the last one
00:13:08.780 That's him
00:13:09.200 Ben Crump
00:13:10.400 Yeah you always see him
00:13:11.540 In situations like this
00:13:12.920 It's kind of like the other lawyer
00:13:14.120 Who was the goat
00:13:14.900 On sexual harassment
00:13:15.820 Oh yeah the girl
00:13:16.400 What's her name
00:13:17.160 They did a documentary on her
00:13:18.360 No not Albright
00:13:19.080 That's a different name
00:13:19.840 What is her name Tom
00:13:21.440 I had her on a podcast
00:13:22.380 12 years ago
00:13:23.080 11 years ago
00:13:23.760 Oh Gloria Allred
00:13:24.720 Gloria Allred
00:13:25.940 Guess what Gloria's daughter does
00:13:27.740 Same exact thing she does
00:13:29.220 You know that
00:13:29.760 Same exact thing she does
00:13:31.480 Or her daughter does
00:13:32.080 Give or take
00:13:32.560 So I don't know
00:13:34.060 I'm watching this kid
00:13:35.660 I'm like dude
00:13:36.200 If a better person
00:13:37.140 Was in your ear
00:13:38.160 You would be someone else
00:13:39.540 You ever seen Tupac
00:13:40.880 When he was younger
00:13:41.700 People claim he was gay
00:13:43.200 You ever seen the Tupac
00:13:44.400 He's like well I don't know
00:13:45.560 All I know is the fact
00:13:46.680 That when it comes down to art
00:13:48.140 You know I'm
00:13:48.700 Yeah
00:13:49.000 Very you know
00:13:49.920 This this and that
00:13:50.740 And then all of a sudden
00:13:52.660 A couple years later
00:13:53.500 That's it
00:13:53.880 This is the interview
00:13:54.480 You ever seen
00:13:54.840 Look at the way he talks
00:13:55.660 He's an actor
00:13:55.980 My name is Tupac Shakur
00:13:57.580 And I attend
00:13:58.580 Tampa Bay High School
00:13:59.760 And I'm 17 years old
00:14:02.200 Do you like being 17?
00:14:05.100 It's like 17 is such a weird age
00:14:07.080 It's such a
00:14:07.600 In the middle age
00:14:08.880 You're not 18 yet
00:14:10.100 And you're older than 16
00:14:11.600 But I like it
00:14:13.160 It's nice
00:14:13.780 It's like a learning stage for me
00:14:15.880 Look at the way he speaks
00:14:16.820 Body language
00:14:17.800 How many tattoos do you see?
00:14:19.280 None
00:14:19.440 Okay
00:14:20.120 Well 18
00:14:20.820 Alright who got a hold of him
00:14:22.260 All of a sudden?
00:14:23.040 What got a hold of him
00:14:23.960 All of a sudden?
00:14:24.860 This guy
00:14:25.420 Turns out to become a gangster
00:14:27.480 Gangster rap
00:14:28.000 Tough guy
00:14:28.260 Yeah
00:14:28.580 That's why
00:14:29.860 You fat mother
00:14:31.640 Is that
00:14:32.360 That's all I need
00:14:33.900 Is in the life
00:14:34.840 As sin as me
00:14:35.540 And my girlfriend
00:14:36.180 That's the troublesome guy
00:14:37.620 That's that guy
00:14:39.100 That's the life goes on
00:14:41.220 You know
00:14:42.100 That's that guy
00:14:42.880 You know
00:14:43.460 I don't know
00:14:44.580 Dude
00:14:45.820 The wrong person in your ear
00:14:47.560 Can destroy your life
00:14:48.820 The right person in your ear
00:14:50.100 Can help you out
00:14:50.940 Man
00:14:51.200 My biggest
00:14:53.180 Challenge with that is
00:14:56.220 Who's in your ear?
00:14:57.920 Okay
00:14:58.120 You're some of the guys
00:14:59.260 That end up winning
00:15:00.060 At the highest level
00:15:00.880 And they make money
00:15:01.800 And they grew up
00:15:03.420 In an environment
00:15:03.960 That there was a lot of mess
00:15:05.000 Going on
00:15:05.540 Who's in your ear?
00:15:06.960 This kid
00:15:07.460 You know who's in your ear?
00:15:08.640 Just being fed
00:15:09.340 Victimhood mentality
00:15:10.320 Being fed
00:15:11.480 Victimhood mentality
00:15:12.300 Being fed
00:15:12.860 Victimhood mentality
00:15:13.660 And you're buying it
00:15:15.100 Okay
00:15:15.500 Parents
00:15:16.320 When it comes down
00:15:17.680 To your kids
00:15:18.260 When your kids
00:15:19.440 Screw up
00:15:20.040 They screw up
00:15:21.760 Let them face
00:15:23.400 The consequences
00:15:24.160 Have their back
00:15:25.920 Do everything you can
00:15:27.120 As a parent
00:15:27.660 But they need to know
00:15:28.800 It's a screw up
00:15:29.580 Just like we went through it
00:15:30.820 Tom and I were having
00:15:31.560 A conversation yesterday
00:15:32.500 And you know
00:15:34.000 When Tom was a kid
00:15:34.880 He was also pretty
00:15:36.300 What's the word?
00:15:38.100 There's a word for it
00:15:39.040 Rambunctious?
00:15:40.200 Astute?
00:15:41.060 By the way
00:15:41.540 Tom was
00:15:42.040 People see Tom right now
00:15:43.300 As a final product
00:15:44.000 Tom was a
00:15:45.600 You know
00:15:46.000 He got in trouble
00:15:48.320 In a different way
00:15:49.520 Like Will Ferrell
00:15:50.860 Like
00:15:51.060 Data don't play that
00:15:52.300 Data don't play
00:15:53.360 Tom was out there
00:15:54.520 But what's the point?
