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00:00:00.120 Men live a harder life than women, and I got data here to show you. 1.00

00:00:03.660 Now, obviously, this upsets a lot of different people.

00:00:05.380 Say, Pat, how could you say something like that?

00:00:06.820 Blanket statement, men live a harder life than women? 0.89

00:00:09.340 Yes.

00:00:10.160 Brace for impact, whether you're going to like it or not, wait till the end.

00:00:13.180 If you do get value out of this, and you say this is kind of a good point he's making,

00:00:16.860 give it a thumbs up, subscribe to the channel.

00:00:18.680 If not, go watch a different video, okay?

00:00:21.120 So let's get right into it.

00:00:22.160 So based on a research done, DNA research by Dr. Baumeister,

00:00:26.320 he explains that in today's human population is descended from twice as many women as men.

00:00:32.860 Now, what does this mean?

00:00:33.700 In the history of mankind, 80% of women have reproduced, and I've had kids,

00:00:39.200 only 40% of men have ever reproduced.

00:00:42.660 So 80% women, 40% men. 0.83

00:00:45.540 What does this mean?

00:00:46.200 That means four out of five women reproduce, only two out of five men reproduce.

00:00:51.740 Now, why is this?

00:00:52.600 So when we were looking at this thing here, we said, let's look at data.

00:00:55.480 Let's look at some of the stuff that we have access to right now.

00:00:57.600 It could be Tinder.

00:00:58.460 And then let's look at what women look for in men in a short-term relationship

00:01:02.640 and what women look for in men in long-term relationship.

00:01:05.980 And then you get to make a decision for yourself on how to increase your market value.

00:01:09.200 So according to Tinder, this is what you get on how many women swipe right 1.00

00:01:14.180 versus how many men swipe right. 1.00

00:01:16.700 If you've never been on Tinder, like I've never been on Tinder,

00:01:19.220 swiping right means you're interested in this person.

00:01:21.700 Swiping left is, I don't have any interest.

00:01:23.420 When it comes down to men, men swipe right 53% of the time. 0.76

00:01:28.180 That means they're interested.

00:01:29.300 47% of the time they say, nope, I'm not interested.

00:01:32.060 However, for women, you ready?

00:01:33.740 Ladies, this is you now. 1.00

00:01:35.140 This represents your number according to Tinder.

00:01:38.260 You ready?

00:01:39.060 Women only swipe right 5% of the time. 1.00

00:01:43.100 95% of the time you say, I am not interested.

00:01:46.800 Swipe left. 0.99

00:01:47.480 A rejection to the man.

00:01:49.400 So if you're a guy watching this on the same path, I'm on these dating apps and I got to tell you,

00:01:53.460 this absolutely sucks because I'm trying to get a relationship.

00:01:57.040 Well, let me give you some more bad news before we go tell you how to measure short-term and long-term value. 0.85

00:02:01.380 We found this chart showing in the attractiveness of how attractive you are in the women category. 0.99

00:02:08.120 Like, are you in the 80 percentile, 10 percentile, 90 percentile?

00:02:12.160 How many men are still interested in a woman that's this percentile of attractiveness?

00:02:17.860 So it's a little bit of a crazy chart, but I'm going to put it up and we'll go through this together.

00:02:21.100 So here's what it is.

00:02:21.800 If you look at the chart, you see the female advantage to male advantage, right? 0.98

00:02:25.420 On the left, it says male attractiveness percentile, right?

00:02:29.820 On the bottom, it says female attractiveness percentile.

00:02:33.180 So let's look at the left.

00:02:34.620 If you are in the top 20 percent of male attractiveness, you have only available to you roughly 20 percent of women that you can compete for, okay?

00:02:46.940 Now, for women, if you're in the bottom 20 percent of attractiveness, you still have access to 80 percent of men that would be interested in you. 0.99

00:02:57.440 Of course, if you're in 100 percent, it's 100 percent, okay?