00:15:55.260 You know as boys
00:15:55.860 You're going through it
00:15:56.560 But guess what?
00:15:57.520 Good parents
00:15:58.100 Raised a man
00:15:58.840 That now has raised
00:15:59.680 Incredible girls
00:16:00.640 With his wife
00:16:01.220 Okay
00:16:02.460 So
00:16:03.200 But what is that?
00:16:04.700 Somebody at one point
00:16:05.860 Of your life
00:16:06.400 Taught you
00:16:06.960 You screwed up
00:16:08.140 Man up
00:16:09.540 You screwed up
00:16:10.600 And unfortunately
00:16:11.180 Somebody told this guy
00:16:12.460 It's the cop's fault
00:16:13.960 And now
00:16:15.140 He's going to have
00:16:16.160 This on his file
00:16:16.980 Every time he goes
00:16:17.500 To a job interview
00:16:18.240 What happened?
00:16:20.040 Well let me tell you
00:16:20.640 It wasn't fair
00:16:21.280 Go to an employer
00:16:23.140 And say it wasn't fair
00:16:24.020 Who the hell wants
00:16:24.560 To hire somebody
00:16:25.120 That always says
00:16:25.720 It's not fair
00:16:26.440 The moment I hire
00:16:27.560 I'm in an interview
00:16:28.380 And I catch the language
00:16:30.640 Of it's not fair
00:16:31.800 Victimhood
00:16:33.180 Blame
00:16:34.160 Passion
00:16:34.940 The previous boss
00:16:35.780 I'm not attracted to you
00:16:37.500 You literally can watch
00:16:39.620 Someone's interview
00:16:40.500 And see how they speak
00:16:42.240 And I'm like
00:16:42.680 Yeah
00:16:43.500 No
00:16:43.920 You're going to talk
00:16:44.680 Shit about us here
00:16:45.300 Very soon
00:16:45.700 Goes back to this one guy
00:16:46.920 When I'm at
00:16:47.400 Ohica Castle
00:16:48.560 This one guy
00:16:48.940 Comes up to me
00:16:49.500 Says
00:16:49.700 Let me tell you Patrick
00:16:51.240 I've been in New York life
00:16:53.940 I've been in Primerica
00:16:55.560 I've been in Transamerica
00:16:57.100 I've never had a good leader
00:16:58.720 To work with
00:16:59.360 Now I found you
00:17:01.160 I know everything's
00:17:02.020 Going to change
00:17:02.560 And I told him
00:17:03.440 I said
00:17:03.660 No no
00:17:04.200 Very soon
00:17:05.420 I'm going to be
00:17:05.860 The fourth bad guy
00:17:06.540 You work for
00:17:07.100 And you're going to
00:17:07.480 Go to a different company
00:17:08.320 A couple years later
00:17:09.760 Same exact thing happened
00:17:10.840 Gone
00:17:11.160 Gone
00:17:11.620 There's a pattern
00:17:13.120 And that language
00:17:14.880 Is either taught
00:17:15.880 It's the individual
00:17:16.700 So to me
00:17:17.920 When I'm watching this kid
00:17:18.920 This is not a bad kid
00:17:20.840 It's not a bad kid
00:17:23.100 He effed up
00:17:24.460 Yep
00:17:24.740 Don't get me wrong
00:17:25.900 Like I'm not sitting here
00:17:26.920 Telling you
00:17:27.200 It's a screw up
00:17:27.940 Yes
00:17:28.200 And the media
00:17:28.740 Using his
00:17:29.860 To pander
00:17:30.300 So black on black
00:17:31.660 And I love the fact
00:17:32.640 That the sheriff
00:17:33.140 That was speaking on TV
00:17:34.060 Is a black guy
00:17:34.700 Of course
00:17:35.060 You don't think
00:17:35.600 He wants to help
00:17:36.340 Another guy out
00:17:37.020 Watch this movie
00:17:38.420 That I keep telling
00:17:39.060 Everybody to watch
00:17:39.760 It's called The Forge
00:17:40.580 Do you end up
00:17:41.620 Watching The Forge
00:17:42.200 Or no
00:17:42.500 I told Mario
00:17:44.020 To watch The Forge
00:17:44.780 I think Mario
00:17:45.260 Watched The Forge
00:17:45.960 And I'm telling
00:17:46.640 A bunch of people
00:17:47.220 Yeah
00:17:47.700 TK Waters
00:17:48.500 I don't know
00:17:49.180 Who you are sir
00:17:49.840 Thank you for your service
00:17:51.480 Respect to you
00:17:52.740 I have no idea
00:17:53.840 Who this man is
00:17:54.480 I've never met him
00:17:55.200 I've never spoken to him
00:17:56.200 The way he handled himself
00:17:57.520 I guarantee you
00:17:58.860 He probably has
00:17:59.660 Some positive influence
00:18:00.660 On some young men
00:18:01.540 Around him
00:18:02.040 For sure
00:18:02.600 Nephews
00:18:03.440 You know
00:18:04.560 Kids in school
00:18:05.760 That got in trouble
00:18:06.480 That he challenged him
00:18:07.240 To get better
00:18:07.800 I had a guy like this
00:18:09.580 In the army
00:18:10.760 And they
00:18:11.680 Fixed me
00:18:13.320 They challenged
00:18:14.260 The hell out of me
00:18:14.840 When I was 18 years old
00:18:15.920 And I was acting up
00:18:17.180 And put me in my place
00:18:18.160 We need men like this
00:18:19.560 These are the heroes
00:18:20.640 What's that Tom
00:18:21.720 He grew up in the army
00:18:22.820 Did he really
00:18:23.960 His father served
00:18:24.820 In the United States Army
00:18:25.720 As a command sergeant
00:18:26.620 And he grew up
00:18:27.100 As a military brat
00:18:28.120 Stationed at several bases
00:18:29.680 With his dad
00:18:30.320 Isn't that awesome
00:18:32.020 Yeah
00:18:32.360 Isn't that
00:18:33.320 Due to his father's service
00:18:34.360 While they were playing
00:18:35.060 Marines
00:18:36.020 But changed his mind
00:18:36.920 When a cousin
00:18:37.460 Was killed in 1990
00:18:38.420 During a robbery
00:18:39.080 In Ramona
00:18:39.440 In the neighborhood
00:18:39.740 Of Jacksonville
00:18:40.280 You know
00:18:41.680 So I don't know man
00:18:42.700 I don't like hearing
00:18:43.720 Stories like this
00:18:44.580 And it bothers me
00:18:46.160 For two reasons
00:18:47.220 Because that kid
00:18:48.640 Is one decision away
00:18:49.600 From being an incredible
00:18:50.840 Citizen and living
00:18:51.600 A great life
00:18:52.300 And the people
00:18:53.860 Who keep feeding
00:18:54.640 This victimhood
00:18:55.560 Bullshit mentality
00:18:56.540 Are going to keep
00:18:57.620 Continuing this behavior
00:18:58.860 And it's never going to stop
00:18:59.900 But he's not George Floyd
00:19:01.300 No
00:19:01.900 This kid's not George Floyd
00:19:02.840 No
00:19:03.100 Absolutely not
00:19:03.600 This kid is not
00:19:04.200 Any of those other kids
00:19:05.040 That we read about
00:19:05.700 No
00:19:06.000 This is actually
00:19:07.980 A good kid
00:19:08.800 Yeah
00:19:09.320 But Pat
00:19:10.060 It could have easily
00:19:10.920 It could have easily
00:19:11.820 Become something crazier
00:19:12.960 Because Rob
00:19:13.680 Can you show really quick
00:19:14.600 When they break the glass
00:19:15.780 Of the car
00:19:16.280 This is what's laying
00:19:17.540 On the passenger side
00:19:19.100 On the floor
00:19:19.820 Like when you're a cop
00:19:21.660 And you see that
00:19:22.680 That's a whole different situation
00:19:24.440 And then
00:19:25.040 Remember he leans
00:19:26.020 Into that side
00:19:26.680 You don't know
00:19:27.400 What the hell's going on
00:19:28.180 You don't know
00:19:28.500 Why he's resisting
00:19:29.320 So going back
00:19:29.980 To the initial point
00:19:31.040 Just follow their instructions
00:19:33.880 And that's it
00:19:34.960 That's it
00:19:35.980 You don't never
00:19:36.540 It never has to escalate
00:19:37.640 What is that by the way
00:19:38.440 Is that a
00:19:39.480 Unshielded
00:19:40.420 Crocodile Dundee knife
00:19:41.820 Okay
00:19:42.620 So that's a
00:19:43.120 Crocodile Dundee knife
00:19:44.120 Laying on the floor
00:19:44.900 Unshielded
00:19:45.480 That's top of ramen
00:19:46.100 That's water
00:19:46.740 Do you see anything wild
00:19:47.780 Anything crazy there
00:19:48.700 Or no
00:19:49.000 No
00:19:49.180 Other than the knife
00:19:49.920 Is that deodorant
00:19:50.640 Yeah
00:19:51.140 So the only thing is the knife
00:19:52.440 Yeah
00:19:52.860 But do you see crack pipes
00:19:54.120 Do you see anything like that
00:19:55.200 No
00:19:55.420 I don't see anything like that
00:19:56.740 Adam
00:19:57.200 Look
00:19:57.920 You know
00:19:58.540 You don't know
00:19:59.080 What someone's going through
00:20:00.240 Until you really kind of
00:20:01.200 Step into their shoes
00:20:02.080 Yesterday I was having
00:20:02.780 A conversation here
00:20:03.640 At Valuetainment
00:20:04.340 And it's a guy we know
00:20:06.380 We all know him
00:20:07.020 We all love him
00:20:07.540 And I was like
00:20:09.040 What's up man
00:20:09.480 You okay
00:20:09.880 He's like
00:20:10.260 You don't know
00:20:11.520 What I'm dealing with right now
00:20:12.520 And he went down
00:20:13.540 And he went down a laundry list
00:20:14.320 Of things that's going on
00:20:15.240 With his family
00:20:15.880 I was like
00:20:16.280 Oh man
00:20:16.800 I'm so sorry
00:20:17.260 I had no idea
00:20:17.980 Oh your father
00:20:18.720 Man
00:20:19.460 I feel for you
00:20:21.140 And he's like
00:20:21.880 People don't know
00:20:22.340 What I'm going through right now
00:20:23.200 People don't know
00:20:23.800 And I was like
00:20:24.220 Man
00:20:24.540 Like
00:20:24.820 I hear you
00:20:26.320 And we're all going through things
00:20:28.160 And
00:20:28.720 Put yourself in this guy's shoes
00:20:31.160 You know
00:20:31.940 We all have our
00:20:32.640 You know
00:20:32.900 They say
00:20:33.380 You know
00:20:33.720 It's my truth
00:20:34.360 It's my truth
00:20:34.980 It's my truth
00:20:35.640 You know
00:20:36.320 There's something
00:20:36.900 That a lot of black people
00:20:38.420 Have to go through
00:20:38.920 It's called being black while driving
00:20:40.220 And we don't know what it's like
00:20:41.860 To be black while driving
00:20:43.540 We don't know
00:20:44.020 We all deal with this