00:02:59.980 You're the best-looking guy, you're like a Brad Pitt, or you're a Rachel McAdams, everybody is interested.

00:03:04.800 You're at the 100 percentile, right?

00:03:06.140 So if you look at this, it's quite depressing because if you're in the bottom 20 percent of men in attractiveness, if you look how small that is, you're only dealing with 2 to 3 percent of women.

00:03:17.000 That means one in every 50 women, that's your pool on who to choose from. 1.00

00:03:21.740 So you may watch this and say, Pat, is this supposed to be a Motivation Monday video?

00:03:25.580 There's nothing motivational about this.

00:03:26.940 I totally get it.

00:03:27.640 But you're either going to watch this and you're going to say, screw these stats, I'm going to go have some more chips and cheesecake and quit my job and sit here and play video games all day,

00:03:34.780 or you're going to say, I'm going to get my act together.

00:03:36.360 So what are women looking for short-term and what are women looking for long-term? 1.00

00:03:40.620 Let's look at the data.

00:03:41.700 Women looking for short-term relationship versus long-term relationship on six different criterias. 0.87

00:03:46.720 One is looks.

00:03:47.680 One is resources, meaning how much money, success you have.

00:03:50.500 Three is your game.

00:03:51.840 Four is your personality.

00:03:53.500 Five is your status.

00:03:54.940 And six is your age.

00:03:56.180 Looks is 35% of the decision-making process.

00:03:59.100 Resources is only 6%.

00:04:00.720 Game is 30%.

00:04:02.060 That's the second most.

00:04:03.340 Personality is 9%.

00:04:04.740 Status is 13%.

00:04:06.200 And an age, whatever, 7%.

00:04:08.360 Now, if they're looking for a long-term relationship, priorities change.

00:04:13.340 When it comes down to looks, it drops from 35% to 15%.

00:04:18.240 When it comes down to resources, it goes from 6% to 27%.

00:04:22.780 When it comes down to gain, it drops from 30% to 7%.

00:04:27.000 When it comes down to personality, it goes up from 9% to 18%.

00:04:31.600 They know they have to deal with a personality long-term.

00:04:34.720 Short-term, I don't care how annoying you are.

00:04:36.760 You're handsome.

00:04:37.620 You got game. 0.88

00:04:38.420 Long-term, man, your personality is annoying.

00:04:40.700 So, personality has a lot to do with it.

00:04:43.000 Then you have status, goes from 13% to 23%.

00:04:47.040 And then age, goes from 7% to 10%.

00:04:50.420 So, there's a couple different ways you're going to be listening to this.

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00:04:53.740 You're going to watch this and say, okay, maybe I need to change my approach.

00:04:56.360 Let me give you an idea.

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00:06:22.980 Profile of the clients we're looking for is those that are a million dollars or higher.

00:06:27.500 Back then it was a half a million or a quarter million, but it was a million dollars or higher.

00:06:30.720 That's the clientele you've got to be looking for.

00:06:32.420 And I sat there and I'm like, how the hell am I going to meet millionaires?

00:06:35.360 My dad's a cashier at a 99 cent store.

00:06:37.640 I don't have a four-year degree.

00:06:38.760 I don't have a two-year degree.

00:06:40.080 I know nothing about money.

00:06:41.060 My parents have never owned a 401k, never owned a stock.

00:06:43.220 We've always rented.

00:06:44.200 I've never lived in a house.

00:06:45.340 You want me to go find million dollar accounts?

00:06:47.200 How the hell am I going to find it?

00:06:48.400 I just got out of the military here.

00:06:49.860 People in the military are broke.

00:06:51.020 My friends go to nightclubs.

00:06:52.100 How am I going to find all this money, right?

00:06:53.420 So I could have sat down and said, you know what?

00:06:55.240 That's right.

00:06:55.760 Financial industry is not for me.

00:06:57.160 I'm out.

00:06:57.860 Or I could have sat there and said, how can I get into the market?