00:20:45.120 I'm curious
00:20:45.400 What did you tell that guy
00:20:46.560 What did you tell that guy
00:20:47.760 Whoever that guy is
00:20:48.500 I don't know who you're talking about
00:20:49.380 But what did you tell that guy
00:20:50.320 I told him a lot of times
00:20:52.900 It has to do with
00:20:53.980 Improving yourself
00:20:54.980 I said
00:20:56.160 You have all this chaos around you
00:20:57.620 How do you feel about yourself right now
00:20:59.620 It's like
00:21:00.240 Nah
00:21:00.500 I'm not happy with where I'm at
00:21:01.820 I gotta do this
00:21:02.500 I gotta do that
00:21:03.100 I gotta improve
00:21:03.780 I said
00:21:04.340 You're absolutely right
00:21:05.020 It's kind of like the airplane analogy
00:21:06.780 It's like
00:21:07.200 Put on the oxygen mask on yourself
00:21:09.340 Before you start helping others
00:21:10.400 You want to help everybody
00:21:11.300 You can't fix all these people around you
00:21:13.160 You have to improve yourself
00:21:14.460 I want to move through
00:21:15.040 It's kind of what I told you
00:21:15.740 But I'll say just one thing
00:21:17.000 Everyone out there is dealing with things
00:21:18.840 Like you don't understand
00:21:19.980 What Jews want
00:21:20.640 How sensitive they are about the Holocaust
00:21:21.960 You don't understand how Armenians are
00:21:23.720 About the genocide
00:21:24.700 That happened in Turkey
00:21:25.680 You don't understand
00:21:26.320 You know
00:21:26.640 Assyrians don't say things about their mom
00:21:28.520 You don't know when blacks while driving
00:21:30.000 You don't know what it's like
00:21:31.000 To be Hispanic
00:21:31.580 And be an immigrant here
00:21:32.540 You don't know what it's like
00:21:33.080 When it's a woman
00:21:33.720 Be gay
00:21:34.320 We all have our different things
00:21:35.680 That we are dealing with
00:21:36.400 And I totally understand
00:21:37.140 You put yourself in these people's shoes
00:21:38.960 I understand
00:21:40.040 Why that young black kid
00:21:41.400 Was hesitant to step out of the car
00:21:43.380 No, no, no
00:21:44.040 Hold on
00:21:44.280 I understand
00:21:44.740 Wait, wait, wait, wait
00:21:45.940 If he was white
00:21:47.340 Hold on
00:21:47.760 If he was white
00:21:48.560 Hold on
00:21:48.900 Would they have treated him the same way
00:21:50.120 You validated my point
00:21:51.540 No
00:21:51.900 I understand why
00:21:53.820 He was skeptical
00:21:55.040 I would encourage him
00:21:56.440 To understand
00:21:57.940 Where the police are coming from
00:21:59.100 Right here
00:21:59.480 And why you need to listen to the police
00:22:01.520 I'm not saying he's right
00:22:02.820 The backup cops were black
00:22:03.920 Adam
00:22:05.020 Question
00:22:05.480 If he was white
00:22:06.340 Or Spanish
00:22:07.080 Would they have done the same thing?
00:22:08.080 Absolutely
00:22:08.920 I'm not making it a race thing
00:22:10.600 Absolutely
00:22:10.720 I'm making it
00:22:11.820 This is what you're feeling
00:22:13.600 No, I'm not feeling
00:22:14.700 I know
00:22:15.040 It's not about that
00:22:15.980 You've seen countless stories
00:22:16.960 Like George Floyd
00:22:17.720 Like Michael Brown
00:22:18.380 I'm moving on, bro
00:22:19.380 I am not with that
00:22:20.480 Premise position you took
00:22:22.780 That's not where I'm going
00:22:23.760 I'm going to
00:22:25.240 Whoever's in that kid's ear
00:22:27.240 Destroys his life
00:22:28.380 And he's got to know
00:22:30.460 As an adult
00:22:31.400 If you live in a screwed up environment
00:22:33.820 You know what's right or wrong
00:22:35.800 You hit a certain age
00:22:37.740 That you know
00:22:38.680 You're doing something dumb
00:22:39.920 At what age
00:22:41.580 Do you know
00:22:41.960 You're doing something dumb?
00:22:42.960 Tell me
00:22:43.340 I'm not
00:22:43.740 But hang on
00:22:44.080 I'm asking you guys
00:22:44.720 At what age
00:22:45.300 Do we learn
00:22:45.740 That we're doing something dumb?
00:22:46.720 When you're a kid
00:22:47.280 At what age
00:22:48.240 Tell me what age
00:22:48.960 At what age
00:22:49.640 Do you know
00:22:50.060 You're doing something dumb?
00:22:50.320 Five, six, ten
00:22:50.920 I don't know
00:22:51.320 What do you tell me?
00:22:52.140 What do you think it is?
00:22:52.860 I'm actually asking
00:22:53.440 At what age
00:22:54.140 Do you know
00:22:54.500 You're doing something stupid?
00:22:55.760 Like do I need somebody
00:22:56.900 To tell me
00:22:57.500 Don't smoke crack?
00:22:59.080 Do I need somebody
00:23:00.160 To tell me
00:23:00.720 That eating too much cheesecake
00:23:02.620 At what point
00:23:03.580 Do you know
00:23:04.020 You're making a bad decision?
00:23:06.060 You're six, seven years old
00:23:07.220 Fairly young
00:23:07.940 You're kindergarten
00:23:08.800 And you're out there
00:23:10.120 Doing things
00:23:10.560 And you suddenly
00:23:11.540 Somebody gets hurt
00:23:12.660 And the teacher's yelling
00:23:13.540 And you're like
00:23:13.980 Well that was dumb
00:23:14.700 You don't have to be that old
00:23:16.000 To figure it out
00:23:16.840 Very basic answer
00:23:18.180 Six, seven years old
00:23:19.580 You'll learn it's bad
00:23:20.880 I'm going to tell you
00:23:21.700 This one story
00:23:22.420 Sandra Bays
00:23:23.560 Was a director of psychology
00:23:25.480 At Glendale High School
00:23:27.140 I'm 26 years old
00:23:28.960 She invites me to go
00:23:30.280 I said
00:23:30.600 Give me the most troubled kids
00:23:31.780 In the school
00:23:32.280 I want to go work with them
00:23:33.800 I'm an alumni
00:23:34.640 I want to work with this class
00:23:35.840 They give me 30 kids
00:23:36.700 And I go in there
00:23:38.520 I got all these gangsters
00:23:39.740 14 year old girls
00:23:40.620 That are pregnant
00:23:41.200 And what do you call
00:23:42.200 The ankle
00:23:42.740 The bracelets
00:23:44.780 These are those kids
00:23:45.740 Right?
00:23:46.420 I have them
00:23:46.800 Yeah, court monitors
00:23:47.640 And so Sandra Bays
00:23:49.040 Is sitting there
00:23:49.800 If she hears this
00:23:51.180 She will remember this
00:23:52.460 We have pictures
00:23:53.540 We have videos
00:23:54.320 It was a great conversation
00:23:55.420 That we had
00:23:56.000 But I'm in there
00:23:57.060 None of it was publicized
00:23:58.280 It's always been private
00:23:59.220 And I start going
00:24:00.780 One by the other
00:24:01.220 So you don't know
00:24:02.020 You don't know my life
00:24:03.400 Oh really?
00:24:04.720 Yeah
00:24:04.980 I don't know your
00:24:06.120 You don't know what life
00:24:07.280 I lived
00:24:07.940 Okay
00:24:08.940 Perfect
00:24:10.320 Let's do an exercise buddy
00:24:12.220 What's that?
00:24:14.060 One by one by one
00:24:15.320 I want you to tell me
00:24:16.520 How hard
00:24:17.720 Your life is
00:24:18.720 Everybody
00:24:19.200 I'll go first
00:24:20.680 Go
00:24:21.500 You know
00:24:23.560 You don't know what it is
00:24:25.540 To be black
00:24:26.360 Cool
00:24:27.560 I don't
00:24:28.380 Next
00:24:29.020 I'm being pressured
00:24:30.440 Because I'm short
00:24:31.440 And girls are judging me
00:24:32.600 Never forget that kid
00:24:33.660 Armenian kid
00:24:34.360 Cool
00:24:35.400 They make fun of me
00:24:36.720 Because I'm super short
00:24:37.660 It was a super short kid
00:24:38.620 Great
00:24:39.440 Painful
00:24:40.180 Next
00:24:40.860 Boom
00:24:41.320 Next
00:24:42.020 Boom
00:24:42.480 Next
00:24:43.120 Boom
00:24:43.580 One girl I get to her
00:24:45.360 She's like this
00:24:46.440 I'm not gonna tell you
00:24:48.040 So you don't want a shirt?
00:24:49.700 No
00:24:49.860 So you don't have to share it
00:24:50.820 If you're not comfortable
00:24:51.440 And the next thing you know
00:24:53.080 She breaks down crying
00:24:54.640 Runs out
00:24:55.520 Two of her friends
00:24:56.460 Whatever run out with her
00:24:57.440 One or two of her friends
00:24:58.160 Run out with her
00:24:58.780 I said
00:25:01.120 Privacy
00:25:01.840 Only if you're comfortable
00:25:02.640 Share
00:25:02.980 And remember
00:25:03.460 The director of psychology
00:25:04.420 Is watching an amateur
00:25:05.560 Seeing hey
00:25:06.960 You kind of crossed the line
00:25:08.220 Because that's why she's there
00:25:09.320 Next
00:25:10.060 By the time we're done
00:25:11.580 You hear everyone's challenges
00:25:14.160 How I got pregnant
00:25:15.820 How this
00:25:16.660 How that
00:25:17.060 Last kid comes back in
00:25:19.080 And she's breaking up
00:25:20.800 Breaking down
00:25:21.240 She says
00:25:21.660 You know what
00:25:22.140 I just have to say it
00:25:23.560 I just have to say it
00:25:24.800 I just have to say it
00:25:26.020 I said
00:25:26.820 Only if you're comfortable
00:25:28.460 Miss Space
00:25:29.480 Go ahead
00:25:30.860 A couple months ago
00:25:33.760 Whatever the timeline was
00:25:34.860 This 14 year old girl
00:25:37.280 Comes home
00:25:38.720 Sees dad dead
00:25:42.260 From doing heroin
00:25:43.380 And a mom
00:25:45.280 Doesn't know how to live
00:25:47.060 Without him
00:25:48.320 Because he's the breadwinner
00:25:49.300 Takes the rest
00:25:50.340 Injects herself
00:25:51.480 And she dies
00:25:52.520 Right in front of her
00:25:54.040 Jeez
00:25:55.140 Let me tell you
00:25:58.780 The room is silent
00:26:01.680 Everybody is uncomfortable
00:26:05.160 You know how people are laughing
00:26:06.580 Oh you are short dog
00:26:07.660 Oh you are