00:07:01.800 Who do I need to become to get into the market that I want to become, right?

00:07:05.460 And I made my adjustments.

00:07:06.840 I was 22 years old, 23 years old, just got out of the army.

00:07:10.620 We go to the club.

00:07:11.500 My friends like Pat, I found this book.

00:07:13.260 It's called The Game, Neil Strauss.

00:07:14.880 Watch these pickup lines I'm going to use with the girls.

00:07:17.180 We go out.

00:07:18.100 First, you treat them this way.

00:07:19.140 You do that.

00:07:19.580 You do this.

00:07:19.980 And then he got the girls.

00:07:20.920 I'm like, well, our style in the military was similar weight.

00:07:23.340 I've just never read the book before, but it was effective.

00:07:25.580 But what were we doing?

00:07:26.540 Who were we getting together with?

00:07:27.920 Short-term relationships, right?

00:07:29.400 So look, some of you are watching this.

00:07:30.640 You're getting one or two reactions.

00:07:31.780 You're discouraged.

00:07:32.520 You're saying, okay, now at least I know what they're looking for.

00:07:35.700 When you're a businessman and you run a company, you're going to have three different

00:07:39.320 types of clients.

00:07:40.280 Low ticket item products you're selling, 99 cents, eight bucks, 28 bucks, $89.

00:07:45.480 You got mid ticket item, $1,000, $50,000.

00:07:48.340 You got a high ticket item.

00:07:49.260 For example, I'm selling a rental apartment at Oakwood Apartments, four grand a month.

00:07:53.260 I'm selling a rental apartment, right?

00:07:54.940 Middle one.

00:07:55.300 I'm selling $600,000 houses.

00:07:57.220 I'm selling multimillion dollar homes, right?

00:07:59.040 In this example, if you, as a man, want to have more options and saying your clientele,

00:08:05.540 I want to have a pool of bigger options of women to choose from, who do I need to become 1.00

00:08:09.900 to be able to sell $2 million homes?

00:08:12.280 Okay?

00:08:12.600 What language do I need to speak to get the client that's about to sell their $2 million

00:08:16.220 home to look at me and say, this guy can sell this $2 million home.

00:08:19.020 Who do I need to become?

00:08:20.220 What language do I need to have?

00:08:21.440 How do I need to present myself?

00:08:22.820 How much capability, skill set?

00:08:24.320 What do I need to do to increase my market value?

00:08:26.640 This is why a lot of people, 95% of people in sales don't make it because they get discouraged

00:08:30.320 because they don't want to become the person they need to be to sell those products to the

00:08:33.760 clientele in that market.

00:08:34.940 The same thing goes with this.

00:08:36.300 If you watch this and you said, well, if it's 40% of men reproduce, but 80% of women

00:08:42.180 reproduce, if the options are that, how do I become in the top 20 percentile?

00:08:46.540 And if I'm chasing all these short-term women, the short-term women I'm chasing, they're 0.99

00:08:50.700 looking for only physical and they're only looking for game, they're not really valuing

00:08:55.280 personality or for me to be somebody where I am somebody that has status or resources.

00:09:01.140 I can go fix those things.

00:09:02.500 Now, if you're watching this and saying, you can fix yourself physically and get in shape,

00:09:06.760 maybe change your diet, you can be somebody at whatever company you're working at.

00:09:10.200 If you're a person that's got a voice, you become a leader, somebody that's doing well,

00:09:13.340 you got status.

00:09:14.200 If you're somebody that has a personality, you're afraid, you're shy, maybe you show your personality

00:09:18.300 a little bit more.

00:09:18.940 If you want to go watch some of the old tape videos, there was a part of him that he was

00:09:21.780 shy.

00:09:22.040 If you look at the younger version of him, a lot of the people that end up having big

00:09:25.520 personalities at one point, they were kind of to themselves and then boom, they break

00:09:29.640 out of their shell and they say, oh my gosh, I never knew this existed in this guy.