00:26:08.060 They're making fun
00:26:09.500 No one's making fun of nobody
00:26:11.100 No one
00:26:12.960 Sandra's sitting there
00:26:14.220 Emotional
00:26:15.200 She knows the story
00:26:16.440 I don't know the story
00:26:17.760 The rest don't know the story
00:26:19.060 And everybody is like
00:26:21.080 Coming around
00:26:21.580 I'm so sorry
00:26:22.280 I'm so sorry
00:26:22.760 It was such a beautiful moment
00:26:24.300 And you know what that was
00:26:26.380 Here's what that was
00:26:27.500 I used that moment
00:26:29.600 For the rest of my life
00:26:30.620 When people would tell me
00:26:31.440 How hard it is
00:26:31.940 To build a business
00:26:32.520 How hard it is
00:26:33.080 To raise kids
00:26:33.560 How hard it is
00:26:34.040 To do this
00:26:34.580 I'm like bro
00:26:35.580 Whenever you get up
00:26:37.540 Thinking your life
00:26:38.460 Is so hard
00:26:39.140 Because the challenges
00:26:40.020 You're feeling
00:26:40.560 You want everybody
00:26:41.560 To feel sorry for you
00:26:42.680 Trust me
00:26:43.680 I asked at the end
00:26:44.780 Who in this room
00:26:45.880 Is willing to trade
00:26:46.740 Their problems
00:26:47.600 With her
00:26:48.420 No one
00:26:49.400 I said then stop
00:26:50.820 Bitching about how hard
00:26:51.780 Life is
00:26:52.300 Because there's somebody
00:26:54.100 Else right now
00:26:54.620 That's holding their baby
00:26:55.780 And they lost them
00:26:57.500 A six year old
00:27:00.680 A ten year old
00:27:01.700 And they lost them
00:27:02.640 That's pain
00:27:03.920 Don't tell me
00:27:05.960 How hard your life is
00:27:07.180 There's somebody
00:27:09.320 That lost a parent
00:27:10.320 That's life
00:27:11.720 It sucks
00:27:13.060 It catches up to us
00:27:14.900 Had a client of mine
00:27:16.000 I sent a video to him
00:27:17.000 His 35 year old wife
00:27:18.980 Got brain cancer
00:27:20.660 And she dies
00:27:21.340 Out of nowhere
00:27:22.560 How does that happen
00:27:24.280 Is that fair
00:27:24.940 No
00:27:25.420 But to me
00:27:27.340 This concept of like
00:27:28.740 You know
00:27:29.240 You don't understand
00:27:30.840 What I'm going through
00:27:31.600 You don't understand
00:27:32.100 What I'm going through
00:27:32.740 Don't get me wrong folks
00:27:34.260 I'm not telling you
00:27:35.480 Don't sympathize
00:27:36.380 I'm not telling you
00:27:37.660 We don't need empathy
00:27:38.540 I'm not telling you
00:27:40.080 I just empathize
00:27:41.400 With a guy
00:27:41.960 That we're sitting here
00:27:42.740 Talking about the fact
00:27:43.620 That he's acting
00:27:44.180 Like a victim
00:27:44.760 And I'm saying
00:27:45.940 I empathize with him
00:27:47.000 Because he doesn't
00:27:47.680 Give me the bad vibe
00:27:48.780 He gives me a vibe
00:27:50.560 Of a good freaking kid
00:27:51.860 Doesn't give me
00:27:54.360 Any bad vibes
00:27:55.200 Right
00:27:56.380 But he's been fed
00:27:57.260 Some bullshit
00:27:58.000 That makes him
00:27:58.820 Feel like a victim
00:27:59.620 Some men are raised
00:28:01.380 By freaking
00:28:02.060 Mamas
00:28:03.140 That don't want
00:28:03.720 To give up their sons
00:28:04.600 Because no one's
00:28:05.500 Ever good for their sons
00:28:06.380 So that boy
00:28:06.960 Will never get married
00:28:08.040 And they're holding
00:28:09.300 Their son hostage
00:28:10.260 Let the boy
00:28:11.880 Freaking go
00:28:12.760 Be someone else's love
00:28:14.120 Let him lose
00:28:15.520 The man needs
00:28:16.580 To live his life
00:28:17.260 No more Mr. Nice Guy
00:28:19.020 Go
00:28:19.700 Go
00:28:21.300 And so a boy
00:28:22.180 Is raised
00:28:22.720 Being a mama's boy
00:28:23.840 And then you're soft
00:28:24.820 Later on
00:28:25.600 You're soft
00:28:27.240 And you always remember
00:28:28.840 When you cry
00:28:29.880 Mama was always there
00:28:30.720 So you're like
00:28:31.180 You become an adult
00:28:31.880 You're like
00:28:32.120 I want to cry
00:28:32.680 Because that's how
00:28:33.460 I get my attention
00:28:34.200 Stop it already
00:28:35.200 Man
00:28:36.580 There is
00:28:37.640 You know
00:28:40.600 Leadership is hard
00:28:42.420 Parenting is hard
00:28:43.320 Being a husband is hard
00:28:44.160 Being a man is hard
00:28:45.260 It is
00:28:46.760 You know
00:28:47.900 And no one's
00:28:49.000 Selling the easiness
00:28:50.260 Of this part
00:28:50.980 But I'm not with that
00:28:52.600 I think at certain point
00:28:54.240 You have the
00:28:54.940 I'm 14, 15 years old
00:28:57.560 All my friends
00:28:58.160 Are smoking weed
00:28:58.840 Smoke weed
00:28:59.780 Smoke weed
00:29:00.340 No
00:29:00.900 I never smoke weed
00:29:01.960 No
00:29:02.280 I don't want to smoke weed
00:29:03.140 First time I smoke weed
00:29:05.480 Is because I chose
00:29:06.240 To smoke weed
00:29:06.840 I don't want to smoke weed
00:29:08.160 I didn't have a brother
00:29:10.020 That you know
00:29:10.900 Like Fred Trump
00:29:11.620 I didn't have anybody
00:29:12.360 In a family that died
00:29:13.380 No
00:29:13.700 I'm like
00:29:14.440 No I'm not going to smoke it
00:29:15.200 Why
00:29:15.420 You can show
00:29:17.000 Is it restraint
00:29:18.340 You can show that
00:29:20.260 Practice it
00:29:21.040 No I'm not going to do it
00:29:22.440 No I'm not going to do it
00:29:23.620 No
00:29:24.500 Let me tell you
00:29:25.700 It's all on front
00:29:26.220 I don't know if I agree
00:29:26.960 Like fight that a little bit
00:29:30.120 Fight that urge of
00:29:31.600 You know
00:29:32.500 Needing that sympathy
00:29:33.960 And that
00:29:34.440 Oh feel sorry for me
00:29:35.480 Man
00:29:35.840 Fight that
00:29:36.660 Flipping urge
00:29:37.640 You're going to be
00:29:40.480 Held hostage
00:29:41.020 For the rest of your life
00:29:41.960 With that
00:29:42.660 Unnecessary attention
00:29:43.920 It's not
00:29:46.260 It's not good
00:29:46.920 It's not necessary
00:29:47.820 And so to me
00:29:48.800 I get what you're saying
00:29:49.860 Like when I talk to you
00:29:51.900 And we talk family
00:29:53.900 I get you
00:29:55.040 Once I understood you
00:29:56.400 I'm like
00:29:56.640 Okay
00:29:56.920 I get it
00:29:57.680 You know
00:29:58.760 I understand
00:29:59.140 When you came to us
00:30:00.000 You know
00:30:00.380 Your father had passed away
00:30:01.600 Girl
00:30:02.320 All that stuff
00:30:03.180 I get it
00:30:03.680 I sympathize
00:30:04.640 I empathize
00:30:05.600 But you can have a hard time
00:30:07.040 Being around me all the time
00:30:08.160 Like you know
00:30:09.560 You don't understand
00:30:11.420 It's unfair this
00:30:12.340 No that's not
00:30:13.380 Because we can control
00:30:14.780 Our thoughts and our decisions
00:30:16.300 And we can improve
00:30:17.140 Very simple
00:30:18.060 I had no plans of talking about this
00:30:19.560 And I didn't even think
00:30:20.260 This was going to be
00:30:20.780 I was planning on going to the story
00:30:22.340 For five minutes
00:30:22.860 And we move on to the next one
00:30:23.980 But to me
00:30:25.240 Nothing about this kid
00:30:26.940 Gives me bad vibes
00:30:28.000 He's just got
00:30:29.260 Unfortunately
00:30:29.700 The wrong people
00:30:30.320 In their ears
00:30:30.920 And the wrong people
00:30:32.100 That are in their ears
00:30:33.000 They have wrong people
00:30:34.160 In their ears
00:30:34.800 And they have wrong people
00:30:35.900 In their ears
00:30:36.340 22 years ago
00:30:37.120 I read a book called
00:30:37.880 Ten Generational Curses
00:30:39.800 It's actually not a big book
00:30:41.200 You've never heard of this book before
00:30:43.340 And one by one by one
00:30:44.960 I'm going through this book
00:30:45.800 Type in Ten Generational Curses
00:30:47.180 It's a book
00:30:48.220 I think that's the title of the book
00:30:50.340 Can you go to Amazon
00:30:51.360 That's the one
00:30:51.820 The third one
00:30:52.740 Third one down
00:30:53.660 Yeah
00:30:54.220 That's the one
00:30:55.500 When did it come out Rob
00:30:56.680 What's the year that it came out
00:30:57.840 2006
00:30:59.120 19 years ago
00:31:01.060 I said 22
00:31:01.540 So that's the book
00:31:02.340 When it came out
00:31:02.880 And I'm going through it
00:31:04.280 I'm like
00:31:04.560 Oh interesting
00:31:05.240 Oh interesting
00:31:06.460 Oh interesting
00:31:07.280 Alcohol
00:31:08.120 When my dad was an alcoholic
00:31:09.400 Abuse
00:31:10.160 When my dad hit me
00:31:11.120 Drugs
00:31:12.000 When my dad this
00:31:12.820 Gambling
00:31:13.420 When my dad was gambling
00:31:14.300 Freaking cut it
00:31:16.760 Stop the damn curse
00:31:18.800 No it's not going to get
00:31:20.320 To the next generation
00:31:20.920 It's going to be
00:31:21.280 Stop right here with me
00:31:22.360 I'm the new leader
00:31:23.440 I'm the new leader
00:31:24.720 No one in my family
00:31:26.180 Is going to be passed down to
00:31:27.060 Period
00:31:27.400 It stops right here
00:31:28.240 You stop that pain
00:31:29.600 You get to do that
00:31:31.020 As a man
00:31:31.380 As a leader
00:31:31.840 It's not easy to do
00:31:33.340 Don't blame your dad
00:31:34.300 Don't blame your grandfather
00:31:35.940 No
00:31:36.520 Move on
00:31:37.460 We don't know the whole story
00:31:39.460 Let's move on
00:31:40.900 And be leaders
00:31:41.380 That's what we need today
00:31:42.220 In America
00:31:42.640 In the world
00:31:43.200 Everywhere
00:31:43.700 We need more men like that
00:31:45.880 Like that
00:31:46.280 That sheriff
00:31:47.380 That came out