00:09:33.980 You have that, but you got to tap into it.

00:09:36.360 Okay.

00:09:36.580 So now look, obviously a lot of this is directed to men.

00:09:38.940 I'm going to talk to women a little bit and you just could also apply to men, but here's

00:09:42.540 what I have to say about this because some people are like, you don't even know what you're

00:09:44.600 talking about.

00:09:45.280 I dare you to live a day and walk a day in my life and all this other stuff.

00:09:48.420 Totally get it.

00:09:49.180 Here's what I do believe in.

00:09:50.260 There are a lot of men who are bitter towards women and some of the bitterness from men towards

00:09:54.980 women is I gave everything for her and she did this and she went with that guy and she 1.00

00:09:58.840 left me.

00:09:59.460 Okay, cool.

00:10:00.140 Yep.

00:10:00.440 That happens.

00:10:01.260 And then the other one is I gave everything to him and he did this and he left and it's

00:10:05.180 all his fault.

00:10:05.820 Okay.

00:10:06.140 No problem.

00:10:06.960 Just so you know, it takes two to make a thing go right, but it also takes sometimes

00:10:12.200 two to make a thing go wrong.

00:10:14.380 You made the choice.

00:10:15.240 I made the choice.

00:10:16.020 Some relationship didn't work.

00:10:17.320 What part of the role did I play in this thing here?

00:10:19.720 And I'll man up and I'll take it.

00:10:21.040 The same with you.

00:10:21.860 One of the ladies that commented, I've known this lady for about eight or 10 years. 1.00

00:10:25.860 And I remember when she chose career over her marriage and her kids.

00:10:29.820 And she says, I'm going to go this route to choose career over her kids.

00:10:32.260 I said, listen, man, I totally get it.

00:10:34.000 Marriage sometimes doesn't work out.

00:10:35.160 I've been married now 13 years, going on 14 years.

00:10:37.480 We take marriage one year at a time.

00:10:38.720 It's a very hard thing to do.

00:10:39.660 It is not easy.

00:10:40.520 You can control what you do.

00:10:41.700 Sometimes you can't control what the other side does.

00:10:43.940 And no one ever knows the whole entire story to any marriage.

00:10:46.840 But she specifically said, I'm choosing my career because I want to compete with the

00:10:51.800 men above me in this sector that she was in over my marriage and over my kids. 0.68

00:10:56.660 I said, I don't recommend it to do it for that reason.

00:10:59.840 I have to do it.

00:11:00.800 She did.

00:11:01.500 Today, she is so bitter.

00:11:03.540 But who is she bitter at?

00:11:04.560 Her husband, her kids, her competitors, the industry, or her choice?

00:11:09.860 It's pretty bad when you're bitter towards really the choice you made.

00:11:13.520 Nobody put a gun to your head.

00:11:14.800 Do you know how many times I've been annoyed with a decision I've made?

00:11:18.220 And I'm so annoyed with myself.

00:11:21.380 No one knows about it.

00:11:22.700 But I know I made the choice.

00:11:24.900 And I'm bitter towards myself for making a bad choice.

00:11:27.640 That happens to the best of us.

00:11:29.020 So, all this stuff we're talking about, this is really over younger men and younger women.

00:11:35.980 This topic here that we're talking about.

00:11:37.980 For some of you that are watching that you're a little older and you're frustrated about

00:11:41.460 this, totally get it.

00:11:42.560 But you made the choice.

00:11:43.780 Nobody forced you to do it.

00:11:44.900 For the most part.

00:11:45.760 So, if you got value out of this video, agree or disagree.

00:11:49.500 But if you got value out of this video, give us a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel.

00:11:53.780 And if you want to watch another video, I did a video titled, The Rise Up Weak Man.

00:11:58.160 If you've never seen this before, click here to watch it.

00:12:00.500 Take care, everybody.

00:12:01.060 Bye-bye.

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