00:31:48.000 And you know
00:31:48.440 What was his name
00:31:49.240 Waiter
00:31:49.700 T.K. Waters
00:31:50.500 T.K. Waters
00:31:51.280 Respect you sir
00:31:52.620 Man
00:31:55.300 Like this is
00:31:56.160 Driving me insane
00:31:57.900 Someone's got to put a stop
00:31:59.020 To this behavior
00:31:59.820 Constantly feeding this
00:32:01.720 In their ear
00:32:02.180 Feeding it's not fair
00:32:02.980 It's not fair
00:32:03.440 It's not fair
00:32:03.800 Stop it
00:32:04.300 No
00:32:04.640 Kid wants that
00:32:06.200 My son yesterday
00:32:06.960 Wanted me to say
00:32:07.640 It's not fair
00:32:08.140 I'm not going to give it to him
00:32:09.600 It's not fair
00:32:11.680 No
00:32:12.020 It is fair
00:32:12.880 It is fair
00:32:14.880 Publicly
00:32:15.500 I'll defend you
00:32:16.160 Privately
00:32:16.680 You screwed up
00:32:17.940 And he says
00:32:19.560 You're right
00:32:19.980 Okay good
00:32:20.500 Let's move on
00:32:21.020 What do you want to talk about
00:32:21.920 And we talked on Midnight
00:32:23.360 Last night
00:32:23.700 Awesome conversation
00:32:24.720 We moved on
00:32:26.160 Manned up
00:32:27.020 Took responsibility
00:32:27.700 Let's move on
00:32:28.480 Everything's going to be okay
00:32:30.300 Damn this just pisses me off
00:32:32.820 You know what's back
00:32:33.620 You know a fun fact
00:32:35.320 About Tom Ellsworth
00:32:36.840 That you all need to know about
00:32:37.900 Tom how many Yetis
00:32:39.180 Do you have in your kitchen
00:32:40.140 I believe I have about
00:32:42.060 30 of these Yetis
00:32:44.540 Tom has 30 Yetis
00:32:46.840 Question is
00:32:47.680 How many Yetis
00:32:48.580 Do you have in your kitchen
00:32:49.780 Right
00:32:50.260 How competitive are you
00:32:51.820 Can you keep up
00:32:52.580 Can you keep up
00:32:53.820 So guess what
00:32:54.620 The Yetis are back
00:32:55.380 Rob if you want to put it up
00:32:56.320 And play the video
00:32:56.940 We have the pink ones
00:32:58.620 For the ladies
00:32:59.120 Fellas
00:32:59.460 Go by your wife
00:33:00.340 The pink or the white one
00:33:01.740 Press play Rob
00:33:02.380 And you can lower the audio
00:33:03.300 A little bit
00:33:03.700 But you got the white ones
00:33:04.840 The future looks bright
00:33:06.320 With the vitamin logo
00:33:07.340 You got the blue
00:33:08.860 Fellas
00:33:09.600 Black
00:33:10.280 Future looks bright
00:33:11.560 Takes it to your office
00:33:12.400 You got the small ones
00:33:13.300 The big ones
00:33:14.000 All of them
00:33:15.500 So if you're somebody
00:33:16.140 That drinks a lot of coffee
00:33:17.360 Or you drink a lot of tea
00:33:18.940 Or you drink a lot of protein
00:33:21.320 Whatever it may be
00:33:22.180 Or you're Adam
00:33:22.840 You are somebody
00:33:24.340 That's constantly
00:33:25.180 What does Adam do
00:33:26.360 With his bottle of water
00:33:27.240 He's always
00:33:27.600 He does the bubble thing
00:33:29.820 He does the bubble thing
00:33:30.800 For his voice
00:33:31.500 That's why I got the pink Yeti
00:33:33.060 You know what we have
00:33:33.880 Ladies and gentlemen
00:33:34.460 Pay attention here
00:33:35.680 These are the taper bottoms
00:33:37.020 That fit in all cars
00:33:39.180 See the taper bottom
00:33:40.380 Don't have to worry about it
00:33:41.520 Regardless of the car you have
00:33:42.600 It fits in a cup holder
00:33:43.680 In the front
00:33:44.020 That's what I'm going to do
00:33:44.540 Right now
00:33:44.920 And look at this
00:33:45.680 The pink and the white one
00:33:47.180 You know what
00:33:48.620 This went in there
00:33:49.280 Bigger
00:33:49.840 Better
00:33:50.260 And Pat
00:33:52.740 You know the pink
00:33:53.380 And the white one
00:33:53.980 Bigger
00:33:54.700 Better insulated
00:33:55.580 Than the Stanley
00:33:56.240 Your wife will love
00:33:57.260 These better than Stanle
00:33:58.880 Again remember
00:33:59.660 When we do these guys
00:34:00.740 We don't do a big order
00:34:02.300 Okay
00:34:02.660 We even have the one
00:34:03.400 Yeti
00:34:03.680 All the way at the bottom
00:34:04.720 For dogs
00:34:06.780 Okay
00:34:07.280 The Yeti pole
00:34:07.940 Can you imagine
00:34:08.600 Your dog's even going to be
00:34:09.540 Optimistic about the future
00:34:10.520 Guys
00:34:10.780 If you get this form
00:34:11.620 So go place your order
00:34:13.180 We want a million
00:34:14.740 Future Looks Bright pieces
00:34:16.520 All over the world
00:34:18.140 And if you support the brand
00:34:20.000 Go support
00:34:20.860 Future Looks Bright
00:34:21.820 Get yourself a Yeti
00:34:22.680 And while you're there
00:34:23.180 Maybe pick up a hat or two
00:34:24.220 For yourself as well
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